Double Episode: After 33 Years of Doubt I Need to Find Out if My Daughter is Mine | Paternity Court 

😢😢😢, the 2nd case, so hurtful. I truly feel your pain. Be strong and may Allah guide you and bless you and your family. I'm glad you and your brother share the same mom.

Your Heavenly fsther will never leave you I feel your pain.

My dad passed away 35 years ago questioning if I was his child. He apologized for the trauma (physical not SA) he’d caused me before he passed. My immediate family always treated horrible while their actions were not that of a loving family. I quit going to that side of family reunions, do not use my maiden name, and don’t speak to my siblings. BUT I did do an Ancestry DNA, a few years back and confirmed that I was indeed second cousins with my dad’s first cousin. Crazy thing about it, I had several emails confirming my relationship with other family members on that side of the family but it didn’t really hit me until it confirmed it with my favorite cousin that I always referred to as my Uncle. I would recommend doing this without hesitation because it was finally closure after almost 50 years of not knowing.

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I'm feeling your pain. I lost my precious mom on 12/21/21 covid pneumonia. I'm 58 and I still cry I need my mom. She was my rock for 57 years and now she's gone, just gone. I'm so so sorry for the loss of your mom. It's a life changer. Stay safe out there... Much love from North Carolina

Me too, I cried a lot,

@@RindaJane I'm sorry for your Loss

I understand ❤ 5 years for me now without mum. No one can replace a mother 😔💔

@@adamsteve5693 Thank you 😔

I can honestly understand her because I need My mom's RIP Cheryl I love AnD miss you too 😘❤️💔

@@sistachristian660 Warm hugs from my ❤️ is sent over to you ❤️🥰

@@user-yu3ci4sl8v Thanks I needed it to 🥰

When she said I need my momma I felt that down in bones. I can't even work because I know that feeling of wanting and needing my mom. 1980 is when my mom went to heaven. and there are some days I just really feel like

@@kimberlymixondixon4732 Ooooh 💔 Sending you much love and warm hugs ❤️🥰

Not gonna happen. This confusion better serves the national divisions.

I totally agree

Atleast by 18

I agree! 💯

I agree but how does it work when Noone show up ...just like in the first case?

you're right, she should have said "i need my promiscious mama" instead

Does any one know if Ms Saint James has found her biological father? 🌺

Mr. Anderson did not. He acted like a child.

@@brownin329 how did he act like a child?

@@brownin329 you must be a 304 tho how you speaking on a man getting tricked

@@brownin329 he wasn't acting childish. He was acting like a man who is dealing with a loose woman that plays games, sleeps around and clearly had no idea who she got pregnant by and ruined that man's relationship.

I really liked how he hugged and congratulated both of them.

Human always turn on each other for a billion reasons.

@@jamescatalao2607 We don't always. Most people are honest in their feelings, even when their feelings are wrong or misplaced.

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meh get over it people live their lives the fact that this women is over 30 and still has gotten over this tells you that the dad known what the mother was like and she openly says that there could be 2 other men ... sounds like Mom was from the streets and stayed

@@thatomofolo452 D

sometimes you dont need to know the truth.

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Simple as that and that is facts

I keep tryna tell people that. Theirs no love or respect there.

ABSOLUTELY the truth!!! Period!

Agreed!!!!!!!!!

He took no accountability!! None at all!!

They didn't she was just too stubborn to listen to it

The mom birthed her. He stepped up

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A great man would have addressed this 33 years ago or kept his mouth shut.

@@veraconerly9511 FALSE!!! Like she said she has the right to know who her REAL father is .. why deny her that by not saying nothing

Correction he’s a great dumb man

@@veraconerly9511 it's the mother to blame, stop giving women passes when the Fup. Only she knows who she slept with.

I can’t call him a great man. Obviously she wrote him a letter because there were issues. I don’t understand why abandon her as an adult if you played father as a child? Biology does not influence how much you care about someone.

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Thanks for the laugh. You wrong talking about Eddie Griffin!

EG is a legend 🙌

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I'm so sorry for your loss Nellie

@@Sileaine thank you so much ❤️ 🙏

I'm sorry for your loss. I can relate. I'm 45 and lost my mama 6 years ago. I cried every day for years. I missed her so much I wished to not be here on earth so I can be with her again. That's how much the pain was hurting me. No one can replace your mom... I miss her and talk to her every day! It never gets easier. You just learn to hide the pain better. I wish this man took this to his grave. Because this is the time this young lady needed him the most... Sad situation all around.

I thought I was the only one lost my mom will be her two year anniversary march 20 . Hopefully the pain gets better after time for everyone who’s lost their parents 💙

My condolences to everyone on here who’s experienced such a loss

I know right 😔 I cried with her.

I am so sorry.

@@jagirl281 💜

That’s awful. I’m so sorry that happened to you. 😢

Galatians 4:16

Yea but when you write/call a man and blaming him for not being there he has to let you know the real so it can not be a burden to him.

@@realmontana6838 EXACTLY!!

@@realmontana6838 That’s just it, a father, be it by birth or not, won’t feel like being a dad to the daughter he raised as a burden!!!! Either you are her father/dad or you’re not!!! Obviously he has always felt a way about this child he felt he “had to raise” probably just to hold on to the mother!!! He probably knew before they married that he couldn’t possibly be the father!!! He made a choice, and to do something so devastating 33 years later is selfish and hateful!!!🤨

@@jadeehm the mom shoes to keep it a secret. It wasn't his place until the mom died and he still wasn't gonna say. I feel like he did the best he could.

