Pro tip - be relentlessly honest and authentic yourself even if you don't always please everyone. You allow yourself to swear once a while? Say inappropriate but funny things, go ahead. You tell people in their face whats wrong respectfully but without sugarcoating- yes. The more authentic and approachable you are you'll find other people to dare to reveal most of themselves too. The veils will fall quite quickly as others feel in equal company. Trying to please people will always end in fakeness. Be who you truly are without dramatising it in a negative way.
*YES YES YES YES YES.* This right here. Not gonna lie, I thought I was kinda alone in that. People gravitate towards me, but most aren't really my friends. Friendly terms, yes, but not true, honest to goodness friends that I'll go out of my way to spend time with. I'm so glad I'm not the only one. This is a benefit of the internet.
We aren't like the red pill from the Matrix. We are more like Kassandra from the Iliad. We keep telling people what is going to go wrong, but no one believes us until it's too late.
I've used this Cassandra reference sometime back in one of my poems. :3 So, I can relate. Slowly letting go of needing to be accepted in one way or another while unleashing the magic of my being...It can be challenging at times but it's also fun if I can continue to let go and accept my quirks and truth. Etcetera. 💌🥲🎁
It is also important for INFJs to know that we can be wrong. We may see a future or have a vision, but we might be the deluded ones in some cases. We should not get caught up in the INFJ hype. We are still just human, like everyone else, and can make mistakes. Be authentic, but be humble.
The worst thing probably is being an infj is a sponge. Absorbing people's energies.. both good and bad, which is why being around the right people who healed me is really important
I highly recommend Dr. Judith Orloff books and her work. The Empaths Survival Guide and Thriving as an Empath are great books for getting started. She gives excellent strategies for protecting your energy and not absorbing energy from others. Best wishes.
@@websurfer5772 I'm sorry. I hate that I see it too. Especially when I see their eyes go dark, that is even scarier. Maybe be careful what you say and do around those who have these qualities.
A difference I’ve felt is that while other people might be ashamed or terrified by their flaws and insecurities, I own mine, and I work to address them over time
Hehehhe, aint no worse critic than ourselves 😂 If someone would try to hurt us and make us feel small and such, we would be immune 🤭 we know exactly where it hurts and we overcriticize ourselves everyday 😁
This was the exact reason I had to do a major "social cleanup" and confront friends and family that were enjoying the benefits of me being an infj, but didn't want the whole complete me. This guy was explaining exactly my last friendship. I stopped being myself completely and felt like I only lived to make the people around me happy. Confronting them about this realy weeded out the ones that wanted the complete authentic me and the selfish ones who were using my helping nature. I have never been happier then how I feel now.
@@dually81It will come. When time passes and your boundaries are getting pushed too far, you will find energy like Jolinda to free your self. But at first: Know thy self.
@@dually81 I know. Seek out for Sensors and learn from them. If they are to be trusted, you can gain competence in physical approaches while being introverted, which is very attractive to women by the way. That's how your tendencies as INFJ in being helpful and responsable can thrive amongst others very well without being misjudged.
@@Markbenwisch Definitely For me, there is nothing better than being understood. We go through life usually being the most aware person in the room, so it's almost a relief when the tables are turned and a woman can "read me" and see through the chameleon mask. I play a good introvert, but the battery gets depleted quickly.
I consulted for a company recently. They wanted a quick fix for something they had been doing incorrectly for at least 4 years. I first wanted to understand their needs and why they did things the way they did. 2 hours into collecting data and 1 hour speaking to them. I reported back to my boss what they needed and a plan. My boss was delighted at my work. The clients were not. They did not want to see how the handling of their business had lead them to where they were. They did not want to change those patterns. They expressed their annoyance at my "not showing them how" to fix it. Unfortunately, this is more often than not my interaction with most people. They do not want to look. They'd rather stay in ignorance than change. People do not want to hear me. ~Infj
Ever watch those Business Rescue reality shows? Nine times out of ten, the boss/owner doesn't have good boundaries and isn't enforcing them on their employees. The boss/owner also needs to give more direction, rules to follow, and they need to give more power to their managers to correct employees, hire, and fire. And the bar owners need to stop drinking. (Boundaries on Self.) Is it like that?
