Dating, Marriage, and Sex Advice (Valentine's Day Special) w/ Cameron Fradd 

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I paid $30 to use Catholic Match for one month and connected with my husband, and then cancelled, lol. $30 for a husband wasn't bad.

I write a poem for my wife of 44 years. I do a poem for her for Christmas, her birthday, Valentine's Day, and our Anniversary in August Have done four a year for 43 years

I just got out of a 3 year relationship with a man I lived with for 2.5 years. Now he’s living with his new gf and I’m single and alone and have learned a huge lesson. Don’t live with your bf/gf just to see if it’ll work out. It won’t. Now I’m trying to get back into my faith and find a man who will love me enough to wait till marriage. I’m 44 and have had enough of the BS of the world’s version of relationships.

Please do a homeschooling episode with Cameron and questions from the audience. It's do great to see you two together

I met my husband end of May he asked me to marry him in August we were married in 13 months. We will be celebrating our 50th this year. I would do it over and over again.

This is so wholesome and made me laugh a lot. I can’t wait to get married in October! Pray for me! Cheers

My husband and I dated and got married within a year. It's totally worth it. Once you've discerned...why wait? I get wanting "money" and "stability", but you can build that faster together than apart and waiting a really long time can actually be imprudent.

Can’t wait - these episodes with Cameron are the best!

Excellent episode! To the Catholic Match point: one of the reasons why you have to pay is to weed out the creepy people who are on there for the wrong reasons. If you're paying for something there is less of a chance that you are on there for ulterior motives. That's also why they don't let you send social media handles, etc, without paying. You both are such a wonderful couple and what you said about basically, "not deciding is deciding" really struck a chord with me. Again, great job!

I met my wife on a secular dating app but with filters for only Catholic women. We met (we were not friends first, this is key.) We went on our first date, became exclusive, got engaged and married inside of 15 months. And my biggest take away is: all the advice given by chastity speakers and "purity culture" was either not helpful or wasn't true. And before anyone asks, me and my wife did save the marital embrace for marriage and lived out the church's call to faithful couples to the letter. And even so: - We didn't save our first kiss for the altar. - We weren't friends first. - We didn't meet through the church or a catholic dating site. - We didn't let our expectations cripple our relationship when we found a flaw in the other. Point is, Catholics are shooting themselves in the foot by buying all these weird pieces of advice with no grounding in scripture or tradition but that are born from a spirit of brokenness and desire to not get hurt again. But if you want to love, if you want to know the thrill of a beautiful, Christ-centered relationship, you have to put down the book or podcast or whatever, and take the risk to love with abandon and joy 😊

I don't think I've ever had so many laughs in one sitting as this episode got from me!! On a more serious note: In hearing two people in love, I can see the love of God in a different way. Thank you! May the Good Lord bless you and your family!

I feel like I’m just watching my parents express their love and it makes me so emotionally happy for you guys!!!

It's so nice to hear stories like my own! My husband and I got married after knowing each other nine months when his parents were losing their mind with how FAST it all was. I'm so glad we got married when we did. It was the best decision and we're so blessed.

Regarding dating/engagement length, certain personality disorders usually can be hidden for about six months before the facade becomes too much to maintain in a given relationship, so I generally advise friends to at least date that long. There are exceptions, of course. It's just one of those things to be cautious about. (Worked in a Tribunal. Saw lots of dysfunctional marriages and reason for breakdown.)

In my experience, there aren't enough people on Catholic Chemistry and Catholic Match. Chances are that your results for compatible suitors that you're interested in will be slim

This was an EXCELLENT episode. Thank you for being so honest in all these topics. I’ve shared this with my wife and I hope she listens.

Super excited! I just finished watching you and Cameron’s podcast on chronic pain, and I cannot WAIT for this one!

I love watching the 2 of you together! I think you are a great witness in that super realistic genuine way!! God bless you!!!

This is so beautiful. Thank you two for sharing so much and being so open: your stories and advice are so inspiring. May God Bless your marriage and family.

This was such a treat. Thank you!

