My sister's baby daddy pretty much told her the same thing, said he wasn't down for changing diapers either. UNTIL YOUR COMMENT, I NEVER THOUGHT ABOUT IT LIKE THAT , but you have a point. Dam, that makes a lot of sense.
@@Fan-qu8qystop “feeling bad” for them 🤦🏾♂️. We need to bring back shame and disownment in the black community because all this “feeling bad” and cuddling black women *and men* mistakes is not helping our community at all
It's amazing to me that even as an older woman when describing her perfect mate has no qualities about his personality or how he cares for her. But it's all about di#k, looks and money. We are truly in a shallow age
@@kevinlee9929that's crazy to me. I really don't believe nowadays people connect on deeper levels...men and women both superficial. No wonder none of the relationships last
This lady is a red flag. So you let a man disrespect you, cheat, live with you, treat you like ish, and you still let him clap again? This woman doesn't think beyond lust, and it shows. Fighting for a man who is actually loyal is worth it. Fighting for a dude who won't even claim you as his own is dumb. This woman literally just fought Kendra for this man. Ladies, learn to leave when it's bad and stay gone. Kids or not, you only f***ing yourselves over taking back exes who did you dirty.
Some women are emotionally co-dependant, everyone has been there at some point wether your cognizant of it or NOT . As a woman who thankfully was never down this bad I have empathy for her. She probably has unresolved childhood trauma. IF, a woman knowingly takes a man who lets you know after bearing his kids your not his girl, and you continue to force a relationship, it's evident this person has a problem. Let's not judge her we all have internal struggles, it's just we aren't honest about them . 🙍
@@zoraidacastro2703She's emotionally co-dependant. It's not that easy. Just like a woman/man w) Stockholm syndrome or DV. It's the same script different cast. Nothing in this interview gave me a lack of accountability or self awareness. She needs to do internal work .
@@AnnHL-gt6kh I can honestly say that I've never been emotionally co-dependant. My typical response to stress and other negative emotions is to separate myself from human beings and seek nature. But I get what you're saying.
Sleeping with a known cheater raw dog at 40 years old! Jeopardizing your health behind community d&@? when you have children to live for is full on insanity!
There was NO PRESSURE on that guy to do anything for her, plain and simple. My biggest fear from a woman like her is the imprint her ex still has on her, NO WAY.
I got the impression she’s not messing around with the guy anymore strictly because HE got tired of HER and can come back around when ever he feels like it.
@@asdfghj13579fly Logically we ALL want to think so, but there's a lot to be said of the familiarity of a baby daddy especially as we all get older. Remember, she carried him, his kids, and the bills. She said he paid bills, but the funny thing about bills in a household that's in your name, other folks be questioning the amount or can't pay right away, so I don't think he was a reliable contributor to the bills. So any improvement he makes on any of these things will let him back in. It also sounds like she has no boundaries(he can stop by anytime to "see the kids") when it pertains to him, he probably still has some keys to her place.
@@GETBIG4WARD I hear ya, but I think more know about it than are willing to admit it, it goes against the "strong independent woman" narrative. However, I do understand why some single mothers have to proclaim that "strong independent" stance.
She’s not in a position to be looking for a man , she should’ve properly vetted her child’s father , no high value man should have to come in and sacrifice his time and money over her mistakes , not only that but she’s 40 still making 20 year old mistakes it’s freaking ridiculous!
She’s very delusional. He didn’t have to lead her on the voices in her head did 😕 she honestly should’ve kept this to herself. Now she’s going to attract more users.
She refuses to acknowledge that when that man said "YOU AREN'T MY GIRL" he meant it. He needed somewhere to stay and someone to lay under when he wanted to. She was his sucker. Period. And until she smartens up, she's going to continue to be taken advantage of.
Unfortunately now she's his sucker forever, which sadly is the risk of messing with pookies. Not only is she attached spiritually, physically, because women don't understand, each men they have sex with, they are married to, now she also is attached through child birth.
