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We already 6 yrs in ldr, but in last 2 yrs our comunication is going bad. He did no contact to me even we are not break up. I just want to meet him, in 6 yrs we didnt meet yet. He said he will coming soon and he said that he really love me a lot never intouch with other when he did no contact to me. Sometimes i am give up, this ldr makes me feel breathless but i love him a lot too. What should i do, please help me.
Honestly, I believe it would be better for you if you let this one go. I can see the anxiety is killing you, because you don't know where to begin. LDR can be painful. He most likely did NC because he was dating someone else or had other plans. Rest assured there are many guys out there who will make you feel secure. You've just got to be willing to disconnect from this rollercoaster relationship, as it no longer serves you. I hope you realize your worth, and look for someone more caring.
My ex had a crush on my classmate and so he kept on looking at her everyday.. i feel thankful that we finally broke up.. i then realize my self worth and can possibly start to love myself again 😌
Been in no contact for almost 2 weeks now. We were together for 8 months and it was a good relationship, we never fought or anything like that. Only issue we had was the fact I had strict parents and they always wanted me home by a certain time and wouldn't let me go on overnight vacations with him (even though I'm in my early 20s). That made him pretty frustrated but he always insisted he'd stay even though he didn't like my family. He would come to my house almost everyday and we went on dates a lot during the week too. He always seemed so happy to see me. Told me he loved me everyday and would write big paragraphs telling me he loved me every now and then. All the sudden one day he started acting weird and was acting cold towards me and then told me he lost feelings and wanted to break up. He told me part of the reason was my strict family and the other part was that he lost feelings. I cried that day and he hugged me the whole time I cried. He told me we could still talk and be friends. We talked as friends everyday for about a week after and then he told me "it's really hard being friends with you" then about a week after that he started blocking me for a few hours then he'd unblock me and then he'd block again for a few hours the next day and then unblock again and then finally he blocked me and it's been 2 weeks and he hasn't unblocked me. We saw each other a few times in person after the breakup and we had fun talking and we'd laugh and stuff and he'd always hug me before he left. It was after we saw each other in person after the break up that he started the whole blocking thing. Do you think he still really has feelings for me and is just trying to move on? Everytime I asked why he blocked me he'd say "don't worry you didn't do anything wrong and I will tell you if I don't want to talk to you anymore" well, I've been blocked for 2 weeks and he never told me he didn't wanna talk to me anymore. 🤷🏻♀️
V R He finally unblocked and reached out a few days ago. It was 2 months of no contact. We've been talking back and forth for a few days now. He even came by my house the other day. But I found out he had been dating another girl while I was gone, she was some high school student and was underaged which is kinda gross considering he's an adult. He told me to not tell anyone we're talking so I think he still has her around. But I don't know why he decided to talk to me.
V R I honestly don't know. Considering he dated some underage girl and is possibly disrespecting her by talking to me, he would probably do the same to me and probably did. I think he left me for her.
V R But this evening my ex texted me and told me he was sorry that he used me. That he doesn't love me. Why tf is he gonna hit me up to talk for a few days and even come to my house and suddenly tell me that he don't love me and that he feels bad and that he basically used me ? 🙄😩
Probably entered a new relationship or is busy with things. Sometimes it can take longer than a year or they might never reach out at all. You need to be moving on as well as it will most likely happen when they are going through a hard time and need your support.
To be honest, no contact really is more for you than anyone else. It gives you the chance to get on with your life once you're past the difficult stage of a break up. It's changed my life completely and I value myself way more than I used to.
Short term relationship ended for me last month. (We were only together two months) Didn’t beg, chase or buy her gifts let alone apologize. I was angry for a bit, and she caught onto that when we were at work, so, there’s no hope in salvaging it. That being said, it gets easier everyday. She’s not coming back, and I’ve accepted that. As for dating, I’m really not into it these days. I was happy being alone doing my own thing and I’m slowly getting back into that mindset.
