Divorce Update Video, Starting My Life Over After Divorce! 

As a man, I can say for sure, there are a thousand men out there who would worship the ground this beauty walks on.

"Hurt people don't have to hurt people; hurt people can help people." What a beautiful message. thank you for sharing with us

You helped me so much. At my lowest points living with a abusive boyfriend I watched your clips to get strengh to leave. 6 months later Im free after 17 years of abuse. For anyone afraid of leaving there is hope and yes things will get better!

Don’t worry, he may have the recipe and things you taught him, but YOU have the true magic touch , with the right re branding and packaging , you can make an even better candle business , don’t let that man stop you

Dancing and singing are overrated ; being a loving caring person is underappreciated.

When able, go back to YOUR candle making! Don't let his deceitful actions slow you down any longer. Do it because you enjoy it and the rest will follow. Let us know when you start making them. I will definitely purchase from YOU! You can do it! God bless you!

The best piece of advice my father gave me: “always be able to take care of yourself”. It’s good that you’re able to move on and that you will be able to take care of yourself.

I so feel for you as I’ve been through divorce twice and each time I’ve had to start over from scratch. I’m 63 now, single and never plan to re-marry because not only is divorce devastating to your emotional state of mind it is very financial devastating. Thank you for sharing your story, it means a lot.

The fact that he stole your ideas is really a testament to YOUR talent. It sounds to me like he was holding you back from your full potential all along.

When I went through betrayal, my pastor told me to make a list of what I wanted in a husband and to accept nothing less. It was a great exercise and I now have my perfect soulmate. Take your time and don't settle for anything less.

Not all storms come to disrupt your life,some come to clear your path.Be strong and be the person you were meant to be.Big hug from UK 💗

I accidentally stumbled across your channel, and it caught my eye, because over the last couple of years, my husband of 23 years and I have been having lots of marital problems. My only son took his own life (my husband was his stepfather) and as you can imagine, it decimated our entire family...all of us are changed as a result of this horrific tragedy, whether we wish to be or not. Our marriage has never been the same, so I'm also struggling with the fear of more major loss if we don't make it. He won't go to counseling with me. I have done some on my own, but without much result. And my beautiful mom died 2 months ago. But something in your face and manner was so calm and soothing. As I listened to you tell your story, the grace and class in the way you speak, and share with your viewers made me feel as though that is how I'D like to be, even if for now everything seems so filled with grief, uncertainty, and anxiety. So I subscribed to your channel. I look forward to your next video. My heart is with you, woman to woman, in what you're going through. The world seems as if it is just too hard to live in sometimes. Warmly, Lin in Montana

Girl! You are stunning. 49 looks great on you. I can only hope to look that good in 6 years. 😳

Stop calling him your husband. 🛑 he is your EX husband.

I'm new at this. Divorced from the love of my life for 5 months now and so encouraged by your story. Still wounded and bleeding but I pursue wholeness every day. This is the hardest thing I've ever gone through.

Honestly you look 21 I’m not even kidding, you are blessed!

Start selling you candles again. Create a new brand. Start on Etsy.

He’s a horrible human PERIOD! You’re so blessed to be done with him

"God, grant me the serenity to accept things I can't change (people), the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference"...

My wife was thrown in the trash after 25: years of marriage..She forgave him before we got married. We had a wonderful marriage. She died on Jan 1 of this year. I miss her so much.

I accidentally ran into this. I decided to watch. As you were speaking, I prayed and prayed for you.

Don’t call him your husband anymore, call him your ex.

You mentioned something that I taught my daughter years ago... You must be able to support yourself at all times because you never know what might happen. I'm so sorry for what happened to you. I hope you can continue to put the pieces back together again. You are much too nice a person to have had this happen to you. God bless you.