Most people don't like truth tellers. It really stinks having to hide who I am and dampen my abilities at work. It's a tricky thing to figure out just how much of myself I can let show to both maintain my mental health and keep the paychecks coming in.
You know, the problem with hiding away the truth or softening it too much is that it doesn’t work. I’ve done this many times in my life, and it always ends up in a disaster. So, my conclusion from literally years of research is to be humbly yourself. this means telling your truth, and not forcing anything on anyone. So I say, go with the truth, but with a lot of kindness and humility. One example I think of is with things I like, or don’t like. If someone likes something I try to relate to them on it, but now I’ve started to tell them you know, I’m not really that interested in that subject. maybe I won’t be able to talk to them about bass fishing or whatever it is, they like, but at least they won’t ask me to go fishing with them either. lol! As for the abilities, they will creep out just enough to make everyone dislike you anyway if they’re that type of person. So be humble, but go ahead and show your abilities in my opinion. Jay Jay
@@INFJcircleWell, if you ever thought people hate liars try telling the truth. "Most people are not just comfortable in their ignorance, but hostile to anyone who points it out." ~ Plato
Using tact when communicating the truth I find to be the most effective way. Also how people react to you telling them the truth is on them. The truth simply is as it is.
I'm an INFJ with an INFJ friend and i can tell you that when i talk to him, i know he's going to figure me out. It's scary, but also freeing. We need people like us too sometimes. I provide the same for him. If he talks to me about something, he knows I'll get to the heart of it.
Yea that sounds scary - i dont think i ever met another one. Id rather stay my mysterious introverted self without that kind of intrusion, even if its harmless, lacking ill intent, and meant to be helpful. Atleast not regularly.
A million thanks for this video. If you never watched another video on INFJ this one sums it up completely, honestly. I could never understand why people so over reacted to me. I am an attractive, mannerly, kind person. Too often an inocuous comment would upset someone for no reason, even a compliment can be mis-construed. people didnt seem to have a problem criticizing me about everything. By the Grace of God, I found my calling as an international consultant and forensic accountant. It took a while but I found people who wanted, needed Truth and were willing to pay for it! You are so correct in your assessment. You have to eliminate all the naysayers from your life, because there is a whole world of folks who value your trustwothiness, straight constructive thought for making things better, deep analytical abilities. Be your self, be kind,, realize you have been given a gift, even if it sometimes feels like a curse. God bless❤️
I’m so glad you commented the part where you said, “people didn’t seem to have a problem criticizing me about everything “ yes I know that oh so well! I wonder what we put out into the world that people think they can do that to us? But I do try to warn people about that because when I finally do snap you might have to commit yourself to some kind of therapy afterwards. Also I totally resonate when you said our personality feels like a curse! I’ve said that so many times! 😂😂 also may I ask…what is a forensic accountant and international consultant? 😊
Great comment, you’re very welcome for the video. I’m glad you found your calling giving out truth. yes, just being ourselves causes an intense reaction from some people. I agree it’s a gift that sometimes feels like a curse, thanks for your insight! Jay
I so resonate with your story. I retired 5 years ago from IT consulting and now a corporate leadership coach, for fun. At 70 I now really have less patience for people latching on to me and not being accountable for their life. If you come to me for help and continue to do the same things over and over, you will lose me and my support. On the other hand, I have clients that have been with me for 3 years, who do the work and have become the best of who they are and better people overall. It frightens me at times that they have become addicted to me and maybe challenged to let me go. I feel the gift I have been given is to really see who they are and give them permission to show up and fully live their lives, putting boundaries in place to no longer be taken advantage of.
@@beckyb1797same for me , I’ve always noticed that people have no problem at all giving me criticism. They would be offended if I give that back to them.
I’ve also done forensic accounting and operations consulting. I pretty much fell in to forensic accounting because I had operations clients that had embezzlement and didn’t know it. It was a wild time with clients and the criminals that worked for them.
They can't handle the truth. An INFJ isn't satisfied with anything BUT the truth-- first and foremost with ourselves. I don't like games, I don't care if I belong to a "clique", and I'm fine standing on whatever I do. Good or bad. But most people want to seem "right", so they have to make you "wrong" by default. Not doing this for people anymore. I don't have time for dishonest people anymore -- it just doesn't make things better, so might as well go down swinging.
