Discipline doesn't work. Here's what to do instead.

Подписаться 506 тыс.

Просмотров 494 тыс.

50% 1

Something a lil different this week - talking about how discipline isn't the answer. Traditional discipline (the ability to control one's feelings and overcome one's weaknesses) is one of those traits that it feels like 'if we just had some more of it... imagine what we'd accomplish.' - over time I've learned that discipline isn't the answer. In this video I share what you can work on instead of discipline to build better habits, routines and lives.
--------------------------------------
☀️ If you liked this video, you might like these as well!
How to Upgrade your Life x 20 ⇢ • How to Upgrade your Li...
5 Self Love Habits to Start ⇢ • 5 Self Love Habits, Ri...
.....................................................
☀️ Social
INSTAGRAM ⇢ / muchelleb
WEBSITE ⇢ muchelleb.com.au/
.....................................................
☀️ Planners that level up your life
Tick off your goals, create time + energy, start taking action with Life Map Collective planners.
Buy Your Planner Now ⇢ www.lifemapcoll...
Psst. I created Life Map Collective with one goal in mind: to create the best, most thoughtful, most effective goal setting, life changing planning tools ever.
.....................................................
☀️ Music
Music by Chinsaku - Blossom - thmatc.co/?l=6...
.....................................................
☀️ Getting in touch w/ me
Business enquiries only ⇢ hey@muchelleb.com.au
Before you get in touch ⇢ Please know that I am only able to get back to business opportunities that match my schedule and interests.
Product or tech support enquiries only ⇢ support@muchelleb.com.au
.....................................................
☀️ About this channel
This channel is all about designing an intentional life, simplifying your days and getting things done.

Опубликовано:

11 сен 2024

Ссылка:

Скачать:

Готовим ссылку...

Добавить в:

Мой плейлист

Посмотреть позже

Комментарии : 726

@juanchi_elquezapa 4 года назад

Discipline actually comes from “discere” (latin), literally meaning “to learn”, not “to struggle”.

@ToniAnnBarandon 4 года назад

Yes XO Like in discern and Disciple.

@Surayya444 4 года назад

Thx for sharing 💜

@laurabirli 4 года назад

Love a good root meaning in Latin 😊👍👍

@roseschulze1647 4 года назад

That's very interesting!

@muchelleb 4 года назад

That's SO interesting! It's wild how much the interpretation has changed. I definitely think more of "the ability to control one's feelings and overcome one's weaknesses." definition that lacks self compassion and learning - to learn is absolutely the definition of self discipline I'd prefer.

@wellosen 4 года назад

That reminds me a quote from Einstein. He says: “insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”

@curtscool3139 4 года назад

Here is the thing. It takes time to see the results

@luriemu1 4 года назад

No record of Einstein ever saying or writing this xx

@geespar1 4 года назад

Josie T he said it to me but I never did write it down

@Lalle312 4 года назад

He did not say that. Instead he said: “Compound interest is the eighth wonder of the world. He who understands it, earns it ... he who doesn't ... pays it.”

@mysteriousman4966 4 года назад

But...that’s what mathematics basically is.

@circlinq 4 года назад

"Your butt is still flat and your house is a mess" excuse ME😭🤣

@pearlyzahee 4 года назад

May house is not a mess

@pearlyzahee 4 года назад

My house is not a mess

@adnankronful5575 4 года назад

Rayan2012 we get it...

@justmyworld2542 4 года назад

@@adnankronful5575 😂😂😂

@supervisethis6947 4 года назад

Ill try anything to get my place clean faster

@ifeelfantastic8956 4 года назад

"Discipline is to know the difference between what you want now and what you want the most".

@sunray_surfer 4 года назад

@@vi5360 me neither 😆

@JessicaSilva-gq7zc 4 года назад

Cupofcoffeplease think about what will grant you long term gratification instead of immediate gratification

@surlespasdondine 3 года назад

yesssssssss

@sadieesther9721 4 года назад

Something I’ve found that has helped me is paying attention to my cycle. The week before my period, I’m tired and unmotivated. The week after I feel “normal”, the week after that (around ovulation) I can clean the house until 11:30 at night and have so much focus and energy. I just try and embrace these ebbs and flows instead of forcing myself against them. During my period and before, I’d rather do yoga and lift weights vs when I’m more energetic, I can run or push myself harder

@ananastea 4 года назад

Divinegon why? I actually feel like it’s the same for me

@aashni23 4 года назад

omg yes same!

