Yes squad. Here's the timestamps: 00:00 Intro 01:15 Humans Fighting Animals 07:42 James’ Thoughts on the Vaccine 22:22 Dating in Modern Society 41:49 Guys Over 30 Without Kids 58:52 Why James Loves Australia 1:03:50 Personal Finances & Property 1:17:29 International Fitness Summit 1:23:40 Where to Find James
You're great Chris. Maybe the best "podcast" show on YT. Well JBP's ain't bad either.. I like you're not afraid of controversial subjects. You let your guests talk, don't always talk about yourself like some other YT hosts.
This should have 950,000 views, not 9,500. So many gems in here. My prediction is that Chris Williams will have the biggest podcast audience in the world within 5 years.
I decided to have kids immediately after hearing the same reasoning James gave around minute 58, which is that if you feel ready, it may already be too late. Or put another way, you’re never going to be ready, just go for it and figure it out. The fact that you are nervous or unsure about your qualifications actually shows that you have the proper conscientiousness to take it seriously once the responsibility is upon you. I’m now 37 years old with four kids, my oldest is 12. It is my greatest joy
42:25 I first became a dad at 35 (and then again at 37) and that was a really nice age. I still had plenty of youthful energy (I've always stayed fit), but my career was well established and had my first house, dependable cars and plenty of expendable income (kids are expensive!). 47:30 Not only work, but as fit people, you're also going to have to cut back on your workouts quite a bit once the baby comes along (heaven help those who happen to have twins or triplets!). I bought a good home gym and even then I often had to make a 10-15 min workout suffice (or sometimes skip it altogether). Depending on your situation, new born infants can be anywhere from exhausting to completely overwhelming.
mate, a bull Red Kangaroo standing upright is 9ft tall if he is cornered and his does are around his powerful back legs with 2" claws will turn you into something resembling shredded lasagne
The best chemistry, you two! I'm 3.5 minutes in and finding the considered response to the animal fight question telling of your intelligence, humor, and ethical natures. Love your interviews together! xo
RE: 48:30 -- Few people talk about how much work having just 1 kid actually is. Few people talk about the sacrifice of personal freedom (including career development and physical health) involved.
I wonder in regards to dating how changes in our usage of language plays a part. I never hear the word "compromise" anymore, I hear the word "settle" which comes with negative connotations used instead. Social media and dating apps have expanded our pool of potential partners and warped our expectations to unrealistic standards, anything less is considered "settling" and essentially handicaps if not outright dooms the relationship from the start.
Really interesting chat. 23:58 Just a thought - I feel avoidance and anxiety attachment styles are both reactions to a perceived loss of control. Avoidance being the fear your partner will take control away. Anxiety being the fear of having no control over their partner. Perhaps accepting and welcoming this 'loss of control' is the first step. Also not viewing a relationship as two separate entities but rather one unit. *Side note* When talking about control I am not meaning toxic/abusive behaviour, more the natural incorporation of another person into your life.
I love watching your podcasts. The dating portion of this video was so wonderful because I'm in the same situation. I'm working hard on myself in the area of being a great romantic partner and in making better choices. It is amazing to see two successful men in the same boat. I watch your videos as exposure theory so I don't fall into trap of believing all men are like the guys you break up with. I feel a little more normal after listening.
Can you send a link to the attraction book you talk about I want to download it, but there’s a lot with similar title! I want to see if I get your opinion, a link on audible or the author would be ledge, appreciate that!
The covid vaccine disabled me for 8 months. I was relegated to a recliner and lost 80 pounds. I'll never be the leader I had been for 30 years. It wasn't worth it. At all.
As s new subscriber, I was excited to watch this. But as the covid conversation unfurled, I was left confused and feeling as though I was listening to two abused people with Stockholm syndrome justify learned helplessness. Some insights were hard truths - like choosing to take the vax even if you’re hesitant is noble, & that out of the blue health maladies happened before the covid vax arrived on the scene to blame it on. But then you’d say weird combos of comments like how abusive lockdowns are to people’s psyches but also that only sociopaths accept that people die if viruses are allowed to virus - as tho there’s no other mitigations that could work. It was also said that the AstraZeneca vax wasn’t worth the risk w/o also acknowledging that Oz’s covid case count is only low enough for that to be the case bc of the draconian, humanity squashing restrictions of a police state. Anyway, moving on.
Ya that portion was cringy and I guess expected a bit seeing as they’re brits and a lot of brits are just more conditioned to do what they’re told by their government.
Too many notes of ‘govern me harder daddy’ 😆 it’s why governments and corporations everywhere are now trying to crush free speech, they saw how easy it was to coerce the masses. Pretty terrifying and depressing to see so many healthy men be so willingly submissive to authorities that clearly have money and power as their prime motivators, not the wellbeing of the constituents they serve.
