Y E S!! Same! My grandparents say that about my uncle because he's a stay at home dad, they call it babysitting like he didn't play a part in making his daughter. It's so irritating.
@@adelinewurzer4533 exactly. Thankfully he doesn’t think of it as babysitting. It might just be a generational thing because my grandparents are in their 80s and 70s and for them it’s not normal for the husband to stay at home while the wife works. 🤷🏼♀️
also he didnt because the stepmom picked them up from the hospital so the stepmom was the 1st person. He broke up his own promise. i wish that woman would have left with het mother in the mothers car (it says mom drove 4 hs) and divorce him right there
I am so sorry but fuck such people including your dad i guess. Fathers/parents rejecting any kind of emotional, parental responsibility regarding their children makes me rage SO hard. Sad to hear u had to go thru that. Hopefully ur other parent was reliable
I get what you mean, but at the same time no. As an actual single parent (dad not involved at all) she doesn’t have a 9-5 and have to do everything a stay at home mom does. I do. Single parents do. Is she better off without him? HELL YES. But please don’t minimize the extra work that comes as a single parent. Not trying to pick a fight. Just stating my point of view.
I’m actually livid over the second one. He’s the one that convinced her his family would be around to help, they weren’t. He’s the one who wasn’t their *for the birth of their child*. He seriously expected his wife to take care of their child *alone*, postpartum. This guy is actually the worst. And he had the nerve to call *her the selfish one*. Literally what on earth. Also his stepmom saw his child before he did and he isn’t talking about that. It’s so ridiculous. I hope she leaves him
Also the doctor, all the nurses, which could be a lot depending on how long she stayed since they mentioned a c-section. Sounds like he wanted to put her in a ridiculous impossible situation on purpose.
I have a feeling, with him admitting his stepmom and him weren't close, that he knew she wouldn't be helpful. I think that was a calculated move so new mom would be near a mental breakdown when he came home and would be the SAVIOR swooping in to make everything better and be so praiseworthy
The husband demanding an apology for the lady who asked her mom for post partum help is a controlling nightmare. Even if you leave every other part of the story out, even the baby, it is NOT okay for him to demand she stay away from her own mother just to please him. Adding in the actual situation triples the nightmare. It's a shame they have a kid together.
I know this is old… but something is off! First off he let his stepmom meet the baby before him? He had a work trip and stayed away longer? I say he was looking for a reason to be mad… I say it was not a work trip. He was cheating and came home acting like an ass because of what he did.
@@Nowaybozay I often don't recognize the signs of cheating until after people point them out to me. I think you're right. Regardless of what the truth is, I hope she got out.
@@terribleliterature also I think it’s so weird to ban her mother from being there. It’s almost a universal truth that the brith room order is husband, mom, and then mil. I love my husband but I want my mom there for me more than him. She’s done this before and sometimes even the best fathers can freak out during birth.
I am so afraid for the wife that had to move with her husband for his illness. He sounds soo controlling, selfish, and extremely immature. Hope she finds the strength to leave. He is an asshole.
One story doesn't dictate how a perosn is 99% of the time though and can also hope that he just gets help for the issues he obviously has. Divorce is messy and not nessisary for petty problems.
I don’t understand how someone needs to be so close to his family yet travels for work 🤨 I have a feeling this guy has another secret family in that town or near by.
@@squishy2368 so a story about a man telling his wife that she’s not able to receive support from her family (or anyone) after giving birth is not a huge red flag that’s extremely telling of someone’s character? This is not a small issue lol
@@jasminebarnes108 I never said it wasn't? Lmao I said he clearly needs help. and he was upset about something irrational sure. But during stressful times people can be irrational and judging anyone on their worst moment would lead to everyone getting a divorce and staying single lmao.
@@jasminebarnes108 the fact you're ready to judge people's entire character on a single moment in their life tells me you spend way too much time indulging in these stories and the echo chamber of comments full of people who need to touch some grass.
It's not weird to do a background check...it is weird to get married and go 3 years of marriage without saying anything about it. Even weirder to keep the information on your laptop for 3 years. And what did he find out that she didn't know and he never told her?
and the fact that he did background checks on her family members and some friends. I understand doing one on her but to have folders worth of compiled information about her and her family is kind of crazy.
@@theworkinghomemaker I think it's one of those situations where it's enough of a gray area that it's a NAH situation. Fine that he wanted to run the background check and fine that she feels betrayed after finding out years later.