Ppl like predictability, it creates safety for them bring in control of how ppl might be. They can't read or control us, (usually) and that is VERY risky for them, being in the unknown. Also ppl like to be lied to , as long as it makes them feel good...they like to be BS:ed, because that’s all they know, and that’s what they do as well, BS others When they see a truthful almost transparent person, it creates fear in them because it is never seen or heard of & again it's unknown territory. They want to know what's coming. They are obsessed with us, because we acknowledge them & see them & listen to them. Ppl don't feel seen, heard or understood, that’s why they get an obsession with us, because they want to be saved or feel good about themselves again
As an ENFP, I love you guys! We are so similar and complimentaryly different. It's true we want to run with the herd when asleep. But once awakened to our fullest potential... there is no falling back asleep. You've always been able to see the veil of the matrix. Please give us a little compassion for when we see it for the first time... and then must live in the new state of 'being'. It's a total mind f*ck and sends us to the therapy chair... Thank you for your work on waking up the world! It might seem like a thankless gift somedays... but I'm hoping you'll read this and keep going!! ❤❤❤
Being an infj without the knowledge and tools to understand and have compassion for myself caused me to attract very dangerous people who caused me a world of pain. I'm thankful for the knowledge I have now but still trying to heal from intense shame. I'm no longer gullible and I no longer assume people have good intentions which is good but I'm a bit resentful for being this personality type.
That’s a hard thing to realize. I’m not an INFJ , but I had a very close INFJ friend who didn’t realize this until he shoved away the group of us that actually cared about him… I think it truly hurt him and us all . I’m not sure if he’s figured it out yet because he’s not reached out to anybody . The hard thing was one of those people who was treating him extremely poorly with his own wife… she was awful to him in front of people and behind his back. He ended up cutting off a group of people that were truly looking out for him and making sure he was doing OK.. just wanting all of his INFJ gifts and his kindness and servitude at his expense. In the end , he blamed me for what other people were doing and kept them with him instead of seeing what actually was going on… even worse I got to hear the rumors was awful. People spread to undermine his opinion of me. Trying to be a friend and understood him I could tell he had not experienced very often: Someone genuinely caring about his state and what he needed, his interests and desires and thoughts. I guess those people I was dangerous because I was waking up this INFJ just by being a friend and caring… He started seeing the toxicity around him and started challenging those people, but they destroyed the whole social group before he could kick any of them out and for some reason whatever they said to him caused him to believe that I and others were the ones that needed to be removed.
hat's why INFJ is constantly trying to live quietly with just a few close friends while in reality people are drawn to them once they got to know them. So INFJ often gets surprised that they are quite popular more than they think they are.
depends on my partner, if he is a responsible father I would.... and then would i marry a irresponsible person...... no never.so the answer is yes and no.
People often don't like what I say until they realize I was right. Then they are spooked for a bit and then they just get curious and want to know how I knew what I knew. I honestly don't see how it's that hard to see or know what I do. It's normal for me.
I can so relate to this. Try being ASD L1 on top of INFJ. That's my life. Consequently I need lots of alone time and space. I stay single because of it as well. But I'm also a spiritual person so I know I'm not really alone and I'm pretty content in my life though it's not easy sometimes. Right now I am experiencing Autistic burnout so I'm laying real low. I like what Drew Barrymore calls herself, "A happy little hermit".
I sometimes feel as if I'm only truly at peace when I'm at home reading complex science books. When I have to interact with the world is when I experience exhaustion.
I have read more INFJ posts then I can count. This is the best because you are looking at this type from a different angle, like you're handing from your knees and swinging. I was well into adulthood when I learned about the MBTI in a psyc class. My heart raced and I wanted to jump and run in circles. Something had explained my weird-ohness. I am happy for my younger INFJ bros and sisters. The earlier you hear about this stuff the more it can help.
I remember the first time I realized I had a profound effect on other people. I had about an hour conversation with a substitute teacher when I was in 7th grade, only to find out a couple weeks later from another teacher that conversation had led this substitute to realize that she had taken the wrong path, was leaving education, and going back to school to pursue something else.
I’ve changed several peoples lives, significantly, through conversation. They’ve told me so later. It’s helpful to know that I have a tribe and am not just a weirdo.