When you have a family everything takes a hit. Your general freedom of choice to do things just doesn’t continue. Your commitment of time to your children is important and takes up vast amounts of time. It just does, and there’s no way around this if you wish to parent effectively. You can’t really explain this to someone without children and those who have no children can’t ever understand this until they have children.
Unbelievable podcast, I really enjoyed and learnt loads! On property… my property investments are what give me freedom and great income on the side - as you know so well Chris (currently living abroad sustained by that money). Also that isn’t entirely true about London - there are plenty of great opportunities with great yields in the property market. I know this from first hand experience.
Suddenly almost all of my Modern Wisdom content is James Smith. Nothing against him he's great. I'm just not understanding the amount of or why James Smith content is taking over the MW feed??? These podcasts in particular have a more generic feel to them...
RE: 1:08:16 - I suspect that commute time inversely correlates with financial resources. If that's the case then claiming that financial health has the highest correlation to happiness is not surprising.
I'm worried that Chris has spent too much time thinking about kicking cats. And given that cats are also surrogate stand-ins for infants for women, I'm wondering about his chances of success with finding a partner and becoming a dad. Give up your cat kicking obsession now, Chris, before it's too late.
my conclusion; sex is better and relationships are longer when you dont live with your spouse - because the gf develops competition anxiety. The idea that you could bring another girl back to your house without her knowing creates an anxiety that keeps the "fire" alive in the relationship. This is why your gf may subconsciously leave items of clothes in your house as a way to mark a relational territory
@@MrSharp-yg1wb lol..having said that a more mature established woman doesn't want to live with someone in order to protect her assets, doesn't put up with such immature games. See the guy a few times a week and the rest of the time is her own.
It's funny to hear them talk about starting a family. I'm not older in years, but have three kids and lived with their dad for 17 years. Sadly had to leave him because he got stuck in a personal crisis and became unbearable.
A human could easily beat a housecat 95% of the time in a life or death struggle but they have an off chance of reaching your jugular and making it a mutual kill or their victory by a hair's breadth. I've raised cats from kittenhood before and if you take into account ambush tactics, even month old kitten can mutually kill you. My favorite cat used to hide on bookshelves and tall places to jump up to my jugular and paw at the sides of my neck and playbite it. Everytime she did that, I was always reminded that as small as she was, she could still take me out. Thank god, she stopped doing that as an adult cat. It started hurting when she would paw at my jugular as hard as she could with her claws retracted.
Great Vid, informative and brought back memories of raising kids. I found you on Odysee but it was a nightmare to leave a comment on this video at Odysse, I will close my account there and follow you here. Peace.
As long as you are up front about your goal to return to AUS ... what stops u from dating someone you like and looks a prospect in the UK with the aim to bring her to AUS if it works out?
Seriously? I couldn't think of a more text book example of critical thinking 🤔 how weird you would arrive at the opposite conclusion... I wonder why we see it differently...
Man I saw James Smith on one of my favourite podcasts and was stoked but the first 20 or so minutes was super cringey. Definitely hasn't aged well either.
Your attachment style is just that : yours to do shadow work on , not expecting any other match but that of coming from another unaware individual. Knowing that you are broken does not get you in the vicinity of healthy persons trying to attach and play the proper part in the narrative of an avoidant attachment style. Come on smart people: work on you first. It may not be for you but you can’t live it up to the mercy of life to teach you. Avoidant is bad for engaging, sharing and intimacy. Right now you qualify for transactions. Just so you can have realistic expectations.
@@MrSharp-yg1wb Tinder has a reputation for being used for hookups. That’s the point. There are other dating apps out there. As you get older and get bored of just dating, it’s going to be harder to find a partner. This is what they are talking about at the start of the podcast. Better off finding someone who has similar interests and slowly building a relationship is what they talk about.
It’s not so much a care as it is a fundamental drive of life itself. It’s embedded deep in what we are. If it were not then humans wouldn’t even be here.
This entire coof-thing has resulted in mass detachment among people. This makes the people more congruous or agreeable to isolation but this is the road to NPC Land, which is now what is happening. This one year of isolation for the kids plus the masks on faces as they develop well... eventually socialism will need to happen as a result.
I'd probably want to get to know Chris for his family project :D But I'd require some serious steps from him like leaving his home country, so he won't be interested, I guess :D Have to find some other guy who's worth my time here in good old Germany.
@@Nah-ah The fact that it happened at all - that governments impose and many citisens accept it - is the worrying part. Lockdown happened once, it WILL happen again for whatever reason authorities provide.
"The majority of people can't afford to buy houses". That's a wrong statement. It's cheaper now than for previous generations, especially because of 0% mortgages.