For the bronco story, the part where yall said that 20 something thousand dollars is life altering for most people... I immediately thought about how I've been feeling stressed about spending maybe 700 dollars to fix the exhaust on my car. If 700 dollars is detrimental for me, I literally cannot imagine just tossing over 20k
The fact that the husband said the memory of his son was “tainted” because the wife’s mom saw it, but somehow didn’t find it a problem when the stepmom would see it and help her is huge red flag. It seems like he want so exclude her from her family
The cheating with the mother story is rage inducing for me. That level of betrayal from two of the most important people in my life would either crush me or it would legitimately be my villain origin story. I would do so much physical harm to my mom and husband upon finding that out.
Same. I would beat the living shit out of my mother and husband. I would honestly destroy anything I could of both of theirs, whether the items had value or not.
My mother taught me kindly: if I'm getting divorced, or plan to, immediately go to every divorce lawyer in the area for a consult. Sometimes they charge for consults, and that's fine, because once theyve spoken with you, they cannot legally represent your spouse.
Your spouse will immediately accuse you of conflicting out their access to legal counsel and whoever they end up hiring from out of state or whatever could prove you've attempted to conflict out and you may need to pay travel and associated costs of forcing your partner to hire out of state counsel. It also makes you look bad if they can prove it, (which they can)
I once had a man tell me I couldn’t go stay with my mom after I had major surgery. He was single not long after that too. Never let a man dictate when you get to see your mother.
Absolutely agree,my daughter wanted me in the delivery room she got me in the delivery room, although her partner was very supportive and did everything to help her, he's definitely a keeper
I can actually answer the tear vs cut question…we discussed this in my anatomy/physiology class for nursing. If you think about it on a microscopic level… if you cut through skin or tissue with scissors…you’re cutting cells clean in half, ignoring how they’re adhered to one another. But if you tear…the skin will tear in a pattern where the cells naturally want to separate from one another …leaving more cells intact over all. And it’s easier for two separate cells to re-approximate than for numerous singular cells sliced in half to mend. I don’t know if that makes sense. It just surprised me to hear you guys discussing something that so vividly stuck with me from that class. Weird
As a pregnant woman there is no way I would have agreed to that demand from him! Why does he get to dictate who her support person and postpartum helper?! I can understand him not wanting her to have the entire family over but she should have been the one to choose her own support person was! That’s absolutely ridiculous! F that guy!
same here. i’m currently pregnant and that’s completely ridiculous that he can deprive her of having her mom there and it’s not that serious, she needed help and that’s what’s more important and that guy is a bozo. i can understand him being sad because he couldn’t be there but honestly i would’ve confided in my family too for help if my husband couldn’t be there for me
The one part of the Bronco story that I haven't seen anyone else mention is the fact that he had the presence of mind to call his mom so she could bring the check to him for this car. He thought to call his mom but never thought to call his wife and discuss the situation with her. That is so messed up to me.
completely. shows in clear view who he considers for life decisions and personal stuff. like why wouldn't he call his wife to cry about the car and let out all that sentimental justification ? sounds like he just knew she wouldn't approve so he did the most spoiled mama's boy thing and did "in secret" while confiding with the one person he actually has some respect for, his mother. pretty freudian. therefore it didn't seem impulsive at all to me, it was a clear decision to only let her know when she couldn't do anything about it anymore.
The maternal grandparents should have set a 529 plan for the baby once the baby received a social security number. My parents gave my nephew some college money and my sister and her asshole ex husband put it in their account but asshole husband took it out and spent it on a car and his side piece. When my kids were born, my parents knew better and set the account up in the kids’ names with my parents as the trustees. If I were the wife, his stuff would be on the curb and the locks would have been changed. The Bronco would have a boot on it.
I love how he was worried about his memory being ruined but not his wife’s memory of the birth being tainted while taking on 100% of the responsibilities after going through birth
Redditor: “throwaway because I want to remain anonymous” Also Redditor: “Here is my gender, my age, my wife’s age, the number of kids I have as well as their ages, a detailed description of a very unique circumstance, the address to my house, my social security number, and my mother’s maiden name.”
I mean all the names are fake. If you did know someone close enough to know the exact situation then yeah you'll notice. A lot of reddit posts have been found by the partners or whoever is mentioned in the story. That being said it's not like the average joe will be able to track someone down based on a fake name, age, gender and marital issues.
I feel like there's a difference between a standard background check to make sure someone is who they say they are and keeping a folder full of information on your wife for 3 years with information that *she* didn't even know.
