What is Emotional Abuse? | The Top Emotional Abuse Warning Signs 

The anxiety that someone gets from a relationship like this is ridiculous. In a way you end up losing your true self and start questioning your entire life

Over the years, I have learned that abusers only recognize their own boundaries. To them, everybody else's boundaries don't matter.

Abusers also have a certain amnesia when you try to call them on their abuse: ..."When did I ever do THAT???? Name ONE time!"

In so messed up in the head that I have watched almost every video on emotional abuse just to be sure

I’m always made to feel wrong for having emotions. The “Why you being so sensitive “ hits me a lot .

It's difficult to set boundaries around someone who has no idea of the abuse they're inflicting. They are always right, your feelings don't matter and they will never say sorry or back down from an argument. Best to walk away.

Holy crap, you just read the whole story of my 40-year marriage! We are now divorced, bankrupt and had our house foreclosed. Although I am seeing a therapist, there is only so much she can do to help me try to overcome this utter brokenness. Narcissists love to find empaths, then they destroy them.

Pushes boundaries. Doesn’t accept no. Belittling. Silent treatment. Passive aggressive comments . Put downs. Double standards. Blames you for everything. Lying. Cheating. Never happy for you. Controlling. Puts down your choices. Guilt tripping. Perfectly describes the narcissist I just escaped from...

Emotional abuse is such a serious problem. It is life threatening . You can often observe the symptomps of it in the people who are the victims. They are often sensitive, empathic individuals maybe with some history of childhood abuse who have unhealed trauma, CPTSD or similar problems and they fall prey to manipulative, controlling predatory individuals who drain the life out of them. Sometimes you watch people fading away because of the emotional abuse they are subjected to. Julia, your videos are saving people’s lives. Keep making them, please.

Sadly, just knowing his childhood was bad, made me work harder to help him. Waste of time.

It hurts my heart to the core to hear that those who are abusers were usually abused themselves. I was sexually, physically and emotionally abused and I would NEVER hurt another child in any way. I was further traumatized as a child when adults tried to sweep the abusers behaviors under the carpet by saying they were abused themselves and couldn't control it. I was told as a young child to forgive/understand my molester because he was molested by his father. And that was it. I was never gotten any counseling or put in a home where I felt safe or loved. I was soooooooooooo afraid that I was going to become an abuser because my abusers always told me they couldn't help it because they were abused too that I chose not to get married or have children. However, I am a social worker and I do everything I can to protect children. I'm almost 50 and finally getting the therapy I should have gotten as a child or in my 20's.

I used to ask “why are you even married to me if I upset you so much?”

My mom was really emotionally abusive. She really messed me up growing up. I think that is why I ended up with an emotionally abusive boyfriend. Thank god I finally got away from him.

Lying in an “intimate” relationship is abuse.

I was abused, won't say how, but I can tell you that this is true. You don't know untill you're older and it just makes you feel worthless. Please, PLEASE get help before you're 38 years old and are too scared to even go out in public like I am.Not sure if I'm dealing with a narcissist or an abusive person. But it feels the same to me. Both are Bad!

While curiously affording themselves all of the feelings and rights that they deny you.

SUCH a mindfuck, and totally heartbreaking. Was able to be fairly tolerant of it, up until recently. DONE with all of it. ZERO tolerance policy at this point.

I get physically affected. There’s a definite cycle to it and when it gets bad I develop debilitating headaches, stomach queasiness, sore muscles and joints, inability to catch breath, wandering thoughts and lack of focus and clarity. All accompanied with this urge to vomit.

My father was emotionally abusive to me. When he passed on, my mother asked me if I missed him. When I took time answering, she said "What's to miss?" She knew how he treated her, me, and others.

This applies to friendships too. I only just realised recently that a close 10 year friendship was emotionally abusive. I feel amazing since it has ended!!

It is traumatizing! I have flashbacks every day of the emotional abuse my last boyfriend put me thru.

married 29 years, 9 out of 10. I have know for a long time, but it is so hard to break away from. The psychological damage is so hard to deal with and re-train your brain to stand up for yourself.

Gaslighting and blameshifting. So hard to deal with because it’s subtle and you cannot explain to someone about how you come to feel abused- but you feel it. Such a hard place to be

The hardest thing I've ever had to do was not just recognize, stand up to & end abusive relationships in my life (which is most all of them)....Ive grown to realize it's actually using the pain, harm & consequences I've experienced for something positive & good for all humankind, not just saving my own self...using your voice, story & harm to help others also standing in your shoes.