@juicysatsumabeauty 4 года назад

Same! Hormonology is an excellent Instagram account to follow for more on this! Sadly few women actually have a menstrual cycle these days because of hormonal contraception. Choice is fantastic and there's no one correct method of birth control, but I wish women were given more information about the affects it has on their bodies. Especially long term.

@withlove_chrissy 4 года назад

This is SUPER insightful and makes a lot of sense! Thanks!

@sadieesther9721 4 года назад

Christina Rice yeah it’s helped me a lot. Instead of fighting the feelings and feeling lazy or like I’m not doing enough, I just embrace it and take a nap lol then in two weeks I get done what I need to like cleaning extra or starting a new small project

@natalielawyerchick 4 года назад

Me watching the intro: “why is she attacking me? How does she know me” 😅

@alexandradunn1320 4 года назад

😂😂😂😂

@TheArtisticBiker 4 года назад

This made me laugh so hard I had to explain to my wife why I was laughing. She demanded to see the video and then asked if Muchelle had a camera in our house.

@SaraMakesArt 4 года назад

So, don't try to be "disciplined", but try to know how you operate.

@SoVidushi 4 года назад

Btw ur channel is super cool

@yogawithsaba 4 года назад

@@SoVidushi yours too! keep it up like that!

@KinoMcFarland 4 года назад

YES. This is why I have stopped paying attention to most "personal development gurus." They all preach one way of living. I keep thinking I have to focus on one project until it is complete, but my brain shuts down because it prefers to switch between things.

@sourmind2133 4 года назад

‘Lmao same’- She said and started crying

@torigirl5000 4 года назад

YES!

@mayanlogos92 2 года назад

Yeah me too..

@myriam8737 4 года назад

This video is so simple but literally changed my life, I mean literally. I used to beat myself down about everything I didn't have the discipline to do (mostly keep a job and volunteer) and I thought all the other people could do but not me. I started feeling more and more like a failure and struggle so much to the point of depression and I gave up trying and got into financial difficulties. And then one day I run into this video and it gave me finally the hope I needed to try one more time but at my pace and with my conditions and feeling a bit more compassion towards who I am, and it started working! Little by little this method gave me my life back. I'm not expressing it that well but I really want to thank you for this video, I can say, no matter how exaggerating it sounds, that it saved my life 💛

@lauratrefry3333 4 года назад

As a person with ADHD this is far more helpful than any how to "self-discipline" video! Thank you!

@iqi616 4 года назад

Agreed

@angelineblue 4 года назад

(My summary of this video) See habit building as experimenting/ problem solving, when something did not work for you, tweak: -accountability -time -environment -nature of the habit Keep testing new habits and tweaking them until it works for you!

@lindaraka5748 4 года назад

I really wish this was longer. I hope one day you write a book and I will honestly read it over and over again. Thank you as always so much for inspiring me. You’re beautiful just the way you are.

@supervisethis6947 4 года назад

She is a great inspiration and it can be taken many ways. For ever since I was little I always wanted to be an actor. Well in the 1st grade I got my first big break. ru-vid.com/show-UCgE_OE9n_QcsRXVaqMp61jw I hope i can make you laugh

@Itsrainingcatsyall Год назад

Definitely recommend reading Atomic Habits in the meantime

@wheredidfrankgo 4 года назад

Waking up not knowing what to do... well u caught me 😂 I tried waking up at 5 am, made beautiful breakfast, then went to bed straight because I had nothing planned and nothing to do...

@Nosjjddjjd 4 года назад

1:see changing your behavior as a period of problem solving and experimenting -apply design thinking to rl 2:focus on creating momentum -start with an instigation habit-> trick your mind into doing it for a few minutes but by all means please watch the entire video

@tayyebafaisal296 4 года назад

thankuu

@edenh4995 4 года назад

Self discipline does work really well. I tidy my house daily, workout daily, stretch daily. But sometimes I miss a day and that's okay. Self discipline takes time but can be achieved. It's not about the discipline, it's about the want to be disciplined and the fact that you try. If you don't bother trying you'll never be disciplined. And discipline has changed my life for the better

@bettyt1710 4 года назад

Recently I have unknowingly somehow figured the second tip out, just to start for 5-10 minutes and then see how things go and it really works for me. The biggest obstacle for me is to start. Your wideo has made me sure of this aproach :) it's a really good way of tricking your mind into doing something.

