DEPRESSION AMONG AFRICANS ABROAD/LIFE ABROAD IS HARD. 

Africans born in Africa seem to be so intelligent! Africans born in Africa live very successful lives here in Dallas, Texas. We were taught in grade school life was hard in Africa because the continent was so war torn, impoverished and corrupt governments. Now, I’m older with time, study and research life looks more peaceful and calmer in Africa. Family values, morals and spirituality is more stable in The Motherland.

I never experienced depression until I came to the US. I’m done being a money machine for some people back home.

THANK YOU SISTER FOR TELLING THE TRUTH. WHEN THEY CALL YOU, IT'S SEND US MONEY. OUR FAMILIES THINK MONEY IS ON TREES. AND JOBS ABROAD ARE NOTHING BUT BACK BREAKING AND LONG HOURS. AND THAT'S WHY I STOPPED SENDING MONEY TO RELATIVES. IF IT WAS THEM HERE, THEY WOULD NOT HELP ME. SO I STOPPED SENDING MONEY TO RELATIVES WHO ARE UNGRATEFUL.

I can relate, people back home really think it’s easy. I ve cried, I remember my first year abroad in 2017 I couldn’t sleep without a cough mixture, I had so much anxiety, every time I had to go to work it was a hustle. We work with people from all over the world and the work place is a competitive race. Everyone wanting to prove they are better than the next person.

Facts!! One time I was sick all alone in the apartment, I remember crawling on my knees to go upstairs, that's where the bathroom and bedroom were. No one to call or ask for help. You speak facts!!

Life abroad is NOT better!!! I can’t tell you they way I miss Africa and can’t wait to return! I’ll be running back the moment I can to all the love; acceptance, family, taking care of each other, and life without all the stresses. Think 3 times and again before leaving home to come here. “Working Hard” for the trappings of life is not where it’s at.

I'm not African. But I'm very depressed 😔 badly America 🇺🇸 is a depressing place. I saw the title and I had to clicked on the video

Both the Africans living abroad and those who remained behind were cheated to beleive abroad was heaven on earth. Forgive yourself and your people back home who depend on you with impunity. In fact, forgive each other. Africa is your Mother land and it will remain so forever. No one can change that fact and truth including yourself. All of you who have ventured abroad , I salute you. You are strong and adventurers. You have widened your understanding and live no more in fantasy. You are the great people Africa needs now. You can advice better with experience and understanding. Take courage and come back home . Smart people will help you settle down. Fear not the laughter of fools and the ignorant. They have run down their relatives and the continent! Ignore them.

This is a sad reality.I know a lady from Africa.He also lived in the states for maybe four years and then came to us in Hungary.She is happy here. She found a husband and had children.Two dreamy little cappuccinos.People love him, he was able to fit in perfectly.I know that in the West they are trying to give the Hungarians a bad name,but look at how foreigners live here.We Hungarians don't care what color or religion they are.We know two kinds of people.Good people and bad people.

I needed this today!! I had a panic attack this evening because the feelings were overwhelming me… We brave it out in order to better for ourselves or our families, but honestly it’s HARD.

I can tell you are a Baganda lady just from your accent. I am your neighbour from Kenya and i have lived in Australia for 9years as a housewife raising kids. Although im educated i didnt get to work because i hv no family here and don't trust childcare. I have been supporting my mother and sisters back home as well as the occasional relative. It has really been depressing for me and hard to make friends. I made a few but we drifted apart because no one makes time for another and everyone is busy chasing life. I too fear ridicule from the people back home especially because they wont understand why i chose to stay home. I decided to move to another country for now, out of the west as its too lonely here. Im excited and fearful. When we are young we are so excited to become adults but have no clue how complicated it is to be an adult with all the ups and downs and sacrifices.

