Autoimmune disease is also most common in women, and usually takes decades to diagnose. Chronic illness makes a person exhausted and in pain all the time. And most doctors think you're making it up since it's most common in Women doctors often don't believe it even exists.
yep. I've been in really bad pain for about 15 years now. at first I went to every doctor in my town I haunted the er and I've been mostly dismissed as having chronic pain or its nerve damage or I'm an old woman now and probably never exercised. they all came up with reasons not to do anything. I've seen over 10 different doctors and a useless orthopedic specialist who just wanted to remove my implant coz that'll give him more money. they never listen just look at the computer monitor and make their decisions based on that. they're just dealers for big pharma who think they're gods.
i have autoimmune disease diagnosis but no one can tell me the details or what treatments there are, if it even can be treated and i do go out of the way to ask they don't know
@@ariwoodwardyeah i recommend going to a specialist who specifically specializes in autoimmunir dieases. thats the ony way to really get treated. same thing happen with my dad and me. we each had not very well understood medical conditions at one point. went to several doctors and er and they had no idea and almost actually killed my dad by giving him medicine that made it worse. you have to go to a specialist because general doctors no absolutely nothing about those specifc and complex medical conditions and they arent taught to know, theyre just there to either fix simple issues or refer you to someone who does but alot of times they just throw up there hands and dont feel like helping
@@mrziggyzaggy113 to be fair i did (kinda) have the option for that but id have to go to a city 3 hours away :/ so like,, it's an option but not the most accessible and im a full time college student so i have to wait till im not in classes, working, doing an internship or study etc it wasn't even like they prefer i go that far there just isn't anyone any closer
My sister once ran into the hospital with severe stomach pain. They told her it was period cramps, although she told them multiple times she wasn't on her period and her cyclus wasn't there yet. They still sent her to 2 gynocologists, after hours they finally decided to do surgery. Turns out she had an ileus. Parts of her Intestine had already started to turn yellow, they told me the next day that she could have died if they had waited longer. I repeat, they thought the pain came from period cramps...
I'm reading a lot of comments from women who live in western countries talking about how they get misdiagnosed or mistreated by doctors As a middle eastern woman from Iraq to be more specific we don't only get misdiagnosed from the doctors we borderline get dismissed by everybody and the funny thing is that women criticise other women if they complained about feeling sick or tired matter of fact alot of women get upset when a newly mother get about a month of rest after giving birth they criticise them by calling them spoiled or saying that they're faking feeling pain and that they don't need this long to rest They expect new mothers to just get up the second day and start cooking and cleaning the house all because of the lack of knowledge about women's bodies My society is very cruel towards women and the women are also cruel towards each other
We get gaslit everywhere around the world. It’s so pervasive even women fall for the patriarchal views that women are just emotional and complain too much. It’s truly disgusting. As women we need to stand up for each other and I’m truly sorry the women in the Middle East have to put up with so much more.
@@moonlight8648that’s a troll, my friend. While women here in the west have it rough, it feels like many cultures barely consider us human. I have local friends whose husbands expected them to cook and clean days after a c section. It’s nowhere near as normal, though.
@@batmansmith7422 exactly my thoughts though I stopped looking at women in my society as victims the minute I started to understand that a complicit can never be a victim I blame the woman themselves in my country for the pathetic condition they're in while most men are terrible here women are actually worse cause they accept the double standards and justify men's every wrong doing yet they tear eachother down over the smallest of things .
@fallasleep comment is a troll. Ignore them. I completely agree with how women treat each other. It is prevalent in the west as well just in different forms.
Because men and women's bodies are different. And because drugs were tested on men we have limited knowledge on women side effects. It isn't because society just doesn't care about women. It because we refuse to treat women like rats or guinea pigs that happens to have the negative result of knowing less about the effects of female anatomy.
Because Sadly for a large part of human history women have been treated like a horse. Property to be bought and sold and traded. A breeding vessel that is only useful for taking care of the kids. Because for a very long time womens healthcare was seen as no different than mens healthcare. It is so sad how little empathy men have for women and our bodies and the pain and suffering of just being alive. Just because we are different does not mean do not need the same level of care
@JjJjJ200 it kinda is, the reason why drugs and medicine were never tested on women is because scientist believed that hormones and period cycles would skew test results. For a long time people thought that a man's body was standard and that a women's body was just an abberation or abnormality. We still know less about how the most widespread diseases like cancer or heart disease affect women, and less about how to prevent, diagnose, or treat these diseases in women. Yes, women and men's bodies are different, but it was a distinct choice to exclude them for medicine for so long because it was easier to blame hormones and emotions as the problem instead of studying and finding the actual problem. Now we are very undereducated about the women's body and how to aid it, and makes it incredibly difficult to help women in medical need. It's not about being a lab rat, it's about how for so many years people didn't care enough to study medical trouble involving women.
Right? Obviously they knew there are differences between men and women, why did they not think it was important to include women? Especially in the 90s? That makes no sense.
@@elenap-ot4ghno, it's apparently more complicated because of our changing hormonal levels throughout our cycles. Testing with women would actually *help* women; it had nothing to do with being "virtuous".
@@elenap-ot4gh a lot of what we discovered about anatomy was during WW2 when nazis performed surgery sans anesthesia on their prisoners. i don't think they cared about being nice to women, just used them for other experiments, sadly
It's crazy how often i have been dismissed by doctors, my husband, my family. But i saw one doctor who actually was concerned and ordered tests for me, and i wanted to cry right there at the appointment. Thank you to somebody who actually listened and cared.
A few years back, I went through 18 months of debilitating chronic pain that was completely unexplained. I saw more than a dozen different doctors in the first year of that, many of whom were specialists, in an attempt to get a diagnosis. At least 50% brushed me off. Many implied (some outright said) that it was all in my head, mental illness, attention seeking, drug seeking, etc. (most of the specialists didn’t even prescribe controlled substances though, and they knew that I was aware of that). I finally gave up on finding help when one doctor told me “You’re 22- you’re young, you’re healthy.” About six months later, I was convinced to give one more doctor a chance. He listened, and he believed me. He then ran tests and eventually diagnosed me. It turns out that my body was having a massive immune response because of an allergy. Over 18 months, while I was looking for help, inflammation was doing profound damage to my nervous system and my brain. As serious as it was, the validation mattered just as much to me. The doctor was able to treat it enough to stop the pain, and some of the issues that were related to it. Some things have healed, some haven’t, but the overall improvement is incredible. I had just about resigned myself to a life limited by chronic pain- now, I’m pain free most days. I actually have a job that is very physically demanding. I have nerve damage, and I’m not 100% in many ways, but it’s so much better than it was. So I guess my point is, yes, you’re right. If you find the right doctor, it can make all the difference in the world- but it can be so tough to get there. I’m glad it worked out for you eventually.
i went to a gynecologist when i was 14 for severe menstrual pain that was debilitating. i couldn’t go to school for the days before my cycle. i was told it wasn’t my period and that it was probably just a pulled muscle in my abdomen and i needed to stretch more… yeah that makes so much sense why i had debilitating cramps every month since i started menstruating thank you doctor!! ended up finding a new gynecologist because of family history of pcos and endometriosis, i have had an iud now and haven’t i’m able to live my life normally, even if i do have a period. women’s health is so stigmatized from such an early age.
