Do Men Have The Power? Male Privilege vs. Male Disposability | Paul Elam  

Roger MaKay and she has more power without accountability.

but neither one works for a living

fkujakedmyname - How much time do you believe a CEO puts in each week? Do you really think the CEO just plays golf and hangs out in his office part time? Paul made a great point about people that don't really understand what power is. And it seems obvious that you don't understand what being a CEO entails.

fkujakedmyname That statement doesn’t even need to be debunked. It’s just outright stupid. My guess is you’re not nor have you ever been close to a CEO.

Roger McKay and more powerful

faultroy Where can I find this so I can look for myself?

+faultroy mind showing me evidence of this please? Not saying I don't believe you. I'm saying I'm not taking it on blind faith.

@faultroy that is pure bullshit, and sounds exactly like feminist distortion of the facts. The truth is: Paul allows anyone to comment on his videos, but he has a zero tolerance policy for abuse. These people you're saying got banned for "disagreeing" with Paul? 100% abusive trolls. I wish more vloggers took this attitude with online harassment.

@faultroy about the domestic violence article, he is just responsing to feminist column with reversing the role. The tittle is "have you hit your partner? I have." that's the feminist article and then when he reversed it they said he is pro domestic violence.

@faultroy i know he is somewhat woman hating just like man hating feminist. That's why i just mentioning about the pro domestic violence which is based on his article about reversing the role from feminist article. But aside from that article i don't see any evidence that he is pro dimestic violence.

I think he's missed a few doses of his medication!

@@koiman23 who? You?

Spot on

The logic is sound

Male Disposablity = There are no feminists on a sinking ship.

I totally agree with you !! Mr. Elam is speaking truth !! I believe in equality but not the oppression of men if not for us ,women would still be in the stone age !!

faultroy When you don't like someones documentary, just say they're only in it for the money. Why give someone the benefit of the doubt and address the things they say when you can also question their integrity and dismiss their point of view out of hand?

She seems so calm and reasonable, but that's in pretty incredible contrast to the thoughts she says were going through her head at the time.

this needs more likes

faultroy, I wish you had not added that personal insult at the end, because a lot of what you said made sense. But the last line, being emotional, makes it offensive, and such insults only make people defensive. Ask- is it more important to present some accurate information which helps the discussion, or is it more important to try and get a quick insult in like a teenager ? I'm being serious- your facts and reasoning alone were good enough- don't cheapen them.

+Faultroy Why do we try to appease our slaves(=Women) if we have all this power? Maybe you're right though, and we should force women to abide to our desires

@@gicking3898 What did this “Faultroy” say?

Sea Knight Of course it's a Japanese word.

Thx for sharing the word, I couldnt find it last time I checkt

sounds like Mandarin.過勞死

interesting, first time I've heard that word

@@aword3213 in japanese is 過労死 xD

The constant slander and liable against Mr. Paul Elam is easily debunked by anyone who would actually talk or listen to him speak on these issues. Paul takes a lot of heat on behalf of men and boys, and I am so sorry he has to in order to speak about things like male suicide and workplace fatalities. Paul is nothing short of heroic, and I am ashamed that he has to be. Be sure to support him in whatever way you can.

It's spelled Libel.

There was a point in life when I was younger. Where I was letting anger make most of my decisions for me. During that time in my life. I didn't care for Paul one bit. In fact, I couldn't fucking stand him. He wasn't angry enough for me lol. Now that I've had 10 more years. I get it, I hope I can live a life like his where I am self aware and inspire it in others.

Who cares how it is spelled, Seriously pat yourself on the back. Yes if analyse my comment I'm sure there are many mistakes.

for those who did not understand what he said About what is power. It is the freedom to do what you want

Phụ nữ cưỡng hiếp con trai Bullshit moron.

Most Vietnamese get the napalm.

Yes it is. And yes, there are a lot of women who act entitled and throw tantrums and mess up their husband's life. Its a fact.

linuxguy Most abusers are men Most victims of domestic violence are women

Phụ nữ cưỡng hiếp con trai Do you know how to read you ignorant fuck? Yes? Check out the actual facts from around the world. No? I feel sorry for people with harsh statements without facts. The red pill is a must see.

