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Today, we hear from a 63-year-old wife desperate to be free from her abusive marriage, a woman who’s been smoking marijuana every day for eight years but wants to stop, and a man who has a complicated relationship with his convict father.
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@Angela-ne9cy 2 года назад

Oh Ann, my love, a big, beautiful life is waiting for you beyond this nightmare! My mother was in exactly the same situation. She was married 4 times, all abusive, and the last one was a 22 year marriage. One day, after a particularly brutal encounter, she decided to leave. She contacted Catholic Charities who helped her find housing (income adjusted to live on her social security check). She reached out to family to help her quietly move one day. Now, a year later, she's the happiest I've ever seen her. She has friends. She has confidence. She's getting therapy. She GLOWS! You can do this, Ann. You deserve more.

@jeanedarc 7 месяцев назад

I have never wished for an update. How is she? did she go? where is she ? My heart bleeds for her.

@judedonnelly4100 2 месяца назад

WHAT a BEAUTIFULLY/ELEQUENTLY written (typed) messaged.. The TWO OF YOU ( IF NOT YOUR MOTHER ) SHOULD CONTACT ONE ANOTHER..... ❤

@cathyosullivan718 2 года назад

Ann sounds like such a sweet woman. I hope she leaves now and gets to enjoy the rest of her life!

@starlingswallow 2 года назад

Me too!!

@janettedesilier1018 3 месяца назад

I felt so sad when she said that man broke her fingers. I just want to cry. And the day before their sons wedding. What a psycho

@umbfitness 3 месяца назад

I'm not only disgusted by this woman's husband of the first caller. I'm DISGUSTED by her sons reactions. I bet they sadly become abusers. Shaking my head. I hope this woman finds her peace. ❤

@jpali24 2 года назад

Dr. Dobson never said stay in an abusive relationship. He just said that its better to raise kids with a father. Not an abusive father

@sobeliever1638 2 года назад

That is what I was confused about. She took his advice to the extreme.

@sarahalderman3126 3 месяца назад

Exactly. I'm not much younger than this woman with a similar story and his books gave me the strength to protect myself and my children. He helped me learn to value myself.

@flaqko5686 2 года назад

What happened to the days when these guys would just get their ass handed to them

@racheltarentino3314 3 месяца назад

When was that ever the case

@bronsonisaboss 2 года назад

For the lady quitting weed. I just did it a 3 months ago!! You have to have a big "why" !! I went 24hrs. Hit the bowl once. 48 hours. Hit the bowl once. 72 hours. Hit the bowl once. Then after 96 hours I stopped. And lemme tell you. You are about to dream lmao. I smoked 3 sometimes 9 times a day for 9 years. The dreams i had when i quit were wild. Things i had not thought about in years. High school, old jobs. Etc. I was forced to cope with everything I had pushed to the wayside for years. Im sorry... But you can do this.

@joelmora2826 2 года назад

Relax it's just weed LOL

@bronsonisaboss 2 года назад

@@joelmora2826 relax joel. Its just a supportive comment.

@novocaine09 2 года назад

@@joelmora2826 I know weed doesn't have the serious physical withdrawals like other things like opioids, but it can be mentally addicting which can still be quite a challenge. It's kind of hard to raw dog life after years of coping with substances.

@cynthiaewing6584 3 месяца назад

I have seen a statistic saying 15% of people become addicted to marijuana. I was addicted in my twenties. Thankfully, I was spiritually delivered by the power of God.

@crimsonskyy1 3 месяца назад

Love that for you!

@johannanguyen9101 2 года назад

My mother was the same, very physically ,verbally and emotionally abusive behind doors, and put a mask when people from the outside where around. Best thing I've ever did to heal, grow and move forward was cutting up contact with her. After two years of cutting off contact with her she has manipulated everyone to think that the reason I cut contact with her is beause I'm an ungrateful, spoiled and bad child. So I not only mourn her loss but also everyone that turned against me because of my desicion of healing and getting better.