@elisha_kl 4 года назад

I really resonated with your point on, "just because one way doesn't workout for you, doesn't mean it it's not meant for you"! In most cases we only see the end result and successes of people online and we hope that we will be exactly the same. It's just so easy to see something we think we might like and incorporate it into our life, without much intention. When it doesn't work out following their exact steps we get frustrated and disappointed. It's like putting the wrong pieces of a puzzle together. Trial and error is a great way to get to know yourself and find what does and does not work for you. We shouldn't be afraid to fail and retry again and be different from each other! This video was different but a pleasant surprise, love that you are slowly branching out but still putting your supportive, honest and positive spin on it!

@eggwonna 4 года назад

Muchelleb = best RU-vidr out there. Seriously always inspired, motivated, and calmed by your videos.

@sbegum29 4 года назад

eggwonna AGREE!🤩

@supervisethis6947 4 года назад

She does seem very genuine

@rachitajagirdar9849 4 года назад

S u

@meghandade5900 4 года назад

I'm always SO IMPRESSED with your content. Always original, unique, succinct and practical. LOVE!

@kromatic3610 4 года назад

We spend so much time trying to emulate people we deem successful when our drive should really be intrinsic. We should be asking ourselves, "What is my 'why'?" and how can I specifically adjust my schedule to achieve my goals.

@gabriellas 4 года назад

amazing comment!

@fredaaa- 4 года назад

this !

@dookyy 4 года назад

I've always been hard on myself, and listening to this is very comforting, while providing effective habit forming inspirations. Thanks a lot!

@adrianteixeira3958 4 года назад

I realized that I'm already doing it, I set up what I need to do during the day, but I don't specify when. But eventually all my strategies fail and I have to pick up from the start. I feel like I have to relearn how to deal with me every day. Thanks for helping me understand that I'm not a failure because of that, and that my behavior will change naturally.

@TheLineCutter 4 года назад

no one that was ever succesful has never failed. the people who are most successful have often been bankrupt at least once. when you know what area draw you more than others and you find it overlaps with what you are good at, THEN put in the time to become the best at it. IF that's what you want to do.

@polinanikitina396 4 года назад

Looks like it is not about Self-discipline or the lack of it, but about thought patterns 🤷‍♀️

@avadea5296 4 года назад

why isn't that taught in school?

@kitpatino3833 4 года назад

Instead of, "I've failed. " be like "I haven't yet succeeded"

@rocioiribe5841 4 года назад

for me, i substitute "self-discipline" with will power. will power is incredibly ephemeral. but discipline is having a routine for me and identifying the benefits. great video.

@Roseisrose70 4 года назад

Such timely tips, thank you! There is a reason why Nike’s “Just Do It” ad campaign was so successful...really...just do something! And it can be the littlest of things, and then just build on it! YOU CAN DO IT!💜💜💜

@Dailylilyful 4 года назад

This approach worked so well for me when it came to dieting. I want to eat better food for so long but I relied on self-discipline and when I failed I felt a lot of guilt and thought dieting is not for me. When I tried to approach it more like a problem solving thing and tried multiple diets and failed multiple times I finally found what works for me. Today marks the end of the first month of my diet and I lost 7kgs. Whatever it is you're trying to achieve, if you fail don't give up and approach it from a different angle ♥

@F0reverblessed 4 года назад

Great technique. Thinking of the new habits you want to start implementing as a problem solver it's definitely very helpful. We are all different and because something works for the people we look up to, it doesn't mean it'll work us too. & that's okay! Try different techniques to get the same result. Find what works for YOU! From a self love content creator to another, awesome video muchelle!

@curlsot1639 4 года назад

I NEEDED to hear this so much... I’ve been feeling all over the place and not fully focused. I’ve attempted to change my entire schedule/lifestyle overnight. And with quarantine- it has made it that much tougher. But I feel so hopeful after watching this! Thank you 💕

@julieschmidtlaw 4 года назад

This was so helpful, thank you! I’m a law student and struggling so much with iso to be motivated. Remembering these small things like creating momentum and focusing on experimenting rather than “discipline” is so useful. Thank you - love your channel!

@thecenterpeace4401 4 года назад

You are a Wonderful Gift. I call this the good way to sabotage myself, just even putting my yoga pants on makes it easier to give in later when I’m faced with the opportunity to go for a walk, then maybe I’ll start jogging on my walk. Hehe then I’m on my way home all puffed out, smiling because I remember how good it feels to do something GOOD for me. Then I realised I’ve actually just taught myself Love.. Self-Love! All this good stuff is connected. What a wonderful blessing. Thank you so much for reminding me to choose the Good, and to take that first step, consciously more often. 🙏🏼❤️

@monkiram 4 года назад

The instigation habit thing is so effective. I noticed that when I open my workout app to decide if I'm motivated enough to work out, it gives me motivation. Or starting to watch the workout video (I change up the kinds of workouts I do with different apps and RU-vid videos because I tend to get bored. That also keeps me more motivated because of the novelty factor). This is after trying unsuccessfully to work out for so many years and being motivated and successful for 2 weeks max and then giving up. Now I've consistently been working out most mornings for 4 months, I hope I manage to keep it going! What has really helped my consistency the most though is realizing how good I feel after I work out, and how my energy levels and mood are much better throughout the rest of the day.