Did he marry her? No. Then why is she having a baby for him. He has demonstrated zero commitment but she's choosing to have a baby. She CHOSE this. She CHOSE another fatherless child. She did this because she is SELFISH. stop making excuses.
@@katerab4916You better tell em. I see so many "baby daddies " that have went on to marry women WITHOUT children. They be living their best lives 😂😂😂😂
Anyone else notice one of the older kids in the background feeding and raising the baby while their mom is embarrassing herself on a national platform trying to find a man
Right! I got sadder each time the son walked in the room holding the baby :( Clearly they need her, I hope she can rewatch this and pour more into her children instead of men.
I can’t wrap my mind around this. Why did you have a child with someone who said they didn’t want to be with you FOR YEARS?? She must have abandonment issues.
This is the problem with you women. You always make excuses for each other and mollycoddle each other. It creates women like this and with no accountability so you lot can never grow up or grow. You then run from anything mentally that holds you to your actual harsh reality or shows you in a bad light which is just a disaster.
When the felon comes home, she'll be dropping her so called boyfriend for the felon fresh out of jail. That's wrong on so many levels. Her heart belongs to her baby daddy.
@@kevinlee9929and I respect those that don’t on a public forum - save that for 1:1 convos. It definitely gave extremely immature, especially considering the 4 month old. 😶
When I asked the question, “What’s the purpose of a relationship?”, people replied to me as if I were crazy. There really is no point to a relationship if marriage is the desire.
Kendra: when did he go to jail, you left all that out! Her: you didn’t ask that! Me: this is why I don’t believe a word these people say when it comes to relationships.
@@momann1822Yeah I was thinking how many men i her life went to jail if she thinks Kendra was supposed to know to ask that. Most people never been locked up but apparently she knows a lot of them 😅
Kendra - leave her where she is. She is gonna entertain every male with a pulse that reaches out to her and sends her good morning texts after this show, even while she’s suppose to be supervising children that are visiting. 🤷🏾♀️
He clearly wanted something that she got ,which don’t make sense , she should’ve stopped messing around with him and giving Him the goods without him working for it
It’s easy ..it’s not dating ..it’s just having sex ..once kids are asleep …guy comes round. .. they get to it …kids come out ..no marriage , no plan , no real commitment , no values , no covenant …just lust
Kudos to kendra for finally putting her foot down and str8 interrogating these women!!! Women who are childless and still have a chance need to be tuned in to see these women get there reality check!
@@StatenIslandTony1974 It’s only because she has no choice now but to see it. She was just as delusional as them when she first started. It’s taken a lot of these crazy women to show her the reality out here. And she’s still not fully out of the 2023 delusion of women today. It’s still ingrained in her.
The fact that she didn't want to say whether or not he was good in bed clearly shows that she is still concerned with who he is/could be sleeping with. And this clearly shows that she still wants him... he just don't want her. This was actually quite sad.
@@joyceg7859I think it was that she tried to say her last baby daddy wasn’t good in bed and after Kendra pressed it more she took it back and said obviously the sex wasn’t trash. That just makes it seem like she didn’t want to give him a good review because she didn’t want people to hit him up. If she didn’t want to comment on the sex with him at all she could’ve just said she doesn’t want to comment on the sex but she chose to lie about it first and had already spoken about how good sex was important to her and that she left her first baby daddy because of it so clearly her not leaving this one means the sex had to be good and she just wanted to lie about it
She lacks emotional maturity. Unfortunately, she will likely repeat choices she made in the past regarding relationships. Until she gets therapy. If anyone decides to reach out it will probably be for one reason only, and it won't be for the reason she stated she wanted. 🙏🏽
Honestly this is proof why you really can’t mess with people with infant children. It’s hard to cut that soul tie. Making a baby is making that soul tie stronger. Seems like she only on the show because her baby daddy refuses to be with her - but if he ever wanted her she would be with him so quick.