This makes me so sad. I'm realizing now that I've probably been in an emotionally abusive relationship for 9 years, and it's a hard pill to swallow when I have loved this person, been married to this person, been committed to somebody that could do these things, intentionally or unintentionally. I have felt this way for such a long time, that I thought I was going crazy. But maybe now I see, it's not me. Thank you for your wisdom.

I needed this tonight! My whole story right now! No matter how much I love this person they will never see it! I have been pushed to my limit and now I’m saying things out of anger bc its to much to deal with.

38 years of marriage. When he passed , I had difficulty understanding the feeling of being relaxed, peaceful. Kept telling my BFF I feel weird. She said you are free of the abuse. I love the quiet now. My verbal skills have improved. My sleep is better. My migraines are fewer. No indigestion. Lost weight. It’s taken 4 yrs. Still not all the way there. What you’re describing is exactly what happened. I lived my Christian married vows. I do not “ever” want another relationship, definitely hate the thought of Marriage. Never ever again. I love my freedom. Marriage is slavery. I will never encourage anyone to get married. I love Jesus. He included women throughout HIS ministry. I do not believe today that he meant for us to be Slaves to men. I pray God will give me an additional 38 years of life or more as a reward for all that suffering. To be really alive and be myself again. The person HE created.

My family was so emotionally abused me. I'm the black sheep of the family, so why not hurt me.I can't wait to move away from them just for my sanity.

Im crying rigth now, i did't wanted to realize this... now i know i always felt inferior with my 7 year relationship...

I was married to someone who did every single one of those things ALL the time. The divorce should be final soon and I'm ready for my new life ;)

Wow! That's me. I did'nt even realise it and thought that I was the one in the wrong all the time. But am waking up now..

Physical, Emotional, Mental Abuse, and Bigotry. Physical and emotional abusers have something in common: The abuser is trying to control someone else. When they can't get someone to do something, or when they realise that they don't have control, they react. If you are being abused, you should try to remove yourself from these situations. After all who, wants to be constantly yelled at by an angry person? People often can't control their feelings. They'll curse you and say hateful things. These people will take it out on you if they are having a bad day. A Bigot is a person who does not tolerate other peoples opinions. In my opinion: Try to be sensitive to other peoples feelings and not ONE WAY, but Don't be a victim of abuse. Remember the Golden Rule, Treat others the way you would like to be treated. You will feel better about yourself when you look in the mirror. Pray for them, and seek to find approval with God. "Father forgive them for they know not what they do." Then stay away instead of being a victim. Avoid people who are insensitive and that do not tolerate opinions and feelings of others.

This video is a perfect description of my childhood and early adulthood. It basically describes my mother completely. Since she was my sole caretaker and I was an only child I got the full force of it. It has taken me till my thirties to even realize how bad things were and how much it has affected me. We rarely communicate now but the effects are still there and they are a constant struggle.

Excellent video. What makes it even harder is that the more you stand up for yourself, the more threatened they feel and the more they turn up the heat. Equal isn’t equal to them until they’re on top. So, unless you figure out their crazy-ass games and disengage, the drama will escalate until you’re finally left broken, alone, and in an emotional heap. (They turn others against you.) Still, if that’s what it takes to finally be out of their world, so be it. You’ll be free. It’ll take time to heal, but you’ll be so much stronger - and hopefully wiser.

It’s one thing to accept you’re in an abusive relationship and leave, but a completely other thing to accept that you allowed that treatment for so long. It’s a long road to recover from these relationships!

Your video did make me realize, I'm in an emotional abuse relationship,and sometimes I give it back 😡(not sure if it's worth it)

Every single one! So sad when you love that person.

Sounds to me like you're describing narcissism.

Oh wow. Thank you for clearly explaining what emotional abuse is. After 30+ years of abuse and gaslighting its hard to even know the truth anymore, but I trust God can and will heal me with my own effort of course. Thanks again.

Yes, I like this quote....."Hurt people, hurt people." I'm still struggling with the after effects of emotional abuse, and it's been many years since I got out. It took a long time to realize the emotional abuse, until my child was suicidal. But we are happy and free now, and healing does happen, with consistent effort and counseling. And now we can find excellent help on RU-vid! Thank you for your excellent video's!! You make a difference!

