Thanks Doc. I' ve lived it. At 18 I tought my dad was a dumbass, 4 years later when I returned from Viet Nam I was suprised at how smart he got in such a short time.
I worked as a teacher for about fourteen years, often with the same kids from kindergarten until they graduated highschool, and I was there to see exactly when their trust-relationships with their parents broke. I NEVER saw a broken trust get fixed. I think it can be, but the parent would have to A) know what they had done, and B) be willing and able to atone. Most parents don't think that way. Everything is the child's fault. If their child has ceased to love and respect them, somehow that's the child's fault. They never ever ask themselves "could I have messed up? Could I have done something unworthy of a child's love and respect?" Sadly, I think schools do a great deal to damage the parent-child relationship. They assign totally unnecessary homework and projects so that the parent has to become a taskmaster at home. Most parents don't have the time or energy, after a long day of their own work, to patiently guide a child through pages and pages of busywork. They get angry and frustrated and then the child gets defensive, and suddenly two people who should be in a relationship based on trust, acceptance, and mutual support are now at loggerheads and acting like enemies. I never once assigned homework to my students because I figured, I'm the teacher and their parents are their parents. If I can't do my job, that doesn't mean I get to offload it onto these poor parents. By the way, from what I observed, trust is usually completely gone by third or fourth grade. The families where family bonds stayed strong and healthy were very very rare. I gave a lot of thought to what those parents were doing differently, so that someday hopefully I can be a parent who stays worthy of love and trust.
Wow!! This just described my relationship many yrs ago with my son. His dad, my husband died when he was 7. I raised him alone but was always finding fault from his perspective. I was anxious, nagging , yelling mom. When i changed my woe to zero sugar, provessed foods, then to carnivore ...MY way of handling emotions and interactions changed dramatically and the relationship with my son has grown closer. I apokigized many times for the hurt i caused him and know his anger was from pain 😢. Today..i am 64 , he is 25 and our bond has never been closer. I started this health journey to reverse t2d but in the end the benefits of it has changed me in ways i never knew were possible! I am so grateful to Dr Cywes, Dr ken Berry and Dr Jason Fung for changing my life dramatically. You had me in tears on this one Dr C. ❤
I could not agree more I went through the same thing with my daughter we are still working through it and I am hoping as each day that passes things get a little better. I never realized what an awful person sugar made me not to mention the anxious, nagging mom you described and I only wish I knew this when my kids were younger so I could have changed sooner and been a more patient mother and truly been there emotionally not just physically. Good luck to you and your son congrats on all you have accomplished not only with your physical health but your emotional health too!
Your first story raised my blood pressure! I'm type 1 diabetic and have been given the standard bad nutrition advice for 39 years and counting. I am listed as non-compliant on my chart because I refuse to eat high carb foods that require massive amounts of insulin. Doesn't that make the most sense? Eat foods that don't require drugs! Duh!
Oh my, Dr. Cywes: Your patient's hospital experience with horrible hospital protocols was exactly what my husband, a type II diabetic, experienced in Central Florida hospital x9 days in February. Admitted from ER, diagnosed with sudden onset of sepsis and pneumonia after recently starting Jardiance. The multitude of specialists were professional and thorough, as they tried to fined a source. But the dietician was rude, uninformed, and nearly killed my husband with carbs via breads (hamburger and bun, sandwiches, biscuits), fruits (bananas!) starch vegs. (mashed potatoes and gravy)His sugars jumped over 340, maybe from the rampant infection or horrible food choices?. The gave him insulin, too. He is only on alogliptin and glipizide at home. (They added metformin upon discharge). Home nd he hs had low glucose nd hs been taken off glipizide. You are an intelligent and compassionate man and appreciate your endeavors to inform the public. GOD BE WITH YOU AND YOUR FAMILY!
Your doctor story and hospital story are strong reasons why I have stayed away from doctors. I am afraid to go. I have been getting my blood work done through a health fair and the HDL/LDL are a tiny bit high so there is always inserts with the results. I carry on. I have an autoimmune thing and the one Dr I found who worked with me and my at first Keto and then carnivore diet left town. I can’t find a new Dr who isn’t a if this then do that. Not looking at the whole person. I don’t want fight so I stay away. I watch my glucose and ketones often and my BP.
