The problem with the Dani Leigh thing is that she’s not even black 🤦🏾♀️ she’s a Hispanic woman basking in colorism. You can’t be a “yellow bone” if your NOT even black.
Ppl even call the Kardashians light skinned smh im so done all you need to be considered black is date a black man, have black friends, impersonate black women
@@imsoy2k Yes it is.....Dominican's come from the indigenous tribe called the Tìano's. We were enslaved and just like any race that was enslaved, we were mixed with African's and spaniards. Dominicans have an ancestral lineage, and mainly (not all) Dominicans are descendants of the Taino's indigenous tribe, so please don't say something ignorant, especially if you have no clue or information of a people's ancestral history. ^ and to add she's not Hispanic, she considered Latina. Since she comes from the Caribbean islands.
As a dark brown skin woman with a mothers who is lightskin(light brown depending whose asking) i understand what your saying. And ppl get mad when I say this, but there are a lot of dark skin women who project their insecurities on the light skin girls. I had to come to the realization that I did that when I was a young girl and I had to be honest with that. I hate that my mom has to prove her blackness or ppl treat her like she thought she was better than everyone else even though she is such a humble woman. Sometimes and I mean SOMETIMES, we may perceive their confidence as them thinking their better cus they lighter skin. They cant help how others see them.
Mona you gotta remember that just because you're an outlier doesn't mean that other lightskin women don't act like they are better or prettier or mean to darker women because they are lighter. And the Dani Leigh thing is so much different than the India Irie song because India is talking about appreciating her brown skin and the brown skin of her partner. Dani's song is LITERALLY about a man choosing her because she's lightskin and better than his darkskin ex. I agree that sometime lightskins do get some backlash for no reason, but also the whole rest of the world loves you, and validates you more than darker skinned women. Black men constantly show that they respect and want lightskin women more than DS women.
There is food and bad on all sides . Doesn’t mean MOST light skins behave this way, just like someone can’t say all or most dark skins behave this way. The oppressor wants you to think that and be against one another . We play right into their plot to separate us.
The 80’s & 90’s will never be duplicated you are so right we be so involved in celebrities lives it’s crazy. I can’t do it for my own sanity I make sure not to keep up.
I don’t feel like we created colorism, but we carried on that narrative. I feel like some fair skinned people act like they’re on a pedestal because of how society has treated them.
Catching up because I’m way behind on the podcast! I love what you doing Mona. There was a point that I would have agreed with you regarding your points on colorism. Many times lightskin ppl are regarded as weaker or softer or simply treated as outcasts in certain social settings. I’m darkskin but I’m also skinny. And as a skinny woman in the black community growing up people made many comments on my body and how unappealingly skinny I was and how I needed to eat more and gain some weight. And I internalized that and hyperfixated on my body for a long time (still do). To the point where I thought it was unfair that plus sized women thought my struggles were lesser than simply because I was skinny! However, after growing up and opening my eyes, I realized that the struggles plus women go through indeed trumped my struggles as a skinny woman! Plus size women are taught to hate themselves on a WAY bigger scale than skinny women! I dealt with a few comments from friends and family members but there aren’t any commercials telling me what I can do to gain weight. I don’t struggle to find cute clothes in any run of the mill clothing store. I don’t have to think about what/how I eat in front of people. THATS why plus size women get frustrated with me when I talk about my experiences. And I think colorism is very similar to this issue! Dark skin people get frustrated because on the topic of colorism, lightskin ppl feel the need to say “ME TOO” when it is in fact NOT you too. For example if lightskin people are seen as weaker and less threatening how do you think that same mindset affected the dark skin girls around you?
LETS GO DAMONA … man I felt this in a world of Kardashians and black folks calling themselves Barbie it’s always been weird . No offense to Nicki but she is a huge influence to girls calling themselves Barbie because she does . Colorism has been forced upon us and it’s still hard for women . I feel women get the short end of the stick with colorism . Our mentality has been dismantled for centuries to put each other against each other . Keep speaking on these topics . Much appreciated !
I think this problem with DaniLeigh's song is the context of it all. The song says "Yellow bone is what he wants" this was in response to DaBaby's other bm, MeMe, who is a dark skinned woman. I think that's why the song had a negative cognitation around it.
I'm here from Spotify. Just a tip I can't hear the audience members comments or voices at all. Please adjust the audio so that we can hear all voices in the room IF you're going to bring the audience into the conversation. Also, I had to google this because I didn't know it was filmed as well, but I am here for this!! Love Mona! I'm a new follower and i'm hooked!