@TheOMGParis 4 года назад

This is exactly what I needed right now - I have tried over and over again to build a workout routine and figure out how to stop procrastinating difficult work. I literally had the thought “maybe I’m just not the kind of person who can do those things” and hearing you say that’s not true and that there’s a better way has given me so much hope. I’m going to keep trying different pieces until I get my puzzle together!

@AlexHolland123 4 года назад

I truly love this video. Another mindset that has helped me is to see the things I am doing to improve my life as actually being in and of itself a form of self care, rather than a weapon to beat myself over the head with. If it's my own life I'm trying to improve, well that is taking care of myself, isn't it? What's there to beat myself up with if the entire point is my well being? Changing my habits is not a separate action from myself for a separate theoretical me

@gothfantasyworld 4 года назад

I love this! I’ve struggled with feeling guilty when I haven’t kept up with certain habits, this is such a positive and practical approach

@angelagaviria6448 4 года назад

I've seen a lot of channels similar on the topics you talk about, but your videos are really refreshing. Concrete, helpful, structured. I wouldn't ask for more. You can say in seven minutes what others would take 20 to say. And I leave your videos actually motivated to act, not just like, "Oh, maybe that would work, I'll think about it". I've even taken notes. Amazing, yet realistic, grounded and smart.

@haltertopbabe 4 года назад

makes a lotta sense ! once i start enjoying doing something / getting into a habit, it’s because i’ve found the correct conditions that are suitable to ME that allow me to stick to it ! very well put. ♡

@tzivgugg 4 года назад

Love this. This also has a lot to do with periods in one’s life. Things are financially. Sometimes early morning workouts are good. Sometimes that’s the last thing one has the energy for. Sometimes the creative juices will be flowing and sometimes you just can’t create no matter how hard you try. It’s really important to be gentle and forgiving that we’re not what we were or will be in order to not have a bad experience with working towards goals.

@riawhy_ 4 года назад

This is just what I needed! Perfect for quarantine because I think we all want to emulate the perfection we see online. But combining it with the reality of our lives makes it all more achievable. 💗💗💗

@aslrunner 4 года назад

Getting started is the biggest obstacle. Say the goal is a 3 mile jog, but I feel sluggish. I’ll give myself permission to stop after 10 minutes, but when that time comes I’m warmed up and have the momentum to continue. Goal is cleaning the house: I’ll pick one chore and give myself permission to stop after that, but usually if I just get started I want to keep going. And even if I do stop short I still got SOMETHING done. We need to be gentle with ourselves. Progress not perfection. 😊

@letsdomath1750 4 года назад

That focus on problem-solving and experimenting part was genius. Another RU-vidr had recently mentioned that for meditating and other learning techniques the objective is to practice starting again and again. Just attempt to do the new thing and observe how it goes, and now you mentioned to tweak and adjust new habit implementation even 10 times. From this angle, it doesn't feel like using great willpower to do chores and errands that lead to burn out, but you succeed at your new endeavor by systematically taking down obstacles through methodical observation and rapid adaptation on each iteration. Thank you!

@maikekersten4434 4 года назад

It seems to be really important to "set your mind" right and I really like this Idea of working with yourself instead of working against yourself! I think this might be really helpful to also overtalk your ego into doing the think that really centers you again, it might be meditation or whatever works for you.. - from a small youtuber

@metaphysicalmigraine694 4 года назад

I just watched enough to say discipline does work, both as a responsible parent and/or a single person. Authoritarian regimes are always doomed to failure, but authoritative teaching and reaching an understanding is far more beneficial to young and old. I learnt that the hard way as a now single but sane and main man. I taught my son respect but alas he is now making the mistake I made in wanting to be a better parent. I wish him well in this wild world.