Dr. Robert, my pcp almost kill me in 2022😢 with toxic meds😢. I start took charge of my own health. I thank God i found you sir, also dr. Ken Berry too. Proper Human Diet,💪🧠🫀🫁🦷🦴👀 help me since july 2022 by puting in remision t2d, inflamation, epileptic seizures, angiodeama anaphalethic. My son has Autism, and in october of 2022 i was watching a podcast with dr. Ken Berry and dr. Chris Palmer talking about the" Autism". It was amazing, the changes. My son he is more focus, and for the first tim in 29 years, my son call me "MAMI". Thank you, to all of you the best doctors❤. I can never find a pcp, no matter how long i will looking for😢. Sad but true😢
What you said about child trust is so true. I'm 76 , I've seen this though life . If parents would hear this it would be very helpful for them and their children. Thank you.
Had tears in my eyes listening to your experience growing up..I always remember the good times..I've got a 10 year old son who worries about me dying because I'm 60 ..it hurts but I'm near enough carnivore for a year and he can see how positive it is..I've told him that I'm planning on going nowhere just yet ...he looks at me then all the 30 to 40 year old dad's and is proud..he's examining all the nutrient content of foods and has a real interest in coming to the gym with me..the way I'm feeling now I'm aiming for 120 years old keeping it basic and strong 💪 thank you for your advice x
Loved this session. We have six children and another we call our son, and he calls us his. One note to add here is that every child has a special path to walk. For some, the road is easy, and for others, it is not. Allow your children to fail and learn the lessons only life can teach. The earlier the failures are easier. Be there as a support, but not the cure. They must be their own cure. This empowers them to accomplish bold, powerful things in life.
Dr Cywes you’re personal story about you and your dad is so inspirational. I am sharing this with my adult children and granddaughters. Thank you! Please keep sharing your stories.
Hospital pumped me up with glucose served only carbs to eat after I was hit by drunk driver They tried to make me take insulin And they accused me of not eating correctly Finally an intern agreed with me and stopped the IV glucose!!! 2017 in Annapolis Md Thought I was safe here in Fl w Dr Cywes!
Thank you for your wisdom. My son's relationship with his father is so sad. As a parent I always gave my son the space to work things out when he was upset about anything that didn't look like he thought it should. I held myself back to rush in and fix him as I was suffering so much watching him suffer. His father was always rushing in to give his advice. I sometimes physically stood between his father and my son's closed bedroom door. We divorced when my son was in his twenties. Now my son's father is in endstage renal disease because by his refusal to manage his diabetes. Both my son and I are caring for him walking with him to the end of his life. It's so painful to watch my son who still loves his father be in that love/hate relationship. The only thing I can do is to take charge of my own health and be the example for my son. I see that he still eats alot of carbs because he uses them to manage his emotions. And I know that I taught him that. Now I eat mostly carnivore with a few cucumbers and occasionally cabbage. I've lost over 30lbs. I don't shame my son when he eats things that I know are harming him because we are witnessing his father death March. My prayer is that he will see the writing on the wall and not choose the path his father is walking. Being a parent is the hardest job I've ever done. Thank you for showing your vulnerability. ❤
Damn, my dad's side are all gone. Believe it or not, some of my best life lessons came from family card games. My brother and I recently had a good laugh reminiscing about the battles playing cribbage and sheepshead with my dad and uncles. We appreciate your passion and thank you for sharing.