EXACTLY!!! I can't get over how easily they brushed over that it's so alarming you'd think he'd delete those folders since they've been together for long enough and he knows exactly who she is. Nope he's probably still updating them 💀
Yeah, also they keep saying like “if I was going on a date” but he did it before they got married???? Maybe she phrased it weird by accident but that makes it sound like they had already been dating and then he did a background check when he’d proposed
Idk i think the husband was smart to do this and more people should do background checks on the people and family they're marrying into. The part where she gets mad about finding stuff she didnt even know about makes no sense, id be happy he did that and i'd want to know everything he found out that i didnt know about. The only thing id be mad about is him keeping it secret for this long. I would've wanted him to share all his findings as soon as we became official and long term and Is maybe even ask for updates on other things that may come up.
The worst thing about Bronco guy is he stole from his baby and then found a solution that involved taking some money from his sister's total inheritance.
@@abbystarheart1 he said that it's coming from both of their inheritances. if it wasn't coming from her inheritance too, why bring her inheritance up in the first place?
Sarah- people got mad at me last time because I was too violent so I'll try to soften it also Sarah- that man should be tied to a fence. 😂 🤣 I love her!!
The part of the Bronco story that pushed me to “asshole” definitively was that he used the money his wife’s parents gave them specifically for the purpose of a college fund for their daughter without any permission. That is messed up. If it was his savings that’s one thing, but it wasn’t. It was intended for his daughter as a GIFT from someone else. Absolute asshole.
What pushed me to asshole is how he talk about the car. I understand it’s sentimental and a close part of him and his dad, but it means EVERYTHING to him, the LITERAL meaning of HAPPINESS?? He definitely values this car over his family and it won’t change. He will continue to funnel money to the car and put college savings to the side…
@@chantalreneehayles7976 how is stealing money from his daughter and mother and father-in-law justified because he wanted to repurchase the car HE sold in the name of his passed father??
What if the daughter doesn't want to go to college?! We can't know the future for sure I'm sure most of us would do anything to get a memory back from our love ones we lost
My dad was a car salesman his entire life. I watched him sell cars everyday and he taught me every trick in the book so that one day I could buy my own car with out being taken advantage of. The old “someone’s on their way with cash” is such bullshit and I can’t believe he fell for it! If you want to figure out if a sales person is lying- ASK FOLLOW UP QUESTIONS. “Who is coming” “from where” “can you call them” “did they sign intention paperwork?” Even good lairs can be tripped up if you ask enough questions.
@@alybanana415 I mean neither do I but the most I paid for a car was like $11,000+ But I did a check I wanted the paperwork plus I'm a hella short there's no way I would feel safe walking around with anything more than a couple of $100
For 2nd story: My ex was this way. I was in the hospital while pregnant and a nurse came in to give me medicine and check my vitals. The nurse woke him up and boy did I pay for it! Don't put up with a shitty partner during pregnancy and postpartum. If they can't be decent during that time, they never will! Save yourself some time and leave ASAP it's gonna happen one day anyway.
My sons dad literally cheated on me the night I had to go into a mental health hospital due to severe postnatal depression, the girl knew me and it wasn't even hidden but he still denied it,did I leave,nope didn't have the strength at the time but I did leave in the end and he was gutted cos he didn't think I'd ever do it,he told everyone I was the cheat ,whatever meet my husband been married 20yrs,don't regret I got my amazing son ,shocking he was a awful dad and my son has no contact with him
sarah has the most insightful take on these stories . when they pointed out the hypocrisy of not understanding when someone needs help, it really shows how much they can look at the big picture & find its incongruity. please bring sarah back as much as possible!!!
Story #2- first off, I would be livid if my husband agreed to go on a work trip close to my due date, but to then have him be MAD that I asked for help and say that I was the one to ruin the birth, when HE was the one who wasn’t there… ooooh I’d be raging.
My husband missed his grandmother's funeral because he refused to leave the week I was due to give birth. I felt horrible for him, but it was our 1st born and he refused to miss it!
Fuck, those siblings saving up for their little brother to go to college makes me want to cry because it’s so pure. They’re so genuinely kind. The fact that they kept it under wraps for so long because they feared if an emergency popped up they’d withdrawal money and never replace it 🥲. He is SO right and moral. The siblings absolutely should give it all to the brother for college. The little brother will ALWAYS remember that they worked so hard to give him a better life and WHEN (not IF) he is successful post college he will make sure to take care of his whole family. Education is such a huge gift you can give someone and I think they know whether or not their brother is worth investing in. Clearly he is.
