Side Effects of Being Light Skinned with Mona Dixon | Small Doses Podcast 

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Never had Amanda’s podcast recommended to me on RU-vid but that shows how much i watch Damona, glad i tuned in this was a good convo

I think us black women of all shades need to share our experiences & raise our daughters in a way that they won’t hurt each other in the ways we have. All of our experiences our valid. I think this is an important topic.

This pairing works so unexpectedly well

What's sooooo annoying is being a dark skin woman and being called a white girl because I don't "talk black " foh

So glad to see Mona holding herself accountable about the colorism topic. Playas fuck up too. Love her

Time to bring this one back as a topic! Because after Shannon we saw people literally have you f’d up even trying to label you as biracial, just wild!

I’m ready for this convo! Cause it seems like it taboo for light skin girls to discuss colorism and bullying

When i spoke about my experience as a light skinned child to my mother recently about growing up around all darker skinned family from her side and some of the experiences with girls at school, she took offense and told me don't bring up the topic nomore bcs it just doesnt hold enough weight vs what dark skinned women have to go through. She said I've benefitted my entire life not only being light skinned but so called pretty privilege even. I never brought up the conversation again, i am glad to see other light skinned women speaking on the topic. I wish more did..i believe the support should be on both ends because there is hurt on both ends.

This is definitely a healing episode for all shades of black. Understanding our individual experience with skin.

I had to learn about others experience when it came to being black because my little cousin is light skinned and constantly was being bullied or picked on because she was light skinned. I’m dark skinned and I assumed she wouldn’t have problems. I had to be willing to learn and understand then acknowledge the different experiences because I didn’t want to look at my cousin and say “it doesn’t matter” when she’s upset about being bullied for being light skinned. It was definitely a sister sister moment.

As a dark complexed woman, I really enjoyed this convo you 2 black women had. Love you both, thx 🥰💯

My hi-yella sister and mom have both gone thru this stuff all their lives. There are people who hate them, but love me based on nothing more than the fact that my skin tone is easier to digest… I’m right in the middle of the black spectrum. My sis got bullied and picked on ALL THE TIME! Folks treated her like she was conceited and I was shy, when we both were just raised to be quiet kids… I’m glad y’all are speaking up for yourselves and people like you. This conversation was much needed and needs to grow. You could do a whole series on how differently shaded people are treated differently and at the end reunite everybody and go on retreat to start the healing. It would be better than another Real Housewives reunion 😂

I liked the dialogue… but I expected more. Idc about who swipes for me. I do, however, care about how I am treated in the boardroom or classroom. Colorism isn’t something that just stings a little. It’s a form of oppression. White ppl do see lighter skinned women as more civilized and less less aggressive. I don’t care about a man opening a door for me, but colorism will convince Jerome to stop and help my light skinned sister push her broke down car, but let dark skinned and pregnant Kisha figure it out bc she’s built strong. So, again… the conversation was necessary. But…. No shade bc I love these women… it felt very surface level. I get unnerved when the colorism discussion is all about dating and dismisses the bigger issues. I got all excited bc I know Amanda goes in on every subject that impacts the black community. This one felt like a fizzle… for me.

DAMONA IS BRILLANT

Man, I didn’t know I needed this honestly. My experience was people telling me I didn’t have real problems cause I was light skinned. This podcast made me realize how much I internalized that narrative subconsciously that it blocks me from really dealing with my issues cause I really believed the things I went through weren’t truly “bad”. So this started a good conversation with myself and I’m working on some things lol! Thanks Mona and Amanda for this!

Yes!!! This conversation is so relatable. I NEVER want to discredit my more melanated sisters experience EVER. I strongly feel like a lot of our men started the perpetuation with the "lighter skin is more desirable" and some of us have run with that narrative. I have always made it a point to challenge that thought with my black men and dig deeper into WHY they do that. It frustrates me whenever I see any of us do that comparison. So many more thoughts but this is good. oK BACK TO THE EPISODE :)

The 1st few minutes already got me weak w/ this dog 😂😂😂😂

I'm a dark skinned black woman and got a lot of colorism in school for being dark. I remember a light skinned girl saying to me one day when I walked into class damn she black. The whole class started laughing. It really hurt. I was hearing guys say dark skinned girls have attitudes. That comment annoyed me because I'm a quiet introvert raised by Creo women who were red boned. My whole family was light but me at the time. So if I have attitude it came from the women in my family who are light skinned who taught me to love my skin and the woman I am.