Two different students confided in me that they had to go to the doctor for heavy bleeding. One even said she was having periods that lasted weeks. I immediately told her that she likely had endometriosis or PCOS and to not leave the doctor's office until they check everything (she's a senior in high school). It's so scary how young so many of these issues start. I know so many young and middle aged women who have thyroid issues it's insane.
I had my increasingly heavy and painful periods dismissed by my doctor (who was also female) for a few years. After she retired I decided to go with a male OBGYN and he immediately had an idea what it was, ordered imaging, and within a few days I finally learned it was a slowly growing fibroid making my life so miserable. Kudos to him for actually listening and taking my pain seriously!
My mom almost died because so many doctors dismissed her horrible symptoms and concerns for MONTHS. Turns out she had a severe case of lyme disease that had gone untreated for months. She even did her own research and came to the conclusion HERSELF that it was likely lime disease and yet they still didn’t listen to her. It was after one doctor finally relented (and not until after my mom fought for it) that she was actually tested and diagnosed. It’s stories like this, which too many women share, that causes us to mistrust, avoid, and dislike doctors.
That's why in islam all female medical professionals are only reserve for women themselves and that make pure sense after watching this reel. And also it avoid shaitaan's seed in male doctor brain as they are not allowed to operate on female patients. allah hu akbar ☪️🕋🕌
@@BehindTheBush96i thought i was in the Twilight zone. I'm half asleep waking up reading that limes are giving diseases. I totally didn't consider a random person misspelling the disease.
@brettpid6416 litteraly nobody said it couldn't happen to a man??? it is much more likely for women to be misdiagnosed or not diagnosed at all for illness or conditions when they go to the doctor than it is for men.
My sister died of ovarian cancer at the age of 27 she had been begging the doctors to help her for two years prior to her diagnosis, they kept saying that it was just period pains and kept dismissing her complaints
Omg. I’m so sorry to hear this. Horrible! She asked for help from those who are supposed to help and they ignored her?! I hope they never forget her and what they did to her. I am so sorry for your loss. That is just so awful.
Not to mention, a staggering number of women have experienced SA. The trauma that can result from this can result in physical illness as well as brain damage. Unfortunately, I have learned this from first-hand experience. I was one of the most resilient and healthy people I knew despite being very underweight. Now, I could be completely bedridden if the wind blows the wrong way. It's beyond infuriating for so many reasons.
My god yes, the number of women who suffered from any type of abuse is unfortunately high, but it never is something good and to be dismissed. In the end, a lot of us have to also deal with physical and mental effects of it, and it's as terrible. Add this to the things that are also often not taken seriously about us.
I was in my late 20s and in the best shape of my life when I started almost blacking out during exercise. Every time. I figured out my heart rate was going sky high even in moderate exercise. The cardiologist ruled out major defects and basically shrugged and said, "Many otherwise healthy women in their 20s and 30s have tachycardia with mild exertion. We don't know why." And he sent me on my way. He may as well have said, "Women, amirite?" The disturbing thing is, I looked into it, and he's right. We have NO IDEA why this happens. I stopped exercising. That's sure to have no negative consequences...
Get a better cardiologist and/or neurologist and ask to be tested for dysautonomia, especially if you're not yet perimenopause age and overheat easily.
reminds me of when dr. Karan pointed out normal fat levels, please, don't for whatever reason try to exercise like a man, your reproductive organs require at least 12% body fat compared to 3% in men
My mom's doctor is so mean to her, I kept trying to convince my mom to get a new one, but it's been very hard for her to find a new doctor that's taking new patients and if they are taking new patients, they aren't taking my mom's insurance.
YES! I had an ectopic pregnancy. Because I wasn’t screaming in the floor in pain they dismissed it, did a D&C sent me home. Pathology called to say they found zero products of conception. Went back to the doc, they said “ we did the the D&C your HCG will start to fall ( it was still doubling). Finally a female GYN answered my emails had me go to the ER where is sat for 7 hours waiting on methotrexate. At the end of that seven hours I started having incredible pain. Went out and told the nurses something changed, something was wrong. Nothing from the ED nurses. A medic went and got the GYN. When she came and saw me she brought an ultrasound machine. She checked me, my Fallopian tube had ruptured and I had blood pooling around my liver. It had been ruptured for at least 24 hours. Surgery, blood transfusion, sent home 15 hours later. It’s like they wanted me to die.
😮😢 imagine the wickedness and cruelty. That's how my uncle's sister died because of negligence on her health different issues but it was so devastating. Everyone was shocked
This same exact thing happened to me. I had ruptured internally, and was bleeding out. They thought I was exaggerating and gave me ambien to knock me out. It knocked me out for 30 minutes before the pain woke me up. When they finally got around to my surgery, almost 24 hours later, they realized my stomach cavity was full of blood. I lost my baby and almost lost my life.
Before the Delta Variant really hit us hard, we had a patient come in to our little covid testing clinic asking for a rapid test. When she came to us, she told us she was actively miscarrying and had been sent away by both the ER and OBGYN not once but *three times* because she had cough and runny nose… in the middle of the cold season. There were 3 major problems with this for some who are unaware: the blatant lack of empathy, the gross misprioritization of medical needs (miscarriage first/covid test later), and the fact that she could die if she had began hemorrhaging while different hospital staff kept punting her from clinic to clinic. They wouldn’t take her in until she had a covid test performed; this poor woman was in excruciating pain but had driven and walked herself all over the hospital asking for help before coming to us. One of our Department Heads was an OB nurse (we were a group of random medical professional running this clinic, after all) was *livid* and called 9-1-1 for this woman to be brought to the ER by ambulance. If they weren’t going to willingly treat her, then we were going to force them to take them in; this was made abundantly clear when our heads called up both the ER and OBGYN and tore them a new asshole. This was gross negligence from the main hospital that virtually went unchecked regardless of the complaints our Department Heads placed. This instance and a hundred other stories like yours is why I get so pissy when healthcare providers act so flippant and dismissive of patients- as if the person passing out on the floor is just another demanding Karen.
This was a perfect response, instead of engaging in a verbal sparing match with someone who is ill-informed, you gave a comprehensive answer supported by evidence which gets ppl thinking. Love your videos
It's also difficult for mothers advocating for their children. We are "hovering, too worried, Munchhausen by proxy, over protective, imagining things"...etc, etc, etc. It took 39 years and my son almost dying before anyone took us seriously. He had a severely defective colon requiring emergency surgery. Again, it almost killed him. His case is now in medical journals, and he does a Q and A with ER med students every year.
OH! And we got lots of woo woo crap advice, too. "Change his diet, you're too controlling, he's angry, he's depressed, he's acting out, try yoga, try this supplement, meditate"...ALL that is useless in the face of an actual birth defect. ALWAYS look for a physical cause first. ALWAYS. woo woo can kill you.
"I'm on my period right now I don't know why you're being so Dramatic about yours" a healthy female doctor. To me. A person who is now being tested for endometriosis because turns out debilitating pain isn't normal and I wasn't being dramatic. Who could have guessed.
