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This Reddit is comprised of 49% "Am i the asshole for asking for basic human decencies from visciously horrible people" 49% "am I the asshole for being an absolute scumbag" and 2% actually debatable situations.
@@neonpluralSorry, I know that was probably just a throwaway statement, but hey, don’t kys. No one in your life would like it if you were gone. Life will get better, whatever’s happening now isn’t permanent
fair but also be careful about the wording in r/AITA. often times you need to hear both sides before you make a concrete decision. people who feel they may have been wronged or were not in the wrong may intentionally/unintentionally leave out important context, or those people may not even have the full context themselves and jumped to conclusion. understand that in every AITA post youre only hearing one account so take every post with a grain of salt that you do not have full context. a very good exaple of this is the famous REDDIT MURDERER who tried to frame the murder of his girlfriend as self defense online but durring the investigation was found in the court of law/ forensic investigation to have entirely fabricated the story in an attempt to avoid consequences. (see the kitchner murder)
Exactly! They wanted someone who didn't exist to bring it. They used a made up name, which means that they thought the made up person would bring said turkey
the doggo with separation anxiety post is one of the most "responsible adult" posts i have ever seen on this sub. They gave several thought-out alternatives, and when those were declined, they politely said they wouldn't go to the party. that couldn't possibly have been done better.
@@sayambularrThe owner is working with a trainer to help with it. I'm pretty sure that cutting something like that out without proper easing will regress the dog extremely.
Not really. That dog is poorly trained if she can't leave the dog alone for 45 minutes. She is crippling that dog even further. She should be crate training her dog. It's actually also very rude to bring your dog to other peoples house when they don't want them. Does she think it's a good idea to bring her dog to a crowded party?
@@kellharris2491 they explained that they *are* helping the dog - animals with anxieties are similar to humans with anxieties, it’s not as simple as “train them” And this comment was talking about what the person did - they gave whoever it was several options, and when that person declined all of them, they didn’t go further or pushed for anything; they just accepted that. Which, imo, is a very responsible adult thing to do
Calling a dog "aggressive" for barking in shock and pain from having their tail stepped on is like calling a person "aggressive" for yelping in pain when their foot got stomped on. Like. God forbid living creatures with pain receptors react to painful stimuli instead of just sitting there taking it like a stuffed animal. These people don't seem to understand what it means for a living creature to be, well, alive. It's like those people who treat their pets and babies like toys and then get angry when those pets and babies have feelings that are "inconvenient" to them. Like they don't understand that they aren't the only living thing that feels pain and has emotions. There's this weird lack of empathy some people have for anything they see as "lower" than them.
I once accidentally stepped on a service dogs tail (yes I am aware I'm going to hell) and even that super well trained dog yelped. I would be more concerned if a dog didn't react.
Dude, I'm chronically ill with a whole host of issues and once offered a seat to an elderly lady. She scoffed and asked me "Do I look that old?" You can't make it right for those people.
I always feel shitty cause I'm a healthy appearing person in my 20s, but I've got the knees of an ancient and it hurts like hell to stay up when the bus is starting and stopping constantly, so I know everybody thinks I'm an ass, but like I can't help it so.... 😭
@@darkshadowrule2952mood. I have sciatica and tons of health issues. I can move fine on a good day but sitting down on the bus is a break from walking about and I pretty much need it. I get tons of dirty looks for sitting in the disabled or elderly area when I literally can't get up the stairs or to the back of the bus because of the steps (I tried and have fallen flat on my face before) and also a walking stick really helps when my knees are bad and it helps with my back. But my shoulder always aches something different
I feel this, I have a chronic illness where if I'm standing for too long (especially in motion) I pass out, I get motion sick so easily and my blood pressure sucks, I look perfectly healthy and I am very young, sometimes I really do have to sit down and with some people you just can't please them or compromise
I don't even think the one in the bus story was TA - most people would rather stand than sit seat next to a stranger on a bus, and yes, bus is first come first served. Wanted to sit, ask. (I'm guessing OP was sitting in the aisle seat with the bags at the window seat so they won't spill out
@@galactick3816 do most buses even have that many front facing seats? The ones I road only had like 2 plus the back bench. I take having your bag on the seat next to you as doing it on a normal wall seat, which is majorly douchey bus etiquette.
Second story about the sister wanting a foster kid really hit close to home for me as a kid who was in the system. So perspective from a foster kid: I was absolutely always happy about having somewhere to live, but that doesn’t mean I didn’t absolutely hate being mistreated, I would cry myself to sleep about it. And while I never directly complained, I would tell a social worker if I was being wronged Just because we wouldn’t complain directly, doesn’t mean we don’t complain.
On top of the "Don't turn foster kids into slaves" thing, there is the unfortunate fact that a certain percentage of kids who are in the foster system have issues (usually caused as a result of their past circumstances), and not all such children would be compliant or obedient... these children often need extra care and understanding, not a slavedriver.
It's so fucked up to see a kid without a home and think "ooh, free labor". That is blatantly taking advantage of someone in a shitty situation, and a child no less. Those are definitely the types of people who would own slaves if it was still allowed because "they'll just be happy to have a home". Disgusting.
When she said like they were dogs no. I bet damn well that they would treat a dog better. I hate people like that. Yes people suck but treating a kid like shit (me) and a dog like it can do no wrong ( my dog) is shit.
When she said like they were dogs no. I bet damn well that they would treat a dog better. I hate people like that. Yes people suck but treating a kid like shit (me) and a dog like it can do no wrong ( my dog) is shit.
The fact that someone gives me the key to their house doesn't give me the right to show up unannounced and barge into their house. Throughout my life I have accumulated keys from family members, neighbours and friends of the family because they know that I will only use them when they explicitly ask me to. Even if my sister asks me to walk her dog one day and I go with my mom, she stays outside the house most times while I put the dog on a leash! OP's MIL doesn't know the meaning of the word privacy.
My dad did that at my first (local) place. Day two, his fat butt is sitting on my couch, watching TV, eating my stuff, and lazing around. He got thrown out really fast. Demands to return the key were ignored, so I changed the locks. They never did pay the bill I presented them with.
