DO THESE 6 Things To Get Him ADDICTED To You Forever! | Matthew Hussey

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@luckyrabbit2 2 года назад

I love the trash can analogy. I don’t know why this showed up my algorithm but it definitely gets me thinking about my husband when we first met and what has kept us so happy these last 18 years. For me, it is the simple fact that from day 1 of living together (after marriage) he always comes out the front door to great me in the driveway. He has the same look on his face today as the first time he came out to greet me all those years ago. He opens my car door, grabs my water bottle and purse, gives me a kiss and checks the trunk to see if anything needs to be brought inside. I can’t tell you how much I love and appreciate that he does this everyday. How does he still feel so excited to see me? I know I am blessed. I cherish him and our daughter with all my heart. Take care of each other, laugh a lot, have a short memory and be quick to forgive.

@lewishowes 2 года назад

👍

@LizVonVillas 2 года назад

You’re a lucky lady! 🥰

@starlight-hy7is 2 года назад

I love that

@ritusplay 2 года назад

Feeling good to know such things do exist🙏

@LadyDang 2 года назад

I love this!

@sherylF5610 2 года назад

One thing I would like to mention - if ever you are approached by another who presents themselves as interested in you, just be kind. If you are not interested, just be kind. This advice is for everyone.

@mattieboris1804 Год назад

Excellent recommendation 👌

@CandaceJDunkley 2 года назад

Four components to a successful relationship (about an hour and 21 minutes in:) 1. Admiration 2. Connection 3. Commitment 4. Compatibility

@lewishowes 2 года назад

🙌

@jillioknucklehead2182 2 года назад

But also the 2nd half, don't be one dimensional and find a unique pairing, an "and", don't be boring and entitled, love takes work. The more being a rare bird, the more unique pairing makes them harder to lose

@jillioknucklehead2182 2 года назад

Towards the last quarter: Don't be needy, insecure, boring, expect a partner to fix it, and especially for too long, it's too much pressure, keep working on yourself.

@jillioknucklehead2182 2 года назад

Also check out the "Mel Robbins" guest talk on RU-vid on "compatibility" the 11 mins is gold.

@lostfree2307 2 года назад

@jamiezintgraff3413 2 года назад

I was adamantly against asking out a guy that I liked. I believed that I deserved to be pursued and that if he didn't make the first move by asking me out, or even talking to me, he wasn't doing that. I wanted a man who was assertive and manly and I didn't think he was because he hadn't talked to me in months. After watching one of Matthew's videos talking about how hard it was for men, I decided I would ask the guy I liked out for coffee. I worked up the nerve and he was delighted. We hit it off amazingly and have been inseparable since. I now know that he wanted to talk to me but would not have asked me out as he believed it would have been inappropriate because of the situation and he was tired of putting himself out there and being rejected over and over. Turns out, he is assertive, incredibly engaged and communicative, and has pursued me every step of the way. Taking the chance to ask him out and "drop my handkerchief" was the best decision I ever made, and I realized playing hard to get was actually hurting me.

@stevec3526 2 года назад

Few Good Men will approach a woman unless she gives a clear signal to him. A smile, a flip of your hair while looking at him. These all give a signal to man that you are open to an approach.

@UnpredictableAri 2 года назад

If he is indeed, assertive , then he should’ve had no problem initiating communication with you. So if he is assertive etc and didn’t do that, then he may have not been as interested.. not to be mean.. but men rarely turn women down so once you asked, he probably just went along with it. If he lacks the confidence to approach me then I rather not bother personally

@soulfulexpansions Год назад

I literally went thru like a near five yr period where every man I met made me make the first move!? It was like a thing. I felt like I was being taught some unknown lesson by the universe Guy would sit there the whole night ! And not make a move but want to. It drove me nuts!!

