Emotional Manipulation Tactics You Should Never Tolerate! 

You are helping me through the hardest time in my life.

Drugs suck. Ruined my whole family. Mom and 3 brothers got addicted to drugs after my dad died 11 years ago. I watched them slowly kill themselves over a period of 11 years. my mom died one brother in jail. And two other brothers living in the streets. We used to have a perfect family that was big. What I witnessed and felt the last 11 + years has been the most humbling life lesson anyone could learn. it taught me what’s really important in life. It’s hard not to think what different outcome would have happened if my father didn’t die. I have one other brother who has a good head on his shoulders And I have a awesome family I’m very thankful for. Blessings to anyone in the struggle! 🙏

"Guilt-straction" is almost part of my daily life... My husband absolutely REFUSES to acknowledge whatever it is he's being confronted with. We call it deflecting. I'll even tell him "stop deflecting" and he'll say "oh you learned a new word." Or I told him "stop that, you're talking like a narcissist" and he'll say "oh, so I have a label now, good, thanks." I'm struggling so bad. I've been struggling off and on for years.... It hurts so dang bad... What's harder is our 10yr old son also refuses to take responsibility, even when caught red handed. He'll say "you guys always blame me, you never believe me!" Plus! He loves his dad so much. Try and think of leaving when it might destroy your little boy... I'm so tired. 😓

Oh my goodness!!! GUILT-STRACTION is totally a real thing!?!?!? My husband is a connoisseur of this! He has a few situations he brings up regularly. Then I wonder, “How did we get here? Why do I feel bad??” THANK YOU SO MUCH!! I need to learn those disarming tactics.

Thank you so much. You are shedding a lot of light into our darkness

This info is helpful after a recent breakup with someone who abuses and is addicted to alcohol. What a rollercoaster. And if we’re not careful, we become patient #2 for various reasons ❤️

He always stays calm and I lose the head and then I am the bad guy.

My ex husband is an addict and he gas lighted me so badly for so many years I really believed I was going crazy. Now my 20yr old daughter is an addict and she gas lights me also. It's so hard when it's your child who is the addict cause you feel trapped and don't want to kick them out but if they won't help themselves in any way you don't have a choice.

My brother is an addict and master manipulator. He knows exactly what to say to trigger my anger and guilt. Yesterday he said very hurtful things and I fell for it once again! Even though I have distanced myself, moved on with my life, and excluded him, the heartache never goes away.

You're so adorable! Like me, you use a lot of facial expressions. I enjoy listening and grabbing those nuggets of information that is truly empowering me. I'm out the door with my alcoholic husband divorce is done. I feel the freedom and I'm happier and joy is back in my life.

What's essential for building bonds in relationships is trusting that others will respect your vulnerabilities. With addicts, you cant expose your vulnerabilities too often (if at all), because they will use them to hurt you (especially if they're nowhere near the recovery process) I learned this through going on a tangent on ATTACHMENT THEORY, thanks to one of your videos. Stay awesome Amber!

They also try to change the subject when you bring up something they dont want to talk about.

This has helped me so much I don’t even have words...

So glad that I found this site. I am new and engaged to an alcoholic. I didn't know about his issues, we've been living together or over a year and he goes back and forth, telling me to go away, he doesn't want to marry me, I'm too good for him, he doesnt deserve me, tells me I deserve someone better. I am deeply in love with him, but the drama has eroded my feelings for him. He used to tear my heart out, but now I'm becoming numb

Girl!!! I can not you enough for all these videos! You are the light in the darkness for me right now! Keep up all the hard work!

So glad I found this channel. We are on our knees with our sons drink and drug addiction. 😪

Your clients are really lucky to have you! And I am really lucky to have found your channel!

You are SPOT ON!!!! I actually though i was crazy. This person is doing all this constantly. I’m moving out though in two weeks. At the distraction and giult part really hit home! Also gasslighting.

Absolutely I am totally drained!

I’ve experienced them all and I’m ashamed to say that I’ve been guilty of most! I’m a work in progress!

