Don't eat the marshmallow! | Joachim de Posada

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www.ted.com In this short talk from TED U, Joachim de Posada shares a landmark experiment on delayed gratification -- and how it can predict future success. With priceless video of kids trying their hardest not to eat the marshmallow.
TEDTalks is a daily video podcast of the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world's leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes. Featured speakers have included Al Gore on climate change, Philippe Starck on design, Jill Bolte Taylor on observing her own stroke, Nicholas Negroponte on One Laptop per Child, Jane Goodall on chimpanzees, Bill Gates on malaria and mosquitoes, Pattie Maes on the "Sixth Sense" wearable tech, and "Lost" producer JJ Abrams on the allure of mystery. TED stands for Technology, Entertainment, Design, and TEDTalks cover these topics as well as science, business, development and the arts. Closed captions and translated subtitles in a variety of languages are now available on TED.com, at www.ted.com/translate. Watch a highlight reel of the Top 10 TEDTalks at www.ted.com/index.php/talks/top10

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@TheDHEL13 10 лет назад

This is hilarious, I admired that small girl who found another way of dealing with the marshmallow.

@mojungle3054 7 лет назад

its called being colombian

@ernestinatorres3226 4 года назад

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@ernestinatorres3226 4 года назад

@@mojungle3054 z

@un7t783 3 года назад

@@mojungle3054 its called being a patriot dude

@nikkiarmstrong5400 2 года назад

Right

@wwa_diary 3 года назад

Delayed gratification always hard at the beginning but bring us much more than our expectation at last.

@lisasim 13 лет назад

I enjoyed the lecture very much, but I would like to see more data when those kids are in their 40's or even in their 60's. Sometimes an obedient responsible child that does everything that he's told to do can snap and break the rules. Being a student at the age of 18 is not a guarantee of being successful later in life.

@keycod3d961 3 года назад

I feel like I delay my gratification almost a little too much.... it's almost become compulsive behavior. I too would like to see the results over time. /do these results matter according to culture or how they were raised up this point? if a child grows up with one meal a day vs three will they gain a better sense of appreciation and learn to make that one meal last ? Or will they gobble it all in one setting and just hope the circumstances change? This is a lesson in learning how to manage your resources right ? I have so many questions.... and I have to write a short paragraph... this is torture.

@wizard4456 Год назад

agreed

@zawarhaiderbasra8385 Год назад

@@keycod3d961 Yes, I would like to see the results too.

@happyfacefries Год назад

According to my psychology textbook, a lot of other people in the field disagreed about this for the same reason and that everyone changes a lot overtime; however, I think it's a good principle in general to have. Should not be considered factual but rather test the strategies of an individual. I was wondering about what would I have done as a kid in this situation. I hate marshmallows, but if something else I liked was at play, I think I would be too scared to eat it because I was afraid I would get in trouble based on my upbringing. However, I do not think I would be considered a successful person. I got decent grades in school but my journey just to get my associate's degree has been super long and is about to be put on hold again. I live paycheck to paycheck and work two jobs just to try and make ends meet.

@douglasperkins4175 Год назад

The data is clear enough. They really did find what they said they found. However, their sample size was small and the selection pool was narrow. So the real question is what the results show. Correlation is not causation, after all. What exactly do the results tell us about success? There was a big replica study completed in 2018, which you can easily find online now. To quote the Atlantic, "Ultimately, the new study finds limited support for the idea that being able to delay gratification leads to better outcomes. Instead, it suggests that the capacity to hold out for a second marshmallow is shaped in large part by a child’s social and economic background-and, in turn, that that background, not the ability to delay gratification, is what’s behind kids’ long-term success." In other words, the speaker's conclusion was incorrect, but he didn't have enough data to know that, at least not in 1990.

@paderborner5213 10 лет назад

And I'm just sitting here, procrastinating... Let's see, if I can apply the lesson that I just learned. *must resist urge to klick the next video*

@lilacosmanthus 9 лет назад

that's a hard one. Discipline becomes so much more ambiguous once one has grown up.