Yes I agree life abroad can be very challenging for many different reasons and one can find themselves stranded when in desperate need. I experienced a difficult transition (South Africa to UK) which actually caused me mild ptsd. Got thrown in the very deep end of a challenging nursing job and had to traverse the qualification route since we were regarded as not qualified enough. Long brutal hours on my feet and some rude, racist patients to endure. Some narcissistic, bullish colleagues and one even asked me "what are you?" and "why did you come here?" Imagine having no family to turn to and shallow friends who move on when the mood changes. But thank God for the earth-angels I also met who were a guiding light in my life. They were the ones who gave me hope even though I wanted to pack and leave within the first week! And accommodation issues were on another level - landlords are only out to fleece you with mental rents. My husband and children were only able to join me after 2 painful years apart, this was my worst experience being away from my children. The local British are a bit strange in that they are inconsistent with their moods and you usually find yourself walking on eggshells trying to maintain friendships with them hence my preference to keep light company with other immigrants especially Philippine or Polish. An ex-colleague of mine settled well with her husband and 2 kids from the get go because her in-laws were very supportive financially and she had a brother here already settled who supported them tremendously. 15 years of an upward trajectory for them and then he meets a Caucasian local teenager and has an affair which eventually broke the marriage, the family, the "perfect foundation" she would regularly brag about because she enjoyed narcissistic comparing herself to me who had difficulties. She was 48 years old and the mistress was 18 years old I kid you not! This is what some husbands can do to their ageing wives when abroad! He deserted this middle aged woman who had bore him 3 kids by then. Extended relatives don't dare ask me for money because I don't owe them a living and therefore tell them I don't have the kind of funding they are hustling for. I have only consistently supported my mother, my sisters and their children...and a few charities close to my heart. I will never ever be rich here unless I win the lottery which will never happen. I will never ever be rich here because I am supporting my family as the breadwinner (my husband is on very low pay because he is not a graduate - professional) I will never ever be rich here because the cost of living is astronomical and saving is almost impossible with all the responsibilities. I will never ever be rich here because key workers are treated with such contempt by the government that we have to strike to get our demands heard. We have to work long and hard before we can retire at 68 by which time it's too late to enjoy life because we will probably fall over dead👻

The money we work fir goes right back to the bills.nothing to safe.

Mental health is real & yes family should check on their loved ones but have you noticed 90% don't return home despite the challenges abroad?....please let's tell the truth! Abroad is NOT so depressing at the end of the day

My dear sister, I wake up one morning and I decided to run with my children, despite their father refused to help or sign , I don't have enough money but I really need to stay alive for my children, IF YOU'RE TIRED COME BACK HOME FOR YOURSELF!!!

The expectations from back home is one of the biggest problems. The truth is we love to help our families but some people want to pressure you on when and what to give them. We might earn more money than back home but same way we pay a lot for bills. Some people think it's like we live here for free. We're also trying to save money so we don't live this kind of life forever. Saving money for school so we get better jobs. Some people feel bad when you say you don't have money. Some people want to brag with you back home and ask everyone to invite you for fundraising. Some people want you solve all your village issues. Some family members even parents on some instances cannot be trusted with finances. Every time you see a call your heart skips because it's most likely another ask. But by God's grace we survive and we keep strong

I terminated my contract a year earlier when I learnt thy( employers) wanted to extend it to 3more years. Living in flats, high tax no family no friends I just started feeling uneasy. U meet African men & women who cnt afford to feed themselves some women have turned into prostitution due to frustration of funds. I’m good in Africa

Truth sis, depression is not mine or my family portion. But you are speaking the truth

Also the other issue is many Africans of certain communities generally find it hard to commune together. There's too much individualism, in some cases jealousy, lacking unity that finds many in these situations. I have observed certain communities like Indians, Chinese, Koreans etc, those guys have such strong community, it's rare for them to move without their family, but even for those who do move abroad alone, they have a strong community who will welcome them. If you're an African who came here all alone with no "close" family or long time friends, just be prepared for a long journey ahead.

Alicia ❤😊 we appreciate you maama for the great job u re doing 👏 keep going 💪.

Every thing said is the truth. To our families back in Africa, we are nothing but a Bank. It's work, work, work and work, to support our families back in Africa. I put a stop to this because it was not appreciated. It makes them lazy. You can't be over here working for other people to live a good life. After many years of helping them, i said they should be able to survive without my support. You can't live a good life on charity. It stops people from thinking for themselves. Let them also hustle for life in Africa. Ask yourself, if it was them abroad, would they send you money.😭😭😭😭💔💔💔

Racism,, discrimination loneliness extended family expectations

One of my good friends wanted to stay in China even tho he was sooo depressed there. I said go back home. He’s from Africa. He said he didn’t want to feel ashamed to go back home. Kinda sad. He said he won’t be able to be a provider back home the same way he is abroad. How sad 😢

Very true sister. Iam alone for yrs. I cut my family. Because i was used by my family. No friends no man. I'm enjoying myself alone. It is true.

8:40 facts, one dies, they just park in a body bag and continue with life. Very true. Thank you for highlighting this important topic that not many people talk about.