All my family has spare keys to eachothers house. We don't go over unannounced unless it's an emergency. Like all my aunties need to give their keys to my parents house in because we're moving next week so that's going to be a hassle 😂😂😂
Right im the emergency key keeper i dont have em in case i need to enter thier home i have them incase they loose or lock up thier house keys and thus need in though mostly i have more spare car keys. Keys are not permission to act like you live in or own someone else's stuff.
4:58 Okay. Small rant here. I am a former foster kid, and when I got into my home (that I still live with to this day) I absolutely thought I was nothing. I was 7 at the time, and I was very upset as I was taken out of my home due to child abuse, child neglect, addiction abuse, and everything in the book. I didn’t understand at the time and I just thought I was another item for my now parents. But I didn’t get treated like that. I expected to be thrown out the second I was a bad child and I was fully prepared to run away or get thrown out of the house, but that didn’t happen. My (foster) parents were very kind, patient, and very caring of me, and I thought it was some kind of sick joke (my old ‘parents’ would do that to me as a way to win me back) but overtime I realized I had an actual family. I went from being a scared, lonely, angry 7 year old. To a happy, patient, and hard working 14 year old. I haven’t left my home since and hearing what she planned to do with this child makes my blood boil. Yes, they would be happy to have clothes, shelter, and everything of the sort. But children like us are fully prepared to run away and never come back the second we go into our foster homes, cause we know what it’s like to b mistreated and neglected. So I’m happy OP did what they did. They just saved a teenager, possibly multiple. From a terrible situation that their sister planned for them, and frankly. Her sister needs to be locked up just by saying that and planning to do it. (Sorry about this little er… big rant. I just get very very heated when I think or hear about a bad adult. Mostly a women. My ‘mom’ was the one who did all that to me in the first place so I don’t really trust women. So it ticked me off quite a bit)
ye that story really sickened me. when (if) i get financially stable and my own home, i want to adopt/foster because my heart just bleeds for those kids in the system. i couldnt imagine even *thinking* something like that. i think someone should check on her kids because im concerned with how they're being treated.
@stormbr1nger194 I'm glad to hear that. I wish to do the same when I get older. And I can actually agree that if that woman planned to mistreat a kid like that, she could do that to her actual children.
22:22 did OP get his son back? Update: Found an update where OP said he did and that there's a way for him to sue the state for what they did to him, and that is now in the works.
Oh thank God for that. It sucks that one false witness, one lazy employee, can absolutely ruin someone's life, and they don't face consequences because "mistakes happen." Like bro, that's not a mistake. A mistake would be if they had been in the area and looked similar enough to the criminal to have been mistaken. That's a mistake, not oh well one witness said it was you so we'll just go with that. That is you not being bothered to do your damn job.
I'm very relieved to hear that. I feel so bad for that guy and that his life was all fucked up. At least he didn't permanently lose his son, thank goodness for that.
The mother who's disappointed in her daughter confuses me. Is the daughter not allowed to have friends of the opposite gender? Just because they were close doesn't mean they are cheating. By that logic, if you date all genders, then you cant have any friends because you are "emotionally cheating". If the daughter was saying things about wanting to date the dude while in a relationship, thats cheating. But just having a friend support you in really bad times is NOT CHEATING. You can be friends with someone and develop a crush on them later on.
Sounds like a mother who's ultra-religious. Certain religious sects have the outdated (and incorrect) idea that people of different genders can't be around each other at all unless they're married to each other or are immediate family members, because otherwise they'll 100% have sex. No, it doesn't make sense. Yes, it's just weird projection by repressed loons.
But in the story, the daughter admits that after meeting the friend, they get closer and gather feelings for each other which prompted the daughter to then leave her husband for her friend. Seems like emotional cheating to me. The daughter even acknowledges this by saying that there was no "physical" cheating involved. Besides, what is more confusing is the backlash the mom is getting. She didn't say that her daughter and her new man cannot be together, she didn't say that she won't accept him for her, etc... All she said was that it was disappointing to hear that her daughter acted in such a way. She's her mother, she birthed the girl, I think she's allowed to voice her opinions in a non-stern tone as long as she understands that her daughter is grown and will act however, she wishes, which the mother does.
34:13 Theres mistakes, and there’s ruining your sister’s life as a prank. I agree that its harsh but its not safe for the daughter to be in the same house.
Agree 100% but disowning is wild like the sister is valid for hating the brother but the parents job is to parent the child not disown that’s wild but I agree he should stay with his grandparents
Thank you! I hate how these people didn't seem to understand that! I swear people like OP's son is probably why there are people out there with the whole "It's just a prank bro!" mentality and honesty it makes me sick that these people called OP an asshole when all OP did was protect her daughter from who basically became a demon incarnate that suddenly decided, "You know what? Even though this individual is my sister with a medical condition that she doesn't want her friends and at least half of our school to know about, I'm going to record her at her most vulnerable moment and not only ruin her friendship with her friends but also her reputation in the school we go to! What could possibly go wrong!?"
the sttory about the disowned son and insecure daughter disgusted me. There's actually no way people are blaming the parent. As a 16 year old myself, I could never hurt one of my siblings as harshly as that, it's downright cruel and he DESERVES what he got.
Okay, but disowning him? He’s still a kid, he’s going to make mistakes. Was this a terrible mistake? Absolutely. But I still think disowning him is a little far.
@@stormclaw2014 I agree with that, I really do. But I still think that disowning him is way too severe. Should he be punished? Absolutely. But disowning him is way too far.
