DO NOT call me a "BIHET" (biphobia in the community) 

Well, I can tell you right away that not all ladies are sexually fluid, or even most of them xD But you see, people always want to appear as experts, and when there comes a term that they dont recognize, such as bisexuality, instead of admitting you dont know what that word is and actually spend time and effort researching it, people instead choose to make the most logical assumption about it and go around claiming that to the friend. It doesnt even need to be true at that point, but just rational enough to fly by for other people and you will already be perceived by the surroundings as knowing way more than you do. And imagine then they claim the same thing but the person in front of them is an actual bisexual, and they will be making a fool of themselves without knowing it.

yup im quite sure its all just to cover up their obnoxious thirst. i sorta think of these people as to lgbt what "nice guys" are to straight people.

True. I've heard from bi and trans dudes they get the same shit on their side of the community constantly. I also remember Dan Savage's comments that it's just a phase and bi dudes are just in the closet. Like... DUDE RUNS IT GETS BETTER AND HE PUBLICLY SAID THAT. Smh.

Ya they do. Straight trans dudes get told they're "lesbians in denial" and shit like that, or get people who are ok with dating them because they can still see them as a woman.

It is a weird little bit of patriarchy how all bi/pan people get dismissed as actually just into men...

It's the "all roads lead to dick" arguement as I like to call it.

@Glenn Jones Fuck off, incel/femcel.

@Glenn Jones I'm not a lesbian, but great job at being lesbophobic anyway😉

@Glenn Jones you're a misogynist.

I’m sorry that u experienced that.❤️ I completely understsnd and agree that it is so much more hurtful when it comes from the queer community. It makes me question myself more and wonder if I am “queer enough” instead of just being me. We should be free to be ourselves.

pamBBB thank you for your reply ♥️

I am straight but my cousin is bisexual. She got told at a freaking Pride Parade by a lesbian quote verbatim: "Bisexual women sleep with men and women and are so dirty and ridden with STDs, no sane person should go near them". Pride is suppose to be a safe space for the LGBT+ community and here we have some raging butthole bringing her negativity into it. Chin up and don't listen to this nonsense. Your sexual orientation is valid and nobody should have the right to make you feel bad for who you are.

@k. But that also happens to bi, trans, gays and pretty much everyone in the lgbtq+ community u know

It's ironic that the LGBTQ+ community wants to end bigotry, yet bigotry occurs within the community as well, and it's just sad.

Shoe0nHead A TERF? TERFs only support hets

WOAH A WILD SHOE HAS APPEARED

Shoe0nHead YAAS SHOE Pls make a video on this Biphobic fuckery!

geo well i for one cant picture a terf having a happy functional relationship with someone of the opposite sex

SHOOOOOOOOOE!!!!

bisexual girls: why does everyone think i'm straight? also bisexuals: is always in a relationship with a man

@.. I've honestly met more biphobic gay people than homophobic bi people (in fact, I have never come across a homophobic bi person before).

tsukigalleta you.. honestly cant quantity something like that and it's ridiculous to try. it all entirely depends on circumstance. just comes across as ignorant when you say stuff like that

Thanks for clarifying that. It would be better though if you didn't insult me, I think

tsukigalleta Try being intersexed and transitioning. I experienced animosity and jealousy from some trans women on top of gay men and women who go out of their way to bully me . 😔

That's terrible! Do you receive help of any kind? I wouldn't dare to mention your community and the transsexual community. I have a transsexual cousin, but I hardly know her, so I sadly know almost nothing about your struggles.

tsukigalleta saying your argument came across as ignorant isn't an insult to you at all.. but glad i clarified things

KittytheBunny thanks!!! :D

And we love you too! :D

Thanks! :3 your great too!

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+marianashutup- hey Marina! excellent point as i was thinking the same thing, given many start out closeted and fake it til they make it ;)

Id just like to point out, that before I mellowed and stopped commenting on Claudia's channel constantly. I never called her Bihet. I called her an attention seeker, claiming to be bi to cling desperately to victimhood. But I never called her Bihet, I may not believe that she's bi - and as an actual member of the GBLT her victim grabbing is just annoying - but even if she is bi it will only very slightly change my opinion. Meaning she'll still be an attention seeker, desperate for victimhood.

+GoAway- ummm....it kinda, sorta sounds like perhaps u should heed ur opening statement a little more ;)

@Mike Black - Yes, because nobody should ever have to listen to a dissenting opinion. Idiots like Marinapleaselistentoyourusername and Claudia consider this trifling nonsense to be a legitimate problem, because they're spoilt little princesses that have never had to deal with any actual adversity and yes I'm fully aware that Claudia's parents are divorced. As somebody who was fighting for gay rights back when there were actual battles to be won, this complete non-issue isn't exactly tugging on my heart strings. I'd rather focus attention on the glamorisation of unprotected sex, the sky rocketing HIV rates, the rampant drug use amongst gay man and the fact that idiots thought it would be a good idea to decriminalise knowingly infecting somebody with HIV. "You won't validate my identity" isn't exactly winning me over, especially when self validation is a thing. If they can't validate themselves why should anybody else be expected to? I am saying this a gay man, whose homosexuality will be disregarded by people like Claudia and Marina because I'm not part of the hive mind they think I should belong too.

