My Wife's Friend Framed Me As SA'ing Her After She Forced Herself On Me, and My Wife Of 10 Years ... 

DUDE was sexually assaulted… why are we ignoring that?!?! WHAT IN THE HELL

When a man is SA'd, people ask, "why didn't you fight back?" Now, when this man fights back against being SA'd, people say, "you shouldn't have fought back." *Well, which one is it!?*

Story 1 glad op left her. I hope he finds someone worthy of him.

Also amy admitted to it and the wife still said "idk who to believe" girl what? She then cries and plays victim? What a weirdo

Story 1: Yeah the wife is in love with Amy. And oh my goodness her comments revealed the kind of filth she is. She’s just as crazy as Amy. Wife wants Amy? Let her have her. The only reason why she doesn’t want OP to divorce her is because she knows HER reputation is at stake

I wouldn't blame OP for punching her. It sounded like a reflex or whatever cos he panicked.

People treat female SA victims correctly showing concern and so on. But act like male victims are babies if they have any PTSD or anything. My biggest fear is being accused of that. It can and would ruin any man's life. So of course it's serious.

If she forced herself on you, then you were the one who was assaulted.

So, his wife turns out to be an awful person, just like her friend. Is anyone really surprised by this? I'm not.

Op punching Amy was 100% a fight response and is in the similar vain as those people that punch others when they get startled

Without any of the background, the trip to Greece would have been enough to send me to a divorce lawyer.

Story 1 A Wife that loves you would have been on your side. Your wife in no way loves you.

As a survivor of SA, OPs wife and her friend infuriates me to the core.

If op doesn't divorce his wife he must prepare to be always sexond to that ah wife's friend. She believe a false accuser over him. Glad op divorced her abd kicked her out. She and amy deserved each other

I remember the first story. I was one of the ones who called her out on the sugar daddy posts which was why she deleted them

Story 1: Problems I have with Amy's story: 1. If she was the victim, where are her clothes? 2. If you left them in the room, why are you walking around another person's home nekky? 3. Why are you more concerned with damage control than how your friend is doing? Man is a victim and his wife has forsaken him.

And also everyone is mentioning the false accusations but no one is talking about the fact that HE WAS LITERALLY ASSAULTED! What in gods goddamn earth is wrong with people. That’s how you know the female grape is more valued/respected than male grape, this is disgusting.

8:06 *WHAT*? *She* should be the one who sleeps in the guest bedroom!

OP’s wife messed up to expose herself that she was looking for sugar daddy on Reddit.

I remember st1 Ah yes the classic she was under the influence excuse.

Story 2: “26 F and married for 10 years”. 😮. Found the problem

Honestly the fact that it took more than a hour after her waking up in the hospital to realize that the op was innocent and refused to speak to him after he was SA’ed would should have been enough to divorce. You don’t come back from that level of distrust

I would seriously start questioning wether your wife was in on it the entire time and this wasn't a team effort between the both of them.

As a fellow meat shmeater myself, do it in your room not IN THE MIDDLE OF THE LIVING ROOM.

OP should have kept his mouth shut and waited until wife and Amy were in Greece. Then he should have moved out, left divorce papers with his lawyer's phone number and changed all his contacts.

The Dad was a super hero, especially the part about sending the couch for deep cleaning and putting this in his back pocket for ten (more like twenty) years from now