@@SourGummi1118he needs to learn and he needs to learn now. He very much so deserved this happening to him and getting him away and in a safe home is the best thing the parents could've done for him anyways. 16 is not a child, not an adult, but not a child. Play stupid games and win stupid prizes
ok ok if youre sixteen i understand why you made this comment and im sure i would have felt the same at that age... but im 26 now. disowning is too harsh but i do agree that having him spend time away from his sister is good. personally i think this whole family is being weird about it and they all severely need to see a family therapist. parents should not disown their kids like this often times they dont know just how hurtful their actions are until they mature. ive done MANY things as a kid that i deeply regret because i was not mature enough or didnt know the consequences of my actions when i was that age. siblings are indeed asholes and the brother should absolutely be grounded or temporarily lose privileges as punishment but a CANYON JUMP to the conclusion of disowning a child is ludicrously insane and i only think it would ever be a rehoming or severe medical/mental intervention case if the child tried to murder their siblings or others. as awful his actions may have been, family counseling, appropriate (not cruel and unusual) repercussions, and a discussion with the school administration are steps you take FIRST before ever doing something like what they considered.
33:52 I feel like he does deserve for this to happen to him. He did something absolutely hateful and spiteful and deserves to have no one or nothing. Being a minor doesn't change it because you still very much so know right from wrong when you're a teenager. What he did was not ok and what the parents did was the safest thing for him. Maybe I was just raised tough but he needs to learn and he needs to learn NOW
Yeah... Conpletely uproot a teenagers life, remove them from all of their freinds and move them to an unfamiliar environment... For something they most likely didnt intend to happen and probably feel extremely guilty about... How to get a kid to commit suicide 101:
3:47 holy cow this is super terrible for the foster kid and the sister’s biological kids. My best friend fosters - kids in the system can have a lot of trauma, they need safety and stability because they’re rarely given it before. Not only is a foster teen likely going to be very stressed out and overwhelmed to be asked to take care of two kids, if could be unsafe for the two biological kids because the foster teen may not have the emotional capacity (or earned trust) for that responsibility over their safety. It’s terrible both ways, absolutely not
i think the saddest parts about this is 1. she protected that foster child and the sister gave her shit for it. 2. the sister didnt even understand that THIS IS A CHILD who needs love and care and not indentured servitude. 3. that im sure many foster kids have experienced this situation because they so often get away with it :(
Oh, I had the adult-boyfriend one myself, but with my parents. I was home for a visit in my early thirties and was going out to visit friends--they knew I'd be exceptionally late, if I came home at all. I didn't end up coming back until the next day as I naturally chose the safe course of staying over rather than drive really tired and potentially still very slightly inebriated (probably not, but you can't be too sure). Dad pulled the "while you're in my house...and go to your room!" So I did, packed, and left, going home to my room for the rest of the vacation. It was nice, actually, as I didn't have to put up with my parents' narcissistic crap. The Surprised Pikachu Faces were great.
I would have done the exact same thing. I'm lucky, once I became an adult my Dad treated me like an adult. I did need to stay with my parents for a couple weeks after there was a fire in my house. I never got the "while you're in my house..." BS. My elderly father now lives with me as he can no longer take care of himself. I never do the "my house. my rules". He's an adult and can choose for himself. He's actually really easy to get along with. We joke and laugh a lot. It can be REALLY frustrating at times with his dementia. I just have to keep reminding myself it's not his fault.
@@rolandhansen812 That's really nice to hear. My mother, with her senility, is "Do it NOW. Not like THAT. Stupid." Nothing's really changed since my childhood, except that I'm an adult, have gotten plenty of therapy, and don't respond to narcissists by obeying or giving in.
I mean, yeah. But I will say OP was a major asshole there. Seriously, OP neutered a cat without permission from the owners just because it sprayed. (also by the way, it wasn't feral! :D)
Lol. But seriously, if someone kidnapped my cat and did surgery on him, I would be fucking livid especially because he has kidney problems and I'm very protective of him. He couldn't even receive his vaccines because the vet said he's too sick, so surgery might have dire consequences. I'm ready to go to jail if someone touches my baby. You don't fuck with someone's animal companion.
i would’ve said YTA to the pregnancy one at 27:30 a year ago, but then i got pregnant and experienced cravings. not joking, they are sometimes so intense it makes you sick to your stomach. NTA for having cravings, but couldn’t you just drive yourself real quick to go get one?
But she is. You have a cravin so you forced your hubby to drive 20mins away to get a specific snack. You might be having placebo to let those cravings do you in the head so bad that you are willing to leave a place that took you 30mins to get to and another 39 mins to get a specific snack.
@@Deviczeklmao men and women are only this way in America and other repressed cultures. Nudity is only taboo because you don't see it often, therefore taboo. Just like how showing ankle, shoulder, or leg used to be extremely inappropriate. Now they're just shoulders, ankles, and legs.
34:05 I'm sorry but no, the parents are not completely in the wrong. Kids will be kids, yes. Everyone makes mistakes, yes. But what he did was fucking VILE. He really could've done more than just hurt her emotionally, but seriously have taken her life if that kind of behavior went on more than it did. He had her entire school including her FRIENDS turn on her for something that was made CLEAR she was both self conscious about and didn't want anyone to know of. He PURPOSELY recorded that video and PURPOSELY showed her friends and everyone else to get a rise out of it, that was NOT a mistake. It does not matter what kind of regret you feel after, you don't do that to people dude. Kids or not. And this is coming from someone who has extreme body issues myself, bad anxiety of losing people, and has been a victim of bullying (not to great degree, but it stuck with me). I would be more than fucking CRUSHED if not only something happened to me to worsen these factors but for someone so close to me to expose me in such a vulnerable state to not only the people in my circle but to complete strangers?? Hell no.