We also create a feeling of safeness & for those who are going through things the feeling is intoxicating & sometimes create limerence. Some can feel a connection due to our ability to mirror them. But when we show them their true selves many can’t handle it & ghost us 😢 or when we feel we can be ourselves around them that’s when we learn if they’re really our friends or just like how we make them feel. 😢
@@sarahmoeller7578 if so then they were never your friends to begin with. Infjs tend to have very few friends. I’m fine with it. I’ve learned to be careful who inlet in & not to get my hopes up or to think we’re friends until time has passed & they’ve slowly gotten to know me. It’s a painful reality, but I do hope you have at least one friend who has proven themselves over time. If so cherish them. They are worth more than gold. ❤️🩹
Sadly, I didn’t ghost him, he ghosted me. I truly cared and was not shocked or scared by his authentic self, but he chose the toxic people destroying him and treating him poorly over someone who genuinely cared for him. I was interested in who he really was and not just what he could do for others. … It really sucked when he believed the lies of the others that were around him who I could tell did not care at all about him and just what they could get out of him- including his wife. he chose all of them over the group of friends that truly wanted to be there for him and understand him. It’s so sad . I truly deeply cared about him as a person and it still sucks a year and a half later …
I find it hard to be my true INFJ self.. I feel like I'm too intense for people to handle... So I have a kinda 'Normie' alter ago so I can coexist with the rest of humanity peacefully... It makes me very uncomfortable to shine light on my achievements.. so I often shrink myself 😢 How can I be my true powerful self when I live amongst a bunch of unawakened NPCs. This is especially hard where I live in Japan, where people are trained to follow the herd from birth.. I really dont know how to live.
This! I seem so plain and boring and then get sad no one seems interested in my creativity. I tried to be myself from the start with some new friends but still enden up with: "You were not who I thought you were." 😢
I've always seen myself as a bridge builder. Someone shares details about themselves and I start building a verbal bridge towards their dream. It often shocks them because we barely know each other but I come from such a sincere and honest place that they almost always find it inspirational. Over the years my daughter has found great comfort in the fact that I truly see her. I do have to steward it carefully because other people want to use me like a "Tinkerbell" and shake me over a person and request that I tell all about them like some kind of party favor. It took many years to learn how to navigate users. My personality type "Can Do" "Helper" etc attracts those who just want to suck people dry and then move on to the next do gooder. Boundaries are very important even if you enjoy flexing your talent and giftings. The best thing an INFJ can do is encourage and develop the young INFJ to enjoy who they are to their fullest potential. Learning how to steward their discernment so it doesn't fall into suspicion. Learning how to navigate the prophetic in an honoring way etc.
So true...Perhaps this is due to the fact that they've "known" you the longest.And that seeing "who you are as opposed who you were" would require that they do the same for themselves. Its like that stoic quote about "friends wanting you to better your life, but not beyond their own situation. I have family that, if I allowed, would bleed me dry, energetically and financially, all while proclaiming their love for me, This is perhaps among life's toughest lessons to learn. I'm not saying they're evil, only that they don't appear to have any conception of actual love.
I just had a discussion with a very good friend of mine. He is avoiding his responsibility in a failed marriage . I told him my honest opinion, and he ended up upsetting with me or so. I am sorry but I told him about the risk he was taking even before embarking on such a serious commitment.
Been told I'm like home , always make people comfortable an a hug from me is healing, I can see the best in people an want the best for everyone. I see u because I see me. I now know why some people get irritated with me it's because some don't wanna see the truth. An I irritate peoples demons. I appreciate all u do. Thank you for allowing us to understand ourselves better. Bringing us into our power more & confident in ourselves ❤❤❤ thx Jay
I know an iNFJ and we can't get each other on a deep level, she is so closed off, very easy going on the surface... have a hard time really believe she is Infj? 😮
So true As an INFJ, this is one of the reason why I eventually became a yoga teacher. I’m not a shrink neither a saviour. Just someone who see people without any “glasses”. Yoga is a good media to gently transmit good vibes to people without creating too much addiction. 😉
These videos that I keep seeing about INFJ's are dangerous. They're glazing us as if everyone else isn't already a unique individual and that we're more special. Having the rarest MBTI doesn't mean you're an anime protagonist. You can still be a loser infj. I'm not completely disregarding the MBTI, but it is only a part of the puzzle to each individual. I'm sure most agree with me on this at least.