RUN CONNOR RUN

Everybody say it with me: ✨ART ROOM!✨

The dad in the last story knows what sort of toys to buy her now 😂

Story #3 Yep, that's awkward. Glad I didn't give OP any advice, as what I would have suggested might have gone horribly wrong. My family deals with awkwardness through humor. If it can be joked about, then it must not be a big deal. I recall at a relative's funeral for example, the mother of the deceased was saying a few words during the service. She said something to the effect of "He's in heaven now, looking down over the world, and watching over us, always", to which her other son responded "...And that's why I always masturbate UNDER the covers". Everyone laughed, even the grieving mom. That was very aligned with her late son's sense of humor, the kind of joke he would have laughed at, so by keeping that humor alive, it was actually a fitting remembrance. But I can easily see how in other families, that would be very awkward, deeply offend some people, and might even be considered "bullying" the grieving family. Context is essential. OP might have been able to lighten the mood a bit by joking about the whole incident, and that would work in my family, but it sounds like his daughter might be less receptive to that approach. You really have to know your audience. Then there's the more overt and honest approach. Simply say "You know, every time you avoid me, I'm reminded of why you're avoiding me. Please, let's just get back to normal so I can get that image out of my head". That's probably a bad thing to say, but honest at least. If her sense of shame is what's keeping her away, and you know you can't do anything to assuage that embarrassment, then leverage it to force her down a path back to the normal status quo. That's probably bad advice too, but effective, I'm sure. OR as OP did, just wait it out, that works too. She can't avoid him forever.

S3: I'm sorry bUT WTF did the daughter forget that she doesn't live alone and her dad can come in anytime that she was doing that IN THE DARN LIVING ROOM SORRY WTF ITS A SHARED SPACE and all the comments who said they had a similar experience WTAF DO THAT SHIT IN YOUR ROOM IF YOU SHARE A HOUSE HOW DUMB does that commenter and her BF have to be to do _the devils tango_(/s) in the living room knowing she was not living alone

Story 1 was quite the rollercoaster.

Can anyone use the "under the influence" excuse?

Story 2: wow but uhm OP is in a pickle cause if he signs away parental rights he’s not obligated or ordered to pay child support

I dont know if I actually believe the reddit post being the wife. I mean, it seems way too callous. Also the sugar daddy shit kinda makes me think this was someone mascarading as the wife.

First story: Why can't you just get over it My girl do you know how many lives have been ruined over false allegations your husband or should I say your ex-husband got lucky because this could have been way worse for him

Amy punished the dog for her choices? Yeah, lock her up

If I was op I would file for divorce and count himself lucky that he didn’t have kids with his wife and go no contact and get let her deal with the consequences of her actions story1

If the wife told him the same thing and he didnt belive her would it be dramatic then also… glad shes gone

Story 1 if amy didn't get something she need then she wouldn't let anyone have it

Did she say there her boyfriend was 30 and shes 26, they've been together for 10 years, im confused Edit: im confused by their age diff. Why was their relationship accepted. Yes she should leave the guy, his attitude shows that if his kids were in a dangerous situation, he would rather go to a party than help them, he only cares about hinself not op

Story 1: wow, the wife and amy deserve each other. I cant believe her heartless response.

For the second story, she was 26 and they’ve been dating for 10 years, meaning they started dating when she was 16. He was turning 30 and would have been 20 when they started dating. Which is just really off putting to me.

Story 1: My guess is that it was definitely a “test” and they started doubling down after friend got mollywopped for being rapist and then it spiraled because the friends natural instinct to make false accusations took over. The “wife’s post” was definitely fake though. Story 2: The guy is grossly immature but she should have waited until they could have some privacy, and there was no direct need to tell him right then. She wasn’t going to be less pregnant after the party. I would be very disappointed if I found out with a group rather than getting to share that moment alone.

Story 1: It’s always funny to me when attempted bravado turns into a hubristic vice. A poetic twist that paints more character than someone else’s description of you.

I get the instinct the believe a victim, especially if she was or knew a victim who hadn't been believed before, but still taking the friends side after the confession instead of flipping to defend the husband? That is the real red flag

Looks like OP2 didn't even need to get pregnant since she already had a giant baby in her life

Story 1: The wife's supposed posts on reddit in reply to OP are so over the top that it all feels fake. It's too much like a cartoon villain to be believable.

WTFFFFF in the 3rd Story😂😂😂😂😂

Story 1: Wife and Amy were working together. Wife missed being a party girl and needed a way to get a favorable divorce.

If OPs best friend tried the same thing with her, would she just "get over it?" She deserves to be sad and alone for that attitude.

Op needs to divorce and get as far as he can.

Misery loves company, and her freind sounds as miserable as they come...

S1 she's single again! Wants her friend single too so can go out picking guys up together if he had accepted and cheated it'd still be the same story! Just wondering if wife is in on it too!