Agree 100% like that was vile but the parents need to parent there kid like good move on sending him to his grandparents I agree with that but throwing the whole kid away ISNT gonna help
@@Youareaidiot But the thing is, what exactly are they gonna do to parent? Ground him forever? Tell him to tell the WHOLE school to stop bullying? No general parent punishment feels suitable enough for someone to start and condone bullying you know? Maybe later on, they do go and confront their son since the story is all we know as of now but honestly I don't feel like I can blame them
@@hu7380 oh nah I get you I even agree with you I just saw the og reddit post so I just felt you can't just give away your kid on your parents it's not there job I feel like when you have kid you can't just dip out when the child does something horrible, if there a minor that is and some rare situations but long story short parents just shouldn't do that. Send him somwhere sure but basically disowning him isnt gonna do anything. the sister can obviously hate her brother I get that I would hate him too but I have issues with the parents basically parents can't just give away there kid you're gonna HAVE to do something but thank you for being calm and talking with me :) Edit: sorry I take parenting way to seriously
@@Youareaidiot Absolutely, I completely understand where you're coming from too; you should never abandon the child you laid down to have especially in the time they need guidance and I really do feel like it's a much harder decision than we can see considering if you have more than one child it's like "one of kids just did something really fucked up to the other" and then it comes down to how to go about it, i really hope the brother does become a better person and the parents do step up a little better but at least they did send him to his grandparents and not like complete strangers
12:21 no, she isn’t. The girlfriend isn't dumb, she's 100% doing that maliciously. She proved that by throwing a fit over a nonexistent issue when called out on her bad behavior. She finds watching him scramble to remake perfectly good food that she ruined with her grubby fingers funny
I find it odd af that your not allowed to skip a wedding and do something else with your life in the mean time. NTA because she literally isn't entitled to go to a wedding just because of a family role. And the fact that people are down playing her fun because it's taylor swift is weird let people be happy
@@rasvapurkki6294THATS WHAT I WAS SAYING!!! “they’re not once in a life time tickets” as if the eras tour didn’t sell out in like .4 seconds with tickets going for THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS
In Australia it’s very common for people to take up 2 seats even if the bus is packed and lots of people have to stand as no one really wants to sit next to each other and almost all would rather stand
Yeah I felt the commenters were wrong about the situation. Like clearly she had groceries and if they didn’t fit anywhere, that would also disturb someone if they sat next to her. Very strange reactions imo
It is normal for people even where I live ( Slovakia) to keep their bags on the seat next to them. Like, if I'm not saving the space for my friend ( if I were I'd say so ) then you're welcome to sit next to me. Just ask, if you don't ask you shouldn't complain.
2:18 My mom works with foster families (not a case worker, just can’t remember what it’s called atm) and when I told her about this she said that’s exactly why they have references and other people interviewed beforehand, to stop something like what almost happened here from actually happening.
Idk, telling boyfriend in the first story more likely resulted with him calling his family in turn (without showing the girlfriend the same curtesy of sharing), them prepping a backup turkey and when Jenny comes ganging up on her and having an ammo for the rest of relationship whenever they want to humiliate her, or Jenny trying to stand up for herself in front of other people
So he left bank statements on the bed and got mad when she picked them up? You left papers on a bed, why would someone not pick them up? You don’t usually just leave papers on the bad and you don’t know what something is until you look at them. It’s not like she magically knew it was bank stuff and she was supposed to ignore it on her bed.
The foster kid to watch her kids is lucky she was denied. (Not every kid) a lot of the teens in foster care have behavioral issues and leaving them alone with young kids probably toddlers could end up with serious injuries or death. Fostering older kids and teens comes with serious responsibilities and a lot of developmental catching up along with emotional damage from abusive or drug addict parents.
That story with the guy that sprays the kid is just weirdly wholesome and my mind would usually go to this type of moment to be funny.. just bonding over something "bad" or that started out bad. I really really hope that is true because that is simply great in every way
5:03 as someone who was in foster care and was adopted i have to say thank you to op for telling the truth to the social worker. its not about needing a home its about wanting and needing to feel loved and to have people to call a family not to be a slave till im "18 and can fend for myself". Op's sister is a horrible human being for even thinking such a thing about another human being just wanting to feel like they belong to a family.
exactly why i plan to adopt when im older. it wont be the picture perfect family (mainly cuz im not interested in marriage) but it will be *my* family. i want to take those kids in a bad situation and give them as loving of a home as i can. those kids will be spoiled rotten by the time theyre 18
On the story about the false arrest. This is why lots of people are requesting for Qualified Immunity to be abolished because it causes officers to be protected by the state and state taxes even if they've wrongly murdered someone in the US. There are hundreds upon hundreds of well known cases of officers getting away with harming citizens via physical, financial, or psychological means and getting away with it with no real punishment because they use tax payers dollars to pay off the fine/settlement. There are only rare situations where this doesn't protect officers, and usually it has to be tacked onto the tail end of a huge controversy similar to the 2020 riots. There are groups that have begun advocating for it being abolished ranging from left to right leading it to be considered a bi-partisan issue. If anyone's interested you can look into it, and I would recommend it even if you don't want to be involved with either side of the debate because it's an incredibly interesting issue with lots of stories to comb through for hours.
I'm disappointed that half of these are just repeat posts. For example, we have already gotten the story about the mother's day cancellation and the story of the woman attempting to indenture a teenager through adoption.
Its a compilation so people like me can put it on at work and put down my phone and not worry about having to take off my PPE to change videos every 10 minutes.
the story about the concert: YES, OP IS the asshole. While seated folk understand if you get up for the occasional song, don't let it be a habit unless you stand in the back with nobody behind you. Get damn standing if you want to stand. There's enough people, including me, who cannot stand for a long period of time due to health reasons and yes you are taking away from our experience by blocking the view. There are people who cannot accommodate you being inconsiderate by standing up too
Get that poor girl a good set of hybrid dental implants for fucks sake! Having functional teeth that dont come out would be such an enourmous improvement in her quality of life, especially considering how young she is and how self concious she is about the dentures. Yes, theyre expensive. But its the best money youll ever spend and will really make a difference in her life.
@@Twilight.KnightExactly. Nearly a third of the US lives in poverty right now (not to mention the fact he could live in a poor nation), and there's no telling if the author of that comment even lived in a place where the implants are an option. I want to get implants for a couple of teeth that were broken in a recent accident, and I'm going to have to save because my insurance is making me pay out of pocket.
