+HarissonLA because it's something that we're asked often "don't you miss sex" or "you're missing out!" I'm just explaining how we can't miss it if we've never wanted it
Honestly, You're such an incredible youtuber. I always find your videos so insightful and helpful. There is nobody else on the internet who is as personal and knowledgable as you. I really appreciate your videos, and I get so excited when I see you've uploaded a new one. Thank you for being awesome! You're truly the person on RU-vid that has influenced my life the most.
Je sais quel sera mon prochain drama ! Tu parles de positivité à la fin, et pour moi aujourd'hui en découvrant ta chaîne j'ai trouvé ma source de positivité pour la semaine, merci beaucoup ! Ca fait du bien de pas se sentir seul pour une fois.
I find it refreshing that you are so open & honest but on the negative side you do leave yourself open to so much criticism. 99% of people are decent but that 1% can be awful.
Reminded me of: "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people will not feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone and as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give others permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." Marianne Williamson
I love this! It's so true, you most definitely do not need sex to have an amazing fulfilling relationship. I wish more people could see that. I've become a lot more comfortable in myself because of your videos so thank you!! I know there are people out there who wouldn't just dump you because you won't sleep with them, I'm in a relationship at the minute in those circumstances and he is more than understanding. If people truly like you they like you for you- not your body or your physical intimacy and if they are so quick to leave you because you won't give them sex, they are not worth your time.
i really respect your opinion, but you can't talk for everybody. me, for example, i'm a sexual person and sexual intimacy is very important for me... both things, personality and sex are important in a relationship for me, otherwise it would be friendship for me... there is nothing wrong with you and me, just different people, with different desires ...you just need to find somebody, who thinks like you do.
Watching your videos just made me realize I might have met someone asexual a few years ago. I met him when I still was in a relationship, I ended this relationship to be with him and I had so any expectations for this new one ! It was really intense, intellectually speaking, and then we had sex several times, and one day he told me he never wanted to have sex with me anymore. I thought he was joking but when I realized he was serious I felt so betrayed because I had offered myself completely to him, and having sex with someone does mean a lot to me. I felt ashamed then, and I still do now, but for completely different reasons. I didn't know asexuality existed, and I didn't understand him then, I must have hurt him with my reactions. Your videos on asexuality are really really important, so many people still don't know what it is, and I do understand know the pain I must have inflicted to that person because of ignorance.
I totally agree with you.I respect how honest,vulnerable and open you are.Not afraid to say what is on your mind.I am celibate and vegan so I understand were you are coming from.You are not weird, you are a thoughtful,deep,beautiful spiritual person.Thank you for your video's they are inspiring.
I always feel happy when I see movies etc. that are out of the norm and gives me something to think about(relationship&sex topics) for me sexuality is so much more than media and society tries to tell us. Also what you said about creating your kind of realtionship was great! Every couple should have their own ways of doing stuff🙌🏻
I love the way you've described a relationship. Something that makes you wonder, grow, something you can shape and give a colour to... it's so beautiful. And I totally agree. I've been single for almost two years and some people automatically assume that I miss sex. Or when they say something about them having sex regularly, they think that I can get offended or that I can be sad. But the truth is, I don't really miss it. And they cannot understand. Well, what can you do, right? We are happy and content and that is the most important thing.
Oh my god, you just said it perfectly! Relationships are not just about sex! You wanna do that, great, just be safe. But, that should not be the center of any relationship if you want it to go anywhere! Thank youuu Antastesia!!
yes exactly thats why people find it hard to believe that I didn't get involved with my ex boyfriends physically not even kissing and the relationships I had ended because of other reasons, other than that we were completely okay of being gf & bf without kissing and having sex because like she said relationships r way more than that.
+Laura Vilbiks I've been reading through the comments and most of them are quite sensible and reasonable thoughts which is quite rare in You Tube. Funnily enough your comment was the 'shittiest' of them all. No offence.
thank you for sharing this video with us :) I'm happy that you are strong and you are able to be yourself no matter what others say. It's hard to always stay your ground. People often force you to be like most of the people and don't let us stand out. I think that very importand is to not compare yourself to other people. If most of the people do it the certain way it's doesn't have to be the one right thing to do. Believe in yourself and don't worry about others. Once again thank you for this video and for being honest and brave
I know what you mean about being realistic when it comes to relationships. Same with me I know that the probably of finding someone willing to be in a sexless relationship with me is very slim to zero. People always ask me if I miss sex or if I want to have sex and I just don't. I don't know how I could possibly explain it but I don't want that. It's just how I am and I'm okay with it. I'm definitely gonna check out the show you mentioned!