@jamiezintgraff3413 Год назад

@@UnpredictableAri That may have been initially true, but I took a lot of factors into play when making my decision. We only saw each other in a church setting (awkward place to meet someone, especially when you’re not a teen or young single) and I have 3 children who were with me on a regular basis. I thought the same thing as you which is why I refused to talk to him first, but I didn’t know him or his history. A mid thirties man going around church asking single mothers if they want to go on dates would come across as more agressive than assertive, in my opinion. (There was an older man who asked to get to know me more and I believed his approach to be assertive, which I liked at first. But it was quickly revealed that he was agressive, manipulative, and lied to me about very important information.) We were both fairly new to the church and still getting to know people, so mingling can take some time. I guess I could have simply introduced myself and initiated conversation as opposed to asking him to get coffee with me, but I knew I already had a crush, I’m in my thirties with three kids, not interested in games, and didn’t want to get to know someone at church a few minutes here or there with everyone watching us (and everyone was definitely watching us). So, as much as I have held the same belief you do, I decided to take a chance, really with the intention of just getting over my crush, and find out who he was. Thankfully, he wasn’t JUST being nice. He was actually interested in talking to me and getting to know me and had been working up the nerve for several weeks. From the moment we started talking he showed an incredible amount of interest and has never stopped. I have never been more pursued or loved more purely and passionately, and everyday I’m grateful I took that chance. The initial disinterest was about dating and being rejected or let down again, not me personally, and the diamond ring on my finger says he’s very much interested in spending his life with me and my children. He’s my best friend and the best thing that’s ever happened to us, and thankfully my children are as obsessed with him as much as I am.

@Lifes_Frosting 3 года назад

I was blown away when he said he was 27 years old. Very mature for that age.

@activeize2676 3 года назад

I think this was shot 5years ago

@abbiealverez2960 3 года назад

He is 33

@christinamckinney2370 3 года назад

Abbie Alverez And....is he still single???

@webbset 3 года назад

Looks 43

@hendyho3240 3 года назад

My ex is 27 years old but acting like 17

@yanis80 2 года назад

I love these two guys...I could listen to them all day. "Music happens between the notes" was my favorite quote. The castle analogy was spot on. I'm not looking for a partner right now, just working on better myself and I realized that listening to them talk about love, relationships, etc is really enlightening and good advice to use on ANY relationship. At the end of the day the world functions because of the infinite relationships that ties every single organism in an invisible, intricate web of connections.

@christinedozier2154 2 года назад

That last sentence though wow

@hosannasoler4958 2 года назад

👌👌👌

@stepheniedomingo9089 2 года назад

Well it doesn't hurt that they both look easy on the eyes 🤗

@toshparham8742 2 года назад

Well said

@allisonkalloo2293 2 года назад

Well said, INDEED.

@QuickFix8 2 года назад

In relationships, it’s like a delicate dance, just like the wrong move, you must correct and continue on, that way there is less damage control or repercussions in the end❤

@helenereeves5274 3 года назад

The Castle is ALWAYS the best advice to rate a potential connection by.

@domesticdiva1045 2 года назад

My husband chose my son over me and built an empire for him. After 38 years I’ve decided to find a new partner it won’t be easy I’ll be 65 on September 11 but I’m not invisible someone is teaching me that and I appreciate it.

@lewishowes 2 года назад

🧡

@theundone777 3 года назад

I recently stopped dating a guy because we had conflicting core values (I highly value growth and new life experiences, he highly values routine, stability and security). Great guy, mature adult, but we both recognized that it we would have to compromise ourselves too greatly to have a long-term relationship. Yes, all relationships take work but I still want someone who is a proper match and who aligns reasonably enough with my values. I won’t significantly change my path for someone else, but I am willing to veer if their path is close enough to mine.

@mariamihova 3 года назад

yeah, absolutely right decision ;-)

@unlucky7s561 3 года назад

Typical. You are a victim of feminism and you probably don't even realize it. The ambition you have will lead to loneliness because you believe you can have it all right? Strong and independent powerful woman not willing to settle. You are such an idiot.

@emp9413 3 года назад

@@unlucky7s561 lol and you have issues.

@unlucky7s561 3 года назад

@@emp9413 WOW! Such an insightful comment. Just because you can speak doesnt mean you should. Especially when you have nothing to say.

@emp9413 3 года назад

@@unlucky7s561 ditto.

@annamiller2964 2 года назад

"How good is it day to day?" This is so useful to ask ourselves when in a relationship.

@lewishowes 2 года назад

👍

@kittykaburu8620 3 года назад

Oh my gosh...my heart when he says " its the trashcan that determines the relationship..." that is how I think!!! Choose happiness in the little moments!