I just realized that this is me. My whole life this was how I was being treated by my own parents, especially my mom who admitted her own mom was mentally ill, and was mean to her, so I grew up thinking this was normal and acceptable behavior not knowing that I even did it my self to others, especially my boyfriend. In reality this is often a result of feeling disappointed, feeling hurt, not having the support or empathy and understanding from a loved one that you thought was a given, so you respond with threats and try to punish the other person because you want them to hurt as they hurt you. You want them to be really sad, and inflict emotional pain onto them for making you feel this way. I also realized I am not the only one. Many a person around me does this as well...often totally aware, but we do it anyway out of resentment and anger.

Legitimately I was in a relationship where I get emotionally abuse and my anxiety Increased and I feel like I lost my True self and I feel like I will never really find that true part of me again

I love how your videos are gender neutral so anyone can relate to the material. Most abuse videos are focused on female victims and I've been fortunate enough to find a few male victim channels out there.. you're so easy to listen to and provide the perfect level of enthusiasm. Thank you so much for your work!

I was in an emotionally abusive relationship for three years and videos like this one have helped me so much with identifying what I went through. I'm so grateful to be free again. Thank you for all that you do.

My mom wasn't subtle about her actions at all. I grew up being screamed at and called worthless and a burden for so long... some of the points fit, but for me it was just... more than that. Using body language to seem intimidating and like I was going to be hit. How people viewed her was more important than taking care of her family. Putting money towards material unnecessary things was more important than feeding me and my little sister. I was terrified of touching anything at another person's house when visiting because if I did, when I got home I would get yelled at. Even after I became an adult, even being at another person's house would cause me extreme anxiety. I would startle awake every time someone opened my bedroom door (I still do) and have to control my breathing to calm down if it was just something innocent because she would practically break down my door every morning before school and on weekends before church. I had no privacy. I couldn't keep a journal, I didn't have a safe space. All attempts at privacy would be violated and then I would be confronted on my innermost thoughts and feelings later. It was so bad that even to this day, I can't have a journal or a diary due to the feelings associated with it. When I finally told my mom why I had so many problems with her and why I needed therapy and basically "confronted my abuse" about a month or so ago, she gas lighted me and said "There is no evidence in your medical records, I can pull them and show you. I can even get people who have known you your entire life to tell you what _actually_ happened. You were not abused at all. You're making things up. You've always had a very active imagination."

Three times I totally fell in love with emotionally abusive men that raged at me. I am taking now responsibility of going to therapy because it's my pattern. I was yelled a lot as a child. It's a huge challenge, but I may have to start seeing my long term future as being happy alone and single. For me hurtful love is an addiction.

Okay, so all these hit home. It has taken me many years to realize everything was a lie. Manipulation, control and using the legal process to keep me “chasing my tail”, I’m thankful for FINALLY realizing this. After thirty five years of life experience, two beautiful children, I can say I have a VOICE! Now, I want to help others find themselves instead of giving so many years to the evil ways that man uses others. Thank you for your information.

I have been emotionally abused by my brother. When I was growing up he used to tell me what to watch on tv or not to watch or criticized the type of music I enjoyed listening to. Now I cut him out of my life because he has been manipulative towards me. It hurt my self esteem and made me smaller. Thanks for your video Julia.

Straight up Jezebel. Had a pastor do this to me. Had to leave the church.

When you are not willing to grow and heal for a relationship ♥️♥️ the relationship has no foundation !!!! When you have a beautiful person in your life and you take that person for granted!!!! You do not deserve to be blessed in your life with that person 💖💖💖

My heart is racing. Only 2 of these are not true and it's because I trust myself enough to not let him control my mind. But he does or at least tries to do all of this. I live with this person and I don't know how to leave. I wanna cry.

Alright this hurts because I never actually realised this was emotional abuse...not only does my mom do it but I do it to my friend...where is she I need to give her a hug and apologize holy crap...

This nailed it!!! I just discovered my 8 year "casual relationship" fits the description of what is called the covert narcissistic personality and as I started to do that research I see why I have been living like a walking zombie for the past years not knowing what is wrong with me and why I can't even achieve the most simplest of tasks. I knew there was something wrong inside of me that I could not understand and since I am a highly sensitive person it seemed as if my sensitivity had just gone haywire and Amplified go my focus has been on self-healing self-awareness and I appreciate videos like this because it really makes it clear where the abuse occurs even when you least expect it.