@Indigoway 4 года назад

you are the closest to the solution to make efforts to improve life enhance your experience of life instead of producing a grey cloud of negativity. REALLY ON POINT!! (Just a little further to go to utterly nail it ;0)

@anuragbaveja 4 года назад

I wish this headline said, how to start building up discipline, because this is what it actually describes. Not replace discipline

@riley3984 4 года назад

Something that really helped me with this was looking into Gretchen Rubin's 4 Tendencies! I had spent ages thinking of myself as someone who needed accountability to work but then being confused why that just made me avoid the task harder. After looking into this more I realized I actually had more of the "Rebel" tendency and taking steps to adapt my behavior to that was super helpful for me to actually start getting stuff done!

@JessBess 4 года назад

What steps have you taken that have helped you get stuff done? I just did the quiz and I’m a ‘rebel’ too

@avadea5296 4 года назад

same here - the rebel inside of me is very strong indeed...

@riley3984 4 года назад

@@JessBess She has a few different articles on her site about different habit strategies for rebels that I've found helpful. But the main advice is find a personal reason to to identify with what you want to do, and avoid the typical strategies of scheduling and reward systems. An example for me is when it comes to schoolwork. A deadline in itself isn't a great motivator for me and can often do the opposite, and scheduling out my day usually backfires and ends up in me doing nothing. But if I approach it from the identity strategy and tell myself: "I am a good student and want to be seen as a good student. I want people to view me as smart and capable, and people who complete their work on time are seen as smart and capable" that motivates me to complete my schoolwork. Other main strategies she suggests for rebels are based in uniqueness (in my case doing exceptionally well on an assignment separates me from the crowd) and figuring out the "why" behind what you're doing (in my case completing work on time will help me get better grades and getting better grades will lead me to more opportunities in life and etc). Here are a couple helpful links that I have bookmarked! gretchenrubin.com/2017/08/four-tendencies-rebels-habits gretchenrubin.com/2015/04/how-does-a-rebel-change-habits-one-rebels-clever-solutions Hope this helps!

@riley3984 4 года назад

Also I try not to tell people what I plan on doing and just complete the tasks or start changing habits quietly because often even if it's something I really wanted to do, as soon as I feel like someone else is expecting me to do it my motivation disappears. Probably sounds terrible but believe me I wish it didn't happen either lol

@dreamlikediana 4 года назад

actually this is making a lot of sense now, in the past when i tried to stop biting my nails the longest id get without biting was 3 months. and i just kept thinking i wanna bite, i wanna bite. i could never keep them unpainted because of the fact i knew the second they were bare id dive into them. im over my three month mark. its exactly 137 days of no nail biting. ive tried in the past to use acrylics, i tried gel nail polish, ive tried the nail polish that tastes bad, ive tried them all multiple times, ive tried to quit for someone else's event but never once did i quit for myself. until now. i quit because i saw the benefit in it, i wanted it, not just saying i wanted it but like i put in the effort and work to want it. for the first month or so while they grew yes, i painted them with regular polish but after that ive been bare for 2 months. i dont need it anymore. its not a thought that crosses my mind. i got really picky about who does my nails (i never go to salons anymore i have my own mini salon at home because i learned to do my own nails if i want gel or designs), i learned how to file nails the way i want them to be (this is trial and error, but i never clip or cut always file). this video makes sense as to why it stuck with me now and not all those previous years. which im now gonna also try to use it to fix my sleep schedule. i have horrible sleep times. but im really motivated to sleep early and wake up early to take a swim every morning. before i was like i wanna sleeeeeep more, i love my bed. but now i wanna get into the pool before my niece of nephew does have some alone time to swim laps, and then do my work. etc.

@antwuntrademark 4 года назад

*Instigation Habit* has been powerful. More people should talk about this

@drivers99 4 года назад

Mark Forster wrote about it too. He calls it "I'll just get the file out." markforster.squarespace.com/get-the-file-out That's at least as old as 2006 but that's about when he was moving websites so it might be from before that.

@smellycat4413 4 года назад

Im an interior design freak so i just say to may self, im an empty room, and these habits are the furniture, and i just got to figure out where they fit the room, or HOW they fit the room

@aritora778 4 года назад

I have started living my life with some rich habits for 7 days.. mentally and physically both.. then suddenly I realize one thing that what was my past life and what life am I living within this 7 days. I really think that we don't need to trick our brain to do things we want rather than we need to teach our mind the right thing and see the truth.. not the excuses.. after knowing this truth of my life I almost quit my every kind of bad habits, at least trying to do it.. and it became really very easy to deal with.. when you know the difference between the two types of habits. One which creates a bad aura and the other one which creates a good vibes around you. You'll definitely pick the good vibes one no matter how much tough is this to do.. that's how I think you need to make your mind intelligent and wise to choose the right habits at the right time without any load of self-discipline and willpower. This formula works for me. (It's not that easy I agree but this is actually the permanent way to deal with).. stay consistent.

