Does Height Matter in a Relationship? (feat. Judah Friedlander) - You Up w/ Nikki Glaser 

"I don't think your problem is luggage as much as is baggage" Holy hell welcome to Nikki's roast. That was an awesome line

Height conversation 30:38

Nikki is the only female comedian that can talk about sex without completely trash talking about men.

Oh man - this height thing hits the nail on the head. The one guy saying 5’7” is the breaking point. You feel the effects of being short, but 5’5” you’re totally screwed. 5’9” and above you’re mostly not passed up bc of your height. Have noticed as I’ve gotten to my upper 30s, it’s not nearly as big of a deal. The priority becomes a job and having your stuff together.

"I don't think your problem is luggage as much as it is baggage." Fucking BRILLIANT line.

I'm a 5'5" dude and I have no problem with women rejecting me solely based on my height. It's biology. It sucks, but that's the reality of the situation. I don't appreciate people devaluing me as a person for it though, which I've seen a good deal of women do. It's pretty callous.

The height vs weight thing is especially egregious bc you literally can’t do ANYTHING about your height, but you can about your weight. But Nikki is right that it’s really an online problem and you’re pretty ducking shallow if you have that rule. I’m 5’9 and perfectly happy with my height and never feel bad. Tall women more often don’t care about height, which I find interesting.

The luggage-baggage line. Nikki knew she got zinged. Best line of this show.

Nikki, you are a breathe of fresh air. Appreciate you.

So many hilarious Ian comments flew under the radar on this one. He had me dying😂

5:20 Lying With Your Actions 14:11 Judah Friedlander Is Early 27:06 Crowd Work (People Scream Racist Stuff) 36:28 Relationship Deal Breakers For the Guys Love you Nikki!!! Love your show and podcast! You even inspired me to start my own show. Keep on crushing it girl! Hope your parents are doing well, they seem amazing! :)

I've been out with people 5'4" to 6'4" and always preferred the shorter guys. Being able to hug someone and rest your head on their shoulder is nice and kiss them without bending your neck back.

If height didn't matter, it would be much more common to see a short guy with a tall girl. Proof is in the pudding.

Loved this episode and it ended with Nikki basically saying it takes strength to not drink and to not eat meat. Both of those statements I agree with and tried to tell my friend who just returned from WV. I get those points but I fucked up trying to explain them to a guy from West Virginia who was kicked out of his house at 13 years old. We're all on different paths, keep doing what you do!

Loving the vibe!!!!

2 years ago, I did a experiment. I open 2 nearly identical dating profile. The only thing I change is : on own I put my real height (5'5") and the other own I put 5'8". In 1 month of usage, the taller account got 34 match and the other own 2. This is crazy!

I'm a bit late to the party. Thank you for covering this topic! As a shorter male, dating is a painful struggle. I feel fortunate to be me for the most part. It's when I'm looking for a partner and know it's an uphill battle from the start. I try not to share my height on dating apps to give myself a fighting chance to win "her" over before the topic comes up. I've been called a liar for it. I figure that if I don't ask for it from you, it's ok to not just put it out there for you. A huge cross-section of this dating population also laments how shallow men are. Underestimation is also huge on this topic. "Well he's short, so you know that means he's not packing much" or "he's bad at being tall so he must be bad at everything." You kidding me?! A) Taller buddies and I have shared sizes and I'm on par, but you think everyone is proportionate in all ways. Not at all true dummy! B) I may try harder and therefore excel as a result in most arenas because I know I'm likely viewed as bad at everything because of my height. It's not over-compensating, it's overcoming...fine but important line. Which brings me to the mental health aspect. Women tell me confidence is a very important thing to help a man's attractiveness. However, a short confident man is over-compensating for his height. "He can't possibly be as confident as he exudes." F-off with that. I'm confident because I'm awesome. I've been successful in most aspects of life-except in attracting a height supremacist (aka roller coaster) like you! Not every short, confident man is suffering from Napoleon Complex. Some short, confident men (probably most) have fucking earned their confidence like any other person.

Nikki's my hero!!!! I've always been attracted to girls who are much taller than me and I'm pretty short. I don't care though..I'm like 5'6" and my tallest girlfriend was 6'. She was cool and I was cool with it. Happiness and being comfortable with someone, regardless of their height shows way more social maturity as far as I'm concerned.