@anniechang6078 2 года назад

I am there with you sister! I had to cut my mom out because she have been mentally and physically abusive to me. When I got married, I lived in this fantasy that our relationship would some how be fixed. But, because of that fantasy it started to affect my marriage and ultimately I had to cut her out....it was not easy because I lived in that for soo long. Now, all my siblings are also against me and had also cut me out. Overall, I didn't know how heavy this weigh on me until I walked away. It's been 2 yrs since but, it is all soo worth it...my husband and children gets the full me and I wouldn't have never known my worth if I didn't do this. Not going to let that pass on to my children, it stops here.

@Thankful305 Год назад

Grew up the same… everyone spoke so highly of her and behind closed doors we were “brats” or “animals” yelling that as she banged the cabinets saying it over and over, she never should of had kids! How could I honor that? I placated, made her laugh and did as I was told; only to carry that into my adulthood, submitting to abusive behaviors and trying to figure out why. Digging deeper, reading and listening to all the experts, most esp Dr John has revealed so much truth. Thankful 💛

@arlenefisher1164 Год назад

Wish he had said to not tell him she is leaving or where she is going.

@Steviejustine824 3 месяца назад

The way she so nonchalantly said, "He broke my fingers" 😵😟

@OxannaRoC 2 месяца назад

Praying for Ann. My heart breaks for her and her children I hope they heal and break the trauma of this evil man.

@carosol07 2 года назад

Minute 38:00 🙌 I’m worth dealing with depression. I’m worth a good marriage.

@cdr-kg2nh 2 года назад

As a husband that has been emotionally abusive, I feel for her and see things through those eyes.

@Thankful305 Год назад

Your comment made me 😢 cry!! I’ve never heard a husband openly Admit his emotional abusive behavior . What are the things you have you done to help you recognize it and have you learned to stop being abusive?

@LoudUpstairsNeighbor Месяц назад

Did you stop being emotionally abusive?

@Caroline-ez8ls 3 месяца назад

Oh my gosh. I love Ann🥰❤️

@boxelder9147 Год назад

She gets a cast for broken fingers. She goes to therapy. I wonder what she told the health care professionals as to how she broke her fingrrs.

@songbird5030 Год назад

Ann!!! You can do this! I wish I could be your friend, you are a beautiful person!

@dachater1 9 месяцев назад

What a sweet lady - I'm so sorry she endured such disgusting abuse! I pray the rest of her life will make up for all the abuse and pain she has been though!

@buttcheeksmcgee4272 2 года назад

OMG, poor lady! Please get out! It's not worth wasting anymore time. You're already in your 60's.

@sineadking1824 2 года назад

This lady is so sweet and amazing 😭

@ilsevdg1194 3 месяца назад

I swear the finger-breaking husband KNEW that he had chosen the perfect moment for that. These people KNOW how to get away with abuse. They abuse the decency of other people. That's how it works. Don't beat yourself up for falling into a trap of a manipulative person. That's like blaming yourself for being stung by an angry wasp. Did you put the wasp on your hand? No. You can only go from there and move to a wasp-free place as best and as fast as you can.

@sds6303 7 месяцев назад

The first woman is married to a literal psychopath.

@cromano370 2 года назад

Ann, you’re beautiful and incredibly strong. Here’s to the next chapter ❤️

@KittyM- 2 года назад

Wonderful, practical, sympathetic advice. Thank you

@rachelgooden9981 2 года назад

I wish John didn’t ask how he broke her fingers. I can’t unhear that and i can’t imagine how it was in that moment for her. Damn. I assumed something fell on her hand during a fight or he swung at her with something. But to crack fingers like that. OmG 😱 Animal that man!

@Mysterious_Moon 2 года назад

I think he had to make it visceral, for her benefit, because it really seems like she’s never told a soul. It will help her see the abuse by saying it out loud.

