Emotional Trauma | You Have To See This!! 

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Oh my God i was startled with the ballon popping huhu

That balloon pop was a bigger jump scare then my grades 💀

If every therapist processed the traumas the way you explained, the world would be a paradise.

The visuals you provide to help explain a concept are terrific

If every therapist was like this...

This analogy was perfect for describing what unhealed trauma feels like

If only more therapists were like that ... my first ever therapist literally was just like "tell me about the car accident" and I _cried_ right there on the spot and she just kept pushing me with questions even when I could barely breathe through tears. That was sure fun, never again. More psychologists and therapists should be like you

Out of all the therapists I've had, I don't think I can think of one who has thoroughly gone into depth of actually taking the time to help process my trauma, or even work out strategies to get me through it. Most of my healing seems to have only come through from good friends or psychology videos on the internet. Has anyone else felt this way??

Lol I flinched when the balloon burst...

This video just feels how much Dr Julie cares about explaining your videos to us because she risked her own self getting wet we love you and thank you for helping us

When I was 8 I chocked on my food and I didn’t wanted to eat ever again because I was afraid that I was going to choke again, so my mom was worried about me so she brought a physiologist talk about it. The physiologist will come three days a week and it took time for me to start eating again and not being afraid that I would choke again, but it was really worth it ❤

Not every therapist is or has as much common sense as you. It's difficult to find a proper therapist and most people give up. You're the exception! ❤

I get bullied a lot at school and I have become extremely depressed and started getting anxiety about going to school. An analogy that my year coordinator said to me is that I am carrying a bag full of bricks and pebbles, the bricks and pebbles are the mean things people have said or done to me and whenever someone says something mean to me another brick gets added to the pile. Then one day when my bag gets too full and someone says something mean to me all those rocks and emotions come flying out and I just take all my built up anger on that person.

After 6 years of praying for a Baby I got pregnant with twins. I ended up going into labor too soon and lost both Babies during delivery and was rushed off into emergency surgery because I was hemorrhaging and they were losing me. I ended up surviving, obviously. But I have survivors guilt and PTSD from everything that happened and trying to process all of the trauma. My husband doesn't understand why I now explode and start shaking and crying over the smallest thing now. This analogy does a good job at explaining why. I have been trying to explain it to him and I just can't figure out how to in a way that he understands. I'm going to show him this video and hope that it helps. I'm still looking for a therapist

THIS LADY IS A GREAT HELP ONLINE,SHE DOES IT IN A WAY THAT MAKES YOU FEEL LIKE , SHE'S A FAMILY MEMBER ❤

As someone who grew up in a military family that also experienced trauma I was taught to ( keep pushing forward and don’t look back pain is only temporary and if you need to cry then you are weak and weakness is bad ) I been quietly suffering with PTSD, anxiety depression, and a lot of other things #PTSDsucks but someone loves you so don’t give up and if you don’t hear it, survivor to survivor I’m proud of you for coming this far and not giving up. I’m proud of you for surviving each and every day you mean a lot and I’m sending my hugs and prayers to you. Remember you are not alone and you don’t have to walk alone.

Sadly not all therapists take things slow and safe. Sometimes they criticize you on your trauma. Other times when you think it's a safe space they will tell it to everyone. They will promise not to tell your parents about what you said then they will. No I'm not talking about harming yourself or others, even when you say "once my parents locked me in my room and I felt so unloved" they will tell the parents and you'll just get in trouble. I wish all therapists were good, but no, not all of them.

i actually started crying this is my first time seeing you and i already love you 😭

she is the person who really made me want to study Psychology and major in it. Thank you

Feel so touched for people who carry so much burden deep in them.

i’m signing for therapy because of that balloon pop scare

When my parents separated, I told everyone and my therapist that I was fine with it. But as time went on and my therapist and myself processed it, I realized I wasn’t ok with it. I was in a session, we talked and slowly I got louder, more angry, until I eventually I started crying. She again asked how I felt about my parents separating and I told her “I’m not ok with it and I’m mad they didn’t tell me sooner.” (I found out six months after it happened) It hurt to admit and I felt so weak, but I also felt great that I could finally confront how I truly felt. It does take time to process and it can be scary, but it you will feel so much better once you confront your anxious thoughts and trauma. You got this❤

One of your very best Dr Julie - so many of us are in that situation, years and years of it

This is great way of showing that because that is exactly how it’s feels , I lost my farther to cancer when I was nine and it has stuck with me since.