Thank you for this video. You know, I understand why you say you are a weirdo, but I still would like to respond to it that you are not. I am not asexual but I agree with you 100 %. For me it's a big issue too and I also wish people would not put sex first. I'm totally for sex, but I believe relationships, the unique connection with the person is the most important thing, and for me without it sex means nothing. I want sex as an act of extreme closeness with a person, openess, and way to feel the person through his body. I think when it's like that it's amazing. but even though many people want sex, not many of them are ready or willing to open like that during sex, to make it an act of love, not just an act of sex which feels a bit like feeding, satisfying your basic need. And when I feel that it's like that with somebody I can't really have sex with him, or if I do, I don't like it even when I really like the person. And it always paintful to notice that someone puts sex before you. So, I want you to know, that there are SEXUAL people who think and feel the same as you. At least here I am, a weirdo too, maybe. Although I don't think so.
Emy, do you watch other series? Just wanted to know some of your recommendations:) If there are some good French ones, it'd be wonderful since I'm learning French. Thanks for the excellent video!
I agree with almost everything you say in your videos... and I also find it "strange" (not strange but I can't find the word in english) that people see these things often so hard to understand or even to accept... last month I took a course at my uni where the professor explained the conception of relationships in ancient cultures, especially ancient Greece, and it was nothing like it is nowadays... maybe it was the same but things were just accepted and seen as something beautiful, the concept of shame for example towards homosexuality and other things didn't exist...actually it has always been like these... I don't get how people cannot distinguish "religion" , "society" etc from relationships and other aspects like these!
I'm so happy that you found a drama that actually shows that! Even though I'm not asexual, I love that we can all share the human experience! We all need to step out of our own perspectives sometimes and share that not every human, relationship, and experience is the same. Let's all stop being cookie cutters and share new storylines! Love you Emy
I was asexual until age 28 and never ever missed it cause I didnt want or desire it. I fell in love, and now I pretty much want sex whenever :D So when we wouldnt have sex yes I would miss it, cause it is such a great experience to share between me and my boyfriend. Even tho we would still be together without sex, but I would miss it.
no this is just the case where the person thought they were asexual but then came to the realisation that they don't mind sex once they were in a relationship where they connected with the person, which is demi. If you are actually asexual, chances are you will find a partner, engage in a close relationship but still not be fond of sex or want sex at all
Hi, Emy, I just want to say thank you for sharing this video! After watching this video, I do get the comfort and feel safe inside to be different. I am not asexual but I somehow don't feel safe or comfortable enough to do so yet. And plp around talks and creats a stress on this. Then I start to doubt about myself as if there is anything wrong with me. But I just don't want to do it before I can be sure he has true feeling about me and cares about me.
i love all of your videos! theyre always interesting, inspiring and truly significant to me. youre such a great person, really wish to find someone like you someday
I think many people put emphasis on sex in relationships over the companionship, friendship and platonic intimacy that keeps people together. relationships are much more than sex and it's completely possible to remove that and have a fulfilling relationship. Like do people think their parents stop having sex and then stop loving each other? Or that you don't really love each other if you're not having sex? So what about long distance relationships? Then how much sex do you need to have to have a meaningful relationship? That's entirely subjective. Putting so much value on a subjective quantity, something you can't really measure, is absolutely ridiculous regardless of sexual orientation. If your love, your relationship, is dependant on lust and sex then... Well, I struggle to understand it. Although I am asexual and aromantic... So yeah.
I didn't mean to generalise, I'm sorry if it came across that way. I guess even though we don't understand each other we can still accept it, I suppose.
+misscaricature thank you! yes of course, just because i don't understand asexuality, doesn't mean i can't accept asexuals.... i accept every human, as long as they don't harm anybody ;)
I am asexual. I was with my ex for 10 years. We never had sex. Though he was interested in it. It never really caused any problems. I've been with my current boyfriend for 1 year and a half. No sex. 😌 he likes being in a sexless relationship. He says its mainstream rebellion, counter culture.
À coté de la plaque, mais je voulais juste dire que tu parles anglais mieux que la grande majorité des youtubers anglophones - et en plus, du contenu intéressant et refléchi. Subscribed!