The kitty is imprinted...he owns it. You are 1000% correct, many many women are a text away from a quarterly reconnect (I literally reach out once a quarter). I have a couple women that will give me a soft no for a reconnect, the more persistence on my part provides her the rationalization that 'just this one time' is A-ok for her :) Persistence helps her to separate from it being cheating, it's more like her helping a friend in need. ,,in her mind.
The answer is simple: she has a four month old; leave the dating marketplace and go back to your child's father. Once a woman decides to be irresponsible with her womb, it's pretty much a wrap for her
No it’s not. There are always plenty of pookies, ray ray’s and simps that will tend to her needs. There is always the male or female counterpart for these foolish people.
She doesn't have that option. He wanted to play house but wasn't really ready to settle down. She foolishly had the 4 month old with him. Now 2 kids have a deadbeat Dad and an immature mother.
@God-Love-Freedom NEWS FLASH: We don't live a culture anymore and haven't for a while. This is all a direct result of being raised on television (and they say marketing has no power) and the wrong idea_narrative gets pushed to the forefront. I thought a woman having a child was the highest honor she can give a man. What happened with that?
WARNING: THIS 40 YEAR OLD FEMALE IS IMMATURE. This became a therapy session. This woman needs therapy and make better choices, she dated a jailbird. I wish her the best.
@@akimat418 yes. This is 40, trying to be the new 20. Who talks about winie sizes that much? I hope she gets the help she needs before going into the dating pool. If I had four kids, I would focus on their upbringing. I'm not sure she's healed from giving birth.
I thought kendra would drown in this sea of female delusion. She is getting more stern because she is learning to swim. I am proud of her growth, i take my hat off to her bravo.
I believe after she realized she was the fool, she tried to back peddle and be contrary. A man had one time to tell me we are not together. Come on baby, you’re 40. Kendra does a great job of getting to the bottom line and self reflection even if they don’t want to admit it.
Sometimes I wonder how some people survive from day to day.I hope she gets counseling and gets her life together because she has 4 babies to take care of.This is why there are so many messed up adults in the world.
Legitimately, I wonder how they manage to not just walk into traffic on any given day just because they don’t understand that moving cars are dangerous!
The part of this that makes me sad is she had this man who clearly used her within his convenience was around her boys :(. Your life doesn’t have to stop once you have children, but you do have to be careful about how you date. Why have someone who’s not serious about you in your babies’ lives? I hope she watches this back and hears herself also. Sometimes we don’t realize how silly we’ve been until we see things from the outside looking in.
Another one...those earrings, tanktop and manly tattoos were clear signs. I believe she's still sleeping with the last kids father. She spent this entire segment defending this man who clearly never wanted more than sex and a place to rest his Playstation.
Ladies, this is a PSA. Casual relationships should NOT lead to permanent babies. The more I watch the more ridiculous this interview gets. How in the world do you feel comfortable cominh on a show and tell the world, you had 2 kids by a man who told you to your face he didn't W A N T you. Then have the nerve to say I'm not going to talk about his sex because I don't want these women to take my 'mam'. Then goes onto describe the new man and her focus is D*CK. You can't make this ish up. Ladies, we have to do better.
As soon as he falls out with whoever he is currently sleeping with... and needs a place to stay, he will be at her front door and she is going to let him walk right in smh
Do not allow a man to move into your home, don’t even entertain one who would even consider it, do not link yourself to a man in jail or prison in ANY way (you know in your heart of hearts that you are WASTING YOUR TIME and can do MUCH better,) stay out of situationships, stop having children with people who haven’t made a legitimate and significant commitment to you and most importantly stop prioritizing the physical over the character and heart of your partner
@@SweetEssie if you think that this CLEARLY scattered woman and the useless degenerate she described to Kendra have a chance at a stable/healthy/viable relationship, your judgment is off and you are clearly lost. I pray you wouldn’t link yourself to someone like him. Sometimes people shouldn’t be together, whether they have children together or not. Sometimes it’s best to end things, spend some time alone, sort yourself out and raise your children. That’s the issue I see with many of Kendra’s guests, their lives are in shambles and yet they are still looking for companionship. Priorities are clearly off.