God bless you Amber for using your gift and wisdom to share this valuable information to all of us who are experiencing these behaviors and trying to work through it all. ❤

Thank you! I'm a strong & educated woman who's been in a 10 yr relationship with a gaslighter who has zero ability to communicate about anything at all. Ive been stonewalled the majority of the 10 yrs & am just a shell of who I once was. In response to the stonewall, I go ape 💩 & now it's worse than ever. I don't even know who I am anymore but am completely broken. I'm afraid I don't have the strength to get myself well again. Your videos have taught me so much & I appreciate your dedication to providing this information. I have to keep going because I have kids who need me but I'm so tired. There has to be others out there who feel the same way. Why have I been so committed to this mess?

Your mentioning a distinction between holding a limit with a personal boundary and trying to control somebody else to meet a personal need or want is just what I needed to hear. Thank you for putting out this encouraging material. It seems like every time I hear another way of putting something into words, it helps strengthen my sense of what a boundary is. Learning to identify needs and wants and to make requests being open to yes or no responses is a big deal when manipulation or do without are the only tools in the box. Thanks for the help to develop a healthier understanding of behavioral health.

You are amazing. I love the examples. When you help with the actual words to say. Boundaries are such a life skill. Boundaries with an addict is like taking a masterclass in boundaries. Keep posting!

This channel is saving my life bc sometimes I get so angry dealing with the particular family member I don’t know what tf to do

Addiction can only live in the darkness. Call out what's happening w/out emotion: "I feel like you're emotionally blackmailing me, 1. Display of inadequacy 2. Gaslighting 3. Guilt-straction - curveball topic to avoid discussion/responsibility 4. Pestering - wear you down until you're exhausted 5. Threatening - if you don't do this, this bad thing will happen. Take the person's worse fear as leverage to get the other person to do what the addict wants. Addiction can only live in the darkness. Call out what's happening w/out emotion: "I feel like you're emotionally blackmailing me." "If you're trying to pester me, that' not gonna work." Instead of arguing about the trash, talk about the process: "why do we always get into an argument about the trash?"

I'm at the point in my marriage to an alcoholic that I want to leave . I've been going to alanon for 3 plus years I just can't live with this anymore. 😭thank you for sharing all your wisdom!!

I feel you are pointing out everything my son does. I have 2 adult addict sons and I have experienced all of these. 😢

My ex pulled out number five when our child overdosed. She overdosed during covid after three years of sobriety. At the time, I was watching every video you put out. During her treatment you literally helped me every step of the way. We were really healing. I wanted to thank you for that.I was lucky my daughter did have three years sobriety that included 28 months of treatment. Unfortunately, we did lose her. Her father refused to attend the funeral because the seating was limited and he didn't want to see my youngest child. It was only because of previous videos that I recognized his manipulation. I called it out. He didn't come. I wasn't surprised

You have no idea how your videos help. Addictions are devastating and crippling to many.* I’ve never heard anyone explain things in ways you do. Down to earth. Young lady, you are* very instrumental in saving lives. Thank you

in my idiction i did it my self to my own poore granmother cause she loves me so much she will most of the time give me what i wanted cause i will tell her i was gonna go do something crazy to get it if if she didint.I WAS SO FUCKED UP FOR DOING THAT AND MORE....I NEVER GRT TIRER OF BRINGIN IT UP TO HER ASKING FOR FORGIVENESS OVER AND OVER AND SHE OF COURSE WILL TELL ME HOW SHE ALREADY FORGAVE ME LONG AGO.SHES A AMAZING WOMAN,SHE RAISE ME,SHE WAS MY GRANMOTHER/MOTHER CAUSE MY MOM WASENT AROUND AS MUCH AS HER.IM VERY GREATFUL FOR HER FORGIVENESS AND WILL NEVER DO IT AGAING.IM AN ADDIC AND I BEEN LERNING SO MUC FRO YOUR VIDEOS,IM VERY THANKFULL FOR YOU TAKING THE TIME TO MAKE THEM.TODAY IT WAS THE FIRST TIME I DISCOVER UR VIDEOS AND I HAD LURN SO MUSH IN LIL BIT OF TIME OF WATCHING THEM!!! THERE AMAZING,NO,YOU AMAZING!!!GOD BLESS YOU WITH MUCH MORE KNOLEDGE AND WISDON WOW THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!

My son is 20 he does almost all the tactics you are talking about! I never know how to get it stop! It makes life so hard! Every time he can wear me down! Thank you for all your helpful words!