@JVanProduction 2 года назад

31:26 Thank you for pointing that out, Matt. I was thinking this very viewpoint the other week when I tried to rationalize one of my relationships. I was still very much in love when we broke up on a whim. But then I thought about the micro moments and how alone I felt most of the time. The hormones/chemicals racing through my body told me a different story but when I felt unheard, overlooked, the small rejections-- it all added up. Constantly feeling anxiety- worry about saying the wrong thing and getting yelled at or being told my narrative. There were beautiful moments . But in the day to day life, I didn't get asked how my day was or how I was feeling. Or the decency to put down a phone and pay attention to me... even after I asked. Yawning when I was trying to talk to them. Disrespect will break down a relationship over time like water on metal-- rust will slowly appear and then erode that metal.

@redrumax 2 года назад

so sad this happened to you.

@kimberlydeschamp6300 2 года назад

@@redrumax and to almost everyone. But amazing to recognize what's happening and to decide it's not enough.

@angeramirez25 2 года назад

Wow I am glad you moved on. This was clealry abusive from his part.

@elizabethperlstein3229 2 года назад

You deserve better.

@blessingsfromspirit6881 2 года назад

Ditto in my marriage…he just threw money and lifestyle at me but completely ignored me…mentally, physically and emotionally. I’m so much happier already even though I have to live on way more of a budget

@LMDinNC 3 года назад

This guy is successful because he’s great at coming up with analogies. Anyone can have a great time at Disney World - but the themed trash cans throughout the park make it truly great. You fall in love with Space Mountain (thrill ride) but it’s the trash cans (attention to detail) that make you truly happy.

@Chichirivichi 3 года назад

You work so well together. Thanks Lewis and Matthew. You always give highly valuable information.

@christinamckinney2370 3 года назад

How has he not found it? He’s adorable!!🥰

@SunshineSurfsup1 3 года назад

This is the best dating advice: it’s the little special things that are big (eg Disney’s detailed trash cans, not the rides) and the couple needs to be mutually builders of its ‘castle’ (the home of the relationship)

@melled8422 Год назад

Lots of great, invaluable information Matthew! You have much wisdom for a man of 27 years. I dare to disagree on one point. In this video, you gave us ladies advice that trusting our instincts might not always be a good thing. I think your concept is correct. I would rephrase to say "don't trust your insecurities". Instincts are apart from our insecurities. I learned that from someone and it stuck with me. I once didn't trust my instincts and decided to be insecure regarding my own intuition, this led me to latch on to an abusive relationship, to which I am now free from, and all the more wise when it comes to instincts 🎉

@happyas8 2 года назад

I spent 4-5 months chatting with a guy at work every time he come in. Done what I could for him, sent him off with a smile on his face every time I seen him. I dropped hints I liked him,flirted with him etc etc. I seen him write his number down on a form for drivers we had them fill out every day, so I slyly wrote his number down for future reference lol. 3 weeks after I left that job I finally got the courage up to send him a text to say Hi. He thought it was excellent I made the first move to contact him, as he had no idea what happened to me or how to contact me. STEP UP LADIES and make the first move on who and what you want, if you dont someone else will.

@belindaroulston152 3 года назад

Liking a man and building a connection is wonderful. I have been chatting with a guy for two months, and we have so much in common and have build an amazing connection already. Due to COVID we have not been able to spend time together but we are very excited about the potential. He has invested time in communicating every day from day one, and the this is not how I expected to build a connection with someone. The qualities this guy has shown me is amazing, and we have had some moments when things were said that caused tension as well but we sorted that out. Never before have I met someone that I have found communicated the way I do. I am excited to see this grow, and develop into more. The important thing is to not lose myself, and invest everything. I have been there, and done that and I will never do that again. We both relate to each other so well and it feels great. Matthew you are awesome and you have helped me so much. I love everything about this guy, and he has amazing qualities, het gets overwhelmed with me expressing my self because that’s who I am. How do I not over express my feelings to extent I put him on a pedestal but still be able to express my feelings for a man.

@christineyeshu4927 2 года назад

dear friends its very healthy to be with someone but dont rush coz you wont enjoy it . all the same it is soo sweet when you get your angle or your devil live with them provided they wont heart you. remember even a devil can turn one day to be an angle while the can also turn to a devil enjoy every sweet bit and when it turns sour dont hold it release to the world he or she may be an angle to someone

@womanofwisdom6795 3 года назад

The more i listen to this man Mathew Hussey, the more i find him more attractive not just by his looks but he's substance 💕 🇵🇭

@DianaGarcia-lb9dl 3 года назад

I used to listen to him but honestly I find Stephan Labossiere so much better..check him out..Lewis interviews him too.

