Exactly. She definitely tried to imply something inappropriate with that "d!sgusting p!g" comment and whatever she said afterwards. Her mind is a gutter.
Worst part about people like that is that they’ll swear up and down that’s not what they’re talking about because they never “explicitly” said it The worst form of plausible deniability
@@Catherine.Dorian. I hope you find a good group soon to play with, I get it - I have very little confidence too but a good group will help with that!!
It would disappoint you immensely to know just how oblivious some humans are. Unless some people experience things for themselves, it's not only alien, it's bad.
So OP is disgusted that her now ex BF, who is basically a parent to his younger siblings, knows about periods and is actually helping his younger sister deal with it??? Yea... the ex dodged a huge bullet. I feel sorry for the next guy OP manages to con into dating her.
Should Reddit let OP in on another point. That man also knows about his sister's bras and panties. He may already have had the birth control and sexuality talk with the 16 year old.
@@Elinor0987K I am crossed between OP being a special kind of stupid, or being delusional AF. I don't know much about women, but I very certain the Ex would be considered to be a absolute catch. And OP threw him away
@@nicksuazo4377 i calling it now, if by some chance there is a update, its either gonna have the phrases "Restaining order" and/or "Criminal Charges" somewhere in it.
Considering the comments, that guy will have no trouble finding a Woman. Seriously, a lot of them were just asking how to get a hold of him so they could ask him out, or hook up their own daughters. As you saw, one comment event wanted to set up his younger brother with their daughter at some point.
I think I can answer this: when I was a teen going through puberty, I noticed how devicive people got with who gave the talk. Almost like if the genders didn't match, people assumed a hands-on approach was taken. But to get to your "what most women want" comment, even as a 35 year old adult today, I notice that girlfriends prefer their boyfriends to know what products and pampering to give during a period, but have a look of perv'rted disgust when the same man happens to know that a period secretes the lining.... Seriously, I saw CPS called on a single father who had to calm his daughter down the night before when the lining popped out in one shot.
They choose the worst women. If men were not as focus on looks when it comes to actual love, fidelity and devotion then there would be less messed up relationships
"I am allowed to have opinions" He is too. He's allowed to tell you to pound sand for thinking he's a "disgusting pig" for HELPING HIS SISTER because you thought the way he handled it was creepy
Christ, the lack of common sense is just baffling. _"How does he know this?"_ After she just poined out that he; *_raised_*_ his siblings like a _*_single parent_* OP is clearly mentaly deficient, and he lost nothing of value with that relationship.
I would think a GF seeing her man so devoted to raising and protecting his siblings like this would make them more inclined to husband-up and beg them to be the father of their children. Apparently OP went in the complete opposite direction with that one. 😒 Woman literally threw away a gem.
And the comments on the posts wanted her Ex. A couple wanted to set up their younger children with his younger brother because of how the guy is. Usual Reddit Comment type things.
Well you know what they say, one woman's trash is another (in this case, MOST) woman's treasure. OP is crazy trying to get back with him though, he won't be making that same mistake again 😂
Story 1. The guy has been brother, dad and mom to those kids since taking on the responsibility of caring for them. When his sister had her period, he slipped into mom mode and did exactly what a mom would do in that situation. OP insulted him in the worst way possible and almost alienated him from his sister. She's utterly delusional if she thinks he will ever let her anywhere near him or his siblings again.
@@lazallewillemse3617 When you hurt a child like OP did, you don't get back. That little girl woke up in her own blood, and witnessed the one person she trusted and loved get told what he did was wrong. That's a lot to deal with in the small time frame we were given.
That woman in story 1 is delirious. I would never take her back after being accused of something like that because I would never be able to trust that she wouldn't pull something like that with my own kids if shit hit the fan. If this guy is thinking even anywhere close to that line of thinking, she has no chance.
No, OP will never have another chance with him. He made that clear. However, OP states she will get him. So I guess now she'll become the crazy stalker. She best not try going around the 12yr old. The 16yr old may put her in the hospital.
@@lindah3803I'm glad his sister slapped her and gave her a piece of her mind before blocking her. She better not become their sister in law, because teenagers tend to hold grudges and that she better become a nun because I feel sorry for the moron who will marry that nut job
St1 How dare he care for his sisters during that time of their life’s, the audacity of him to be a caring older brother /s Women like op are the reason why some men get embarrassed when they have to go to a supermarket to the pad section and have to pick out the pads for their partner after being asked to because they sweat being judged and called a creep by women such as op.
