Entitled Husband Says MY INHERITENCE is "HIS MONEY" but HIS IS NOT MINE - Reddit Finance Podcast 

Story 1: Not a jerk. So he won't share his inheritance, but you're expected to share yours? No, what a hypocrite. You need to put your foot down, OP. But I wouldn't recommend making your husband pay rent, that will only cause unnecessary drama. Story 2: Not a jerk. The wife should have thought about this before getting married. Also, it's ridiculous she proposes something and insists on being the only one who can benefit from it. OP is right, his cousin should probably divorce that woman. Story 3: Not a jerk. OP is not some bank account her sister can access whenever she wants. It's extremely irresponsible of her to keep having unprotected sex when their financial situation is so unstable. You're right OP, if god is the one who provides, he can be the one who pays. You are NOT responsible for your sister's children.

Story 3: If you want children fine, but it's not the responsibility of childless people to substitute your lifestyle. If you can't afford children don't have them, be responsible!

Having googled "inheritance divorce", the interwebs say that inheritances are not considered matrimonial shared property, so you dont have to share inheritance with your spouse, and in a divorce you keep it all.

OP that helped his cousin is definitely not a jerk. He's just helping his cousin play cousin's wife's game. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. She just didn't count on the cousin hooking up so fast!

Story 3. Not a jerk if I was in that position I would tell 'em "no, I don't want to. Please get the money from somewhere else this time". Accused of being selfish? *Shows multiple cases where I financially helped out before, proving that I'm a literal sugar daddy for my fucking family* Getting further accused of things? "I'm not their bank account, end of the story. Accept that or it means bye for good until you and everyone else come to your senses". Boom, end of it. It either results of them finding other ways to finance themselves or with me getting rid of money baggers who just happened to be my family.

I feel like the second story is a perfect example of malicious compliance

I have a theory about 2nd story: wifey in it for cousin's money, but still wants to fool around without getting caught cheating and divorced, found out her husband can actually replace her whenever he wanted, wants back together exclusively. I bet if the cousin does that he'll catch her cheating in a month.

Story 2: Clearly she thought she was the best thing to ever happen on the cousin's life and he wouldn't find any one anyway so she could open it up do whatever she wanted and still keep her "golden goose" but then got frustrated that him is doing better and, thats not mentioned but probably could happen, isn't even as miserable as she thought he'd be. Prolly he's doing just great and maybe even getting to know some pretty nice people.

I'd divorce that kinda entitled partner

story 1: divorce. the only option

Story 1. Dont make him pay rent that would further put strain on everything instead reword it and start a savings account for a new house that you both individually have to pay into in set amounts. You could make this the same you would have paid for rent but calling rent will cause issues.

For story 3. No she doesnt mean it in a hurtful way when she says maybe a miscarriage would be for the best. ive been in a similar situation. she means another baby is the last thing they need because they cant afford the kids they have now. Another child could sink the boat that is that family and it could also mean the entire family growing into poverty. Sometimes even the most gifted things can come with a burden that you cant carry.

The inherentence story was strange. They don't seem to have a marriage but a legal reason to live together. The husband doesn't seem to understand that a marriage is a partnership, where he should want what's best for their marriage and not continue acting like he's single. He was being hypocritical in claiming his inherentence was his but the wife's ingerentence wasn't her's but their's. Where had the husband with the triplet boys been the whole time, that he didn't know how to deal with the boy's medical issues? The last story was unbelievable, guilting the brother in giving his sister money. Children or not, if they are having finicial trouble, they need to evaluate their spending to see where their money is unnecessarily going. Then sit down and set up a strict budget for only those payments that must be made. The question that should be asked is, has the sister and her husband repaid the money the brother gave them? If they're having financial troubles, having another baby should not happen, and measures should be taken so it doesn't happen. The brother was right to close his free wheeling bank. Family or not, there are limits in helping others when it's treated as something to be expected. Mom needs to stay out of daughter's financial problems. She a grown married woman with a family, and should take responsibility for the problems encountered.

The cheating one is HILARIOUS

Lmaoo instant karma clearly the wife wasn’t expecting him to thrive in an open relationship.Both cousins will be enjoying this laugh even after they separate.

