All her life, Ellein knew that something was off. She didn't look like her siblings... she didn't live like them and she had a different name... what happened when the truth came out?
You have told this story with grace & integrity 💜 so many of us faced childhood trauma.....my heart breaks because the 29 old me still hasn't healed but yet so many other children are going through adversity.
I needed to tell this story so that many many people may realize that trauma is there and it is living with us. It is leading many into alcoholism, drug abuse , depression and the worst case is suicide. Telling this story and facing my issues head-on was not easy at all, but I am glad it has started a conversation. It is now everyones story. We need to talk more and help each other through the pain and finally walk the journey of healing together.
Wow Ellein.... I am almost in tears but so proud of you and grateful for the happy ending. As your work your way through healing please let forgiveness be part of the journey.
The way this story has been narrated is so amazing..The story is a story many can relate too.. sometime as kids we try to dig information about us that leads us to even a bigger problem than not knowing it.. I tend to believe if you marry a woman with kids you should be ready to accept and love the kids as much as you love the mother..
Thankyou for clarifying that therapy works and it's important to everyone. Mental health needs to be outspoken more often, in this kind of platforms thankyou Dada sphere for that. You lovely and am glad you are on a health recovering journey . Dear.
Very very proud of you beautiful and smart Nasieku.Mental health issues have nothing to do with country, race, religion or economic status. Mental illness is Real.Talk to one another. If you find someone down or acting odd don't judge them, try and listen to them. Keep their problems discreet. Later us lift each other up so that we don't have suicides, self destruction or worse.
I am glad that my story is helping you realize that. It is indeed possible to live with mental illness with proper therapy and medication. My dear, trust that all will be okay.
Wish you all the best. Hold on to that little hope and know it is a disease process. Not you to blame. Things sorting themselves out. When it is time, you'll feel better.
Let me digress... Very beautiful smile! Back to issues. Had my journey too. Several episodes. And I identify with the uncertainty after an episode is over. I identify with the hope, a day at a time. Finding new meaning and a reconstructed you. Journeying on. Knowing and accepting even if slowly, what led you there. What helps me is avoiding repetitive thoughts if there's no action I can take. And taking action if any. But controlling automatic thoughts is not an easy thing. Good that you pointed out that it is often a cry for help. To others around you and to yourself. This has scientific basis in evolutionary biology. Good that you also said it is a disease. We never blame people for having cancer or malaria or flu. No one should be blamed for being depressed. There are biopsychosocial factors beyond one's control. Thank you for sharing your story. And hope. And assurance. That it can be done. May not be easy. But it is possible. And thanks for sharing your smile too! And true, at times you need to be selfish. For if your body itself is crying out for attention, how can you be giving yourself to others? Charity begins at home. Generous and kind to self, so that we are complete enough to share ourselves with others. No pressure.
Thank you so much for your feedback and I am glad that mental health is getting this much care and attention. There is definately more than meets the eye.
True. Thank you for sharing your story Ellein. I advocate for mental health too. i've had almost a similar experience. We need more people to speak up.
Jacinta Mbuthia thank you too, sharing is caring and I am glad that we have people like you out there championing for the cause and platforms like Dadasphere
Truth is, if we who have trauma from our rocky upbringings don't heal, we will carry the same pain into our marriages and inflict it on our children parading it as culture. I'd like to think that no one necessarily taught our parents on how to heal before their own marriages but for the sake of the coming generations, we've gotta fight to heal. It is truly difficult but not impossible. Therapy has been my battle field, I hope each of you finds an avenue to work through your inner issues for however long it takes. Make your life one big recovery meeting and commit to healing forever. Your vulnerability will not only heal you but the generations afterwards. Let's normalize people working through deep-rooted issues rather than normalizing condemning people who drink, abuse drugs, sleep around, aren't religious e.t.c.
@Ellein Nasieku, there is power in knowing the story and sharing your story this is quite brave of you. Confronting your past and the depression that came with it, the disappointment of family, issues that affect so many who look okay and successful but deep inside are masking alot of pain. I wish you all the best, you are still young luckily which means a lot of years and ability still in you to grow out, blossom and flourish. We take a lot for granted about our friends and family on their wellness and quite dismissive just because we didn't have more time to listen to their story too.
So sorry you had to go through this young lady. Just know you are stronger than most and have been gifted with wisdom to manage even maybe more than your siblings. God bless you!
Woooooow.... Just Woooooow...... When you think you know a person by what they look like or who you see, Having worked with you and kinda bonded.....ELLEIN, you are strong and a tough cookie babe. A gem..... #Speechless! Absolutely. Now i get everything! #HugsssssBabygirllll 💕💕💕
Your story of how you got to bounce back is truly encouraging. I just wish we could embrace therapy because unfortunately that's the only way we get to heal without judgment and someone looking down on your issue. I have had my own share of family drama which has had a huge toll on me but therapy has really helped me. Thank you for encouraging us and all the best in your Journey
That's always the saddest bit, society equates wellness, to "being fed, schooled and clothed" while truly there's more to that. You have a deep story and what you've been through has only made you stronger Ellein and you have a beautiful future Hunnie!
Hello Rosemary, I am glad to have been an alternate voice to your story and please don't despair, there are many people out there willing to listen and offer help. I would definately advocate for a counsellor or a therapist.
Hilda E unfortunately we got stuck and I had to deal with my mental health first, it was a heavy subject that affected the whole family.. we under estimate the power of information
@@TheSamburuChronicles Sorry about that but I'm glad you chose to work on your health first. The rest can follow. I pray for your total healing and may God grant you the desires of your heart.
@@TheSamburuChronicles i can totally relate to your story. Depression for me begun with family drama too. My mother rejected me and at 26 years old right now, i do not even know her face. She is married to another man with children. My dad got to a point too and we had a huge falling out (coz of a whole load of issues that built up since i was 8yrs old) that he told me to leave (i left when i was 20). Double rejection from both parents threw me in a state of despair and depression that i maskes with a huge smile but i'd curl up and cry at night. I am okay now on my own. No connection to either of my parents. I'm at peace with being on my own and alone. I have huge trust issues and the pain floods back from time to time but i am okay. I am glad that you shared your story. So many people arw suffering in silence. Mental health and wellbeing has to be talked about more eapecially in this African society of ours.
@@bluebird4815 Thank you so much dear and thank you for sharing your story too. I am glad you have the strength to actually talk and admit about the rejection, that is usually the toughest bit..accepting the current state and admitting to yourself. I will encourage you to trust and believe in yourself and the journey is never easy and we fall off from time to time. and all this is okay. Above all, love yourself, wake up and look at yourself in the mirror and realize how blessed and how strong you are. You are here despite all odds against you and you are working hard each day to make yourself a better person. I am proud of the young lady you are and I hope our paths cross one day!
Where do we get help....i detached from everything 4yrs ago i became numb to everything n i lost myself i dnt knw who iam anymore i smoke weed to get by iv gotten to a point i got used to my condition...im an orphan i hve no one to tlk to i desperatly need help...the only thing keeping me alive today is my kids...