Caryn Fernandes If you got dumped, your ex thinks you're not good enough. When you start dating soon after the break up, it raises your value and makes them jealous a little because another person is receiving the benefits they used to receive. They would question their worth and wonder if you had another person already lined up. Nobody wants to feel easily replaceable, and neither does your ex. Additionally, dating increases your self-esteem by making you feel wanted and desired. You start moving on which makes you much more attractive.
Caryn You feel this way because by dating someone else it makes you feel further from your ex, but it’s the Opposit, all the things you find hard like this and no contact are actually the best solutions to getting your ex back, @Magnetofsuccess in my eyes is smack on!
@@MagnetofSuccess your are right dating doesn't make your self esteem high. It's good to date ourselves first... It's about taking care of yourself first. Keep dating around is gonna eventually hurt you sooner or later
i have aplied no contact rule 8 months ago....i thought she will miss me after in 2 or 3 months....but she havent called me yet....i called her once in 8 month that is 2 month ago and she said she got new boyfriend but i still love her....and miss her very much....she cheated me but these days are going hard....we were in 3 year relationship....i think she never loved me....
Hey after chasing and being needy and annoying after breakup I’ve finally dedicated to no contact. It’s May 12th and last contact was March 20, haven’t reached out at all. I ended up getting a miss call from my ex and just yesterday’ I noticed she unblocked me on Instagram. Any advice? (Also last time we spoke she was mad and said oh she’s found someone way better than me and that she never wants to speak again... now I’m getting miss calls from her lol.)
The only one I’m having a problem with is anger. Not any one of the others. I want to feel the anger. I want to feel the betrayal. I want to remember so I’m not fooled again.
We broke up for 5 months, I had ever made a missed call by mistake and he texted me and called me back just to check what’s up then went no contact again. Last month I made another missed call when I was tipsy and he texted me again to ask how I am doing then cut the conversation short and cold. We were together for 2 years and he plans to move back to his country but I am not ready to move with him, we argued a lot and before breaking up we both were very stressful with job and career. I moved to another country after broke up and he is going to move back to his country in a year after finish the contract. I am not over him at all, I still feel into him so much. We are now in almost 2 months no contact since the last missed call mistake, is there any chance for me? I am so depressed even after 5 months.
I have been in NC for 2 weeks, my best friend talks to my ex and at the last talk he said to her that he still loves me, misses me and that he is not sure If the break up was an good idea. In your relationship I was quite selfish you can say because of my insecurities that he doesn"t love me but than his family came to the picture and his dad blamed me for evertyhing in his life including that he has a tumor on his brain bc of me...we fought with my ex for like 3 months nonstop bc of his family, school, covid but always solved everything but than the next day all over again. I still love him very much and I even figured how to solve our problems with my insecurities about his family and everything but before I could tell him everything he has broken up with me by letter bc he couldn't look me in the eyes bc he would never stick to the break up. Do you think I still have some chance? I really love him and I want to give him space and time to heel and the same for me and I just want him back in my life forever
Well we just broke up and I feel terrible about it and the thing is she really did love me and I did too but honestly I don't think it might work knowing she lost interest in me but what do you think all mighty man that makes videos for our great
What if I want to pay her back for supporting me? She supported me in starting a new career that didnt pan out. She never asked me to pay her back. But what if after 30 days of no contact I sent her money to take care of some of her bills or to help out with her kids, would that be ok or would that still be considered gifting? Please Help.
My girlfriend is speaking to other person and she jst get intrested to him.. She is not giving the time back we send together or continuous messages things... So i get frustrated and told her del his number nd dont speak to him.. But she dint tat she is blaming me i was tortuing her by continous calls and messages.. But back in days she want me to always with her physically or by messages.. What to i do??