That “you’re embarrassing me” to the dog was so triggering and real 😂😭 why do they do that to us?!?

My mother told me when she was getting married to my father she was told by her cousin that my father would appreciate, value her more because she was light skinned. This was late fifties Jamaica. No he didn’t value her any more. He likely thought he would be respected more because he was married to a light skinned woman. Double foolishness!Marriage didn’t last long. Just enough for two kids.

This is why I love Seales.

it may not be colorism but its still prejudice based on someones skin color, something they cant control. My dad experienced this all through his life just for being lightskin they would call him albino and whiteboy and so many other things he was literally bullied for the color of his skin. Having light skin didnt garner him any special privileges.

They feel like cousins raised in different neighborhoods but cool with each other.

I haven’t watched Amanda in years, pretty sure this got recommended because of Mona. This was a duo I didn’t know I needed, love how you ladies continuously show up as yourselves ❤️

I literally loveeeee everything about these two lovely ladies coming together

I love this segment and as a light skinned women, representation matters and colorism is so real especially in Midwest. These people are so anti-black it is sad; I mean black folks. Glad this convo is taking place .

As a light skin male who is of Afro-Caribbean descent. I have had some negative experiences with both darker-skinned males and females in the black community unsolicited and unprovoked by me just going about my business. There are literally Memes on the internet with jokes about light skin men, e.g. that one with Shemar Moore laying down on his side, captioned "This is how light skin men take their driver's license pictures" or the stereotype that light skin men can't fight. Most times I catch on after the negative experience, sometimes I am like, did he? Was that? Is it because? Naah. I don't have to say I am from the projects to make you feel comfortable or that I have been to jail. I am NOT the lightest black person in my family I have cousins who are lighter than me and they are bad ASF they will fight you for nothing. White people don't care if you are light skin some can't even tell the difference all they see is a NEGRO. Yes, Colorism does not apply to light-skin people this is true but everyone's feelings are valid so maybe we need a term for this.

Came here for my girl Damona but I am here to stay! Amanda is definitely a vibe!

I LOVED and appreciated this. I definitely feel like ppl want me to be ashamed of the literal skin I was born in that happens to be light, and baby I’m sorry but it ain’t happenin. I’m the only light bright in my family and I think by default I can’t see anything other than beauty in chocolate and dark chocolate skin. One will never cancel out the other for me!

This was a great podcast! As a deeper pigmented black woman (born to and around light skinned women), I’ve experienced and seen somethings. It became my responsibility to extract myself from the mammy archetype, beginning that all of them had a ton of drama being the highly preferred. Unfortunately, my mother prioritized her visibility over the protection of her only darkskinned child. We come out as we are and we are born to who we were. In my undersirablity, I had to learn to cultivate my sense of worth. Everyone doesn’t survive it and it makes me sad. For those of us who are still snubbed, I strongly suggest you become your own advocate. You are your best ally. No one platform will be able to fully address your hurts, past/present. As much as it sucks, you are at a major advantage to really Seeeeee people for who you are. Just know there are better people. I really appreciated them talking about the success portion, with your come up. It’s sooo true! People get weird when others excel!! And sometimes they have more than you!! SMH!! But on the colorism part… dark skinned women… live the life you truly want! Transcend. The light skinned women have preference and black men tend to be gatekeepers. I strongly believe there is plenty and a world outside of all of these things. When people show you that you are not worth being prioritized, pay them dust. Alchemize your rage. ✨

Some blk ppl get called lightskin and are actually brown skin….😅

I think Dr Donna calls it "Color Based Prejudice" for the instances of Violence and Exclusion that light skinned ppl experience. It's a Micro vs Macro thing and I think ppl get caught up in the feeling of being dismissed and just can't hold space for those who face a lot more extreme outcomes from Prison Sentences to Job Salaries I never used Reverse Colorism as a term but it's a lot of ppl who don't recognize their privilege so it's still a journey (for me as well) learning less abrasive approaches to these discussions & to hold space for darkskinned ppl

I like when Mona gets interviewed. I think what makes this work so good is that Amanda is steering the conversation and then Mona is being her awesome self.