I love the in story #2 OP and his wife went full matchmaking on him

So husband gets inherentance blows it all on having fun with his family and scolds his wife for so much as mentioning his money, then she gets an inheritance and buys the building with it, turning her inheritance into an investment while allowing her husband to put what he would have spent on rent in his pocket every month for "fun money" but she should let him dip into her passive income as well.... Her inheritance has already benefitted him significantly more than his ever did her.

Gotta love that result in story 2. It never ends well when a person asks for an open relationship =.=; and the person always goes back on it once they notice their partner has peeps going after them.

Story number three: what OP meant was that she did not wish a miscarriage on her pregnant sister, but if it did happen she wouldn’t be upset about it. She wasn’t wishing a miscarriage on her. She just wouldn’t get all tore up about it if it happens.

Last story: op clearly is tired of putting her own life on the hold when she have to take care of her sisters family. So for her it literally would be a good thing if her sister would have an miscarriage. It doesn't make her a bad person, it only makes her a person whose life also matters. I hope that she stop giving any money to her sister, at the moment they are living in a toxic relationship and it can turn back to normal relationship only when there is zero money involved, after that they can be just sisters again.

THE OP IS NEVER THE JERK . only somTimes

for that second one, he's not the asshole, he's the legend.

yeah, no, do not give him cent. remind him what he said, then tell him if he continues, you will be seeking a divorce and lawyer up.

Just repeat his words back to him. Sorry "any future inheritance will not be part of the family budget

Huh, usually when a spouse recommends an open relationship and regrets it it is the husband/boyfriend.

Just as much as, I feel her last statement was not right. Equally the mother should not have said, it would be her fault if the sister had a miscarriages. God forbid, how would she feel. If the sister want 10 kids that's up to them to provide, noone else.

Damn, first child was traumatized by his grandma and no one batted an eye.

Making the husband pay rent? People are ruthless

Story 2: Man, feels like Will Smith with his toxic open relationship wife. 🙄 Story 3: NTAH, the family is toxic.

That God would provide is probably the funniest thing I heard

Second story both everyone’s neutral at least it’s not cheating

Story 1: I don't know the whole story, but with what's given, I think the husband is lazy and selfish. I don't know why OP was with the guy in the first place. He's selfish, temperamental, and irresponsible. Seriously, I understand having separate finances, but you should still share with your partner, or at least not get angry when they ask about your finances.

What a greedy pillock, no OP's husband it's not your inheritance, you spent yours so deal with it, it's OP's inheritance end of.

She should of course help out family, but she is not solely responsible to pay for their upkeep.

My ex wanted an open relationship with me but said we should let each other know about it ether before or after it happens I thought sure we both were active with it but if we don’t talk about it she would consider it cheating and would leave me. I told her same but to a few months she hadn’t let me know about the guys she was with for 2 months I thought what ever I’ll forgive and told her if she doesn’t keep her end of the deal I’ll leave she did it again but this time she got pregnant and said the other guy doesn’t want the baby and wouldn’t support her if she wanted to keep it she told me this and thought I wouldn’t be mad I was not mad about the not telling me I was mad about her wanting to leave me and not just telling me I was mad that she just used me as a place holder until she found someone else she told me ( since I’m not having his kid do you want to stay together) and got mad when I said no because I’m not a place holder mind you she told me she didn’t want to get pregnant with me yet till I got serious about us and for the most part I did I stopped hanging out with my female friend and even told her if she wanted I would be ok closing up the relationship so it’s just us for the kid she told me no because she didn’t want to stop me from having fun. if it was for her I didn’t care about anyone else I would stop so I did just to give her more attention. She told me work was picking up and to give us some time to focus on are jobs she just stared a new one so I let it be after a a month she told me about the pregnancy and I just grabbed my stuff and left if y’all don’t keep the same line in the sand it’s not worth it she just want a place holder not you

The first story is very telling husband spent money on himself with his brother on trips doing God knows what. The wife invested it basically for her children.

His henteritance is his, my henteritance is ours Ussr

Story 1: screw him, don’t let him anywhere near the money!

Story #2: Rules for thee but not for me, huh?