The fact she went right to “you’re a disgusting pig” not “wow, you’re really chill about this whole thing. My dad couldn’t even hear the word cramps when we were growing up. Is that not awkward for you guys?” Based on her excuse that she was just brought up really differently. Would have gone completely different. The first rule is not to be so reactionary and don’t assume the worst first thing.
I've had multiple occasions at the store seeing a young man trying to find the right product for their gal or sister. They always look embarrassed and panicky. I'll offer to help. Most accept the help. I let them know that they're being a great partner/brother taking care of their gal/sister. I had a few gals give me and the man I'm talking to strange looks. I don't care. I'm just trying to ease the guy. Give him a boost for being a good man.
@@rohanjarande I'll be honest, doing that gives me a bit of a happy feeling. Seeing a guy standing there with a confused look,eyes all wide. His initial look of "What do I say" when I offer. 1 guy was getting some for his teen sister and his GF. Yes,they wanted different products. That poor guy was so nervous. Fortunately his GF had written down what she wanted. So he did get the brand right. I had him call his sister. Ask her to read the package to him. He didn't want to. His sister would tease the crap out of him. I told him not to mention me. Just say he wanted to make sure he was getting the right one. He got the gals their products. I asked what their favorite sweets were. I suggested he get that as well. Just tell them that he wanted to get them a treat. That guy was just so relieved and happy when we parted. Made me a bit happy.
Story 1 yta this op is a horrible person. Why wouldn't he need to know about this kind of things. He's the only reliable adult in their lives. If that's how you react then I hope you never have kids.
1st Op: I called my exboyfriend disgusting for helping his preteen sister, who is basically his daughter like the other two kids, during her first ever period and made the girl scared of her own family member, because my dad was never involved with mine and my sister’s, who is also angry at me. But I know that my ex boyfriend still loves me and we will get back together soon. 1st OP have you lost you mind?! You made a vulnerable girl believe that her own brother, her father, was going to do something awful to her because your dad wasn’t involved in yours. You nearly ruined the trust that your ex’s daughter had in him that he was so mad at you, making you scared for yourself. And you think he still loves you? You need therapy or something
Story 1: OP is a moron and blew up her relationship with a gem of a BF over this. He is their parental figure and he absolutely should know about their cycles in case something happens.
Story 2: Paul is the dad OP needs. As I heard OP talk about their journey, my mind was screaming that this situation requires family therapy as nobody is connecting with each other. Yet Paul took on that mantle and was the first to show genuine concern for OP as a father should. I honestly feel sad for OP for having only 1/4 parents take up their duties correctly.
His mom is in a bad place and seems to be suffering from earlier mistakes and the bio father's implicit or explicit parental alienation (tbf, begrudgingly feel Mom didn't do herself any favors here...) But yeah, Paul wins parent and husband of the decade. A beautiful positive masculine God!
@@vincentcleaver1925 I would say the same about OP. Both seem absorbed by their own troubles so much that they don't connect. Not sure if bio-dad can be fully blamed, but the solution is definitely family therapy.
This gives Paul too much credit. He knows OP felt abandoned and unloved for 11 years, and still defended his wife to this kid. She’s not “a tough woman”, she’s an abandoning piece of shit!
I'm glad you acknowledge that OP's mother didn't act the way a parent should. I remember seeing that AITA on reddit, and I was horrified at how many people were ghoulishly insisting that he deserved to be emotionally abandoned for a tantrum he threw when he was 11. Anyone who says "He got what he asked for!" should never have kids. I'm not sure therapy will help. The damage was done. OP spent half a decade watching his mother ignore him while doting on his step-siblings. She literally gave his room to one of them! Moreover, at no point does OP mention her seeking to apologize.
@@jamestown8398 What OP said and did back then really hurt his mom and the way he was always shut off before and since then could have lead her to overcompensate with the step-children fearing they might abandon her too. For that, OP has to accept some responsability. But at the same time, he probably learned that behavior from his mom. Her "toughness," as Paul puts it, seems to be more of an avoidance mechanism which left OP unsure of where he stood whenever things got rocky... chances are that this is how she always dealt with trauma and never considered therapy herself. The role of a trained family therapist is not to give them back the years they messed up, but show how they both hurt each other and offer them ways to avoid doing so in the future. Honestly, I think the realization that they actually love each other will be what mends their bond... removing the uncertainty they currently face.
OP is definitely the AH! Why didn't he "let her explain"... because she would probably make her ashamed of her own body and instill the same misconceived notions and shame that the OP feels! I sincerely hope he NEVER lets her back into his life! Her comments were in the category of "unforgivable"! She should move on and hopefully work to overcome her misguided ideas about periods. I am SO thankful my sons grew up to be informed, compassionate, and understanding men when it comes to NATURAL bodily functions! They know how to shop for feminine hygiene products and do so regularly for their partners!