Sometimes women are other women's worst enemies. I was in labor, screaming cos I was nearly there to push the baby out and the nurse told me to shut up, they were not loud when *they* were having their baby. It's horrid.
@user-zp1vi2hj9u 🫢😳😲🤯🤯🤯 whaaaaat ?! Stop screaming ?! What a rotten btch. That's insane. However, ove had my fair share. The doctors office I go to- sometimes, you never really see the main doc, but the ppl under them. They are there for like a yr or so then they rotate new ppl in. MOST of them, for everything I've gone for, they tell me it's my weight. I wasn't getting my period, cuz if my weight, and put me on birth control. (Preg test said negative) Something was telling me to stop taking it. I wasn't getting my period anyway so after a few days I stopped. So glad I did..about 4 1/2 mo later at 21 weeks, I found out I WAS preg. The preg test was clearly too soon had I waited a week or 2 it would have shown up. Yeah it wasn't my weight it was cuz of a baby!!! And this last time, my sciatic, which I've had issues with since MIDDLE SCHOOL and I'm 38 now... I was prob a good 80 lbs lighter and played sports and it hurt just as bad as it does these days. Went to the doc to see if I could go to the nerve doc again and get retested. Told me it was my weight and to start with PT. uhm again when I was lighter it felt the same soooo it can't be both. And again I'm a damn adult, I KNOW the weight contributes but it's not the ONLY reason. smh these docs, especially female need to be better, do better.
The same thing happened to me for years. I finally got a full hysterectomy after an exploratory surgery showed black and dying parts from all the years of untreated damage.
I knew a girl with PCOS who got really bad cysts, and she was flying home one day and started feeling a really bad one coming on and threw up from it, so she just put heat on it and took some pain killers. When it didnt go away after a day, she finally went to the hospital. Her appendix was about to burst. The male doctor was astounded that she didn't come in sooner from the pain but to her, it was just about the same amount of pain that she regularly went through with her cysts and just had to deal with.
One of the things I hate most about being chronically ill is the ER game, aka "do I need to seek help for my current pain/symptoms?" Last summer I was having some increased abdominal pain, nausea, and food intolerance. I thought it was just really bad gas and/or my chronic GI issues, and it was another week before I went to the ER. Turns out I had a stricture related to a past abdominal surgery. These days I tell myself that if it's an acute issue it will only get worse with time, but I still hate the guessing games.
Not to mention, is women are fucking FANTASTIC at not complaining... Where a man will cry like a baby haha. So if I woman is saying she's in pain.... She's in fucking pain
My friend and I both have PCOS. This happened to her well, the cyst blowing up, making her sick as hell, and she had to go to the ER. No appendix was bursting, but she was so much pain, and she was out of state at the time. I think my PCOS is less serve. But it still sucks.
Invisible Women is a great book about these types of research biases/gaps covering medical, economic, safety, and such research that (usually) purposeful excluded/overlooked women.
It’s incredibly common that women’s medical complaints are brushed off and dismissed as “nothing”, while men’s problems are taken quite seriously. In Freud’s day, female problems were commonly referred to as “hysteria”, for which the treatment was a hysterectomy. Because the uterus was the source of every problem be it physical, mental, or emotional.
For freud, hysteria was something very different, it was more a fundamental psychic attitude one takes to certain issues in life, and he saw it as generally the most applaudable of the possible positions. Freud was suprisingly quite progressive though and treated mostly women.
I know if men were suddenly walking around with tumors on their testicles, gushing blood from their penises, and doubled over in pain doctors would be all over it.
A guy in my town posted in our town’s FB group that he took his wife to the hospital multiple times over the course of a year because she had severe stomach pain. The doctors pretty much brushed it off. He finally took her to a doctor out of town and turns out she has stomach cancer that progressed past the point of treatment. He was pretty much asking everyone their thoughts on suing the hospital. This kind of thing happens to women a lot. It’s so sad.
Wooowww .. mine isn’t as bad but I kept going in with gallbladder pain they dismissed it . Worst pain I’ve ever felt in my life. Paid out of pocket to go to my doctors office (they don’t take my insurance) they gave me a new lady doctor . she set me up with a specialist and after seeing my imaging he set the appointment that day to have it removed a week later. 😳 I had been getting dismissed by male doctors for years about this issue and finally a female doctor was able to get sht done for me and she sent me to a male surgeon that didn’t dismiss me . Thank god for that lady! And surgeon
Women aren't taken seriously in physical health and men aren't taken seriously in mental. Doctors think men have better pain endurance than women but that's not true.
Also women’s pain is never taken as seriously as men’s . When I was like 10 I went to the hospital cause I had stomach pain they said it was just my period ( I had already had my period that month ) so I tried telling the people at the hospital that but they wouldn’t listen to they gave me Advil and sent me home . My mom took me to a different hospital where they actually took me seriously and turns out my appendix burst . Wasn’t fun.
Mine burst too when I was 15. They dismissed the pain and told me to wait for my period. Which came 2 weeks later. I think they only somewhat thought something was wrong when I (a full month after I came in for the first time) said the period actually made it hurt less. Did some scans, got a shot for supposed pain relief (which didn’t seem to have helped at all), and then they sent me home, telling me to come back if the pain exceeded the most pain I’d gotten during the previous month. Was taken back to the hospital that night when it did. That’s when they started taking me seriously. Things got rushed, I got the image/scan results early, and then was taken for an emergency surgery. Had to have the surrounding and parts of other organs removed as well because my appendix had infected and rotted the surrounding area.
@@dylancrosby2451 I got a brother he went to the hospital for bad stomach pain they took him seriously the first time . He had a stomach flu . There’s been literal articles that talk about my point . It happens to literally every women I know.
@@dylancrosby2451Everything has to be about you, huh? Did you even watch the fucking video? Or do you just no listen? Why would anyone care about the point you're trying to make if you won't hear anyone else out? Fucking think.
I recently found out I'm xx-male intersex. Men my doc say my karyotyping results he said "this explains a lot." He went on to say that because I have mix of male and female traits in my dna and medications effect men and women differently this opened up a whole new view point for him to treat me from. It's crazy how much better medications work when tailored to the individual instead of relying on mass data and studies.
Again saying what I always say and what this guy just asked in a way comes back to still women being not taken seriously or being brought down, if it were men the treatment (not medical or meds/okay in that sense as well, but more the behavior towards how you get treated with respect as a women) would have been a whole universe differently, why and how in the world can society alow people/doctors or whatever place to be of service to the public if they just don't have the knowledge/skills/have a don't care attitude regarding client's health/business?................... They should not be able to even be in business if that is the case, why should women like in these comments/video and in general go to a hospital or any other place where business is conducted and get treated with less than what they deserve just because it is an establishment and the people delivering the service just don't "feel like it" to do the job they get PAID FOR PROPERLY.........