God bless you for being so honest and sincere.

Africans who are Introvertered can flourish abroad.

Very depressing...going through that, the Lord is my strength...I pray 2023 will be better for me Amen

Wonderful topic you've addressed, my sister. It is time we admit the struggles we experience here in the diaspora. As immigrant, we are burdened with chasing the dream when we arrive abroad, and in doing so, we forecast a façade that we are doing well, but the truth of the matter is, every one in the Western world is burdened. Thank you, for talking about this today. Bless. I am watching from Canada. Originally from East Africa, too.

Hello Alicia just watched your video and everything you've said is the complete truth. I've lived in the Uk for years and I still find it depressing and lonely, I had to leave London as it was even worse there, ie expensive, no community spirit amongst black people, knife crime in areas with a lot of poverty (mainly areas with a lot of black people) and crab in a barrel mentality amongst many black people. I respect the fact that you are honest about how life really is here in the West and you are not painting a false picture, the other thing to be aware of is racism, it is embedded in the system and can affect your ability to progress as a black person, the only way you can block out the misery here as a black person is if you have a supportive family or friendship group. As you rightly said you are very much on your own and eventually this takes a toll on your mental health, this is why black people are over-represented in the mental health hospitals here in the UK.

These days seems life is all about money and self centered, whether abroad or in Africa. People focus on making and getting more and more money than loving and caring for their family and neighbors as they would want to be loved and cared for. it's been said "Love your neighbor as you love yourself.." but most of us live loving money even more than we love ourselves. That's why some Africans abroad have been known to work long hours everyday on two or three jobs and end up exhausting themselves to death, all in the name of making money, building house (s) in Africa, helping relatives back home and putting their kids in expensive schools abroad. Africans abroad must adjust their thinking and value system and stop competing with one another or showing off to their people at home that they have this or that and are at a higher level cos they are abroad. Love and do what you can to meet your basic needs and sleep well. If things don't work well abroad go back to Africa, doesn't matter who laughs at you returning home. If you get old, like past 50 years old or even 60 plus it's best to return home if. You had a plan in place to do so. Otherwise, being a senior citizen abroad is a challenge that Africans need to review before they have to face it

This message goes to all African families

We are good here in Africa ooohh.Just work hard and depend on GOD.

Gal i totally agree with you, for me after i arrived here in sydney i almost had mental breakdown ..... no friends,girlfriend it was just me & God

Some family members don’t care, They will only call you when they need money.

This video touched my soul, I can fully relate. I actually feel pain for every black person in Germany

Not only abroad life is depressing but also you will find it in our African cities everyone is busy chasing for life ,if you get sick without money my friend it’s only death waiting for you 😢my advice is only praying,l don’t lure anybody to Islam but l thank God for overcoming this disease of depression ,advantage l get new friends eveyday whenever l go to any masjid,But always focus on your future life,don’t be pushed by family members,this is your life

Yeah! No community, life abroad is unfortunate and the climate takes you into depression. They really like people with money, hardship will age you. Saying this as someone from the Caribbean diaspora, it's only faith in God and being with my spouse. If I go back home I will have peace even for sometime. It's reality! For me i met some Africans, and they've been decent but language is a barrier so it doesn't count much.

Wow! I am living in Canada and but from Jamaica, but for me its great because I have lots of opertunity here. Then I have money go back home and build the house I want etc. You should join a church and make friends.

True. They're even very rude, sarcastic...in a normal conversation.

There's no perfect society, you have to settle for the place that is not so bad.

If life abroad is hard please come back home people are looking for opportunities to move out of Africa.

When I was visiting few african countries I saw many people with mental health problems so it doesnt matter where you live but ofc at home people usually feel happier. It is just logical not like a law that it happens always

A very informative video. This is the absolute truth👍. Well done my Sister for this video. More Grace to you🙏

You look amazing 😍👍🏻

GREAT JOB MY SISTER: YOU TOLD THE UNADULTERATED TRUTH...FACTS!!

Get urself busy, You will be just fine, life is Good it's the way you plan itoooo!

That's true. I live in this country and I can say it's lonely and depressing. Church helps me to cope

All you say is true. ,,👍👍👍Theres a video you have talked about and i dont have a link to it. Could you possibly send me the link?

Hi Alicia. Thank you for speaking on this! Many think it's rosy.

I can relate very true, may God help us all living abroad.

Hmm I can feel your pain. Hang in there sister. Stay blessed 🙌

It is depressing even when you re making money. I would advise people to buy a farm in africa,

You are speaking the truth my sister. Thank you so much.