I can relate so much to this video because I did all the steps WRONG and now I regret it. My ex and I had know each other for 2 decades and we'd had a crush on each other since almost 10 years. Our realtionship lasted hardly 4 months. But she dumped me for some pretty unbelievable reasons (which I strongly believe weren't the actual reasons) after pretending to still like me for almost 2 months. She'd blocked me twice for 2 weeks each even before the breakup which made me suspect as if she was seeing someone else and cheating on me. I even used swear words on my ex just 4 days after the breakup and it just kept getting worse because I constantly went chasing after her with texts across almost every communicating platform possible. And the situation got pretty ugly as we exchanged swear words on phone again 2 weeks after the breakup. It's been 40 days today and I still texted her on mail today and now I regret everything that I did. I just wish I'd seen this and all the other videos on this channel much earlier. I might've been in a much better emotional and mental state right now without appearing as a huge asshole and regretful disappointment in front of my ex who was also a long time friend. I hope you keep making such great videos and keep education people. Cheers! ✌
Hi. I understand why you acted the way you did. You felt angry, betrayed and incredibly starved for love and attention. You acted on impulse, and wanted nothing more than love in return. You merely reacted to her action or inaction, which of course wasn't the right thing to do in such a difficult situation. Now you know that if something like this happens again, you must calmly let her go and enter NC immediately. This is the time you focus on healing, improving your life and your behavioural patterns. You've learned your lesson, and now you must rewire your belief system to behave better in tough moments such as the one you went through. If you use this time well, you can grow into an incredibly emotionally mature person. You can do this!
@@MagnetofSuccess thank you so much for replying. It means a lot. I've been in NC for the past 12 days and it feels like the absolute best thing to do. You guys are doing some really awesome work. Keep it up. All the best!
My gf was my best friend for 1 year and a half ,she told me that she had feeling for me and now we are a couple.Everything was good,but she moved on to france for 3 months. 4 days ago,we were planning to settle in france.Then suddenly, she went visiting paris and I was acting strange,it was probably jealousy and I kept telling her that she got another man etc (insecurities). and yesterday she told me that she is losing interest and she dont know where she is with her feelings and I told her if she want to break up ,she told me no. she keep calling me but its not the same as before.I dont even know what to tell her. please help.
Hey. Even if she's got another guy, there is absolutely nothing you can do to prevent her from being with him. What I would focus on is yourself and giving her the space she needs at the moment. When enough time has passed she will be the one wondering what you're up to. Work on your insecurities, be playful and nice, and see if her interest in your rises over time. Best of luck!
So my ex was in a rebound earlier and last week she asked another guy out and i came to know this from somewhere else and when I asked her she hesitated to tell me and acted guilty said i really needed a lpt of time to forgive you, ur still my good friend and all so i acted positively and said I want to say few things and then have to leave so she said tomorrow and then said we'll talk on the monday so 3 days have passed and she hasn't come online, what's your views on my condition
Hi. She said what you wanted to hear to find her way out of the conversation. She doesn't feel the need to talk to you. As a matter of fact, she feels the opposite - to run. Don't fret, as it's normal post-break-up dumper behaviour. Do exactly what she said - give her all the time in the world to forgive you, while you focus on yourself and moving on. If she comes back, it's when she realizes her and other guys' faults.
This is applicable only to unmarried people. What about the married people? If husband leaves without a word due to some stupid behaviour of the wife what should she do? Please suggest......
He reached out after 4 weeks of no contact. And i did something stupid (long story) and got a huge fight. In that fight he said that he misses me (that’s why he reached out) and that he couldn’t handle the idea of me with another man. So I told him my feelings and now he is cold and ignoring (i guess still of the fight it was pretty bad). Will no contact work again? I’ve changed and want a second chance...
@@ddwow566 it’s a very long story. But the update right now is that we are “friends” we barely talk to each other. After a few months we ask if we are okay and that’s it.
@@ddwow566 maybe it’s for the best... I am now in a very happy relationship. And he reached out when he found out and he was mentally abusing me again. So maybe it’s for the best that we broke up. Sometimes it hits me again. But he is happy I guess and I am and that’s the most important. Maybe some relationships will work out again, but time will tell. If it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be ;)
Hi. If you're referring to the physical distance, such as a long-distance relationship then you might not be left with many options. I wish you the best of luck! magnetofsuccess.com/long-distance-relationship-break-up/
I swear I don't feel like even trying something like this. To me that's just degrading and killing me inside, but in all honesty this is the first time I feel like this for a girl and actually want her back. I don't even know if she actually got feelings for me or not. I'm the one who said we should break up I was really having some issues that time and idk maybe I just pushed her a bit too much that was about 4 weeks ago and she said that we should and said that her feelings for me just flew away. I haven't talked to her at all since. Should I give up on her or not?
wait wait wait.. so even if you guys had pets together? Because our situation both my dogs had to stay with her.. and it was for them I agreed.. and so I wanted to see them eventually but I went no contact and didn't accept her friendship because she's with a new guy already.. REBOUNDING.. I think or MONKEY BRANCHING lol opinions?