@gesund_mit_chris_IG 3 года назад

Love his content as well!

@monosicos18 3 года назад

I love Lewis making notes :)) Keep talking guys! It gives me hope for some better days to come in relationship department.

@guitarsz 3 года назад

I started listening to Matt when he first started showing up online. He’s really full of great observations. All his work has certainly built up a wealth of knowledge. This was a Great conversation.

@lifecoachjess967 3 года назад

i did too!

@guitarsz 3 года назад

Jess_Inspirez :) ❤️✨🙏🏼

@biggim3265 3 года назад

I happen to believe that the perfect relationship can only be found with you and yourself and even that takes daily effort........but Matthew and you are two lovely people that make this world a happier place for so many. Thank you ! xx

@hotmessmomtv4117 3 года назад

You nailed it about how we need space to even decide if there's potential. 😂 So true- I never noticed that before 🤔

@gikancimafranca6736 3 года назад

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@claudiapurcell8687 Год назад

OMG!!!! 🤔🤔🤔 That's brilliant... The difference between "being in love and being happy...." You can be in love and be unhappy...😔

@lourdesdigal2174 2 года назад

I just really salute you both ..Creativity and Caring in relationship work

@samsimpleton 3 года назад

Matthew hussey is so sincere and sweet. I have been reading and watching his stuff for a decade now and honestly, have found his advice to be the most useful. Thanks for this video! Love 💓

@awatifana7154 3 года назад

Are you in a relationship?

@samsimpleton 3 года назад

Awatif Ana I’m not anymore :)

@Ok-kh5qq 3 года назад

If you been watching it for a decade did it work yet? 😅

@samsimpleton 3 года назад

@@Ok-kh5qq thats pretty funny haha, yeah his advice kinda made me not accept less than what i deserve and i didnt settle for the last guy so im waiting for the right one. its about learning to value yourself! :)

@gesund_mit_chris_IG 3 года назад

@@samsimpleton Good point, thanks for sharing👌

@djhitmakerbeats758 3 года назад

"Being a genuine team" ...I love that.

@katdavenport6698 2 года назад

This was so helpful. I wanted to understand and relate to some of these things and concepts but had nothing to draw from. I do now. Thank you so so much.

@YuyiLeal 3 года назад

"Being a genuine team" ...I love that...ah, such a crucial aspect in a good relationship...

@user-il4ej3lx3r 3 года назад

Spot on guys! Such a great breakdown on this whole topic. And Lewis also always does the perfect job on questioning exactly what we're all thinking haha coupled with the perfect answers!

@christineyeshu4927 2 года назад

one thing i have learnt about men is they get attracted every moment they meet an attractive girl so at some point they must break your heart and they thing that you dont have the same feeling as a woman

@veronicap3514 3 года назад

Needed to hear this right now! Great discussions.

@nidzaboricua3294 3 года назад

Why did I guess that once he said perfect relationship everyone would only concentrate on that. He doesn't mean relationships are perfect, he means the prefect one for you! Someone who works hard at the relationship and wants to grow together. Cuz, let's face it, we have a very hard time finding one person who it works with.

@carrielegg5480 3 года назад

Yes!! Women get locked in on words! This statement has helped me so much. Your actions speak so loud that I can't hear a word you say !

@emp9413 3 года назад

Lol thank you. Geeez ppl are sensitive...

@emp9413 3 года назад

@@nidzaboricua3294 huh? I was saying ppl sure are sensitive about using the word perfect. I was thanking u for clarifying.

@nidzaboricua3294 3 года назад

@@emp9413 oooohhh sorry about that

@AngelaSmith-di2uw Год назад

I've Been in Peace In Christ 7 Years. My, Emotions are not very strong as They used to be. Where The Purity and Clarity is Definitely My Mechanism for a Great Hearted Soul Sister Truly 🙌 😇 Blessed 🙏 Amen

@renchemarais8419 3 года назад

TRUE When surfing I was drawn in by a currant, I stayed calm and that current took me back safely to shore!

@xd-yf5gq 3 года назад

I think this interview is great. It unearthed a lot of unique insights that I don't usually hear about. Although Lewis asked really good questions, I think perhaps he could let Matthew elaborate on what he want to say rather than cutting him off abruptly and going off on a tangent right then and there. Maybe Matthew's elaboration could open up to more interesting questions insights. In terms of tangents, I think it could explored later in the interview, perhaps writing a note about it and then going back into it after Matthew has fully elaborated on it or in the later parts of the interview. I think this would make the interview really awesome overall. But I overall I still did enjoy the interview, and thank you for asking really good questions.

