Discipline: Debunking the Do’s and Don’ts | Episode 29

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How can we help our kids grow into who God has called them to be? How do we create a healthy environment for our kids to flourish? And how can we curb unhealthy and unwanted behaviors without going too far and potentially damaging our children?
The way we discipline our kids is a massive part of their formation. As parents, the weight of this can feel overwhelming. Let’s be honest; discipline can be quite challenging. Many of us never had a healthy model to learn from, which may have left us feeling uncertain about how to navigate it. If this is you, rest assured, you are not alone!
Today on At Home with the Bevere's we are discussing how to discipline in a way that honors God. You won't want to miss this one! Addison, Juli, Alec, and Lisa will lend you their personal experience on the topic of discipline, leaving you with both insightful frameworks on the subject, as well as practical ways to implement it in your home.
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Chapters:
0:00 - Teaser
0:21 - Today’s Topic: Discipline
5:14 - What We Used to Discipline Our Kids
7:49 - Humility Creates Safety
9:30 - Discipline or Punishment?
11:33 - Parents… Rise Above Your Feelings
17:32 - Insanity to Clarity
22:13 - Show Your Emotions without Manipulating Your Kids with Them
23:17 - What’s Behind Discipline…
26:23 - Forgiveness Doesn’t Mean No Consequences
29:34 - Discipline Is Important to God
30:17 - Go to God
34:26 - Discipline Is about Freedom, Not Bondage
36:14 - Correction Is an Opportunity for Growth
38:58 - Episode Recap
41:13 - Closing Prayer
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@ke753reej 8 месяцев назад

This could not have come at a better time. I have 3 kiddos who are 3 and under, two of which are twins. My husband is gone for work for a couple weeks, and we don’t live close to family (military family life). They are sick too! So it’s been exhausting to say the least. I had one of my weakest moments with the kiddos yesterday, and I screamed in their faces. I was absolutely insane, and I broke down crying in front of them, and all they did was hug me and wipe away my tears. Wow, the Father’s love in my little babies! I was completely heartbroken and I confessed and asked for their forgiveness. And this moment changed me forever and i thought I had ruined their lives forever, and my husband was trying to speak life and pray over me. I spent a glorious quiet time with the Lord this morning and then this video comes along. I have so much hope that God has ordained good works beforehand for me, my husband my children, and our family. Thank you for these. Your family is a blessing and I pray for y’all often.

@theFIRMAMENTalist 3 месяца назад

I wish that I had had someone to speak life to me and pray over me in my weakest moments, and I wish that I had been able to be humbled when mine were little. I have teenagers now. And they don’t talk to me because of the things I have done. I only want to beg them for forgiveness but I can’t even see them now. It hurts me so much that I did this.

@christinabass7612 8 месяцев назад

I was a single mom for 5 years raising 3 kids. I did so many things wrong. I was exhausted and frustrated and angry that I was left alone to make everything ok. I wish I would have heard this at that time. All my kids are adults now and thankfully God redeemed the time and we are very close. This is such a powerful message that every parent needs to hear. Thank you for sharing.

@bethmaxey2326 8 месяцев назад

I really REALLY needed this! I need prayer for being able to walk this out practically! We have 3 wildly wonderful boys ages 13, middle turning 8 on 11/9, and our youngest son is 5. I'm so desperate for God to help me navigate being a good Mom so my boys don't have the traumas I did growing up with angry parents.

@TheOvercomersNetworkChannel 20 дней назад

My children had no father figure and it was not easy bringing up six children on my own. It's good to know that households where there are two parents who are Christians go through similar challenges. I know for sure if it were not for Jesus, the Word of God and the leading of the Holy Spirit our lives may have ended up differently. Glory to God

@emilyboldea93 8 месяцев назад

Have a almost 5 yr girl who's a absolute conduit on God's love and I have a 11month old girl. But I struggle with my anger when she doesn't listen. Even though I always apologize for my outburst to her n she always forgives me,it is not okay. Thank you guys for being raw & breaking this down. It's something that's so simple but it helps so much to hear it in the words you guys used.

@jcnithyahere 8 месяцев назад

Pure practical wisdom. Helps a lot. Thank You!!

@LetscookwithVanessa 8 месяцев назад

They are hilarious 😂 I wish I could be friends with Lisa she is so authentic. I love it.

@angierobshaw1741 8 месяцев назад

Thank you for talking about this. It’s so important. My heart breaks for all the parents who don’t understand how to lovingly discipline. I was blessed to be raised in a home that lovingly spanked the 4 of us. We all love and bless our parents and thank them for how we were raised. I’ve raised my own children the same. Even when they were young they saw the benefits of it as they watched other families interact. The Word of God is still truth.