You are a psychologist with Beautiful heart.

I got trauma from that baloon popping lmao 😅. Btw great video as always.

This woman gives me hope. Unfortunately all therapist aren't created equal. Ive only had 2 were decent my whole life.

Therapy is so expensive in our country. Here it's for wealthy people only who aren't struggling to get by. But I'm thankful channels like this exist. Thank you for your advice, Dr. Julie. It's tough but I want to regain freedom for myself.

The ballon pop is how it feels to remember that traumatic experience

I'm so happy to know that there are people like you exist in this world. 🤗

She just explained most of what i feel.

You’re explanations give so much clarity to emotions we don’t even understand ourselves. What a gift.

This felt so relatable

Finding a therapist in my area is difficult and it's a small town too where everyone doesn't need to know my business. Yes, I know that is not professional. You explain this so beautifully

This is exactly my story - my mom died when I was 13 - I finally got into therapy 20 years later. So grateful for that therapist and the gynecologist who got me on antidepressants…and now grateful for your feed!

Didn't have to stop my heart like that jesus-

So true Dr. Julie! I held in childhood sexual abuse for 55 years. Now at 63 and so many other repercussions because of this, I am finally getting help. By the Grace of God and a good therapist I am finally healing! Thank you Dr. Julie for what you do! God bless you!

I have always been scared to go to therapy or therapy in general to talk about stuff ,but this angel that was sent down from heaven came to show thousands of us how it really works.Thanks to this wonderful lady that helped most of us get rid of that fear or most of this fear.Once again thank you so much and continue this amazing channel

Thank you Dr. Julie. 🙏🏽

The lengths she goes to to explain to us these things just shows she cares. You’ve helped a lot of people Dr. Julie xx

Wish you were my doctor 🙏 Thank you for being the light we need in our darkest paths 💚🕯️

cried listening to this, really needed to see this, thank you

i love how she didnt fully deflate the balloon. Because those emotions will always be there! They will never completely dissappear, but they can get so managable :)

Nice analogy. Found this true in therapy. It takes a lot of subconscious energy to repress the past. There’s no such thing as just forgetting about it.

You've helped me so much to get out of a bad low of 2 years. I can never thank you enough. And whoever is reading this. Trust me it gets better.

STOP- THAT BALLOON MADE ME JUMP 😭😭😭

Your way of describing the trauma and the necessity of therapy is amazing Thanks ❤

If you're watching this video and feeling like you're at the end of your rope, please know that you're not alone. It's okay to reach out for help, whether that's through therapy, medication, or just talking to a friend. It can be a long and difficult journey, but there is hope and healing on the other side. Thank you to the creator for sharing their story and shedding light on this important topic.

17 years ago I saw a psychologist after losing my Dad. It took a couple of sessions to be able to say out loud I’d lost my dad, then he wrote my loss on a whiteboard along with a couple of other things he asked me about. He crossed out the line about my dad and said there’s nothing we can do about that so let’s focus on these other areas; so I left. Still horrifies me knowing the pain I was in as a 22 year old. I had to pay for that session and I had no job. You never forget moments like that.

You made me cry. And I appreciate it, thank you ♥️

I’m only 13 and this morning my house nearly set on fire. I’m autistic and was calm at the moment but now it’s actually horrible to think about. It’s only been a few hours but I can’t bear to think about it. My baby cat was in the kitchen when it was full of smoke but I couldn’t go in there my mum wouldn’t let me. I had to run out with only my oversized hoodie and this nice lady gave me some shorts. The thought that it could have been the boiler haunts me and I struggle to go in the kitchen now. It was the microwave and my cat accidentally turned it on and left it cooking some leftover food that was in there. I can’t imagine how much smoke he breathed in but luckily we’re all okay.