Such a crushhhh on this woman🔥😍! Her emotional intelligence is off the chart!

I love these podcasts.

It seems so many times I’m thinking on something and it pops up in Nikki’s podcast 🙂

Om My Tinder profiler, I wrote "If you are not a good person, swipe left". And guess what; i haven't gotten a single match after that. 😂

Great show Nikki👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

This is my favorite episode

Great talk I love it

Love you Nikki. I'm 5'7 . lol ok 5'6 . but thanks for giving me hope.

I’m sad that this is ending, thanks for dropping extra content the past few months tho

I remember being embarrassed of my laptop charger being dirty while my crush’s was completely clean and white, no scuffing

3rd time is a charm. You're intelligent and make amazing points on veganism. I respect the hell outta you.

This is basically my work-mode podcast.

44:06 And just when I thought I had a chance 💔

I kept my gal’s receipts after she passed 18 years ago and I have so many of her things now- still in boxes but for the last 7 years I have been slowly clearing them out but going back to the receipts, I kept them bc her name was signed on the receipt and I just wish I could feel her fingers and hold her hand while I trace her writing. It ends up making me feel ever more sad- so I need to clear out everything by Feb. 27 is my goal

That morse code cap guy is right about alcohol. If a person can't see one single reason for someone to not drink, they are ignorant (or in denial).

The part about keeping your room clean so that your loved ones don’t have to clean it when you die is literally a mitski lyric

Ian starts the day giving mustache rides.

Swag "Problem" : Skip the step where you keep it stored up and just donate it immediately. We are not all as lucky as you are. :)

Being sober around people that drink is like owning a Galaxy in a world of iPhone users. They look at you with the same shock and disbelief and want you to to join their side just as desperately

You are so funny and great to listen to. And stunning.

I'm 5'5 and I'm confident, funny, attractive and height doesn't bother me now that I'm an adult. But in high school it did suck.

Ian Fidance is so hilarious

Nikki’s awesome 🤩

18:40 I absolutely fear having to go through my parents stuff. Living in one place for over 30 years.. there's so many garbage things I just wanna fill up a UHaul van and take it to the first rescue mission I see.

Women don't realise how rare it is for a dude to be over six foot. But so many of of them are like: "If you're not at least 6'1" then don't bother!"

You are so on point, after my gal had passed away from cancer and I had to go through our home, I ended up burning 22 journals I’ve kept of poetry and women I slept with or dated or both- and destroyed them- then next I had to get rid of the sex toys she and I had bc I don’t want anyone finding my gal’s sex toys and think they were mine however what excuse would my gal for having a sucking toy around so I have to make sure the inventory is to a minimal and not like we had before. We had so much, some never even opened e could have literally opened a pop up store!

Nikki you are the best. Open your mind to a mans need for conflict. Hunting and focused aggression within understanding woman is the best in all aspects. He willingly gives himself.

For women it's not just 'guy must be taller than me', it's 'guy must be taller than me in 6" heels'. It's like, girl you ain't that tall, you're 5'2"!

This is the first podcast I hear where Nicky is not screaming and I appreciate it so much, I'm actually listening to what she's saying. This is awesome.

Nikki, you are beautiful with glasses!

Nikki a real one

A frozen bag of soup party hell yeah... 😆

Height. Im 5ft 3. Had the piss taken out me my whole life. I learned at school to take the piss out myself better. And they shut up.i've dated women 5ft to 6ft 1.

This episode had everything 😂

I don’t agree with the 5’5 comment. I’m 6ft and so many guys have told me they wouldn’t date me because of my height. Doesn’t matter if the date went well my height would be turned into a disadvantage. Frankly height differences is a social construct. Society has made it seem that the ideal couple the guy has to be taller and the girl shorter. Im 6ft and my boyfriend is 5’5 and honestly I don’t see a height difference, I know it’s there but not once have I cared. You only live once you should find a partner that loves you for who you are, where you emotionally click. Physical characteristics aren’t fixed but personality is. I’ve always been told that I need to be with someone that’s taller or the same height as me but it baffled as to why, why the hell does that matter? If you are financially stable, confident, non judgmental, kind and loving then you (boy and girl) will be found attractive. Yes of course there are physical characteristics that we want but height isn’t something you can control.