One tactic I didn't see you mention here is what I call -- the Stone Wall. It is when the person just stands there without showing any kind of emotion and doesn't speak at all when you are trying to avoid something or get your way. My daughter was a "master" at this when she was younger until I figured out how to counter it (which took years!). Example: "Can you clean your room honey before coming down for dinner?" --- stone wall. "Did you hear me? Can you clean your room?" -- stone wall. "Hello? Is there anyone there?!" -- stone wall. It will drive you absolutely crazy! I actually took her to the Dr. multiple times to have her hearing checked because I thought she might be deaf or have a mental problem. Whenever there was something she didn't want to do, she would use that tactic and it had me questioning my sanity. There was no way you could feel good about your parenting because you had no idea what was going on in her head....was she scared, angry, didn't hear you, avoiding, ?????? You have nothing to argue, talk, or act upon because there was no response and it had me questioning everything I did. Was I being to hard on her or not hard enough? Did she have some medical condition or was she fine and just trying to get her own way? For those dealing with 'pestering' behavior, this is a great tactic....just stand there and say and do nothing while looking right at them.....eventually they will fade off and go away because they aren't getting a reaction and they have nothing to do except listen to themselves rant.

I love your channel, you are knowledgeable about the human psyche and your videos are so helpful.

Thank you, Amber. I have dealt with all these things with my addicted son. I need a break. Your channel has been very helpful.

I call it the blame game when someone tries to control the conversation using the tactic of distracting you with bringing up something you, or someone else did as a way to justify their bad behavior and choices (deflection for the win). That's when I tell them that everything is a choice and we all make good and bad choices. Owning those choices instead of blaming someone else for them is important and a sign of emotional maturity. I also point out that no one should have the power to control them like that. I am essentially giving them no excuse to justify their bad choices and making them own their choices, along with the consequences of those choices. I usually do not get any push back when I go over all of that with them. At the same time, I need to make sure I practice what I preach. LOL We all have to keep ourselves in check, there are so many pitfalls we can find ourselves in!! When someone tries to play the blame game with me, it drives me nuts. My ex husband used that when he was abusing prescription drugs, my middle child does that when I catch him not doing his chores. Both of my boys do it when they are trying to defend their choice for continuing a needless argument. My addict sister does that trying to make me out to be the bad guy in our family so she can keep controlling my family members (so difficult to watch, BTW). I find that boundaries are so important and they help a lot! My problem is, more often than not, my boundaries will be what I call 'turtling' - hiding underneath my protective shell. I will completely withdraw from these people who I find I am too vulnerable towards (and frankly, do not deserve that vulnerability) and I want nothing to do with them. I don't think this is really a healthy way of dealing with these people (because they are family or an ex husband who I will have to deal with, regardless). I am curious what you have to say about that, Amber. How far should I take the boundaries when it is just not realistic?

One of your best live views! True reality on these tactics ... thank you for all your help 🙏

Family member is in crisis now, and I am so thankful I have you to learn from and guide me 😊

Thank you! I think we all have a degree of God given ability to recognize bad behaviors, but perhaps are too busy living complicated lives to slow down enough to analyze.

You're so helpful, I am learning lots. The gaslighting messes up my head so much I freeze. Pestering, my child was gifted here. I have done the if you won't pay attention to me, someone will. That's an ugly place to be. To say that and to feel that neglected bad place to be.

I recently discovered and subscribed to your channel. I love listening to your videos. I grew up in an addictive family. I still struggle will addictive personality traits and have made many, many mistakes over the years. My ex step-brother had been gaslighting me after my mother passed away a few years ago. I slowly pulled away from being under his 'control' as he had himself named as the primary trustee and was determined to keep as ;much of my family's inheritance as he could. By the Grace of God, my daughter and I were able to move away and cut all ties with him and his family. He refuses to close my mother's Trust, but I see that as him having some very deep-seated issues within himself. I've been a single mom for many years and love being independent. I've made the deluded mistakes that you speak of and can look back and see how many times I would convince myself that it was all okay at the time. Thank yiou for sharing your knowledge with us!!

I have to say thank you!!! You have been helping me in this horrible time in my family lives..

I can’t believe it didn’t look for support earlier on this trauma

I am so delighted I found you. You are excellent at explaining things without black and white thinking. Thank you

I’m new and love your videos. I can’t find an Alanon group close to me so watching these helps me through my day. Thank you!