Story 1: OP seems like she was raised w/o any common sense either. The man took on the responsibilities of dad & mom for those kids. He deserves someone that thinks before she speaks.
Jesus, as OP herself said, the guy was basically mom and dad for the three siblings so its not too surprising that he had to be the one to explain what a period is if the parents didn't.
Story 1 Op was absolutely on the wrong for this and shouldn't have said those vile things. My friend and his twin has triplet sisters all of them are the age of 14. So one day both my friends asked me and my female friends about periods we eventually help them with different pads and the warning signs of having issues with thier periods. Thier dad travels a lot and thier aunt takes care of them and thier mom fucked off so they asked us for help. One day I had pain from my ovaries and my older brother took to me to the hospital and they found a massive cyste and they removed it.
Story 1: that girl is absolutely delulu, the fact that she thinks that she is entitled to say something so horrid without consequences and that her ex still loves her after what she had done is insane
*How he knew his sister used pads* He is paying for things... He is the adult in this whole situation. Why would he have you explain things when the sister is more comfortable with him, probably witnessed him explain this to the 16 year old. Just because your father was a wuss when it came to your bodily functions doesn't mean everry man is, many men step up and handle these things like the adult they are now.
S2: The mom is a grown ass adult and a mother to a teenager but still haven't gotten her shit together. A failure of a mother for abandoning her kid. Paul should reconsider his marriage to her. She's got a lot of unresolved issues, emotional baggage, no maturity, lack of responsibility and a whole lot of growing up to do. The dad may sound like a deadbeat but on the contrary he is doing his best with very little and it may seem like he has a vendetta against the mom but i think its more of disappointment in how the mom was treating their child. Which is why he mentioned that she got it coming. That said he might need to relook into the relationship between his gf and his kid. OP though needs to some proper therapy due to trauma from childhood.
I need an update for the first story! I cannot believe how delulu she is and I hope he got a restraining order against her. My mother acted like I committed a crime when I started my period for the first time and had to hide it from my dad. This was so unhealthy and wrong way to go about it. The bf in this story sounds like every woman's dream. Hope he found someone better.
I'm appalled at the op in the first one holy shit. My dad doesn't care for me and mom talked about it. He would even bring new undies and pads for me and my cousins in high school if we needed all he time. She's also delusional thinking she's gonna get her ex back after making his sister afraid of him
S1: "He's been mother and father for them." But also: "How did he know when his sister started her period?" Gee... maybe because he stepped in as a guardian, protector, provider, and nurturer? Also, she then says in another sub, she says her mother handled it, and her father didn't want anything to do with it. But her ex was both mother AND father. So how can someone be there to handle a young teen going through her first period while not being there for her at the same time? This girl is just delusional.
This dude is a diamond in the rough and she fumbled. Like i get where she is coming from but you knew your boyfriend has been raising his siblings as his own. She fumbled horribly
How tf is it disgusting??? The ex-bf legit HAD to know what the stuff are and everything since he's acting like a PARENT to all of his younger siblings NGL this is infuriating me too much
>calls bf disgusting pig for basically being a man >interpret sexual things about his sister that he had to raise >almost destroys his relationship with his sister in a very crucial time (and possibly did, given how this kinda thing imprints, especially at this age) >gets told to leave >gets told she's horrible >dont like her feelied being hurt, nevermind she didn't care about his feelings >doesn't understand. Well, in fact the worst sign she will *never* change : "I don't understand why I should be punished" If you do not understand why you should endure consequences for your own behavior, well isn't that the definition of entitlement and narcissism?
OP: BF has been caring for his 3 siblings since the oldest sister was born OP moments later: Why does he know what pads and tampons are? Why does he know when sis started her cycle and that girls have periods? Like what the hell are you talking bout he's basically their Dad and you know and just called his parents DEADBEATS What do you think happened? BF asked every female in miles to explain Menstruation to sis?
OP said that she wanted to ask her boyfriend how he knows about one of his sister's periods... Um... Can't be because he's both a concerned sibling and a parent figure to his sisters, right? OP's boyfriend is amazing and I hope he never stops being who he is because of OP being a creep who sexualizes girl's periods. Also, she's disgusted by her boyfriend knowing about girls periods? She's vile... She's so disgusting. I would have loved to have an older brother who knew about girls periods because I was practically on my own. My mother was too focused on her abusive relationship and my younger sisters to ever focus on me. She taught me how to put on a pad but I had to do research on my own about puberty and periods.
