Dumped By A Friend Part 1 

Friends are overrated.

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You can tell when an old friend isn’t interested anymore. I’m not begging to stay in touch. Like Louise says, “ Let them go and love yourself!”❤😊

Wow, I felt that story you told deeply. I've written before here about losing a dear close friend over our differences in politics (she left me in the rudest most meanest way......calling me a nasty name and hanging up on me). I guess some of us need close friendships and what that required (a mutual desire to connect) and some could care less or the relationship is one sided and all about them. I "broke up" with my best friend of 25+ years long after she moved away and I was the one initiating contact. I hated to end the friendship but I couldn't do all the heavy lifting of what it took to maintain a friendship by myself. I wrote her a letter telling her how I felt, she called me and we talked about it and she admitted she wasn't being a good friend to me (no excuses) but I had confronted her several times about this same issue. Anyway, eventually she passed away and I was very saddened by her death and the fact that she just couldn't/wouldn't give our friendship the attention it required. I'm 67, I have a few friends, some far away, and even fewer that live in Houston where I am but the few I have I cherish. People can be so weird and get so complacent thinking that a relationship takes care of itself. Well, like any true relationship, it does take work, attention, care to maintain it or else it will die. Thanks for your video.

Brilliant video. On the strength of it I have subscribed. 🎉

I had some so called friends that sure didn't act like friends. I hope to make better choices now.

There's a saying: Friends for a reason; friends for a season; friends for life...I've had all 3.

I'm 53 years old now, but back when I was 20 years old, I lost a best friend who was actually the maid of honor at my wedding. We all grew up together she was the girl that everyone wanted to be friends with. Didn't start becoming friends with her till mid High school as in close friends. When I was getting married I asked her to be my maid of honor and after the wedding she would come over to hang put with us and we would go to her home (husband and I ) so I was looking for a job and so is she so we both signed up at this place. They help you find jobs, and if you want to do something specifically, they will find you a job in that field. Anyways I wanted to work somewhere specific, and she just wanted to work anywhere as she needed the money. So a job had come up in the area that I wanted to work in, and since she was my best friend, the worker called her and asked her where I was. So like I said, she wanted a job. So what does she do? She told the worker that I moved down south which is about 6 hours away. I had no idea so when I wasn't hearing from the worker I called and that's what she told me. I then called my friend who I was speaking with probably a day or two before and I asked her if she had said that. She admitted it and she said yes I needed the job. So I told her you stole the job for me then? At that point I was crying and I couldn't believe it. That she would do that to me. She didn't cry she was cold as ice on the phone and I was completely stunned. So she got the job in the field that I wanted and it's a small town so there was only one place. It was a veterinarian Hospital in here she was working there every day doing what I wanted to do and I had to go get a job at a retail store in the same town. I was devastated and I was so hurt. I have to be completely honest and say after that now remember I was 21 years old, I never ever again had a friend, a best friend after that. I completely swore off friends in general. My husband and I split up years later and I met somebody else and married again and we are each other's best friend but just a little while ago I made a friend through a puppy. She was a breeder and I made friends with her she is 20 years older than I am, she is 72 and she is a great person but I will say my guard is up. I think with her being older it's more of a mother type figure relationship. But we are still friends. She lives 40 mins away. To me having friends is overrated and in my small small town I refuse to make any friends here. Small towns are pretty bad because you get to know somebody and then everybody knows your business. And I choose not to do that. My ex-best friend actually lives in the same town but she lives on the other end of town and there's only 600 people in this town so it's very small LOL but I very very rarely see her. If I do see her I used to say hi and smile and sometimes I stopped and talked but now after realizing I really don't have to do that, I actually walk right past her and ignore her. I realize now even though I'm in my 50s that I don't have to please everybody and I certainly don't have to always be the nice person. I've always tried to be nice to everybody therefore being nice to the people that weren't nice to me and now I refuse to do that. It's fine for me just to walk past her and not acknowledge her. Which is how it should have been actually in the first place. Someone in the comments said that friendship is overrated and it is overrated. I would rather make friends many miles away and go see them once a month or once every few months to have a really really good visit and just chit chat on the phone other than seeing each other every day😊 I subscribed. Sorry this was long haha

So appreciate your insight and taking the time to share your story too. I’m so glad we are all starting to talk about this. Sounds like you made a hard decision but you did it fairly. Sometimes we don’t get the answer we hoped for. Friendship takes a lot of work and it’s a lonely confusing feeling when your friend isn’t as invested .

We’re adults - not 10 years old. Best friends are not for adults and, friendship takes and needs time

I so appreciate your self disclosure. You sharing your experiences normalize experiences we have and may be ashamed of. Thank you for the advice. Love the new hair cut and highlights, too!

This is so good Laura! Thank you for sharing. A couple of years ago I had a similar painful experience. Looking back the love bombing came at a time when I was feeling vulnerable. It filled a void. I found out when I was deep into the relationship that she had done a similar thing to her previous friends. As soon as I was no use to her anymore for reasons I will never know, she was on the hunt for a new supply.😟 The betrayal of trust was something that took a long time to recover from.

The same standards that we apply to romantic relationships we should also apply to friendships. And it just takes time to get to know people.