@@SweetEssie this is true, however entering into another ghetto union with him would be bad for her and her children. The “relationship” is not viable and she should move on as a single woman for some time.
Kendra pretty much broke it down. Bravo. Important information the guy who's interested needs to know. Especially that her baby daddy was just released from jail and she will go back to him, all he has to do is ask.
If a man is literally telling you that you’re not his girlfriend you really need to take that and listen what is there to fight for if he’s not wanting to be with you You’re literally wasting your own time and his time
There are some people that feel like they can’t move on to someone else that’s why they choose to stay and tolerate the toxic relationship that they are in
Don't fall for this woman. She still loves her babies daddy still, and he will always be in her heart. So pass this one up. She makes a good side chick.
There's a spiritual/philosopher dude I follow that says women that have a baby for a man belong to that man FOREVER. So men should never try to seriously be with a single mother
Why in the HELL is she on a dating show with a 4 month old? Lady you need to be focused on that newborn and not a man. She's another single mother statistic. Fellas keep getting your passports and expanding your dating pool.
I LOVE watching these shows to support Kendra and I also find them entertaining. I am embarrassed to say I find them entertaining, because at the same time I find a lot tof these sad to watch. This show really sho wcases how delusional men and women are(mostly women) in their search of love. As a single divorcee who has been single and abstaining for a long time I understand the need and want to be in a healthy relationship, but I do not understand the willingness to come on a live show and showcase ALL of your worst attributes in the hopes of finding true love. I truly hope everyone finds what they are looking for.❤
Finally a woman that sees most delusion comes from the female gender majority can’t even find a man with a pulse but come up here demanding the best 😂😂
I make sure my teen son watches this to see a slice of blk female nature in the west- hood mama's looking for big peens,, dark-skinned with swag. Basically adavistic mating habits. That way he will know what to expect, and he can better understand the type of men they look for and are quick to lay down with
This is sad! She is a 40 year old woman and her decision making process is so convoluted! Just think how she is going to lead her daughters!! We need and CAN do better in the black community.
Kendra's app is going to be worse than Tinder and POF. I can see it now. Not a shade at Kendra at all, just going by the guests on here. Good luck to the men that join!
Any man hearing ALL these details about her past with her ex will judge her and continuously throw this $hit up in her face. In other words she will not find any man of quality once they know that she let a jailbird move up in her house. I need men and women with children 2 and under to focus on their children and not dating. I think single mothers lose sight of the fact that some men are predators and will solely go after them to have access to the children. These type of men think that they "deserve" access to your children as part of their payment or getting something back for helping financially with kids that don't belong to them. BE CAREFUL LADIES!!!!😊
The classic sign of let them keep talking. 40 years old and for the streets. He blew her back out, and that's all she needed. Ma'am, keep draining balls.
I love her to pieces but the follow up questions per her journalism degree are primary school level at best😅ie what would you say to the man that says you have 50-11 kids and is cautious. Pookeisha says every time "well i guess he ain't the one for me😅
Congratulations, you played yourself. And while doing so, brought life into this world to suffer from your decisions. Do I even need to list the problems kids in this environment are forced to face?
Truthfully... similar to Kevin Samuels clips... yall should know that these are just the hightlights from a longer version. She has more sane people on the Live show. Many of them STILL have wild expectations...some don't though.
@@jesterarts734 that’s cool. It would be good if she would highlight all the couples or married folks that are in good relationships as a result of her show. That seems like it would add a lot of credibility.
This show makes me heal my inner child cause Chile... lord knows I made mistakes in dating... I've accepted my part in all of it. I'm always thankful a child didnt spawn out it.. whew 😥
This is someone that shouldn’t be looking for a new guy. Not only should be focused on her children, but she needs to focus on herself. She continues to make poor choices in partners and wonders why she’s in the situation she’s in. She’s also not over the latest baby daddy.
She is not ready for a relationship. She’s just trying to move on because the men don’t want her anymore. You can tell her face conversation she’s going through that stage I don’t need you I can move on to so that this point she just gonna take anything.