"He's both mom and dad' to his sisters. Well there you go! When you have the responsibility of both parents you tend to pick up on everything! He even referred to his sister as his child! You don't get any more parental than that. OPs ex is nigh perfect...and that wasn't good enough for her.
Some people just cant handle when they have something good so they find some way to destroy what they got... just to regret what they lost once its gone
Lmfao shes delusional if she thinks her ex will take her back after what she did. Shes still playing the victime card too. I bet money shes going to get a restraining order placed against her.
Story 1: Ex dodged a major bullet. OP is not worth dating, not meant to date, and will never be easy to deal with. He is gold and she is coal. Edit: After listening to the update, now I can ask confidently if it's possible to have so much disdain and hatred for one person, especially a person like OP? Or is there a limit?
OP from first story is absolutely delusional. Praises her now ex for been an amazing parent to his siblings. Then calls him all that when he helps what is essentially his daughter. Wonder what she would say about the time I once had to make a mad dash to the supermarket for my mum, who suffered with bad times of the month. When I got there I forgot which product she asked for. I had to phone her in the supermarket to ask again. The signal was bad and took ages. Then this middle aged woman after I picked up the sanitary towels and stuff asked if I was OK. I told her a brief summary, me with awkward laughter at the end. Then the woman actually gave me a hug and said I was a good son. Still remember the pride I had in myself. I suppose I was just doing what family should do and looking after my mom who is amazing.
"I don't want to dismiss my actions..." Proceeds to immediately give an excuse to dismiss her actions. Classic. 🤡 Props to the OP's EX. That guy sounds like an absolute keeper. Mature, responsible, hard-working and empathetic. I'm not even a girl and I'm charmed. She absolutely fumbled the bag on this one - but that's for the best as he deserves far better than anything OP could have provided for him. I hope him and his family the best and hope they continue to do well.
Story 1: OP fumbled the bag so hard straight dudes who dont know shit about women understand how badly she fucked up Story 2: OP sounds like someone who had trauma due to his parents devoice and never got to prosses it then when his mother failing to see that add pressure in a bad way and OP eventually exploded, his mom not knowing how to respond to this picked quite honestly the worse choice possible and add to his trauma
Story 1. There are a lot of women out there who are offended when men are so knowledgeable. I've been screamed at for shopping for menstrual supplies. I've given a friend advice on bras, women in my family are top-heavy so I just absorbed their knowledge since childhood. Simple stuff like if it is the right size it wouldnt be uncomfortable, underwire can be painful after wearing it for a while. Stuff like that. And I ended up getting shouted at by women in the store. My mom was a professional in women's health, she taught me all about human bodies. She gave me a medical textbook for the "birds and the bees" conversation. Women have bashed me for my knowledge. When I corrected a woman in a conversation about reproduction and the mentral cycle, I was apart of the convo, friends bashed me for being right. A "man shouldnt be correcting women avout their bodies."
😂😂😂 Story 1: she's so delusional she thinks he still loves her and she'll get him back!😂😂😂 Story 2: she was trash to her mother and got what she wanted, mother moved on and when she was happy she tried to ruin it. Selfish and bratty. 100% the a--hole
Couldn’t agree more, especially with the second story which I’m surprised by how many people back OP. If she didn’t want her mother to leave her she shouldn’t have said what she said and apologize, and the funny thing is still doesn’t want to apologize that child has other issues and being an idiot that doesn’t think before they speak is one of them as they’re surprised by consequences.
Wait i miss heard s2 after re listening and looking up the story i think ops dad in s2 is trash and is most likely the reason for his bad relationship with his mom also just the age gap from the mom and dad she was 18 and he would have been around 23 that just creeps me out
OP threw a tantrum when he was 11! If you think a pre-teen telling their parent “I hate you” in anger justifies the parent giving up on them, then you don’t deserve to have kids. I’ve spoken to parents whose kids have done worse than OP, at older ages, and who still said they would never give up on their children the way OP’s mother gave up on him.
The first Op is honestly one of those annoying feminists you can find at Tim Horton's. I bet this was not the first time she acted like this honestly. Like- I wish I had a man who would understand about periods and actually be able to explain them. I love the Op's boyfriend. If I was not gay i'd take em.
Judging by the rest of the post it's less feminism and more being raised with a fail of a father who wouldn't get involved with caring for his daughters.