Men who are in the 1% typically used their power to help women much more than other men. Especially a politician.

@William Burr True, although the truth be said feminists need little or no inducement to hate or blame men.

This statement should have been in the documentary. We need to frame this

@@flatq1935 Conversely, women in the top 1% (or with any degree of power or agency) very frequently use that power or agency to help other women, even when males are as deserving of help or more so. Feminists are quite comfortable with 80% of the homeless, 93% of workplace fatalities, 97% of military casualties and 80% of suicides being male. In a nutshell, feminism is group narcissism and selfishness. It is unsurprising it resonates most with affluent, university educated females in the first world. When was the last time you met a truck stop waitress who was a feminist, or a female academic who wasn't?

Kenneth Slayor One small point: your last sentence might not be invariably true: men are required to pay for her choices, and can still be denied a relationship.

True. I am aware of a case in Illinois where during a trial separation a wife continued to have safe sex with her husband. Then while he was in the shower she fished the condoms out of the waste can tied them off and froze them. After their divorce she used his spermcicles to get pregnant. Then when the child was two years old, she sued for child support and back child support. The judge then awarded the child support and denied any counter-claim for her using his sperm without permission because he had thrown it away making it public property.

@Malcolm M nn

@@kennethslayor8177 Jesus. And women wonder why men are afraid of them

I agree. And I think that is part of what really makes it work.

Joost van de Goor men rape women but not vice versa

Phụ nữ cưỡng hiếp con trai holy fucking shit not you again and your trolling

It is the first time in my entire life that I watch an interview of a person that talks for 12 straight minutes and actually make sence in everything that he sais, without pausing or having to think his next argument and he pointed out at least 4 different subjects. It is more than a man being well prepared. It's the pain and the injustice of never been allowed to speak your mind. I think nobody could put it better than Bob Dylan saying "I got a head full of ideas, that are driving me insane"

Ths Thkeias Sou: Very well said, my friend (in your initial response).

faultroy except he DID mention it when he stated that women have the majority vote in this country. He didn't say a large majority, just a majority. He then springs off that and into why they aren't electing more women into these roles, and blames society and how it shaped the expectations of men to put themselves forward for these, ultimately sacrificial, roles. This is seen through the lens of individualist ideals, where going into a leadership role is a sacrifice in respect to your personal freedoms and privacy. In essence, it's like being a celebrity, with no benefit of the doubt.

He's obviously getting his education through women's magazines and feminist pamphlets. Why would you even try to reason with it?

Ths Thkeias Sou it's my flaw. When I see a statement blatantly false, with no satirical intent, I feel compelled to address it. It's one of the reasons I try very hard not to respond with harsh language to anything.

J. Wilson Finished preening...?

It is perfect. Knowing you can say something, and then have time after to explain it is a great comfort. Often many times you say something that initially sounds terrible that eventually makes sense when explained.

He isn't under oath or being interrogated. He is a professor answering a question

There's already a Blu Ray: Amazon USA sells it and they ship it worldwide: www.amazon.com/Red-Pill-Blu-ray-Documentary-Cast/dp/B01LTI0BKA/ref=as_li_ss_tl?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=&linkCode=sl1&tag=bet0f5-20&linkId=6890c5111f0cbf7ed1864926dead16d9

Thanks very much for the link.

@@ChilapaOfTheAmazons Does it have special features? Like deleted scenes, and stuff like that?

@@ALJ9000 if I remember correctly it's only the documentary itself on the DVD and Blu-ray (which is a must watch if you haven't already) but the director uploaded hours of extra footage on her YT channel. Search for Cassie Jaye on YT, she has a ton of "raw files" videos.

@@ChilapaOfTheAmazons I have seen it. Great documentary. Thanks for letting me know

They can’t because if they hear them out, the flaws of feminism are as bright as a neon sign

Like he said, if he hadn't done it the way he did, Cassie might not have come across A Voice For Men. Which lead to this movie. So agree, or disagree with his approach; it helped.

