There's one big aspect you've missed out: Fake people (acting fake and lying). This is a major reason for me, even more than superficial small talk. It's actually the main reason why I've been shunning certain people.
Yes, And I can spot them right away, I worked 20yrs for a company and Honestly there were only a few that weren't Smoke and mirrors so sad how so many Deceive themselves.!
Very accurate this 👌🏾. We don't do manipulation. I doorslammed someone who I was close to for almost 4 years because of his dishonesty. He turned out to be quite manipulative and I called him out on it. He denied it and was gaslighting me. That was it. Blocked him on everything and now he is using people to reach out to me and broker a reconciliation...not interested. I'm not upset anymore. I just want him to live his life away from me.
As an INFJ I can say you are right. Push it in any of these areas with me and I'll warn you just once you're out of line, then if you're still not listening you'll find out the hard way just what I'm capable of.
SPOT ON!!!! ❤️ THANK YOU For helping me not feel so alone!!!! I know who I am and I know that there is nothing wrong with it… I’m proud of who I am and confident in it, but it certainly is beneficial and a relief to be SEEN as I am, elsewhere!!!! There is nothing worse than being misunderstood, especially by those that should know you most.❤️❤️❤️
I discovered a video on INFJ personality traits a few weeks ago and searching for more (RU-vid's algorithm kicked in) informed of this page's existance. After 40 years, off and on, of seeing psychiatrists and psychologists to understand my relationship issues, spending major bucks, I have all this information, describing me scarily well, for free. Thank you. It's a lot easier to understand the actions after learning the motivations and needs. Peace.
I would end relationships long before I realized it was about morals and values. It was only in hindsight that I noticed the patterns and connected the dots. I was born with the morals and values in place and resisted the world when it tried to make me act like everyone else. I could not be taught morals and values because I would see the hypocrisy. I had to find the words to match the feelings on my own. I often wonder if this is a INFJ expression.
I'm an INFJ to, but I never hated anyone. You are right, these thing are somthing I can't tolerate, if you want to be my friend. But if you have some of this manners, I still can go away and you can't so nothing about this. There is no need for hate.
Another thing we can't stand is people who are rude, not only to us, but to people in general. People who are full of themselfs and belittle others will get doorslammed faster that you can blink.
Now im at university, one thing that haunting me even now is loneliness, i am friendly to everyone i meet, socialisation is not even a problem for me, but i struggle with having true best friends, first thing is i want the same sincerity and loyalty back, as a tinge of selfishness/faking makes me loss every feeling i had for them as a friend. So as now, family is the only thing i assure i have, sometimes i feel so needy for a good friend, sometimes i feel like i dont give a damn thing for this friendship, god knows, will i be able to get a true best friend, probably not
I would share this video except I wouldn’t want anyone to feel hated by me because that would never be true. It is the behavior that I hate. It breaks my heart when being with someone becomes impossible because they can’t adjust their behavior, but I may finally be learning (as a Taurus moon, so no money down on this yet) that it is the lesser pain in the long run. Staying with someone who consistently crosses boundaries is a soul killer. I hope this video comes out with a different thumbnail and title so I can share it with people I care about and may have to leave. It still holds a lot of value, so thank you makers for making it.
Oh wow. This video spoke to me. Absolutely correct on everything 👏 🙌 As I listened to this video..I was needing a break from the world because of working 6 days in a row and needing space.
This is so true. I remember I used to know this guy, I almost thought he was someone special because he mostly knows about me, shows care and everything. Everyone was telling me that he likes me but after getting to know him even more, I found that he was being dishonest to me. I've never opened up so much to someone other than my friends. But when he did that, I lost interest in him and right now we are just friends.
Married to an INFJ who does not share in straight up open way. Instead there are little bits of stories that need to be joined together to paint the true picture ... like a game of hide and seek ... the when full true picture known she just laughs and tries to explain herself in 1 short sentence before smiling and changing subject. Can be frustrating not knowing what is really going on in her mind most of the time... but is that smile is Almost worth it? ...
if you really wanna know about an important backstory, you can consider asking her to write out the story/stories. if she's ok with it, the story would probably be much more complete? it won't be disjointed. IF she writes it out, you absolutely must read it properly from start to end. i can hardly speak for infjs, but personal accounts have souls poured into them, and the more personal the story, the more emotional investment needed. if you fail to appreciate her opening up, bad thngs will happen. hypothetically speaking. btw, IF she enjoyed writing it out, she might write more in future, and you will need to read those too. it might be a life-long commitment. just my personal opinion
@@meepmeep545 great idea. Thanks. When a new story starts I will ask her if she can write all chapters so I can see the plan and provide supportive encouragement along the way too
We INFJ's are special people. I see what a lot of what particular people in my life try to force me to do. I wish they could see this video and understand who I truly am as a person with a rare personality type.
Yeea yah I'm the 420th person to like this video lol. I had to end a friendship not to long ago because they persistently wouldn't give me space and because they didn't understand I had to blame it on myself. Some people are fucken duuummmbbbb.
Never met a selfless INFJ honestly. I think this is overall a generalization. And most of what is told here would be applicable to many other personalities. Just to the contrary, I met a number of INFJs in non-harmonical relationships, and they usually lacked the initiative to end them until really cornered and having no alternative.
I have an enfp friend who is litterally so disorganized that when we had a trip together, she had an entire week to find a person to take care of her dog and watch him and she didn't find someone and even up until the night till. It was extremely rude. She didn't even have anything packed. So I had to find her a dog sitter, and then the night before we left, she had me back out of a deal with that dog sitter because she thought they would hit her dog or something weird, and some person she knew would watch him. Ok cool idc just as long as we're ready by tomorrow, but she wasn't even sure if the people who were little kids would come over to watch the dog. I knew it would make her life more stressful because she wasnt ready nor would it help us leave on time. Shes terrible with time. She even argued with me the night prior about the dog and who would watch it. And tried blaming ME for my bad attitude which wasn't really there, and she was being completely inconsiderate and rude. I knew the dog would not be watched well if she had these kids do it. It would probably pee in her house. And everything's a disaster for her so this would just make her life worse. So I thought, well, let's get the dog sitter before we leave in a timely manner so that it doesn't crap in her house and she goes crazy thinking the world's against her. Well....she had those kids watch him. Eventually we found out that her dog peed on her bed and at this point idc. She deserved it. She honestly does not listen to logic or reasoning, I even told her that getting a big dog was a bad idea. Well she's like 60 and clumsy as can be, and what happens? The dog runs into her and she falls and breaks her tailbone. I swear. Lol I try helping this lady and there's no amount of reasoning to save her from future pain. So I just sit back and watch it happen at this point. Lol
The scale must be balanced, if it tips one way or another, it must be adjusted, usually with me add or subtract people, places or things or isolate to Self focuse to change any Negative energy within, to a Positive one.
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Umm no.. ENTJ is one of the rarest personality types in the world, while ENFJ is a 2nd. But either way there is no solid measure for the rarity of a mbti personality types. So take everything with a grain of salt.