"Since discernment has become fashionable, no one has made a decision since." Wow! That rings true. It's hyperbolic, but there's definitely truth in it. Discern. Exercise wisdom. Seek council. Make sure there aren't red flags you're ignoring. But at some point, you have to decide, commit, and jump in with both feet.

That was a great conversation! Thanks guys. ❤

I love that you two did this. Such a great show and it's amazing how well you to communicate. ❤

Happy Valentine's Day, Matt and Cameron! It's so life-giving to see such a beautiful couple such as yourselves. I can't wait to watch this after I finish classes today. Just had to hop on here and tell you that I love you, both! In Christ, Liv

Thanks for sharing so vulnerably. It’s not easy to be vulnerable and open on the internet.

I could listen to Matt and Cameron all day! Really enjoyed this episode, God bless you both and your families and thank you for being so honest and helpful with us all!

If you got married within 12 months ( or within 2 years) of meeting and are still married sign in here. Met my husband and we were friends for a few months, we started dating and within 3 weeks he asked me to marry him (we had been hanging out a lot as friends first). We met in April, started dating in July and were married by the next June. Happily married 26 yrs.

This was my favorite ! Great job!

This is the sweetest convo ever. You guys are adorable. Makes me wish I were married.

Discerned out of seminary last summer (was in for 5 years) and I must say that the Catholic dating scene is pretty tough to navigate.

This is on top of my favourite episodes this year!!! Cheers 🍻 guys!!!

This was great! God bless your family

Yayyyy!! Cameron!! Love it whenever these two hangout together on the show 🥳🥳🙏

This was wonderful 😊

I love how much you all laugh together! 🥰

Love both of your conversations ❤💕💯

Literally watching this as my Valentine evening activity and it’s fabulous 😂

In all honesty Matt, you and your wife need to do this more! #JackieAndBobbyPart2

Just watching this - January 2024. This IS SO GOOD. I did NET Canada year ago and all the names you are mentioning are all so familiar. I just love hearing your story. It reminds me of my own. So wholesome. So good. Thank you for sharing.

Great episode!!! I thank you both for sharing your experiences with us on the ether! I pray our Immaculate Lady, the blessed Virgin Mary, will bless your family with many uplifting and wonderful Graces very soon! My wife and I have so many very similar stories as you guys; married 18 years and we were 22 and 21 years old, I got home from a year in Iraq in 2004 and we married 7 months later! I converted when we were pregnant with our first child, and dealt with (still dealing with them) the same fears Matt mentions… *sigh* I received a lot of positive take always and found myself feeling very comforted listening to other Catholic married couples share their struggles and joys. Thanks again Fradd’s!!

1:05:20 A beautiful piece of advice! I never head it before, but it makes a lot of sense. It's better to speak with friends who try to understand the spouse and explain his/her behaviour than getting even more winded up and grow the anger and misunderstandings (even though the later is easier and might be relaxing a bit, but is harmful in a long way) Also great that you pointed out how pitiful it is to complain about the spouse to other people (in a mocking way, not a loving, vulnerable and respectful way).

We need all the parenting advice!!! 3 kids 5 and under here and strong fertility -- I am scared of getting pregnant again lol and then getting too intense with my oldest when dealing with pregnancy challenges and postpartum and even just that whole first year with a baby is tough.

Cameron is the best guest

Love this!!😅😅🥰Gorgeous, hilarious, sincere!! Keep on keeping it real!🥰❤️‍🔥🙏

The plug of Steubenville is electric, especially at the end I laughed out loud. love y'all's podcast especially when Cameron is on!

Hey Matt and Cameron, I'm from Guatemala and hope you enjoyed your stay here! If you ever get the chance again I recommend you coming for Holy Week, the processions are amazing 💯

I looove these interviews with his wife 😂😂😂

This was lovely and hilarious 💖

The raw honesty is awesome and hilarious , God bless Thursday,l luv him perfect addition.

Finally made it to a live video 🙌🏽 haha God bless!!

Your chats with you wive are delightful and I think most people would be cool seeing even of this. Embrace that convenience.