The story about the daughter with dentures is actually super disgusting. I don’t blame the parents for what they did at ALL, because I would never be able to look at my son the same way again if he PURPOSELY bullied his own sister like that. He is old enough to know that what he did was absolutely evil and downright vile, so he definitely deserves what he got. Besides, it’s not like he has no family whatsoever, he still has his grandparents so he will be fine. People who do stuff like he did deserve absolutely no empathy or sympathy, period, end of story. What he did clearly wasn’t a “mistake” because he knew what would happen, and he knew that his sister was self-conscious about having dentures. It’s absolutely disgusting to even suggest that what he did was a “mistake”! If you want to be a bully and purposely embarrass someone, then you have to deal with the consequences of your actions, whatever they may be.
A mistake is accidentally mentioning it in conversation. He went out of his way to record his sister (most likely by hiding a camera) when she cant even take out her dentures in front of family. Then on top of that, showing her friends, which then lead to it being spread around the school and actually forced his sister to literally change her number. My youngest brother is 17, just turned 17 a handful of months ago. He's stupid sometimes and does stupid and...nearly illegal shit...but even he knows better than to pull that kind of bullshit. Those parents were 100% valid for what they did because i doubt the sister even felt safe around her brother anymore anyway. That isn't something that therapy would fix. While so many ppl on that sub would be good if they went to like, couples therapy, family therapy, what be you, that isnt a therapy situation.
I feel like most people who commented on that post and said YTA are not currently any sort of primary education setting, like people in their 20s and 30s. What I don’t think people that age understand is that these kids are MEAN. I see countless videos on TikTok of teachers talking about how hard teaching is now, being cussed out and having things thrown at them and they face NO CONSEQUENCES. It’s obviously the parents (of the bullies) fault in that regard for doing nothing to parent them. But FINALLY, a kid has to face the consequences of his actions and… people shame the parent? The poor girl shouldn’t be in the same house as him! This is about her! You know that dream we sometimes have where we lose our teeth? She lived that nightmare. That’s traumatizing in itself. She was so embarrassed to even take her dentures out in front of anyone. He knew this. It doesn’t matter if he didn’t realize the aftermath of his little prank because he shouldn’t have done it in the first place. That should have been enough for him not to do it.
Ah yes... He DEFINITLEY deserves to be PERMENANTLY disowned for this... Not an overraction at all. Litteraly none was arguing the son wasnt an asshole, thats what ESH means! But how will 1: completely uprooting his life and forcing hom to move PERMENANTLY 2: Seperating him from all of his freinds for probably years... 3: Bassicaly leaving him with none to go to. His grandparents are disguted at hom too so they arent exactly. 4: Fuck up any career prospects he has by switching schools in the middle of the school year... This is going to fix nothing... If anything itll make him suicidal. Would you argue he dtill deserves it if he ends up acting on that? NOT TO MENTION! Even if the parents "dont know how they raised a boy like this". They still raised a boy like that and are throwing him at other people to deal with instead of yknow.. actually parenting? Thats enough for am ESH alone imo
@@VyCanisMajoris3 Yeah actually. He can make new friends where he's at and please realize, he could've made his SISTER suicidal and just because he was disowned also doesn't mean the bullying stopped. Meaning not only did he INTENTIONALLY show his sister's major insecurity to her "friends" but they went and showed everyone else in the school and started to message HER about it. That is EVIL. That is fucking SICK to ever throw a sibling under the bus to be the subject of harassment and bullying for something they could not control. But you know what he COULD control? His actions.
As someone who was in the foster system, having a fucking home wasnt on my mind. Having a home that LOVED me was important. (i have been homeless before) Even if i didnt have a home but had loving people around me, id be fine. Feeling actually WANTED was what i had wanted. Fuck people who use the system for their own gain. We arent so free labor so you have an "easier" life. Foster kids already are going through so much. We dont need some "white knight" coming in thinking we'd be grateful for having a "home". How could ANYONE call that a home when clearly you would never be loved. Good on that social worker and sister for saying no/the truth.
With the asl story, I’m more on “esh” because of the simple fact that the sd is deaf and asl needs to be used in the household for basic communication and safety reasons. That is literally the only leg the mother has to stand on, imo. And as helpful as the whiteboard suggestion is, asl with sentence structure is not like English. And if sd is strictly communicating asl, that whiteboard communication is not going to be as effective.
@@Deviczekhey dont have to learn a whole launguage, just the basics. Mabye like "help/hurt" "yes" "no" and the ABCs. Plus a white board. But they arent defending the mom either
Story 2 : thats actually EVIL that the sister wanted to foster someone who has a hard enough and has been delt the most shitty cards in life to basically be a slave to her. Also im pretty sure you get money for fostering so she just wants extra cash. Pure EVIL
I love the last response on the disowned son like as of right now that’s kinda what OP wants also i fill like most people go the virticted wrong on this one
I don't understand what was even the thought process when 99.9% of the comment section on the reddit post labeled OP as the asshole for simply protecting their daughter from their demon incarnate of a son. From what I can tell, I have a feeling that best case scenario OP might have to put their daughter in a different school or worst case scenario homeschool her. The son has ruined everything for everyone so I don't see how any of this can be salvaged. I swear the people that call OP an asshole are probably the type of people who either let others walk all over them or worse abuse others and don't like the idea of karma kicking them in the butt when getting called out on it.
The story about the concert in Sweden... I'm not from Sweden, but Germany. We usually have standing spaces and seating spaces here. So yeah, it would be rude to stand in the seating areas. You can go maybe to the stairs area or stand for over song that you really really like, but other than that it's seating for a reason. Everyone wants to enjoy the concert they paid a lot of money for. If you wanna stand, go to the standing section. If that is full, you can always pick seats in the last row or in front of a pillar or so where it wouldn't block someone's view behind you, if you stand
Omg if I went to a concert and someone got up in front of me I’d b so sad. I can’t stand up for long periods of time which would confine me to a chair. And then seeing the person in front of me happily dancing and singing while I couldn’t see anything would ruin my week. :(
i actually really liked this AITA becuase i do think that concerts especially ones that are hosted in stadiums and arenas should accommodate those who want to dance but also have areas within reasonable proximity to performers for those with disability or have other mobility complications. im a firm believer that it should be a mandatory law/practice that all state/district/county and townsip govts should have as many building plans submited for approval as possible made accessible and additionally be overseen and approved by an elected council of individuals who are mobility restricted to make sure that places that claim to be "accessible" actually make good on that promise.