@kita3256 2 года назад

He had to. It’s part of the process.

@tinam761 2 года назад

She’s been hiding the ugliness for years and rationalizing and she needs a clear picture of what it is … when you say it out loud to someone else … sometimes it clicks that this is not normal or okay. When you are abused, your thinking becomes skewed in that you don’t see things clearly and don’t trust yourself. He’s a professional… he knows what he’s doing… there is a purpose for her benefit.

@novocaine09 2 года назад

I knew exactly how it happened before she even said it 😥

@janettedesilier1018 3 месяца назад

I so wanted it to be a heat of the moment accident but he literally twisted her bones until they broke. That is chilling

@Steviejustine824 3 месяца назад

John Delony, waking up the world one video at a time. You are doing the Lords work 🙌🏻

@sarahalderman3126 3 месяца назад

Dr. Dobson did NOT encourage anyone to stay in an abusive marriage! He does admit that children fair better in a home with their mother and father however he specifically excluded cases of abuse. She must have missed the entire book in order to get this picture from any of his content. Dr Dobson was my lifeline and tie to reality in my own story.

@AbidingHopeMentalHealthCoach 3 месяца назад

John, I know you’re advertising for Better Help and that they offer off-camera options. But as a pastoral-counselor-in-training who is being trained by an experienced PhD, trained in EFT and other modalities, an expert in attachment theory… and also as someone who has worked with clients both on and off screens… so much is lost when you can’t see the client. I had a client for months (since last year), and last week I asked her to turn her camera on for the first time, and something clicked for me that I hadn’t noticed before. Telling people they don’t need to be on screen is hamstringing the therapist’s ability to do their job fully. Not seeing the client was never possible before, and it should not be an option except for really bad connections.

@evachalupa6459 Месяц назад

You're not considering some aspects of this. Of course it is ideal to see the client. BUT. There are enough people who have so severe social anxiety, that they would never go to an in-person setting or even an online one with the camera on. For those people, a no-screen offer can be life saving, as it allows them to put a foot into a healing environment. Of course it's not ideal, but it's so much better than nothing and a significant milestone to a better way forward!! Therapy is not about the therapists.

@iw9338 2 месяца назад

I went back. Regret it it every day 😞

@novocaine09 2 года назад

Why is there always so much victim blaming under these mental health shows? It has to be trolls.

@LoudUpstairsNeighbor Месяц назад

It's shocking and disturbing.

@evabergen8600 3 месяца назад

Oh..I wish I could speak to you, Dr John! This resonates with me!!

@cassiescott6499 2 года назад

she probably shouldn’t be getting pregnant a month after quitting years of daily marijuana use... if she ever relapses it will be detrimental to the baby’s brain development. Maybe quit for a year and then when you’ve been clean you should try to get pregnant. Not to mention it is horrible to be high around your child because you would be mentally absent from them and cause the child psychological issues.

@9liveslisa 2 года назад

His father sounds like a total manipulator. Don't walk onto the decks of sinking ships. Focus on your family life and the heck with the rest.

@LivesUnderRock868 3 месяца назад

Dont walk on the decks of sinking ships? What does that mean?

@lah189 3 месяца назад

Change my husband to have more value for me. Sums it up

@Summer-cu7do 2 месяца назад

53:17 it sounds like the dad might be dealing with schizophrenia and self-medicating. Just getting clean may not actually make him much better. He may need some outside help, but it’s hard to get that rolling without him being on board.

@JenniferJane78 3 месяца назад

Best way for child to start a marriage is for mother to be brave enough the night before to stay hell no to abuse. Instead son went into marriage believing domestic abuse is better than being alone.

