For the preventative care. Yearly physical which includes that lab work, for women mammograms, and throw those occasional colonoscopies in there. Most insurance covers these. And get reimbursed for them. True life can play a trick on you & blind side you. However our bodies will let us know somis going on pretty early on.
Interesting conversation. Attractive guy, I am the exact demographic he is targeting. Everything with this man would be extreme negotiation. The main issue is that he has a 20 yr old daughter living in his home but asking for a child free woman, who will contribute to the bills in that home? He does not want to take care of any woman period. Fend for yourself ladies! Extreme negotiation is anxiety inducing. This is not a generous, thoughtful guy. A hard pass. Good job Kendra. This was a nice change!!
He’s honest, intelligent and healthy. After 17 years of a marriage that “ran its course “, he wants to date. He has lots of options. Whoever decides to “date” him, and have thoughts about eventually moving in with him, just know that his daughter will always come first. There can only be one queen of the castle, and you will never be the queen.
I don't know if he's healthy.... What does it mean when a relationship has run its course? That sounds very strange..... Relationships take work. That's never a good answer and always a red flag...
And expect a lady to accept his 20 year old non bill paying, live in daughter. I don't think so. Kids are fine , but I wouldn't want an adult from jump in the home. 🙄 Maybe if she came 'back ' home for a short period to gather herself.
I've dated men like him and he seems very controlling while still having insecurities. It's seems his way or the highway. I wouldn't want to date a man that already knows that he's looking for flaws that may not be there.
Maybe he just didn't wanna drag his ex wife and over spill. Or call her a narcissist and accuse her of being abusive etc. Us men tend not 2 play victim or dodge all accountability as much.
I agree with a lot of what this man says. Except, paying all the bills. Some of us women are established and don’t mind adding to the pot.. 17 years married to ONE woman means a lot.
I wish people actually understood relationships with other people. Support is not just money. Money makes the real problems you have either magnified or minimized. It's impossible to be in the same household with other people and not have any supportive relationships with those individuals. It's not realistic.
Thank you! Just because a woman won't be providing financially to your children doesn't mean she won't have to make significant contributions to and for your child's well being.. especially if that child lives with you and even if they're grown.
Children are a lifetime commitment, it doesn’t stop at 18. If you have children you should date others with children. Leave the child free women in peace.
It's not like he is putting a gun to a woman that doesn't have kids and forcing her to date him lol. That's her choice to date him, can't get mad at him for that.
Has 2 children, one is still living at home, but he is looking for a childfree woman who is in shape and she has to contribute to the household....Unbelievable The audacity🤦♀️
I'm a man. It's the contribution to the household that got me and that's if he's talking about bill bills. not just regular little household things. And yeah even then that's a stretch for a child-free woman and he has 2 already.🤦🏿♂️🤷🏿♂️
@@bboss7874 It's a bad deal only if she has better options. If she lived alone, she would be responsible for 100% of her living expenses, including rent, utilities, groceries, and other costs. Even with a roommate, she'd still cover at least 50% of those expenses. Contributing a small portion to the household bills not only shares the financial load but also fosters a sense of partnership and shared responsibility.
@@bboss7874 So she should move in and not pay anything? He's not having any more kids. She's not changing diapers of a 20 year old. Is she working? Why would she not contribute anything? That's weird to me.
Those of you who think he's a catch need to really listen...it has nothing to do with his physical requirements, but everything with how he moves in the dating world... doesn't sound like a reasonable, kind individual...not a good partner. Self-sabotage relationships. He will expect the woman to contribute but does not expect that of his own daughter. He admits to being a fault-finder, which means he is critical. What did i miss?
Yep especially if entitled, and unprepared for survival. I couldnt live with a man with an adult daughter at home unless she is in school, or on the way out of the home......
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Soon as a man say a women got to be fit. These comments turn upside down 😂. Y'all just looking for reasons to find why he isn't a good man. A man with a career, a plan and his kids are grown.
@@DreamAboutMe823 LOL, he's in reasonable shape. All these women are broke and begging. And have absolutely nothing to offer. They won't even get in shape. SMH...