Why are we INFJS? Did we have a bad childhood? Did God make us this way? Is it a genetic thing? Do we INFJS have anything (not traits) in common? Just wondering.
I actually never say " harsh truths" like criticizing someone's appearance or status .. I respect, adulate and appreciate the ones I love deeply and service them with all I have But I draw the line when there is exploitation or manipulativeness.. or when I see self serving morality where the other person draws me into a narrative by twisting the highest good for his own benefits against me That's when I start telling them the truth about what they're doing
My friend always makes me feel significant. I'm so glad that she is kind to me; not just because she is an INFJ, but because she is truly kind-hearted. I feel so happy, I am happy to have her.
Is it impossible for an INFJ them self to feel trippy around another one? Ever since I met this dude I have felt so trippy, one year soon... miss him badly and it feels like something Else than just being in love.
Just yesterday, yet again another person was trying to convince me that I am crazy &/or there is something wrong with me. What they don't realize is that I am simply a mirror that is being held up to their face. I am not who they think I am, but a clear reflection of who they are, have been and will be forever be. Now where is my Windex?
Now i understand why people get attracted towards me like even some random strangers. They always try to talk to me and a lot of people just look at me like i am a some kind of interesting person or something. I always felt like am i an alien because of the huge amount of affection that i got from people but now i understood why all this happens 😅
another excellent video, jay! thank you! 🤗 being authentic from the onset of new relationships has been tremendously liberating (and efficient! i'm not wasting my time on folks who don't vibe with me. 😂) and has helped me to quickly develop the type of deep connections i so crave with the folks who do stick around. cheers to letting our freak flags fly. ❤
Exactly right, and you won’t have as many people in your life. And really that’s awesome, because the ones you do have will be the ones you vibe with. Thanks for the great comment, let that flag fly! Jay
Being Gay & INFJ is difficult in its own ways. Especially, coming from a very strongly fundamentalist/evangelical Christian heritage. I just see all the "manipulations" that religious people can use to deny who u are, especially if you're gay.
Not gay, but I came from a Catholic upbringing. I’m interested in the religious experiences of other INFJs, given our reluctance to “take the blue pill”. I really only cared about the religion I was born into once I started to realise how it had been used to manipulate me, and then I spent a brief time searching and looking into Christianity before deciding I would never have anything to do with it ever again. I rarely have problems with individual Christians, and am in fact quite good friends with a few of them, but I can’t ignore what I see as top-down problems in their doctrine. Christianity will never fully accept women and the LGBT because Jesus and the apostles had issues with these types of people, mainly on account of the fact that they were terrified of s*x. And since I will never accept being treated as spiritually weak, inferior, and more susceptible to sin because of my gender (or, alternatively, upheld as the guardian of chastity and virtue so men are free to be as badly behaved as they like), I cannot be a Christian. Such beliefs about women have only ever served to keep us quiet, under control, and unable to leave our abusive marriages. I’ve since fully embraced the archetype of the fierce and rebellious witch, and I’ve never been happier. I don’t hate the concept of religion itself, but I think the monotheistic religions wore out their welcome centuries ago and it’s only aggressive evangelism that keeps them alive (Jews don’t evangelise, but Judaism has only a fraction of the followers that Christianity and Islam have). Cultures are meant to grow, evolve, and adapt their values to suit changing times, not cling to an inflexible doctrine forever. I don’t know how humans can create the ideal society, but I’m certain monotheistic religion isn’t the solution.
@@2012jordieHi! :) Totally agree with you, very well said. I'm a very spiritual in the sense that I feel drawn to the "transcendent realm" or the "big questions". Since I, like you, don't want anything to do with institutionalized religions and their oppression of people, had to find my own way. The most appealing to me is practicing opening up to the "great mystery of the universe", opening up my heart and every cell of my body and every layer of my soul to the unfathomable mystery of being like a bud opens up to spring sun. To be in awe feels like the most beautiful state to me. And this practice inspires me to be as kind as I can to everyone else.