If that was my wife in story 1, I’d probably not be here to type this comment. She and her friend would be long departed.

12:27 Is no one gonna point out undiagnosed narcissistic personality disorder the wife probably has because the way the wife started begging for a sugar daddy at 12:57 might be some sort of psychotic break IDK

Story 1: i hope OP and Amy's ex team up to sue the living hell out of her. This is why i want false SA allegations to be punished severely Edit: compleatly forgot she actually SAed him. Take her to the cleaners OP

Op: "i love my beautiful wife" Proceeds to describe a manipulative monster

I wish I could ask "why just NOT assault people" but i have to just accept that i will never understand how these people think.

So... The woman replied to the comment on a public account she had used to find sugar daddies....

This is why men take note of the type of friends their partners have. Because even if you trust your wife and your wife trusts you, all it take is 1 person who truly knows how to manipulate people to ruin a relationship.

Op saying she knew amy longer is a BS excuse, what if a man had said that about his hypothetical r*pist man friend, A woman would never excuse that and nor should men, to hypothetical r*pist women like amy

Are you certain your wife isn’t having an affair with Amy ? Run she is not someone you want in your corner as you can obviously see .

Poor father in the last story. A girl in puberty is already hell to raise when you know that stage from your own experience. But when you are from the opposite sex, it is such a challenge. He should never ever have to announce his arrival in his home. They both could learn from that experience: Do not do things you might be ashamed off in a shared room like the living room. That is what your private space is for. The living room is not a private space unless you live alone. And as a father - your child will be curious about adult relationships sooner or later and explore their own desires. That is natural. Just carefully explain it was the wrong room she did it in. not the wrong act to do.

Story 1: OP = NTA Amy & OP's ex-wife = WAHMEN ☕😮‍💨🙄😐😮‍💨😠😡

Wooooow the response is crazy if that's her actual response

Story 2. Before the fallout. I remember when I was going to have a wedding. I left the planning to my boyfriend because he wanted to have his day. I got pissed off when I found out he planned our wedding a day before my birthday. I accused him of always needing to be the centre of attention. Because, in all social situations, he somehow had to take attention to him. We split about a year later.

Leave your wife for mistrust. Plus she was ready to divorce you, but shrugs off Amy's fault?

Yes you could ask her to leave !

What tf is wrong with the name title in 3 story💀? I read this reddit post six months ago and it was titled:"Daughter avoids me at all costs after an embarrassing encounter, how can I gain her back?" Why does the title in this video sound like a father is a creep who deliberately spied on his naked daughter? What kind of "her private space" are we talking about if it wasn't her bedroom, but a living room that any resident of the house can enter? Since when is masturbation in the living room become a "safe space" if you aren't living alone? What are these strange accusations? From the first lines of the post, it is clear that the father and daughter had an awkward situation, that it was an accident. People have really gone crazy for clickbait and views, since they write incest and pedophile hints in the titles of the post.

Honestly it's stories like this that make me afraid of dating and just not want to get married, even though I have wanted to get married for a long time. The way OP's soon-to-be-ex was acting was horrendous, she acted like a typical abuser would. Full on like 'lol, he's not gonna leave me. She confessed and everything is fine, so why's he being such a little bitch about it.'

At first I understood the wife's not being sure about who to believe. Because I had a similar situation and it's hard to choose who to believe when you believe neither is capable of doing something like that. But after is unacceptable. You have a confession?! End of relationship.

Some how the wife was equal in quality to a rapist simply by being an enabler and a gross cheater. The audacity of her to cry and scream in the comments.

Yep, wife is cheating, she's trying to frame him with her friend to ease the guilt, or was trying to make him cheat so she could get the hall pass, her trip to Greece or whatever with Amy gives it all.

Oh god, the wife and Amy are just terrible! Amy is a monster for Sexually Assaulting OP and the wife is horrible for dismissing his trauma and laughing about it

I've trust issues Had i been in place of OP I'd have jumped into sprinting without turning back

When he said he punched her THATS CRAZY 😂

First, why would she be walking around with little to nothing on. That Is a big red flag and I the moment my partner sided with someone like that without really listening to me it would be over period. Critical thinking needs to be taught in school as so many fail to think through situations in their adult life because they never learn it in their youth.