@sree0801 4 года назад

I agree with you completely. But I actually didn't watch this video but felt it. Since mid of April, I started to make myself disciplined. here is my story, At an interval of 1-2 weeks, I always came back to zero and made some "perfect" routine like "perfect morning routine", "perfect skin regime", "how topper scores" etc. I always felt I am forcefully doing things and I don't enjoy doing those. these all "perfect" routines or disciplined video made you think that you must do everything on these "perfect" time but the moment you failed to maintain those timings (you will fail) on real-life you feel that, "you are the worst", "you can never achieve anything in life", "discipline is the only way and you can't be that", "you have to start again from zero". every time I felt disgusted about myself and this is running in a loop till date. It is the mindset that you need to change. There must be one strong "why" but that mustn't be "this is what every successful people did". We never heard from any speech stating, "I followed that video or another successful man told me this is you should do" but they realized themselves that "these habits are needed for my own benefit"," I should exercise because health is wealth". and that eventually made them disciplined. it is not like " one night they decided that from the next morning they are going to be productive and disciplined" these mindsets can only give you frustration and "self-loath". thank you for this video. you are a life saver.

@mayanlogos92 2 года назад

Discipline takes much much time.. the environment is key, glad I saw a second video to strengthen what I already got from another video & it added so much more on what I already knew from that video... 3:34 - here it starts tye CHANGE, but we should not miss the WHY which is before

@JackOfDigitalArt 4 года назад

Thank you so much for this video! It made me analyze the reasons I'm not successfully building the habits I want and part of it was definitely using the excuse of "I'm not disciplined enough"

@askingwhyisfree7436 4 года назад

take things little by little. tweak here, tweak there. What's important is you keep moving forward.

@supervisethis6947 4 года назад

My self discipline is being able to only have 2 cups a coffee a day, jog only for 5 mins, trying to let my laundry take care of itself is the hardest thing to work on with my self discipline. I always tend to intervene and wind up washing and folding it :( Your getting me more motivated though

@TheArtisticBiker 4 года назад

She can't be trusted, folks. 1. She has a foreign accent. All the bad guys in the movies have foreign accents. 2. She doesn't drink coffee (that's deviant behavior). 3. She QUIT coffee... so she's a quitter... 4. And shes's a girl AND attractive. We all know what that means... ;) All that aside, brilliant video. "Focus your discipline on the initiation" is probably the best advice I've heard in a long time. It goes right along with making the habit easy and removing obstacles. Well done.

@lightpad1360 3 года назад

I'm so glad to have softer productivity gurus like you. Makes so much sense!

@raptimitra2672 4 года назад

RU-vid recommended you to me! I am glad it did! Lady! You were so right on point! It's nice to feel affirmed that I am not undisciplined! I am experimental! I am! Thanks! ❤❤❤

@danielanina3146 4 года назад

I needed this today! I did read Atomic Habits and The Power of Habit but haven't been able to keep up with things. Rephrasing it as "solving the puzzle" and being more open about the form of the habits makes it way more exciting than trying to summon self-discipline for something that's not working :- )

@oliviaplunkett4208 4 года назад

I have struggled so much with the concept of discipline - I say that it is one of my biggest flaws when it comes to keep habits (especially when it comes to working out or eating healthy) so this video really helped me as a way to rethink my life and how I picture things - thank you so much!

@vilgrar5738 4 года назад

Two months ago, I abandoned discipline in favor of motivation. They are total opposites, motivation being 'I do this because I want to' as opposed to discipline 'I do this because I have to'. It's hard to force a grown-up to do things they don't really feel like doing, and the reason they don't is because they don't value the results of making the effort. I had to change my mindset about a lot of things, no longer considering the negative consequences of NOT doing things, but rather the positive consequences of doing them. A practical example: "I don't like living in a dirty, messy apartment. Therefore I'm forcing myself to tidy on a regular basis even though it's boring". That's reliant on discipline. And the motivational way of thinking: "I really like living in a neat, clean apartment. As such, I don't mind doing some occasional cleaning to feel good about it every day". I apply this to exercise and studies as well.

@AmbientDreamEscapes 4 года назад

The best fitness tip is to walk, it's free too.

@Mockduck2020 4 года назад

Kidicorn Toy Tales and you can listen to this or podcasts at the same time!

@antwuntrademark 4 года назад

Literally watching this as I'm currently reading *The Power of Habit*

@prapti04 4 года назад

Hey, me too !!

