I love you guys!!! I’m a 30 year single women and I never wanted marriage until watching and listening to you guys.. your transparency has answered questions for me that my parents couldn’t even do. I just wanted to tell you both thank you 🙏🏾. We are listening and y’all are helping
Kay is a sagittarius, which means that she is constantly expanding through experiences, especially travel. so it may seem to herself and others that she still doesnt know what her purpose is. But the reality is that she has multiple purposes and is multidimensional which is beautiful. you'll never settle to one job and will always work on creative projects to continue to expand. Devale was right when he said this is who you were always destined to be.
Can't help but love this couple! As much as this pod cast is to help others it is also therapy for them. The openess and honesty shared is much appreciated. Black love goals!
DeVale and Kadeem (sp) your willingness to be transparent is so, so valuable to me. You are teachers to those of us willing to listen and apply the wisdom shared.
Khadeen you are an amazing speaker. Your comments about not knowing your purpose and figuring that out were so transparent and honest. Dont be hard on yourself. You will find that purpose the more you dig deep. Its completely normal and we are all on this journey to figuring it out, at various stages in our lives.
That part about “being seen”. Beautiful to see a couple who has evolved to see the other side of that. Seeing you both shows me how important it is, that If the bond is strong it’s worth fighting for.
"I wanted to work a lot, so my wife shouldn't have to work", wow, THAT'S A GEM. These men out here today, want to lay up on a woman, and have them drive them around etc. Preach and Teach Devale.
Yoooo, these podcasts are bomb and so educational. You are guys are changing my perspective in marriage and even dating to begin with in such a positive manner that I'm highly appreciative of. ''FINDING SOMEONE THATS ALREADY HAPPY AND READY TO SHARE IN MY HAPPINESS AS WELL'' is my number 1 take out from this specific podcast and it makes so much sense.
I think you must love each other when you get married, but you also need to like the person you marry as well. What ever else you gain or you lose during your marriage, that has to be the foundation!
“You had to find your happiness, so I could share my happiness.” 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿 I decided to stay home after my son and I’ve learned that’s not all I am. After a while your children don’t need you. My husband is growing professionally and academically and all I have is potty training, he know he’s colors, numbers, the alphabet. Husband celebrating passing his classes for his Masters programs, and I spent all day trying to communicate with a toddler.
I love and appreciate their transparency. No matter how hard what they feel may be hard to express to each other, they do and are able to have open and honest communication about it.
I know that I didn't have any thing to do with your conceptions, births or raising. But listening to you brings a swelling of pride in me that makes me tear up. Please give your folks a big hug and thank you from me. I luv the people you are growing into. You are amazing. There are much older people who have not developed the understanding of relationships that you have. Thank you for sharing your knowledge. (When I write "you " It's plural. As in the two of you)
When Khadeen said “read me” that was the moment I knew that The Ellises and The Arnold’s (myself and husbae) live a parallel life and WE MUST MEET!! We are too much alike that it’s scary! My husband always tells me I have an internal battle of what my mom wants me to be and I what I want to do!! 😳😭🤍
Wow, this was quite an insightful session!!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. Khadeen's "Alright Dr. Devale, read me..." was amusing ☺☺☺but you could tell she was really impressed with Devale and taking in what he was saying. I must say I saw Devale's point. 🇬🇭🇬🇭🇬🇭🇬🇭
I feel like what Devale is saying is the way most men are wired naturally and the same with Khadeen and what she's saying, most women are wired that way. I love yall, thanks for what you guys do
Khadeen I think you are in your purpose in this season of life. Your speaking right now, helps so many and is a blessing. Being a mother and wife right now is also your purpose, one day your kids will be out of the house and you'll find another purpose. We are all so gifted in many things and we couldn't possibly do them all at one time, so that's why God gives seasons in life as we grow, things change. We adjust to the change and we find our purpose there. I know there was a reason I clicked this video tonight. It has helped me get to the root of stripping away "all the things" in life and like you said, "what is at the core of the marriage". Thanks so much for your transparency.