36:10 were Emma and Ava supposed to go to the arcade and such too? If not, why can’t mom just stay home with the girls while OP takes Isaac and his friends to the movies and the arcade?
"AITA for ruining Thanksgiving?" Whoever said ESH, I agree. You definitely should have told your boyfriend what your family said about asking to you make the turkey, but continuing to call you by his ex's name. That way, he would have been in on the joke of not actually bringing a turkey. But at the same time, boyfriend should not have gotten mad at you, let alone *_stopped talking to you,_* because this is not the first time his mom did this. The biggest a-hole in all of this is his mom for disrespecting his new girlfriend and not getting over his ex.
34:05 That commenter sounds like one of those Karens that threaten "never to shop here again" when you kick them out of your store. Threatening people whose son did something so vile they no longer want him anymore, that he may decide he wants nothing to do with them in the future. Like that isn't what they seem to want.
It's people like that who make me question how tf humans are at the top of the food chain and "superior." The only explanation that keeps me sane is to believe that people like that are not humans, but aliens testing us to see how we will respond and if we are ready to be contacted by them.
The son in this story has probably been putting up with much worse. The dad’s probably not aware. There’s a reason he hangs out in his room & avoids them. Dad needs to spend quality time with his son & find out what’s really been going on.
I know there’s like a whole hour and 30 minutes left of the video but that stepmom Mother’s Day one really got to me as an introverted person with an extroverted stepdad i really resonated with that story. Due to my lack of motivation from my depression I stay in my room a lot and for some reason my stepdad takes it personally, one day I overhear him saying things like “oh she’s so lazy she doesn’t do shit” when I had a job and did school while he sits around watching football and forcing my brother to clean the house. I got pissed off and told my mom about it and when she got home from work she dragged him out of the house to a nearby parking lot and verbally tore him a new one in front of plenty of strangers. Thankfully I never had to deal with him since.
See I'm lucky. My brothers where like that for a while and so was I tbf (depression after my dad passing) it took a lot to get us off our asses. For me it was my stepdad helping me. My dad died when I was young so my sd is kinda the main father figure I have growing up. He helped me find a love for the hospitality industry and now I just got him a job where I work (chef in a pretty good restaurant) because the hours are better lmao. 😂😂 I definitely somehow got his ambition and drive.
A petty way to handle made to sleep on the floor by stepsiblings while overwhelmed by grandfather's death would be to suggest canceling the second room and sleep with the daughter on the bed, that way stepdaughters could sleep where they wanted their victim too and step-mother would get an upgraded frugal husband. Less confrontational to swap rooms with dad sharing with daughter (giving solace to each other in their loss) and stepfamily fighting amidst themselfves in their selfishness. Still I'm pretty sure that homelife is like one of these other reddit stories where stepdaughters will either evict dad's daughter out of her room, and constantly steal, borrow then use up or ruin her stuff without asking.
See this one I was surprised they didn't order a bedroom with two beds. They have three people and the two don't know the sister. You can say they are all girls but I wouldn't want to be shoved liked sardines with a stranger. Three to one bed is ridiculous. And then of course the two siblings would side with each other against the unknown stranger. How they acted was awful. How the wife acted was terrible as well. But this situation could have easily been avoided with some for thought.
@@kellharris2491 I bet the step-mom said 'Thats okay! Your daughter can share with her sisters. ' beforehead, that way she was technically not lying. -_- Yeah, it could've. Dad not letting his equally grieving daughter spend the night with uncaring strangers or alone
I dont think the guy on the bus is the a-hole ...like he said , if you want to sit in that seat you could ask. I have seen lot of women used 2 or 3 seats for bags and no one says anything ...but whenever a guy does it it is suddenly a bad thing
While yeah they are the Ahole the person with the cravings at around 27:30 is definitely justified in deleting their account This one is still some what understandable Yeah they are childish but they were aware of that and didn't come off as feeling completely in the right If they were actually getting death threats or even just people being extremely rude just because of that then that's not okay
yeah as much as AITA can be "helpful" and yes this person was being unreasonable... reddit seems to often be the ultimate asshole by 1. engaging in unfounded retaliatory harassment (death threats or doxxing). 2. imparting personal biases or projections onto situations to an extreme of which often go beyond the severity of what was actually happening. and 3. generally giving some absolutely TERRIBLE advice, especially to those who might need mental health intervention
@@kaiyote7924 no one deserves doxing but some people do deserve some hate My main point is that this person Definitely Doesn't But yeah either way even if they were one of the worse people on AITA death threats and doxing are a bit too far
i’ve been on kind of the opposite end of that concert story aka i went to a concert in germany, intentionally got a seat because i knew i couldn’t stand for the whole thing, and then got that concert completely ruined because i ended up sitting behind ‘stand up and film the whole thing on their phone’ assholes (so arguably even worse than op..)
The person who got the cat neutered is NTA, but was a grey area. However, the people letting their not fixed MALE CAT outside to roam and cause havoc/breed and cause more issues with the feral cats for TNR/spread disease OR bring home diseases are VERY much AH and irresponsible cat “owners”. They chose the worst option just to not take care of their own PET, and being neutered was the SMALLEST problem they could have had between wolf animals, FIV, cars, dogs, other cats, humans of all ages, hawks/eagles, and even actual cat-napping. It might be upsetting but the cat shouldn’t have been outside in the first place AT ALL, it’s a HOUSE cat, and on top of that, if they were so worried they could have made one of the million forms of a catio OR supervised him. NTA, OP did the responsible thing and called them after. They should be glad they were called at all over their cat instead of having it dumped in a shelter or worse. They didn’t care about the cat until someone took away one of the reasons there was such a feral problem of cats.
@@LunaP1 I don't think it has anything to do with her, he is just worried someone wants his money and only his money. I would bet he does something similar to his friends.
Yea, makes me wonder if he has some insecurities that he compensates for with his money. Honestly, all he has to do is just not mention how much he makes, dress & go out like someone with average income, and he'll find nothing but people who don't care about his money.