Yes!! They saved the money for so long, and only for the brothers college. They were struggling themselves but never turned to that money since it was for the brother. They shouldn't use it for themselves now that the wife wants it, it was never saved for her. They want to help and support their brother, they saved the money to allow him to go to college for at least one year, obviously they want it to go to them, so it should go to him.
Does anyone else think it's so weird that the chronically conditioned husband conveniently left during the week of the baby's birth? What condition does he have where he HAS to stay in his hometown for medical reasons but can travel for two weeks? That and the deal they made about the birth is confusing and a little suspicious.
about the car thing: a lot of people forget that having kids means sacrifice. it sucks, but sometimes you absolutely should be putting aside things that you want or want to do in order to provide for your child better.
this was my thought exactly!! my husband bought a dream car of his while we were dating and a few months later we had an opportunity to buy a house but only if he sold the car and he freaking sold it without batting an eye cause he knew what was important
@@brennahudson3756 Please give your husband my silent applause. Many people do not realize that romantic relationships and a child mean that it is never an I anymore when it comes to money. That you have to do what is best for the unit.
Maybe I’m very biased because of my circumstance but my dad passed almost a year ago and I would do anything to be able to get sentimental things back. It’s also a way to teach my children about their grandfather. Having a physical representation of the memories I’ll be able to share. This is not to say that I also think he’s wrong for not talking to his wife about it before making an impulse decision and working it out before hand. Maybe even setting up a way to pay it back.
Exactly. This has nothing to do with the actual dildo and Absolutely everything to do with his assumption it means he’s not good in bed. And by his attitude I think we can take a guess this assumption is correct.
🤣 I was scrolling for this comment cause if I didnt find it in was gonna post it🤣🤣 cause my first thought initially was its a gag gift for someone else. Then when he threw his fit in was like or nvrmind its hers🤣
I work at a toy store and I say this all the time to people who are worried about their partner's reaction -- if their body part did what most of these toys do, they should go see a doctor. It's not a competition, it's not even the same sport.
The 2nd story…sounds like he’s trying to convince her she betrayed his trust so that when she catches him cheating or something she’ll feel less like a victim and more to blame. There’s more to it
I NEED more Sarah!!!! We be the kind of woman that when your feet hit the floor in the morning the devil says "O SHIT SHES UP!". Im here for the violence her random one liners she pulls out the air are funny as hell 😂😂❤❤
It’s not just that newborns are hard at first… she just had a serious medical procedure and is healing! She is bleeding and may have tearing. Also, I didn’t sleep at all for the 3 days of labor and then came home and a newborn won’t sleep at all. Going it alone would be BRUTAL.
Mom times 3 over here. Not only brutal, but dangerous. Sleep deprivation is real and people have done some awful things while experiencing it. The wife needed help and he should be kissing the ground his mother in law walks on to coming to his wife’s aid in her time of need, since he failed to do so. I hope she leaves him, what a huge red flag.
the first 6 months of a child are scary for them because everything is new and different from the time they spent in the womb so every day they're going through a hard time getting used to life that's why they cry a lot especially at night and the first few days are the worst and of course a narcissistic manchild who can't live without his family but can travel for work wouldn't understand what the mother and the baby are going through
honestly for me is like someone said in another comment this man has another family in another city and that's the reason he made her move to his city and spent so many days out of town even tho he "can't" live without his family
I’m currently 1.5 weeks postpartum from a C-section. I’m recovering really well but even with how well I’m doing, I can’t imagine doing it without my support system. I hope she left him.
@@dnrainwater honestly, when they said it wasn’t physical abuse, I thought yes it is, at least indirectly. He might not be hitting her, but pressuring her to raise a newborn alone after a c-section puts stress on her recovering body.
most people when bringing up the blood is thicker than water thing: “actually the full quote is….” sarah: “viscosity is not what family is about” the take we all needed 👏🏻👏🏻
Does anyone else think that the dad not wanting to “babysit” his own daughter probably bought tickets for both his wife and daughter to possibly be able to cheat on her?
Or at the very least he's sending them on "vacation" so he can have an actual vacation. The audacity to "assume she was taking our daughter with her"🤯 on a VACATION to relax and reconnect with people she hasn't seen in forever???
Referencing the college fund one: So his daughter is only 6 months old therefore doesn’t need a college fund but the 6 month old needs a Ford Bronco to bond with their dad over? Make it make sense.
The AUDACITY of the man getting mad at her for calling her mom. That man should have been on his hands and knees begging for forgiveness for missing the birth. and he comes in a flips shit on her? excuse me tf.
