My 11 year old boy is struggling with frustration, irritability and sudden emotions- I know something is troubling him and he struggles to handle these emotions. But I don’t know how to help him to actually manage these emotions without causing him too much pain. Can I have some tips please ?
My ADHD causes me to get really angry and upset easily. I used to scream and yell and become violent for hours. I don’t do that anymore, but I still yell and cuss a lot.
Just imagine at 40 years finding out why you couldn't amount to anything in life, because of ADHD. Well, i guess it's never too late to make something of yourself. Now that i know what i have, i can work with it to succeed
Money doesn’t even motivate me I have ADHD , society and culture gives you ideals on success , I reckon you have to find your own. As Bob Marley said “ money is numbers and numbers never end “ so to me not bothering to much about money can be a good thing as long as I have shelter food and friends.
So true. Îm a school teacher for special needs kids. My favorite are the adhd. I also have an adhd child… now 18 yers old. What is said here is all true. But… adhd are very fun and cool. If the parents tried their best to raise them, they are great humans❤. It is NOT easy I know. You gotta laugh about life alot and learn how to not take all the hardships so seriously. The hardest part is having to always go with your instinct (often against the grain), try new ways and NOT always thinking about how at this or that age your child should be able to do this or that. At the end, your goal is for your grown Child to be happy and feel as they can be an adult. Even if that adult leaves your home older then the others. Having a young adult around keeps you on your feet and always entertained. They need to feel unconditionally loved and supported. You guys rock ! We need you guys in this world cause your life view is different! ❤❤❤
This is basically me. My emotions change extremely quickly, one moment I'm calm and the next, adrenaline is pumping and I'm raising my voice. Next I'm chocking back tears. I can pump the brakes/mask in public but not at home. And then immediately forget that even happened. I don't/can't hold grudges, how can I hate you for something I don't even feel anymore.
I feel the same! It also doesn’t help that I tend to cry when I’m overwhelmed but go basically silent when sad or shocked. This means that way too many times when I’m halfway into what can only be described as a panic attack I have been frequently told “suck it up and quit the crocodile tears” or worse something along the lines of “how come you’re crying now! You can cry if someone dies or if you are dying” which of course makes things 15x worse!
At least six of these, I can say for certain is things in my life. Especially #4. I hate regular jobs. I am not motivated _at all_ by monetary gain. Sure I *want* money, but I can't really focus on the end-goal if the job I'm doing is awful. If I do something I feel give me something, that is of help to others, then I enjoy it and it further motivates me. That makes, so much sense now.
Talk therapy would only help if I had the person with me at the moment I needed them. Maybe we could get therapy birds to sit on our shoulders and talk to us during our toughest moments? lol. We need a walkie-talkie and our "life coach" or whoever to be there and talk to us DURING the hard times we almost never foresee. Talking one day is cool for that day... when I need it during a crisis (aka regular situation that "normal" people can handle)...and have to deal alone... it's not helpful.
I understand you completely.. The only “talk therapy” that is helpful is running across someone who is also ADHD.. for me temper has been my main issue. Most folks can’t comprehend a separation of psychological and physiological aspects of anger. What I mean is, if someone wrongs me (perceiveably) I go into immediate defcon in my mind.. if they immediately make whatever it is right, and my reasons for being mad are no longer there, I still have this hard to describe physical feeling like adrenaline that I hafta let settle before it is advisable for me to see them. I’m not a violent person, I don’t have a record with the police, but I’ve spent my whole life fining ways to manage myself.. for the most part I’ve been successful but I grew up in a time when there was no such thing as ADHD. And to this day most folks roll their eyes at mention of it...
The thing about talk therapy is that there isn't enough emphasis on DO therapy. We HAVE to be able to give ourselves that pause before action. Any doctor or therapist will want us to work on other factors in our lives as well. Every little step in the right direction is helpful in the long run. It's a hard order to follow when you are impatient and expect instant gratification as well.
Me sad, shutting down and about to cry because my ADHD doesn't let me stick to 1 hobby so I can master it and now I'm looking at other people get good at something I used to do and could have been a real expert in if I didn't hobby hop all the time 😓😓I just want to stick to one friggin thing, that's all I ask💀but I just CAN'T
I keep screaming to my family that I have ADHD. But they made a joke out of it. They didn't feel how much ADHD had destroyed my life. I failed in three universities. My whole life is a failure. I did tried to kill myself twice. But they just laughed it all away. I was diagnosed with MDD and anxiety but these awful reaction from my own family was really hurtful. I feel like I'm worthless. If I'm whither away and die maybe they gonna just laugh harder.
Feeling so overwhelmed with my job due to adhd a d emotional dysregulation, not helped by lack of sleep and menopause symptoms. 😞 Really feel like quitting.