@theFIRMAMENTalist 3 месяца назад

Yeah I am one of those people who never knew loving discipline as a child and because of that, despite my best efforts, I still reverted back to the only way to “parent” that I knew. It has been detrimental to my marriage and my family. It’s hard not to carry resentment towards my own parents for not loving me and disciplining me correctly, because I know that directly correlates to the way I was for the past 13 years of my marriage and parenting. I am now going to a counselor but I feel like it’s too late and I am going to be alone, with no one.

@Iamboughtbytheking 8 месяцев назад

Wow the story that Addison said about his friend and his daughter was just so much like my story with my daughter who is 3 and I’m a single parent aswell and it is so hard to know what to do when you’re kids start acting like that, so this was so good and helpful.

@natashahera5433 8 месяцев назад

Thank you thank you thank you for yet another incredible podcast that has made me feel less alone in my parenting struggles! I have 3 girls 13, 5 and 2, my eldest child I adopted and that has come with its own challenges. I love God and I want my kids to love God and I want to do this His way. I am a first generation christian who had a terrible upbringing so I don't always know if what I'm doing is right, but when I hear your family speak you confirm that I'm not as far off as I think 🙌 even though I have a lot of doubt and many around me that don't agree with my beliefs. Please keep rolling out these podcasts and wisdom, the impact your family is having is beyond anything you can imagine. God bless you guys 🙏

@agnesr.4664 8 месяцев назад

This is probably the funniest episode I have ever listened to with you. So much love, honor and appreciation with this topic. My father spanked us. The ONLY time I remember the details is when I saw my father cry hard when he disciplined us. We have very healthy and honorable family relations. I love my father.

@Grannycoop 8 месяцев назад

As a single mom of 7 and 15 grandchildren I am known as a disciplinarian (you can imagine that amount of chaotic sit). However by the grace of God I rarely disciplined out of anger . I was more free with hugs , affection and affirmation than discipline.

@theFIRMAMENTalist 3 месяца назад

Yah bless you Granny. I wish I had had someone like you in my life ❤

@dnmccurry 8 месяцев назад

This is so great! I’ve laughed so hard at the truth spoken here. We all make so many mistakes.

@kristynajachym 5 месяцев назад

We've got such a strong and special kid as Alec is in one of our sons. Everytime Lisa tells her stories with Alec we simply look at each other:,,That's our son!" For us parents, it is a real everyday fight, however (or thanks to that), he's true gift from God. We learn and grow so much while parenting him...thank you for sharing your stories and life, Alec and Lisa. What a hope and encouragement for our family. By the way, the best movie by Alec has been his wedding so far. Such a testimony and glimps of God's kingdom on earth. 🔥 Love you guys, God bless you!

@philipschifano5876 5 месяцев назад

I have a 5 year old son who is IDENTICAL to that 5 year girl. Thank you so so much for this conversation. It is tough to discipline a child like that. Cause it makes them to the MAX level .. so you think to yourself. There has to be a BETTER way. This is not working. It is making us BOTH misreable

@laurens8623 8 месяцев назад

The beveres are outstanding communicators

@darlenelee-zk9xz 8 месяцев назад

Well said, grateful for each of you!

@workoutmusic4209 8 месяцев назад

This is the most helpful podcast on the I Internet 🥲 I can't believe we have free access to this amazing family as a source of godly wisdom and guidance during this wild season! I can't say thank you enough, Bevere family!!!

@tushabeann7027 8 месяцев назад

Thank you a lot we’re blessed with these kind of videos 🙏

@ka-faminjapan 7 месяцев назад

i am currently watching all your videos from episode 1 and such a blessing! i really need this❤️

@nwanyibuifeobiako162 8 месяцев назад

Thank you for another great and valuable discussion❤️❤️

@andrewhildebrand 8 месяцев назад

Your videos have blessed our family beyond what I can express. Thank you so much for your wisdom and sharing your hearts, the truth and your experience! My wife & I have 4 kids as well and we love to soak up like a sponge all that you are offering. We were wondering if you could share, practically, what you do in terms of discipline. When you aren’t dealing out consequences, what is your process? And if it does come down to consequences what are they and what is the appropriate discipline for that specific action. We find that we struggle to come up with consequences that are effective. Thank you! Ps…you don’t know us, but we already consider you to be close family friends ;) you have mentored us for many years now and we so appreciate you all.