I mean, I don't want to have sex because its what people tell me a relationship is. I want to because I want to show the other person how much i care for them in a more deeper and intimate way. Sex is connecting two bodies- thats definitely a powerful and spiritual thing. Not just an idea we've perpetuated through history. You're beautiful and awesome though! Just my thoughts.
I'm asexual, first time I had sex I had no desire to do it but did it anyway for the experience. Nothing changed after. Now I have sex, it does feel good but I never want it and could easily go forever without it. I thought maybe I had a low sex drive and tested my limits with a girl with a high sex drive lmao but I could go all day if I wanted. See yeah your sexuality seems totally normal to me and I would happily have a sexless relationship with you (just saying ) I think you should try it though because it's still a valuable experience and if you are asexual you'll feel even more comfortable with it afterwords.
I just left a comment on your last video, but now I feel like I have to leave one on this as well xD I totally agree with everything you said in this video (as pretty much always) and I would just like to add some thoughts I had recently when I discovered amatonormativity (the concept or idea that the ultimate, best type of relationship is a romantic, sexual, monogamous/exclusive one, which preferably leads to marriage and having children). I feel like almost everybody has bought into this idea and they go out and desperately try to find someone with whom they can be in exactly that type of relationship (hence the success of dating websites). When really, shouldn't it be the other way around? Shouldn't you FIRST meet someone and THEN they should make you want to be in a certain kind of relationship with them? Because of how or who they are? How can you know what kind of relationship you want when you haven't even met someone who makes you want it? There are so many types of relationships: romantic and sexual, non-sexual, polyamorous, queer-platonic... I feel like this really fits in with what the main characters of that show said about every person and, thus, every relationship being different.
Ahah I'd find a way to make it happen. It's our duty and responsibility as a male to do so. And no, one does not exclude the other: intimacy vs random relationship. It's about learn to appreciate both.
How long have you been studying Japanese? I've been studying the language for a few months now and I can't wait till I can properly understand it haha!
I think for me it's important to ask this question when I met a girl; " if I couldn't have sex with her, would I still want to hang out with her?" Would I still want to talk, explore, share, etc... if sex weren't an option. Intuitively I kind of already know when there is a deeper connection and shared mutual self interest. , but it's to be sure. It lets me know If I truly like the person. Also, even if sexual feelings do arise, I don't have to shun them away as ' wrong' or ' bad ' and maybe even express those feelings if/when they do arise. Exploring sexuality can mean different things for everyone. My whole body could be a clitoris is one way of looking at it. Friction fire orgasm isn't the only option here, we are sensual alive beings, focusing on just the genitals can be a little boring, imo.
hey, i'm looking for youtubers who speak french because im studying french at the moment and i think that would make the learning process more interesting/exciting. do you have any recommendations?
Sex involves lust which is an animal instinct in which the participants only view each other as an outlet for satisfaction at the expense of forgetting about all other qualities of the being; that in itself is a gross distortion of perception. Humans are subtle, complex and should be valued so much more than by base standards of sexual attraction.
you are an absolute idiot. thats not what sex is...sex is a function or tool for reproduction and continuation of the human species and to ensure the continuation of you gene line...all humans have two basic core instinct which is survival and reproduction, if someone is asexual and really doesnt have that desire to have sex, procreate and continue there genes then its very simple something is unusual, different and wrong with that person from the point of view that that person doesnt carry or have the same instincts that the majority of all humans carry and have. It doesnt mean we have to hate those people or say something bad about them or treat them badlt, e are all humans and we must love one another :) but the fact is that asexuals an usual and lack a huge part of natural human instincts.