Frustration, Impatience, excitability. Hmmm. That's the checklist of my biggest issues. Oh yes, and difficulty differentiating threats from minor problems. I'm not conscious of a need for instant gratification, but it might help explain why it's so hard for me to give the exercises I get in talk therapy much of a chance. And actually...the need for instant gratification would probably explain a lot of the difficulty waiting. Sonuvagun.
Wow, that describes me to a T. I always thought my issues with emotional regulation were due to my autism but I keep getting this sneaking suspicion that I might have ADD. The only thing is that while I have executive function difficulties, I can still get stuff done and I can focus well except in conversations
I think the big difference with bipolarism and ADHD is while they have similar overlaps, and can be potentially shared conditions too, I'm pretty sure bipolarity renders one unable to see anything whatsoever outside of black and white. And it's a bit more chaotic and longer-lasting. There's weeks long or more phases of storm and sunshine for the bipolar person. Then with ADHD, you have similar intensity but usually it's context-driven. You aren't mad or sad typically out of the blue, it's something that would typically stress out or bother almost anybody. It's logical. What's illogical is your proportional emotional reactions to it. Stubbing your toe is not having your whole foot chopped off. But we react that way in the moment. If you gave the person with the stubbed toe a gentle are you okay and an ice pack, or could wave a wand and make its pain go away, suddenly we're completely back to normal. We might feel the lingering adrenaline of the injury and the excitement, but we know now is not the time to be upset anymore. We calmed down as if by magic, because now the problem is gone. We don't have to be that level of energy anymore. For some this is good and for others based on context this is a problem because that it's like "you're just going to move on just like that?"... Bipolar people I think have the lingering sense of grudges and overwhelm of just a life in general spent "wrong." Akin sort of to actual depression disorders. Not that ADHD people cant have issues of self-esteem. But it's not depression or self-esteem issues worn out of just a lingering sense of Life burnout and general constant daily states of vague huge dread and unhappiness. Adhd unhappiness is a symptom of the moment, it's fleeting and temporary usually, and if it's longer lasting it's because the symptom still feels unresolved or we need just a cool down. Give us some dopamine, a reminder of why life is worth living, a taste of our passions that always get us over excited, then suddenly we're right as rain again. Bipolarity won't let you do that. You're stuck in a Mr Hyde mode until your body decides that phase is done and now the Jekyll phase can start again. And when that is or what will start that off, nobody often knows.
I have ADHD I'm on.medikinet XL.im 58 married twice borstal when young. I find normal ppl very boring and very old. We will live forever because we are young forever. We find everything interesting and everything boring at the same time no-one else can do that we are special
This answers questions why they change so much i am diagnosed but for years i have noticed something enless something causes an emotion i feel nothingness like something has to make me happy or sad or angry i never go throughout my day being happy something has to make me happy a couple people in my family have adhd and have said they feel the same way about it
Omg, my spouse has ADHD and sometimes I just want to call it quits. He can be verbally loud and screams, his emotional regulation is non existent, and it's exhausting. But he doesn't want to see anyone about this. If he loses something, it's my fault. He swears I touch his things, his piles of crap. He can't handle work issues, he's always angry when he comes home. He is on medication but he is out of control lately. To the point I feel like I'm walking on eggshells. The pit of my stomach always is churning after he is in a bad mood and my migraines are triggered partially by stress and hormones, and man, he stresses me out!
I feel like if I had not enlisted myself into therapy at age 20, I'd be a lot worse off.... my ADHD still makes living a struggle sometimes at age 30, but because I've taught myself a lot of different mindfulness techniques over the years as well as getting into yoga, it wouldn't be apparent to the naked eye that I have ADHD on a good day where my brain and nervous system are in a neutral state.... those kinds of days are far and in between, though.
Here are a couple articles that have some solutions: www.additudemag.com/adhd-emotion-setback-to-positive-energy/ and www.additudemag.com/download/understanding-adhd-emotions-strategies-for-managing-feelings/
Do people with ADHD lack emotional intelligence and awareness of how their behaviour affects others in particular their spouse. Do they often struggle with trying to understand other people’s emotions or pick up on social Que that they have gone to far.
Yes but I can stop it from taking over the brain now.but I just learn, so emotions let them out in a good way, that the most important thing tell next RANT take care
@@rubytater2715 i had the same issue. just got diagnosed a few days ago and finally put on meds. try to see different psychiatrists and tell them you’re symptoms without telling them what you think you might have (in my experience, most times i walk into an appointment and say i think i have adhd they don’t believe me.) with my most recent appointment that finally got me diagnosed, i walked in and told him about my daily issues and how they were interfering with my day to day life. i even told him i tried adderrall before and it made me feel calm and all the noise went away. getting diagnosed sucks, especially for women
I suffer from every single thing in this video, and I lost my marriage because of it. I signed the divorce papers just today. She hates me, and won't even talk to me anymore.
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