Does the Bible instruct us HOW to get married? 

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Thanks for making this video. In all my years of going to private religious schools and of going to church, I actually have never heard this subject discussed before. And I have always wondered about this matter, and found it odd that no one discusses it. Basically, to have intercourse you need to live with the woman and not have sex without anyone else. But then, why can't I approach a woman (or her parents) and say -- " I would like to enter into a lifelong Christian covenant with you", why will she think I belong in a mental hospital?

What I do see throughout the Bible about marriage is of what’s on the heart, not about what the culture changes about the representation of marriage. People have gotten married in multiple different ways and it isn’t always a wedding and sometimes weddings happen as a celebration to what a man and a woman already have. When the Bible said a man shall leave his parents and cling to his wife and the two shall become one flesh, it is not to say that sex all by itself is what makes a marriage, because that simply isn’t true. Anyone has the capability to have sex and not be married, it’s sexual immorality and sometimes adultery is involved. For example, if someone decides to have a one night stand with another person, it’s not marriage, it’s sexual immortality. If someone does not want real commitment, and does not respect the other and decides to leave just because sexual desires or other things were not quickly met, that is immorality. If two people want to be together for life but then they suddenly think they can’t work out, they need counseling and evaluation and guidance, because this should never be taken lightly and easily let go on. If there’s other scenarios where there’s homosexuality, that’s also a sin and it’s not a marriage because a marriage is a man and a woman. If there’s adultery involved with a couple, there are consequences and that person must leave the other person. A wedding is symbolism of what marriage means spirituality of what God made it to be. This day and age of cultures we’ve made weddings to be ritualistic and magical. For example: usually in traditional weddings they either have the husband and wife cling arms and drink from the wine glasses, and light the one candle with both of their candles together, and do the cake thing. If a couple feels called to celebrate marriage in that sense, then they are welcome to, but if that’s not the case, then there are other ways. If a man and a woman truly love each other and they are followers of Christ as believers and it has been revealed that they are meant for each other and that they do not have doubt in their hearts, and that they love each other as Christ describes where Christ loves the church and women to submit to their husbands also and respect, then that is a biblical marriage. But the way that God works is, God is not a secret, He doesn’t usually work in secret when it comes to love, so, whenever two are in love, others should know and it should become a public knowledge, not some dirty secret, that’s not how God made that to be. So, in conclusion, a wedding is symbolism for what it stands for, but it is not required, it is a choice to what is in our hearts of how to celebrate marriage, but it should be something celebrated, not something dragged along.

he Bible instruct us HOW to get married. the method use in biblical times was arranged marriage. Arranged marriage come about has human populations got larger it become impossible to know everyone. So a lot men did not get married. So answer his third party help to ensure maximum number of men got married. When arranged marriage is voluntary it called match making.

Huh he failed… in genesis it shows that both Adam and Eve were virgins and they became one flesh and marriage is made in the flesh if you read deut 21:10-13, 22:13-21, 22:28,29 and 25:5 what you will see is “you shall go in onto her(sex) and you shall be her husband and she shall be thy wife in Hebrew this is sex with her, marriage. In Matt 19:4-6 Jesus said they became one flesh and that they are joined so becoming one flesh makes joined in marriage in 1 Cor 6:16-18 Paul, speaking about sex says that with a prostitute you become one body and you are joined and in verse 18 he says so flee FORNICATION so he’s talking about sex and that sex makes a marriage but having sex with someone not your wife is wrong and that your sex is suppose to with with a spouse. So what we have is one flesh makes you joined and sex makes you one flesh.

in the New Testament Jesus did say sex makes marriage a marriage

Marriage is another word for a wedding, a marriage=wedding took place somewhere, a wedding is a custom practiced by people desiring to show others their intentions, it usually has someone representing God and giving others the impression he has the power to unite a man and a woman together so they can justify having sex with each other, you get invited to a marriage=wedding to be witnesses of two people making vows to God to love each other until death do they part, ( short version ) it's actually meaningless in law, in law your not so called married until you register with them, there are three different words that all mean different things however people view them all the same, marry, married and marriage, three different acts however all three involve sexual relations, to keep this as short as possible, to marry a woman only means to have sex with her, that's not being married nor is it a marriage, the best example is the story of Onan in the bible where he was told to go unto his brothers wife and " marry " her and raise up seed in his brothers name, it's clearly a sexual act defined by Jesus that was forbidden after putting away the so called spouse, it would be adultery if that person put away his spouse and marry another, unite sexually with another, it has nothing to do with law because in Jesus eye's the one's He's talking about have " married" in God's eyes, not the eyes of man, it's not the act of sex that the two have become one, in body they have become one through the act of sex but only while the act is taking place, like gluing two boards together, the problem with two boards glued together is they can be undone and when undone their no longer one board, the same with a man and woman when the act stops, their no longer one body, BUT, it's what happens through the act that will appear or become apparent to others, two bodies of flesh become one body of flesh, it's one of him and one of her and that is in the child, they are both in the child, these two are whom God has joined together and made one, this one that LOVE=God created that is NOT through adultery or any other forbidden sexual sin in the law is whom Jesus was talking about to the Pharisee, which a disciple said, IF that be the case with a man then it would be better for him not to marry=sexually unite with a woman, Jesus reply, some are born eunuch's, some are made eunuch's by men and some make themselves eunuch's for the kingdom of God's sake, eunuch's are able to have sex, they just can't reproduce, God's law is for ALL, not just the proud or the rich or the educated, Paul said this about marriage, he that giveth her in marriage does well but he that giveth her NOT in marriage does better, now why is that? people that have weddings VOW to God what they will do and in the bible it says, IF you make a vow to God and don't fulfill it, He will call it SIN in you, your words will condemn you however Jesus will only judge those that have children as being married and unable to separate and surely you can understand the reasoning in that, it's for the child's sake, possessions are easy to divide, children are another matter especially if both parents love the child and seek a divorce so to speak, the bible does NOT forbid a single man and a single woman from having sex, never in the history of mankind has any nation forbid single people from having sex however whoredom is condemned and whoredom is having more than one lover, fornication is the unlawful sex acts in the law of Moses and the prophets, the prophets were more keyed in on whoredom than Moses, the lack of explaining it through Lev. 15:16-24 is why they thought she could just have sex with any man, there should have been some sort of commitment in the relationship and there would have been had they understood the reason a man would leave his father and mother to unite with the woman he was searching for because of love, there are two different minds being dealt with in the bible over men and women uniting sexually and why they do, the translators of the ancient Greek, KJ's translators specifically couldn't determine what KIND of woman and man they were and only used husband and wife or man and woman which is where most of the confusion comes from, in the Greek the words are there for a girlfriend and also just a man and a woman but they were all translated as husband and wife in KJ, because every other translator not willing to be looked down on, just went with KJ's translators, the TRAP has been set and many have fallen into it, lawful marriages=registered marriages are not bad in itself, it does offer a little protection but not really enough if the person you love stops loving you, they will give them a divorce, if your a man with a child, you better be a dang good one in their eye's if you want the child, anyway, regardless of how a man and woman by law unite, 50/50 in most cases, she wins if you got money, you win if she's got money, it's no different now than it was in Jesus day, because of this Jesus said don't make a vow to God because you know not what tomorrow will bring, I can assure you, what you feel when you get so called married will not be how you feel a few years down the road, if your caught in the TRAP, you have no way out unless the other cheats on you and if your heart is not right, even that can be arranged when you cut them off, just be aware of this if a child is involved, there will be judgement if you cause one of them to not believe in God

It’s a fairy tale not an instruction manual !