That is not true at all if you were both at one time emotionally involved in some depth.Do not devalue the relationship because you did not go all the way it is far more a matter of the heart for you both do not look down on your self far from it in todays word and keep calling on God.
My ex enter my life after begin apart for 11 years I moved out for the first time in my life!,no contact rule sucks it means they aren't coming back! And it means they have someone else! We spent 2 more years with each other! Then he stoped texting me 365 days out of the year he would text and say he loved me! And then he stoped texting and he stoped coming up to spent time with me! It now has been four years apart in May he texted me told me he loved me! And that he was in Australia and he would let me know when he got back home! Then in June he texted and told me he was still there he meet a woman and married her and movied out there! He left with out coming and telling me bye! Crushed broken hearted! What to do!!! And he shut me out! Again!!! So hurt!,
My heart goes out to you. Honestly I would suggest you to look elsewhere, as you are being strung along for such a long time. A person who loves you will move mountains to be with you. Your ex may say he loves you every now and then, but look at his actions behind it. They speak way louder than his words and I suggest you consider them. I believe he only tells you he loves you when he feels down and out of luck, relying on your emotional support. When one doesn't want to be with you, you find someone who is going to live and die for you. The best thing you can do is to show this man you don't need him in your life and find happiness in yourself. Can't say for sure, but he might come looking for attention again when you truly don't care anymore. If I were you, I would deny his "undying love" when he pours his heart out next time. Instead of empowering him, reject him and knock him off his high horse. Just how your ego has taken a toll, his will as well. And what do people do when they are feeling unworthy and insignificant? Their desperation kicks in, in order to restore their pride, so they start looking for attention and validation. If your ex does that, don't give it to him. Instead, starve him long enough for him to realize what he's done to you.
Delita Smith I'm sorry you are going through what you're going through. on June 9th I finally left my boyfriend of 3 years because he got another woman pregnant..... I am still recovering from the shock. This is not the first time he cheated on me and he always does his Casper the Friendly Ghost routines. Although my heart aches I know I did the right thing just by picking up quietly and leaving. I do feel like calling and texting him but when I think about how he did me?..... it stops me right in my tracks. I feel your pain but you must stand your ground! Keep him on Arctic blast my sister. We're getting a little too old for rotating doors. Join a support group have your friends and family close to you Make sure you have somebody you can call on one of those days when it gets tough. If you like you can even hit me up. You're going to make it. I'll pray for you.
Sorry you had to do that do! Men aren't worth having so that is way Iam done with men! Cause they are all the same! It hurts to much it lots of heart ache! So I say no more heart ache I now can respect my self! No more forgiveness to him never!
NC works - especially for you. You can't force someone to be with you. Imposing guilt or self-pity isn't going to bring her back. Also, if she loved you, she wouldn't have done it. No matter what she says to you, her actions clearly speak louder than words. Detach from her, and sooner than later you will see your ex from a clearer perspective.
my ex cheated a year ago, and i begged her to leave him and back with me, She ignored me until 10 months, and suddenly she cameback to me and told me she was wrong and appologise to treated me like that. I was playing cold and tell her to wait for 1 months coz i want to fix my scar. She couldnt wait then she walked away again... I chased her again for about 2 weeks. She said forget about that, she already give me a change but i didnt take it.,.. what should i do... any help
She came back because her relationship failed, and she was too weak to be on her own. You were the next person to treat her wounded heart, and you told her to wait. Any sane person who loves you would have waited one month. Not her. She found someone else again and repeated the story. Take my advice and leave this girl alone. Things will never be the same again. If you don't want to do that, wait until her next relationship fails and she's miserable again.
