I’m 35. 10 years since the last time I had a relationship. Being single is a blessing. Being in a relationship is a blessing. Value what you have right now. Enjoy your leisure time being alone. There are times that I also feel lonely. Wanted someone to depend on, but sometimes I also don’t want to be in a commitment and have a limitations in planning and doing something. That’s how it is. They say that my standards were too high,maybe that is true. But in my mind and heart, I just don’t want to settle just because of sudden loneliness. I want to get to know that person slowly. If I don’t meet that person, it’s totally fine coz I really enjoyed spending my time alone and with my friends and family that I neglected when I am in a relationship. I enjoyed travel alone, drinking coffee alone, eating alone or being third wheel for them.😊 Enjoy the little things in life.❤
My ex saw my value and always told me that I was truly special and different ftom anyone else he'd ever been in a relationship with. He thought I was warm, kind, caring and loving. A year later he found the love of his life and got engaged a few months later. It's been two years and I simply struggle to trust anyone with my heart.
First: you have to find places to meet like-minded people before you can even consider dating anyone. I know what I want in a partner, and therefore the pool of candidates in my area is VERY small. There are lots of normal, quality people in my area--but I'm looking for people with specific "things". I don't fit into the typical lifestyle of most women my age in my area. I'm not interested in the same things the majority of people around me are interested in. Finding people who DON'T look at me like I have to heads.......is rare. FWIW, I practice buddhism and live in a mostly-christian area. I'm childfree and live in a family-oriented area. I don't drink alcohol and live in Beer City, USA (no joke). I'm actually hoping to move away in the near future because this is not the right place for me.
Good stuff! I needed to hear this today. I want to add that person who gives less and less knowing you want more… I want to challenge the idea that you’re behaving in a way that makes someone respect you less, as if you’re the one to blame for their knowingly exploitative behavior towards you, you’re actually very likely in abuse and probably addicted to the whole cycle of intermittent reinforcement.
Commit to self Practice relational rhythm Relational Intelligence 5+5 Get out of your own way. Level of certainty Core confidence I am an amazing woman/ being. Lower the stakes, how? That’s how I see it give me 110% after 3 months well we gave it the good old college try.
Missed the Live but watched the recording it is very helpful and powerful thank you Matthew and Audrey ❤just by hearing this today it’s already give me power and courage to my love life journey!
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Sounds good topic to talk about since parties in a relationship are not able to define it by right name cuz they either confused about the other one or even about themselves. Wich makes majority of relationship ends by break up after wasting emotions .time and effort without any aim .Keep It Up 💯 Mr Matthew
I am single, fear to get hurt or be rejected down the road, not enough. Can’t get initial connections due to fear of losing control, giving so much power to another person I like immensely.
Love yourself! Treat yourself, make yourself look good, go on dates with yourself! I’m single too and self love must come first before conditional love in relationships. Also set BOUNDARIES for future relationships so that it doesn’t get out of hand 🌚
I hear you and have been there, too, over 50 and handicapped , single after a long marriage and must say that Matt's take on things is so much gentler, wiser and encouraging to set healthy boundaries as char 2723 wrote than what I would come up with after disappointments in the past. We are all in this together and it helps a lot to hear another, compassionate, wise perspective from Matt, Audrey and Stephen, doesn't it, at least here, than just gf's feedback, doesn't it...Good Luck to you and sending blessings and love in bunches!!!❤😍.
What happens when you realise the type of men you WANT are out of your league. Unless one had offered commitment, how can you ever be sure that they were ever in your league.
I missed the live, so thank you for putting this up 😊 I'm in the place of my life where my heart is closed off bc I got hurt and rejected whilst being strung along/used, but I want it to release the past hurt. 'Screw you Mr from the past' lol. But...theres noone here now lol, so I want that to change, I am struggling with it all haha I need access to all you got Matthew 💯🤣
I wonder if this impression we have about people generally lacking commitment isn't biased by the fact that by 35-40 people who were willing to commit, actually committed. So when you are 40, the "market" is dominated by people who are still single because they don't know what they want.
I'm more angry at myself. He was right, i put 3 or less in. I was the one that backed away, thinking i was losing myself because he is 16 worth. I'm scared of the future.
Am so happy Matthew Hussey,i appreciate your words are so sweet like honey and good to me please. Thanks 👍👍 so much for your caring Matthew Hussey,am also blessed because it has been my first time to hear your life words in this. Am still called Rebecca from Kampala Uganda
It was very very interesting, i’ve learned a lot and it resonate with what i’m living and feelind actually. Thank you! Marie-Helene from Rimouski, Québec, Canada!
There was rythm, there was investment, then six months and four dates later, he pulled away. I'm doing no contact but I sent him a msg two weeks ago. He ignored me, so I dropped off the face of the earth again.
Be what he wants, more than any other girl he can attract. You're competing again other girls not him. The girl who wins is the one who is the willing and ENABLE to be more of what he wants than all other girls he can attract.
Im a member learning things as i heal..going only just now on a date. Just lastnight sent confordent language of were i want to go in relationship. .the train is moving forward and if your not on board im out of here lol
I’m 61 female and he is 38 He adores me n says he loves me. As I’m a very energetic lady he always wanted children. N says he one day wants them n it’s a just for now relationship. But he has many conditions for a younger lady……. He is a Muslim n used to have sex with me but now it’s a platonic relationship He is n I am very attracted to to him He lives with me now and we are like the perfect. Couple without the commitment
I relate to the first situation and the second situation. I was with someone for almost three years, and we recently broke up. Before that relationship I was with someone for 7 years. I’m 44 and would love to find a partner 😔
