Do This to Feel Comfortable In Your Own Skin (At All Times) 

This video means a lot to me. I am married to one of those non-resistant- to- life "likable" men. As he says to me he just "plods" through life like a draft horse with whatever happens. Calm, humble, peaceful- accepting of what life gives, reverent of life, god, a lover of people and animals. I never "got" him until now. What made him tick. He says "yes" to life. I'm the exact opposite. I've fought life and for 4 years have watched videos hoping I'd find the secret to suffering.(Adyashanti, Mooji, Swami Sarvaprianands etc.) I was illuminated today. So simple and right there all the time. My heart is so full and I can't stop laughing! Thank you.

I really wish that asteroid would finally fall in the sea in the end of the video creating a huge wave behind smiling Angelo. It would be a perfect non-resistance video.

The comet never quite hits your head. Thank goodness! We would hate to lose the priceless gifts you offer.

"Non resistance has to mean non-resistance to resistance". Pure gold, thank you so much

Just want to say that judging by their comments, I feel like the people who follow this channel are amazing.

Trust was the hardest password to learn, the fear ran so deeply. 🧐

About 30 years ago, in the depths of an emotionally devastating breakup I sought relief one night by getting stoned, dimming the lights, lighting some incense, putting on some chill-out music, laying down and trying to meditate. It occurred to me then that I was knotted up with so much resistance and I made a conscious decision to just submit to it all, the suffering and everything. As soon as I let it all be I was carried up on a wave of bliss that left me in tears with a stupid grin on my face. I look back fondly on this experience as the beginning of the end of me.

There is an intellectual understanding that free will is an illusion. There have been several instances where no-doer was very clearly seen too. In those moments there was absolutely no resistance, and hysterical laughter followed. I suspect living from no-doer as experiential and embodied, which i figure is the “awakened state,” non resistance would be the natural way one experiences life yes? Knowing no-doer intellectually with a handful of clear seeing moments definitely does not produce a nonresistant, living experience. Fffs Love you Angelo! 🩵🙏

Massive appreciation for these videos - such a gift.

“I trust Life.” What a beautiful belief to have wired into the mind 🥰

Thank you for the reminder that resistance is thoughts and beliefs, Jill Bolte Taylor said "Although many of us may think of ourselves as thinking creatures that feel, biologically we are feeling creatures that think."

Let it be ~ The Beatles

That which you resist, will persist.

After a series of shorter ones, I had a deep awakening experience in February. Lasted the month. A lot to be said about how I existed within it, but I felt like love embodied. Completely held by the universe. No fear. No regret. Today I feel like resistance personified. Trying not to hang on. I have so much gratitude for what you’re doing. The loneliness is intense, so the consistency and frequency of the videos is so comforting. Found you through Jeff Warren’s page, ps. Ordered your book right away. Thank you. So much love for my virtual teachers. Deep bow.

absolutely everything what we experience is meant to be exactly the way it is and is part of meaning of human life to experience duality even is not real and is created only to experience.. its like perfect game where all players believe its all true - including pain emotions and finally death

The Road to Disappointment is paved in Expectations

Another frigging gem.......I want the whole world to hear this, at least those that can:-)

My husband is so completely non-resistant and indeed he is quite calming to be around. Sometimes this has been frustrating to me with all of my thoughts and filters, but ultimately, he is my teacher in this regard.