@@timm.8729 Hi! 👋 I’m a very spiritual person, too. I have shelves full of books on religion, philosophy, magic, and the occult. I imagine my keen interest in spirituality would seem strange to others, given my negative stance on organised religion, but I see no contradiction. Spirituality can be wonderful, and I can’t imagine not being curious about the deeper questions in life. That’s precisely why I can’t accept that all the answers have already been written down in some book. Such things are for people who don’t like to ask questions and would prefer to follow rather than lead. Which isn’t necessarily wrong, but it doesn’t suit everyone. I was very depressed until I shook off the dogma and rekindled my curiosity and love of intellectual adventure. I, too, feel that kindness and empathy are supremely important, and that my spiritual practices/research inspire me to embody those qualities (though trauma sadly sometimes makes that very difficult on some days).
Spot on!! That’s why we make great coaches. I became a coach out of desire to put this “thing” about me somewhere for good. It feels so good to show up authentically. I can’t wait to collaborate with a team of like MBTIs and change our worlds🧡
Is there an infj club? Why let the world continue as is…maybe power is in numbers and that shifts the paradigm. Anyone else down to start the first cult to ever contribute to humanity for the positive? Let’s change some lives people.
Once again spot on for me and my situation right now. I have an alcoholic who is one of the most brilliant people I have known. He is struggling to become sober, but I see a huge successful life ahead of him. I see him making plans and opening , up that he is no long a victim, but has to face his own demons first. At first he ran from me and did not want my help. But now he is much more open. Thank you Jay, you really have this INFJ in real perspective and terms for the rest of us
Thank you so much for this comment, yeah, we can help people and be there for them but only if they want that help themselves. I hope your friend wants help. Sounds like he has a bright future (and a great friend) if he gets it. Jay
Hey sorry about what message I left on one or two of your videos. Please delete if so. I must be an INFJ but am still somewhat unhealthy with my bipolar disorder and unhealthy choices.And I certainly freaked out and had no one to talk too. So I did seek police and got medical help. Might sound off from one who had a phobia of c0ps but it was what was needed to get me in the right direction. Was partying on my own for a long time. Got a little too wild and went to cartoon jail to solve me problems as my dad was saying to the nurse that i smoked too much. Kind of true, but the fear was certainly expressed. But I bet there is more INFJ than we even know. Like 4 to 6 percent.
Oh boy. Guys, it is not our job to change people. The idea that making people feel uncomfortable because we just can’t help but show them “who they really are” and that they have a choice between listening to our wisdom or living in ignorance is absolutely unethical and unhealthy. Downright arrogant. If you feel a temptation to embrace that idea, you’ve crossed over into “my personality type is my religion” territory and you can do some serious damage to someone if you boldly waltz into their life with that kind of arrogance. Do 👏 not 👏 do 👏 this 👏
I started to notice this effect I'm having on people and now I choose to be around a little people and the right people because this world is filled with inauthentic people who automatically get triggered by my presence.
Its called being a super empath healer ! Most infjs are healers ! Facts my entire life people love my energy kids, animals, elderly ! Its true . I am a toddler teacher and all my co workers say i have something calming and peaceful about me and the kids adore me !
It’s both a blessing and a curse to see to the heart of people. I can understand how being a mirror to someone else can be painful… it can get dysfunctional if their coping mechanisms aren’t helpful. I don’t even mean to be this way… it just happens 🤷🏻♀️
Infj are not supernatural, just built differently. Hyper observant, intuitive and very deep so the way things are felt, experiences and thought processes are different. And no one can exactly predict the future. Basically, just the way our brain works is very fast, piecing together information from everywhere and observing subtle data that others ignore. Based on that, we can consciously predict what will most likely happen. Being an infj is more of a burden. You feel the emotions of others with lines being blurred, making it basically your emotion. And then, there’s everything that you may do as a result of confusion. Also, like I said, I don’t know if it’s everyone’s experience or just mine. Where everyone around you who you don’t know knows you and usually some things about you even though am reserved and don’t like rowdiness. It makes you feel like you are at a disadvantage, don’t want that at all and it’s uncomfortable. I know it’s probably me since that always happens.
You speak my language fluently. If you aren’t valued or respected, simply withdraw. When you’re happy with yourself, solitude is a massive improvement to their chaos and hostility.