Mona speaking facts 💯 She speaking real ish don't just focus on her comedy when you really sit there and listen she preaching she smart asf , proud of you Mona, keep going up ,, I know you gonna make it
I was always asked if I was mixed I was quick to get people straight and let them know I'm black and proud!! I'm so sick of the bs of colorism...it's not cool and the ambiguous ladies god bless y'all bc I wouldn't fool with no n that only liked me bc of me looking "mixed" these ninjas are confused af
i been watching mona for months straight in my free time. i love the vibe and idea of the podcast you know ? the main concept. i have wired convos with my friends 24/7!!!! i am the female kanye btw
My grandkids and I attended a block party 3yrs ago and all of sudden my 2 girls started running under the tables to hide crying and when i realized what was happening it broke my heart. The police was chasing some young guy and they thought the police was coming for us. My babies were 6 and 7 at that time and still today they are terrified of the police.
This was a great episode and u are more then a podcaster or a comedian..u speak truth and that’s why I watch u I enjoy laughing and keeping it real with u..u are going to be great keep it going..❤❤
Love You Mona ❤️ Thank you for always being you 24/7 unapologetically! Love this podcast 🥰 I listen every week until the RU-vid version is available lol
This “race” thing is wild! I’m far from light skin and ppl constantly ask me what race I am! I’m like, ummmmmm black. Then they go into more I say my mother is Panamanian. Then I’m NOT black. Lol (ignorance)
I understand what the man off camera is saying regarding light-complected or mixed-race women who fancy themselves more desirable. Not the bathing part, but I have experienced it with hair. Any time a girl referred to her hair as "good", said girl's hair was always a f*cking mess. Every. Day. And darker complected girls I knew were always perfectly groomed. In adulthood, a grown woman said to me, "Don't bring your brothers around me. You know I got that good hair." I had to tell her, "My brothers are married. And they're married to white women, soooo... I don't know how 'good' your hair is" because if we go with that line of thinking, then a white woman is superior. If you believe that, cool. I don't happen to think any woman is superior to me, so... (BTW, I worked with that woman for 5 years, and her hair was never ever ever ever "done". Like ever.)
I'm over here dying, I'm brown skin, my 10 year old daughter is very light skin, she already don't like to bathe, only really like seafood, won't drink out of a freshly washed cup unless she wipes the water out first, no one else in this house acts like that, she won't even eat a chicken nugget 🤣
Kids don’t just act a certain way bc of the color of their skin. If you’re trying to imply that she’s boujie, she learned that behavior from somewhere. Children are pure, they come out with a clean slate & pick up on what WE teach them. Be more aware of what she’s picking up on instead of blaming her actions on being “lightskin” you’re continuing the issue…….
I think this stereotype of light skin girls being “stuck up” or “bougie” steams from them being more confident. As someone who’s brownskin I had to build up confidence so I was more quiet and shy whereas many light skin girls I know are more outgoing .. I think it’s because they know how beautiful they are .. they don’t get “your pretty for a light skin girl” so we’re not used to seeing that level of confidence and we label it as stuck up. Just my take on it
Nail on the head I got called bougie and was hated on in school for just existing lol then later it’s “I thought you were bougie and mean but you cool” lmao insecurity is a mf
Why do u think they are more confident, why do u think they're more outgoing, has to do with the stereotype.. so the stereotype is because of the confidence/outgoing attitude.. that causes the stereotype in the first place.. it's a chicken before the egg, which came first?
Somebody told me all light skin girls don’t brush they teeth so I’m not surprised he said they don’t bathe and I hate the stereotypes that we act grand like first off I save everyone number especially if I like you I’m saving it first day and I text fast af you can text me and I call you 🥴😩I remember some boy told me he was surprised I wasn’t a hoe because I’m light skinned and I honestly felt so self conscious after that I was 19 and he was the first boy I ever went out with smh
im more brown, but i got the hate too. however, i did not want to hang with those losers tbqh. i just wanted to learn, go home, and read my books. made the girls sizzle i guess. nvm my ignoring the caps lock key
So I really don't take the colorist situation lightly. That's not cool at all. To say lighter women don't bathe is stupid and darker women are aggressive is stupid. I don't play around with that
nah thats some reason shit. sometimes u really gotta sit back and think about the different outcomes. my interactions with cops, i go right into that slave act because i have to think about my people, my personal people. so ima “ yes sir “ my way out of this interaction with this cop bc i gotta think about the ppl i gotta come home to. i moved to boston during 2020 and made white friends who loved going to rallys and my ass stayed home, i was hours away from my family with no real friends there, if something happened to me, who gonna protect me??
The only defense you have against Instagram is to post on all social medias that way when they see videos that they took down is being played on RU-vid it makes him lose money because the first thing people going to say is hey man this is deleted on Instagram but it is on RU-vid go look at it now you have more people getting off Instagram and on to RU-vid... but they know that the truth fans will stay with Instagram.
naaa double texting is appropriate! for a busy woman or a mom we be forgetting plus these iphones be fucking up hiding notifications and shitt😅 but 3 txts yeaaaaa catch the hint bro
We gotta stop excluding women from the conversation of police brutality, speaking on colorism whilst ignoring the way it affects black women’s interactions with the police and the judicial system is a bit ironic.