'Tools' for the non-tool box.....xoxo

I'm so glad I found this video. I've been trying to work out an awakening I had roughly 30 years ago which completely transformed my life. I couldn't explain it to anybody, friends family, anybody. When I saw the film 'The Matrix' years later, it blew me away as it was like a very clever allegory in a hollywood way of what had happened to me, but yet my experience was far beyond the drama of that movie. I was so young, had no reference to what had happened to me and I have to admit, even though for months after the transformation I had terrible sorrow and a feeling like I was free falling through an abyss, and the deepest crying for the world and all it's apparent suffering that I could now see was totally unnecessary and primarily based in an innocent fear ( That's what I thought then anyway) There was one thing that was said to me from source during that massive shift; it said and offered to me like a golden key for my life going forward - the answer to life is Love ! That's it simple simple simple. The answer to life is Love, you are made of Love, and the whole thing is just made of Love. Completely unconditional Love, no conditions, no exclusions, no outside of it all, even the worst imaginable attrocity, behind it sat Love Love Love. How bizarre and inexpressible for a young man still in his teens with all the other stuff teenagers believe, yet here it was gifted to me. My life 100 % transformed, and it was like I couldn't even really remember life before the awakening (if that's what it was - I didn't even frame it that way until I've recently found Non Duality) It doesn't really mater what it's called as whatever happened it was completely earth shattering like an existential death. Colours blinded me in the visual field, the earth breathed like a living being, and I felt like I could see all the people and their deep sorrows written on their faces everywhere I went there was this radiant Love behind every surface of life. And my honeymoon lasted for years. I had no resistance, no polarity, an effortlessness and deep peace pervaded my life. This was all unspoken and never truly expressed, it just was. Now obviously I look back and see life threw a million things at me to test that deep faith, and indeed selfhood came back, I became a man and I became arrogant and tested every boundary, there was a shadow, there is a shadow in me that slowly manifested and brought out the most ugly, arrogant, addictive, betrayer and dualistic wretched sinner, I even reveled in pushing every boundary, but not in a way wher I was consciously trying to hurt people, not at all, yet unconsciously I did hurt people including myself perhaps most of all. And here I am years later with terrible suffering, mostly apparently physical, and having cut myself off from all relationships as my world is just filled with pain, I've become a kind of hermit just getting by with all my dreams shattered. Now I'm consciously trying to find a way back, and those words uttered to me from the most benevolent source still ring in my ears - the answer is love. Please forgive this long comment. Your video and content of what you are saying here have rekindled and elucidated what that now foreign burning touch gave to me - acceptance, acceptance of it all. I truly desire to let this whole narrative go now, I hunger for the living truth and that's why I'm here. Take it all, burn it all. Source please help me to grow up and be whatever it is that flows with your will. I am lost, truly lost but your words here have pointed to a way.

"The more we should all over ourselves" 💩 I need to stop should-ing myself. 😂

I did it 20 years ago just to see if I had the balls, not resisting someone who were about to me stab me. Took up a few beating too, in this mindset. Bottom line, violence is like everything else, it look extreme until it's not. Violence never feel good if you are not a sadist but you can become surprisingly confortable with it, especially if it's direct toward you. We all have to look at death in the eyes at some point and it's really game changing, the younger you do it the better. It's something ancient greek societies understood well throught rite of passage. Great video btw, very, very useful. Glad to see that your channel is growing well.

I forgot about that saying although it's one of my favorites! Never should on yourself!

It's just hard to catch yourself when you are being resistant to life. Before you know it there is a thought storm in your head and you're all worked up and then it's hard to open up to whatever is and be equanimous... I just spend Easter weekend with my family. And there was lots of resistance and undesirable emotional.

I always say we shouldn’t “should on each other and ourselves”!!! I’ve never heard anyone else say that! You’re my bro

Perfectly Timed 👍🏽

Peacefull background. Thank you!

That background reminds me of the final scene in the movie Contact

What I've become aware of is not resisting so much, not that resisting at times does occur, but what seems more prevalent is second guessing of my thoughts and actions, maybe I shouldn't have said or done a particular thing it's exhausting, Love to you all

Excellent

Thank you from the bottom of my heart

I step in my own giant piles of should regularly. I did it today, in fact, as I complained about an annoying person I encounter at work. But it didn’t improve my situation at all-it just got me covered in more should. It’s almost like I have coprophilia!

It looks like I’m the first here...does that make me special? Thanks for the valuable content as always👍

One of your best man. Thank you for the permission. It allows me to go deeper, and deeper, and deeper.