I visited her, apologized and gave her gifts BECAUSE I cheated on her. I have been doing no contact for about a month but she still is angry tbh and is trying to do stuff to spite me. She also ignores me when we run into each other. Any ideas guys?
@@timesconflux42 it's not about finding someone better it's about doing yourself better as a person .... You shouldn't be in no competition with anyone.. but yourself
@@MagnetofSuccess When she left me those were the words:"we cant be lovers, and friends neither. We will not speak anymore." Then, she commented something about a pic on my snap 2 days ago. I responded then she said something in return and that was it. Today is her birthday, Im thinking that she wants us to be back together. Am I right or not? Plzzz some help. :(
You're wrong. She doesn't want to get back together until she tells you she wants to get back together. My advice would be to not reach out. Commenting on her social media is pointless. She told you neither friends or lovers is going to happen, so act that way. Strangers don't wish others, so remember, you are merely doing what she wants you to do.
Agus Hendriawan stay in it... i have been begging and pleading for almost 2 months. I started no contact and he contacted me (after 4 weeks). Every situation is different. I thought mine would never reach out again. After the reaching out, i’ve made a mistake. And we got a huge fight. Now is he cold and ignoring again. I just hope that no contact will work again. You got this
@@hannelorev.a.9768 I kept messing around with my no contact, today I reached out to her by using another number ( since I'm in traveling to another country and have to ask her where to buy this specific item) so she replied and she blocked me afterwards. Quite painful but looks like I need to move on and let her go
Agus Hendriawan i don’t know what happened between you 2 but definetly keep in no contact. She is blocking you, and the reason for that is: she doesn’t want to speak with you. And i know it’s harsh... but it’s the truth. Maybe someday? Become the best version of yourself and try to forgive her for her behavior. If she is meant to be, she will come around. Just give her space. You should really try the no contact and don’t break it. Maybe that’s also the reason why she blocked you? She thinks that you’ll always come back. Show her that you don’t need her anymore (even if you do). I know I’m not the best advice giver and I would do probably the same as you. I’ve made a lot of mistakes and couldn’t do it either. When I finally did it, he reached out and I’ve made it worse. I just hope it will help for the both of us. And if she’s not coming back... she is losing the greatest person on earth. Who would give anything to her and what did you lost? A girl who is not interested and who doesn’t care about you. You deserve more than that. We all deserve the best. Good luck! I’ll pray with you.
Rebound relationship. Probably won't last that long. Trust me, I was a rebound. We lasted for 4 months. I broke things off because he wasn't ready for a relationship and was obviously using me to get over his ex. It's been a week since the break up and he's mingling on social media with other girls. He'll end up in another rebound relationship. He'll drag another girl. He'll never change.
My gf broke up to me today, we ve been together for 6 months and I did my best like doing her chores like walking her dog and cook for breakfast and dinner. I even bough her new furnatures for her new apartment. I just dont understand she told me that she doesnt love me as much I love her. She cried when broke up with me today. I already planned to go to Disney World with her this may and now I dont know what to do. She also told me that I am the man thats shes looking for the way I treated her special and took care of her. I always cook food and fix her cars everything. She always told me that I always treated her like a princess. Is there any chance I can get her back? She also told me that she ll hope that Ill be the guy she wants in the future orother guy that she can give 100 percent love. She cried all day when she told me all of these. My question is is there a chance for me to get her back? If so, how? P.S. I’ve done everything for her, cooked at her apartment, took care of her dog and chores for her. I have shown her what type of guy I am that is willing to take care of her. After a day she broke up with she cried all day and called a day to check up on me. I’ll never contact her, she always contact me almost every day now. Is there a chance? I want to get back with her. I just recently started hiring a personal trainer to bulk up. I just signed uo to college to complete my masters degree. She also wanted to give me sex for the last time before I leave and I told her no because I give a real love. What does that mean? I dont know what to do... Help please I really love her. Thanks
Adrian. You have mentioned many times that you gave her your best. What happened was she became the goddess, and you her servant. This does not work in a relationship, as both have to invest the same. So when you overinvested, she felt spoiled and worshipped. She felt too good for you, and started feeling smothered by your undivided attention and dedication. She lost the spark because you went soft on her, and became the person who lives for her, instead of yourself. The best you can do is start living for yourself. She took you for granted, so forget about her and change yourself so you can live your life, instead of the girl's you're with. Consider the break-up a blessing in disguise. Try focusing fully on yourself for a change and you might end up loving it. Suddenly, you will have the time to do all the things you previously couldn't do. The key to winning any girl back is to stop trying to win her back, but rather yourself which you have lost in the relationship.