Pour m'être renseigné sur la question de l'asexualité (grâce à vous, d'ailleurs), je n'ai aucune difficulté à l'envisager comme une orientation sexuelle. En tant que tel, il me semble donc logique que vous ne puissiez envisager une relation amoureuse épanouie qu'avec une personne partageant peu ou prou la même orientation. Comprenez-moi bien : il serait aussi injuste de vous forcer à avoir des rapports sexuels que d'en priver une personne qui en désire. Quel équilibre pourrait bien surgir d'une relation dans laquelle l'un des deux partenaires devrait faire un compromis aussi fondamentalement destructeur pour son épanouissement personnel ? Après tout, ne s'agit-il pas du même type d'incompatibilité que celle qui sépare une personne hétérosexuelle et une personne homosexuelle, notamment ? Une divergence d'attraction qui leur rend essentiellement inenvisageable l'idée de vivre ensemble une relation romantique. Vous n'êtes pas "bizarre". Vous n'êtes pas obligée de vouloir du sexe à toute heure du jour et de la nuit, vous n'êtes pas obligée d'en vouloir du tout ; la libido de chacun est différente, et je ne vois pas pourquoi cela devrait poser un problème en soi. Simplement, il faut comprendre que les personnes attirées sexuellement par d'autres ne le sont pas uniquement sur cette base-là - y compris celles qui alignent les conquêtes comme des trophées en affirmant n'avoir cure de la notion d'amour, et qui recherchent en réalité quelque chose de bien plus profond lorsqu'on prend la peine de creuser la question avec elles - et qu'elles ne "dévaluent" pas l'importance de la relation interpersonnelle, émotionnelle et spirituelle pour autant. Je crois également injuste de hiérarchiser l'importance de l'une ou l'autre des dimensions de la relation, parce qu'au-delà de l'acte sexuel en lui-même, c'est la recherche d'une connexion tangible, charnelle, sensuelle qui apparaît primordiale, telle un prolongement de la connexion intellectuelle qui lie les deux partenaires ; ou vice versa, car autant une belle relation peut naître de la découverte d'un(e) partenaire sexuel(le) que l'on n'envisageait que d'un soir (si si), autant une incompatibilité sexuelle majeure (écart trop important en terme de libido, différence de curiosité vis à vis de penchants considérés déviants, divergence de tendance hardcore/softcore...) peut s'avérer un obstacle insurmontable à une relation épanouissante, même avec une personne que l'on voit pourtant comme son âme sœur. Pour résumer, une relation amoureuse épanouie passe nécessairement par une compatibilité d'humeurs, de valeurs et d'aspirations - ce concept acceptant par essence un spectre réduit de fluctuations, sans pour autant exiger la fusion des âmes - autant que par une compatibilité sexuelle et charnelle ; quitte à ce que cette dernière dimension implique l'absence - ou une réduction à la portion congrue - de désir, de contact physique et de rapports sexuels.
it's just the ego. the ego needs labels to exist. language can be problematic in that it's easy to perceive abstract ideas or feelings as "this is who I am" when at the most it should be "this is who I am right now".
Everyone is unique. Everyone is weird to someone else's point of view. So really, what's the point of pretending? Just be who you are and do what you want to do.
How in the world does such a perfect woman exist?? You're something else! I feel almost the same about sex. Tired of this being the first and eternal topic people keep talking about...I certainly would marry an asexual woman.
It's like, even a non-asexual person would be offended by being asked, "Oh so you DON'T want to have sex...?" if they didn't feel like it right now, or were shy... It's wrong to expect anyone to have sex. Just full stop.
This is the first video I've watched of yours, but I just wanted to say I'M THE SAME WAY. And, there IS someone out there for you. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we have never had Sex because I don't desire it. He does desire sex, but since he loves me he puts his sexual desires aside for me. Yes, I do worry about it. Sometimes I worry he will get tired of waiting one day and just leave. Maybe one day we will have sex, but maybe we won't. Just gotta take it one day at a time and trust that if it's meant to be it will work 💗
I'm not interested in physical contact, and because of that I have never had a "stable" couple. It seems such an crucial subject in a relationship, I just do not get it. Thank you for the video by the way, I find it very helpful
you know I don t know if it exist a word for this but I feel like I have a disorder when it comes to love I can feel the physical attraction but I never really fell in love with someone. I find your video really interesting it make us questioning our self !! thanks for sharing
+tentenonetrick Just because you're in the minority, doesn't mean you have a disorder. People should stop thinking about things as normal/natural and unnatural. We are part of the nature, so what we are is natural :) If it doesn't bother you, just accept it and don't care what others think, because you're not doing anything wrong :)
You shouldn't think that people wont want to be with you because they want to have sex.There are a lot of people out there who find more to women then sex.
It's always striking to me being from the States that this mentality of "but dating = sex" seems to be even more prevalent in the EU? I mean, I've run into people asking questions, and there are certainly plenty of people who think if they're not getting laid then what's the point? But I've never had people argue with me the way you talk about people arguing with you about the importance of sex. Maybe it's because in the States there's this idea that married couples regularly love each other but don't have much sex? So it's not so foreign an idea that love and sex aren't mutually exclusive? Anyway, this movie sounds very interesting! Thanks for sharing and talking about this again, because when I do find people who argue, it's not only rude and frustrating that they think I'll never connect with anyone, but I pity them for not seeing deeper truths in life. :(
j'aurais une question : est-ce que les gens jugent vraiment beaucoup l'asexualité? Je n'ai pas vraiment connu de personnes asexuelles, des personnes ayant eu des périodes plus ou moins longues d'abstinence (voulues), oui mais complètement asexuelles non. Du coup je n'ai que très peu de recul sur ce sujet et je m'interroge quant à l'accueil des gens face à cette information? Est-ce mal vu? Mal compris? Bref, cela m'étonne.
