Dr. Susan David: Build Emotional Agility, Avoid Burnout, & The Dangers of Toxic Positivity

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Susan David, Ph.D. (award-winning Harvard Medical School psychologist) breaks down emotional agility, explaining how navigating our emotions can impact every area of our lives, why emotional labor can lead to burnout, the importance of not allowing emotions to guide us, and ways to prevent internalizing stereotypes about ourselves. She reveals the dangers of toxic positivity, how our negative emotions can disconnect us from our true selves, why the power of choice equates to growth and freedom, and the four most common "hooks" that prevent us from taking action. Dr. David provides strategies to change up your routine in a positive way, ways to align with your core values, and how to have your own back through self-compassion. She also shares her own personal grief journey and battle with disordered eating that led her to her life’s work.
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@moonbeanification Год назад

"Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life." Wise words to live by.

@aparhelger Год назад

'Our emotions are sign posts of things we care about and need to engage with.' Very well stated about how we need to work with our emotional state in dealing with difficult matters.

@joanshavit2630 Год назад

Her discussion about stereotypes that we internalize really was an 'aha' moment for me- I struggled a lot with depression and anxiety in college and wish someone would have spoken to me about this- it would have helped me understand what I was going through and to treat myself with more kindness

@nessamaine Год назад

This has always been my parents’ POV that they taught my sisters and me… “Life is wonderful AND awful… Simple AND complex… One helps us appreciate the other…” This was great, thanks!

@squishysirenita Год назад

Just read a book that encapsulates your parents POV! "Bittersweet" by Susan Cain🙏

@MayimBialik Год назад

🥹🙌

@leticiaperez243 Год назад

Not sure it’s a good thing that Mayim and I answered the questions at the beginning part of the episode the same way. “Discomfort is the price of admission for a meaningful life” what a fantastic sentence! I was so glad to hear I can learn these skills. No emotion is bad ! That’s a huge difference in how I’ve thought my life. I’m literally working on emotional regulation, how to sit with them etc. This episode is fundamentally life altering for me. It’s giving me another set of skills and capacities that I’ve been working towards. I paused to take the quiz and order the book for same day delivery before finishing the episode. The example Dr Susan gives about the person someone worked with making them feel like their parent did - wow I definitely get hooked on my emotions thoughts and stories. I have not even felt that I had the option to choose. Thank you for another favorite fantastic episode. I’ll definitely be watching again

@susandavid_phd Год назад

Thank you for this wonderful note, and for watching! I loved our conversation.

@RameshBaburbabu 10 месяцев назад

I'm a huge fan of Dr. Susan's content, and I've been diligently following all her RU-vid videos. I find her work truly exceptional. However, there's something that nags at me in the back of my mind as I immerse myself in these insightful interviews. We discuss topics like Emotional Agility, Avoiding Burnout, and the Perils of Toxic Positivity, which are undeniably valuable. Yet, I can't help but wonder, how do these emotional insights hold up when faced with the stark realities of a world in conflict? Amidst the chaos of war, when bombs drop and violence erupts, it seems like all these discussions on emotional well-being might go out the window. I'm grappling with this thought, and it's been on my mind lately.

@Jessica45578 Год назад

To address Dr.Susans point about believing in a possibility but thinking about what could go wrong and preparing for it, I was shocked! I do this, and my husband constantly tells me not to because I'm speaking it into existence or I'm going to be asking for it in a way. That hasn't stopped me from doing it but I did wonder if I should. Now I can tell him its not a bad thing!

@maddiesilina3833 Год назад

I'm from Central Europe; this is my favorite episode so far! Difficult emotions are not to be escaped but dwelled in, analyzed and felt. Maybe Central Europeans are doing that too much but who knows! Thank you! 👏👏👏

@Savagemode09 Год назад

I'm kind of glad that there's a licensed therapist or someone from harvard that speaks that emotionally intelligent people can also learn from their circumstances and what I always felt is valid. But I've been waiting for your podcast for days 😂

@m_brokenleg Год назад

Toxic possitivity (“boys don’t cry”), fake strenght & all that stupid things we’re taught while growing vs fear with courage, authenticity & resilience. THAT! To be framed her “The unseen of the self” concept, along with golden “We own our emotions, they doesn’t own us” & “Everyone of us has wisdom, capacity & calm”. How the story of her father death & the glorious teacher has moved me. How finding the right person in the right moment can change a life. Amazing episode. Again. To be watched twice. Btw, did the quiz. Generosity, Caring & Responsability.