"Should all over ourselves..."🤣 Puns are like very slightly-cooler-than-warm tickles on the inside 😂

Beautiful. ❤

Resistance is ego , you stop resistance you have killed the ego

Thanks for the video, Angelo! There's a hesitation to sharing personal experiences, but I just can't help it 😉. What you're speaking of really struck me during a solo backpacking trip I had taken a few months after a significant breakup, in which I had taken a large dose of mushrooms. During the trip I was given a gift. As the peak occurred, I had two realizations. 1) I had the power to change ANYTHING in the cosmos. It was completely and utterly under my control. 2) Yet..... Paradoxically.... it was perfect. Nothing needed to be changed. The very presence of existence was it. We exist because it need not be any other way. Anyway - 5 years on and the lessons continue to deepen! Thanks for your guidance. Love y'all!! 🤠

It’s a super long process for me I alter between the formless state “ I am” and then an anxious state

Trusting life…❣️

The perfect non resisting,,,,a dead Man beeing alive,,,a Jivan Mukta !

thank you, angelo.

“The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven..” ― John Milton, Paradise Lost

Thank you ever so much 🙏

Thank you so much.

Thank you Angelo 🙏

This is so profoundly useful. Be here now and let it be. Just let go. This is a video I will return to. Thank you.

I so appreciate your videos. I learn something new every time. The best thing is being able to use one of these little gifts when life puts me into a situation where they help. I had never heard of "shadow work" until you mentioned it in a video. Since then, I've had time to read up on this topic and have had two incidents where what I learned was very helpful. Most of what you point to is way down the path for me, but I am glad that when that time arises, there will be videos that I can re-watch and put into practice. Thank you.

Truly life changing. Woke feeling sleep deprived (the resistance built in even to that term lol) with waves of resistance in the form of thought and emotion. That’s now gone. Felt into every aspect of that pattern and now it’s replaced with deep gratitude and peace. This one’s a keeper ❤️💔🤗 thank you again, always.

Needed this today. Thank you

Thank you!! ❤

💖🙏💖

Thank you for elaborating a little about how we will “respond” to life in a more sensical natural realistic way when giving attention to our resistances! It’s a huge part of what makes awareness so confusing for people! Great stuff like always, this is super helpful just in time for my therapy session! Once again, the divination doesn’t lie. Keep being authentic, keep being you!

There is no separation between this video and the truth. I accepted situations when I was very young and did not know better. My goal is to accept situations again from a higher level. I get the same feeling from hearing this type of deep truth as I do from looking at stars so the background is right on too. WOW! Thank you, so much Dr. Dilullo!!

So I’m learning so much of what you teach can help anyone. You may be teaching in the context of awakening and I am listening with that same mindset but I realize how much can help anyone with anxiety. Emotion work, compassion meditation… I’ve seen some of this touched on but never in a way that could help as much. Maybe it just all sinks in better or I wasn’t ready to hear but I feel like so much of this could help my family members or friends not on this path to help manage hard times and anxiety etc.

This was so helpful!

Radical, beautiful and simplistic. These are the words that came to me watching this video. Filled with so much 💗 💕 ❤️

Amazing video. I guess that the 10 th fetter have some point very similar .. thanks man. ❤

Beautiful 💗 thank you!

Excellent ✨

I've heard Shinzen Young talk about this a lot. Resonates highly for me!

I didn’t even start the video and I already put a thumbs up! There is really amazing people living in this world such as you and it is just beutiful and a gift to listen to the wise ones! Only love and peace 🦋❤️🙌🏾

Thanks

God bless you Angela. God bless us all❤️🙏🌈

This helped me, thank you

Michael Singer's books address this topic beautifully. His latest book "Living Untethered: Beyond the Human Predicament" is definitely worth the read. Thank you for this video....excellent.

Haha, that sounds like my husband, this person, that just accept life so deeply, not doing a specific spiritual practice but just living as best as he can with all that is in that moment. I'm always amazed by his ability to do so. I've learned a lot from him and recently I started trusting life more and more and actually seeing things more often than not as perfect just the way they are in that moment. It's such a relief, when I manage to stay in that space of openess and acceptance and trust. I regularly snap out of it, but I feel that's okay, too, I will come back :D

Thank you.