As a child of divorce, I highly recommend getting one if you’re in a toxic relationship. Your kids will do better and as a parent you will do better. Not to say divorce didn’t fk me up, it did, but that was because I had immature parents (they were young) who handled it badly and back in my day, divorce was so taboo. Things are different now. I’m so so glad my parents divorced. My step dad is like my dad and my bio dad and step dad are great friends, he comes to all our family events and even joining us all for Christmas. Plus every year, all my parents and all the kids from all the marriages have Easter together. We’re one big happy mixed family. My step mum was a monster, but dad ditched her years ago, so all good there.
My mom and dad divorced years ago when I was really young and it was straight up the best thing that could have happened to their relationship. They're friendly to each other now and content with their own lives and current situations. It was hard in the beginning but once you have that "oh my parents are just regular people" epiphany as a young tween or teenager it becomes way less of a huge deal : o
Agreed! My parents divorced when I was a kid and it was the best thing that had ever happened to me. Their fighting messed me up way more than their splitting up ever did.
In abusive relationship for many years! I didn’t date for 8 years because I needed to get therapy and heal. Finally, met a seemingly nice guy online and we talked for 2 weeks. He asked me out on date and prior to going I google searched him to make sure he was divorced and did a state case search to see if he had any criminal charges. We’ve been together for 3 years. I told him I had done this a few months in and he said he completely understood and made a joke about me cyberstalking or something 😅
@@adriana27100 in my state you type in the mane of the state Maryland case search and court records come up. You have know the first and last name. It will tell you the date of offense, type of offense and status. It’s public record. You can also check an address for registered sex offenders in the area.
the bronco story has me HEATED it’s one thing to use your own money and clear out your own bank account but to use money your wife’s parents gave you for a college fund for your child ???? for a truck… when your wife already discussed wanting to be a stay at home mom because she was unhappy with the daycare your child was in… how selfish can you be
To take your child’s money that was a gift…. I don’t know how someone could be so selfish. That’s like a wife taking the child’s money for plastic surgery… unless you’re waiting on some big check that you know you’ll be getting soon and can replace the money, then I could possibly understand the logic behind that….
Not only did he miss the birth of his child- IT WAS THEIR FIRST. This whole story is mind boggling to me. The husband is the complete and total asshole. This is a huge red flag, leave him.
One random day my husband told me he had a surprise for me. We got in the car, drove to a sex shop and he told me to buy what ever toy I wanted. It didn't matter how expensive because he had just gotten his Christmas bonus. While we were in line to pay he told me he was getting chubbed up from thinking about my using it. TEAM WORK MAKES THE DREAM WORK.
For the post about the guy gifting his wife a trip to Italy, there was a really good comment on the reddit post that stuck with me. It was something like "you just bought yourself a present and passed it off as a gift for for your wife".
He could go out of town for a work trip RIGHT BEFORE his son was born??? AND he has a chronic illness that he needs to be near his family but can leave for 2 weeks with no help?
The sex toy one - I believe that he doesn't know why it made him angry, cause the real cause is likely that he's insecure about his size and/or technique, but realizing that would require some honest self refection and it's clearly not his forte. The kids are an easy emotional scapegoat and excuse for him to latch onto - and yeah, his reaction definitely makes him the one that needs to grow up. Also, the only thing that'll emotionally scar the kids if they do find it, is the parents reaction. Act cool and the kids wont know a thing. Act like it's a big deal and you'll make it one.
He's jealous and hurt that she needs it, thinking that she can't get off without help but a lot of happily married couples introduce toys. If she was planning to substitute him with it, she'd likely hide the thing.
To be fair: I'm all for sex toys, but when my fiancé and I were going through a dry spell after having our child I found one of those rubber vaginas hidden in two boxes and wrapped in a microfiber cloth in a closet. I was devastated because every time I brought up sex it was me pressuring him, but he was using that. Definitely wasn't my teammate, and I felt pretty betrayed.
@@clarissathompson0103 completely agree hun!!! I've had that happen to me as well, but I've been in quite a few unhealthy relationships. . Been told I'm too unattractive to fuck... I'm 5'0, I weighed 140 back then and I got breast implants at 20, I'm 34 now and I fully get I was in extremely unhealthy relationships that destroyed my self esteem. In a healthy relationship, if both are aware and including sex toys that's fine, but if it's hidden, you do feel extremely betrayed and like your not enough for them. Idk.. I get it tho hun, best wishes to you and yours.