@vanhoudtshoorn Год назад

Thank you❤. Beautiful conversation. I'm South African and this conversation helped so much. Thank you dear Susan❤

@marisamartinezolivera Год назад

Amazed that at every episode of this podcast I, at my early 60’s, still learn something new, valuable, apliccable and very useful to my day to day. Where have you been all my previous 60 years? Emotional Agility. Such a concept. Stopped the podcast, did the full quiz, received (thank you Dr. Susan David!) my full report..and continued listening. Mouthdropped. Literally. Thank you to all you, Mayim, Jonathan & Dr. David for this extraordinary episode and the set of skills I’ve learnt. 🫶🏽

@bella1975 Год назад

Thank you Mayim. I struggle with anxiety, ocd and at times difficulty dealing with heightened emotions. I am reading this book now as a matter of fact. It is great. So far I like how it starts out with vemiewing things differently from what we are used to and listening

@sherrryann Год назад

I've always hated fake positivity over positivity. & I'm an optimist & a dreamer, so that's saying something!

@jentommyontheroad8089 Год назад

I took the quiz and was thinking about how those 3 important values have changed over the course of my life. As I continue to focus on things I want to change in my own life, those values will continue to change as well. My grandma was married 4 times and 3 of the 4 were over 50. She outlived all of her husbands. She demonstrated that age is what you make it! I say that as I lie here listening while recovering from a hip replacement! Thank you for introducing me to Susan David and her work!

@susandavid_phd Год назад

Thank you for listening! I hope you feel better soon.

@Pronchick1 Год назад

Wow! The most brilliant, impactful interview ever! Thank you. Mayim and Jonathan! I will be listening to this one again and going to listen to her TED talk and purchase her book. 💗🤩🤓🌟

@orland0110 Год назад

This is an awesome episode with Dr. Susan David. I gave this video a thumbs up. Thank you so much for being here Mayim! ❤

@susandavid_phd Год назад

Thank you!

@jackiegerarde9938 Год назад

Enneagram 4, I remember reading a book on enneagram with cartoons. I saw myself on top of the mountain with bags of gold and lots of other great stuff and the 4 person is saying it's just not enough. I remember a Far Side cartoon that had a married cow who was not content. I've read and studied the deep stuff but the humor helps keep me grounded. I so love the laughter on this show.

@elviateixeira5352 2 месяца назад

I wish I had someone like you in my youth. I attended a Catholic girls school in downtown, urban L.A. that was populated mostly with hispanic, black and filipino young ladies. The school’s staff did all it could to affirm the potential of each student. Then, was accepted into UCLA, an environment that resonated in multifaceted ways, “you do not belong.” Three years later I left, completely defeated by the experience. Now. almost 40 years later I realize that had a counselor called me in and offered the conversation prompts you describe, I would have graduated a year later.

@mcbroker1 Год назад

I love this one, I took notes and will buy the book. Thank you for introducing me to this, I didn't know how to accept my inner child or deal with it and this helped a lot

@sunnyadams5842 Год назад

I had so many Silent Revolutions in ny Heart today listening to this. I will never be the same.. Thank God. Thank you....all of you ❤

@icare6076 9 месяцев назад

This was a wonderful conversation, and I love Susan’s authentic presence while articulating this insightful material. ❤

@JaniceAJanice Год назад

Another amazing episode. This is one to listen again, so much to learn and ponder. Thank you Mayim and Jonathan for introducing us to Dr. Susan David 🙏💕

@susandavid_phd Год назад

Thank you for listening. ❤

@veramiller7231 11 месяцев назад

Wow, just wow. I found this at the right time. I have notice for a long time I have depression. Emotions are signposts and don't have to dictate our actions. I'm living with that and going out rn to buy this book.

@elliemoffat723 Год назад

One of my favourite episodes so far, love Susan David's work - life changing! ❤

@dominicdoherty7208 Год назад

I just found your channel in my recommended and wow your perspective is so refreshing to someone as prone to ruminating and holding it in as I am. Thank you for all that you do, its incredible that RU-vid is free 💗🙌💗

@MayimBialik Год назад

So glad you found us, Dominic, and thanks for the lovely feedback! 🧠🫶

@rwmoreira Год назад

Dr Susan David work remind me of another impressive researcher, Brené Brown. Please consider inviting her to the podcast.