Thankyou 😍

Love this, Angelo. I feel I'm 90% there. Just a little ways to go.

Yes.

Thank you ~

Thank you so much for this. I saw this for myself many years ago whilst on a meditation retreat and finding myself reading J Krishnamurti. It seemed the key to the whole awakening thing came down to 2 things, 1. Observe 'what is' and 2. Don't resist 'what is'. Observing my actual moment by moment reality 'what is' took me out of my limited thinking mind into a wonderful uncontrived presence. I saw that I could only observe what is as long as I wasn't trying to resist what is, i.e. make it into something else. This made sense as how could I see my reality if I was too busy trying to change it? I noticed how massive my resistance was and how blind I was to that. Often it didn't seem to work and then I would remember that this was because I must be resisting and trying to achieve a special state. And so I would just relax a bit and be very gentle with myself and then return to observing myself. When I reentered the normal world after the retreat I tried to maintain it but I couldn't for the life of me. This was because my normal everyday state was always to unknowingly be in a very great resistance and I guess it was just too strong so that my attempt to recreate my 'experience' was just another resistance. Fortunately now I am much better at not resisting quite so much and it seems much easier to not resist so strongly. What also helped was that in the retreat I was doing a calming, shamatha type of meditation and this helped calm down the mind and made it more receptive.

There is Solitude , and every day more bit by bit growing calmness and inner peace. Though , sometimes I have still really suffering days , and thats Okay.

What do you think about creating a Guided Sleep Meditation? In your book, you say that while falling asleep, is a good time for Inquiry. I think it’d be really cool if you turned your analogy of the pond/moon into a type of journey/story that lead to a state of natural inquiry that we could reside in. Maybe some gentle background soundscape. I think the progression the analogy takes would be a natural wind down and letting go process. Personally I’d listen to it every night :)

Last time I'll bug you with a comment, promise: Do you have a video (I probably missed it, because I'm bad at the interwebs), or might it be worth making one about what you mean by "feeling into" thoughts, resistance, etc? I understand that's risky business because feeling into experience generally keeps things very direct, and defining it could turn it into another conceptual process for some. On the other hand, I recall that "feeling into" experience turned into a kind of energetic grasping for me at one point in my practice, with very subtle thought structures fueling it. It took a long time to recognize and dismantle without guidance. I might be totally off-base, but I was curious if you thought that might be worth talking about. Anyway 😊 Thanks for this as always, buddy--hit the nail on the head like usual.

A vessel like gentley shaken champagne leaking from the center Pouring out in effervescent bubbles leaving through a barrier Desolving boundaries and releasing tension Eyes fill with honest acceptance The game continues on asking only participation Grateful just for seeing Just for being All is one

Key question for me: what's the difference between non-resistance of 'life-as-it-is' and just sitting for the rest of your life, not washing, not changing clothes, not bothering to eat or whatever? Because this actually does look this way for me a lot of the times ;) Or: how can non-resistance be applied to a more 'active' (in practical terms) way of living - cleaning up, getting things done and somehow still not 'trying to change reality'? I know you're talking principally about the reality of the mind phenomena and not usually about the domain of the practical life - but I somehow quite often blur the boundary (is there one?) between the two. Any answer will be super welcome, thanks :)

I was recounting (with some pride) to a Spiritual teacher that while awake in the middle of the night that waves of thought/emotions came up and I identified each of them as resistance and let go for about 30 mins. She suggested that if we wan't to get back to sleep then a key factor is the complete relaxation of the body. Maybe for a while I was a little non-plussed i.e. here I was talking about the cutting edge of Spiritual practice and getting basic (obvious) advice in response. I later saw that there had been an underlying desire to get back to sleep which included resistance to being "kept" awake - so in that case the non-resistance to the thought/emotions - while very far from the worst of tactics - seemed to be masking the primary resistance. P.S. and completely unrelated; having videos with 4K resolution as standard may lead to befuddlement for some with low spec. computers as they go into a long waiting loop and may never emerge nor provide a warning advising of what is occurring; its appreciated that this sort of thing is easily fixed by someone with moderate skills but I'll mention this just in case your straightforward presentation is exactly the one that people who haven't bothered to learn more than computer essentials need.