Exactly this I’d be like well I hope there’s no alcohol,drugs, gun etc in the house because these too are inappropriate to have in the house with children
I am a mom of 3 and I can say that my vibrator has never interfered with my motherly duties. My husband actually bought it for me and enjoys using it with me in our foreplay. He’s also never mentioned the vibrator to his mom or mine. My siblings did find the dildo once when they were at my place, because I left it laying out, and my sister hid it from my dad (it was in box) because she’s the true MVP!
The bronco story... My grandpa put 20k into a college fund for my siblings and I. We were always told that we'd get it when we turned 18. My oldest brother got his and spent it on whatever he wanted. When I was 16 my mom said that we needed to put our money that my grandpa saved for us towards property that she wanted. It was on 9 acres. Her plan was to buy it, "give" us each 2 acres and we would all build houses on it and live together. I never wanted to live there but she took my money without my consent. I also never got the land that she promised me. She said since I never cared about it, that she was only going to deed the land to my brothers and not me. Anytime I'd ask her about my portion that went into it, she'd say that I didn't even put that much into it because my money had "depreciated". Anyway, fast forward to a couple months ago my dad finally told me the truth. He and my mom convinced my grandma (my grandpa had passed away by this time) to send the 20k to them so they could have it in the bank where they were so they could distribute it to us when we came of age. My dad told me that they took all of the money and bought a timeshare with it. I remember them going on vacations, but I never knew how they were able to afford it. After they got out of the timeshare, they bought the property with what was left and then got a loan for the rest.
I think the weirdest shit about the background check is that extended family and childhood friends were included to the extent that the op found out shit she never knew. It definitely is not some "googling and digging" as you guys made it out to be.
Exactly! Also the fact he never told her about it. That would piss me off so much like fine do a background check if need be but leave my friends out of it like tf?? And then to not tell me??? And then to keep all of it stored on his computer for who knows how long????? Major red flag
yes but some of you guys are literally stalking people you just have interest in online and that is weird. not to mention she literally snooped around on his laptop after he let her use it. that too is a violation of privacy, is it not?
@@mewcery are you okay? Looking at what people willingly put out on public social media pages is never going to be the same as doing an intense background check alsp who is this some of u, wtf?
@@hekimeti1614 im fine, thanks for asking. Can you imagine finding out that your so was involved in criminal activity in the past and conveniently forgot to tell you. whilst i fully acknowledge that internet stalking and carrying out an intense backround check are two different things. i guarantee you that if you gave someone the opportunity to find things, that their partner hadn't shared, out about their so, they would want to. people want to make sure they have found the right person. so you can backtrack and stick that 'wtf?' up your ass. this 'some of you' are the people who do exactly what i described. how slow can someone be?
The story about the woman’s husband who slept with her mom is absolutely disgusting im legit going to vomit imagine doing something so awful knowing it would completely destroy someone just bc ur that selfish
the cognitive dissonance among men that downplay their wives being homemakers and then moan about taking on parental duties because the Thought of doing their wive’s job is daunting to them. they know they could never do it but act like its beneath them to get themselves off the hook.
Not only a c section, I had an episiotomy & i was mostly immobile for 3 weeks & couldn't drive for 4. My husband was home & we still needed extra help. There's no way she can do it alone. He's abusive
23k for an old beat up car?! There may be sentimental value for him but that’s absurd. AND he stole the money given to them by his ILs and maxed out a credit card which is debt his wife is stuck with too.
my thing about the background check one is that it wasnt only her he ran the check against. it was also her entire family and friends. that is too much. she didn’t even know some of those things and he never told her he ran it on anyone at all in their three years of marriage. not really grounds for divorce but still a little fucked up
I thought that was super strange as well! In my opinion he wanted a way out of the relationship and couldn't find anything when he went digging... Also isn't it expensive for all those background checks?!
@@cassninetyfour1238 I don't think they're very pricy because so many companies do then sure they have a budget for them but given that it sounded like OP’s SO’s family was possibly well off if not full stop rich
Unfortunately he hid it and didn't share the fact that he did a background check so I wouldn't wanna be with a person that I can't trust 🚶its dramatic but fr he was not planning on ever talking about it ever 💀💀
Setting the scene for the Bronco story, imagine you're the wife at home caring for your daughter who you love very much, and your husband pulls into the driveway in a rickety old truck all excited, you're probably in shock and ask how he bought it and he goes "don't be mad, I used the college fund" I would be in a jail cell 😀 Not actually but like, I can just IMAGINE the rage the wife must have felt, and things like finances can be so fickle, what if they don't earn the fund back and you have to explain to your daughter that she's not going to college because daddy bought a very special car like, YATA!