What a gift you are sharing with your subscribers. I found your first story at the end of your separation and I’m starting at the first now. I’m 62 and have been married for 44 years. I’m disabled and am in a wheelchair mostly from severe scoliosis and we should all listo the wonderful message that you are sharing with us. We all need to be knowledgeable about money and money matters so this might not happen to any of us. I pretty much depend on my husband for a lot of things but I have my own money but I’m definitely going to be more proactive in my life this year. I’m taking your advice that it’s never to late to start taking a active part in our lives and with all your sweet and useful videos I’m sure you’re going to be a great help in all our lives, thank you sweet friend for this gift, hugs and kisses 💕🌸

Listen, build your channel. Keep doing what you're doing. Your transparency (your gifts) will make room for you.

Your old video discarded after 25 years showed up as recommended today so I watched it. Mostly because I wanted a woman's perspective. My wife threw me under the bus 4 years ago this coming March. It did indeed turn out to be the best thing that could have happened. My story is a bit different as we had kids late so I have a 10 yo & a 16 yo. Both have horrible trouble with their mother. You are absolutely correct when you say there is no justice. I notice when I watch a woman describing her story most commenters are women & when men tell their story most commenters are men. I suppose that's natural as we listen to whom we can relate to but it makes me wonder if there are any sane people left & if so where are they? Glad your getting back in touch with yourself 🍻 here's to your continued success.

I'm an older woman and the one thing I did learn from past relationships is that you should always keep a secret stash of money where no one will find it, just in case. Hopefully you will never have to use it, consider it an emergency fund for whatever life puts at you (insurance that you can put your hands on... just keep it in a fireproof container somewhere very safe from others finding it). I am so glad to hear that you are moving on, consider it a great thing that he left. Not go and make candles, I would love to buy some!

“Hurt people don’t have to hurt people, hurt people can help people.”

I'm 29. Never been married but I plan to be one day. Your initial video about your divorce randomly popped up in my feed and I really appreciate your transparency. Soo glad to see you're doing well.

Many criminals find God when they are near their demise.

Never make the mistake of depending on a man for your happiness. It comes from within

I’m 49 and single after 17 years and I’ve stayed alone for 4 years now thinking that I should spend my time solely with my two sons who are 11&15 years old and seeing how she only lets me have every other weekend during the school year and 50/50 during the summer, which is nice. I just think I shouldn’t spend my attention on someone else when these kids grow up so fast today and I want every second I can have with them to not be trying to have another relationship getting in the way of that, hopefully that makes sense, I’m not sure how else to word it I guess! But anyway as time goes on here during the time that they aren’t around it’s getting harder and harder to be alone which didn’t really bother me for a long time, but it is now & I suppose it doesn’t help that I’m retired now so I don’t have the normal relationships from work to help keep my mind busy either and most of my friends are still working so it gets pretty boring to do things alone all of the time so I find myself getting a rut! Covid-19 doesn’t help matters either but I do try to get out and do some things but I’ve always liked being around people and it just seems harder now. Enough rambling! Anyway you sure look great for our age🤣👍 much better than I’ve weathered!!🤣🤣take care 😁

💕Love “hurt people don’t have to hurt people” 💕 You’re a kind person. How wonderful to know that you have not allowed your ex to continue damaging you. You will arise more & better with God’s strength.

Just because he made candles doesn’t mean you can’t make better, more fabulous candles made with love & creative passion! His candles are made with spite so hopefully they won’t sell,😉

You give me hope for women like myself who are starting over in our late forties. I was never married and no kids but I was in a long term on again off again relationship for most of my twenties and all of my thirties that ended in heartbreak and rejection from them and a few others after that ended in rejection from them. I have had a lot of rejection from a lot of people in my life since I was a kid even in my family. Please keep making videos and updates on how you heal and grow from this. I’m still hoping for marriage at 47

I love that, "Take out the trash and keep going"! Thank you for sharing your loss and recovering; I'm going through something too and your two video's really helped me.