@jessicagraham734 2 года назад

😭😭🤢 omg what you said. about her was what was told to me by ppl //

@Mysterious_Moon 2 года назад

I am that 3rd caller 😅 minus the drugs causing the issue. I don’t use this word lightly, but my father is a functioning and super intelligent narcissist, and is also deeply paranoid (government, powerful people, etc monitoring him), the markets revolve around his actions, and to top it off, he was emotionally, mentally, and occasionally physically abusive- while having moments of clarity and normalcy where I forgave and tried to have a normal relationship… until the crazy seeped out again shortly after. I used to laugh about his web of crazy until I knew the laughing came from a sad place. You probably need to walk away. I’ve had the same pain as long as you have, from 6 years old. Phase him out, friend, and find a counselor because I’m sure he left wreckage behind.

@beckylavallee1 2 года назад

Julia Ross has books on coming off drugs, meds, sugar, carbs, nicotine, mj, alcohol, etc. with amino acids and other supplements. I wish more mental health professionals knew more about this. They actually work. The Mood Cure, The Craving Cure.

@euphrates74 2 года назад

Dr. Dobson did not tell you stay in an abusive relationship. I would like to hear about YOUR DAD. What type of man was he? Further, if you didn't have a living father, I'd like to know what type of men was your mother around. God's speed. You're wayyyy more valuable than putting up with abuse.

@brandyl.2633 2 года назад

Tease!

@vegangoddess9019 2 года назад

I might have an unpopular opinion but I luv smoking my weed. I have been on weed for at least 20 years and it is the only “meds” I take. I went to another country and was not able to smoke up to 6 weeks. I was totally fine. To me weed is better then taking anything else including; Xinex, Zoloft, alcohol or anything else which I don’t. I don’t see any reason to change that in my personal situation.

@bettybutterbean5759 4 месяца назад

Anne is my new hero! She's so ready!!!

@Bubbaxmonster 3 месяца назад

Weed ain’t ever killed anyone

@ftempest 2 года назад

Ahhh!!! That next episode teaser! John your are one show behind my life! Coming out trans to my parents this weekend. Would have loved to gleaned insight from this call.

@jamiestanley9234 2 года назад

I think you are a wonderful person and hope your parents love you no matter what!

@ftempest 2 года назад

@@jamiestanley9234 Thanks Jamie! I hope for unconditional love as that's what I have for my family; I hope it will be a two way street.

@jamiestanley9234 2 года назад

❤️

@kita3256 2 года назад

Just do it next weekend. But just know that for most parents, this is like a death in the family. So keep that in mind if they are not receptive to the idea right away. If I were you I’d seek therapy too.

@novocaine09 2 года назад

I hope it goes well!!! I'd love an update 🥺🥺🥺

@DestinyA83 3 месяца назад

49:56 Sounds like he might be in psychosis if he's on meth. Or something like that idk the term for it lol

@Bubbaxmonster 3 месяца назад

Wonder were this lady is now

@carnivoreRon 2 года назад

She is another example of dope users I have seen all my life. Generally, dope users are the same emotional age as when he/she started using. If 15 when use began, then emotionally the 40 years old is 15. Typical of addiction. She needs to throw away the dope and all the paraphernalia.

@jeradkiester698 2 года назад

Don't misread this keyboard warriors: Ann has a pattern of running her mouth and hiding behind "Christian" values, her husband should be in jail for physical abuse, but the other story of pushing away a friend of 35 yrs due to being 'out of God's will' and calling her out... maybe you should practice more Christian love instead of Judgement.

@Mysterious_Moon 2 года назад

If you’ve ever had trauma in this manner, you don’t know all the ways people will push others away to get any kind of self-defense and protection to not get hurt again… no matter if she still has a relationship with her abuser. Isolation of the abused is manipulation of the abuser. Think about her experience as brainwashing. She will not escape without patterns.

@novocaine09 2 года назад

You must be the friend 🤣

@jeradkiester698 2 года назад

@@novocaine09 no, but these self-righteous, judgmental "Christians" have a type. Using scripture as a justification to walk all over others since she likely had no voice at home. (It's a separate issue from her abusive husband)