Story #1: not a jerk. But also I would never make my husband pay rent to me lol. Maybe if I had her husband I would bc he seems like a crappy greedy guy, but not my future husband who would never treat me like that lol. It would be really weird collecting rent from the man I want to spend the rest of my life with

Everything apart..bro WHERE THE HECK DO YOU GET THESE FRIGGING THUMBNAILS FROM??!!😂😂

with story 1: does the husband spend no time with his kids? he does not seem to understand how to handle caring for them for some reason.

Open relationships are always a bad idea.

2nd story is the best story. What u want u got

Not a jerk your Heritance it’s your money and not your husband plain and simple

Funny first story

With the inherentince story the OP needs to divorce the husband

story one - divorce babe divorce

Inheritance belongs to the person whom it was willed to, no argument. I explain to my spouse everytime. Inheritance is not community property.

The story 3 is not a jerk money is not just a water that's keep poring out

BS. Absolute BS. So when OP simply ASKED about her husband's inheritance, he blows up at her. But when OP gets a massive inheritance from her passing grandfather, he suddenly says it's OUR money? No, BS. That hypocritical on so many levels.

I think personally you should not even let him because he didnt even share the money that he had

Hell no not a jerk

no just no. he has zero claim on your money and income

NOT YOUR KID NOT YOUR PROBLEM

Stress does NOT cause miscarriage in extreme cases it CAN (not WILL) cause COMPLICATIONS

Story 2#: In my opinion, I don't think that open relationships work. Most of the time they would end up in a divorce, in a break-up or maybe even getting back to close relationship bc of the jealousy. I don't like them and I don't recommend it to anyone. (Again, this is only my opinion.) And it seems like that the wife wanted this "open relationship" situation to work on her only. The thing is that if you want this kind of relationship, you need not to get jealous easily and obviously letting your lover to have their side of this open relationship as well. The wife clearly wanted to make love and other relationships with other men and of course she wanted to make sure that she isn't gonna lose the husband who it looks like she has him as a plan B, I guess, just in case that she won't find someone better than him and if she did find someone better than him, she would want a divorce. It's not the best to get married in so early age when you don't even have experiences. When the husband started having new people around him too, she saw that her plan didn't go the way she wanted and she got jealous. Well, being an idiot it's not an option, that's what I'm gonna say😃✨✋

Trying to zig but not zag

i don’t see the point of being married if you’re not going to split finances

For story 1, I definitely feel that she's being a jerk. The husband made a huge mistake, but she's being petty about the paycheck for it. It sounds extremely unhealthy to split money in a marriage, and two wrongs don't make a right.

He’s such a hypocrite 0:45 he won’t let you know have his Heritance but he wonts your want your inheritance?

Maybe he does not want a divorce , because he found out that inheritances are not included as joint marital assets . In other words he cant touch her Inheritance in a divorce . But he could as a widower . If you get my meaning.

Ah, that first one has a problem. Emotionally I agree 100%. Problem is, that is not quite what happened. He spent his inheritance to go on vacation. She spent her inheritance to advance her new career as a landlord. The money coming from the rent is not inheritance. It is income. Maybe she won't see it that way, but the divorce court will.

Something similar is going on with my family. My grandmother lost both her children (my mom and my auncle). As such, when she passes me and my cousin will inherit her property (a house surrounded by some land). The problem is with my dad. He's under the delusion that he and my aunt will get it, plus he's always had trust issues. He constantly sais that he doesn't care if "my aunt will sell her part", he just wants a little area left to built a vacation house. My aunt has no objection on her son and me inheriting the place (we're both adults at this point). Even if my mom was alive he wouldn't get anything since inheritance isn't common property between spouses. I've told him many times how things will work out, and if we will be in desperate need of money, me and my cousin will even consider selling the place, but he won't listen. Just some character information: - Me M23: masters student, currently working on getting a job as a teacher - My cousin M18: Almost done with high-school, college is definitely on the table - My aunt F52: masters student engineering (yes, at this age, we're graduating at the same time), policewoman. -My dad M47: boat constructor, welder, works 7am to 3pm and spends the rest of the day at the bar, didn't graduate high-school. I felt to mention education as an important factor. Anyway... any advice?

In story 3 it does.. atleast for me it did 2x. Yes, stress can kill you, & if it can kill u, dont you think it can certainly cause miscarriages? My only live birth is my daughter & she would've been a middle child. So please, all you arm chair doctors out there, get a medical license first or dont speak on things either you know nothing about or that you havent experienced first hand, thank you!