Hi Alice nice to see you doing what you really love to do...keep shining and always take care ❤️

Why not unite and counsel the most depressed that with God everything is possible. Gather much for the spirit instead of flesh and God will come to your aid (Mathew 6:33). I pray for God's grace to be sufficient for you all in Jesus Name

I need to send this to my family!

Depress, sad, boring, lonely, America it's like the biggest cemetery full of the living, your whole life is spent inside your small space in the house , our God Divine happiness power is taken away from us in an exchange of paper money 💰 power

Poor Africans always feeling depressed. I have heard though that other ethnicities, races and creeds who choose to live abroad are not immune to it either.

Very well said my beautiful Sister 🥀🌹 I certainly hope Nigerians are listening to you. #Subscribed.

Ooh my God.this is soul touching message.i pray our people back home pick leaf from this message.blessings sis🙏🙏🙏

You speak truth my sister!!!! I am a South African living in Greece, life is difficult. I started a group for the few in our area. It's been so difficult to get people together. I have lunch at my place to create a community

'Ann Nafula G' is the channel of a happy kenian woman living with children and german husband in a good house in a german village. She met the german husband in Kenya, is married since 10 years and shows her life, cooking and gardening in her channel. This year again she spent holidays in Kenya with the whole family. Husband is providing nicely and she does not need to work outside. People in german villages respect foreigners who are authentic, integrated and do nice farming. Personally I had an african husband who was depressed and spent all his money in shopping so he could never travel home. Me too I would get depressed in Dubai and would never travel to such a place without real forests and green nature. Especially I avoid moslem countries out of experience.

Is very depressing no job no life and your family will only call when you delay to send money

So sad 😔 aki that you have to go through this. I only want to visit only for a few months. I can't live in this kind of life. I will stay in afrika and dig my shamba

I second you dear 🙏

Nothing but facts sister

Problem is also lots of African people post fake "happy" life in these countries and tempt others to want to come, no one admits how depressing it is.

Very true sister..I just find your channel and subscribed..They don’t know.back home they don’t know…🙌🏾

There definitely a missing of humanity and personhood

Want to come and witness What you are saying

Very well said 🙌🏾👌🏾

Well said

Because they don't give themselves a life. All they do is just work and think about sending people money not entitled to their hard work.

It's very true the most lonely life on earth.

Thank you for the information i have been yearning to go abroad but now let me build myself here in Africa 🇰🇪

YOU ARE 100％ CORRECT.

Great content

Thanks you I'm moving 2 Ghana or Kenya it's very hard in America the west it's expensive u work more than 40 hours a week every thing coming in is going back out it stressful overwhelming I'm living with my sister right now I pay 2 stay here 2 help her cause she needs extra money 4 the bills not 2 even get on the racist policies and practice my mom is no longer here

Haha i have relatives back in the UK who are exactly the same…their only concern was met to be a cash machine to fund their lifestyles

The reason why many are depressed is because of these people back home, if you don't have back home people bugging you, you will definitely be fine. Abroad life is all about balancing work and social life If you want to make it abroad you have to be selfish with your money and ignore this black tax. Also learn to live within your means or buget many people abroad especially in within the african community like to show off getting things they can't generally afford on their normal income just to flex.

Had to share this to my community....Thank u

We are gift for our people back home and they can't understand.

Alicia thank you for bringing this story out.....that is how they behave.

People will still move no matter what

The other side of the coin we are not told😓

Life without community is lonely...the same can happen in Africa. Look for community.

True. No life here

My sister it's very true.

This an informative video for those that take the dangerous journey illegally on those ships. Thinking that its better than staying home. Go if you are legal because it is worse when you are illegal no rights, no money, nothing.

😢😢😢😢I needed to hear this today

Deliverance from people is imperative

Life abroad is only easy for women. But for a man....!

Welcome my sister It's about time people start being honest with their greedy family members back home Part of this is spiritual not personal They needs cleansing with curse breaker soap and back to sender soap They need to do consultation to get to the root to your problems Deal with Foundational curses, witchcraft and spiritual husband and spiritual wife

People back home will not understand us 🥺🥺🥺

This is my life. Very depressing

I have no problem being alone but I have been blocked from getting job the best place to be is home

Dear Alicia, Prayers for you to find a new 'family of friends' where you now live.

Please sister tell them is not really easy for us out here

Watching this depressed me, so negative! 😏