What if she doesn’t want to go to college ? 🤷🏻♀️ they’re going to make memories fixing the truck ! I made memories with my dad helping him with tools and holding the light and after that we would get some snacks ! You never know what’s going to happen in the future she can become a stripper or go to college but college isn’t important in my opinion it’s waist of money. Some places will accept you if you have experience! Rickety old truck ? Pshh you don’t know your trucks or cars then. 😂
@@alexalopez6518 what you’re not realizing is that while it may be labeled a “college fund” that doesnt mean it HAS to be for college, if she doesn’t go to college the money is still FOR HER, it could be used for a down payment on a house for example or something. despite the name its a fund for the DAUGHTER’S FUTURE, a gift from SOMEBODY ELSE. that’s the kid’s money given to her by the wife’s family, his hand is NOT supposed to be ANYWHERE NEAR that cookie jar. not his money to blow on a truck for sentimental reasons
@@alexc4stroo you can get that money fast 😂 he can pass that truck to her later on ! Y’all are too fucking sensitive ! She’s still a fucking baby who doesn’t understand at all ! Money can be replaced fast anyways ! Y’all act like she can’t become a millionaire or a stripper !
@@alexalopez6518 it’s the principle of it. it is, at the end of the day NOT. HIS. MONEY. you can’t just take someone else’s property or money with the excuse they can “make it back quickly”. this is $23,000 we’re talking about, there’s people living in the US that dont make that much in a year. It’s not just “money you make back” this could put people in debt for years, ruin credit scores, and wreck their finances for life. You’re clearly a 12 year old who has no concept of money and financial responsibility. This was not his choice to make, and giving her an old shitbox instead of an education could really hurt her future if that was her path, and even if it wasn’t, that money was hers.
First story: sounds like he is trying to isolate the wife. Moved her 4 hrs from family and friends...how chronic is his illness ? He can travel for 7 days alone and is fine. If it was so bad, why is he working a job that requires traveling so much....
First of all husband is definitely the asshole no discussion. Denying her support after a birth is so ratchet. And for me it also sounds like he’s trying to isolate her. That being said, I want to point out that most chronic health issues come in episodes and don’t make you need help every day. I’m living with an auto immune disease and most of the time I live a totally normal life. But every now and then I have really bad flare ups. I also moved closer to my family again to have somebody I can ask for help without being ashamed. It’s difficult to be an adult who sometimes can’t even buy their own groceries or clean their home. Especially when you’re young people can be sooo judgmental so it’s important to have people you feel save around. And I really like my in-laws but I still prefer to have my own parents around when I’m at my worst. To put it in a nutshell, please don’t ask how bad can your illness really be just because someone has a good episode and eg can go on a business trip. Again not advocating for him here, but chronically ill people in general! :)
I totally agree with Sara on the 3rd story. While I do have sympathy for him, dude stole over a thousand dollars from his infant child to assuage his misplaced guilt/grief over his own father’s death. And then instead of calling his wife to even let her know what he was doing, he called his mommy to bring him the check. Shitty move asshole.
1:18:57 Love that Sarah said "Blood is thicker than water" cause people don't know that the actual saying is "The Blood of the Covenant is thicker than the Water of the Womb." which means exactly what she's been saying about chosen family and finding the people who love and respect you for you
As my nurse said after my c section when I was in pain and trying to do something I shouldn't "this is the only major surgery where you then have to then take care of something, you're going to need extra help"
The story of the husband cheating on OP with her mother literally turns my stomach. I’m not a counselor, but I did my undergrad in psychology because I originally intended to go that route. In my opinion, the mother sounds extremely immature, and is likely a teenager emotionally. I think her flirting with OP’s boyfriends and sleeping with her daughter’s (at the time) fiancé is probably her competing with her daughter. She’s most likely jealous of her youth and insecure about her own desirability. She may even resent that she had OP, and/or lacks the ability to put her child first. Good chance she has a personality disorder (borderline or narcissism).
Did the guy who didn’t want to “babysit” his own kid because he didn’t want to take time off from work not consider finding a daytime daycare for a week? I’m sure he has at least one coworker who has a kid in daycare, and if it’s a big enough company they might even have a daycare already??? Like there were solutions! He just doesn’t wanna be a dad!