It's the same with other milestones. For example, Warren Farrell. After he came out in support of Men's Rights and quit his position as part of N.O.W, his income bracket took a major hit and speaking engagement opportunities dried up. Warren was facing irrelevancy and Paul took him in and helped regain it by also republishing his book "The Myth Of Male Power". I see both as wanting the same for men but with different approaches.

Eyes11, I agree with them having common goals, but had no idea Paul was involved in republishing "The Myth of Male Power." My respect for Paul has grown another notch! Thanks for sharing that information.

Thanks for the supportive words, but I did not help Warren publish MOMP. That was all Warren.

yes, because a supportive woman gives strength to a man, the one that is constantly nagging and criticize him, is the one who destroys him psychologically...

we need more women with your attitude, thanks for the positivity

TheLily97232 you have your head in the right direction, however the damage had been done, there's no way to fix the western family.

Yeah but James Brown also said "it's a man's world", so he was pretty blue pilled

Chris DiNunno men rape women but not vice versa

I think the Powers That Be like the current system, because it takes away men's power, and men are a threat to the PTB because we're the ones who fight revolutions. Ignorance and a lack of willingness to resist the system is what keeps the system in place. But now, men are taking the red pill, so that they're no longer ignorant. They then realize they can just walk away from the system. Once enough men walk away, the system will collapse. By "system" I mean feminism and gynocentrism, of course.

+faultroy I believe a large point of his point is. The most powerful man will still bow down to social pressures, and even the suggestions of a spouse. There is an inherent self sacrificing aspect of a males psychology. The reason being. 1 man can populate a tribe, 1 woman cannot. Therefore sperm is less valuable than eggs. Lose 10 out of 100 men, you'll still get as many babies. Lose 10 out of 100 women, that's 10 less children in the tribe.

+Liz H ok, I fail to see the evidence of him saying or doing these things. Public tweets, speeches, anything of the like? Otherwise this is just a claim / saying he is a bad person. I could claim absolutely anything and say absolutely anything about anyone. However unless I have something to back that up, what use is saying it?

@faultroy ...Did you see what happened to Brett Cavanagh. This is what happens to men who women feel might be a threat to their dominance over men, while liberal democrats can pretty much get away with murder, {Ted Kennedy}, and Keith Ellison of Minnesota, who had recent credible charges leveled against him of domestic violence and it all just faded into the woodwork. This is called hypocracy, or putting a gun to men's head!

Elam spelled backwards is Male :O

And believe it or not, it's just a coincidence. He didn't change his name to match his work, it just so happens that a guy whose last name spelled backwards is "male" is a leader in the men's rights movement. Freaky!

DONT often say this as I am far to old and sophisticated - BUT - "" MIND BLOWN""

His balls are so big, he can't sit any other way.

Here's a point of interest for me, though it's not related to anything involving MRAs, feminism, or Paul, just regarding coincidental names. Clint Eastwood's name is an anagram for "old west action"... _and it's his real name!_