I’ve been LCHF Keto with intermittent fasting since Nov 2018, started on this path by a Dr Jason Fung video. I’m a retired electronics engineer, and until then had trusted my health to my doctor without reservations. I had been diagnosed T2D in 1999 after a sigmoid colon resection surgery due to chronic diverticulitis. Put in touch with a Endocrinologist, I followed the standard T2D therapy he prescribed, looking back, hindsight vision is always 20/20 😊, had set me on the road to progressively worsening my health. Ended up on massive doses of insulin, 240 units a day, and already overweight for most if my adult life, my weight on insulin ballooned up 100+ lbs to 280 lbs, at 5ft 7” that was BMI of 40+, morbidly obese. Really bad neuropathy in my feet, with less & less physical mobility. In 2017 I lost a toe to infection. I could see a really bad end if life scenario for myself, couldn’t really understand at that point how I got there, and just thought I had brought this on myself. Once I understood LCHF, Keto, and intermittent fasting, the causes of my T2D through bad diet, I now saw a bright light at the end of that previously dark tunnel of my compliant acceptance that things actually could be changed for the better. I’m retired so have plenty of time for researching and so I started seriously managing my own health, researching various subjects with the goal of reversing my T2D, losing weight, getting of all meds including statin. What a seemingly never ending rabbit hole, warren that has turned out to be. And lost 95 lbs in around 1 year, got off 7 of 9 meds. My kidney function improved from eGFR of 57 to a recent peak of 88, my Trig/HDL ratio went from 4.78 to consistently below 0.8. Life long Psoriasis stabilized without meds. Sinus cleared up, heartburn gastric reflux gone, digestion much better. And yet my endo only worry was he just couldn’t accept that I refused to take a statin. As I studied my own health conditions closely, I discovered that there were other lab tests that could help me understand how to proceed. I’ve done three CAC scans, very high score of 2550, scared the crap out of me, but it set me off on researching further. I discovered that because of my LCHF lifestyle it has reduced my CAC score progression to 4% per year which places me in a lower risk of CVD events. BTW: I don’t have any symptoms like shortness of breath or angina. I can cycle around 25 kms per day without issues, and have pushed it to 40kms one time. At the moment I’m just recovering from a second toe infection, that required two nights in hospital to get intravenous antibiotics, then 20 days of a strong oral antibiotic, which so far has prevented loss of that toe, somewhat self inflicted, but this meant stopping intermittent fasting, and digestive issues due to oral antibiotics. Also I started using my insulin pump again focused onto now keeping my A1c in the 5.5 range, the infection making it difficult to control my BG. Having previously focused my efforts to to get off insulin completely , by reducing insulin to one or two shots per day, and letting A1c run in the high 6s. I think now this was not such a good solution or focus for me, and have decided refocus to keep BG in normal range by using my insulin pump to closely control my BG through out the day. Due to my toe not completely healing yet, I was advised not to exercise until the wound closes. Hopefully in next week or so I’ll be able to start exercising again. Result of this so far is I’ve put on around 10lbs and digestion is still not back to normal. Similar story whilst in hospital. Offered carb rich menu, met with blank expressions when I rolled my eyes and said I’m diabetic don’t you understand I cannot eat that! Ending up choosing and eating the chicken breast, steamed broccoli scrambled eggs, diet jello. Yet still they added hash browns, rice, which I didn’t eat. They also wanted to inject insulin, based on just two blood test strips per day. As I was using a CGM, and had my basal rate dialed in on my pump, I refused to let them do that as I could control my BG infinitely better by myself. Needed to sign a waver! Also upon entering I had told them that the only meds I was now was just 10 mg Lisinopril and insulin via my pump. Yet somehow they wanted to give me my previous statin, and no Lisinopril. I refused the statin when offered and took my own Lisinopril. Result was my BG and BP was completely in normal non diabetic range during my three day stay. There was a slight peak in BG as one intravenous antibiotic had added glucose to the solution, easily seen by my CGM and lower education by me adding a bolus, to return my BG to normal range. On my final release, the written advice post hospital stay was: stop insulin and Lisinopril, but keep taking a statin. ??
I really connected with the last portion of this presentation. My whole life was spent trying to please my father but always falling short. I did the same with my children and am currently suffering the consequences ...only recently have I learned that my adult children need to make their own way in life...success and failureL Thank you Dr Cywes for bringing that to the attention of us parents in order to save that relationship.
I have stood between my son and my husband. My son finally moved out of the country. I have tried to explain to my husband, but he doesn't see where he has done any wrong. He rarely communicates with his son, even though I try to encourage it.