Imo for the post abt the person w/ the bags on the bus, NTA. I've never been in the same situation persay but as a high school student with a decently heavy bag I always put it on the seat next to me- and since I typically ride the bus rather early I always have the space to do so. No one has *ever* complained about me taking up two seats nor seemed bothered by it in any way at all. I see plenty of others on the bus take up two seats with bags and no one bats an eye. Maybe it's a cultural difference, but idk
the difference here is that the bus this person was on was very busy. as someone who lives in a capital city and takes public transport at least twice a day, it is absolutely frustrating when someone takes up two seats when they could just as easily have put their bag on the floor in front of them or on their lap. in your case it seems like the buses you take are decidedly *not* busy, so i do not fault you for taking as many seats as you need. however, it is very circumstantial and i do see it as asshole behaviour when you clearly see a lot of people standing who may also be tired and want to just get where they need to be, and still don’t move your bag
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I am so mixed on the cat story... If they wanted to breed their cat... then breed your cat if you're allowed to do that.(In some places you need a license to breed cats and dogs, Don't kniw if they need that ) But don't let an intact Cat (male or female) roam... because that just letting kittens be born in the streets. We do not need more cats in the streets and they do not often live happy lives. And plus you don't know what type of genes those cats have, and can also affect those kittens being born with those genes. And again you shouldn't be letting your cat roam.. they can get hit by cars taken by predators, get illnesses they other wise wouldn't.
Input on the Beyonce concert one, from a Swedish citizen who is in their last year studying musical theatre and has been to and helped work at live performances. She's not the asshole, it's pretty typical for concerts to start with one more up beat song where people are standing and singing along to welcome the performers and then most sit down for the first half or the more calm beginning songs being performed and then when it starts to pick up again people will stand up and dance and/or sing along for the rest of the show. Of course there are exceptions if it's a calmer performance all the way through people might not stand at all but in those situations there's usually at least one song where the lights even on stage will be dimmed and people will stand up and turn on their phones flashlight and wave them in the air making a sort of starry night sky appearance which makes a really comfy energy. So in conclusion she responded correctly by accepting and understanding the request by the person behind that for that first part with the ballads she should sit down and later when it picked up she was right in standing up and dancing and singing along, the person behind was wrong for getting mad at her for following the industry standards, the first remark was okay and welcomed and she understood and adapted to following our concert behaviours really well. Yeah there is some cultural differences but she picked up on them really quickly, I'd more so like to know if the other person was actually from Sweden themselves because that did not sound like how most of the Swedish population would act in this situation.
Huh? His friends thinks he’s the a-hole when he lost his job and put in jail for 54 days? Clearly they won’t understand until they or their loved ones experience the same fate.
the dog one is really sad. like you dont have to go to something just cause youre invited. and pets are family after you adopt them, they arent just for when its convenient to you. sure things come up and you have to leave them alone, but its like telling someone they cant bring along their family member with anxiety because its annoying but they still have to come
I think ppl on here/Reddit don’t understand what an AH is. You can be technically right in a situation and still be the AH. 41:52 is a good example of this
In Sweden, we are practically the complete opposite of americans, unless drunk to hell. If you're at a concert you sit down and listen, a rock/metal concert might be different, since there will be a moshpit. But overall, we sit and listen, might lipsync or whisper sing, but yeah, youre the asshole if you act like a drunk when sober.
49:26 the manager spoke to him already. It’s not petty, this is a recurring issue that won’t stop. Supervision couldn’t stop it. There was even a warning that this will be the last nice warning.
The people saying that they should get him a chair instead of spraying him with a hose have clearly never played sports that is one of the best feelings after a long practice
Ok, the disowned aon story kinda happened with my sister. But it was because she was having sadistic tendencies that were festering and harming us. So she grew up at our grandmas house, which was for the best. We still talk a lot, and have a healthy relationship, and she didnt grow up a sadist.
1:27:24 I’ve heard people say it’s best to give your number rather than ask for theirs and just leave it in their hands, but her being nice didn’t mean she was interested.
"AITA for telling a social worker the real reason my sister wants a foster kid?" I don't think you are. Your sister needs to stop being cheap and hire a babysitter. No one wants to work for free, and this includes family. And I'm glad you called her out for taking advantage of you. She doesn't sound like a very good parent.
As someone who wants to foster and adopt someday, that second story is disgusting. Children are children, _not_ punching bags or free labor. How low can you get?
Re: Tomato sauce story. WTF is wrong with the Narrator? Coming down on the OP for her reaction, being too hard on OP? Nah, not even close... NTA. The SIL apparently cannot keep her hands to herself, nor can she contriol her impulsive behaviour of sabotaging others' culinary efforts. Banning her from the house and making her family repurchase the 40# of tomatoes, IMO, falls far short of the deserved consequences. What about reimbursement for the time, ingredients, effort and utilities already invested in the ruined batch of sauce? Who is going to pay for the containers in which the ruined sauce will be packaged, and then given to the SIL? What about the replacements for said containers, etc.? OP deserves to have every single penny of her costs reimbursed for the SIL's actions. Actions have consequences...
ISTG some of these posts be like "AITA for brutally murdering my friend's poodle" and then the poster is a literal angel, and then there's "AITA for telling my sister-in-law to stop being racist" and the poster is an absolute scumbag
1:14:52 I went to see Shinedown in the states and at one point I was sitting during a song but the man next to me was dancing and his butt was inches from my face. I locked eyes with his partner and she said something similar to “sit down, your ass is in her face!” I didn’t even give her a dirty look but she still did it 😂😂😂
1:01:45 YOU GO GIRL! COSPLAY THAT CRISPY CHICKEN NUGGET! DABI IS AWESOME. I LITERALLY HAVE SO MANY SONGS ABOUT HIM IN MY PLAYLISTS, SO I SUPPORT THIS GIRL THAT COSPLAYS HIM.