@@MagnetofSuccess I am. Doing no contact right now for a bout a week been going to the gym. Love is blind. Do you think theres a chance of me getting back with her? She expecting soon with our baby.
@@MagnetofSuccess I know I messed up however is there any chance I can get her back as my gf? Im doing no contact rule right now and shes been checking up on me but I never replied. She replied today, "true color shows for people who didnt get what they want and to think your the one that told me not to treat as stranger" 😂. I just need your help and advice to get her back.
Adrian. There's always a chance. It's too soon however, as nothing has changed. She has taken your efforts for granted, you became needier as a result of the break-up, and the push-pull dynamics are completely in her favour. Time has to flow by before either of you attempts to reconcile. More time, means better chances. She will contact you if she is having troubles with the baby and needs your help. Don't offer any more help, as you've done enough for a life time.
@@MagnetofSuccess Thankk you, I feel like I am a mess but, I hope she'll remember the stuff I did for her to make her miss me. All of my stuff is still at her apartment. I remember having sex with after the break up what does that mean? Shes the one that initiated it. May you tell me? Thanks a bunch!
I gave her a gift on the day she broke up with me 😂 she told that she will give it to her mom. ☺️ I'm happy with where I am now... 2 months of no contact
People don't forget others that easily. She won't think about you too much from the start, but definitely will as time goes on and you stay away. She just doesn't appreciate what she lost until much later.
Take your business back and stop using her to do your work maybe she has things that she would like to do of her own if you were just honest about wanting to break up... You don't lead someone on to your own advantage
She left ME btw...I bought her a home on Lake Erie and we have been Married 46 years this Nov.25th...She took the office stuff on her own and I never made her do it. She realized that if She did not do it then it would take time that I needed for me to do it and that time was WAY better spent making more $$.SHe Never worked outside of the home office for anyone either. I DO ONLY talk of business with her and nothing else (lately anyway)...She left a little over a year ago and now I , live in the Lake home that I bought for US and she is in our modest home that I bought BRAND NEW at the age of 24...I was a traditional guy that wanted a stay at home mom for the kids and she loved that. Now they are all grown and gone for a long time and she (at the age of 63 !!) "thinks" that she can just "starte over" and move on (I HATE that term lol !)...Bottom line is that I would prefer to STAY married (I took MY vows seriously) and SHE has NO IDEA what a CRUEL WORLD it is when you are alone.
My ex is my wife. Hard to let her go. I've made all of these mistakes over the past 5 months. I had plenty of chances not to make them. It's so hard to just ignore her. She wants a divorce and I don't. I'm an amazing man, successful, attractive, God loving, etc. It baffles me why she would not want to be with me. So many deep seeded problems. If she was just a girlfriend, I'd have no problem moving on and letting her go. She's my wife! How do I get my wife back without doing these things? It seems impossible.
She doesn't see you as attractive as you believe you are. For her to think the way you do, you must show high levels of self-respect, both for you and her. No contact does just that, as it allows your value that you have been destroying for 5 months to rise again. Making those mistakes made you look miserable and desperate, and it is not attractive. You don't reward her bad behaviour with gifts of love and attention. Doing so only brings more of the same, and you've experienced plenty of that. You can begin by implementing this strategy. It's not some silly game meant for you to trick your ex wife. It shows her you can live without her, and to have a life of your own. The answer lies within you. You must gather your strength and begin to move on. Let her go and find happiness on your own. Once you do, she might come back looking for validation. Best of luck!
You can, and you will if you really try. Unfortunately, it doesn't end once you get to 30 days of NC. That should only serve as a way of proving to yourself and your ex that you can be independent and strong.