@sushiluvrluvzme 4 года назад

@@lilacosmanthus i think it can vary because i used to be impatient waiting for people, but i could wait 3 years for a late person. Sure, i get annoyed and on my cellphone watching videos or texting but i can wait.

@arnav1249 4 года назад

This was for our listening comprehension in online classes but I came here so I could watch it as many times as I want

@philipgroves7309 Год назад

Success can mean many things to many people. This study narrows the definition to something that can be measured - academic success. As a college professor of many years, I can affirm that self-discipline rather than intelligence is the most important factor to success in education. That it can be identified at such an early age and with such simple means is quite a revelation. This study has huge implications for parents who are bullied by toddlers every time they pass impulse items at the check out counter.

@hochichon1631 3 года назад

It is a good think to let kids to know self-discipline when they are still young.And self discipline is one of the important way to being success.

@bradleyluskSTE 4 года назад

When roasting a marshmallow, I feel the same rule applies, only the consequences play out in ten minutes rather than ten years. Setting the marshmallow on fire takes 30 seconds, but makes the s'more taste like ash. However, slow roasting the marshmallow takes ten minutes, but gives the s'more a rich caramelized flavor.

@rohankishibe6433 3 года назад

This is genius

@AlyxAesthetics 2 года назад

I love burnt marshmallows though

@kolinaspronok Год назад

I like the taste of ash.

@laikapupkino1767 5 лет назад

I had a dream I was eating a 5 pound marshmallow. When I woke up my pillow was gone

@visibility926 5 лет назад

lol

@availanila 4 года назад

You will never get hungry ever again

@gurjeetbadesha9278 4 года назад

😂😂

@ggjackson5221 3 года назад

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

@iAmNikolas 6 лет назад

My read180 teacher showed this video to my entire class, recently I have left middle school and am going to high school. I will always come back to this video mainly to remember my teacher, he was such a nice guy and I'm gonna miss him. Goodbye, Mr Ramirez.

@ilyap7012 8 лет назад

Speaking as an adult - if I dont eat that marshmallow nobody will come and give me the second one, they will come and take away the first.

@sushiluvrluvzme 4 года назад

Nah. My parents would have left it and truly gave me more and i found a way to get even more haha

@jairolondono6824 4 года назад

You know? Knowing my people, they were probably thinking they lied and would take the marshmallow away, so they took the chance, that's why they ate it first and the way the girl came up with an idea to cheat, shows ingenious malice, which its seen here a lot.

@happyfacefries Год назад

@@jairolondono6824 In the original one, they told the kids that they could eat it but would get the second if they waited.

@IlluminatyKL 15 лет назад

I've heard about this test before, still a great lecture!!!

@ngonyogatahi8786 9 лет назад

I agree, this does not get old. I hope i can teach this to my children.

@jarrodyuki7081 2 года назад

i hate strict parents.

@2093187a 11 лет назад

LOL I'm not so affirmative about this method. My mom tested this approach on me and my bro when we were 4. I ate it but my bro didn't. And now, my bro is a police and I'm an intern. I have a great relationship with my teachers and my teammates, I serve as a leader. Well I still in love with marshmallow and I'll eat it up if you do the same method on me again.

@duygukoksal9900 2 года назад

The other group who ate the marshmallow all did not have trouble . It means some them. I think you are successful part of this challenge

@sarafei9781 3 года назад

I agree with his values very much.Personally,delaying gratitutions is significantly important for our development.

@tadstrange1465 7 лет назад

What was that ending? I was so entranced for some reason.

@naregj91 10 лет назад

Yea i was thinking that as well. I was also thinking about the parents who will inevitably try this test on their children. After seeing that their child ate the marshmallow... they might automatically assume their child is stupid/slow/dumb..

@malygold9678 3 года назад

I totally agree with him.Having a good self-discipline can be more patient to do other things,and that’s the way to be successful.