@joycebrower8822 3 года назад

Love. Love, Love this video! So insightful, helpful, and enlightening! Lewis Howes and Matthew Hussey together are a breath of fresh air!

@claudiafegari5116 2 года назад

What a delightful conversation between 2 friends that brought tons of great info! Many statements here, took my breath away, literally. 12 years old, the sensitivity and his ability of observation it is really special! The trashcan analogy is pure gold!

@lewishowes 2 года назад

So happy you are enjoying the content. I would love for you to subscribe and leave me a review here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id596047499

@GadgetsGearCoffee 3 года назад

As a woman who dates women, Mathew hussy's content is still very relevant and helpful cuz at the end of the day it's human behavior and relating

@blvckqueer7477 2 года назад

BIG FACTS

@agnessimon2119 2 года назад

Hello I'm so excited my relationship was fixed back again my ex is back to me we loving and happily together,I got help from a great man who brought us back together????

@agnessimon2119 2 года назад

whatzzp him now

@alejandrabonita8355 2 года назад

Good grief 😔

@iamaldamariecabilin7010 2 года назад

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@jimlyon7276 3 года назад

@ 16:55 - 19:00 - This part is REALLY great ! It's so seldom do people talk about the difficulty between transitioning back & forth between our THALAMUS ( the seat of our emotions [ original lower part of our brain ] ) & our CORTEX. The problems are not only are they on different levels but if you get too emotional it can overload your cortex so you can't use it! But even if you are calm it takes time to transition to your cortex - known as applying a CORTICAL PAUSE. Sometimes the transition comes so easily that you're not even aware of it, other times you have to take a little time to apply it "consciously". With awareness & practice it comes more easily. But then this is yet another thing we are not taught when we are much younger so I guess it's hardly surprising there are so many people wandering around on this planet who don't have a clue as to how to even start using their cortex !

@susannefitzpatrick9955 5 месяцев назад

Men don’t think with their Thalmus or their Cortex, love!

@angelical1234 3 года назад

Yup. Right now I’m grieving getting to the 4th stage and realizing compatibility is not there as much as it seemed to be and decided to let it go as much as stage 1, 2 and 3 were ON POINT !!! So painful.

@nancycrockett4276 Год назад

After almost 4 yrs online and having lots of separations and getting back together etc.. he started asking too many personal questions like wanting my SS# to help me with home improvements and my Bank # for his Insurance so he could help me money wise etc. He was in the army deployed in Afghanistan and we chatted as often as possible phone chats too and planned to meet this Summer but too many little things gnawed in that gut feeling you get somethings not right...Told him long ago you have to have all your Covid shots or it's a no go! He refused so I called our local Army Reserve and yes all Soldiers must have them...That did it! 3 weeks and my ❤is healing slowly...Being a Widow of 19 yrs I'm set in my ways and I know like my sweet Dad used to say "If it sounds too good to be true it probably is! And no I never gave him any money either! Sorry so long but feel better writing all this anyway🙏⚘

@christianehauptdo.7417 3 года назад

Thanks, Matt & Lewis. Needed just this = best off 😌 all Videos, danke!!

@jellybaby822 3 года назад

I know this is about 5 years old and Matthew Hussey is young and full of beans but he has got incredible insight for a young man, unique and sweet what a lovely guy, both of you such sweet amazing guys ❤️

@mousumichowdhury8135 2 года назад

I really enjoyed and appreciate both of your explanations based on your experiences and valid thoughts about life, love and relationships. It'll really be beneficial for many of us. Thank you so much for your kind efforts. Love and respects from India

@LibyHRodriguesFreedom78 3 года назад

i love the castle building analogy and the drop the handkerchief hack, thanks!

@yvonneskeet3471 2 года назад

Cant wait till you do it , your advice is incredibly insigtful based on the feedback from us who have done it , what you may underestimate is the damage done to people , and the massive complications from that damage interpersonal from one damaged person to another , it gets very hard as time goes by.

@steweythecatdog 3 года назад

Wow Lewis, You knocked it out of the park again....thank you so much 😊❤❤❤👍

@belledever1472 3 года назад

No one says trust your instinct. People say trust your intuition and it is true. Instinct and intuition are not the same thing at all !!