2 years ago, i saw this video. It started me on a journey that opened my eyes to the level of confusion and contempt i was receiving from my wife. The affair was the last straw. I ended up learning about covert narcissism and she checked all the boxes. Today this video showed up in my feed and reminded me how far ive come. Kicked her out 9/4/22, got divorced march of 2023, sold the house and moved to Maui. Life is good.

Wtf 20 years of this, sooooooooo done Thanks for the explanation

Such an important (and complex...and common) issue to address. Thank you so much Julia!

My husband was physically & emotionally abusive ! God blessed me, by letting me Outlive him !

Omgosh Julia! I'm sitting here with my other half & we have been watching your videos that started with me curious about "how to understand a loved one that struggles w/ depression" & 7ish videos later it has landed us here. so to my sickness i've dealt with, I just watched you speak it into an understanding in real time. like wow! How I can just already feel & start to even see the healing that its going to bring into my life, relationships & rest of my life. So thank you, we thank you for just being and doing what you do. ~Chris & Lisa.

The solution is ALWAYS strong, healthy self esteem!!!!! These people won't bother with people who have clear boundaries and self worth.

"my friend wants to hang out on Friday. Can you watch the kids so I can go?" Would be responded with either "must be nice to have friends." "Why can't I go with you? You don't think I work hard enough to get a break as well?"

This is wild because my parents checked off basically ALL the boxes. It's so hard to explain to others the abuse and the aftermath that's still affecting my life to this day. They think they're such awesome people because materially they did a lot for me - but emotionally they are so lost and refuse to get help or even acknowledge what they've done...I'm the only one in my family who became self aware enough to even attempt to heal...

Extremely well summed up. Very clear. Thank you.

Thank you so much for this. It's scary how many points you made that align with my past toxic friendship. The individual I was friends with used to flirt with me and push boundaries that made me feel that there was something romantic brewing under the surface. For a while, I went along with the advances thinking they were just being overly friendly and that it was their nature to be more affectionate. However, after a while I expressed how I was uncomfortable with their touchiness and how telling me 'I love you' was out of bounds and that it all needed to stop immediately. I'm very loyal to the ones I love and unfortunately I tolerated for too long what I now can see was an emotionally abusive relationship. After 1.5 years and with the support of my therapist and close friends, I made the jump and ended the 'friendship'. It is one of the best choices I've ever made in my life. Today, I struggle with some symptoms of anxiety but I'm working through that with the help of the Holy Spirit and a Christian counselor. There is hope out there for anyone who feels like they're suffocating and have lost themselves. Don't give up and seek help.

This is exactly what is happening to me.

I used to believe that my husband had been a good person when I married him but that I had ruined his character in some way by ‘spoiling’ him. I figured that anyone at all would treat me that way because of who I was. Now I realize that it is not me, but it is who they are.

I have dealt with this in the courtroom with my son . His dad has brainwashed him. It’s been awful, beyond awful. It’s been 10 years of “I’m crazy” but I know I am not. My son knows I am not. Thank you so much for sticking up for us! ❤

I've found this site and watched a few videos so far and every single one of them have been spot on about what my mother and sister have been doing to me from birth to today 46 yrs its been going on and its only recently i've learned about gaslighting and the mental and emotional abuse i have suffered from them. I just want to say thankyou for your videos i am learning a lot about what they are doing everything u have said is 100% accurate with what they are doing to me

I grew up in an alcoholic, abusive home with other issues in the home as well... handicapped sister, dying grandparents, my parents having another baby to keep the family together. (It worked!) I was kicked out at 18 as indomitable and unwanted extra baggage. I am still healing at 67 years of age!

Oh my god, I am only at #8 and I had to stop the video to comment!!! This video is making sense of the total INSANITY that I have been living for the last 3 years. I ended a relationship no less than 12 times with this guy and every time I ended it, he would find a way to contact me and the result would be these AMAZING conversations. Somehow, after each breakup, he would show up having all the empathy, understanding, clarity, communication skills, and gentleness that he lacked while we were together. It was so attractive that I would give in and the whole cycle would just begin again. I absolutely ALWAYS felt like I was losing my mind after talking with him. I was completely baffled after listening to what he would tell me and wonder how in the hell I had the "off" perceptions that I had. Now, thanks to this video, I do NOT feel crazy. I had an interaction with him over the weekend and even that one small interaction resulted in so much pain for me. I now realize how serious and dangerous this is to my health, mental and physical. I pray that I may never ever again act on the temptation to connect with him again. I could use some suggestions on how to keep oneself from contacting their abuser should they find themselves having a weak moment. I cannot thank you enough for posting this video.