@sunray_surfer 4 года назад

you guys r adorable

@alexissanches462 4 года назад

I finished it last month!

@magix1747 4 года назад

I've actually been talking to my therapist about this today! We spoke about the difference between self-discipline and self-regulation. I'm very thankful my recommendations brought me here. I wish more people knew about this.

@elnina7 4 года назад

I've been angry with myself for not being able to develop daily habits...but after watching this, I realise I still get most things done at the end of the week, so I've more of a weekly-schedule rhythm rather than daily. And poor me has been berating myself all this time. Thank you for the much needed eye-opener and self-acceptance. I plan to help my students understand some of these key points too.

@mooalijasmine 4 года назад

Discipline isn’t something you have... it’s something you do. I appreciate that you recommend adapting the approach can get us to the same results as someone else who implements behaviours in a different order or at a different time or pace.

@brynodberg5519 4 года назад

I would describe motivation as the thing people "just wish they had more of." Discipline is the answer, not motivation - I would argue what you talked about during this video was actually discipline, framed in a healthy way. Discipline is the opposite of giving up, but reliance on motivation will result in feeling bad about yourself or giving up on things. Self-loathing is entirely separate and does not stem from discipline, but from self-critique!

@28MUSE 4 года назад

Yep yep yep, true... She is right, We Millennials are so wired in the ways we think. This LockDown l decided to create videos and spread positivity and entertainment. We got time guys ..for all those watching this video, we finally have time to do things we love.. Go for it. Love from WillDomination :)

@kyrar.749 4 года назад

Not everyone has more time due to the pandemic. Some people still need to go to work...

@TheFaceZone 4 года назад

yep yep yep and also We Other people are so wired in the ways we think.

@28MUSE 4 года назад

@@kyrar.749 Our city is completely shut. So much so we have to get necessities really early. If you are going.. Be safe!! :*

@EmilyHummingbird 4 года назад

Thank you so much for this. I just started a new job and my anxiety and depression has been more of a challenge lately. I needed this. Much love and God bless always.

@shortcake7200 4 года назад

I had a heck of a time sticking to a habit of brushing my teeth and washing my face consistently twice a day. I changed the timing and the habit loop, and now it’s stuck! Yay!

@helnmergen 4 года назад

In real life, my friends come to me for advises, I motivate and guide them. But now I found myself in a loop that I am not happy. In the recommended videos -which I normally don't watch- I saw this and I am happy that I watched it. I normally do what you say in the video, but I needed to be reminded why I should keep those habits (the first step habit). Thank you!

@TheSally1995 4 года назад

I love how muchelleb's videos are so realistic and practical! She definitely knows how to give perspective to many things! ❤

@nicolescottwv 4 года назад

My copy of the Life Map has been filled with so much "I just need more self-discipline" in the "How could you do better next week?" sections. I was so tired of writing that and didn't know what to do. This was much needed. Thank you!

@beatrizviula 4 года назад

Synchronicities are real. I have been struggling so hard because I can’t follow a schedule and I have been beating myself down because of it. I was talking to my boyfriend this morning about this but I needed something to click. What you said aligns with what he and my coach have been saying to me and suddenly it all makes sense! Thank you so much for this!! 🙌🏻✨

@brittanyagee93 4 года назад

My instigation habit is putting in my earbuds and watching Muchelle B while I'm cleaning. 💙

@victorialim 4 года назад

So so so right about lifestyle design and finding what works for you - recently did a video on this myself! I love how you also spoke instigation habits too - just today wasn’t motivated to get exercise but forced myself to put on my workout shoes, leave the house and ended up going for an hour Long walk run 😊 thank you Michelle for your nuggets of wisdom ✨🌸

@isa.yoshimura Год назад

I mean, this is the second video I’m watching of this channel and I already want to follow all the things that you are producing!! Super well done and thank you so much!!!! ❤

@defnekolay7496 4 года назад

Recently I've felt like just forcing myself to do stuff wasn't working anymore. I felt like I needed to be kinder and more understanding of myself. But you know that phase between not knowing something and being able to express something? I was between those two stages. I had some idea about what I was doing, but I didn't know enough about it to put it into words and back it up by arguments. This video honestly made me feel a lot better. I no longer feel in between those two stages of knowledge and I am no longer just sort of trying to walk around in the dark. This video made things much more clear to me. Thank you!