She’s sneaky. She needs to stop playing games.

She said she wasn't going to pay 1/2 for both test. Well you was sleeping wit two dudes. That's bout the most ignorant thing I ever heard.

Yea if U can’t afford a paternity test U can’t afford a child 😢

She knows who her father is now. The father did not seem particularly in love with her, and did not react well to her lies. I don't see much hope for that relationship. As for Mr. Anderson, he paid a high price for cheating on his woman. I hope that will be a lesson for him.

god bless you too

Especially now when they tell you if your DNA matches are maternal/paternal

Was thinking the same thing 😢

The Ancestry database would need to have a sample from the paternal side to match with. Sometimes the matches are distant cousins and it's very difficult to find the closer relations.

Yes between 23andme and ancestry you will get answers.

He always knew but it was the mother's responsibility to tell her. Problem is she died and left him holding the bag. And how do you tell her now, when only parent left is not hers? And she's already grieving the loss of the only parent she's actually related to? Mannnn....🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

her mom should have told her before she died

He didn't know when the mom was going to die. I don't think he withheld that info out of malice. I think he was trying to protect her. After all, he is the father who stepped up.

@@GrwninGrace great point, he was struck between a rock and a hard place 😕

I'm not sure how he could have predicted the mom's death unless the mom had been sick for years. Even still, it was the mom's behavior that created the paternity doubt, so I think her mom held some of the responsibility to let her daughter know the truth. As the girl said, only the mom knows exactly whom and how many the mom slept with.

I feel you, but her mom is the true person responsible for sharing that information because she’s the one who really knows who the dad is

Sometimes men get to a point where they have to be upfront maybe bc they are getting blamed for something and they are tired.. I don’t think he did it to hurt her

Although I feel for her, that was her mother’s responsibility.

With her attitude she deserved it

Yea we all fight demons and I'm sure the dad was suffering

It’s equally awful to have a lifetime of a kid that isn’t even yours claiming you are a deadbeat dad. I can see both sides of this.

@@marlenabeares2023 Yes but he was one of the adults in this. He could've had her tested as soon as he had doubt. He is just as much to blame as the mother.

@@chocolatte7772 he openly admitted his role and apologized. He didn’t do this alone. She had questions as to why their relationship was strained, but she didn’t like the answer he gave when he let her know he wasn’t her dad. That’s what led to this in the first place. Yes, he could have continued lying, but she clearly is seeing and feeling a difference in the relationship to write the letter to him in the first place and he just couldn’t do it anymore. This is tough for everyone involved.

He should have continued lying?

He didn’t have doubts he know 100%

At the beginning of the case I said “maybe she herd something different”

Exactly

Eddie Griffin for me....😂

But then he'd have the burden of carrying the lie. Plus what happens if she finds out without him telling her? Then he'd be the villain.

The daddy is a heartless man. The only reason why he told her is because he was mad at her. Y’all pay attention. He was aware that she was not her father before she was born because his mother confirmed that she educated him on the dates don’t match. Yet he marries her AND has another child. Me thinks he and the young lady had a difficult relationship especially with her mother passing at a young age and whenever they beefed he probably was thinking , she is not my child. Which is exactly what happened.

@@CoffeeCrazy that’s not true at all. He called her specifically to tell her that.

@@CoffeeCrazy a heartless man isn’t gonna take care of a child that wasn’t there’s, a heartless man isn’t gonna pay child support for a child that isn’t there’s. She said herself that she was a daddies girl and that obviously means that he cares for her a lot

We all can say whatever we want. the fact is if you haven't gone through it, u can't truly say what should have been done.

What if she found without him telling her? Then he would still be seen as the bad guy

You sound ignorant. What if she found out before he told her?? Then he would still be the bad guy. The truth needed to come out

Either way, she needed to know…

Her child is developmentally disabled and the genetics/health issues in the genetic background are super important to manage/understand the child's health. Her questionnaire in all probability, was asking for those biological genetics/family health details and he could not answer them by continuing to carry the lie that he is her father. He'd obviously loved her mother, accepted the truth about the pregnancy, told the other man "WE GOT THIS", manned up and supported/educated/nurtured her throughout childhood into adulthood.

Thanks everyone for your opinions. I just felt really really bad for the young lady. But you’re right, telling her was best it just should’ve been done much earlier. Peace.

Me too my husbands tired of me 😂

@@SoniaMia7 😂😂

What are you talking about he knew from the beginning she wasn't his, what show were you watching? He just decided to marry her mother anyway and raise the child.

Sympathy? For what? Keeping the secret for 33 years. He knew from the jump she more than likely wasn't his but he kept that from her and made her believe he was her father, to 33 years later drop the bomb on her, because she was upset that the man who told her he was her father didn't want to be in her and her kid's life. He deserves no sympathy he had 33 years to make sure everything was legit and not emotionally destroy her.

@@shadowkissed2370because it would have been excruciating to keep a secret like that and have to deal with accusations that he is not a good enough father after all he has done over the years. I can see both sides on this one.