This!👍 I've been told that to, all while I feel it in my bones, my condition has to do with hormones but nobody checks, like I don't live in my body...just pi**s me off!😤
That’s why I like going to planned parenthood for my gynecological needs. They get a bad wrap for the abortions situation, but I love going there for any health issues involving my lady party. They know what it could be,9 times out of 10 before you even sit down. I had this awesome nurse last time who helped me logically come to the conclusion that when I was getting myself off (single ) with an outside resource, I got a uti and she’s helping me feel more relaxed about it because as a woman you know they are common. Men would think it’s because you’re gross or dirty. But in reality, it’s simply because you used the spray the sex shop sold you to clean your toy after use and reacted with your body. Wash with warm water if you’re only using it. Any breast matters again planned parenthood. When I called on the same day when my uti (I get them commonly from my kidney condition) I can just call them over the phone and they would send me a script right to the pharmacy. They are super nice and usually you’d never find that anywhere. They would make you wait to get to your primary. Had gone to emergency rooms it wasn’t professional for a bad kidney infection. I can’t say strongly how I adore planned parenthood for all the things they helped me with over the years. No abortions. Just a lot of understanding about my health as a woman. If I walked in there with pain in my insides, I know they could get me seen within the day, get a diagnosis and find out ways to help me get over it. Normal doctors bought into this transgender hype so I’d rather have someone who stood their ground with solid biological fact. My local UHPP is filled with amazing people who just want every woman to have access to healthy bodies and healthy futures.
@@GamegirlGamegirl 43 year old Male here, I went 25 years with MS not being diagnosed. There are 2 sides to this, the only way it can be fixed is admitting that a few women that go full blown hypocondriac screw it up for everyone, While at the same time stereotyping is hurting women because of that. Women TEND to be more vocal about medical issues and men TEDN to not say enough. Which is part of the reason men die younger
@@gups4963Mmmm. I think the whole health "care" industry is a joke!!! For everyone. But its been more nasty for females because we deal with the chronic issue of menstruation. And then menopause which nobody but Suzanne Somers seemed to have an idea about. Hope you are getting answers and help.
Girl same, finally just found out I had pcos a month ago and no one helps us woman suffering from it. They just make us feel like there is no solution and it's out problem.
This is all so true! It took 15 years of negligent medical care, and changing doctors many times, to finally find a doctor who ran tests & sent me to a rheumatologist. I was finally diagnosed with fibromyalgia, which actually began in my teens with knee pain, chronic fatigue & horrendously awful menstrual cycles. I wasn’t diagnosed until I was 46 years old. Many of the hospital staff I’ve come across still only have a vague knowledge of this condition & the HUGE list of secondary conditions associated with it.
Geez that’s ridiculous. I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia in my early 20s after being originally diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis when I was a teenager. Started with ankle pain and swelling in late middle school even though I was healthy. So glad my dad, who suffers from chronic back pain, saw symptoms and kept having me go to doctors for it. Funnily enough, I’d been on gabapentin for the Fibromyalgia for a while, and I didn’t feel like it was doing anything, so when I ran out a couple months before my next appointment, I just stopped taking it, when I started back up, it turns out it made a HUGE difference and I just never noticed
@@elise85391 I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis at one point too though it wasn’t the type that though up in the autoimmune blood tests. The next doc said I don’t have RA. I believe fibromyalgia is an autoimmune disease but that they just haven’t found the markers for it yet. Oddly, I always test positive for the first stage screening of Lupus but the secondary tests come back negative. My uncle died of complications from MS & my cousin has Chrohns
Our health system and society is so broken. I could write a slew of novels about all the challenges with health care I’ve had these past couple of years. All the dismissive doctors, the hoops I had to jump thru, the mis-diagnoses, the lack of diagnoses, the downplaying, making me feel like the pain and symptoms I was feeling was only in my mind, etc. It is an utter nightmare to be a woman and have health conditions or just get basic care. The last years have been exhausting, emotionally, physically and mentally draining, confusing, frustrating, heartbreaking trying to navigate the healthcare system. Thank you for bringing this to light! 🙏🏽🙏🏽
My daughter was dismissed by a doctor 2 days ago. She was in so much pain. He sent her home saying she was a hypochondriac and laughed at her. He took over at shift change and completely threw out the other medical care. She went to hospital again yesterday and was seen by caring doctors. Her blood sugar levels was 1.7 and BP was 35. Very low blood pressure etc. Pain level at 10. She has endometriosis. Ct scan and ultrasound and blood works all ok. But they figured it was a cyst bursting on her ovary. She was in extreme pain for 6 days. Hadn’t eaten for 6 days. Vomited every thing. Lost 8kg. She’s ok today though. But basically dismissed as a hypochondriac.
If she sees that doctor again, and if your state laws allow one party consent, have her record the interaction between her and the doctor. It just takes her phone recording audio, with the screen off and phone flipped upside down like she isnt using it to gather plentiful evidence of this awful doctors practice. With this evidence you have many options. Such as taking it to a news station, reporting it to the hospitals/clinics higher ups. A lawyer. People like this need to understand they cant treat peoples children like this
Yes, report that scum now. An ovarian cyst bursting is more painful than giving birth, according to the female specialist I saw when something agonizing had me lying on the floor trying not to move. She’d had a baby, and had a cyst burst and like me just lay on the floor until someone came and helped her. My partner was visiting so he forced me into a cab, where my pain was doubted and disbelieved, and after a few hours, when the worst was over, I was sent home. Saw a gynaecologist for follow up who couldn’t figure out what was wrong but as he was getting his hand out of me, I felt a briefer but stunning pain. I gasped and rolled up, looked at him and asked what had happened. He got this disgusting grin on his face and said he’d just hit my ovary, and now I knew how it felt when a man got kicked in the balls. Too horrified and shocked to complain at the time - don’t miss your opportunity to report incompetent and abusive doctors. So many male gynaecologists hate women.
Her blood sugar was 1.7? I'm surprised she didn't have a seizure. I'm glad she's doing better today! I hope you can report doctor to whatever the right department is in your country and something happens.
I mean, depending on what symptoms you were having, birth control can fix some things. I know women who have been on hormonal birth control since middle school for various reasons
But the biggest advocator in a medical setting is YOU. Never take bullshit from doctors. Youre the priority. Always be your own team player and never be afraid to speak up in a medical setting.
I had 30 cysts on each ovary, and the doctor said it's all in my head and there was nothing there on my scans. I was in crippling pain that I couldn't get up, and couldn't eat without throwing up from the pain. I ended up having to go private, and the doctor was shocked that the other hospitals said there was nothing on my scans. Currently in the process of waiting for a 3rd surgery to remove cysts and also endometriosis... Again.
Dude stop I had a similar thing ! I had gone to the ER bc I was in pain, my uterus felt full af and I had weird discharge and they told me I had a cyst on one of my ovaries and gave me Tylenol. I found a gyno (he was amazing but ended up moving after a while so I don’t see him anymore) and he was like “WTF do you mean A cyst?! “ he told me I had “nests of cysts” on both ovaries and all over my uterine walls and that they were bursting and had I not come to him I could’ve ended up with an infection from the fluid not being able to escape my body bc I was so inflamed. He was so pissed for me and I just remember crying bc that was the first time I had a doctor advocate for me and listen to me since childhood . It’s crazy that so many of us have a similar experience. I’m sorry you had to go through that and I hope your surgery goes well 💖
This sounds very similar to something that happened to a friend of mine. Had a tumor growing right on her nerve. For years, doctors told her it was in her head, even made her go to a therapist to "prove" it was in her head. After 1 session the therapist knew that it WASN'T in her head, but she had to keep seeing them for months anyway. It was YEARS before anyone actually figured out what was going on, and she got the surgery she needed to not be in constant pain
I'm currently awaiting a laproscopy for possible endometriosis. I'm 37 and have been back and forth since I was 13 for painful periods. I finally got a referral when I put my foot down and demanded a referral because I was sick and tired of being dismissed. It shouldn't have had to come to that. I also didn't realise how bad my period pain was/is until I was finally prescribed a strong prescription-only painkiller that only takes the edge off.