@nalayini1504 Год назад

Thankyou for addressing toxic positivity...I'm so sick of people spouting that it's everywhere and it never seemed healthy to me and if I dared analyse a situation and raise the cons I'd get labelled as negative and overthinkinking.

@anujpandya3450 Год назад

Hy mayim!! I was suffering from chronic anxiety and depression and wanted to end my life . Then I started watching tbbt and it helped me to overcome my anxiety and now I am very fit and fine. For me you all actors are not less than gods . You all saved my life If you ever read this “thank you very much for giving me a new life❤”

@darnitthelma4247 10 месяцев назад

Wow! Take care of you ❤❤❤

@greenhornet5186 Год назад

What a lovely and heart-felt woman. She is both brilliant and understands the human condition. Thank you.

@susandavid_phd Год назад

❤

@vanessawhitneypro Год назад

Man, this was fantastic. Thank You. And, Mayim, you’re not alone… Almost EVERYTHING that applied to you, applies to me… Let’s keep working on it all! Much love!

@Merzui-kg8ds 2 месяца назад

I was a public school teacher who was often berated for not indiscriminately babbling positive "vibes", as there is a notion perpetuated in public schools that teachers are obligated to paint all things positive for "the good" of the students. The "emotional labor" theory of burnout....explains accurately why public school teachers are burning out at high rates.

@aimeewhitehead2639 Год назад

I really enjoyed this and it came at exactly the right point in my life. I've ordered the book for my birthday next week. Thank you ❤

@MayimBialik Год назад

Happy early birthday, Aimee!!! 🎂🎈🧠🫶

@aimeewhitehead2639 Год назад

@@MayimBialik Thank you so much! ❤️

@FiyahKitteh Год назад

This was great and just what I needed. I would like to read this book now and get out of this slump. Thanks for sharing

@audreydakin8130 Год назад

Really good! Thanks Jonathan for recommending this episode to Mayim.

@rikalr Год назад

I've been subscribed for a while but this is the first podcast episode I have felt a pull to need to watch. While I watched, I completed the quiz... the message conveyed is definitely hitting me where I need them. Recently I was diagnosed with an anxiety disorder; I have seen who I am and who I want to be through Susan's message, I may still be in denial of what I need to change but I believe I can get there.

@susandavid_phd Год назад

You will get there. We want that for you too. 🤗

@80sbaby64 Год назад

Her book is fantastic 🙌🏼💯

@ensambleconsultoriabarragan Год назад

Amazing Susan David! Her work is essential for me as and educator

@nobumassiah Год назад

mayim's voice is so soothing. always has those extra choogy guests. buttery dialogue, asmr tremolo, all that, and a bag of chips...

@evasquez2268 Год назад

I was so excited for this episode and was not disappointed. Keep up the awesome work.🖤

@lindahebb4832 Год назад

Thank you for posting

@lhmccool67 Год назад

Another wonderful and enlightening episode! I can't wait to receive my results from the quiz. (Checked spam but assuming the email server is overloaded from this broadcast) I'm going to get the book!

@user-oo6go8fe9k Год назад

This episode was terrific, I am going to watch it again. Thank you, Mayim and Jonathan for this podcast I learn so much. A subject I would like to suggest is the significance of faith (in a higher power whatever you conceive him/her it to be) in our mental health. One book that was a great read for me was "How God Changes Your Brain: Breakthrough Findings from a Leading Neuroscientist" By: Andrew Newberg M.D., Mark Robert Waldman. Looking forward to your next episode.

@Merzui-kg8ds 2 месяца назад

A significant percentage of public school kids would answer "What do you value?" with Things rather than concepts such as love, community, peace, etc. For instance, some public school kids are likely to answer with: the internet, gaming, my phone, Red Bull, music, etc.

@neetamathur1150 Год назад

I did a group.project on emotional.agility in my last semester. I read susan's book,did the quiz and loved the podcast

@MayimBialik Год назад

Tell us more about this group project?! 🤔🧠🙌

@neetamathur1150 Год назад

@@MayimBialik our topic of the group project was how do i build emotional agility and we had to make.a 15-20.mins presentation. It was part of the human respouce management course. i did the questionnaire regarding are you a bottler or a brooder? It was a fun workshop. We made brochures too. Its very interesting

@lauracabraldapontecarvalho5007 Год назад

Hello! Great episode. Her work is based on the Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, which I think should be a knowledge. Steve Hayes, one of the authors, would be a great guest!