When my daughters make a mistake, or do something that ordinarily would get them into trouble, I try never to yell at them or even make them feel like they are being punished. Instead, (sometimes after I've calmed down myself!) I sit down with them and ask why they did what they did, whether they think they should have done it, or why not, what they should have done instead, and possibly how to fix it and remember not to do it again. If I've ever done something like it in my past, I will often tell them what I had done, and what I did to fix the behavior. I would say it like in regular conversation, and not necessarily directed at them. Usually they'll think that's a pretty good idea, and follow it. When they realize I make mistakes too and was able to fix them, they're far more likely to want to follow the words of wisdom I give them.
Aw...I loved this. Thank you Dr. Cywes for sharing such a touching and private moment and the wisdom that you obviously got from your beloved father.🥹 Your son will know your father because he is living on in you.❤
I found you only yesterday, and am blown away by what you offer and share -- of your knowledge as well as of yourself. We learn from stories, so bring them. When the story is personal, profound, sincere and heartfelt, it teaches on multiple levels. It is beautiful and bonding to cry together. You told my childhood story, bringing more clarity for me... at age 79. Thank you for the gifts!!
I’ve got a good one. I was hospitalized last August with diverticulitis. After 5 days NPO (nothing at all by mouth, except sips of water with meds), the first thing they bring me was a tray of “clear liquids” consisting of Apple Juice (sugar), Cranberry Juice Cocktail (high fructose corn syrup), Ginger Ale (sugar), Jello (sugar & food dye), Italian ice (mega sugar), and vegetable broth. I drank and ate it ALL because 5 days with no food. I was SO SICK. Went right through me, headache, cramps, heart racing… well the next day they said I could order “low fiber” meals from the menu. So I asked for baked chicken, they said no because I had a soy allergy and there is soy in that. Fine, how about chicken tenders - nope. Okay I asked what I could have and they said - I kid you not - “Mac n cheese, spaghetti with meatballs, grilled cheese sandwich on white bread.” I’m like, wait; I’m hospitalized with a GI problem and haven’t eaten anything solid in six days and the first thing you’re offering me is gluten and dairy???!!! The dietician said “it’s low fiber.” I had pot roast and bacon and eggs for every meal thereafter.
Loved the video! I too, had the hospital experience when was admitted with heart failure. I’m a T1.5 diabetic and following a LCHP lifestyle. I was lucky that I was able to order meals with double protein which allowed me to skip the carbs with no one complaining.
This is such a painful subject - parents/kids relationship. Thank you Dr. Cywes for the insight. It all makes sense and was very well phrased. Hopefully it's still not too late (for me) to apply this wisdom. : (
Thank you. Just had a call with my son that went wrong again. I’ve been trying to understand why this keeps happening since he was a teenager and now grown at 30. Your story really spoke to me. Maybe part of it was me being a middle school teacher and not knowing how to just be a parent. I have a lot of soul searching to do thanks to you sharing your experience. Forever thankful!!😊
Thank you very much for this video. We passed on the same parenting skills to my children that we had . I wish we had help and broken the cycle. They turned out well but they could have had much happier childhoods and this adulthoods oils have been better also. Thanks again 😢
A referral is required from my PCP(Primary Care Physician) to see any SPECIALIST. My PCP/Medical Administration fired me as a patient for not seeing my PCP during the Pandemic.(No office visits or elective surgery allowed). I was delayed three months to establish a new PCP because most doctors are not accepting Medicare coverage. I saw my doctor and he emphasized four times that if I did not comply with his Standard of Care Protocol then I would be labeled in my chart a NON-COMPLIANT patient and would be fired by him. He reviewed my old charts from three years ago and informed me I was not complying with STANDARD of Care Practices because I was not taking a statin of an ACE-Inhibitor blood pressure medication(These medications were given to me before and my body did not tolerate them.). I take 1/2 of a baby aspirin daily and my blood pressure is 105/60 for the past three years following a very low-carb lifestyle for over six years. Thankfully, I was able to bypass the referral process to see my specialist. I will be searching for another PCP.
You've gained so much wisdom Dr. Cywes from those anecdotes and life experiences. Thank you for sharing them. I can empathize about your father's passing as I have gone through the pain of losing my own parents in the last few years. May your father rest in peace.