@sushiluvrluvzme 4 года назад

I had bad grades during junior year, but i still went to an university for 5 years and graduated! I doubled major too. I'm going back to college for nursing so i can wait a year to 2 years to get in and become a nurse. I'm not sure how i would have done, but i was a troublemaker and my communication skills in elementary school was horrible.

@iviz6561 9 лет назад

his accent makes me think of gru!

@costelcc 15 лет назад

Exactly. Not only did he write the book about it, he also gave a talk on TED a few months ago called " Philip Zimbardo prescribes a healthy take on time." It would be nice if this Posada would give credit to the man, instead of just referring him as "a professor."

@houtongkwok9912 3 года назад

This video inspire me a lot！！sometimes need to wait and control ourselves to have a better result, otherwise too hurry may mess up everything！

@user-jb7uf7lh5y 3 года назад

I agree with Joachim.Although the experiment very small but it had shown an obviously conclusion that a self-discipline teenager can be success in he/she grades and life. So please be self-discipline from time to time so that success will come and with you.

@veronique9029 Год назад

This is very interesting and im sure that delayed the satisfaction im many ways can help us deal with discipline and self control.. no doubt!! But what trigger me in this video, it's the fact that he imply that a succesful individual is one who goes to university and have good grade along the way.. A succesful person for me, is one who is happy and content with his life and that can be achieve without university and good grades! True happiness is found inside no matter how big the curriculum is!!

@rileyo629 15 лет назад

Yes. Voluntary suffering (or delaying gratification) with the purpose of improving oneself is the most important aspect of success imo. Martial arts is all about learning the state of mind that allows one to accept pain and discomfort as a natural part of growth.

@thegman9663 4 года назад

I don’t understand how nobody has liked this comment. I agree with your opinion

@SourcesAreEverything 15 лет назад

Hilarious! Plus the short film at the end gave me goosebumps.

@ErichoTTA 15 лет назад

Amazing how much you can learn from marshmallows.

@CJAM16 15 лет назад

wow i loved that little animation at the end

@CaptainSuspenders 12 лет назад

It was pretty depressing, watching those kids eat the marshmallows when it implies their future possibilities are being dampened.

@availanila 4 года назад

One of my sister's immediately "ate the marshmallows" and is still thriving, although the one that didn't is also thriving so...

@JSBRaina 4 года назад

Dorothy Lensa The test was showing correlation. He mentioned that some of the kids who “ate the marshmallow” are still successful, but the majority are not. So there are chances that they are still thriving, but there are more who doesn’t compared to the ones who are patient enough to wait.

@extrapathos 4 года назад

Ok boomer

@availanila 4 года назад

@@extrapathos stop with your shaming. There's nothing criminal with being boomers and that phrase is an outdated cliché.

@FunStuffForDogscom 3 года назад

Self-control = maturity. Data collection was done on the original kids in this experiment. They experienced fewer divorces, longer friendships, less drug abuse, suicide and depression, fewer arrests and imprisonment, had higher incomes, savings, net worth and success in education, the arts, sports and business, and gave more money and time in service to others. Self control.

@sarrazinmars 15 лет назад

there are qualities or values that if not tough at an early age can make an individual`s life more difficult. This experiment teaches "Patience" and Self-Control. two qualities that are needed when setting goals in life. Thanks for posting It !

@bettyiao6962 3 года назад

I think this is very useful, I am totally agree this video. I also think that the self-discipline is the most important thing of successful and I hope that I can do it in my life.

@koyot_inozemez 3 года назад

All by themselves 0:36. Make it to university 2:30 Dropped out 2:34 Go into 5:00 All walks of life. 5:20

@arturomoreracomas2322 10 лет назад

Can we talk about the animation at the end?

@camillekunkel2106 10 лет назад

seriously!

@tealeo6120 7 лет назад

We must not speak of it...

@lavieenrose7925 4 года назад

That eerie melodic chanting made me make out a story to whatever was going on with those balls. It was a tragedy I wrote lol

@des9779 4 года назад

😂😂

@valerial3454 3 года назад

Must be Nokia's doing.

@Yu-ti7os 3 года назад

great experiment, totally agree that self-discipline is the most essential principle for success!