@carollynch4653 3 года назад

I used to get so jealous of people’s highlight reels, but now I see it as they might be thinking “Well I’ve been through a lot of crap this week but here’s a happy snap to remind myself it’s all worth it!”

@user-wj2zv1vd8y Год назад

The Castle analogy reminds me of the song "Being in Love" from the old Broadway muscial The Music Man where the character Marian the Librarian sings about wanting a man "who is more interested in Us, than he is interested in me." It's her anthem about learning the difference between fairy tale love vs. a real life committment.

@marijosetapia 3 года назад

This was great. Thank you!

@lindafuentes1962 2 года назад

Your analogy of the castle was absolutely beautiful !!!!

@tashaonasiqueira7006 2 года назад

I only just started listening to you and I’m sure you already know why haha … but I love your story about the two builders …I feel so much more optimistic already … there is a lot to still learn but well … when better than now … better late than never 🥰

@nimoakanji4500 3 года назад

I love the concept of the castle, building together. That's very true.

@MyLove-uj8zi 2 года назад

My husband was on his last day at alpha beta, grocery store, gathering phone numbers of the girls. I refused then my little cousin gave it to him. He never called the other girls. We have been married since 1977.

@lewishowes 2 года назад

🧡

@NataliyaDuSoleil 3 года назад

Great interviews! Thank you, Lewis and Matthew! Love your interviews! Learned a lot! God bless you for your hard and deep work!

@ruthfanfan961 3 года назад

I actually enjoyed this more than I thought I would

@eliana-limonisjustsaying..3398 2 года назад

Lewis, I love your videos not just because the people you interview are great people with great insight into their fields, but your questions are always so neat!! congrats on your fantastic job.

@lewishowes 2 года назад

So happy you are enjoying the content. I would love for you to subscribe and leave me a review here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id596047499

@missmarley1990 3 года назад

The castle and trash can analogies! 🤯 wow! Loved this thanks

@maximvinogradov4576 3 года назад

Great interview and Great listening abilities from the interviewer.

@kazdolphin1933 2 года назад

Absolutely what i needed to hear and learn. I’ve been in such a rut. Thankyou

@lewishowes 2 года назад

You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡

@LonjeMarie7 3 года назад

I have learned so much educated myself this video is perfect ! I like the castle analogy it’s really something to think about often times women we just don’t know any better so we end up being taken advantage of and in fantasyland this video helps us not to be that way.

@Fishingirlbb61 2 года назад

Thank you Matt for making this crystal clear with the castle analology. I needed to hear this.

@genjarus2782 2 года назад

I love it, I love that mindset honest, open.

@karistarling5482 3 года назад

Fantastic perspective!

@beingintrinsic 2 года назад

Loved the section on discernment between Love and Desire and how it is cultivated... (and the antithesis mentioned many times which is boredom) Love to introduce Ecstasy which is the dance between both Love and Desire. It can be cultivated and is also discovered in an innate state of deep presence (intrinsic and extrinsic.) Hello, infinite attraction - thanks to curiosity. Curiosity can be circumstantial as in using distance, to create desire but also can be created deliberately no matter the circumstance, asserting that you don't know your partner and then delight in discovering them. Also known as the Art of the Question that leads to the Art of the Meow-time that follows :D

@aparnabhatia5072 Год назад

Lewis u have a nice smile ☺. You're face is glowing with energy all the time. You're so bubbly when you talk. Thanks!

@lewishowes Год назад

Appreciate you! 🧡

@mariamihova 3 года назад

Pure wisdom :-) Thank you both :-) I follow you for years and can say this video is one of the best ever :-)

@lewishowes 3 года назад

Thank you!

@MsRinarose 3 года назад

@TheNinnyfee 3 года назад

I love your starting questions, Lewis! They're so open and honest. It makes me so sad that Matthew got mauled by high-school girls because there were so many kind others just waiting for him. I was one of those shy awkward girls, I always watched these guys getting mauled because they went for the game-players.

@judygale2137 2 года назад

I focused on friendship and Became a buddy. It certainly Paid off in later years!

@aparnabhatia5072 Год назад

Thanks to u and Hussey for sharing valuable information! Trash cans was a first one for me! I was thinking 💭 somebody has to pick up the stinky trash. Respect for them!