My youngest son (now 15) started with a lot of issues a few years ago - eventually diagnosed with a from of IBS and he also had fibromyalgia like symptoms. We went to doctor after doctor, desperate for help. He was in soooo much pain for so long. He tried the Low FODMAP diet with very little improvement. I had been researching nutrition for years and came across Keto several years ago and Carnivore 4 years ago. I encouraged him to go Carnivore last October and he was better almost immediately. However, we've found out doctors are NOT a fan and it's very unfortunate. The dietician they insisted we meet with tried to convince him he was going to die because, she said, "We KNOW eating meat causes cancer, heart disease, stroke, etc." My son has done enough research that he just ignored her and continued on. It's very sad to feel like we can't trust the medical field and have to figure everything out on our own. I very much appreciate channels like yours and just wish in our area (with 2 major hospitals!) we could find a doctor that sees the benefit of low carb/keto/carnivore we could go to.
Thank you. Very moving and insightful. Loved the fasting exercise timing idea. I'd heard of childhood statins being prescribed (aghast at the notion!) but reporting parents for 'neglect' when refusing ... the state of Florida seems to have lost respect for freedom and individuality. Thank goodness for wise souls like you. We need you cloned!!! :)
Enjoyed this very much. I have been a Type 1 diabetic for 59 years. The hospital story resonates with me because every time I am hospitalized, I have to.explain to the doctors that I still need insulin to cover my basal needs. Last hospitalization they brought in an endocrinologist who drastically reduced my basal insulin and used the hospital’s standard sliding scale protocol. My glucose stayed in the 500 to 600 range and I was miserable.
That is disgusting! You should always have Berstien's book on hand if admitted....not to educate (as if) but the hard cover version could be used cleverly .
Outstanding! The agony and ecstasy of life, huh? A glorious journey without ever attaining a destination. Imposing limitations, I must do this or I must never do that, is to put oneself into a cage. Learning through mistakes is a perfect way to live and grow. I missed a lot of life by trying not to make mistakes, my biggest mistake.
You make so much sense in a world full of crazies. I’m feeling grateful to have found you on RU-vid a few months back when I wanted info on KETO. Who knew I’d also get a parenting lesson today?! All I can say is, “Thanks! I needed this!”
You just made me cry. I’m even wondering why I’m crying. I’m from Uganda and most parents keep the rod close by. Our dad used to beat or order someone or even a younger sibling to get a stick and cane our behinds. I still love him as a dad but I hate him and stay away from him and also we as siblings just talk very less to each other. He really screwed his family up just because he wanted to make us obedient and respectful of him. Guys, don’t be like my dad. At least I’ve been in that experimental program and it didn’t end up well. You don’t have to repeat it. Now thank me. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
Very powerful indeed. I do want you to record more of your anecdotes and observances. They are honest and teach people about themselves and others. I respect your story and much better child rearing skills than you received. Your respect for your family is so tender and pure so as to point the way to light, away from darkness. I enjoy the light you are learning. Thank you for your tears of memories and of present, pleasant family light. Honesty. Vulnerability. Hope. Change. Much better than a lecture or list! You are right! Humility in imperfection is cleansing and healing. Fear must be rejected to see. I reject it! Thank you for your courage!
I had a difficult relationship with my father. He was gone for most of my childhood and we never really got to know one another. I almost lost him in 2020 to COVID, so made a concerted effort to mend our relationship. It was slow going, but getting better. April of 2022 he was diagnosed with Stage 4 lung cancer. He fought it like no one I've ever seen and I was there as much as he would allow me to be. I lost him in October of last year. I had the honor and privilege of helping him pass from this life in his home on his own terms. I have so many regrets, but being there in the end with him is not one of them. He wasn't perfect, but neither was I . I miss him tremendously and all the time that was wasted.
Yes, it is not only our ignorance about diet... it is our ignorance about maintaining good relationships, especially with our own children. All this is very sad for humanity, that even after thousands of years of intelligence, speech, handing down knowledge to younger generations... we as humans have not evolved very much in subjects which REALLY matter.