The step mom saying she's not her step sons real mom and theyre going to make her family uncomfortable being introverted, holy heck i would have divorced her immediately. Dad is definitely NTA. I hope that kid and dad are doing well. 🙏
Op with the Taylor Swift tickets, definitely TA. You have to actually apply to win in a contest, they specifically tried for it knowing 100% the concert would be that day....would not be TA if their mom didnt tell them the date until after they won the tickets though, because thats just coincidence
The disowned son one makes me feel really conflicted On one hand. I think disowning is harsh, he’s a teenager. Yes 16 yr olds have a better sense of right and wrong compared to younger kids. But he’s also a kid. Teens aren’t fully developed in the brain themselves. Also the whole legality idea of it. I know he’s living with his grandparents. But he’s a minor being disowned by those who are required to parent him. If he were 18. No question about it. He is legally old enough to be on his own. However, him staying in that house puts that innocent girl in danger. He put her in danger and cyberbullied her. She is now being harassed all because of something he did. And yes, what he did is still VILE. I think some people in that video responding to the video don’t regard how much potential danger the daughter is out in through bullying. It’s not a physical life or death but it’s not a safe environment thanks to what he did. I don’t think the parents are the assholes but I think there needs to be another way of handling it besides complete abandonment. He’s 16 though so something doesn’t feel…that great about it. However I don’t think he should be in the house with that poor girl and him being sent to the grandparents was a good idea. I just think the permanent disowning is what is making it so iffy. I think they need a lot of therapy for this. And I mean a lot. The relationship might now be healed. And that’s fine. But it also might get better with therapy. But again if it doesn’t. It doesn’t and there’s nothing that can be done and should be done One more thing is. The parents are NTA. It’s not even a ESH despite my points. It’s just a really complicated conflicting situation
I have never been in a relationship, but i think its unfair to judge someone in a relationship for catching fellings for/ being attracted to someone else, we cant control how we feel, like we cant control if we are attracted to our own gender, what we can control is how we act on those feelings/attraction, and if that reaction is ending your current relationship or not pursuing your feelings/attraction then i think that shouldnt be considered cheating, but if that reaction is starting an intimate relationship with them aka. dating, sex ect. Only then would i consider it cheating.
"AITA for getting my daughter a hotel room entirely for herself after her stepsisters made her sleep on the FLOOR?" Judging from that title ALONE, NTA. ...and I was right. Your wife is also an asshole for accusing you of playing favorites and expecting her stepdaughter to "suck it up." Tell me, wife, if that was you, would YOU want to be sleeping on the floor? Clearly, this "family" is incompatible with each other. I wish it didn't take frickin MARRIAGE for people to start showing their true colors!
As someone with many many allergies and who can’t eat certain spices without my throat swelling shut near fully? If I had someone taint my food just once I’d be throwing their tails out my door. NTA she showed a lot of restraint by trying to be friendly about it and not babysitting that woman like the disrespectful child she is acting like. Honestly sauces are made so differently for different dishes you don’t go tainting peoples food! Ok that concert one was annoying, if you are in a different country you respect their culture you don’t start getting up dancing and singing if everyone is there paying to listen to the singer not someone who can only sing in a shower. They paid to hear the singer not her, honestly I’m American but even I avoid concerts because they feel like just a giant party, they paid for her music, instead they see someone shaking their butt and hurting their ears because she couldn’t respect their customs.
"AITA for cancelling the Mother's Day celebration that I arranged for my wife after hearing what she said to my son?" NTA. Clearly, she doesn't respect people who are introverted. And I would go off on my wife, too, if I ever heard her talking to her stepson like that. That was strike 2, by the way. You got one more time to disrespect me and mine.
Thats neutered cat story made me really pissed. Why would their first thought be to not contact the owners? also, op kept saying how it was "for the greater good" praising themselves constantly
1:32:28 OUCH! OP could’ve just left it at comforting the niece and fixing the cupcake issue without adding not to make things harder. This wasn’t helpful at all. She had a right to be upset. This feels like it would make the niece feel worse, as if she’s a burden or as if her feelings don’t matter.
37:54 I absolutely judge people who don’t move their stuff so as many people as possible can sit. I ride a full bus, so I am one of the people that stands. I also let others sit before me if I’m not struggling with my bags after work. You should try to only ever take up one seat
I am sorry, but as some one who lives in new york and deals with the MTA every day, if you don't ask for someone to move, they don't. If you don't say something, nothing changes. These people are strangers and don't know you from a stain on the wall, why would you expect them to do something for you, unless they are sitting in the designated accessibility seats.
The last one hit close to me, as a minor, seeing my mom during her first trimester of pregnancy was hard. Seeing her not being able to hold down food was hard, I would get small panic attacks when I saw her run to the bathroom or somewhere throw up, see her cry, see her stressed, and I would get so scared when she showed the slightest sign of pain thinking something bad had happened. I grew up learning to adapt to what happens so I would clean up the house a little more than I would usually, make her tea, make my own food and pack my lunch to take off some stress so she could focus more on being able to get through the day and come home to relax. My stepdad would come home late sometimes, so the days he came home late i would help my mom. Seeing a person shame a woman for showing pregnancy symptoms like vomit, mood swings etc makes me angry in a way i can't explain. If you have a mindset similar to the guy in the last Reddit post, please try to educate yourself about how much pregnancy can affect a woman, her health, her body, and her mental health. Pardon me for any errors in my comment. Also it's been three years and I love being and older sister, my prime concern now when it comes to family related stuff, is being a good sister and learning how to be the best older sibling i can be to help my mom. I know it shouldn't be my priority to help take care of my little sibling, but it makes me happy being able to help my mom and helping out on days where she really needs the help ♥
Dude I read the comments on the bus story and pretty much all of them consist of OP being called a selfish prick. Like, it’s the polite thing to do, but at the same time you’re not the AH for not doing it. Bags can be heavy af man. People need to get off of OP’s ass about it. 😑
10:14 at most hotels (at least in Norway) you can ask for an extra fold out bed for a double room. It's gonna cost you 10 euros or something, but the linens you get it guaranteed to be clean, if not brand spanking new 60% of the time