You have described just about my entire relationship in just 5 steps! I will definitely try the disarming method! He always throws me the curve ball. And the topic he moves onto isn’t even “important” it’s just to sidetrack! And the blackmail manipulation is real! We share 2 children! I’ve been a stay at home mom for 6 years and just went to work part time! And that’s all I have to say!

drug/alcohol, recently admitted 30yr old son. I've done everything wrong!!!!! You have made this easier to understand but harder to navigate. I thought i could hold the line and let this be all his. Run and hide. But it's more like duck n weave? No easy way out of it. No quick fix. Thanks for the wisdom! Pray for us.

You really describe the manipulations commonly used by addicted persons very well ! Thank you for these insightful strategies to help deal with addicted persons

I have a friend that calls #3, the archeologist. Her husband would constantly "dig" up things from her past during an argument.

I am so grateful that I found your page. My significant other is currently in rehab and my mental state was in a whirlwind. You have helped me understand

"Guiltstraction" Perfect! Thank you for expanding our language resources. Also, "the worst thing you can do is let it work." And "call it out" in a calm matter of fact kind of way. Good stuff. The light you're shining on behaviors and accountability is helping a lot to see the "communication housekeeping" I need to be doing. I really appreciate your distinguishing the content and the process. Exhausting work. Encouraging to have help identifying the manipulative behavior. Wow. Puffer Fish. Thank you for your work.

Thank you so much ❤️ I was feeling like the bad guy... my heart still aches... but I know I’m doing the right thing, as difficult as it is for me to do.

Thank you for all your videos. I have not been able to help my addicted love one, but I was able to save myself.

thank you again. Having been the addict and now the family member watching a child struggle is well overwhelming at times. In the videos of yours that I've seen so far, you seem to speak Truth. Like many who suffer from addition, we have done or experienced all this, not just this one topic. So far, I beleive you know of what you speak and seem Earnest. Thank you. I plan on devouring more and more or your content. My next will be about denial and blame cause that's where our family is it it seems. So sad. But we have faith. Shalom!

Great video, I love your accent 😍 my husband is a master and guiltstraction, thanks so much for putting a name on it! I haven't told him I know he's addicted. I need to get me and my kids to safety first. But I thought once I was gone I would tell him "it's either you quit or you won't see us again" but I've realised that thats emotional blackmail. It's not that I don't want to see him again, or want him to see his kids. I just want him to be motivated to stop. He was the best husband, and he didn't use these manipulation tactics before he started drugs. It's heartbreaking

You are a gosh darn psychic. I recognized most all of these in myself as the codependent loved one of an addict...and I realized I don’t manipulate anyone else this way and would dream of doing that. Only the addict in my life...it’s like it’s gotten to a point where the rules are that we treat each other so badly that anything is fair game.

This is so important. Thank you for empowering people❤️

My daughter use #5 often with me but now I am going to work how to deal with the situation. Thank you , I need to watch more of your videos 🕊. When I try to confront her ,almost immediately she will ask me to live .

Thanks you Amber Hollingsworth for guiding me through this 1st time experience...was feeling lost and unsure yet resisting resentment and bitterness. Your voice and natural speech pattern is melodic and soothing. Bless you abundantly always!

I’ve dealt with every single one. Almost daily. And I’m guilty of number 4 when trying to get the truth. I will not give up. I’m working on it though

Thanks for all of your helpful videos. I now know that I am not alone in dealing with my adult addict son. Truly awful days.

My AS has always worn me down, even as a child. He was and is relentless. I have given in to just about every demand he's ever had. When my husband, his father died when he was 10, I then compensated for that which is why I feel just terrible, guilty, and very responsible for his addictions and the problems it has caused. He us 24 now, he continues to manipulate and with each unpleasant situation, I can see that no matter how I try to help him, nothing I do works. I have to pull away at this point.

I had a “friend” who did this. Starting to watch the video and the first and third point resonated *reaaaallly* close to home. Thank you for this, it really validated what I was feeling at the time.

I absolutely do the pestering, because it drives me nuts to leave conversations just tense and unresolved. I would rather get the truth out and know where he stands, even if its going to be an angry conversation.

It seems to me that another name for display of inadequacy is. [ learned helplessness ]

I have done all these without knowing that I was really doing it, and I've been a victim of these 5 things as well....While listening to her explaining what each of the five were, In my mind I'm ready to fire off and look at ppl a little differently, but then I had to step back at look at myself...🤷‍♀️.. very interesting..I like the way she explains things in a down to earth manner.....So when can I get an appt?? 🤣🤣🤣

I think I’ll be Coming back to these videos and Ask questions when I have the time. I recognize almost all of it.