I just had a conversation with my best friend who is also mixed about how I don't like when men date me just because I'm light skin but look Hispanic & all their ex are Hispanic,. My mama, aunties & 52 cousins who all raised me are gorgeous black (dark skin) women . So I do get offended.

Love that disclaimer in the beginning of the comment because it’s the first time I’m commenting. I love you guys. You need to have a segment with you both all the time on different topics you should collaborate constantly needed in my life. You guys are good with each other.

15:36 I have dated guys that told me they’re dating me because they want light skinned babies. The ignorance is real.

I really loved the talk on colorism and being lightskined !! I also think it was a really good point made in having these type of conversations with yt people too and not just in the black community!!!!! Also I Lovveee your pink setup🎀💖!!!

It's my 1st time to the RU-vid page, I usually listen on Spotify....BUT lemme say this, Amanda Seales is a national black treasure that must be protected at all cost!!!! She is that precious. And also I love this episode. The dynamic is so smooth and entertaining yet enlightening. I'd pay top dollar to see yall do a pod or talk show.

This is the podcast that my soul needed. I have been getting so weary of being double discriminated against.

Definitely love the camaraderie between you two!!! It just FLOWS!!!!!!!

I’m glad you are having the conversation. Colorism isn’t specific to black women. Asians Latinos and others use colorism to separate

The more I listen to you speak the more seen I feel. Thank you.

Been waiting for a real convo like this pertaining to this topic. Ya’ll have great chemistry as well.

I was waiting for this. Great conversation

Amanda, this is such a delightful conversation.

I love how Geordi was barking and growling then asked for pets 😂 4:55

This conversation felt well intentioned and it is a conversation that feels like it brought all black women together. On a side note, the drama between the pup and Mona was hilarious.

Love y’all together. & I love y’all for discussing this topic!!!!

Two of my favorites! I hope you do more collaborative things ❤

This resonates with me so much!! I’ve had some if not all of those same experiences and I felt when I tell my experience it’s downplayed.

Glad y’all linked back up!!!

this was a really good show, y'all together is something special

This was nice, the combo I didn’t know we needed. I love you two!

Loved this episode! You two are magic together. 💚

I had guys fetishized me too they don't want me necessarily just my light skin could literally be anyone as long as light skinned

Wow, so the title got me! I’m into this! I’ve been waiting for this to be a conversation because it SEPARATES WOC soooo bad!! I love yall 💜

Another brilliant convo.. tricky subject & you guys managed to be sensitive to that yet funny throughout 💗( Geordi is too cute 😍love how he makes an appearance every episode! )

My favorite two people this was the collaboration i never knew i needed. Thank you both💕💕😍😍

I didn’t know what to expect but as a lighter skin but def non ambiguous black woman (4c) I respect this conversation I love all black women but I go up and off for darker skinned women

Wow 🎉 I love this episode. I’ve been following Amanda all my life and Mona for the past two year. I really appreciate both of their perspectives and wisdom. I love that they collaborated again. ❤

I’m dyin’ at the opening scene! I just finished the TS Madison episode and Geordi was acting completely different. 😂

I've been waiting on this one since yall were on live ❤❤

Great collab! I didn’t even know about Mona before this. Good dialog on a real topic. As a dark father of two light daughters and a brown daughter, the dynamics are complex. Thanks to both of you for opening up and sharing your truth from your experience. It is valid. ✊🏾

We here Queen!! Anything for you!

i love this ep because they're sooo different and yet similar, and i think that's the most important take away

Love this conversation!!! I was thinking about this today and then you popped up on my feed. Well framed arguments and conservation. Just hit subscribe. I am darkskinned from a Caribbean family of all different looks and outside of the people in my family I am soooo fucking bored of internslised racism/colourism. Loved all of the points made. My only build is that as a dark skinned bog ass grown woman it really bothers people that I have never let colourism make me feel like I am less than or less attractive.

