DIVORCE and falling OUT of LOVE in MARRIAGE & more with Tim Ross 

Say that!!!!

I agree with you and amen 🙏🏾

I totally agree with you about some people who don't want to hear this, which is the TRUTH. I love to Tim Ross because he tells the truth. ❤❤❤

divorce is so hard, forgive yourself and take it one day at a time

@abby999 Thank you @abby999. I've heard I should forgive myself. Maybe I don't know how to. It keeps getting back to how him and his mother got me in just to humiliate me and then reject me. It hurt so bad. Every day I tell myself I forgive them. Every single day. Thank you so much for the encouragement.

@@mabhuhadebe2397 you’re welcome🥰🫶sometimes in our mind we can forgive before our body actually lets the thing or person go. therapy has been helping me enormously. in fact my therapist has had me doing homework sheets on self forgiveness. it’s hard work but good work. i hope you find support similar to help you walk through this painful time-none of us can do it alone♥️

To fall in or out of love is to say love is simply a feeling. However, it’s a choice to desire TO DO for someone and TO DO on behalf of someone else even when they are not at their best or you are not at your best. But love is not a choice. It’s an act of the will accompanied by emotions led by actions on behalf of its object. So love is an action because you DESIRE TO DO for someone else. The question now is whose will is the statement referring to?

thats what happens the closer u get to jesus…as a human u can never be perfect on this earth however tim’s a wonderful example of walking with Him

That’s normal though. I just thought everyone knew that. Everyone I know that has been married for decades has gone through that. But their friendship, respect for one another, and God has kept them together. They always come back together. Sometimes it takes years. But the enemy is not your spouse. It’s your two against whatever is coming between you.

@@latoyaamb3r I thank you and wish there was a way to hit the like and dislike button because it was good to share and yes I know now that it’s not the spouse that we are fighting against it’s the spirit in that person at the time. I know and understand that the spouse doesn’t have that much power to upset or tear anything apart but the enemy knows the past hurts and triggers and uses those things to separate people however both parties have to understand that. I know that now and knowing that comes by and by however a lot of people are not aware of the God, enemy, stay and/ or come back together dance. Hurt people hurt people and when you are hurt you cannot see straight or wisely. However what I can say is that it’s important that both must or should marry someone that is their friend and there must be communication healthy and unlimited communication. how ever at the end of it all God will have His say and will get the glory because we know that all things work together for our good to those who are called. It’s always bigger than us.

It is wild but it’s not confusing. If God wanted us to be poly. He would have made 2 or 3 women for Adam. But he only made one.

He hit the lil Kim 😂

3 songs in 10 minutes 😂

Not true at all. Life be lifing for A LOT of people. That's life so there are things that happen that can cause people to "let themselves go". But as he said "there are seasons" in life. Get back to it together and encourage your partner and inspire them not berate them. Allow the seasons to happen and not give up. What was once young will get old and bodies change with children, stress, jobs, lifestyle, medical conditions etc.

its true AAAAAAND on the flip side, if you can't have love and patience while your beloved comes back into health and healing, then your vow wasn't a vow, it was a superficial commitment to vanity. I'm saying this 13 years in, after body issues and actually seeing more love at my heaviest etc, than when I was thin and beautiful ., still am beautiful, just different. and Now i get to freely walk back into health without the superficial expectation that i HAVE to do this for a spouse, but rather for my 9 and by conjunction, OUR) longevity... just sharing a real life experience.

Pray, cry, get counseling..do everythang. Speaking from someone who is divorced not by.my choice...it's super ghetto out here. Blessings

That’s normal. Sometimes you’re in love and he’s not. Sometimes he is and you’re not. Sometimes you both are in love. Sometimes you’re both not. Be friends. True friends. Life partners. It’s you two against the issues. Dont make each other the enemy. pray together and draw closer to God. Pray for God to cover yall and give you the fruit of the spirit that you still handle each other with care love respect patience kindness temperance during the seasons you’re not in love but still committed to loving each other no matter what. That’s the vows are for. For remembering your commitment even when you don’t feel like it.

Thank you for the words of encouragement. I truly appreciate it.🙏🏾

How long have you been in love with your spouse?

You’re wrong and it’s ok. Yes plenty of ppl get stuck in seeking infatuation instead of mature love or they chase intensity instead of intimacy. Some suffer from limerence etc. But to say certain people aren’t really in love because they have seasons of less romance less intense feelings doesn’t mean they aren’t in love with their partner. All emotions and feelings are fleeting but love is more than that it’s a commitment, duty, call to action, and essentially a discipline.

Bro I been saying this for years. I don’t think it’s possible to fall out of real love or people change after marriage. We just choose to Ignore certain red flags then say they changed when we married. No u ignored it thinking it would change in marriage. Find what u can tolerate. Yes I’m single but because it took me time to heal my wounds as a kid to grown man. I’ve only been in love once in high school and early 20’s. I never got tired of her. Nothing she did made me not love her. I just think it’s unfortunate that we will find real love multiple times in life but it may be possible.

@@jeffphillips6506 bro you’re describing infatuation/limerence and borderline idealization of the woman. “ nothing she ever did made me not love her “ everyone and I mean everyone has some habit or pattern that annoys you. Love is absolutely accepting the red flags in another love would also allow both of you to accept where y’all can grow to better the relationship. In the honeymoon stage which can last 3-5 years those unmet needs from childhood etc don’t necessarily show up but they also do after the dopamine drops back to baseline.

@@94ftoflogic_idr14 that’s the problem those childhood issues show up in the beginning if we listen and pay attention and not be so stuck on how she look or how much we like her. Listen with the spirit not the flesh. I’m one conversation if y’all talk an hr or so as a real man lead by God u will know right then if she’s someone u can build with. We just don’t listen. We always as men wanna lead so much that we over talk them and miss the red flags

hes black please

@@kyleychanel5574 so what we can use other words to address each other… words mean things

You make perfect sense but make sense of the fact the N word is now used a tool for us and a weapon for non-black people. I think when using the N word it doesn’t represent mental slavery for us anymore because we KNOW our history and struggles and victories and the N word is describing REAL feelings and honesty. Just like cussing is not good to say but it is not a factor or way of living, it’s a way making people understand you because unfortunately ppl don’t hear you unless you can relate to them about your frustrations and your points to describe tough feelings. It takes real work to cuss out someone without cussing and it take real effort to not use the N word among your black peers without connecting with them on a level that no one else can has personal access to. Other cultures have there slang/racial slurs towards EACHOTHER even though their history is rich. But you right. 🤷🏾‍♀️

Absolutely right! The word meaning hasn't changed, people have diluted it and grown accustomed to hearing it, but that does not change the meaning.

I agree!! Although we aren't perfect .. I don't agree with his language sometimes .

until you know jesus😂🙏🙏🙏

@@abby999 Yep he is the only one we can truly know