Same my grandpa passed away recently and my 2 brothers including my dad cried except me, and i did love my grandpa incase your wondering but i just cant cry and i feel really ashamed for not crying for my grandfather…. i always like to think he died peacefully of natural causes in his sleep and i always see it as a beautiful way to passaway cause he lived long and got the chance to see his kids and grandchildrens and if you think about it not many people have that chance! he lived a satisfying life and that kinda helps me not be ashamed of myself for not crying for my grandpa. hope my story helps some folks going threw the same problem:)
My grandma passed away over a week ago and that first week I bawled my eyes out. Now I feel numb and it’s hard for me to cry. I never thought I’d get to this point. Like the grief still feels sad and heavy, I’ve just barely cried since last week
❤️ thank you for this. I’m not a crier and people see it as validation (or not!) of my grief....I have it locked away and share with people who love me and who I love not anyone and everyone. I don’t share ‘me’ with everyone
I had a friend that died yesterday and for some reason I did not cry I honestly thought I was a psychopath or something I tried remembering good stuff and things that makes me sad but I didn’t cry thank you for reading this who ever and thanks for this video
Thank you for posting this and explaining it... My grandma passed recently and in the moments where i was being told my gran passed i didn't find my self crying or bawling up in tears but rather trying tp find a reason for myself to cry... Losing a loved one is definitely a good reason to cry but I've never been able to cry over it, always finding a reason trying to force cry to seem like i have a speck of humanity in me thinking I'm a freak because i know if i don't shed tears during my grans funeral I would be seen as apparently celebrating it, i don't fully understand the feeling of not crying over a loss.. I hope one day I will though for now this video could act as reassurance that I'm not sick in the head for not crying.... Tysm mgbu
Yeah my grandma passed away yesterday . Every single family member was crying but I could cry. I felt like I wanted to but I physically couldn't do it. And I feel so stupid to do it because it makes me feel like there is something wrong with me.
@@Krunch13 im so sorry for your loss.. and dont think about it, theres nothing wrong with you. I also couldn't get myself to cry when I got the news about my grandma but that doesn't make me and you or other people who also didnt cry careless
@@Krunch13 Same with me also. I don't cry when my relatives died. Don't know really but people judgements makes me scary to live in society standards. If you cry more you love and care more, if you don't you are stone hearted. These judgemental words really hurts a lot. You are not only one, I am there with you.
Same, my grandpa just passed away and my family keeps asking how I am and to be honest I’m completely fine and ok, I’m sad that he struggled and that he died but im not sad he died, he’s no longer in pain and struggling, he is free now and im happy for him
I was a bit worried. I was starting to think that I didn't care. I guess it's because I see death as a transition that I and everyone else will eventually do. You're never really gone
I never cried about my mother´s death either, and i do miss her, but i never shed a tear even though some people think there´s something wrong with me. Its like literally something protects me from not crying..
I very rarely cry in situations where it's perhaps expected ( my mam dying, emotional situations in my close relationships) yet when I see something sentimental in a film or hear it in a song particularly when I'm on my own I find myself welling up or crying and sometimes even having to stop driving to pull over and let it all out. Twice I've choked up when talking to a colleague about their mum dying. I can't get my head around it. I think it has something to do with protecting those close to me and being strong for them in the hardest of times. But it causes people to think I don't care or have no emotions. I'm never depressed , always positive and forward thinking. I love every day in life and want to share that. I never had cuddles or was told I was loved as a child but I'm not sure I missed what I didn't have. I feel love and find love easy to give yet people think I'm repressed. I can argue easily with people I don't know or care about. But when they're close to me I get a brain fog and can't think straight. I can't open up and discuss what's either on my mind or in my heart. It really hurts other people when I act like this because it must look like I don't care.
When my aunt died, i didn't cry, i locked myself up in my room and refused to think about anything. I was called heartless and such, but i didn't mind. I just couldn't think. It took me over a week to get back to be somewhat functional. People grieve differrntly, and some do it in complete silence
When my Nana died I didn't cry at her funeral When my basically second grandpa died I didn't feel anything at all and didn't cry Even now when I think about how they're dead and never coming back I can't feel sadness I loved them I really did I have really fond memories but for some reason I can't feel sadness when I think of the fact they died and it's starting to freak me out
One of my loved ones died and I didn't cry which I wasn't shocked by as I often don't cry even when I'm sad but what shocked me was even though I had lots of fond memories of her I wasn't sad I knew I should be but I just felt nothing, and I had to lie to my family and friends by saying I was sad. I don't understand why, and it's left me with so much guilt.