Yes, I was thinking the same.

This. Right here. There are a significant number of lesbians who won't date bisexuals. I don't imagine that there would be more than a tiny minority of straight (or bi) men who would reject a woman on that basis.

@@werelemur1138 yeah it's funny that a lot of bi people joke about or are considered to have a wider dating pool, but then that pool can be limited by people not dating us because were bi (*sigh*)

enbykenz it is, as Claudia says, just a small vocal group that are just this bloody absurd and nasty

Yeah it's not a real thing. These people are stuck online.

As an asexual, this too true. I've never dated, wanted to date or even felt attraction for anyone yet for everyone I'm het just because. Some people make their arguments about how we shouldn't identify with the community because we aren't as hated or as pained as them by society. And I'm just like this isn't prosecution olympics. Finding the community was what made me accept myself after years of thinking I'm broken and wrong so my little self thought it's some rainbow land where I'll always be accepted for who I am, just to be told that I'm just there to disturb their movement. It was a really hard reality to accept. Nevertheless, I met some of the most amazing people in the lgbt community, people who accepted me with open arms and told me that I'll be alright and that I'm amazing the way I am and I'm so grateful for that

Yep yep yep. You'd think there'd be some solidarity in feeling like you're broken, forcing yourself into doing things you don't want to in an attempt to "fix" yourself, being told you're manipulating your partner, going through conversion therapy, etc.They're different issues from a different source, but they SHOULD overlap with people in the LGBT community enough for there to be some civil discussions about it so people can help each other..? But instead people just argue about whether asexuals are oppressed or not when that shouldn't even be a discussion.. /obviously/ asexual people aren't being denied rights to marriage and no one's going around advocating the genocide of asexuals, why is that a topic of convo to begin with?? Jeez. I think some people want LGBT+ to just be "LG" lol

Yeah I'm asexual and I've noticed that as well.

Jonah James Jameson Jones yeah. And they come to tell you that ace/aro ppl don't belong to the community bc "they benefit from homophobia" "They are basically straight" "It isn't a sexuality, it's just lack of sexual/romantic attraction, not a sexuality" "They aren't even oppressed" Like what? Even? Is this bullshit?

In our modern society straight is the norm. When you aren't straught that means you are abnormal so bi and asexual people are the furthest from straight as one hasn't 'chosen' to be straight eveb though that isnt possible and the other has realised they arent sexual and so much value is placed on procreation so neither is liked by the media, some lesbians and gays and some straight people.

Charlie Fishes 100%

Neutral Person more like a hatred of patriarchy that is instead taken out on women.

Borg Warner the point. Of the video. Is talking about. Bisexual women. And honestly? The people Claudia are talking about never seem to go for the straight men. It’s not that they don’t matter, it’s just in this discussion straight men’s feelings aren’t the one to be prioritised.

A C same. I have been harassed by many sexist and biphobic ideas in the gay clmmunity. In my experience, it is more than a tiny tiny percentage. For sure.

Maybe the bi hating lesbians are actually bi or str8 and are too scared to face it.

@ubu 9 are they now 🤕🤕🤕😵

I agree. of course it's not all lesbians, but it's a significant amount where almost every bi woman that has actively dated both genders has a story where a lesbian wouldn't date her solely bc she also likes men. it's the remnants of lesbian separatism and political lesbianism from the 70's/80's, and still affects the community today. its not lesphobic to say some members of the lesbian community are biphobes, just like its not biphobic to say some bisexuals are lesphobes.

When you married a guy, you accepted the hetero norm. It's funny you still think "others" push them on you. Marriage to a man IS the norm. How much more "normal" can you get? If you yourself have embraced this lifestyle, you can't cry "wolf" afterwards and expect to be taken seriously. I know a few straight women who have avoided marriage, although they have kids with their partner, because they don't believe in the norm. They didn't "have" to; they could have easily chosen to fulfill social expectations and their life would have been easier... but they don't believe in certain norms and they want to be true to themselves, despite family pressure. You can't benefit fully from the advantages of heteronormativity and then try to convince others that you are a "victim". People calling you out on your non-sense aren't "bullying you"... they just don't want to take the hypocrisy. Also... why in the world would you need to constantly tell everyone about your bisexuality and to proclaim yourself "a victim"? If your situation really was that bad, you wouldn't need to "demonstrate" it. People would see it. I feel like some people around here are very narcissistic and constantly insist to be the center of attention.