Amber - you should write a book - great how you can put into words what often we do not realise is even happening - often alcoholics are stuck in a childhood age level and why they use childish tactics

I’m new here.......hi from Australia!!! My husband is currently in treatment yay nearly 2 weeks now

Yes, I have done this. My son is an addict and he has done the pestering me until I cracked. We can't be in the same house because I get so aggravated with him.

I have went through all of this and more too many time. Brave me speaking out as you joked; I learned and did it some myself. Sadly. I am so happy to have come across your video and I hope you have more. Going to check out your page. Much love 💗

I've shared with two of my friends who have adult children with addictions. I've learned that they are masters of manipulation and will find a way to manipulate money from their parent.

You are a blessing, thank you for speaking frankly!👏🏻👏🏻

I'm not sure my comment has much to do with this video, but I've just found your channel and I'm so relieved to find a community of people who are also struggling. I just needed a place to voice how I am coping with everything, especially during COVID. I'm struggling with how to interact with my boyfriend who is currently struggling with a drug addiction for about 5/6 years now - he is in denial. I feel worried about seeming controlling to him when i beg him to stop and say I'm going to leave, I feel like it turns me into a horrible person as I just get so angry, telling him to stop and its his choice, I can feel myself being horrible to make him feel bad and its toxic. I can see myself wanting to make him feel as bad as I do even though I know he's ashamed already. I know its the wrong way to behave but its so hard, I feel I have to take myself out of the situation now, we have to live separately as I can't deal with it anymore and he will not accept help. But I get overtaken with the guilt of leaving him to look after himself, but as much as I want to support and him, I am destroying myself at the same time. everything is going in circles and I don't know what the right step is.

Just starting to build boundaries for myself, an learning to stop being manipulated that you for helping me find hope , in this relationship with someone I've been in love with for 4 year's for an addict , I almost lost myself completely thanks again

Such a great video. So helpful.

Im new to your channel. I wish i never had to join. But thank you so much, i felt crazy for a long time....but with your videos i see more clear now.THANK YOU ! MERCI (in my language ;) )

Wow about the best video I’ve watched of yours yet. So amazing your information and style! Thanks for your contribution to people needing to learn and be acknowledged

Im new here. Didn't drop in for addiction but you hit the nail dead on about this with recovering from narc abuse. Difficult setting boundaries and confrontation.

Adult here: who had functioning alcoholic parents and I totally love this!!

You're videos see really helping with things I wasn't aware of.

I've had all of these done to me. Thank you for giving me practical advice.

Hi I am new here your videos are great! And just the couple videos I’ve watched have already so helpful

Hi Amber. I've watched this before and I'm watching it again because it's so helpful to me. Thank you. I appreciate you. I'm going through a very difficult time with my 34 year old addictive son. Taking one day at a time. Be blessed. 🌹🙏💗

Thank you for this. I have experienced all of these tactics. It is exhausting

Amber do you have a video on an alcoholics temper or fighting mode or their rages that they get into? And what do you suggest we should do when an alcoholic becomes uncontrollably in a rage? This happened to me several times with my family member and it happened several days ago while I was driving that I got to the place I could not think. I was traumatized I cried for days and I wrote him you will never be around me again while you drink...