3:28 1. No boundaries 4:28 2. Silent treatment as punishment 5:28 3. Passive aggressive 7:17 4. Inconsistent, disregard 5. ? Disregard you 8:27 6. Deflect responsibility 9:46 7. Lying. Denying. 11:05 8. Criticize. Demean. 11:55 9. Control decisions 12:28 10. Manipulation. Punishment. Play victim.

youre saving my life, thank you. I recognize myself so much! I quit drugs and alcoohol, going on my 3rd year free from alcoohol and recently quit marihuana. I can see clearly now that that kind of rain is gone. Unhealthy relationships with both of my brothers who were severly beaten and abused by my father. Of corse, they took it out on me. In fact, the whole familly is disfonctional. Moms a gambler. So my dad died this year and I promised I would be a good sister to them. Turns out Im not holding my promise and because of youre videos, Im feeling less and less guilt. Its hard to make that decision, but I've overcome so much its not time to quit now. I dont have much friends, but my co-workers apreciate me because I really believe in the Golden Rules, I hate violence and powertrippers. Im a lover not a fighter. Anyways, I am going to watch all your videos because I relate so much in everything you say and I will use youre videos to help others....less energy draining(haha) I just wanted to say thank you because my trust has been broken so much even with previous therapist who thought they knew it all but never got to know my passionate soul. You have a way of explaining that really packs a punch. Your affirmations are clear and undeniable, adding your tone of voice at the right moment in the sentence...Like seriously ...your my favorite Counselling experience ive come across. Let me finish by telling you I feel like crying because I know I have a lot of healing to do but thanks to you I will know what to write in my journals now. I wont feel like Im a complete Loser! Thank you very much Madame Kristina, from the bottom of my heart!

I have been emotionally abused mostly by my dad, less from my mum, this has happened my entire life - I only realised this yesterday! So now I'm limiting the amount of time I speak to my abusive father. Thanks truly for sharing this Julia it feels great to be understood, even if it's just a little bit.

Very informative and confirmative. Accurately described. Going through some of the things described in the video, but thankfully I have such a strong stance on my opinions and values that my would-be abusers ended up being powerless to try and shame, humiliate and guilt me to sway me from my opinions. It's videos like this that add on to my awareness, illumination, and self-improvement. Nothing but appreciation for this video and videos like this.

My parents are both like this and I’m struggling a lot. I have mental health issues I’m working on as well as trying to finish school. My biggest struggle is that my parents are refusing to let me get a job even though I turn 18 in less than half a year. They say it’s their house and their rules. I’ve made it clear to them that I can rely on myself to get myself to and from work since they refused to take me, and that school would always come first. It’s really confusing because one day my mom will be talking about some place that’s hiring people and how cool it would be if I worked there, and the next day she’s saying she forbids me from doing it and that school is going to be too hard for me and that I don’t want to take public transportation because of the bad people. They constantly put me down and make me feel so bad about myself. I haven’t been suicidal in a year but my parents make me feel like I am. They’ve told my therapist that I’m cutting when I’m not and that I’m super disrespectful. And no one believes me. Or if they do, they don’t take me seriously enough. We even had a family therapist who told my parents that they can’t keep saying harmful things and once she left, my parents started all over again. I can’t tell if I can even consider what they do as abuse because maybe I’m just too sensitive? Idk sorry for the rant. I know I’m three months late with this comment.

One of the best descriptions on emotional abuse on You Tube. I have watched them all. Fabulous job. Women abuse too, and I have endured it for decades.

Thank you so much for your videos. They’ve been amazing for me! I’m nowhere near where I need to be but I’ve successfully left my fiancé who was an abusive alcoholic and I honestly have you to thank for helping me see the light. X

Everyone I love does this to me.

Imagine being stuck in such a relationship. You left your country, everything behind to marry that person and then they took off the mask and become everything you tried avoiding in a relationship 😩

Great video. Thanks for posting. I look back in hindsight, on emotionally abusive people that I have known, and my biggest regret is that I didn't (peacefully) cut them off and that we didn't shake hands and go our separate ways.

This was incredibly eye-opening for me. My girlfriend has been doing all of this exactly as it's described. Until I watch this I never realized how toxic our relationship had become.