I love Nikki

Women liking tall men is completely biological/primal it's prevalent in the animal kingdom to which we're no exception. Size implies protection in a dangerous situation.

THIS is why I would never even consider dating a non vegan guy. Subscribed!

Don't be petty. We all have different bodies. Love everyone. Every skin color. Every height and every weight.

She sounded like a middle school teacher with the whole you’re really cooler than they are stuff

Totally saw the "baggage" comment coming. Nice one

I love the girl in the background! Tell her I said hi!

*Breakfast is the most important meal of the day. You haven't eaten for some 8 hours and now you're going to start working hard for the next 4 or 5 hours.*

Its so true. I want to be skinny and tiny. I dont want to take up so much space with my boobs, butt and belly. My body would be huge and with no limits....This is so interesting to me.

Hand me down attitudes .. we get so much from our parents . My dad hes like you must do track and field , it's a family tradition . I took up boxing .. never been a racist .

if spirit people exist, Darling Nikki is definitelty a spirit animal.

We drink and we still love you.

I’m 5’4”; never had a problem! I can climb, :-)

Has anyone else fallen inlove with Nikki or is it just me ...

30:38 Bullshit! Women want a tall guy because their sub-conscience thinks a taller guy is better hung. I know this from personal experience. A girl I knew had an attraction to me but had a preference to tall guys (over 6'2"), then we hooked up and she said "I didn't think you'd be so big, that's why we didn't do this sooner", I'm 5'10 and I always feel short, thank god I'm well endowed.

(5'6 chiming in) I can't blame women for not wanting to date guys that are shorter than them, it's too ingrained in their biology and our society, and frankly most guys wouldn't date a girl that's taller than them either. I get it. Like Nikki said, it's the ones who make "if you're under 6' swipe left" one of, if not *the only thing* they mention in their dating app bio that are just hopelessly shallow and useless, and I'm more than happy to oblige. I just hope tall guys do the same because AFAIC these girls are saying they have no real interests or personality

Anything the woman says matters , matters .

@ 41:04 I stopped drinking when I stopped smoking. And, I could only stop smoking after I learned about how much fluoride is secretly put into cigarettes. Its a nefarious thing that the cigarette industry does. They are able to put massive amounts of fluoride in them without labeling it by submitting the tobacco to hundreds of wetting and drying cycles, depositing everything that's in the municipal water supply, many times over, into the cigarette. 500x the fluoride of water turns the cigarette into a antipsychotic drug akin to Prozac, which explains why the addiction is so much more powerful than just a physiological addiction that goes away after a few days of cessation, such as nicotine or caffeine. When I quit smoking, I had dreams of smoking for 10 years! I still have smoking dreams! I wasn't able to quit smoking until I discovered the reason behind why its so addictive.

I won’t date a gal whom isn’t kind to waiters and waitresses or ppl whom work behind a counter or sales reps, basically, I demand that she is authentically nice, of course I would never tell her that I am watching her actions bc I don’t want her to fake it for me but I want to see if she’s kind to ppl and animals!!!! It’s a MUST

I have heard women claim that personality is more important than looks, which according to Nikki makes me a babe magnet, I am unemployed, 5'11", overweight, just learned to walk for the fourth time, and live in my parents basement.

I appreciate the topic as a 5'5 who is 45 years old successful guy besides the constant rejection by thousands of women for the past 30 years specifically for my height. I appreciate the acknowledgment of this discrmintion and it is a form of discrimination being that the majority of women I ask politely why they don't consider short men and get no less than superficial replies such as she likes to wear her high heels too much or just plainly shrug their shoulders with a dumb look on their face not knowing why but just won't. I'm glad it was addressed but honestly, for a 45-minute video, I wish there was more than a little more than 15 minutes of discussion on it being that it is a big topic especially if you do some research and history of it such as why sperm banks reject short men or how height discrimination against short men was considered sexism back in 1972 then changed to heightism where it was watered down.