That was so lovely! Thank you

Best advice ever! 🙏❤️

Thankyou Angelo 🙏🏽❤️

I'm finding it hard to trust life when I seem to be failing on every level of Maslow's hierarchy of needs. I can't seem to figure out how to change any of it, so I suppose I might as well stop resisting what simply is. It's just so disheartening to have suicidal thoughts suddenly creeping back in.

The other day I was thinking about this that how much life and people and society and cultures are built around resistance and in a way even reinforcing it! My father had a natural non-resistance quality which although was admirable but also not very understandable to people around him…I had that too, until consciously I started building a resistance because it looked more normal! wise! brave!!!! …It’s so funny now thinking about it

Great video!!

Could you make a video on resistance towards cringe sensations or anything like that and awkwardness? That's from a perception of seperation right, and taking ownership over actions? A video on people pleasing would show a lot of clarity on this thank you!

❤

Living a surrendered life…Is it! 🔥🎯🛑

Excellent messages as always, great communicator and normalizer. Can you do one about ‘not doing stupid’ shit I.e. “stink of Zen’, ‘superiority delusion’? Keep it coming. A welcome voice with something to say. Thanks Doc.

Some people say surrender is the opposite of resistance but i don't get it. If resistance is like saying NO, then surrender seems more like "DONT CARE" rather than YES

Great video! Thank you! Will the resistance fall away at some point? It just seems once I put attention on Self, Being, resistance ramps up. And really, I’ve mistaken this as anxiety or trauma. Which it may be. But, the resistance to life, thoughts, wanting something different is the cause of the suffering.

Before being exposed to these concepts, I was always curious why everyone complained about the weather in small talk. Do we do this because a way to relate to others is through our collective reality resistance? Why do we do this?

Is it possible that the key to my awakening is actually to do certain things in the world? My resistance is actually to doing certain things. Saying, "I love you", and other stuff. I get this horrible restlessness in my body that is too intense to put up with and when I said, "I love you" to this person (with poor timing too) the restlessness eased a lot.

I really enjoyed your message. I have to admit I was sometime distracted...that comet comes so close to hitting you... :) J/k, cool background, too.

Resistance tells me there is so much missing from this. What if someone is being abused?

It helps to get older. Age makes you accept the inevitable. Some real oldies beg for the ending.

Angelo, thank you so much for this video. It's one of the most important lessons for me. Is non-resistance the same as Stoicism?

I have a feeling that the example with the attacker/dictator is really quite life-like, because we (well, certainly I do) often attribute the same hostile quality to, idk, a friend asking us if we want to go out when we don't - ao the idea is ok I'll passively oblige. But that's a viewpoint of identity intertwined with the mind - what happens is that we HAVE reactions, and one of them will probably become what we 'do' in response to that, right? So it's not about 'I am a person and I'll let the world do anything with me', more like 'I perceive things happening outside and inside, and let them all be - including the resistance patterns' - that's what I get from this, at least. (Wrote it mostly for my own clarification)

If there was one or a few things to use as directions for taking action what would it be? I'm very confused about what decision to make in different situations. How is it after awakening? Is there a guide? Can I find that guide? It's mainly an issue in social situations - how much agreeable/disagreeable should I be? Just go with the flow or say what I want? But how do I know what I want? Thanks Angelo for your work btw 🙏

I think things started happening for me with gratitude, even gratitude for not nice things. I came to see things as "perfect" even though they may not seem to be. Doubt for me is not so much about the extremes you mention (violence, dictators etc.). Many people in my country suffer from poverty, and it seems a more "real" suffering than the suffering that was in my head for so long. I don't understand this "real" suffering and how it relates to resistance and so on.