You are describing my relationship! I am so sad that all of these thing have happened to me. I don't like to think of myself as a victim, but I know I have been duped for years.

What makes videos like these very educational is that every single one of us, simply because we're human, has or does emotionally abuse somebody and most of the time not even realize it. It's not an excuse at all, but it's something that a lot of us should wake up to. Even beyond marriage and relationships, best friends, workplace relations, and family who can all be close and care deeply for each other, but might say things to each other more than you would to some joe blow on the street because in a way you feel like you can get away with it more because they know that you don't hate them and not trying to intentionally degrade them, but still, no matter what, we got to be as careful and aware as possible. Even when we have that one friend that we might overly make fun of, that could be a form of unaware emotional abuse. Even the littlest things can be emotionally abusive. Like I said, it's crazy that a lot of us are completely unaware that we are guilty of it to some degree.

Spot on, excellent. So pleased that 'emotional abuse' is now a proper topic of discussion. I am a product of it after decades of not realising it was happening to me INTENTIONALLY by the person in my family who still seeks to harm my emotions. It's insidious.

You have just changed my life ❤️

Emotional abusers make you feel wrong for having your emotions - rage, hurt, overwhelm, tears- that they cause by calling u crazy, childish, selfish, drama queen etc. How do you deal with one that drives u to the point where you get so wound up you literally kick and scream and want to lash out because they won't shut up hurling deep abuse at you? And then they say "I feel sorry for your poor daughter/grand kids/whatever"? when they caused this in the first place? How do you deal with this form of gaslighting and knocking down of your self-worth? Because if they know how to rile u up to such an extent and you lose it, they've got you. They will even try to get you so hysterical that they can use it as ammunition to call "security" and turn it all around so you are the one that is the nutter. They use everything they know about your life against you. You can go from being completely fine and normal one day then after 2 days with them you literally have gone batty and then they shame you

This is exactly what my family has been doing to me for a good majority of my life. Now I face homelessness because they would rather gaslight me and blame me for things that aren't my fault.

Thank You , Thank you, thaaaank you for making this video. God Bless!

Please continue to give this priceless information to others, so helpful and healing.

Oh my gosh Julia, my daughter (37 yr. old) has done this to me for years. It has been so terrible. Recently, family members have gone to her and talked with her about it (she doesn't know that I am aware of that) and she has really lightened up, I just find it hard to believe that is could possibly be long term. She has been emotionally cruel to me since she was a teenager. I love her so much and I deeply crave a "normal" relationship. Please tell me more about setting boundaries.

My mother did this to me as a child. So now I know how handle "adults" who does this!!

OMG, you are amazing. I can't thank you enough for this video. I just left a 4 year relationship and absolutely think I am crazy. This knot has always been there, but I didn't know why. I finally just left and am 🎉now trying to right myself and grow so this doesn't happen to me again. I am binge watching your videos, where have you been lol again, thank you. I AM NOT CRAZY!!! ❤

Super video, thank you very much. We have to fight for our freedom!

Hi Julia! I love this video and can relate to it a lot. I would love it if you could do a video on Childhood Emotional Abuse and how to recover from it, that would be unbelievable helpful!

as someone who has been emotionally abused (as i've realized now), i'm starting to fear that i'll do the same. i think i did it in the past, as well. now i just want to stop talking to ppl bc i don't trust them and i don't trust myself. i'd rather die alone than evoke the same feelings i have in someone else.

Thank you lady! You were just what my spirit and soul were searching for tonight! Peace Profound!

Thank you for this list. Emotional exploitation is rampant and requires strength knowledge wisdom and support, to avoid or reject. I’m still myself Working on identifying patterns of why we attract this type of control and how to prevent it rather than have to combat it.

Subbed. You nailed my last relationship. Even after all these years, the emotional abuse I suffered still had me second guessing myself ... but not anymore. Thank you, Julia!!

OMG! My wife left a month ago after a 4-month marriage. When I asked her why she finally told me that I was emotionally abusive. I hadn't even heard the term before, much less knew what it was! But I matched almost all of the criteria you put down here!! I didn't do it on purpose, I thought I was being very loving and understanding. This is eye-opening and shocking! My question is, how do I fix it??

OMG I'm going through all of these and I didn't realise it until now. Thanks for this video

Thank you for your explanation. I realize that all these signs you have mentioned are the current condition that I've been through