@Jackie_YG 5 месяцев назад

What an amazing episode that everyone should be listening to..THANK YOU A LOT ..love u all ❤

@lethukuthulazungu6225 8 месяцев назад

Really Potent and honestly healing

@yozh6198 8 месяцев назад

Wow! Thank you for this episode! So helpful! Praising God for it! ❤️🙏

@mariagellibert5233 7 месяцев назад

This show is one of the biggest blesses God could’ve sent me. Thank you so much for sharing all this! I’ve been praying and asking God to guide me and bam! You guys showed up. Please keep up the amazing work.

@81laurenashley 8 месяцев назад

Love this podcast every episode is timely, practical, & based on scripture! How can we support our children’s relationships with each other?

@alishaholbert4740 8 месяцев назад

Can you guys speak to disciplining a child with ADHD or how to deal with kids with ADHD?

@laurens8623 8 месяцев назад

How lovely Alec you loved arden so much

@whitneyphilander2356 5 месяцев назад

This blessed me so much. It really helps me as a parent. Thank you for praying. I received it with all my heart.

@natureplantoils 7 месяцев назад

I aboard love your channel!! Thank you for doing this! I’m so happy I found your channel! God bless your families 😊

@TheGodsgarden 8 месяцев назад

Awesome podcast!!!! I'm leaving a comment to help this get to more people. God bless you guys for such inspiration! Thank you❤

@kachi8413 8 месяцев назад

God bless you all. I love what you do..

@shannellemk5554 6 месяцев назад

This is sooooo good! Thank you guys, very insightful - always learning something from all your podcasts 💖💖💖💖

@mikealston3198 8 месяцев назад

I’m very thankful for this message my question is how can a father/husband who has a 6 children that I feel like I failed my child hood was not good at all a lot of trauma I suffered my whole childhood was based in foster care/group so now I’m 35 no guidance from my mother or father had to learn how to be a father and husband but it’s not biblical it’s a lot of anger, resentment back talking fighting ugly to one another etc I need prayer on how to overcome and train my kids in the biblical and suggestion please

@kaylanfomby7506 8 месяцев назад

Begin with Humility! I think they mentioned it but you have to remember you're their parent and you have the authority and right to rise above and set the example from now on. Like they said, going to your children and just apologizing for the ways you feel convicted about in how you've treated them or reacted can rebuild so much trust❤

@cheyanneb5007 5 месяцев назад

This was so good! Wow. I am very grateful for this truth and transparency! God bless you and your families through Jesus Christ

@kaylanfomby7506 8 месяцев назад

This is so beautiful and healing and encouraging, so grateful for the biblical wisdom in these conversations!❤

@comfortarmstrong8811 5 месяцев назад

I left my son in front of the TV for a few hours only to find the TV on the floor when I got back. Lol.

@ravenkask8419 8 месяцев назад

This was so helpful!

@81laurenashley 8 месяцев назад

Really good, so much truth thank you for this episode & this podcast! Love your family & each of your podcasts! Lisa, is there a place where you have all the prophecies you spoke over your children written down? When you mention them in podcasts or sermons I try to write them down but I would love to have them in one spot!

@piffanyortega 8 месяцев назад

"alec, you didn't like when i spanked you... why was that?" 🤣🤣 i mean, who liked getting spanked?! LOL she said it so serious too haha thank you for this episode :)

@badeboyse 8 месяцев назад

Wow, the first story shows us perfectly why you should never hit your children

@junebuge.9192 2 месяца назад

When a child that young is saying horeible things like that and wanting to punch someone at 3 years old, that can be the enemy taunting that child.

@noneface5927 8 месяцев назад

Addison, I love your blouse! Could you please tell me where you got it from? Some link or brand? Thank you! :)

@amandakate1247 8 месяцев назад

I’m struggling with understanding how to explain the difference between discipline and punishment with my children. I have 2 step sons with ADHD and it greatly impacts their strong will to defy so correction is a daily part of our routine.

@Error404v22 8 месяцев назад

You absolutely change your kids. You affect them by teaching them Gods rules or the worlds and not teaching them Gods rules automatically defaults to the worlds.

@dnmccurry 8 месяцев назад

Are you still homeschooling?

@laurens8623 8 месяцев назад

In Norway spanking send you to prison

@skullandbones1832 8 месяцев назад

Wooden spoon survivor.

@aez378 8 месяцев назад

idk man we gon have some weak kids this next generation lol

@gueramariah1316 8 месяцев назад

So thankful for you guys, I needed this so much. I'm still navigating parenting as a young mom and this has helped me so much, I hope you guys make more like this.🫶🏼