sorry if this is a dumb question but how do you realize when you are in love with someone or have romantic feelings towards them? like for me I realized for the first time because I felt jealous when I saw the person kissing someone so I guess maybe that´s a bit sexual related... But now, usually I can tell I have some sort of feelings because I feel really nice around them, maybe my heart races or I get butterflies and I feel this intense desire to hug them, maybe kiss them or sth, is that the same with you or is it different? Also I don't think I could ever grasp the feelings of those characters or relate to them at all since I'm really different but I'm happy for them :) even though it's a story ^-^'''
A lot of asexual people do feel romantic attraction, so they feel exactly what you described but they just don't feel the desire to be sexual with that person at any point. Hope that made sense! :-)
+rorolilred thank you :) I kind of get it, I think! I know asexual people can experience romantic attraction I just don't really know exactly where the line between romantic and sexual lies, for example, would a kiss be considered too sexual or simply romantic?
Fairy Felicia Yeah I think I can be quite a blurred line as attraction is such a subjective thing. With kissing, I think it really depends on the person and on the kiss. For example a lot of asexuals probably wouldn't be comfortable with a full on make out session but might be cool with kissing their partner goodnight at the end of a date. But everyone is different so there isn't really an exact rule =)
+Fairy Felicia (Faylicia) I think not every romantic person likes kissing, it depends, there are different types of romantic attraction :) Some people enjoy kissing people they find attractive and don't have to be in love with them. Other people would only kiss the one special person. So kissing doesn't even have to be romantic :) So if you want to know where the line between romantic and sexual lies, you have to ask every person separately, I guess :D
+Katarzynka26 oh okay I get it! :D for me it's definitely both romantic and sexual so I find it a bit hard to picture how it works for some other people and I was curious :P
In Persian there's an old saying close to mean: If you're hungry, you'll forget love! modern human's biological libido bank is in crisis, as well as his or her ethical bank. In this respect I like you to endorse everybody to watch the three Zeitgeist movies on youtube at least just for the parts it criticizes our present condition.
I'm wondering : imagine, you date with "the perfect person" (whatever he/she is) BUT she is not asexual (of course, if "asexuality" is part of your definition of "perfection" my question is meaningless). She also thinks you're perfect and has very deep love for you. However, for this person, sex is (very) important ; she couldn't live her whole life without sex. My question is : Would you accept that this person has sex with someone else ? If yes, ok, I undestand your point. If no, I wonder why because you said sex and love are two different things that one could be without the other (that's your position since you says you're able to love without any sex). Sexual activities of your lover couldn't count as an affair but rather as an "good time necessary to her equilibrium" (as sport for exemple) since it's only sexual and love and sex are independent. I apologize for my pretty naive question but it appeared to me during this video when you speak about yourself (around 02:50).
+Cléanthe Lafargue I don't know what Emy thinks about it, but I'd wonder why would that person want to have sex with someone else? Why wouldn't masturbation be enough? And would my partner really do that without any romantic feelings towards that person? I'm asexual so I don't know how sexual people feel it, what sex means for them when they do it with someone they don't love. Could it really be seen as "sport", or something comparable to going to the cinema with a friend?
"Could it really be seen as "sport", or something comparable to going to the cinema with a friend?" Although I do not practice sex as sport or as any hobby, it's now very common that people make sex without love, like a pleasant occupation ! Think about all these "applications" like Tinder... Both boys and girls are concerned. As to know "why would that person want to have sex with someone else", I ask : why not ? Is she's not asexual, it's normal. It could be very frustrating. Masturbation and sexual relations are very different. The point is exactly this : if sex *doesn't mean anything* to asexual people, are they ok to practice it (if not, if they don't want to, it means that sex *means something* for them) or, at least, are they ok to let the people they love practice it, if they want to (regardless of any justification) ? And if they don't want any of these two options (don't want sex and don't let their intimate other have sexual relation with someone else), then, it means that asexuals only can live a love story with asexuals or sexual-living-like-asexual-people.
sex is fine and for me, a way to connect with someone i want to be with. but i like massages by my significant other more xD if someone said to only pick ONE for the rest of my life: a) massages or b) sex. itd be A. i dont see sex as necessary to have a solid relationship. but giving/receiving massages is so nice and it shows one another that we care about the others comfort and happiness level
I would pick C😁 , which is ''someone playing with my hair and touching my scalp'' It takes me on another level, no sex, drugs, alcohol, or massage can do that for me!