faultroy...I don't agree...here's why: Free will choices? I don't think so. It's not so simple. When you are young and in love, it seems like it will last forever. Every couple that gets a divorce does not see it coming. They think they will last forever. But life is long, and people change. You don't think life will change you, but it does. And you never see this coming, when you are young. The system of marriage we created was built for a pre-industrial society, where women were incredibly vulnerable and could not work and look after themselves. So, to keep the human race alive, men evolved traditions such as lifetime marriage, and looking after women. Then technology was eventually developed, that allowed much more freedom for the sexes. People used to live till 50 years of age on average in America, till around 1900. I met people earlier in my life that were born then, so I don't think that was long ago. Then feminism came along, after men had developed the technology and science, to allow women more sexual freedom. Great. Now we need a men's movement to stick up for the interests of men, just like feminism stood up for the interests of women. Many things must go: lifetime marriage must go, divorce law must change to be fair and cheap, to end marriages, for a man. Women can no longer take advantage of men. I know so many men that got the short end of the stick, in marriage. That has to change. Paul Elam talks about a lot of those issues, and I applaud him for it. We need to catch up, with men's rights. We men gave up a lot in the past, to look after women, so we designed society to cater to their needs, not ours, and we sacrificed endlessly for them. None of this mattered as most of them don't care, don't acknowledge any of it, and think history is a giant conspiracy against women. In fact, history is the history men working, to keep women and children alive, and advance their interests.....and now is time, for men to have equality and sexual freedom.....and many things. So you talked about "free will"....great....that's what I want for men: freedom to enter and leave relationships, with little to no penalty. Yes a man must look after his children, but generally speaking, as Paul says, the system screws men over very, very badly. You say "no one is holding a gun to a man's head"....to which I say: not true. The gun is held to your head by society, by women, and the courts. As a man, once you sign on the dotted line, you give up all your rights, your money, your sexual freedom, for the rest of your life. If you want these things back, and take back your freedom, there is a very, very harsh and steep penalty for doing so. I have seen the inside of a lot of marriage breakups and it is always the man who pays the harshest penalties, by far....that has to change. Men stay in marriage out of habit, most of them. As to being enablers and co-conspirators, most men don't want the negative energy that comes from standing out, or rocking the boat, so they give in, to what they don't want, and remain slave to their wives. Current marriage and social patterns have advanced for women, but not men. You say that men are not victims? If you are a man and ever go thru a divorce, you will feel very, very different, at the end of the procedure, as your soul and children and wallet are ripped from you....

Men are both the victims, and also must take responsibility. Nothing is so simple as to boil things down to one word, like "victim" or "responsibility"....but generally speaking, I'm talking about free will. The relationships between the genders are a terribly bad deal: for men. You can read about some of it in Dr. Helen Smith's book "Men on Strike"....why men are not marrying. Karen Straughan also has a good video on why men are not marrying. It has about a million views on youtube. Marriage should be based on free will. Now it is based on males being subservient to females. That's not gonna last. I'm not a slave. Old gender roles don't work, because we no longer live in the 1800s. Those days are gone. Men need to have the freedom to come and go in relationships. Right now 75% of all divorces are initiated by women. You know why? Because they win, every time. If we ever get to the point where it is a 50-50 split, then we will have progressed. By the way, one of the leading causes of divorce is simply that the women now have zero check on their behavior. That's why divorce is so high: they have all the power.

lol....you sure seem angry...faultroy....I've been saying all along that men should look after their children....you try to lie and characterize me as being not responsible. Your reading comprehension is not all that good. I just think life time marriage is on the way out. It's an old religious anachronism from a bygone era. Humans can now be more free. And it's not just my opinion. Marriage in the general population is at a several hundred year low....look it up. Why is this happening? Basically because marriage is now, a bad deal for men. Countless millions of men, particularly young men, agree with me and are voting not to get married. I know quite a few men who have children with various women, are not married, and have had several long term girlfriends, and great lives....and they look after their kids. I know married men who haven't been laid in years, and are miserable. Men are simply now choosing what is best for them, while at the same time taking care of their children. The marriage rate is incredibly low, but at the same time the divorce rate is very high: around 40-50%....and in Southern California, a bell-weather part of the country, the divorce rate is 80%....guess what this means? This is the future, staring you in the face. Just look at the choices people are making, with their lives. And that's the future. It's not me who has decided that. It's countless millions of men. Humans likely evolved to be serial monogamists, for the most part. Humans in advanced countries have been chucking out lifetime traditional marriage, into the garbage can, and embracing sexual freedom. Finally we have the technology sufficient that we can throw out this ancient institution of lifetime marriage. Your time, your way of looking at the world, is admirable, and I respect what men like you did and built, you made the world what it is today, and the human race should be very grateful to old school men like you, who kept the human race alive, till now......but you're from a bygone era. Your days are past. Time has moved on. You are the past, not the future.