@jaleanbehal9922 4 года назад

Self discipline can be replaced by self Love ❤️ do these things because you need to self care and focus on you 🤗❤️great tips thanks 🙏

@mennasaeed3054 4 года назад

I really love how you set and edit your videos it gives me a sence of a clean breathy space 😍😍 . I have had a different approach as to self displine it's not a constant tension like a rubber band but rather being gentle , pave the way for growth Two ted talks i highly recommend are jp fogg phd (enjoyment while pursing a habit) and fixing the exhaused brain .

@SquattersVision 4 года назад

i love this. I struggle way too much with staying disciplined. What also works for me, what I always come back to, is taking it a day at a time

@janalyngraham1035 2 года назад

Man, you saved me! I was literally sitting here watching this video, having forgotten to take my vitamins!!!! Thanks for the reminder (lol) and for the rest of the content! 😀

@astronomicalliv 4 года назад

it's interesting, the way self-discipline was talked about in this video is how i thought of the word motivation, something i shud HAVE, to be able to do something while i thought of self-discipline as something i build up overtime by showing up regardless of what i feel, this is cool though 👌

@in.your.wildest.dreamz3635 3 года назад

I'm so guilty of not getting up in the morning due to just not knowing why I am or what to do first ... great suggestion of planning that the night before

@ijcmusic 4 года назад

I am not sure the video is a critique of discipline. It is changing the way to think about it. You are still doing little things everyday to grow... (that is discipline). It is a great perspective!

@VeganMangoQueen 4 года назад

Great advice as always - not that everyone wants a companion animal but my Doberman keeps me moving, walks at the park, cleaning, making her food gets me on a roll to prep my own food. Take care, michele b in the u.s. 🌱✌👑🌻😊

@vibesofthesoul8401 4 года назад

Great video! I used to feel guilty when i didnt do what i planned to, but i’ve learn the more flexible i am with myself the more likely im gonna do what i supposed to do because im not “obligating” myself

@TywysogCraig 4 года назад

Discipline is doing the things you don't want to do, but know you should! Great video, subbed.

@insightinspiration9922 4 года назад

There is also a video from Mel Robins which inspired me today. She basically said that the key for change are your feelings because it is your feelings which influence your decisions. When you feel good, you'll naturally work out, sleep well, keep the house clean and eat healthy. That's just our natural behaviour unless we are not sabotaging ourselves through negative thoughts and feelings of inferiority and stress.

@ederlinerosenberg6813 4 года назад

Her: why would you take the higher route to where you could go Me: sits straighter, ready to listen Her: when you could not Me: ...are you allowed to say that?

@raemaecable 4 года назад

I think she said "harder."

@irriwa 4 года назад

Thank you! you are so right about tweaking, even if some habit worked for a while, after some time there might be the need to rethink the approach and not to give up.

@Joshnellyorbe 4 года назад

Literally just commented about how I love your channel, I was literally conversation with my accountability partner about discipline and here you go again Muchelle! Love and appreciate ya! Never disappoint!

@perfumerybypratiksha4028 4 года назад

This is so awesome. It is true that if we don't enjoy what we do, it's unlikely that we will stick to it

@missmayflower 4 года назад

I finally accepted that I’m a workout-in-the-morning-still-in-pyjamas person. Not a put-on-an-outfit-and-drive-in-the-snow-to-class person. Life changing.

@patrickmcdonald8513 4 года назад

Accountability excellent. I have begun to implement that in my own life after self-motivation didn't work.

@RobDymott 4 года назад

I always feel like im in a constant state of experiment with all of daily activities. every day is different. something which worked well for the last 7 days, cant happen for the next two weeks. knowing exactly what I want & why I do it makes it easier for me to adapt. super good video. great concepts & well delivered.

@ismaily.3479 4 года назад

Self-discipline is absolutely working. There are just two things we have to accept before starting to be self-disciplined: 1. 99% of your problems are caused by yourself! 2. Your time is limited!

@SnowflakeRainbows 4 года назад

Amazing video, I think this describes what I have been doing for the last weeks. I have in my past tried so many things, like really studying for Uni, working out/eating healthier and caring for mental health. I often failed and beat myself up like crazy, but just recently I adopted a new way of approaching things. Now I am going more by trial and error, finding out what works and what not. But hearing you made me feel so great, like I am on the right track, this keeps me going. Thank you so much, you found yourself a new subscriber!

@admirbarucija2018 4 года назад

I’m excited to hear your advice, your videos are always very helpful!! I hope you’re having a wonderful week so far 💜

@DOSEHOUSE.Entertainment 4 года назад

I actually found myself coming to the same conclusion about self discipline and habit forming, I've been looking everywhere for content like this, thank you! I couldn't put it into words, but it's something I've been trying to document. More people need to see your videos.