I really love how realistic you are about these very normal things, Gos bless your marriage and family always ❤

Beautiful beautiful.... Really helpful❤

This was actually a beautiful episode, Cameron is radiant!! I stopped watching/listening to your show a while ago, and it seems I came back to check it at the right time. I needed to hear some of these things- Thanks for this little interview with your lovely wife, she seems so grounded and strong, things I aspire to be. Pray for me as I prepare myself to go into this dating thing, after being in a really long relationship that I thought would lead to marriage, feeling kinda lost right now!! The catholic environment I am in is full of beautiful people but none of them close to my age, so it's hard to find anyone to walk these paths with. Also Thursday seems like a hilarious guy too :) Good episode

I genuinely really enjoy Thursday on the show. He counterbalances Matt's grumpy old man energy

I just love Cameron so much

This episode was great! Thanks for the great content and laughs. My wife and I had our first kiss and it was so awkward that we sort of repress it from our memories.

Tbh, if you think about it particularly in the context of history, $30 for Catholic Match isn't too bad compared to how much people paid in the past to find a spouse, e.g. dowries, mail-order brides, etc. Not just in the past too, but even some countries still do that with arranged marriages. They probably cost more than $30, so $30 isn't too bad.

Great episode. However, I find that Thursday's interjections and rants take away from the awesome interaction between Matt and Cameron.

"Matt.exe stopped working" made me LOL in real life. Great conversation and God bless you all!

You two are adorable! ❤

Hey Thursday!!!!!

Oh man I really enjoyed this, cackled a few times through it

I enjoy this show--first time

Happy Valentine's Day everyone! :)

YOU GUYS ARE ABSOLUTELY ADORABLE 😍

Watching you both laugh about your children was the best part of this episode ❤😅

Dude this was hilarious. Great episode.

On parenting I can’t recommend Lisa and Greg Popcak enough! Their book Parenting with Grace was life changing for me… definitely a couple I’d love to see @pints have on!!

I actually met my husband at Catholic Match 😂 we both love the website as it really help us finding someone from the same faith..

I’ve been single for almost a year now. It took some time to get used to being single but I have to say I actually prefer it now. I have found it difficult to navigate dating in the Bay Area to say the least 😒. But if for some miracle I happen to get to meet someone, I hope my faith doesn’t get compromised with sin of impurity.

Love Cameron and Matt

Brilliant! You two together give so much fruit! More please! Matt, we need your wife's voice more with your beautiful thoughts too with her. Treasure your moments together, she is God's and He might be missing her, dive deep in her and Him and flourish both of you, peace and blessings to you both and may God protect you and your family.

Wholesome content

Catholic Match is far from perfect. But it is one way of allowing God to work in your life and lead you to your vocation. I was on CM for FIFTEEN YEARS! I have no idea how much money I spent on subscriptions collectively over the years. Bad date, after (really) bad date. Then one day, a day before my subscription expired, my now-husband messaged me. We dated for 6 months, were engaged for the next 6, and now we are married. Those 15 years were awful, but the end result was worth it. You never know when God will step in and say, “Ok, now!” ❤️

1:16:40 Thursday this advert for Stubenville needs to be clipped and uploaded as a short

Wait you’re coming to Guatemala?! What for? That’s amazing! Loyal Catholic Guatemalan subscriber here 🙋‍♀️ I would love to know if you’re doing a speaking event or something of the sort so I can attend. Or if there’s any way you could do an event at my college. Sending lots of love and support! 🇬🇹🇬🇹🤍🤍

Currently engaged and I feel what Matt was saying about the fear of not being a good husband real hard right now! Must be normal lol

“It’s NETs fault, they put us on a team together” I said the saaameee thing about my missionary organization. But we dated and then broke up

I love this episode. You two are great together 🎉❤. I joined Catholicchemistry after Matt Fradd pitched it on his show. Paid the monthly fee. I got so many fake account users hitting on me. I closed my account after two months. 😢

The problem with Catholic Match isn’t the money. I paid for the full subscription and sent out hundreds of messages. Only got 2 dates out of it. They have to make money, so I don’t fault them. The biggest problem is that there is an imbalance between the number of men and women on the site.

Awesome !! Laughs and insightful! XD

When is Thursday making his own podcast?

1:18:06 YEEEEEAAAAAAHHHHHH POP!! YOU TALKIN BOUT MY WORK HOME PAPA?!?!