@user-ix7xz6ub7x 3 года назад

I like that small girl because she let me know that be a successful person also you can be a tricky person at the same time.

@lgccyy 5 лет назад

How did the 1 out 3 kids gain this ability of self control? Was it mainly nature or mainly nurture or both? What about their parents? What were they like? Grand parents? Family culture? Religion? Income? Anything that explain this?

@launacyko4523 2 года назад

Nature vs nurture (It's both. It's everything you mentioned)

@NrgBuster 9 лет назад

Do they...do they make marshmallows out of cocaine in Columbia? Because that little girl was tweaking

@louieis1337 9 лет назад

Cocaine is a helluva drug

@jordanabarbieri649 7 лет назад

She must be Pablo Escobar's daughter

@ipodnano962 5 лет назад

@maryharris4059 4 года назад

HAHHAHA I can not this is to funny

@mparagames 4 года назад

@@jordanabarbieri649 lol

@sannymilk 14 лет назад

love this! Hope to be able to exercise some self-discipline myself :P

@sanjaytodi7113 3 года назад

4:23 ! that was humorous 😂😂

@ElCanaldeNoellie 9 лет назад

That ending though :P

@WanderingKnapps 6 лет назад

Ha! Great video. Thank you for this fun!

@Pologuy242 9 лет назад

GSMST summer reading brought me here. 8/1/2015, the power of habit study guide chapter 5 question 13(activity 1).

@der-k5602 9 лет назад

do you have a pdf document?

@Nashy119 11 лет назад

My parents are very working class, my dad has a relatively low wage but supports the family just fine, and my mum didn't work at all while raising me. In contrast I have friends with very successful parents who have been brought up disconnected from them. Paying for university isn't much of an issue in my country, though.

@RandolphsGrin1 9 лет назад

wow!! children are so wonderful!! :)

@user-xi7pe6xo5w 6 лет назад

3:52 相当食べたいんだろねww必死でかわいいww

@cutecavity 15 лет назад

The kids were adorable.

@oliviareeder7025 9 лет назад

The one who ate the inside of the marshmallow was funny😅😅😅😅

@bvbxiong5791 9 лет назад

yea...she was funny and soon to be conniving, manipulative and deceitful.

@WannabeWoodsman Год назад

Not going to college doesn't mean you're doing poorly..

@ElDeclan 15 лет назад

Those kids were adorable :D

@chengleong9714 3 года назад

I agree with him. I think self-discipline is very important for us. If we don’t have self-discipline we cannot be a successful person.

@alabamabregan 15 лет назад

Follow them at 30, 40, 50, 60, and 70. Repeat at 84.

@kevyhot 5 лет назад

He is so cute.

@momentary_ 15 лет назад

I think alot of people here are confused about what delayed pleasure is. In terms of success, it is the people who plan ahead, discipline themselves or can simply just stop and think about the situation before acting. Those who can do these things are the ones who display delayed pleasure and, consequently, have a better chance at success in life.

@104thironmike4 2 года назад

What he convienently leaves out, is that later on they went and compared the backrgound of the children: those who could not resist, came almost exclusively from poor parents, while those who could wait, almost exclusively came from wealthier parents. This had nothing to do with discipline or will power, but everything with what is known as a "poverty-mechanism", and the reason why poor ppl immediately spend all the money they might get interim on stupid things like TVs, clothes, and whatnot. That said, yes not eating the marsh mallow is a lesson to train and to learn, because those poor ppl hamper their own success by immediately falling into the poverty-mechanism. The instant gratification gives them the impression that indeed they earned something, but at the same time of course does not help them to leave their poor status in the first place. It is a vicious circle, if you like. This is why it is important to support families in need so that their kids do not learn that poverty mechanism early on, and why it is also important to train oneself for self-discipline later on.

@trollingisasport 2 года назад

Delayed gratification, the key to success.

@Daytonorsum 4 года назад

I have to make a slideshow on this at school and I have to write tons of things. Lol!