We are living in an age, at the end of this material secular life, and steering into difficult times. Twenty years ago, I considered myself to be such a person, without using a word for it. But I also recognized difficulties in it and challenges and questions that one must answer: What is good? Is it to always give everyone everything they want? Jesus said that many would come who consider themselves to be like Christ. However, Jesus warned us about self-proclaimed saviors who might distract from the true light with their own ideology or religion. I just want to make sure that this doesn't get lost sight of. On consciousness-expanding drugs, one can have a psychotic episode and be completely happy. One thinks one is close to salvation and sooner or later falls into the depths. That could be something similar I fear. Because one is empathetic, sympathetic, and convincing, one shows people something that seems like a miracle to them. But is it really a miracle or just miraculous? Who says that this authenticity one achieves is really the salvation necessary to stand on the "right side" on the last day? Self-realization is not the measure of all things; short-term pleasures are not eternal life. Lies are very cunning; they are traps, yet they appear so groundbreaking true, sweet, too wonderful. So, I advise caution when it comes to - sorry - gurus or people who tend to represent an ideal that one person doesn't see the same way, and a third sees it somewhat differently, and chaos ensues. Those who are currently going through a phase of considering themselves liberators from obstacles and acting upon it, very easily forget that some obstacles and restrictions exist not without good reason, perhaps - metaphorically speaking - to enclose a beautiful, colorful meadow full of poisonous flowers. The Bible certainly doesn't tell of autonomous individuals revealing things to others for joy, which might become a problem tomorrow because they don't clearly come from God. I have seen and experienced a lot and just want to warn against disregarding a faith given to humanity to redeem the good and righteous through one who stands far above us, who is not among us as a human person who is overly motivated and makes individuals happy. Jesus did that in his time as the Son of Man, when he gave the world a taste of what will be possible in eternal life. Angles are teacher and humble bearer of messages, they will work with us if and when it will be the right time. But no one told me about humans who take over this role. Please remember this before helping people without a central and proven core, just for the sake of a good feeling... or not helping. May be INFJ people are loving, good, friendly and sensible treasures I appreciate in a time when many human beings are egoistic. But it must be said: Never teach people without the knowledge and understanding of truth! There is no truth without God Jehovah and Jesus Christ.
The thing about Narcissits, is that they require systems. They need perscribed language, rules, norms in which they can insert themselves, elevate their status and then speak as experts. #MBTI
I'm an INFJ, and the other end of our concern for people and authenticity is that we see bullshit and even though we might be introverts, we call BS when we see it. And being an introvert - it's all draining.
Bro...What is this guy talking about? There is no way he said people like us wake up people out of the matrix while lacking self awareness how egotistical this
Yeap, that's me. I was a chameleon for so long that I didn't even know who I really was. It took two other NFs to shed light on the fact that I was hanging around my blood family who are sheeple/herd mentality etc. Now I am learning to be my true self, speak my truth and not give two turds what anyone else has to say about it.
This is very refreshing. I always knew I was an INFJ but I didn't really grasp how accurate it was. I was like "Very rare, cool. Anyways..." Then I watched one of your videos just for fun, and I'm super surprised how accurate this is. Love the videos, thank you for the content :)
This is weird; I am not a fortuneteller nor a tool. I am a normal person. Yes, I am pretty intuative, but what you are saying sounds weird, culty, and like misinformation. People cannot "give people the red pill" We just are people, who are just as flawed as anyone else.
True! But when your personality archetype is sigma..... you may not want to hide your true self. It becomes magnified. Authenticity is paramount. Let those whose personality deficiencies run them away...let them go.
The mirror the subconscious perception… learning things everyday.. knowing your boundaries things calm . Off & on interest then watching videos like this then you start realizing & things make sense again. Great video 🤘INFJ-A
I think every INFJs had this ability and tendency. Whether to act on it tho, is up to the person. I'd say i used to run around and give ppl advice, basically be their therapist. But as I grow older, and maybe wiser, I choose not to. Not everyone wants what you are giving. I learned to only told to those who wants it
Lol I’m an INFJ but I can’t stand to watch another second of this bulllllsht… ppl are ppl… just because your a specific personality type doesn’t mean your any more or less than anyone else.. or that your a “drug” to ppl… just be you
I agree with this. If the ways INFJs differ seem “better” to a person, then that person needs to assess whether they are living their lives correctly. We all can learn from each other.