I had endometriosis i hemorrhaged, had 10 days of contractions a month, had several cramps 23-27 days a month. Mentral blood spurted out of me like a fountain. Doctor told me to take advil. Until he had interns and did pap smear while I had contractions and splashed his face while he was standing 4 feet away. Until it effected him that doctor did nothing to help me. When I had surgery I had so little blood they had to give me 5 litres. I was told all women have cramps and stop being a pain in the ass.
@@denusklausen3685Imagine the typical position assumed when a woman has a pap swear. Legs wide open and the practioner in between. Then imagine babies shooting out of there like some of them do. Now, imagine blood and no baby.... gross... nothing against the girl but the doctor should be ashamed and it served him right.
This is precisely why I travel 3 hours to go back to my old female doctor after moving. Never had a doctor that listens as well as her! She is amazing!
That's why I always asked for a female doctor. Women listen to everything, where men only hear what they want out of a conversation and start to form an opinion and solution before they actually hear ALL the facts. This isn't just with medicine either!!
Controlling women's body is very important for patriarchy. Control is not care, since care start with listening and empathy, which are incompatible with controlling.
I'm the last person to complain about the "patriarchy" but when it comes to women's care? 100% And the female doctors have been brainwashed into the same mindset... my last gyn wanted to literally cut something out of my uterus with zero pain meds or anesthesia. W.T.F. No, thank you ma'am. It's 2024 not 1724.
AMEN! As a retired ICU/ER nurse, I've had several interactions with male doctors about pain in women that were heart attacks. I had one doctor ream me out about calling a code MI on a female patient, until he saw her coronary blockages on her emergency angiogram that I forced him to do (I was doing house administrator at that time and called the medical chief who came down on him). She needed emergency bypass surgery. Never got an apology either. Research and be your own advocate.
My moms doctor told her mom she was faking her pain for attention when she was younger. Until her ovary exploded from a massive ruptured cyst. She had undiagnosed endo. This was in the 70s but it still happens. Ladies you are your best advocate! If you know you aren’t well make them listen or get second third fourth opinions!
It can be difficult just to get a 1st opinion. Doctor told me he'd need to see 'during'. But cramps, vomiting and diarrhoea so bad I couldn't get to the surgery, and they don't do home visits "just for period pain"!
Thank You! Most doctors act more like our judge instead of our doctor. It’s so devastating to be treated like nobody sees you or to have your voice silenced!
This is why I love my doctor. I got so lucky with him. I had been fighting on going issues and I broke down at his office one day because I was just so tired of any thing we thought of NOT being the problem. He said, "We'll keep trying. I believe you. YOU know your body and what you're supposed to feel like. If you tell me something's wrong, then something's wrong." He told me if I came across any ideas that we hadn't tried or tested for, then just call him and he'd send over the order. I went into his office after finding what I had, he said "YOU DID IT!" It's not common and while we tested for similar issues but we missed a couple blood markers. I know some doctors would have dismissed their patients or even maybe heavily medicate them.
That's doctors. It turns out, they don't like being spoken to the way they speak to others. Keep that in mind the next time your doctor tries to gaslight you. I once had a doctor tell me my symptoms were all in my head to which I responded, "How would you know? You've refused to do your job since the second I stepped in the room. What test did I take again? Is your opinion based on the results of the blood work you didn't order? Do your God damn job." For some reason, I never saw that doctor again. 😂
Doctors do what the pharmacy industry tells them now. Most women's problems are symptom of another issue- often due to excess sugar and carbs; the cause of countless other problems for men and women alike. It's sad that people have to be their own advocate bc doctors don't investigate or research for answers for their patients anymore. If you don't have one of the 20 most common issues, they tell you you're fine or accuse you of imagining things.
Sir… as a woman with PCOS, PMDD, ADHD and Depression, I cannot tell you how infuriating it’s been just trying to operate day to day and doctors never seem to listen. But hearing this acknowledgement from you was such a relief. I appreciate you using your platform to educate like this. ❤ Thank you for your compassion.
I was literally asking my psychologist how the pills I’m taking could affect pregnancy, as I’m planning to have kids. He was honest and told me probably better to cut all the anti depressants during pregnancy as there’s literally 0 test done on their effects on pregnant women. Which was NOT assuring in anyways cuz with all that hormones going crazy I know I would not be ok without medication…
@@xueshang1035if it makes you feel any better, I found my anxiety and depression decreased throughout pregnancy because my brain was exhausted from growing a human. So you could get lucky with something like this ❤ absolutely digusting that this research is still lacking across the board
Exactly, I will die if I get pregnant and I'm married to a woman and literally have 3 kids but I can't get a hysterectomy to fix most of my issues because "what if you want more kids" I am gonna start saying "I'll just get an abortion then"
My daughter, 44, is dying of untreated ovarian cancer on top of endometriosis and fibromyalgia. Her pain is undertreated after 18 months and when I have acted as her advocate, her 2 GPs and her pain specialist all refused using debunked, untrue and old information as excuses.Watching her suffer has destroyed her and us as a family. Everyday I think of sueing for medical negligence but lack the confidence. I don't know if she will make Christmas much to her son's terror. It is criminal.
I am so very sorry for all of your family. I will wish on whatever star I can for her to have as many memories with you as possible before she has to leave. Please, if it can bring you some peace of mind, and bring some light to the unfair treatment that broughther to her knees, sue them.
This is so true and ongoing! In the meantime, it is important to be the advocate for your children and/or elderly parents. You may not be able to be your own advocate, so it's equally important to find a friend or family who will be your advocate in case you are too ill to help yourself.
This is so true cuz my insurance just denied me an MRI stating it isn’t necessary to check for endometriosis…………. Like my doctor kinda thinks it is… that’s why they ordered it….
How dumb are you to really believe this? You know the reason women weren't required in trials was due to ethical concerns and caution from cases when it went horribly wrong....
@@mateomoreno331try reading up on the subject and you'll see the truth in it. "Doing Harm" is a great book. It talks all about the reality of negligence, torture, infantilization, refusal of access, and institutionalizing in women's and POC's health and how it directly relates to inequalities and worse health today.
My mom had horrible menstruation cramps for years, but the docs kept dismissed her for hormonal issue. When my mom delivered my sister through C section, they found abnormal and big ovarian cysts. If only they examined her long ago, she wouldn’t need to undergo years long pain. I can’t imagine many undiagnosed, mistreated and dismissed cases, that make women had to go through unnecessary pain just to get by.
That's just doctors in general. My dad had issues with his health and stomach pains. Doctors sent him home every time. Turns out it was cancer, stage 3 by that point. Hell, I was ignored by the hospital with a stab wound in my leg until I took off my clothes in the waiting room and said I needed it stitched up. They just don't give a shit until you raise hell.