I was hoping that you would upload an update soon and here it is! I have to comment before even watching because I need to say this: Your video where you told your story popped up in my recommended this week and my heart just ached listening to you. I have dealt with pain, abuse, and heartbreak on many levels and revcovering from something like that is not easy at all even once you are no longer in the situation. I cannot imagine going through all that you have had to go through. I wish you the best in your journey of healing and starting over. I know great things are in your future, stay strong love. Sending hugs, 2021 is your year :) Edit: Just finished watching. I'm so sorry about your business and how you gave up what you love to support him only to have him steal your idea later. The fact that you are even able to wish him well and compliment his artistic abilities and not be nasty towards him in return is just a testament to your wonderful character and genuine spirit. I'm so happy you were able to find a full-time job and I know God will continue to bless and protect you.

You're making great progress, and something is seriously wrong with a man who leaves a woman like you who has integrity, is smart, sensitive and beautiful. You did good losing that idiot.

Thank you for being vulnerable and choosing to share your story, helping others. 🥰

Happy New Year to you and Happy Birthday!! You look great!! Thanks again for sharing your story. You are an inspiration to me knowing that I'm not the only one who's been through divorce being married 29 years. It really can wreck your life. We have to learn to start all over. Thanks again! 💜

I’m so glad to have discovered your channel. We have a lot in common. I’m currently separated from my husband and headed for divorce. My husband is severely mentally ill and life is hard. I’m in my forties also and I’m trying to make the best of it and raise my kids with a positive attitude. I also have a RU-vid channel trying to help people. I think you are an amazing woman and I send you so much love and support. Thank you for your bravery and encouragement. God bless you. ❤️

Your ex def sounds like a narcissist. They change there personalities for each person.

Happy belated birthday! I was waiting for an update. Intrigued after finding channel. Happy to see you doing well and feeling good

Jennifer, I stumbled today, really completely by chance, upon the video in which you shared your very personal story, and there was something so genuine and sincere and at the same time so fragile about the way you spoke that I not only watched the whole video, but also followed it up with this one here. And then subscribed. You have touched me with your honesty and openness, and I can tell you are a beautiful soul. Thank you for sharing this, I am sure it will help others. You are a strong, resilient woman who has been through a lot. May God keep you well and grant you the happiness and peace of mind you so deserve!

If he’s so gifted at music then why did he have to steal your candle idea? He sounds more like a temperamental artist that doesn’t have his head screwed on right.

he sounds awful. im glad you stayed kind, compassionate and forgiving. your stronger than he is, if this didnt turn you into a hateful bitter person - you can accomplish even more, without him than you did with him

Discarded after 25 years came up, so I watched it, and now this. I have never been divorced, but I have suffered a broken heart from a long relationship and then became a widower. It’s great to hear you have overcome. You have a gift of compassion and communication. I pray that you are rewarded well.

Your story is so similar to me. It’s so scary starting over. Thank you for putting your story out there! Your a blessing! Good luck to us all!!❤️

Woooow, thank you so much for beeing real and making time to talk to us. I really need your experience because I'm about to divorce after 23 years of marriage.

your ex sounds like a hot mess.

I had to subscribe. I’m here for the comeback 💪🏼 it’s always greater than the fall! I see a beautiful future for you,and happiness.

God Bless You and thank you for the encouraging words while still going through a difficult time. Keep your head up and do what makes you happy. I went through what you are 20 years ago and eventually I learned to love myself again. Big Huggs to you and I hope to see a lot more from your channel in 2021!!

You are creative! Creativity is not just music and painting. It's clothes, conversation, home decor, RU-vid videos, food, and a way of seeing. You have good taste, you are creative! I hope you get to explore it

Omg I’m so glad you updated!! He totally lost by losing you! I can’t wait until you make the update and do a video with your new man!!

AMEN! Thank you for the encouragement! May you be blessed!