OP in Story 1 had me cackling. Girl, you are seven shades of delusional if you think he ever wants your ass back. Good luck finding another gem like your ex is. Story 2: Anyone else think that Paul may have a valid point on OP's dad trying to cause intentional chaos with her mom because he resents her moving on from him?
For Story 1, having your own child genuinely concerned that you are trying to sexualise them (especially when you're genuinely trying to help) is an unimaginable level of hurt. OP should be THOROUGHLY ashamed of themselves, but they likely still (to this day) don't get it.
Story 1 the ex is a real man who is there for his siblings and the Op just made a huge mistake, He deserves better than her and if I were her I would just leave him and his siblings alone what she did there is no coming back from that
Op in the first story is clearly an idiot but its also clear that due to her fathers absolute refusal to be involved at all with his daughters periods that it clearly did some kind of mental and psychological harm to op she isn't going to be fit for any kind of relationship with her fucked up and unhealthy views on periods she obviously needs to talk to a therapist or professional in general because op herself is clearly affected by her childhood experiences with periods and therefore forces those experiences onto other people in her life and as shown here it cost her a relationship that had she not been so stupid and had she understood things better would have probably stayed intact ops ex shouldn't take op back ever even after op could get some mental help because she needs that experience of consequences to stay permanent
Really? This guy has had to take in all of his siblings and become their defacto parent, and this girl is calling him disgusting for taking care of his sisters like any parent should. I have a somewhat similar experience with my ex. The house I live in and grew up in is very small and has only one bathroom. Growing up in a family of 5 having to share the same bathroom, we did our best. One day I was showering and my mom came into the bathroom to grab something. This was not out of the ordinary, and I actually leave the door unlocked because I've had a condition where I've lost consciousness, including in the shower. Our shower gives complete privacy, so it's not like we're watching each other. Anyway when my ex saw this she went off and started accusing me and my mom of having an incestuous relationship. Like where the hell did she get that? Like I said, we grew up in a house with 5 people and only one bathroom, so we made the best of it. I should have known, because a few months earlier I had such an episode in the bathroom in the middle of the night, and she didn't come to help me even when I was yelling and hollering that I needed help. I couldn't walk and had lost control of my bladder and couldn't get up. She just feigned sleep, and left me there. People's effing hangups, man.
"How does my BF know she uses pads?!" "How does my GF know when her period started?!" "Why does he know so much about periods?!" This girl answered all of her questions in the first paragraph. He raised them and works to provide. Which means that HE had to be the one to have the talks with them and that HE buys the household items. Good god, I knew Reddit had some morons on it but this girl takes the absolute cake.
I dont think women understand how hurtful it is when nearly every interaction with a child from a man is seen as predatory like shit something tells me that the reason OPs dad always left during these talks is that OPs mom basically made him cuz she also had that view of men being predatory.
That dude is far better off without OP. Jeeebus crispy, this world would be so much better off with "parents" like that dude around. No stigmatizing bodily functions, no instilling hangups or anxiety by implying, through words or actions (like OP) that somethign as normal as this is somehow disgusting. Fer christs' sake, the older sister wasn't home! You expect the dude to just let his sister stew in her uncertain misery? Or, and i cannot stress this enough, PASS HER OFF TO SOME STRANGER TO EXPLAIN THE SITUATIO WHEN HE CAN APPARENTLY DO IT WELL ENOUGH BY HIMSELF, LIKE SHE WAS SOME SORT OF BURDEN ON HIM???? *breathes deep, exhales* Bullet dodged.
for the 2nd story, the dad is doing that shit on purpose, the fact that he was supposed to talk to the op several times about stuff, my guess is yeah the mums bf is right, wanted op to blow up at the wedding
Bro I have no siblings but if I did I’d probably be one protective asshole but if my sibling had someone like that dating them I’d approve wholeheartedly because that type of person that the op’s ex is just seems like the perfect person
Story 1: If he's acting like the parents to his sibling and even referred to the youngest as "my child" then he's the father and has every right to know and to talk to them about it
Op in the 1 history "why I'm being punished for this?" REALLY??? You call you boyfriend a creepy, saying that he was trying to do something with his little sister, making her feel afraid of him and still don't know WHY? i can't
There's an update to Story 1 from the boyfriend's POV. OP basically harasses and stalks him and the kids. He gets a restraining order after she tries to pull his siblings from school with a fake permission slip, but the cops don't take it seriously until she tries to rent the house right next to his. She loses her apartment and gets cut off by her siblings because of this stunt as she has a history of similar behavior. Here's a link to the update on another channel: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-NLgvd8UBhbM.html