@rohankishibe6433 3 года назад

from such little content? i feel bad for you dude

@Daytonorsum 3 года назад

@@rohankishibe6433 yeah I did this a long time ago lol

@LaSabrinaSabrosa 15 лет назад

that little chica huffing her marshmallow around 4 min. was pretty funny

@cierrablue 15 лет назад

that was really cute.

@hyowonjeon4924 3 года назад

네.

@greendaywoowoo 13 лет назад

Listen, i'm going to be honest, i am 12 years old and fortunate enough to buy me 4 things that changed my life. Even at 12 i learned much from my martial arts training such as self discipline, self control, sacrifice, loyalty, etc. The three others are "Don't eat the marshmallow...yet" and "Don't Gobble the Marshmallow...Ever!" and his third book my great parents or ordering for me to read. and to KGM i never get everything i want and i am thankful of that so your wrong. Thanks Mr. Posada =)

@waqasahmed939 6 лет назад

You can gobble the marshmallow after you've got the second one though!

@nickolasabbott3153 7 лет назад

my school did this to us in 5th grade and i took bits of the marshmellow and licked it and it got stick in my hand and just left it alone and now 10 years later im in college

@elmergarcia8724 4 года назад

Did you graduate last year

@kid.hudson_ 4 года назад

Wait a minute something doesn't add up.

@cocoricecrispies409 14 лет назад

that girl is like huffing the marshmallow. hilarious

@branthebabe 8 месяцев назад

Imagine how hard when you know 'not the time nor the hour' 🙏

@yukpuisou1012 3 года назад

this psychology teach us that we may take attendance about self-discipline of child，some adult cant control their self too.

@ratholin 15 лет назад

hehe I want to find out about that super smart griffter kid when she grows up!

@Liffster 13 лет назад

@KGM2750 In fact, in the US, parents with a high paying job have almost no time to raise their kids. In my own experience, I had to work 60 to 80 hours a week to earn a good salary and then realized, nearly too late, that I was missing the best years of my children's lives and even my own life. The higher the salary, the more the company demands from you.

@andiconda3 15 лет назад

I am curious to see if there is a correlation for children who learn martial arts at an early age, with the self discipline it takes not to eat the marsh mellow. I mean martial arts is considered by many to require and boost self discipline, so is this the same self discipline one uses to resist the temptation of instant gratification?

@david0aloha 15 лет назад

Because it becomes an engrained part of who you are. While the phrase "you can't teach an old dog new tricks" isn't always correct - it is certainly true in most cases that teaching and old dog new tricks/habits is much harder than teaching them to a young dog.

@gailforce 15 лет назад

rewards are given to those who meet specific criteria, all this experiment does is prove that such a system exists, whereas the intent is to point at some inherent superiority of those 1/3 of children.

@magua73 15 лет назад

If you go to radiolab you would find a podcast with much more information on the issue. Is called Mischels Marshmallows Posted: Sun, 08 Mar 2009 22:04:28 -0700 "Psychologist Walter Mischel explains how one little test involving a marshmallow might tell you a frightening amount about what kind of person you are. And Radio Lab favorite Jonah Lehrer helps us make sense of the results. This ones all about our will power (or lack thereof)."

@EllaViewD 10 лет назад

not sure how the kid ate the inside of the marshmallow

@wingwing745 3 года назад

I think this girl is so funny～I agree his opinion，because I didnt have self-discipline,but I watched this video, I know that self-discipline is very important,so I will learn to be a self-discipline person.

@inersphobia 15 лет назад

Yah, Philip Zimbardo talks about it, promoting his book.

@alexiselnino02 11 лет назад

my class did this

@CodyDoddPhD 11 лет назад

I love the comment about the national debt at the end. Very revealing parallel between how poor parenting is effecting the government.

@yonuasliu3680 3 года назад

Self-control is important for someone who want to be successful.If you want to get your delicious "marshmallow",please control yourself at first.

@nikkiarmstrong5400 2 года назад

Being successful requires self discipline and that involves self control when it comes to behavior modification. I believe there is a reward not only being successful but I use a reward system by rewarding myself for good grades like buying someone I have been wanting just not extreme.

