Hey everyone! I hope this video can help someone out. It’s hard getting out of the dating world and into a committed partnership. So, here’s my advice! Thank you all! Instagram: _dylangabriel13 Channel Donations: Cashapp: $dylangabriel13
As a forty-six year's old gay single male, I have experienced all of these issues. My last relationship was with a NPD/ narcissist. Learned all about it at my age. I remember when there was no dating apps. Hooking up in person was how I found all my partners. Now everyone is online. I hate it 🤣
I understand what you say about hookup culture. I am not built that way either. Hookups don't do anything for me. I despise the guys that do that kind of stuff, because stuff like that is what is used to perpetuate the negative stereotype around us. Those guys are being exactly what society expects us to be. I have never hooked up with anyone, and have no plans to. If I am in the mood that bad, I have everything I need at the house. It is not worth risking my health and safety for.
You're definitely right about the shallow nature of the gay community. I am 60 years old and I had hoped that the gay community for the younger generation had changed some from when I grew up but apparently it has not unfortunately. But a lot of people are going to think oh that's the gay community the conservative people the anti-gay people are going to say oh that's exactly what you get that's what they deserve that's how they are blah blah blah but a lot of people don't take a step back and look at why the gay community is that way. And my generation I always felt like we had a delayed adolescence...it was like Arrested Development in a way because unlike heterosexuals who could date and explore their sexuality naturally as they entered their teenage years, we did not have that luxury. we had to live in the closet... we had to bury who we were because we were just told we were an abomination and we were going to burn in hell. There was no help for us and there were no role models on TV when I was growing up. the only reference you heard for homosexuality was what Monsters We Were. So when did I start really coming to terms with my sexuality? I was in my twenties... my early twenties and even then I struggled with it and it was a long ass journey. it took years and years and I'm still not 100% comfortable with being 100% out I still feel the need to keep my sexuality private and I hate that I feel that way but it's because of the era that I grew up in. So when you look at the superficial nature of the gay community I have to remind myself that we just probably were doing the best we could and sadly I think the struggles we had sometimes manifests itself in the shallow nature, materialistic obsessions, hyped up sex and promiscuity, and the lack of emotional stability to really have healthy relationships.
I like the way you look at certain things in the gay world. I am the same way about a lot things. I am from S.C. Also I am with the same person this year will be 25 years. I have always been a little strange around gays that over do it with the prissy side of things. My partner and myself are both not like that. We don’t mind who knows about us we don’t hide. You seem a little like us. I wish you the best in your relationships. I think you are on the right track it’s good to hear someone else that is careful about who they become interested in. Thanks
I feel like content like this is so valuable!! Thank you for sharing your experience Dylan. I just recently came out this last year but sharing your experience has not only helped me but so many other people exploring this side of themselves, often times for the first time and being not sure what to expect or do. Thanks again, and keep on being you 😎🤘
Thanks again for a great video Dylan. Sorry for all this comments but I wanted to hit them as they came up. Great dating advice. You and I think very similar when it comes to dating. I was the friend who gave good dating advice but had a hard time in my own personal relationships. Mostly it was because I was made too intense. When I love I love hard. I believe in good one another accountable and building each other up. It’s good to challenge each other to make each other better as both a couple and individuals. Most only wanted the good times but when the tough times come they wanna brush it off or push it aside. We can’t always push problems aside. We talk about it and learn and grow from it. But I can go on about this for a while. Thanks for another great vid!
Dylan, I am so impressed with how clear and direct you are with expressing your ideas and feelings. Also I'm impressed about how well you know yourself and what your needs are in a romantic relationship. If everyone could be even half as focused and clear on what they want and need from a relationship, many more people would find their true soul mate! God Bless You! Enjoy ALL your videos and let me know the best way to support you. TY❤❤
Well thought out. What you said is true. I am happy to hear you are dating. The things you mentioned apply on so many levels and so many different ways. I sat back and really thought about what you said and it is through the experiences we gain wisdom. You use that wisdom to move forward in life.
8:49 that’s why it’s best to build a friendship as a foundation before you get too serious. Really get to know each other at first and in the end of it doesn’t work out you’ll gain a good friendship
Same. I've still had rare hookups because I don't have any moral objection to them, but I have always come away feeling lonelier and emptier than if I hadn't. I'd rather find just about anything else to do. I think I'm wired backwards because I've only ever felt lonely around people. Doing my own thing doesn't make me lonely, ever.
@@euchiron I’m sorry you feel that way. I think the problem is you have not found that special someone who filled that void of loneliness. Someone that breaks through that wall of introvertedness (I’m sure I just made up that word 😜) but you will. Keep an open heart.
Really wish to see you as a guest on "Happy Healthy Homo" Podcast. I was here listening to you and thinking the whole time how your values and morals are so much in common with theirs and it would be such an amazing experience to hear 3 of you discuss all this things.
9:43 It’s sad for ppl to think another is cheating and sadly it’s because of our community. The gay community is very promiscuous. Thankfully I have never been cheated on physically that I am aware of. Transparency and communication is very important
Thank you for this "freshness" I am listening all ur fascinating videos...And you are a great man ;) Take care of u ...there are many predators on this planet ...
7:16 facts. When I first got into the community and was looking for someone most would want a nude pic or want you to send a mode pic. I wasn’t having it. I also made it clear to not send me that. Just send a face pic and we can go from there lol
I will never date anyone that is in a relationship. If they are willing to cheat on a guy with me, then what will stop them from doing the same thing to me?
One night stand are the trend, but one can find the treasure if we only are willing to search on the right place and use the rigth tool just like the treasure hunters using that metal detector that beeps when you have a pure loving ❤️ heart...hugs Mike
I have learned that you have to run with your own pack of people with the same values. So often in the Gay World, its appearance and money. Finding people with strong empathy, humility, ambition and a healthy life style of good values, was what I should of been looking for above everything else.
You're right about prospective boyfriends who send nudes. Four years ago, I had a potential love interest who changed his mind about me within two weeks... Then I remembered I forgot to thank him for something he told me in his goodbye message. Within a few minutes of texting him a thank-you message, he sent me explicit selfies without warning! The most shocking part of all? Before propositions me out of the blue, he needed reminders of who I am, much less how we knew each other. 🤬 He completely forgot about me shortly after sending his goodbye message!!
This may not mean much to you, Mr. Gabriel, but I don't use Grindr OR any other dating apps. I never have used them... although I wonder how different this response would be had I not spent a decade insisting on permanent celibacy.
I'm from the mid-south. I've never understood an open relationship. It's a foreign idea to me. I'm traditional, monogamous. It's just me and my two kids 🐾❤️
YOU have to take care of YOURSELF. And if Your name is Dylan, You might try to help others in the process. Thanks for sharing Your thoughts and encouragement. You aklways brighten my day with Your videos. God BLESS
I want a real genuine man again! My man of sixteen years Had a massive Heart attack and died. I don't care about looks. I care about a good personality and a good heart man a good person. I want a one on one monogamous relationship