They are indeed tools in my belief, they are just protocol.. :-) Oh btw inspired to be vegan.. Nearly a week now.. You sound like you talk to me/are me, perhaps even I am just finding a place in society, at grande it's beautiful, but anyway. Your speech is getting to me here, I'll end my comment xD
to the degree that you are biologically dying, you find that sex becomes an imperative regardless of how you use your mind. Perhaps you're just not corrupt enough to be dying at this time in your life.
being different is fun... (just kidding) ill try to explain my perspective on it. because sex isn't a big deal when you want the love over the animal behavior. to be in a relationship just to have sex or to have sex with a random person(one night stand) is so weird to me. I'm really not pretending to be this way or lying to myself. it has nothing to do with religion or anything like that, whatever people think. i wish i had like 5 lives at the same time to compare myself and see what "normal" feels like lol. yeah its weird as fuck, but some people are this way. weird design, but can't change it or lie to myself. or its a part of the "design" however you want to look at it.
I respect what you are but I don think if someone wants to have sex that makes them conditioned or desensitized or even like they can't appreciate the emotional aspect of a relationship. It almost feels like a lot of the comments from asexuals are looking down on people who DO have a sex drive. Like I don't have sex because Im told to, I have sex because I find it pleasurable and I feel intimate with my partner in a physical way. Like reading the comments makes it sound like those who do have a sex drive are dumb animals. I don't ask to have a sex drive and you didn't ask to be asexual, ALL sexualities are OK in my book. Isn't this supposed to be about acceptance, me accepting you and you accepting me?
i really like you amy and i respect your asexuality but you really can't expect from your society that they understand asexuality, because most of us humans are sexual, it's biology and nature... don't get me wrong, i don't wanna hurt you, i just can't understand why you feel offended if somebody is questioning asexuality because they cannot understand it, because it's unique in our society..
+Alok Mohapatra honestly, i don't really understand what you trying to say? sexuality is (mostly) biological, so you can't compare two completely different things....
***** people are soo sensitive nowadays... before i found amy on youtube, i didn't even know asexuality exists, because its obviously a rarity in our society... of course people who have no clue about this subject, will ask question about this, out of interest or curiosity, so why is this ''dump'' or even offensive? why sounds a question like ''you really don't wanna have sex'' offensive to some asexuals? i don't get it... if you don't wanna explain yourself to sexual people, why does she even talk about that subject with sexual people?
+M. M. from the biologically point of view, it is biology and nature. i'm not gonna lie to you or myself, just to make you comfortable. sex - this is actually our !biologically! purpose on this planet - to reproduce - like every other animal on this planet... that doesn't mean, that asexual people are bad or something because they don't fit in the norm (this is what i meant with, i don't wanna hurt you). like myself for example, i'm a sexual person but i don't have the desire to have kids (it's also unusual in our society and i accept it, but i don't have to tell anybody that i don't want to have children... i don't fit in the "biological" norm either, because i have no desire to procreate) and i will not get sensitive and offended if a person question me why i don't wanna have kids. i'm not invalidating anybody, i'm just saying, i don't understand why is AMY, (i'm doing this on purpose because i don't like smartypants) even talking with sexual people (like she told in this video, the one she met) about sexuality, if she actually don't wanna talk about it? if i don't wanna explain my unusual sexuality, i'm not gonna talk about my sexuality because it is nobody's business... but she's talking a lot about it (even with strangers) and than wonders why people have questions about this unusual topic. it comes across like attention seeking... and please don't compare asexuality with homosexuality - they're sexual, thats the reason why sexual straight people can understand gay people a lot better, than people with no sexual desire at all.
+Pamela Marley This is just biological and social concept, this is what people *came up* with and aggressively promote because people can't stand unexplainable and uncertain things, people can't stand being unsure, etc. We don't actually know what our actual purpose is (if there's one at all). So, yeah. Let it be.
I know youre realistic and thats a double edged sword, but realistically speaking its possible for you to find an asexual partner who will feel deep and meaningful things for you but would also not want to have sex! it happens more often than you think!