Wonderful wisdom shared here. Thank you doctor. Many of us out here can relate to this misguided treatment being received from health care providers. As I listen to this video I await a call from a doctor to discuss my blood test results. High LDL. I’m on a carnivore and greens diet. How do I explain to her about pattern A and pattern B LDL particles? And that it’s the insulin I’ve injected for nearly 20 years that caused heart disease and worsened diabetes? Thanks to you, doc, I’ve decreased insulin from 120 units a day to 32, I’m in ketosis (1.3 last reading), my hba1c has gone down from 57 to 51 (U.K. units I’m afraid - I think about 6.7) and I’ve lost 12lbs in 8 weeks.
I truly appreciate you. I watch you and Dr. Berry. I found you guys while searching for answers on my poor health. Unfortunately, your truths have shown me that past Drs. I've trusted with my life, have actually caused me great harm. They've drastically reduced my mortality. I'm seriously trying to stay alive and active enough to stay out of a nursing home. You guys have helped. But some of your recommendations are no longer able to help me. I'm very sad to know now that I'm facing a death sentence. Western Medicine has become political and profit based. Not health conscience. I now say that, "good health is the best money can buy". If you became disabled due to current medical practices, you no longer can afford to be healthy. I've been told by many doctors that what has been done cannot be undone. I'm following your advice the best that is possible, but it's too late for me. I just hope and pray that the people are listening to you and Dr. Berry are able to catch their problems and reverse the damage done by listening to current medical advice. Thank you again.
Thank you, Dr Cywes. Your 3 stories had my thoughts & emotions going from anger to sad tears. I pray the relationship with my oldest child heals in time. I regret the parenting mistakes I made.
Lovely Doc. You're a good man and a good doctor who recognizes how broken western medicine is. I'm sure your Daddy was very proud of you. Yes, I like the random thoughts.
Another powerful and inspirational message thank you so much for you and your talks I can’t tell you how much they help me and I am sure many others! Please keep them coming! I appreciate you and all the work that goes into what you do - THANK YOU! 😊
Exogenous BHB (including its precursor 1,3-butanediol) is an incredibly effective appetite suppressant. It works for keto induction, making the process entirely hunger free. It also works for people who are not keto adapted at all and are on a high carb diet. I have tried this with giving them 1/2 Tbsp of ketone salts when they complain about being suddenly hungry. It shuts the cravings off within about 5 minutes. The butanediol might take a little longer since it needs to be oxidized to BHB to become effective. This stuff should work for anyone to suppress appetite cravings on demand, whether on keto or not.
Thank you for your personal story. My father tried to give me advice. It didn't work. What made it worse is that his advice was from the point of view of his own personality type and completely inappropriate for mine, which he did not understand. I wound up shutting him out of my life. Sad...
Here in Sweden they give patients lots of fruit, juice and toast, potato, rice, pasta and desserts after dinner I can guess you have about 250-350 grams of carbs every day
Regaeding the dr that prescribed the statin; I praise God my kids are all grown up and I don't have to face such evil anymore. Interesting analysis on the father child dillemas.
In psychology it’s important for a patient to reach his own conclusion so that he credits himself for the achieved success and not the educator, hence the “guided discovery” techniques.
I love your random thoughts. Your compassion and insights. I appreciate you sharing your hard earned knowledge with us. I'm grateful I found your channel.
Dr.Cywes, I came across you on u tube a few day's ago, I became interested in the carnivor diet a few weeks ago, threw a very good friend, I was having some blood pressure problems, severe insomnia, and anxiety.long story short been going to a local clinic for 4 months, only seen nurse practitioners, still haven't seen the actual doctor. I am on BP med. now..not sure about it's effectiveness, however, been on the carnivor diet 27 days, I feel much better, and am sleeping better most nights, not sure how much weight loss yet but , I do know my clothes don't fit , so I take that as a plus. I will continue to watch you and hopefully learn more about all of this, I'm not having a problem staying away from carbs,or sugar to my surprise .Thank you, for all the information, I only wish you were in Texas..
Hi Dr Cywes ,I loved your video and I never quite got over from the loss of my father who suffered and died from Type 1 diabetes ( blindness,amputations, dialysis and he never complained about it).Thank you for sharing and God bless you.