You're a kind and loving person, Jennifer. I am so glad I found you tonight and heard your hard story, which I'm so very sorry you went through, and that you are rising like a triumphant phoenix! Bless you! I needed your example tonight in my own challenges. Please do begin your candle making again...I will certainly buy. Blessings, M

Thank you so much for your encouraging videos!! I’m so angry about the candles, but God has something better in store for you. Thanks for helping others who are in the same type of situation or worse. You are a gift!!❤️❤️💪🏻💪🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

Hi Jennifer ,, last June I ended a 8 year relationship from a covert Narcissist,,, he devalued me , he manipulated , controlled and condescended me ,,I lived in his Oppression until I was a empty shell ,,, my health was suffering,, and I prayed to god for his guidance, “ please release me from this abuse !,, I’m a true believer of our spiritual self ,, listen to your heart ❤️,,, everyday is a new day ,, stay strong 💪 🤗🙏

It helps alot hearing what your going through in your life and how it makes you feel, while trying to make sense of my own after 28 years, thank you.

All I can say is that you, my dear, are beautiful inside and out; I truly hope your future is as bright as your smile. I'm 57 and was a Registered Nurse for 31 years. I've heard so, so, so many stories from my female colleagues that were somewhat similar to yours that I can strongly sympathize with your situation. You're incredibly strong and you will excel at your job given time. I'm with you in spirit. Good luck with everything.

Omg 49 no way! You look absolutely stunning. I hope I can look like you one day

Glad you were able to overcome your grief. I hope you will have a wonderful year this 2021.

Healing and moving on looks incredibly beautiful on you. Congratulations on taking back your power. Thank you for your vulnerability, that shows your strength and resilience - it is so inspiring. Best of Luck to you!!!

Instead of giving him your power, take it back, start making your own candles and be the best you can be. Maybe start calling him your ex-husband and create new stories to tell. He's gone, you've got today and the future ahead of you!

One of your videos popped up last night as a suggestion. I binge watched a ton of your videos! What a joy to see a new video from you today!

You look fantastic! Watched the video about your divorce and I’m so sorry you went through that but your positive attitude will see you through this. I didn’t have health insurance for years and it was very stressful.

I appreciate your open and honest healing process though sharing. I’m so happy to find your channel and gives me a lot of hope. God bless

You're doing the public a whole lot of good, getting these stories and subsequent feelings and decisions out there for people to grasp while going through similar times..a very fantastic and kind person to makes these!

I keep hearing narcissist... it’s like they have two sides.. I just got out of one of those, only God can help them. Rejection is Gods protection

I just found your channel the other day, so I'm glad you're back now. Happy belated birthday 🎉🎈🎂🎁

Jennifer you are SO STRONG AND one of MANY things you do great is telling your story. You are wonderfully made! God bless

I appreciate you sharing your story ! Same thing happened to me after 26 years of loyalty. Hoping to see how you were able become normal again, after 7-years of separation and divorce, I am finding it hard recover, because I can’t seem to make sense of it all! I appreciate you! Thank you for being brave! ❤️

Just discovered your channel Jennifer, your honesty and openness is inspiring. You will come through this difficult period in your life much stronger and happier. Wishing you all the very best for 2021 and beyond, thank you for your great videos, greetings from the UK.

Bless your caring, kind, beautiful heart,, sometimes it’s easier when the garbage takes it’s self out! Going through the emotions is a way for the heart to “re-set” and go live your life and do what you want to do,,, did you ever love someone sooo much that you would do anything for them? Yea, we’ll make that someone yourself! 💕

Thank you for opening my eyes ,you have helped me so much...love u girl praying that you are able to sell your candles again one day

I stumbled across your channel and I m glad I did:) appreciate your courage and strength and love that you mention you pray! Praying that God continues to encourage you and blesses you in all you do❤️God bless you

Keep your chin up Jennifer! Your light is shining!

Bar soap could be something to add to making candles, your beautiful and I know that you can start your own business again and make a good living.

Jennifer, Thanks very much for your video. I commented minutes ago, but I just wanted to add that your thoughtful video makes me realize I am not the only one on the planet who is hurting at times. As I said, I am praying for you tonight! , Wayne.