OP fucked up by giving her exactly what she wanted, sadly. The best thing you can do in that situation is to swallow your pride, get on the ground and shield your face and call the GF/wife to get her crazy friend/sister away from you herself, to make it harder to force herself onto you, so your wife can "catcch you in the act". It's clear this was her plan from the very beginning and OP handed her the victory on a silver platter.

Story 1 sounds the wife didnt care if the false accusations could have landed him not only jail time but serious damage to his reputation and future employment if he had gone to jail seriously what Amy did was fucked up

Believe all women, because they would never ever lie about something this serious, right?! She just made it that much more difficult for actual victims, of which there are many. Most go unreported.

I hate how story 1 just ends like wtf? Story 3: it’s like this. Us fathers simply don’t want to see our naked teen daughters at all. I’ve had the unfortunate experience of seeing that and ffs no God no! 🤦🏾‍♂️

25F on sugar daddy site but wife of 10 years?

Story 1. If this is real; the wife and friend set this up intentionally.

3rd Story: Uff, flashback for me. I was 14 and my dad + stepmom and older stepsister were out and I was alone in the house for the whole afternoon. This was in 2002, we had no internet back then. I wanted to go on a walk with our dog, but as I grabbed the dog leash, the tying clap broke. I knew my parents had another dog leash in the living room in a drawer and as I opened it, I put some stuff to the side and I found an adult video tape with very explicit covers. Omg I never saw an adult movie and barely any adult related stuff (I once found a adult magazine at my brothers room he is nine years older than me before he moved out but I was grossed out to touch it) and I guess with puberty and stuff you can guess that I was really exited. I let the dog into our garden instead of a walk and I watched the video. After that I wanted to sneak the video tape back into the drawer but the video tape got stock and wouldn't come out of the VCR player and I was so freaking embarassed. Then I saw the car of my parents down the driveway, panicked and went straight to my room. Glad you need to put the channel for the VCR recorder manually at this old TV lol. Few days later at the evening I had a knock at my door and my father and I had a (for me) very embarassing talk. I told why I searched in the drawer and he said he forgot to hide this tape in his bedroom and told he can understand my curiosity and what was going on and he managed to get the cassette out without breaking it and told my stepmom it was his fault. He also told me that that P and reality adult stuff are very different things and if I ever had questions regarding adult stuff, he'll be there to listen and answer and I don't need to be ashamed. When I was 16, I heard a silent knock at my door one evening, a "sssssssh!" and he slided an adult magazine under the door and I laughed and yelled: "Dad, not interested, we have internet now!!" 😂 I am grateful for my father's reaction and that he is so supportive!

For anyones information the first one was a narcissist. Npd... Narcissistic personality disorder.

If the genders were reversed this would have been a whole other conversation, the double standards are insane !!

Being honest the wife is right that he is a crybaby

If your referring to story one Op is 35 Wife is 34

Trying for a baby with a BOYFRIEND 😂 and she’s a forever girlfriend lmaoooo I can’t even sympathize. Willing to carry the child of a man who won’t even commit to you? Come on

Wife and Amy want to visit the island of Lesbos on their trip to Greece.

Too bad bc when it actually happens to Amy or the (now ex) wife, no one's going to believe them and its all their fault. Amy's for lying and ex's for believing and taking Amy's side.

Im so sorry for him and all vicitms who dont get justice. Male victims are just as valid as female victims. We must stand up for them

As for the 3rd story, why the hell were they using the living room??

Story 1 honestly he should sue for alienation of affection and defamation

Hey, now. I didn't hit anyone. 😂

Story 3: ugh i was so embarrassed for her I was caught a couple times and it was so embarrassing. Also i hope she doesn't read the story

So we’re just not going to talk about how the dude was touched inappropriately like that and the friend tried to rape him. Seriously what the fuck is wrong with people.

the wife and Amy might just be in it together

Wow narcissist