The abuse false allegations even without any proof can destroy a man’s life. The court system and the court of public opinion and even business HR is essentially guilty until proven innocent. And quite honestly even with video evidence and proof of false accusation you will not get your job back and the women will not be criminally charged. (personally I think if the evidence is overwhelming that the women used a false accusation solely to destroy someone’s life they should have similar jail time to the maximum of the charge they accused the man of. I saw my best friend at age 19 almost have his life destroyed when his girlfriend decided to end their relationship and on the way out claimed he attacked her with a knife. No cuts, wounds or any physical evidence. She pushed it all the way to the day of the trial. Thankfully she didn’t show up for the court day since she was drinking the night prior and when her lawyer called her she just said she wanted to drop the charges. I was in court as a character witness for my friend and the entire experience changed my care free attitude and really was a red pill (eyes opened) moment. That was back in 1999 and now The believe all women thing is even more common. Women are people and people sometimes lie. Women are also far more likely to use the justice system as a weapon. Until the justice system is not one sided I will continue to keep my distance from women. at work I will not have a 1 on 1 meeting and I will not mentor a female coworker. The majority of divorce is filed by women and quite often its not for any wrongdoing it's just that they are bored often the generic "toxic" reason is thrown in. over 50% of marriages end in divorce and if that happens the family courts by default give the kids to the mother and they get half of everything ever acquired even after a 2 year marriage they get half your pension. I was red pill prior to the term being coined. I don't know if red pill leads to happiness it IMHO causes a lot of missed opportunity however it is necessary for self preservation.
Hm, I've been hurt pretty badly by patriarchy but I don't discount all men or keep a distance from an entire gender. There are plenty of solid, emotionally stable guys out there. My dad is one, my best friend is married to one and I know others. There are also plenty of men who are actually abusive. I hope you can find healing and peace. You'll find that my channel is all about balance... Stepping back and trying to stay toward the middle ground about issues like this has helped me immensely.
@@justpeachy4393 I appreciate your channel is about balance. I do agree balance is important. I won’t lie. The early experience with false accusations and how the courts and society did not want to believe my friend even with no evidence of a crime just an accusation really destroyed my ability to trust. I have no doubt that there are plenty of men who are actually abusive. As I am not abusive the only way this can affect me in a relationship is being falsely accused. Unfortunately the risk I feel is too high with anything the courts can decide on without equality in the system. The punishments even without any physical proof or physical injury can be life altering. The divorce rate is 50% so I see it like playing Russian Roulette with half of the chambers in the revolver full. There is an option not to play so I choose not to play. I know ill miss out on lots of positive experiences. It's a decision based on risk/reward assessment (and after some reflection fear based for self preservation).
Have you ever considered that the fear and anger might just be part of the process? I know that I have experienced those same emotions throughout my own healing journey--but I never dedicated myself to staying there. If you give way to fear, you will live a shell of a life. To live is to be afraid and to be hurt sometimes. And the more we let fear rule our lives, the scarier things seem--I don't think the system is quite as hostile as you think it is. I don't know what specific situation you're dealing with at the moment, but seriously--persistent fear and anger toward 'the system' is going to get you nowhere in life.
@@justpeachy4393 Anger due to this injustice was really only a factor when I was dealing with my friend’s court case 25 years ago. Fear is not something I want to overcome when what I Fear is something I equate to playing Russian roulette with half of the chambers full. This is a healthy fear. This is self preservation and the reason we have that primitive emotion in the first place. It’s not an unhelpful hindrance in this situation like experiencing fear when publicly speaking. If the court system and HR departments changed radically or simply disappeared I would consider changing my risk/reward assessment on trying again.