You’re already healing. Your journey and story will serve as a survival guide to many. Thank you for sharing.

I can still see a lot of pain in you. I’m A little older and I do know that we land where we are suppose to. A new year a new chapter for you. Someone is going to love you and then you will know real love doesn’t hurt. And all The times you said why. You will know soon. ❤️🤗

I almost forgot, I love candles and would definitely purchase your candles!

Thank you so much for sharing! I'm sick of wallowing in my betrayal stories!

Hi Jennifer, so good to hear you encourage others in the Lord, it's wonderful❣ "Keep moving forward in his will for you" the message @church today, passing it along 🙌🏻God is faithful❤🤗

All about him, my ex was like that, selfish and controlling. I had to start again after 24 years, I am strong luckily like you, you are beautiful and were to good for him x

Again I echo: "DO NOT SELL YOUR SOUL TO A GUY". Women need to build themselves a career and a life, so that they are not dependent on anyone else to provide for their existence. Plus, it makes one more attractive. Your ex- husband sounds desperate if he needs to steal your candle formula to grapple for income. Good riddance!

Girl you are absolutely beautiful and your x lost when he gave up on you. My divorce was finalized April of 2018. Had 12 and a half years. Starting over ain't easy and you are a lot stronger and talented than you give yourself credit for. Your doing amazing with your new life.

Congratulations on your new job! I really liked your last words about gratefulness. I think often times we take things for granted and are not thankful. I hope you start your candle making business again!! Believe in yourself!!

I wanted to thank you for saying in the video about rejection that Jesus was rejected. I had dealt with a sociopathic individual and was badly abandoned and betrayed. I had an intense dream in which Jesus told me he had been abandoned and betrayed too and he felt very empathic and loving.🥰 God bless! 🙏🏼

I can't believe you're 49!

Good luck to you on this next new chapter👏👏 May you have new better year ahead

When my wife told me she didnt love me anymore and that she wanted a divorce, I was devastated. Never saw it coming. Turns out I was the last one to know. I didnt know it then but she did me a favor. One year later, I met the love of my life and we have been very happily married ever since. Jennifer this is what I wish for you. It really does get better after a little time has passed. You are a beautiful woman. I have no doubt that you will find someone that will love you for who you are. I wish you the best of luck and hope you find happiness soon. Bob Smith i

Such betrayal. An all-around bad guy.

you're a strong, smart good looking woman........your ex is a snake

This is the second video I watched from your channel. I was particularly impressed with your story. In comparison to the first video I watched where you described the catastrophic events that began your road to freedom, to this most recent video, you appear to have recovered well. God bless you and I wish you much success in your future. Greetings from Highgate, Vermont.

You have a lot of love still to give. We all love you and pray for your success in moving forward with your life. You are beautiful.

As I stated in your initial video about your husband leaving, I have to say the best decision I ever made was continuing to work even though my ex encouraged me to quit. I made my own money and had my own account. I cannot not imagine starting over and having no resources or options. I’m glad you found a job, but I encourage you to keep looking. Find something that’s not so taxing and time consuming, hopefully something you really enjoy. You’re smart and well spoken and I believe you’ll find your place. I’m thinking about you and I’m proud of you for how far you’ve come. 🦋

Girl! You're sweet and smart and beautiful and I wish you all the best

Hi Jenn, thanks for sharing publicly. I'm sorry this happened & know how you feel. 25 years is a long time to be deceived but it was a blessing in disguise and a huge lesson. God has blessings for you & he never gives us more pain & suffering than we can handle. Please don't dwell on it because there is something much better for you. Trust in the Lord and lean not on your own understanding! Blessings♥

Inspirational, truly. He can imitate your candle business , but he can never truly duplicate the creative energy behind it. His heart is not in it, and it will show. If you ever start a candle business with shipping, ill order them . Wishing you the best - keep us updated 🤍🙏🏽.