Being lgbt is not about having credibility, it’s about the impact this has on your life. In itself liking the same sex and rejecting the traditional way of getting married to the opposite sex and having kids is what gets you scrutinized by society, as well as not acting in accordance to gender expectations. People are less interested in what you do in the privacy of your house and more interested in your public persona. It’s not about her “credibility”, but about the way people perceive her. Society is simply not interested in your “feelings” and mostly focused on your behavior. So hating someone is irrelevant, but going over to someone’s house to beat them up will land you in jail. So having feelings for women is irrelevant as long as you marry a guy, have kids, present feminine and just act like any other hetero woman. It’s also irrelevant if you’re bisexual or lesbian as long as you act hetero. Feelings don’t land you in trouble, only actions do. Nobody literally cares what you feel deep down, not even your family. The mere fact that you think being lgbt is about the credibility of your words tells me are very removed from the actual reality of being lgbt. Most families don’t reject their bisexual, lesbian, gay and transgender members for their feelings, but because they perceive them as being rebels who intentionally refuse to act according to tradition. Telling your parents you are a lesbian when you are married to a man and don’t plan to divorce him is.. pointless. They’ll seriously ask you why you think they need to know this as they truly don’t care. It doesn’t impact them in any way.. apart from annoyance. Nothing will literally change. Your credibility is not given by your declarations, but by your behavior.

@@ciobalina7445 being lgbt is about being lgbt, that's it. it's about being queer. bi people are queer, and so no matter who they're dating they should be seen as queer. your opinion is biphobic, aphobic, transphobic towards trans people who are stealth, shitty towards lesbians and gay guys who don't fit queer stereotypes, etc etc. i could go on and on. queerness is not about how people perceive you, because if it was then femme lesbians would be seen as less queer than butch lesbians, because they appear more "straight". but that's stupid. this is a very dangerous opinion to have, extremely damaging to a lot of different lgbtq+ identities. if you're queer you're queer, and how other people perceive you doesn't make you less queer, that's their problem, not the queer person's.

Rhys Carter She looks gorgeous ❤️

Rhys Carter don’t you dare go fucking with my arachnophobia. DOWN WITH THE EIGHT LEGGED BEASTS

@@christinagarcia9353 Without spiders, there would be no Spider-Man. Therefore, no hero for New York City.

I know what it's like to be oppressed, I have been for pretty much my whole life, starting when I started public schooling. I don't want anyone else to have to feel what I felt, so I try to put as much positivity into the world as possible.

But it's funny, we often see women controlling men with sexuality in fiction. And men do it as, if not more, often, with few differences. The differences that are there tend to be tailored more towards how women are attracted to men than any kind of inherent behavior.

That's what it should mean, but sadly it's been twisted into something idiotic and literally contradictory

Geez... People need to stop treating "trans" like it's a separate gender. This bi supports you for who you are. I'm sorry that you were made to feel alienated and invalidated. Saying that bi people can't be attracted to trans people is transphobic. That person flouting their age like it is authority is being a bigot.

Most bi men I've spoken to about bierasure and biphobia say that it's a super similar experience.

meh its more like a spectrum than solid categories categories. fuck whoever you want to (as long as they consent and are of age of course) and dont let an identity police who you are. its really just semantics.

It can't really be reclaimed and repurposed, because those using it don't care about the distinctions between bi people. As an illustration, take the term "trap," which is used as a slur against trans people, especially women. Some people's response to this is to say "okay, we won't use it for trans women, we'll only use it for cross dressing men who want to trick people into thinking they're women." However, this reclamation can't work because the people using "trap" against trans women believe that they are cross dressing men trying to trick people into thinking they're women, the word maintains the same meaning and targets the same people. Likewise with "bihet," you can say "okay, let's use it for bi/heteroromantic hetero/bisexual people, but not for biromantic bisexuals," but the people using it against biromantic bisexuals think that they are faking same sex attraction and are actually het in some way. Reclaiming it doesn't change who it is used against and why it is used, so it isn't being reclaimed.

Then that would be their choice to identify as such, but that doesn't mean that other people get to force that label onto others. Many LGBT people self identify as queer, but that doesn't give cishet people the right to call any LGBT person queer. Likewise, some bisexuals may choose to call themselves bihet, for whatever reason, but that doesn't mean lesbians (or anyone else, for that matter) can force that label onto any bisexual person they choose. No one can decide for you what word best describes your sexuality or gender, besides yourself. The LGBT rights movement has always existed to fight for our right to exist as we choose, without having other people tell us who we have to be.

@@justtheouch So why are bisexuals always crying that lesbians don't want to go out with them? I always see these kinds of complaints from bisexuals (it's stupid)

@@oscarcastillo5907 Sorry, I'm missing your point. What relevance does that have to anything I said?

and now the rad left will say you have"internalized misogyny"

@@johnthehumanist2333 why...? Also, I'm a huge leftist myself, so....