I don’t know how long I had a cyst on my ovaries but it ended up rupturing and then I found out I had over 20 kidneys stones just hanging out in my kidneys 😊 I think I was 15-16?? I would have these cramps, I can’t even explain how bad they freaking hurt. I was in VA visiting and didn’t get it checked until I flew back to IN and went to the er like a week later? They sick bigggg time. I hope your moms not having to deal with it like she was ❤❤❤
Also our pain in general is not taken seriously. I had wild headaches with visual disturbances for years along with debilitating eye pain and other symptoms and was told I had anxiety. I had two brain tumors. It took 5 years and 6 different doctors to get a diagnosis
My heart breaks for my friend. Doctors never take her pain or concerns seriously so she’s stopped asking for help. Just barely caught thyroid cancer and the mass pressing against her throat . Doctors told her she was just working herself up and causing her discomfort. Obgyn in Texas turned her down in because she’s never had penetrative sex and for “cultural reasons around virginity”. She was passing out and bleeding black blood. Women are treated like shit
She's not a real doctor because she should know Obgyn don't just cover pregnancy or anything related to sexual health but also fertility which includes the uterus ovaries need to check for cancers like?? Talk about malpractice
@kevalyarathore223Do you respect both genders equally? I haven't seen you say 1 supportive thing about women in the comments and I have seen several of yours. I mean everyone deserves equal medical care but most men are getting it and most are not. The discussion is about what women are going through and how we're being wronged so how about acknowledging it.
Thank you for saying this doc, i had recently read through women's stories of going through procedures without anesthetic. And now reading through these comments here, good grief! We need doctors to listen to us! 😢
I know someone with a heart condition who was sent home from the emergency room and told she just had anxiety, when she was actually having a heart attack. She had to go over to the private hospital and ask them to let her in because the public emergency room had dismissed her. Unfortunately, too many health problems in women get chalked up to anxiety.
And that's why I go with my girl to the doctors if she has any concerns about any pain she's in. To make sure her concerns are examined ad not dismissed. It puts her mind at ease and it puts mine at ease too.
You’re awesome. My partner comes with me usually because I was mistreated when I had appendicitis and they kept trying to send me home. Finally when I was admitted it turned out I was actually slowly dying. My partner was furious and comes with me for serious issues.
It’s amazing (and sad) how much better doctors will listen when you bring a man to say “this is abnormal for her, she has a very high pain tolerance so if she’s here, it’s severe”. I’m glad you go advocate for her although I’m sure we can all agree that you shouldn’t have to. Even so, it sounds like you’re a great partner! I have a friend who has been having severe pain and other scary symptoms and is constantly having to go to the ER where she is dismissed. Like this girl is at the point of having to use a cane and barely able to walk and still no one will listen. I told her to bring her boyfriend as an advocate as they will be so much more likely to listen to him 😢
Thank you for addressing this. Women's health has been as dismissed as women themselves have been. It brings great hope when doctors like you step up and rationally explain that to people. Perhaps now we can all move forward together so everyone can feel better all the time.
PMDD here and it is rough! I have 1-week a month where I'm fully functional. The research, assessment, and treatment options are limited. It took almost 20-years of symptoms to finally get diagnosed, and it only happened because I gained additional info and presented the hypothesis to my OBGYN 🤦
That's why in islam all female medical professionals are only reserve for women themselves and that make pure sense after watching this reel. And also it avoid shaitaan's seed in male doctor brain as they are not allowed to operate on female patients. allah hu akbar ☪️🕋🕌
I don't think that would help much. You don't understand what he is saying. It's medicine as a whole. All his education & training and knowledge is based on research done on male bodies until 1993. Yes he is understanding and knows the issue but that doesn't change what he said about how medicines and misdiagnosis is a problem. It isn't down to an evil doctor dismissing women because they are female. It's literally because of alot of knowledge and studies were about male bodies.
So true. I have recurrent yeast infections… like there MUST be some underlying cause. It can’t be that difficult to figure out. WHY is there no research?! It’s such a basic problem, so many women get them, and we only have one type of drug to treat them, and women with drug resistance or allergies are left without options.
The er missed my cancer so many times. Thankfully I was persistent and did my own research. That's the problem with most doctors today. We have to do our own research and lead them in a direction. If not our will be forever until you get the right care.
He could have addressed that periods aren't an illness though. Or that the first guy was grossly generalising. Even though medical malpractice on women is common, still most women don't have chronic illnesses. First guy was being a full dick and doesn't deserve to be taken this seriously.
He is so right!! I work as a cardiac nurse and I see womens symptoms dismissed all the time. They right it off as stress or depression or histrionics. Their symptoms are minimized and even ignored.
Ah yes the always accurate diagnosis of hysterical because woman. Can't believe that's still happening, they act like women haven't existed just as long as men have.
@@soul5788 I was a caregiver. Saw an incident where an elderly woman with a uti was taken to the doctor 3 times for different antibiotics because the initial prescription wasn't working. 3 times the doctors did not look at what she was taking and tried to prescribe the same medication over and over.
I was having a lot of pain and was sent for a spinal x-ray. Because they didn't see cancer, the doctor became rude and contemptuous. He told me I was a hypochondriac and told me to get out and not come back. Years later, it was revealed that I have a condition with the banal name of Liver Pain. This is when the liver becomes irritated and inflamed (due to all of the crazy chemicals they put in our food) and swells, rubbing on surrounding tissue causing pain on the right side that arcs around from the lower back, over the hip to the lower abdomin. I have a medical background. We were taught that pain is the body telling us there is something wrong that needs attention. Once upon a time, we would get that medical attention, but the medical profession was bought out by investors, and we are now stuck with a bottom-of-the-barrel system of corporate medicine when the medical profession became the medical industry at the hands of corporate monopolization and fascism. They closed all of the teaching hospitals and have dumbed down medical training to the point that medical staff are learning on the job instead of receiving a thorough in-service, hands-on education, and proper training. The businessmen have done this. They know nothing about medicine but have inserted themselves to make medical decisions based on profit-and-loss tables. We need to stop putting right-wing fascists into office. All they know to do is make an arrogant mess.
@@pluckybellhop66well she was older you really can’t give them alot of meds due to some stronger ones will cause body failure old ppl are almost a different species
@@Laura-ql4mgI ended up having a good PCP who actually listened and after multiple times of SI (and other extreme mood swings) during those times of month we put the pieces together. My mother also had PMDD (self-diagnosed) and her symptoms went away after menopause.
@@Laura-ql4mgI was diagnosed with PMDD by a hormone specialist Dr. after I was dismissed by my Gynocologist for years just wanting to prescribe antidepressants 🙄 the specialist tested all my hormones which my gyno said wasn't necessary! I was a hot mess and don't wish PMDD on anyone! I then paid out of pocket to go to a functional medicine Dr. and had extensive testing and learned how to better support my body and hormones through nutrition vitamins/supplements... he saved my life! 😊
@@Ricaindiano exactly, all those years to LITERALLY HELP PEOPLE. that doesn't give you the right to neglect and ruin others' lives! lazy or not, AT LEAST DO YOUR F'ING JOB.