@Tyler T Yes, lifetime marriage is best, but guess what? That's pretty unrealistic. "Lifetime marriage is best" is like saying "Everyone should be rich and slim and smart"....sure, there is nothing better than a lifetime happy marriage but: How do we make that more likely in people's lives? Doesn't happen for most people. In fact, a sizable portion of married people are quite miserable. Why is that? My point is, we need to improve marriage for men, so it's worth him sticking around. Right now it's not. It's like "Blue Zones" around the world. There are small spots around the world, called "blue zones" where people live unusually long and healthy lives, compared to the rest of people around the planet. Why is that? If you look it up, people have figured out what it takes to live longer and healthier....based on real and provable data. We need to do that with marriage. Wishing marriage was great and should last a lifetime won't make it so. Just saying everyone should be married for a lifetime won't make it so. What will?

@Tyler T Oh, I want men to have responsibility. Trouble is, feminism takes all authority away from men. Life won't work that way. You can't have responsibility for something unless you have authority over that thing. You insulted me by saying I have a female brain because I don't want responsibility? Well, that's not true, I do want male responsibility. But your insult proves the point I just made: you think men should have responsibility and you think women are irresponsible. I agree. I would just add, that with responsibility comes male authority. You can't have one, without the other. Won't work. Take away a man's authority and he has no motivation to take responsibility. You just have to look at black families to see this. The men are not around, in the home. Many of the kids are fucked up. But why is that? It's because society expects black men to have responsibility, but no authority. How this happens: Welfare is set up to help single women. It replaces the income a man could provide a woman. The legal and government system entirely favors women over men. Then the woman thinks "I don't need a man around, the government will look after me". This means the man has had his authority and value taken away, because if she doesn't need him, she won't respect his authority. Feminism has been pushing welfare and taking men's rights and authority away, for decades, through the court and government replacing men in the home. First they wrecked the black community. Decades ago there were almost no single back women raising kids. Now? Because of feminism and welfare...two peas in a pod...now men have been replaced in black homes. Now, almost all black kids are raised by single moms, as male black authority was taken away....it never used to be that way. However, most people think this is a racial issue. Bullshit. It's not. The same thing is now happening in white communities: single motherhood is growing by leaps and bounds....because male authority has been stripped away. It all goes back to male authority and male responsibility. You got half the answer right. Male responsibility is great, it raises the best kids if a man sticks around....agreed. But unless male authority is brought back....in the courts and in the home....your vision of life won't happen for most people. My philosophy: if you want men to have responsibility for their families, give them authority in their families. Make sure governments can't replace the income of men. Make sure the courts favor men, over women. Make sure the legal system gives men full responsibility for their families, but then gives men enough resources and authority so that he is invaluable to the woman. This means ending government programs that favor single women. It means giving men priority in jobs, making sure every man who wants to work, can do so, can buy a home, pay his bills, raise his kids. Do that, then fine, you can hold men to high standards of responsibility, once that is done.

People have been saying that since back on the African Savannah. :)

Use _The MRA's_ , or _The MRM_ . An MRA refers to a single person. *"What is most important now is to start a dialogue about men's issues (especially black and hispanic men)"* Why the identity politics here? When you address men's issues, you'll be addressing them regardless of race. So why the focus on these two? Because they _"have it worse"_ ? Do you really want to make the MRM an extension of 3rd wave feminism?

Sadly, they're the only ones who can spread the message, because men are automatically ignored by our current society. So their importance is tremendous.

+CJ B ~ Just for the record: MRA = Men's Rights Advocate MRM = Men's Rights Movement

Jay Damalley correction noted. Now, I don't mean this in any antagonistic way towards white men of course, but I found that It is more effective to reach a close minded mainstream audience starting with a dialogue about black and hispanic men since they have more likely been exposed to it through more conventional means. The audience will naturally begin to associate issues with all men in general. This is also a good way to butter up even the most vicious mrm critics.

Confucius Say Chill Minorities don't get more attention. They get ostracized for having a different upbringing.