Okay am I really the only person whose watched this video and would be interested in going on a date with Thursday?

27:55 Hearing my name but knowing I didn’t submit a question😂 Good question though, Noah!

We love a good love story🥰

I wanted to see the pic of you guys as newlyweds

I LOVED this😂😂😂 Married 32 years July ‘24 and cannot tell our first date for our boys (27&25) YET😂😂😂

The actual problems with Catholic Match: 1. There's no way to tell how recently a user has last logged in. So you have no clue whether the person you messaged has been inactive for a year or not, or even uses the site anymore. They USED to have filters for users that have logged in the last 24 hours, week, and so on, so you didn't have to waste your time messaging someone that barely touches the app. Not anymore. They just lump everyone together, to make it appear there are more active users than there are, to further entice people to keep using the app. 2. Horrible UX/UI. They've reduced their search filters. Also, when you block a user, they blocked user gets a very harsh notification telling them something like "so and so has blocked you", which can be very upsetting, and can come across as uncharitable, even if that isn't the intent by the blocker. 3. Appeals to "normie" Catholics and cultural Catholics. Why even be on a Catholic dating site if you don't agree with all the teachings of the Church? It's hard enough to find a devout Catholic spouse, but it's just as hard on Catholic Match. Even though you can filter for people who agree with all church teachings, many of those users actually don't, or they say they will, but put down that they attend mass once a month. Huh? It's not that hard to set up a flag where you can't put that you agree with all Church teachings but only attend mass once a month. 4. Manipulative scrolling experience. So when you scroll through a search, the same profile will appear multiple times. This is to trick the end user into thinking there are more results than there are, and to keep people scrolling more, increasing their eyeballs on the app. And even if Cameron thinks, "Oh, it's just $30 for true love!", it's not. Especially for men, since we have to spend more time and effort before we get responses from women. And even more technologically-robust dating platforms like Hinge are comparable in price to CM, and they provide a vastly better experience. CM is garbage which makes money on tech-illiterate Boomers and cultural Catholics. They don't care about helping Catholics. And all of the problems I've listed aren't merely "nO gIrlZzZ mEsSaGe Me BaCk!!!!!11!!!!!!11!!!", they're completely fixable by Catholic Match, but they choose not to. Because money.

45:40 This is probably the scariest prospective part of marriage for me too: being seen & understood by a spouse. Good to know that a Catholic man who turned out pretty well knows what this is like

Not blaming the website but I used Catholic Match and ended up traveling to meet someone who turned out to not be a Catholic at all and completely lied about everything we chatted about for weeks! Never again

Hi Matt, may I ask if you don't mind sharing, what made you decide marriage over priesthood?:)) And btw, thank you so much for this and God bless both of you!!!:)) Thank you for all the work you do and for cooperating with Grace to bless the world with your love for Him and His ppl!!:)) Will be praying for your wonderful family:))

Wow, Cameron looks stunning!

Came for Cameron stayed for Thursday.

Pints Among the Lillies episodes are the best.

I might just be a jerk, but I didn't feel like Thursday's frequent interjections were very helpful or insightful. I'm sorry :(.

The ball and chain made me LOL Also: Where can I send you FAN MAIL! Thank you!

I got something on Catholic Match for Thursday lol. I saw a post on a very traditional homeschooling Catholic moms Instagram about a work from home job for a Catholic company, turned out to be Catholic Match for a customer service position. I believe she does this same job part time from home with a bunch of kids. Awesome, I was interested. She connected me with someone who turned out to be one of the founders of the site and I had a video interview with him. We got to the part about the hours and schedule of the position and it turns out Sundays were required (I was quite surprised this mom would have advertised such a job with how traditional she is but turns out she didn’t know this was a requirement and she doesn’t work on Sundays which is why she didn’t give me this info originally). So the interview ended there because he had no intention of budging from this requirement. And I refuse to sin (plenty of other companies I could work for not on Sundays if I need to do this is not necessary for me) or take precious time from my Sunday with my family and Mass at my parish to work and was appalled that a company calling itself Catholic would require this. I also don’t think customer service tickets are so essential they can’t wait until Monday. So there’s my tea on Catholic Match.