@@dmlw well I've seen them doing that,thankful to them for what they've done for me and my mother,but people remain ungrateful and always judging other's work over their own,everybody thinks that other people should do their job well but hey no one's doing that on their own mate
My country does not recognize debilitating menstrual pain as a valid reason for a sick leave. I had to come late for several days just to drive my sister to her office because she just could not take her normal route with the train. Women's health are HEAVILY poorly misrepresented or even worse, completely dismissed in developing countries. Doesnt help that even in America, some men dont even know how periods work let alone other gynecological conditions in developung countries
Well I think women should’ve stayed home. 😅 I am not even being sarcastic, but company wouldn’t/ shouldn’t give extra privilege to an employee just because of their gender. Companies don’t run on communism.
@@rayhaanalykhanIt’s not because of their gender genius, it’s because of a debilitating medical condition. Women and men can have medical ailments that impede their ability to function and work. In your haste to be “under his eye” commenting you missed that.
@rayhaanalykhan Ah, yes, another wildly made-up definition for communism. This times communism is recognising that some women have medical conditions. Nice
This! My entire reproductive life I was in so much pain every month until I had exploratory surgery in my early 40’s. My Gyn found stage IV Endometriosis and was able to remove much of it and prescribe the right med.
Me too stage 4, now if I have a break through period it is just mild cramps, not a giant hot knife that stabs me 24/7. Had to fight hard to be heard it's a shame.
Yep!!!! Fortunately (or actually unfortunately? I’m not sure) I started having pain outside of my period on a day to day basis and *then* they sent me for ultrasounds, CT’s, and a lap. Only took 5 years compared to the average 10. Sending gentle hugs to all the Endo Sibs in the comments. 💛
I _knew_ they weren’t normal because when I first got my period I had no cramps at all for a year, and the pain gradually increased with every period after that until it was so bad I couldn’t stand anymore!! But the doctors didn’t believe me!! I told them pain medication doesn’t work because it takes more than an hour for them to kick in and wears off easily, and they told me to just take it earlier! Until I got a stomach ulcer from ibuprofen and novamin! I was suffering so much, my dad who’s a veterinarian injected morphine into my butt! Only after my mother contacted my younger brother’s best friend’s dad (who’s a gynecologist) and I got an appointment at his super bougie clinic that usually does not take any new patients, did I get help and the doctor after some tests immediately confirmed it was endometriosis (which by this point I already figured out by myself)
Thankyou for raising awareness! Not giving up until im listened to. Women need to be listened to, and i have to be a pain in the ass to get your ear; you better know damn well ill do my worst.
Endometriosis is not in your head! Finally found out why I suffered until I was FINALLY listened to at the age of 48 with laparoscopic surgery. Thankful to this doctor for helping me and also gave me answers as to why I couldn’t have a baby earlier in life
That's why in islam all female medical professionals are only reserve for women themselves and that make pure sense after watching this reel. And also it avoid shaitaan's seed in male doctor brain as they are not allowed to operate on female patients. allah hu akbar ☪️🕋🕌
My sister went to the doctor for migraines that were quite possibly related to her PCOS. The first thing her doctor asked her was “are you sure you’re drinking enough water?” And that made my sister break down in tears. She was in so much pain and this doctor outright assumed it was my sister’s own doing. That drove me up a wall. Thank you as always for keeping it real, Dr. Karan 👍
@violetsarelavender these things are true, but let's then look for signs of chronic dehydration through further examination and tests? It can be as simple as urine tests, blood tests, addition of medically approved electrolyte drinks, etc., but don't assume and don't give a tone that is infantalizing. Maybe caffeine is aproblem, maybe their medications are having too much of a diuretic effect,
@celery7810 I get period related migraines. They happen the first 3 days of my period. It a fairly common issue for women that supposedly happens due to low estrogen. If I went to the doctor with that and he asked me if I'm drinking enough water I'd probably scream. Ye nah mate I just get chronically dehydrated in these specific days of the month.
@mordecaiissad8529 same...same In those moments all you want is relief, not to be questioned about things to prevent it in the future (at least not quite yet). So the focus, if one is in the middle of a migraine attack, should be giving them plenty of water, a dose of the medicine that might fight the headache immediately, and medication to prevent it at its first signs in the near future and over the next few days where it may continue in another wave.
@@PrettyH8Mach1n3to start that process though you should still ask if they are drinking dnough water anyway. Tests are way more intrusive and stressful then a question. To which if is is drinking enoigh water then the tests are useless unless she for somereason cant absorb it. Then in those cases tests wpuld be good. "A better first question would be is it only around your period times or does it happen randomly?" Then that sets stuff into 2 different paths.
That’s strange. The United States has some of the best facilities and medical professionals in the world. Sure, unless you’ve meet your out of pocket and deductible, it won’t be free. But the reason why other countries, especially European countries have free healthcare is thanks to America because they do the bulk of the R&D spending billions and trillions of dollars on it. Since America is doing most of the research and spending all that money for it, that means other counties don’t have to and they can leverage the money they would be paying for R&D into free healthcare
The UK is very similar. Diagnosing certain medical conditions can take AGES. My mum was in and out of the hospital for weeks complaining of severe shoulder pain. They kept dismissing it as a muscle cramp and only administered her painkillers. We recently visited a hospital in our home country, and they sent her to an emergency MRI scan. It turned out that she had torn her muscle and needed to be put in a neck brace.
100%. I literally diagnosed my own self in 2017 with Endometriosis (after YEARS of debilitating pain, but 2017 truly reached the peak), tried to convince my Doctors to listen to me, was instead completely ignored, dismissed and told it was "anxiety" until during one of my numerous trips to ER a Doctor FINALLY listened to me. I was vomiting and fainting every few minutes because of the pain and he sent me to the Endometriosis and PCOS ward they had in that hospital (they had a whole WARD dedicated to it and STILL it took their ER team at least three trips for them to take me seriously). In there they confirmed my self-diagnosis and told me to find a good specialist, 'cause it seemed pretty aggressive. Found a good specialist and he told me I had to have surgery. Thankfully I got it in 2018, then after the surgery he passed my case to one of his students (one of his best, truly, she is amazing) and she told me that my Endometriosis was, indeed, particularly aggressive. Had I waited any longer, I was for sure going to lose my right ovary and I was probably also in danger of damaging my uterus. I was 25 yo at the time. Since then, I do not trust most Doctors, simple as that. Of course I have to go when I need it, but unless they prove me wrong, my baseline is "I don't trust you. Make me change my mind". Some do, some don't. When I have to meet a new Doctor, I'm ALWAYS in battle mode, because I refuse to let them dismiss my concerns any longer. And the worst part of it all? I'm one of the lucky ones. There are people with Endo out there that are so completely ignored and dismissed, that their Endometriosis ended up destroying their body to the point of having to use wheelchairs and/or get permanent colostomy bags. There are people with no access to proper specialists and who can't get surgery. And I'm not even touching on other illnesses and disabilities! My experience was hell and yet I'm LUCKY. This is truly a life or death issue. Thank you for speaking about it.