I thought it honestly seemed to me like he wanted a week of the house to himself than anything if he's that resistant on watching his own damn kid, yikes 😬😂
I know exactly what Morgan is talking about with having symptoms so long after Covid. I got covid in late feb 2020 and the initial stuff wasn’t so bad but a few weeks later my heart rate started jumping everywhere, I stopped feeling thirsty at all, it took so much energy to walk up the stairs and food started tasting different. The booster helped me a lot so I’m glad other people are getting better too! /gen
Oh my goodness same!!! Prior to Covid I could hold my breath for 3 minutes and now I’m gasping for air by the 45 second mark! I only had 2 horrible days when I got it in February 2021 but man, even my taste hasn’t fully comeback. Watermelon and cucumber which has barely any taste has NO flavor for me!!! Also meat tastes like straight up iron even when it’s fully cooked🥲
@@TwoHotTakes I only got 2 doses, the 1st one hurt the most. The 2nd one took a while to hit, so when it did it hit like a truck. Fevers and overall horrible feelings all around.
My mom's good friend is on disability now after catching Covid during the initial outbreak last March. She had no underlying illnesses. This thing is no joke guys.
Im still filling like shit AND i had it in octubre 2020, it mainly affected my entire digestive system and the liver took the worst part, i was so confuse about it AND later found out about alot of cases that end up like that or worse
For the second story I am convinced the husband is cheating and that’s why he was gone. Also, when I had my second and third babies there was a chance my husband wouldn’t be able to make it due to the fact he worked away so we made plans for if he couldn’t be there. Also, the second I started having labour pains, he jumped in his truck and drove the 2 hours to get to me because that was the most important thing at that time.
WAIT OKAY FUN FACT FOR SARAH! The full quote is actually “the blood of the coven is thicker than the water of the womb”, so the saying is actually originally meant to say that the bonds you choose are stronger than the bonds of blood!
concerning the first story, i feel like you guys are forgetting this dude had a literal folder filled with documents about his wife, her family, and the people she surrounds herself with and had so much information that his wife didn’t know some of the things he had on his family. there’s def a difference between a background check and borderline stalking someone
Please keep hosting Sarah! Oh my gosh she is so funny, and I relate to her so much! Also her speaking about chosen family just made me feel so less alone. I'm in a straight, interfaith relationship and my family has completely rejected me since the beginning of it. It's been nearly two years, I love my partner but am continually heart broken by my families rejection.
My friend had a C-section and it took her over a week to even get out of bed I couldn't imagine her not having help with the baby while going through that.
This second guy for sure is a narcissist…. He’s obsessed w the newborn, which would be normal in other situations, but accounting for the control and the promise and everything else…. Narcissists see their children as an extension of themselves. Speaking as a child of a narcissist.
story #2 is crazy. he will be super abusive in the future for sure. also, even if the stepmom was super helpful, what new mom would prefer that over her own mom's help??
Hella red flags. Like get out now and take that baby and go live with the mom. That guy is a pos, and a bad parent!!! What kind of man leaves his wife while she gives birth!
In Wisconsin, we have something called CCAP where we can look up someone via name and birthday to see their crime history. I used this when i was actively on dating apps and avoided some guys who have stalking / assault charges, pending criminal charges, etc etc. Background checks are great.
The story about the mom and the baby... I can understand to an extent how awful it would feel to know other people met your child before you, because I was in a similar situation. When I gave birth to my 1st child, there were some complications, and she had to immediately be rushed to the NICU, so my husband went with her. My mom went in later that evening, as well as my sister to be with her. 2 of my uncles also put their hands on her that night, to give her a blessing 🙏 (I'm not religious, but spiritual, and it was comforting) anyway, other than hospital staff, at least 5 family members got to meet, and or gold her before I even laid eyes on her. I don't resent them AT ALL, and in fact am very grateful that she had so much support when she needed it. But, it was also heartbreaking 💔 what made it worse was my husband sent out a picture of her in the scale, with her stats (which I approved) to his mom, 3 aunts, and grandpa. One of his aunts thought it would be appropriate to POST THE PICTURE ON FACEBOOK! Before I even held my daughter...... But anyway, this story is different in the sense that her husband is completely hypocritical and selfish. I have no doubt that if the tables were turned he would be seeking help from anyone and everyone. The fact that he can't extend that courtesy to his wife is fucking gross
Shoutout to Sarah for normalizing Chosen Families 🙌 I've struggled with trying to "fit in" and be accepted by my blood family my entire life, and once I let go and embraced having a Chosen Family instead, I was able to have so much more love in my life❤