I really love you two together talking about this conversation bc it’s much needed in our community 🫶🏆

We need more of this! It was like blending two different worlds😂

I really enjoyed this conversation and I learned somethings too. Thanks!!

Both of y’all are so real and genuine! I’m glad Mona came on your show! Love you both 😍😍

Thoroughly enjoyed this conversation.

This is my 1st time hearing of Mona Dixon but I'm feeling Phiily vibes and I love it.

Always loved Amanda. 😍 Thank you for this. 💙

Well spoken!!!! Love it!!

I love y’all both! this was great

I love both these ladies! Perfect combination!

I have never heard of Damona, she is hilarious! Amanda this was great. I get so frustrated when a message is wrapped in hatred.

Amanda will always be one of my favorites💛

we needed this

Promoting inclusivity among black women is a really good thing to do. I love this! I think it is very important to realize black features come in all shades and we can build common experiences and bonds between light-skinned and dark-skinned black women that are very different from what we get from bonding /only being around other races of women. It is not a nice feeling to be in a group and not look in any way similar to the other women. I think the ugly feeling many of us, including me, have felt stemmed from otherness and not seeing race/color just puts a bandaid on a wider problem. We, human animals, all have an intense need to be included and inclusivity can come from different levels of positive interactions with other people. The strongest seem to be same-gender experiences and features and these connections must be made for self-esteem and personal growth. However, there are a whole host of other combinations and reasons to make positive connections with other groups of people that also make huge contributions to personal growth in their own way. So while it would be wrong to ignore the problems of racism and colorism it is perfectly fine to have a blend of positive interactions with people based on different reasons.

I am certainly a fan of both of you 🥂

No clue who this lady is, but instantly a fan. Love this episode.

❤❤ Amanda and Mona this great!!

❤️❤️ BLESSSSS ~ great Conversation🤲🏽 beautiful people ✨ appreciate both of you ur vulnerability and insights.

Yes! We always need conversations from the “privileged” side of issues too so we can understand all aspects. Great job ladies 🙏🏾

Most of my family is lighter than me so I was surprised to be called a red bone....crazy & creepy 'cause we all are so many colors in one family and bullied from within since the beginning

This was a really great conversation. I think part of the frustrations in the colorism conversations are a few things: 1. There needs to be a distinction between being light-skinned and being biracial. Meaning, there's a difference between Tisha Campbell and Halle Berry. Growing up with a white parent, especially if the white parent is the mom, vs having two monoracial black parents and being light skinned with more typical black features and hair. 2. The fear for darker skinned women is erasure. When biracial people become the representation for blackness, and we see this happening more and more, the needs of darker skinned people don't get addressed. There are privileges within and outside of the black community when you're biracial. Even though you know you're black, you can often be perceived as being another race/ethnic group (equating to better treatment, pay, opportunities, etc.), which is usually not the case for darker skinned folks. 3. There has to be room for biracial/light-skinned folks to talk about their trauma, without being dismissed. While also recognizing that they will have more privileges, primarily in systematic and structural ways that darker skinned people don't.

The whole time I’m watching it, I’m screaming, “Amanda, just put the pooch away for now..” lol 🤣🐾💙

Hey, it's called Mobbing when ppl send their fan bases to attack people. Doxing is when you put out personal info on someone. ( Phone numbers, address, and etc.)

I swear you both are on my list of favorite people ❤

AGREEEDDDDD! I love this conversation!

The conversation was great but the dog is adorable! ❣️

Okay Mona! Can’t wait to watch

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🔥 this was fun 🤩

Yes with the nice skin comments. I have problematic skin and when someone says that I know they have a color complex.👀

Listen. I love my people, I really do I genuinely want what’s best for us. But I kid you not I’ve met black ppl who think just because someone is light-skin they’re pretty…I’ve met black ppl who believe just because someone is Latina they’re pretty, and I’ve met black ppl who think just because someone is mixed they’re pretty. & those same ppl would automatically categorize the dark skinned person as ugly.

I was waiting for this one!

Been waiting on this. You teased us! Excited for us awkward light-skin girls. ❤

Nuanced conversation is necessary and this was great