@evalutz222 2 года назад

What an interesting video. So much Information! Was a pleasure to watch! Thank you for making it 🙏

@lewishowes 2 года назад

You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡

@julalainelagat8939 3 года назад

Self development is really our responsibility before our partner helps us.

@notmyrealpseudonym6702 3 года назад

2 lovely blokes talking shit for 90 minutes ... I'm in. Thank you both for the window to the conversation

@dear.mibebe 3 года назад

I love this intelligent man!!

@stephaniefaith7427 3 года назад

Contact him on whatsaap...

@lufunorembuluwani8556 3 года назад

This is the best advice that I’ve ever heard

@FoxcHoney 2 года назад

🎶🥰Beautifully put, Lewis.😊🎶

@samanthabaer1751 2 года назад

I give them a big warm smile , and they usually come over

@angelicamiller3980 2 года назад

Thanks for this. So much of It resonated with the most important relations I've had in my life.

@lewishowes 2 года назад

You're welcome,thank you for being here 🧡

@kazdolphin1933 2 года назад

Excellent information for us all. Thankyou

@lewishowes 2 года назад

You're welcome🧡

@amritawhitman8112 3 года назад

This was truly an excellent and very interesting compilation of excerpts from your conversations with Matthew! Thanks so much for putting it together!

@alinatanase4104 2 года назад

Such a healing conversation! Thank you so much!

@lewishowes 2 года назад

Appreciate you for listening! 🙏

@abeautifulcountry9353 2 года назад

Please...Nothing makes a guy addicted to you. Nothing you wear, say, do or how you behave can make him fall for you. It is either there or not.

@NewMe1515 2 года назад

100% agree

@relaxingnaturemelodies1287 2 года назад

Addiction = lust

@ntese22 2 года назад

Lewis you did a great job of as an interviewer in reading your guest and just letting the guest go on and on and keeping a neutral response (especially during the trash cans part).

@lewishowes 2 года назад

🧡

@nazasha5584 2 года назад

Your gifted for all your doing and working to serve us all millions of beings. Yes i feel couple of times watching you and listening am.back.i need to learn. Spirit choose you to serve me to thanks for the knowledge.

@AllyPNW Год назад

Awesome! Loved all you said!! So needed to hear all that!!

@lewishowes Год назад

Glad this was helpful for you🧡

@paulasmagicland 2 года назад

Live this one! Matthew is the best on these subjects! 👌💗 And the castle-thing very good! Super clear and helpful! 😉💕🌿

@lewishowes 2 года назад

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@aselat.8987 3 года назад

Thanks for this episode and would just like to say that you (Lewis and Matthew) both look so handsome 😊❤️

@jccgold 3 года назад

What a great podcast. Congratz

@serox7451 2 года назад

Omg 😱 i needed this 3 years ago thank you for every word

@lewishowes 2 года назад

🧡

@keiheaherakiwi1611 2 года назад

I think you have to be open to learning each other….have no expectations or if you have, don’t hide them, share it with your partner so they understand you. Communication us a must….

@lewishowes 2 года назад

🙌

@keiheaherakiwi1611 2 года назад

@Shukuat Abiola I have mine

@Mercymaseko 2 года назад

You guys are really awesome and I loved the discussion because I have learned a lot.

@lewishowes 2 года назад

So happy you are enjoying the content. I would love for you to subscribe and leave me a review here: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/id596047499

@user-gm3se9kq8x 7 месяцев назад

Thank you Mathew and Lewis! Happy thanksgiving ‼️‼️I'm thankful for you both and what you talk about ❣️😊

@lewishowes 7 месяцев назад

Happy Thanksgiving too! 🧡

@Feelr586 3 года назад

I LOVE THIS GUY!!!!!!

@esmeevans1423 2 года назад

It is the quality of time that you spend with someone rather than the quantity of time. This also applies to raising children.

@lewishowes 2 года назад

🙌

@guitarsz 3 года назад

My favorite part of this conversation begins after Lewis asks Matt why he thinks that people bail on relationships more than ever. What Matt has to say about love and desire is very astute. Everything he says after that is golden.

@ShawnaMarieQueenBee 2 года назад

Where is that time wise in this video?

@demetricchapman460 Год назад

@@ShawnaMarieQueenBee a little past midway

@demetricchapman460 Год назад

@@ShawnaMarieQueenBee he pretty much said there has to be desire Desire is there in the very beginning bc there was space As the relationship progresses, create space to maintain desire