I self diagnosed myself of endometriosis too after years of debilitating pain and losing my job, the doctor was shocked after he did the surgery and discovered that I was right.
Damn 🥺🥺🥺 so glad you’re (and anyone else reading this) here with us today💛 I dont trust doctors either. ESPECIALLY in this part of the world. You’d be surprised the amount of things they dismiss that can save lives (ie. natural remedies) and instead pass us off useless (bc its not good long term) medication.
I've had chronic pain for YEARS and every single time I go to a regular doctor, I get dismissed. Including when I had covid. Including when I had the stomach flu. Including when I had strep throat. Including when my heart rate went over 200 bpm for no reason. Including when I fractured the same leg 3 times. The doctors favorite thing to do in any situation was to just call it anxiety. How can fracturing your leg be anxiety? I had no idea anxiety could show up on so many tests. My mom had to be there with me so she could argue with the doctors who were doing that, because they refused to listen to how I felt or what I've experienced. It's gotten worse and worse for so long. I only know a small part of whats happening to me because of my family arguing with the doctors. If it wasn't for them, I'd still be nowhere with this. My mom is diabetic and fat, so she is very very used to doctors being dismissive of serious issues she's had and blaming it all on her weight. Being sick and in pain all the time is very damaging to my daily life. I know my brother has never been dismissed by a doctor. He can go to the doctor for the most minor things, and they have no problem running tests for him. Most doctors will walk out of the room 5 minutes after I show up for my appointment while hardly even letting me talk for a single second. They tried to argue about what my specialists have told me too, even though it was very clear they had no idea what they were talking about. The specialists are called specialists for a reason. 🙄
Fun fact: we see the inverse of this trend in the psychotherapy space because most therapy/mental health techniques are studied primarily on women as they make up a higher percentage of the available university populations. Lots of mental health conditions are misdiagnosed for men as are treatments. Men are also shown to have poorer "results" from traditional talk therapy due to this.
I was hoping someone would point this out. Women make up a significant percentage of the healthcare field. While the majority of doctors are males, most of the other staff are women. So the issue really isn’t a gender issue. It’s a general lack of concern because they are not the ones experiencing the pain. Another problem is, We think that all doctors have the answers or cures to our problems, but the reality is, A LOT of them are more incompetent than we know.
This is SO real. Just got diagnosed with an ectopic pregnancy from and iud not properly fitting in a septate uterus I had no idea I had. Not enough research is done. Period.
Can always donate your body to medical research, to be cut apart, splayed open and meticulously analysed by countless researchers and students alike... back in the day, you couldnt just volunteer your body like that, most people saw dissection as desecration of a corpse... early researchers had limited access to cadavers (mainly sourced from executed criminals). The research that serves as the basis for female anatomy and fetal development would likely make your skin crawl if you knew how it came about... it involves grave robbing and the dissection of pregnant corpses... as well as alleged kidnappings and murder of pregnant women in order to complete... because its awfully convenient to have a cadaver at every stage of fetal development... Medical research is one of the darkest aspects of human history... and this isnt ancient stuff... as western medical research really took off in the late 1700's throughout the 1800's.
@@g00gleisgayerthanaids56 ectopic pregnancies and a septate uterus can be easily found on a living female through and ultrasound. The problem is doctors don’t take the time to find these things before it’s too late. No one said anything about the research story you brought up. Point proven of not knowing anything about the female body
It absolutely is but also watch all the sexist humour and behaviour portrayed in American movies and other media from the time. It was still accepted as normal (in some places, it still is now). I was born in 1987. I remember being alive then. I remember the ways that I saw women and girls treated and the sorts of unfair expectations and beliefs about ourselves that were both implied and pounded into our brains. It feels appalling that we were expected to just take that sort of crap treatment during my lifetime. I know I'm not very old or anything, but at this point, the 90s feel like a completely different lifetime (for better and worse). They had such a different vibe/tone.
Actually, Black & Indigenous women were a MASSIVE part of "medical trials" in the u.s since the beginning! these women were sliced open & brutally experimented on without anaesthetic nor consent.
Imagine being a man and not being given any space that is "for you" Men are invisible. That is why we are used as lab rats for women. I'll give you an example: mice are constantly used in labs for medical research. We now have more medical info on mice than we have for any other living being. Does this mean the mice are secretly creating inequality between people and mice? No. They are mice. Men must abuse their bodies to generate wealth to avoid dying alone and childless. That drives all of this. That is what drives the construction of everything you see around you. You now have the opportunity to think about this and consider whether you will actually pursue reality, or keep living in a fantasy. Your welcome.
@@missjo2036 how were the needs of the male guinea pigs more important than the needs of the mixed-gendered patients? I'm not seeing what you are seeing here...
Aww i almost teared up... it's nice to see someone standing up for me. Being in a family with three brothers who keep saying that I'm a "weak bitch" and is giving excuses to laze around, I always felt hurt and eventually that made me keep my pain to myself.
Tip for period problems: in addition to your symptoms, tell your doctor what those symptoms prevent you from doing! You: "I have really terrible cramps" Doctor: "Cramps are a normal part of periods and generally not something to be worried about" You: "I think mine are something to be worried about - Sometimes the pain gets so intense that I'm nauseous, even when I take ibuprofen. I regularly need to work from home because of them during my period and have to take long breaks when they come on because it's impossible to focus on anything but the cramps. I've stopped making plans with friends when I'm on my period because I've had to cancel last minute so many times because of the pain. I can't live my normal life one week out of the month."
This I feel this. My period issues aren't the same but they can still be debilitating. I've had periods that last months simply because I got too stressed out that the hormones in my body got out of control. Causing long periods with no signs of stopping unless I take BC. It's super annoying and it's gotten so bad I just choose to be on BC until I get married and want kids because it literally will not stop! It's so annoying that simply just getting stressed out once will start this never ending bleeding cycle. Super irritating.
The pain scale where each level is labelled based on how it affects your ability to operate regularly is one of my favorite things, very useful. Trying to figure out how bad pain is on a slider scale is so difficult, trying to parse that together with your previous experiences - a strange act of finding a number that won't appropriately explain how it feels. But how much it affects your daily functions, that's concrete, and somewhere to work from.
Wow. Thank you, I have never heard a physician directly answer this question, so honestly. Usually, it's a glossed over answer like "there's so much we're still learning," etc. As opposed to "we never bothered learning about female anatomy," "we're playing catch up while still battling archaic stereotypes and prejudices in medical education."
this makes so much sense now , i tell my bf all the time “why tf don’t i ever get a break it’s always something wrong with me !!” i’ve always got some kind of pain/issue 😢
Me too, I'm 27 and something always hurts, every day, I can't remember the last time I felt healthy and pain-free, probably when I was a kid. It's either my back, my painful periods, my asthma, or something else to surprise me for a change. What's the point of being young when you feel old, and always being dismissed like "where is your youth?"
I feel you on that. I have had always some kind of immense pain and had to take pain med like candy in second grade. The best part is that my classmate bullied me about it and thought I was making it to point, that now I don't dare tell anyone I'm in constant pain. The nerve pain is the worst as well and my doctor asked my how I knew it was nerve pain. Hmm, I don't know, maybe cause I've had for a decade?!