This made me tear up because that is exactly how it feels. From the pop to the slow release of healing through therapy.

Such a wonderful explanation of trauma. I need to have therapy 😕....

I like the way the balloon doesn't completely shrink. Shows us that that trauma will never completely disappear, but it will get better, still

I was abused in therapy, got me traumatized more and hospitalized for the first time in my life, cheers to all you therapists, I gotta pick up the remnants of my life now after having looked for help. I have dissociation now, didn’t have that before therapy. Again, cheers. Look it up, abuse in therapy happens more often than you think and no one‘s talking about it, least of all therapists/psychologists themselves.

This is so relateable. Once my dog died and I found these old socks with his face on them and I had a mental break down and then only a couple weeks later my grandfather died. Thanks Dr. Julie.

I wish I had found a psychologist like Dr Julie many years ago when I was 20. I feel like I could reveal everything to her without guilt, fear or even anger. Its comforting to know that someone out there inspires a level of trust in me

That pop scared the heck out of me😭

This explanation is beautiful. She presents this with such empathy and clarity which makes it simply beautiful.

Every one talking about the balloon popping Me: Followed for more-

I was watching them the balloon popped and I jumped i couldn’t feel my body for a few seconds😂

That's why Money can buy a lot of stuff, but it won't buy true connections with people. Those we need to build ourselves. If you have those connections, be grateful and cherish them.

I wish therapists were like this. I kept going to get help for my anxiety and depression, and being told nothing is wrong with me. I finally got a diagnosis of CPTSD, Autism, OCD, and ADHD after 15 years of telling therapists how unhappy I was and being told that “I can’t expect to be happy all the time”. Now I have trauma from medical professionals. It’s okay to be cautious and not open up to a therapist until you feel safe with them. And if you don’t feel safe then you can find someone who is.

I’m speechless- wow u REALLY get it💯🔥🔥🔥🔥💪🏾💜

I would really like to go into therapy but I can't open up to complete strangers. It's so difficult to speak about anything with someone you don't know at all...

Her way of explaining is so clear and simple, plus she seems like a real kind and lovely person to be around with.

I'm just loving these visuals. They really help!

As a person who is still fighting daily on these dont ignore it nor phase it put those memories aside so u can learn from those memories it helps lot in maturing and taking decisions Its my way of view and its not easy also but .. find ur own way thats the best

I might be nervous, but I was never scared at the thought of therapy. The only thing that held me back from going was my mom, the fact that there were none in our area, and that my parents thought that it cost too much. While my health insurance actually covered the entire cost where I lived. Now that I'm fineally 18, my dad, with the biggest smile came to me and said "I know a christian therapist, and she lives near your grandmother." Knowing that he meant this in a way of me being able to move out and away from my mom AND go to a therapist and to my grandma who was there for me more than my mom emotionally, I almost broke down crying lol.

Yeah, I'm a recovering addict. I was fortunate through thorough and continuous work to develop the emotional intelligence to live life on life's terms without losing control. The serenity that comes as a result is just surreal.

This is WHY I go to therapy! I have this deep sadness that I can't understand where is coming from (Trauma, not depression) And my therapist and I both agree that I can without problem figure out what it is, but that would be like me popping the balloon. She is there to make sure that we do it slowly in a way that will not just make everything burst.