I find that the most common strategy that is used involves manipulating the truth. There are many forms of gaslighting but I've come across the following quite often and they can be quite elaborate and subtle ; dribble revelation (revealing just certain parts of the truth, requiring the other person to play detective by asking a series of specific questions, worded the right way, to get the whole truth or story), and playing on words to set up or maintain an illusion (if you ask for example "Did you stop by the liquor store?" you get a response that is technically true, such as "I wouldn't even have had time to do that today because I worked late!" when actually they did go buy alcohol but they did it the day before, at an atypical time), all of which serves to avoid shame and accountability whilst enabling themselves to counter any fact-seeking or calling-out from others with a defensive or dismissive stance, complaining that they "didn't lie", that they are feeling "attacked", that it's "not fair", that the other is "never satisfied", maintaining that they "don't deserve to be grilled like this" that we're "nagging", "unpleasant"', and/or saying "Okay you don't even believe the truth so just believe whatever you want". We usually become aware of these strategies when later faced with conflicting information (for example, the addicted person uses within hours of having responded to aforementioned question, without having possibly had an opprtunity to buy what's necessary). This is exhausting, it requires loved ones to try to stay one step ahead of the substance abuser if they don't want to constantly question their own perception of reality, behavior, motives and even their own sanity. We try to anticipate the kinds of answers the addicted person tends to give and think in advance about how to formulate our questions in an attempt to find the shortest path to the truth. We do this to try to anticipate how the substance abuser's behavior is going to affect us, and to avoid feeling blindsided. Rather quickly this leads to chronic anxiety, frustration, depression and codependance. Some of the the keys to healing from codependancy are, as Amber has pointed out so brilliantly, the follwing: Know that one can never expect a person that is struggling with addiction to meet the emotional needs of others. They are just not in a position of being capable of doing so, no matter how motivated they may be. Learn to recognize the manipulative behaviors and call them out, without creating drama or using manipulation tactics oneself Set good boundaries, respect and enforce them, and accept that you can do certain things to support someone's recovery but you cannot shame, enable, love, resent or reason them out of their addiction. Thank you Amber for helping so many people who are struggling with addiction, as well as their loved ones, by imparting your wisdom ! ❤️

I’m loosing my own physical and mental health and finances to the point that is detrimental. I don’t mean it as a threat or manipulation(I think). I have told him I can only help in recovery, and he has to be in a program and have a sponsor. Sometimes I feel like I’m being emotionally pistol whipped because my own mental resources are so low. I also feel like I can’t have certain conversations because I can see he is not in a place to hear me.

Guilt-straction: bringing up wrong things I have done in the past that I have admitted, apologized for, and supposedly we have resolved. Some things from 30 years past, and I am not even the same person anymore. Threats: I won't do what I know you need done if you don't drop everything and do this for me.

My adult son does this to me all the time pester, pester and I finally give in....pester, pester I am insane from it!

It’s hard when you do call it out and they just double down into the next one. It’s painful as they don’t acknowledge how it’s hurting you.

Great insights, thanks for sharing. My X pesters my kids to death, so they give up. I didn't know how to identify it before, but I just knew it was wrong. Thanks for giving it a name.

I've been trying to 'Call it Out'. Staying very calm, with matter of fact speak and removing myself from the situation. It will de-escalate the situation in the moment, I think because Drunk Brain can't formulate a response in the moment... but then he just dwells on being shut down and not being able to suck me into a fight for a few days. So the next day or a few days later the call out will be bought back up... but always with a twist that works it into him being the victim. i.e You yelled at me... You said Blah and you don't care... So I am finding myself having to call out the call out if that makes sense. It's a never ending wheel I am running on like a little hamster.

I used better help counseling & didn't feel like I got any help really , but these videos are very helpful .

I definitely want to speak to you all these topics I am exp right now it’s amazing feel like a blind fold was removed

Omgosh!!! When my son was an “active” addict, I would literally get sick to my stomach when I saw his number come up on my phone because I knew he needed/wanted something. I still do that sometimes even now that he is in recovery when 9/10 times he is not asking for anything.

40 year old brother doing all of these to my parents which were enablers out of guilt/love/fear of throwing them into the streets to the point of being almost financially strained until this Friday., they were out of the country and he brought in homeless addicts into the house!!! my uncle happend to be in the neighborhood and drive by the house and saw these random people going in and out, called my parents, my parent's called me and there I was calling 911 to have all these people out of the house only to be told they can't really do much because my bother lives there and he can invite in anyone he wants...but since he had pending warrants they were able to have him taken away...my parents flew back home that same night to see what mess there was in the house, trash, crack pipes, rotten food etc...they said they reached their limit of patience with him and finally kicked him out once he got released not before he trying another victim pun and then switched to a aggravated discussion insulting them and their "old rotten" house and walking out., just bought some ring cameras for their house and on my way to have them set up and yes, firsg time watching your videos which are very educational and very helpful in these moments

Hi I am new and very happy to be here!

My son does the "guilt-straction" all the time. Only I haven't been caving into that for a long time now.

you super great but I must notice you that 13 minutes video is hard to concentrate so you made some video about one subject and it was much clear and easy to understand don' t forget that a lot people English is not their mother tongue except this you are simply amazing