1st story. I would tell him F'U. Make sure you have recorders and if possible video recording and If he assaults you IMMEDIATELY call the police and a lawyer the next day. Judges rarely reward violent husbands in the divorce settlement.

IN the last story I think all the OP meant was, financially it'd be better if they didn't have another kid that's all.

3rd person: NTA

Story 2: I’ve heard this story so many ways, the one asking for an open relationship never expects the other partner to flourish after not wanting an open relationship. Poly relationships exist and work but this is not it. This is a selfish partner browbeating their SO into something they never wanted.

Second story 🚩 🚩

Not the jerk

Billybob Jr.

I need an update to the last story 😂

If stress caused miscarriages there would be a lot less people on the earth period

Really happy to see some DbD in the background. I’m just starting the video and I hope it won’t distract me too much

5 dollar burger

As a diabetic you mostly don’t really have to watch out for diets, well at least for me. The poking part is annoying I can say that but if you get the right spot then it will be fine and done on the first try. I hope all babies grows up healthy enough to function on their own.

My SIL says she is asexual, and wanted to open her relationship for her husband to fill his needs elsewhere. I warned him against it as it could be either used against him if they ever got divorced, or what if she ended up wanting to date, too? Well, he had an unfulfilling minor experience with someone else, and then wouldn’t you know it, then my SIL started talking to guys. The whole thing devolved to a point she was living with us for a month. They have a bad marriage outside of this, but it didn’t help anything. They’re closed now. Honestly, I think they and their two boys would be better if they split. Both are fairly selfish. The kids lose in all of this whichever way it plays out.

The 1st story with his brothers? What is he?! A closeted gay that marries woman just for the money?!?

Usually its the woman who behaves like this

Story 1: The reason y the hubby didn't want to divorce is cause he will not have a place to live or he will have to end up paying rent if he continues to live there...also he might end up having to pay for child support too...also if by any chance he ends up with either 1 of the the child for custody he will have to spend more on medical by himself...so if he gets a divorce on a big run he will not be able to support both himself & the child (if he gets any that is) without the wife's support only thought about himself...very cunning & malupative person...think fast & early...before they guilt trap you with the " for the children's sake"...

my thoughts about the last story at the end of it... i dont think the OP said that to be a jerk i think she worded it wrong. i dont think she wants the sister to miscarry she thinks that having another baby will most likely destroy them and she only wants wats best for her sister but what i think the sister should do even though i dont think she will is look into adoption when she realizes its to much. therefore the sister and husband has a little more money and the baby is born and has a chance to live a good life

Story 1 some one tell this man child op money and inheritance is her own cause he didn't want to share his so why should get any from op ?

What game is this in the background??

I think I know that voice from somewhere...

Story #3- WoW... Why are ppl so selfish &OBLIVIOUS about it??! Forget what your family/parents have to say about your TRUE FEELINGS on this situation! &Keep telling them what you REALLY feel. Why is your cash-strapped Sis purposely inseminating herself??! That's ridiculous! I'm still on the OP's side, even w/that ending remark, cuz she SEES the irresponsible act her sister is truly making by doing this over &over again. "&" The fact that it's affecting HER OWN life, in such a major way! She has a RIGHT to feel however she feels about this sitch.🤨😬😗🤔

The second story is she shouldn't have started something she couldn't finish

my aunt is living the same thing

I know guys have wingman’s but do girls have one

can someone please tell me what oP stand for

*_*SOVIET ANTHEM*_*

No you misunderstood the last one. She meant that because the sister can’t financially take care of the current kids, she shouldn’t have this one. It did sound bad though.

The $5,000 hearing aids don’t have to be replaced every 6 months. I’m he $100 rubber ear molds do.

did some one count Relationship? xd

He don't split his don't give him some of your s

2 not the jerk

Last story: yes stress can be a factor for a miscarriage but it would have to be very severe stress.

Any prof this happened?

On the one with the cousin is the Op and cousin sure that she didn't marry him for his money? Either way Op is not the jerk

Story 1, I don’t get why people are married to horrible selfie people Story 2, find someone better to marry that actually wants to be with you Story 4, I wish I wasn’t born, especially if your mom keeps pumping out babies, doesn’t mean those kids will grow up happy