@@DreamAboutMe823 nearly anyone can get up and go get in shape. not everyone can get up and be "financially successful." for a society to even function, majority of people have to make less. if you think this is inflation, let a large % of americans start making 100k.
I’m flabbergasted. He’s speaking in absolute (((as matter of fact way)))but all he’s giving are potential examples of personal experience. If I do something for someone it’s going to come from my pocket. Gifts are acts of kindness! Even when you do something for your significant other’s child, you do it because they are an extension of that person. His mentality seems merely transactional. We as a society have lost the power and value of love!
He just needs to be real. Just say, I want a woman with no children who has no desire for children in the future that are willing to put up with my children, even the adult one living with me. The back and forth, plus his explanations are making him look flaky. Many women would be interested, even with his preferences.
That's fair. I mean that's up to the woman that decides to go out with him. I mean he's the one who called so all u have is his side and he didn't say anything other than they grew apart. You probably should ask your mom that question because you're projecting
@@aroukapenn just like your dad and grandfather. If you even know them. The hatred for men in this comment section is astounding. That's for the lack of respect for therapy you God zillas need someone to talk to besides your vibrator u angry birds 😅
I love that he's an intellectual, some things he said went over Kendra head,she interrupted him right when he was answering her question, dating is a case by case thing,I'm glad he reiterated his answer,like I said dating is a case by case thing. Shout out to him for knowing what he wants.
Love cousin but She ALWAYS does that & some ppl aren’t intellectual enough to rephrase or reiterate their stance. They end up backtracking and talking in circles cuz Kendra will twist ur words real quick
The new woman would most likely be paying the bills she came with, like her car, insurance, and cell phone. He's already paying the bills. His children are grown. There's no need to be a step parent. The comments ts were stupid and irrelevant. He's a great guy. I like him!
@@Jai0234 True, but its not the same dynamic. Im a step mom and dont parent my step kids. I watch the grandbabies and basically a friend. I dont have to give them money, or do things as if they are minors....I help my adult son even though he lives on his own, and doesnt need help... I bought him a new couch today because I saw one on sale, and wanted to.....
@@Jai0234are you dumb you’re not parenting a 20 year old. especially one with their mother in their life. the parenting is done she just live there damn
So how do you think it will be living with some man's adult daughter? You think is going to go smoothly? Some of you are so short-sighted, sheesh...this is why you keep losing...
If the woman has an adult child living with her as well, would he still date her, be ok with it and let her adult child move in with them ...Just A thought...
If she pays 75% of the household bills, then he might consider it fair. Otherwise, it's not a fair comparison. From what I understand, the woman who moves in with him will only pay a small percentage of the household bills; appx 25%.
@@MarvAuthorbecause she’s gonna pay for that extra 25% by dealing with a bratty 20 year old who will of course jump in any private arguments/disagreements. Eventually the woman and the daughter will run into some issues with each other ESPECIALLY being that the daughter is grown AND living there, leaving the father to pick a side. I would never move in with a dude and his 20 YEAR OLD even if all bills were paid for and I could live for free. Recipe for disaster. People with kids should only date people with kids. PERIOD
@@prettykitty5416 That's your opinion, and you have every right to it. Millions of women worldwide would gladly accept that deal. A man should date and marry the best option that makes him happy.
@prettykitty5416 A provider man with kids might consider not dating a woman with kids for several reasons: 1. Financial Strain: Providing for additional children can be financially challenging, especially if he is already responsible for his own children's expenses. 2. Emotional Complexity: Blending families can introduce emotional complexities, including jealousy and competition between children, which might create tension in the household. 3. Limited Quality Time: With children from both sides involved, it might be harder to find quality time for the couple to nurture their relationship. 4. Different Parenting Styles: Managing different parenting styles and rules can be difficult, leading to conflicts and inconsistencies in raising the children. 5. Scheduling Conflicts: Coordinating schedules for multiple children, especially if they have different visitation arrangements, can be logistically challenging and stressful. 6. Jealousy and Rivalry: Children from different families may experience feelings of jealousy and rivalry, which can impact the overall harmony of the household. 7. Reduced Attention: The man might feel stretched thin trying to give adequate attention and support to all children involved, potentially leading to feelings of neglect. 8. Emotional Baggage: Both partners may bring emotional baggage from previous relationships, which can complicate the new relationship and family dynamics. 9. Household Dynamics: The dynamics of the household can become more complicated with additional children, potentially leading to power struggles and conflicts. 10. Potential for Favoritism: There is a risk of perceived or real favoritism, which can create resentment and division among the children. Considering these factors, some men might prefer to date women without children to avoid these potential issues and focus on building a harmonious and uncomplicated family environment.