@samanthahoos9827 Год назад

WOW! I need to get people at work to read this book! ❤

@lj9524 Год назад

Excellent interview! ❤️👏❤️👏

@susandavid_phd Год назад

Thank you. I loved being part of it!

@leyagendler3420 9 месяцев назад

I love your podcast. Any chance you can interview people in person again?

@vicricciuti4690 Год назад

Really good discussion. Thanks.

@amyjimenez3913 Год назад

This was such a helpful episode! Love this podcast thank you Mayim 👍🏻

@susandavid_phd Год назад

Thank you for listening. 😍

@amyjimenez3913 Год назад

@@susandavid_phd thank you you made some amazing points 👍🏻

@omriom Год назад

תודה רבה. מאוד מעניין❤

@eclchannel3978 Год назад

That's why I no longer post or install Twitter on my mobile. Social media networks can be very unhealthy environments.

@bluebutterflywellness2273 Год назад

Interesting that I just had an epiphany on these same concepts and then this pops up!

@tomlichnofsky.7048 Год назад

The Awesomeness Continues!! 😎✊😎👊👍👌🍁🖐🖖🍁

@b.garland1826 Год назад

I'm listening, I'm trying to absorb, but dang, I am totally distracted by her very cool glasses.

@lorrierunnals140 Год назад

Would love to take the quiz but can’t find it on her website. I even typed it in the search field and got not results. 😢

@Tina-bd9et Год назад

I wonder if it’s possible to really be “the same” with another person we do not actually know? I feel the same - those three things are what I would have selected as well. It would be so interesting to chart those groupings by volume. Anyway… peace‼️😎♥️

@michaelvandenheuvel317 9 месяцев назад

Life will bring it if you like it or not.

@user-jy4dn5ym8e Год назад

Mayim, you dont really think things will get worse when you get older, you just rather be at least right if things go worse (in a way this is a smart move otherwise I wouldnt do it all the time☺)

@josievaccaro Год назад

From one southafrican to another ❤

@roundtwo3321 Год назад

The same thing happens when I say that I'm going to work out today.

@livtupi Год назад

I feel both seen and personally victimized by the intro... Okay lets get into the episode hahahahaahag

@MayimBialik Год назад

🤣🤣

@darnitthelma4247 10 месяцев назад

She so reminds me of Christina Hendrinks in bad men

@echodelta9336 Год назад

I found it very hard to pick only 3. But how can one not pick Reliability? 😂

@platinumplaya1 Год назад

Delusional if you the there are no distinctive emotions.

@user-ye5ej1mx2y Год назад

#hitrecord

@lyndachele Год назад

I bought a Nerf gun to offload anger onto a wall or a door. If that doesn't work I go to sleep. It allows me to "start over."

@darnitthelma4247 10 месяцев назад

Pretty violent output. Maybe get a boxing bag? Get fit at same time as offloading🤷🏼‍♀️

@standTallLez00 Год назад

She's nervously laughing who strokes the head that way her slightly catching the doll's head she nor the doll flinched. Never seen this proper also the Palace Never acknowledge the kid's they didn't with the invite drama just them odd it's usually the whole family invited. The princess prince thing it's nothing with no hrh as by time there old enough they'll be fully exposed so no need for titles

@darnitthelma4247 10 месяцев назад

What in the world is this comment 😮

@nonnidreams Год назад

”…an adorable little fish🐠 cookie🍪 on the front which has a little bit of frosting🧁 and this sprinkles and makes me very, very happy.”😁 Me, too🥰 Very much enjoyed Dr. Susan David’s wisdom on emotional intelligence. Especially, when coming to terms with the fact that the hard emotions are just as important to life as the easy to enjoy ones. I enjoyed the fish, and the fact that she is from South Africa. To me they have ties to my faith. Through the symbolism and a christian friend who lives there, we connected on Facebook. 💖✝️📖🕊️💖

@camillealatorre9817 Год назад

Entonces, los últimos estudios de neuroimagen dónde revelan la actividad cerebral y justo donde está el autocontrol, la autopercepción, ahí mismo es donde se activa la agresividad. Eso jamás va a poder cambiarse con una idea o un ejercicio verbal de : "me siento un 65% agresiva" jajaja qué ridiculez

@SpaceCaseZ06 Год назад

I just watched a collaboration between "@charisma on command" and "@healthy gamer gg", two great RU-vidrs., from a couple months back There's a lot of overlap with this channel miyambialik and this video I would love to see conversations with either or both of them and Miyam.