Friedlander's special, "America is the Greatest Country in the United States", is better than ANY of Chappelle's specials and among the best specials in the last 10 years

Everything wears out, no matter how much it costs. Luggage gets tossed around airline baggage handles don't care if it's a bag that costs $2,000 or $50. they still toss them around and if they break or well. I'd rather buy a less expennsive bag and if it breaks then get a new one. I'd feel worse if a expensive bag got damaged then a less expensive one.

Comparing weight and height is not even equivalent, you can at least put in work in the gym/diet to lose weight without having to get surgery, height you get what you get.

Nikki’s laugh=music.

What are you views about dating a disabled guy?

Real appropriate for the times. Read the room

Oh cool. Nikki said the opposite of what I thought she'd say. I'm happily wrong in my own judgmental behavior.

I never bin too mood but damn it if I can't stay on task if don't find it interesting but on flip side if I get in to something you are going to need a crow bar and and semi truck too pull me off of it

Nikki seems like such an overachiever. She’s funny, intelligent and gorgeous. I truly don’t get what’s wrong with dudes around her. She’s incredible

I don’t know what it is but it seems like the girls that talk about and focus on relationships the most Have the most trouble with them. It’s kind of like the same thing with money, just focus on what you’re doing and the rest will come

thumbs up for calling out the horribly normalized idea of littering cigarette butts. literally toxic chemicals that get rained on and runoff into our water systems and natural waterways. disgusting and never okay!

Man Nikki Glazer just got 100 times hotter wow! She is stunning even without make up 😍

It definitely does, because you rarely see women with men who are shorter than them

Only reason I would prefer a girl whose on the taller side is to increase my chances of having taller kids (I know there's other factors that determine height) I don't know what other countries are like but America definitely has favoritism towards taller/attractive individuals and I'm on the taller side

Baggage 😂

When you’re laying down horizontally you’re all the same size.

Anyone know why the show isn't on anymore?

I'm 5'5", 165lbs, considered good looking or cute (cute is such a generic term), but I (have to) kinda win the women over with my humour and personality. I'm quite confident, so that helps keep things in the right column as well. But if I were to just sit back and try and go on height and looks, I'd have been the 40yr old virgin!!! But I just go for it sometimes, no matter what they have imprinted in their minds of what they wanted beforehand and think they'll have in their future. Women are ok with pleasant surprises!! There's just things that I had no say in.. I didn't choose my height. I didn't pick my hair, etc. But I'm gonna work what I got, and unless you go for it, you don't get it. Women want to be pursued, and they're not gonna pursue a guy like me; or at least ones I would prefer. And sometimes I've really gone for it, it doesn't always work out, but it don't hurt to try and you never know the outcome. If it's a "no thanks", it isn't going to be your only no in life..life goes on. But there's times I've gone for it and got it, and that feels awesome!!! Who doesn't like the story of the underdog!??!?! But yes, the precondition of height is kinda sad when you think about it, but it's not shamed like other preconditions.

I honestly like Nikki better when she is just chilled out on her podcast then all made up on late night talk shows or wherever🤔

Oh I have a bizarre crush on Ian. Oh God im depressed

Tuned in to see Judah. Not sure he's thriving in this gal talk forum.

Comedy aunty nikki , I have big news and so happy . Last night I meat girl and after kissing huggy love times she said "congratulations your life is about to be transformed , you have just had a dance with Octopus Prime ! " I am so happy now I find right girl and if things not good at first I know relationship will grow on me . Thank you for all help and funny moments .

I have heard men and women speak very poorly of short men. They are fair game I guess...

So my deal breaker is when I take a girl out to eat and she's rude to the waitress specially if it's for no reason! It just totally turns me off

I Cleansed The Bachelor Pad, So Come Back Over For A Second Opinion About Sharing The Time Of Our Lives🤷‍♀️

I've got a set (3 pieces) of Rimowa luggage (silver aluminum set). I've gotten laid because of them. One time I was at the airport and saw a very cute girl. She commented on my carry-on "Nice luggage"... I said "Thanks... where are you headed to?" Since we were on the same flight to Vegas, I asked her if she'd like to join me in the Centurion Lounge (American Express' airport lounges)... she joined me. We hooked up a couple of days later in Vegas