There's alot of people around me who live exactly like this, my mum for one who turned to drink, but other people who are close, the problem is they seep it out in damaging ways. I've been looked at as if I'm the one with the issues when in fact over a long period of time I've realised that I'm perhaps one of the most sane and responsible ones within my circle as I'm prepared to look at my mess, process and work through it as to not negatively impact others. I've put up with too much of other peoples crap... I really hope people can take care of their traumas in a way that they can start to heal themselves little by little, step by step. I'm by no means perfectly healed but I am prepared to do the work to heal my own traumas. I am also working through not carrying other peoples stuff as mine, I can't carry their baggage. At some point if you're in the role of a rescuer or any other role that carrys the burdens of another, you have to give it back to them a little at a time so that they can actually take some responsibility for themselves otherwise you're actually getting in the way of their own healing. And if you're the one who is carrying the trauma and have not tried to process it in a safe way, do it for yourself, your kids, parents, siblings, friends and colleagues.

How did she not scream in pain whne the balloon popped- *btw thx for therapy i need it so much*

This truly a visionary of examples for people whom may need help to get the therapy they may need!!! ❤

That balloon pop scared the shit outta me 💀💀

Do keep raising awareness. Thank you.❤

THANK YOU DR. JULIE. MENTAL HEALTH IS SO IMPORTANT.🌸😘

i found something so comforting that she didn't get mad when the water started spilling :')

as a childhood trauma survivor this makes a lot of sense you try to ignore the memories the noise in your head and it keeps popping up till one day those emotion explode your videos really help,enjoy watching them I find now mindfulness journaling helps even sharing my story might help others therapy was very freeing

I've cried a lot in therapy from the memory but my therapist started doing EMDR therapy on me to help to process the memories and make them less painful. It is a technique that makes you think back of something without feeling anything. I did give my emotions a score and it got lower every time.

This is so accurate and true! And the amount of energy to keep that “balloon” under the surface is tremendous.

When my trauma happened in 2020. I couldn't stop thinking about it, as it basically slammed me in the face. Plus, my usual coping mechanisms were taken away because of COVID.

That got me omg, i have actual turns down my face, her voice when she said, "and everything comes to the surface", it juat hit me

bro this hit deep- i wanna be a psychiatrist too even tho i'm living with my own problems

Her:*talking about trama* me:”no,no,DO NOT MAKE THE WATER OVE-nope,you’ve done.your done,YOUR DONE,naw my OCD can NOT deal with that”

This is exactly what happened to me today yet again, and i realized i indeed have been in that cycle for too long༎ຶ‿༎ຶ i always just bottle up every negetive emotion with nobody to vent to, and the smallest of things make me bawl my eyes out

I really love how she explains us with some random objects that are so accurate to her explanations

I just took out your book from my local library, I must say it's really informative.

This literally happened to me, I was fine for weeks until my mom texted a single thing about school and It just completely broke down. I can’t push it down no matter how hard I try because the mere mention of school makes me cry. I don’t even know why I’m crying.

I had an amazing moment yesterday where I realised I havent felt angry about my mother / childhood anymore. This was keeping me stuck for a long time.

When the balloon pops out, and I see your expression and still continue explaining... just make me think about when everytime my trauma get triggered I'm mess up so much things/lock/blame myself/suprised about my ownself but then, I just continue the living. And repeat.

You seem to be a Dr. with compassion. Thank you for your videos.

my anxiety when the water over flows: 📈📈📈

Sadly not all therapists are like that... the one I went to instead of doing that and helping resolve my problem which was not willing to go out instead I REALLY had to (and more) decided to just tell me "Hey, just find a job, here I saw a place where they're looking for people" and repeatedly asked me if I already did that... which I felt so preassured... idk if that should be the work with person like me 😅

As someone who’s going to therapy, very true there’s nothing to be afraid of

Have you done a video on what exactly you mean when you talk about “processing” a memory? Are there healthy ways to “process” troubling memories and emotions as part of regular self-care that don’t require a specialist?

Maam I wish I could meet you in person and resolve everything

That’s not how it went in my years of therapy just rehashing stuff over and over without any resolution or resources to shift, but I’m glad that you’re doing that for people.

A therapist once triggered my anger without going slow or anything. It was a bad experience. It left me thinking about my existence for a few days