@samesongtwice 15 лет назад

A conditional statement is not a command. He's not saying "don't eat the marshmallow", he's saying "you can eat it if you want, but if you do not, there will be a reward for you if you restrain yourself."

@davebates9986 10 лет назад

This could equally be proof that doing what your told will make you "successful".

@morgytemp 5 лет назад

nazis resisted the marshmallow too

@GetMeThere1 15 лет назад

I wish they would take this a few steps further: 1) How can we TEACH kids about the strategy of delayed gratification? 2) IS delayed gratification REALLY always the best strategy? In this case, in fact, ONE marshmellow IS better than two--since it's actually shit food. Maybe a simple, spontaneous, guilt-free and simple pleasure now IS better than "greed" for more marshmellows... 3) The broader lesson: one's FEELINGS and DESIRES don't always jibe well with reality.

@Hk-xj4pc 4 года назад

According to Abraham Maslow, our actions are motivated in order to achieve certain needs. - He invented hierarchy of needs in which people are motivated to fulfill the basic needs and then the more advanced needs. -Maslow was always interested in learning about what makes people happy and the things they do to achieve them. - He emphasized self-actualization, which is a process of growing and developing as a person in order to obtain individual potential. - Self-actualization is at the highest level in Maslow’s theory. Self-actualization instills a sense of contentment and happiness. It comes easily to cooperators and with extreme difficulty to competitors. In this process of success, an individual has to give up lots of desires and wishes and if she or he is able to do so, success will eventually come faster to them than others.

@francesmccall7025 10 лет назад

genius experiment.

@costelcc 15 лет назад

Philip Zimbardo already gave a talk about this.

@alauen 6 лет назад

Can someone explain to me why there is a haze around Joachim, the speaker?

@akhilbisht798 3 года назад

Nokia connecting people Sound familiar.

@CherylLawson 4 года назад

We're now meeting all of the kids who ate the marshmallow. (and their parents)

@frankieliuzzi8952 3 года назад

who else saw that end as pure nightmare fuel

@DesireSpasm 15 лет назад

exactly, most of these children were actually displaying their time preference in addition to delayed gratification skills.

@TheLesbianMafia 15 лет назад

awe shux ... couldn't help it!

@janikarvonen 15 лет назад

I want my marshmallow, NOW.

@BabetteBombshellOfficial 15 лет назад

samesongtwice, you make my point for me... a dog isn't taught self-control, it is taught to obey until the master gives the command to eat. That dog then gobbles up the marshmellow ravenously & will do the same if another is pitched at it in a second. Thats order/command responce not delayed gratification. Conformity is definity whats being tested here.

@TwinBleaks 12 лет назад

Taken from an article in the New Yorker

@NEW-lu7tt Месяц назад

I didn't know that the marshmallow experiment could develop principles and abilities for children's future success. The meaning of the last one, "This is because we are eating more marshmallows than we produce now," was thought to be eating sweet marshmallows without developing important principles and abilities for future success. That's why you said we should learn about Korea's marshmallow experiment.

@dbsk06 10 лет назад

i wonder how what the conversation would be like between this guy and professor duckworth @ penn (who argues grit is the key to success)

@likelia2288 2 года назад

Cool

@Hemphempmind 15 лет назад

do this with weed....like do your work and smoke weed a lot on the weekends...it feels soooo good...after a hard weeks work!

@GetMeThere1 15 лет назад

@tyrannicoystercult: Yeah. And such patterns work very well for living in the selective environment in which they developed--and considerably less so in modern society. Delayed gratification, for example, is one that would probably be much less important on the savanna, and considerably more important in modern culture. BEST in modern culture is to free ourselves from reactive, patterned behavior and instead make truly rational decisions on things. THAT would be a great lesson for children.

@reinacarmona8632 10 лет назад

i watched it with our teacher and she wasdid the same expirement except it was with an oreo i couldnt handle it she said if we ate it we cant have another un less 30 min passed