Parentification can absolutely ruin a person, locking them in this weird state of being adults since they were children, and staying childlike mentally for the rest of their lives.
Wow, Alex. This is me, too. I am struggling to recover from the breakdown but RESET has helped me find a footing and gradually my cells are switching back to energy production. Thank you for sharing your wisdom 🙏❤
This was me, and I had children before I had healed or even knew what it was or that I needed to. And I had Lyme disease, not knowing till 10 years ago. Im 73 now. Im learning to love me on many levels and its OK to be messy sometimes I put off being me till my girls were adults. No time, they came first as did my baby brother when I was little.
What we do speaks so loudly that they cannot hear what we say. We must practice what we preach and that includes self care and love. Took years on Jungian analysis to get there, but it’s possible!!❤
I was that child. After I turned 12 or 13 I took care of my sister. After 16 I officially became my mother's psychiatrist and they stopped beating the shit out of me because I didn't give a shit anymore. My parents are still immature.
It’s truly a balancing act. You need to know when to let a child recover on its own and when to assist in a recovery. Each child is different and there is no manual. All you can do is hope and pray your get it right most of the time. But as long as you’re doing both (not over neglecting and not over coddling) then you’ll probably do just fine in raising well round children into adulthood.
The price I paid was I was always more mature than my schoolmates, who hated me because I acted like an adult in many situations. Once I lied on a schoolmate and was chastised heavily by my foster parents for it. A few months later, my friend whom I lied on told me that we couldn't be friends not because of the lie, which I apologized for, but because of how I acted as I had changed and stopped lying! Kids will lie, but if adults go too far in punishing them about it, they don't allow their kids to be kids. The kids don't learn about trust among their piers rather the kids are worried about outcomes in their adult relationships. My foster parents should have let me handle my child's business instead of stepping in and acting heavy handed. It's called trust. My foster parents wanted me at age 7 to grow up too fast to take care of my younger siblings. I couldn't be lying to anyone. That's not how it works! Children rely on their friends to protect them and keep secrets. If you become a snitch because your parents force you to, you're never going to have friends! Does that make sense? In the end, my foster parents didn't want us to have friends because if I did, I would have wanted to be with them instead of being at home looking after my siblings!
I was emotionally neglected but instead i grew up into a chaotic addict....i had a lot of opportunities to be responsible and stable but my maliganant shame held me back im only just healing at 54 so does not always follow in fact i think more people are like me after emotional neglect