@Sophie Lopez my father died and i can't remember if I felt sad and nervious when I saw his dead body and tried to cry in his grave and I felt stupid doing that crap And I often think that crying for your love ones isn't necessary.I know u might consider me as a PSYCHOPATH and that's just what I feel and think,believe.
@@ジョン-z2e I don't think you're a psychopath, everyone is different and shows emotions in their own way. Some people cry some don't, society norms make it so people expect you to cry.
Finally someone in the community who i can follow about grief..my channel is base on grief as well to share my experiences of Grief from the loss of my daughter.
Same she died this week and she was my favorite person by far and to this point at 40 years old I’ve never cried during a death and I don’t understand why
Thank you so much for this.🖤🖤 My psychiatrist didn't tell me anything relatable when I asked him why I don't cry when I'm sad. After this video, I understood that it's OK and I could have different ways to express sadness. Maybe I locked feelings away and need more time to manifest them.
Yeah My Step grandma died but I didn't cry I guess since I haven't been around with her that's why I don't feel sad but I don't want people to think I'm evil
everytime someone's died in my life i've never cried, my family says that it's weird or that "i just don't know how to express my grief" but that was never the case. my dog is being put down as I'm typing but i don't have it in me to cry, i'm extremely sad and can't even eat right now. i don't know why i am this way but i can't change the way i react, i just wish my family members would accept this.
I cry super easily, my two best friends died (one two weeks ago and the other like 11 years ago) and I feel guilty bc I really cant cry, and when I do is bc I kinda force myself (alcohol etc). I feel so heartless...
When you put it and I'm talking about what you just said putting in the grief you can't put in grief into work grief is kind of involuntary when you're sad I can't what you're already getting at I think there's no right or wrong way to experience grief
Sometimes I noticed that it takes time for it to sink in and then I start to cry and then other times even when I'm sad I don't and I had this happened several times when I had someone who's a friend or somebody that's a loved one that has died
My grandma passed 3 months ago. I just found this out. Normally i cry about this kind of thing and yet i didnt this time. What is this supposed to mean
I’m trying to figure out things about myself back in 1993 one of my grandmothers died and I did not cry I was a kid so I didn’t think much about it but I thought about it then also but I know I loved her very much she was one of my favorite grandmothers and skip ahead to more recently Here in 2022 my grandmother just passed away and this was by far one of my favorite people on earth I loved to go to see her I loved talking to her she did everything for me anything anybody could ever do for a person and once again when I heard the news I did not cry It makes me think I’m some kind of monster but I know I loved my grandmothers very much and I don’t understand why I never cry when people die I’m one of the most kindest loving people I’ve cried during sad parts in movies for Christ sakes I just don’t get it
yeah my dads brother just died today like 35 minutes ago and idk but I don't feel like crying? btw like he took care of me when I was younger he was an awesome uncle but i can cry even when my grandpa passed on I couldn't shed 1 tear I thought I was broken. idk I need help am I crazy? I also cry easily when a sad movie plays I don't understand....
My mind fantasizes me smiling for my father's death which will happen someday in future. It's one crazy imagination that just runs in my mind often everytime when I'm in some conflict with him. Maybe, it's the repressed part of ourselves which makes us do so. For instance, my dad was never a dad in my life.
@@spidermonkey5662Maybe me and the user are on the spectrum of sociopathy or psychopathy. But anyway, we aren't evil in our actions. Just that the evil within has become significant enough to be an inseparable part of us. Maybe evil can be used for good too.
Hi. My boyfriend's father just died and he's having trouble with finding money. I want to give him the money that I have in future, how can I give it to him, what can I say to him without breaking his heart?
Im grieving over a death of someone who was sort of mean to me and I really don't know why its hitting me so hard they were a good person they just where a camp counslor at a camp that used to yell at me i know they were a good person i just didnt really like them i cant explain how i feel becaue the last time i saw them was when they left earlier and me saying how i was kind of glad that they left they died unexpectadly yesterday or the day before the camp emailed us about it is this normal sorry if this is hard to read/understand
Here's an article I wrote about grieving a person you didn't actually like. This may help you understand how you're feeling and why it's normal: refugeingrief.com/2019/08/12/what-its-like-to-grieve-a-parent-you-didnt-like/