I just want to thank the both of you for keeping it so real. I currently struggle with some of the things that were discussed on this pod cast. As a married woman, had I known what I know now, I would have definitely done a lot of things differently. This PC has been therapeutic for me. You guys always keep it 💯!❤️👍🏽❤️
Devale doing the Jaheim voice got me hollering 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣. Devale is one hilarious dude and I love the genuineness he and Khadeen bring to the topics they discuss from both the male and female perspectives. Good job guys👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼🇬🇭🇬🇭🇬🇭🇬🇭🇬🇭🇬🇭
I love hearing both sides and I feel Kay because I feel like I’m doing everything to make my family happy but I am not. I prefer to do my own thing. I was so focused on what my aunt and family tell me like you should be a doctor. I’m starting to realize what I want to be and do
Great Episode!! Y'all hit on a lot of gems from episode 2. What stood out in this one for me is being around people who project their expectations on you. I'm often guilty of that, and have been subjected to it. Thank You for being transparent and standing in y'all truth. It's inspiring.
Never thought about it that way but soo true! The financial commitment that a wedding ceremony represents to most black families versus white families is not the same. The same is true for higher education
This is such a great conversation, this why I love these two; love their transparency with each other and their ability to Communicate with each other.
Some people don't understand singleness is a gift I like how you take the time to communicate with each other and some black men don't know how to communicate I'm a young black woman that needs a man to add to my life because I'm established and I'm in the prime of my life and getting ready to retire I love you too how loving each other for the long haul
I'm enjoying my single life because I married a man that married me for the wrong reason. and I went to this church function and a woman Minister stopped me and didn't even know me these are the words she said to me she someone you cared about decived you and he walked by so other people can see things that we don't because we have blinders on and that he didn't mean me any good.and had the nerve to move to blocks from me and won't give me a divorce
Y'all are fools! I love it! That Karaoke baby!!😂 You 2 give me everything...Periodt! The great vibes pour out consistently. I appreciate the candidness with which you share about your challenges.
Good conversation. This is a great topic and when Khadeen was talking, I related it to why Michelle Obama wrote the book on Becoming. No matter what we are human who are forever evolving and becoming what it is we desire to be. Great discussion, good insight! Thank you both for sharing .
This podcast was so so fulfilling. Truth, be appreciative and grateful, for all God has done, appreciative for your spouse, sharing is caring. Bottom line, God need to be first, as individuals. Spirituality is a important key! With the connection that make you ☝️ one. Love is everything! Truly complementing each other. That takes being happy with self.....💜💜❤️❤️💙💛
50 minute mark and on. that wealth matters. since graduating high school in 2014 til now my white counterparts that I graduated with have done far less and got married fresh out or 2 years after graduating high school. and I'm here with my BSN nursing degree planning to go further of course, but I'm just now getting to a financially stable state. I have the relationship, thank God, but that wedding and buying a house is a serious issue that I think about a lot. my family and even extended family don't have that type of money to set me up like that. But I promise you my future kids will have it. and for the rest of the video.... I learned so much, and reinforced my views on marriage and my future spouse. Much love to you two, Devale and Khadeen. ✊🏾
This was so good! I really needed this and there are so many aspects that I can fully relate to with Khadeen. I also see some things clearer with my own husband after listening to Devale's perspective. Thank y'all for sharing on this subject!
Everytime I see the intro, and Duvale poses at the end with his shirt open looking up straight, I picture him next to Will and Martin in the bad boys movies.
I appreciate you guys for this. Yall definitely made things a lil clear in my life and in my relationship. Thank you guys so so much. Continue to work in yall greatness. #BLACK❤LOVE
I luv there relationship no it’s not perfect no ones is but the way they are truly friends first n the luv n chemistry that they have is awesome being newly divorce I said I didn’t want to get married agin but watching them really has me thinking ❤️❤️❤️!!!
Now that I am in my forties and experience loss (my mom) communication, comfort and care are what I seek in a spouse. I can communicate with my husband, he comforts me my happy and saddest time and gosh I never ever that no one Cared about me that why my mom cared but HE CARES.
I llllooooovvvvveeeeeee that y’all brought the institution of marriage and financial aspects of the ceremony to the as conversation. Agency and legacy 1000x impact decisions on marriage, engagement, asset acquisition
Ummm fresh to go... like the bad boys movie ending part at the end (of intro) looking in the sunlight... Best opening, This the best couple on RU-vid ... period. Finishing his song.. killing it...
Watching your families journey and your podcasts prepared me to be a healthy woman that knows how to communicate respectfully with my best friend for 10 years that I’m building a relationship with now. God bless you guys for being so relatable and open and honest while looking Hollywood fiiiiine ♥️ much love from Germany
Sounds like me and Devale are a lot alike! I have to be in control! I worked hard to get my family where we are and I know what works for me. So when the other person isn’t as disciplined as me, it becomes a problem.