And saying that a marriage ran its course is a total cop-out.... What does that even mean? Relationships are supposed to be work.... When a person says that a relationship or a marriage ran its course, they are really showing how immature they are...
I could only move in if my man's adult daughter was on her way out. Is she in school, working a stable job? She cant just be chilling , and not focusing on her future.... I agree there are alot of professional women with no kids, or 1 adult child like myself.....
Women with children come with more hassle than man with adult children. He doesn’t want any problems. Good luck King! There are plenty women with no kids… He’s Well Spoken.
@@shedeserves365he will date a woman for years without marriage.... He has no morals! Did y'all even know what the definition of morals is? Goodness...
@@candorsspot2775He may have to go take a dip in the snow. If he starts dating a big back with kangaroo feet. The first time she gets upset. You'll not be able to see my toes for the next 2 weeks. 😂😂😂
I agree but that's where Kendra's nosiness would be an asset. Nothing wrong with a few questions like ie: who filed for divorce, did y'all try marital counseling, what do you think you did to contribute to the demise of the marriage. They don't necessarily require long answers. But the problem is people like me don't ask those kinds of questions. These days it's not really about correcting the past to have a better future it's about it's my time and I want and need a man now
I understand what he meant. Men are always saying they dont want independent women with degrees and their careers and assets. He's saying he's fine with those types of women, and many high value men usually are ok with women who are high achievers.
Exactly. As a woman I agree with him. He is not asking 50/50 but as an adult you need to contribute. His daughter is only 20, probably still in college and trying to figure her way out. The woman is cutting her own bills significantly.
It sounds like he's asking for the perfect partner and everything in between just to kill time. We can tell he's divorced and dating, trying to date anyway.
Responsible adults need responsibilities. I don't advocate carrying no adult 100%. I pay the full house note, car note, insurance here hold this electricity & cable down. Most women today don't even possese that level femininity to carry them 100%. Too each his own but I ain't doing it.
For those who get married on Biblical terms.. You failed your marriage if you divorced for any other reasons outside of adultery. Point blank period.. So your 17 years of marriage doesn’t mean a thing. He’s being way too picky for a divorcé. He has all this information as a man but couldn’t lead his marriage enough to keep it. I don’t see the great qualities that KG says he has. He’s no longer a husband but an adulterer. Before y’all come for me. Read a Bible 😂
That applies to people who read and believe in the Bible. But telling someone who thinks the bible is a bunch of hooey to read it is silly. You can't use the bible to prove something to people who don't believe in it.
I agree with you but why off the jump assume he couldn’t lead his marriage or that he caused the divorce? Some women initiate divorce for trivial reasons.
His double standard explanation makes no sense.He just wants a childless woman because he’s selfish like the rest.Also children will tell their moms if they don’t like her boyfriend.
He wants a childless woman because he's done raising kids. Why would he move in a woman with a 6 year old when he's all but done supporting his 20 year old? Selfish is these women looking to leech off a sucker.
Well to a lot of BW in order for a man to not be labeled selfish, he has to gladly accept a baby mama and her six kids by Pookie, Ray Ray, Tyrone, Lil' Boo Boo, Dontavious, and Cave Man.
Kendra said "mute point" multiple times 😂😂. And him having a 20 year old daughter live with him is not anywhere close to a single mom with school she kids I'm the house and a man moving in. Likely he's gonna be paying all the bills regardless.
I guess some of you are okay with a man being cold with no compassion. A man who is willing to date you but doesn't think that you're good enough to be his wife. A man who requires more of the woman in his household then he requires of his adult daughter...