Episode 1: How and Why Red-Blooded American Men Disappeared from America's "Top" Colleges 

As a dad of three Asian college boys, and have been very involved in the college application process in the past 3-4 years, I totally agree with your observation. Since middle schools, there are so many opportunities (summer camps, competitions, mentoring opportunities, etc...) that are only opened to girls. There is nothing exclusive to boys, everything boys are allowed to do, girls can, rightfully so. But the other way cannot be said. It's frustrating. All my boys are in T10 colleges now, and I cannot imagine having to do this again. I hope things change soon. Now I don't have to feel afraid of retribution, both in local school district, and online, I plan to speak more openly, more passionately, to advocate for boys (especially non-marginal ones) Thank you making this series.

Here in Seattle, it all started with "Sharing is caring" in preschool, and moved to grievance activism and indignant group thinking in high school.

You are a brave man and I appreciate your candor.

You made many good points and maybe a few enemies! The typical school is pretty hostile to boys and I can tell you from my own experience that boys are viewed as trouble by teachers. I ended up moving my son to an all-boys school where there is less of an effort to remove the boy behavior. He's doing well and I think that he now views school as less of a punishment than a challenge. Thank you for being so bold.

Thanks for this video. Looking forward to the rest of the series. I have been sounding this alarm for 15 years. I only have boys, but if I had girls, I would be very concerned for them and finding future mates.

My wife and I have three red blooded American boys, one in college and two in high school. We educate them on morals and values at home, we do not leave this part of their development to the schools. We have had ongoing conversations around the dinner table about the woke agenda and indoctrination in schools since they were all in Pre K. My boys see the system for what it is, are comfortable navigating the scholastic circus, and are excellent students. We also make sure they participate in red blooded boy extracurriculars (individual sports, martial arts, etc.). Parents, don't surrender to the schools!

I have two daughters and one son, all teenagers and I know how badly boys are treated, especially in elementary school. My son was sent to the college guidance counselor at his public high school this year to state his case for wanting to take some AP classes because he signed up for a few and the guidance counselor said the classes are competitive to get into. For my daughters wanting those same AP classes, no problem. My son isn't sure he wants to go to college. And when looking at common data sets of universities, it's almost always 60 percent or more female of the undergraduate population. This is and has been a problem. It's very rare to see 50 percent male students

I love this title. As a parent, one of the things I’m looking for in a college for my son is the possibility that he will meet a nice girl to marry. If I had a daughter, it would be my top concern. Whether she knew it or not. College boards should always remember this.

What do u think abt “red blooded men” in top colleges vs men who are successful due to parental efforts and pressures?

Seems like the corporate world treats men much the same way. It's an extension of everything we experience in the education system.

My 16 year old junior floundered through middle school and early high school while taking standard classes, then he himself pushed to move up to a more challenging track and now he is excelling as he stepped up to the rigor he was facing as opposed to floundering in boredom.

You bio says you worked at the admissions office at UPenn. Was that as an admissions officer?

Looking forward to the rest of the series here. My daughter is a freshman at UCLA and upon my several visits (while of course just anecdotal impressions) I have in fact been struck by this. There are some but it seems they are the rarity. She's found some international red blooded males....but the American you describe (while of course there) seems more rare and there are a lot of girls and a lot of beautiful girls all vying for the few. I actually feel for some of the girls as it seems really skewed so the dating pool is more limited for the females. This may be fine for college and is making my daughter instead more focused on school, work etc, but what you are talking about is a real thing and is having a real consequences.I just pulled it up and the school indeed for under grad is 59 % female/41% male......Not so fun for the girls. but the boys will have a broad dating pool. Some of them may even be overwhelmed. More balance would be great.

I agree with some of your points but the definition of a “red-blooded American male” is still amorphous. As you mentioned in the beginning, this monologue is not defined. Because your ideas are not “fully crystallized”. It is hard to agree with or respond to it by your listeners. I am interested in how a campus with 50% male population only has 20% red-blooded American male contained on it?

As someone who is probably in that 60%, why would I want to go to some prestigious university that hates my guts as an upper middle class straight white male? They don’t want me being who I am, and I sure don’t want to be a part of their decadence. The men who are most successful in those universities mostly fall along that 20-30% of, for lack of better words, effeminate side of spectrum. Of course there are exceptions, but not many. Mostly because they are the ones who share the values of the liberal professors and peers of their liberal university (which 99% of prestigious institutions now are). That’s to say, I totally agree with your line of thinking. Thank you for not being scared to say it how it is, since so many others are…

Do I think some of what you said is true? Yes. I've seen it. However, these biases aren't impossible, or even that difficult, to overcome. I have a son at an Ivy Plus school that is in the US News top ten. He would fit your profile of a red-blooded American male. Based on how he did on certain tests early on, we knew he would be in the mix for top tier colleges & universities. (He got in without a consultant or any special advantages. He did have terrific test scores and ECs).So, we budgeted for this. You talked about the middle 60%. We are in that demographic. We make too much for financial aid but we aren't rich. The overwhelming majority of people in the middle 60%, where most of these boys can be found, don't budget and save for top tier schools. They buy boats, take crazy vacations, buy the biggest possible house - anything but saving for the sticker price of top tier universities.

I'd like to see the data that matters which is how many school age students were there in the US in 1990, 2000, 2010, and 2020? And for those years what percent of boys went on to go to college, technical school, military, etc. This data is prime to unveil the problems we are seeing today. We cannot just look at the proportion of men vs women because women have completely changed the landscape of education and careers in the last few decades.