Video Timestamps: 0:00 Welcome 5:46 Topic Introduction 17:21 Women ELIMINATE the Possibility of Sex Through ED 19:40 Women Want Men to Be Powerless 21:27 Women Want Something or SomeONE to Blame 32:20 The Solution 40:29 Questions and Comments
Then, once the "time" actually comes for the fun, the amount of mental pressure is beyond and unhealthy. And if it's happened once before, your mind is most certainly hoping it doesn't happen again. That doesn't help at all...
Karyn uses red pill to keep women in control. Notice how she always says 'good men and women. She never says 'good' men and 'GOOD' women. She is inconsistent and contradicts herself. She says all women emotionally abuse their man but then says her channel is not for abusive relationships. Karyn builds up women as being unassailable masters of relationships because she has always been a rebellious woman with daddy issues.
After 15 years of repeated rejections and neglect, I no longer view my wife in any kind of sexual way. She has psychologically conditioned me not to be aroused by her anymore. My body no longer responds to her because if she's there, my brain subconsciously assumes that sex isn't going to happen. I have no physical issues when I'm handling my frustrations solo so I'm absolutely certain that the problem is her long term treatment of me. Since the damage is already done, there's no fixing it. Any feelings of passion or desire I used to have are now long dead. I'm past the point of no return. You can't water a dead plant back to life. Wives out there, you better fix the situation before your husbands pass the point of no return. Once your husband stops initiating, know that it's the beginning of the end of your marriage.
@@zingking0132 still married but nothing more than roommates. The divorce laws here are extremely biased. After alimony, I wouldn't have enough left over to live on myself so divorce would literally mean making myself homeless.
Especially over seas. All it takes is true desire from a lady you are attracted to. Many of the men were shut down by mean and controlling wives. It had nothing to do with her weight. How will someone mean and controlling turn you on? She doesn't want you turned on, she wants to win!
Women want a man who is above them, not an equal. Keep assets in a separate holding company. Have at least one girlfriend. This way she will love the challenge keeping you interested in her.
If someone is married then they shouldn't have a girlfriend. Marriage is about commitment, not cheating. Ask God for help. He's ready for the challenge. He rolls up his sleeves and gets into it.
My ex wife had a mystery illness for 20 years. After more scans and tests, even an exploratory surgery, her final doctor recommended seeing a psychiatrist. She stopped complaining about phantom pain and was apparently miraculously cured. It was of course, a ruse to avoid intimacy. The marriage was 20 years of frustration and pain for me.
Solution to ED.......25 year old girlfriend. Saw the new Star Wars producer talk today, saying she 'likes to make men uncomfortable' and all the cheering and clapping.....This Woman was so priviliged wealth education status, and still they all hate men. Really incomprehensible. And they will destroy Disney.
I am a 64 year dood, married 41 years, this video is my story. Only stayed in it for the kids. Sexless marrage for 20 years and my wife is a phycotherapist.
I came to the realization, years later after divorce, she was doing EVERYTHING she could think of to drive me away and initiate divorce myself. But I wasn't giving up, no matter what she did. So she baited me into a scenario where she could attack me for wanting sex after an unusual drought. CLICK like a switch, no sex. I never begged. I endured in silence. 18 months later, she filed for divorce because I was too BETA to do it myself. We have 5 children. It was hell. But freedom from her insanity was pure relief.
Mine eventually after all these years ended up cheating on me or so she says, I don't really have any proof, but I am for the last 13 years being heavily emasculated and she of course will never admit that. And she continues to hurt me as much as she can.
Right you are! Five out of six marriage counselors we’ve seen over the past 20 years started with the assumption that I was the problem in our marriage. What is it about marriage counselors who assume all men are clueless oafs And all women are innocent victims when it comes to the marriage relationship. Especially in the area of sex, it is considered axiomatic to these people that men are 100% at fault. They should be embarrassed to call themselves “therapists.“
@@cryptojihadi265 You're 100% correct. Pastors like to gang up on the man because it gives him control over the household. On the therapist I ensured their core values respected intimacy, relationships and love. I knew many of them could represent a political angle.
You are on a path to becoming the good wife you probably once were. Good for you. Most women will hear these things and their pride will make them completely disregard the truth. These women tell men the man’s reality and won’t hear anything that they can improve upon. Best wishes to the both of you and hopefully you relationship isn’t damaged beyond repair. Most men are willing to put up with MUCH more than they should for much LONGER than they should.
If a woman attempts to emasculate a man, he will become unattracted to her. Similarly, when a woman constantly denies her husband's advances will generate resentment within the man. When a man knows that she does not care about satisfying his needs or understanding that her lack of understanding that her efforts in this area go along way to how he maintains a connection with her over time. If he feels she does not care about him or his needs, his attraction to her will wane and this will result in ED. It's true if you don't use it you lose it - the same for any skill.
@@sarahrobertson634 I’m sorry, Sarah. But sex is a biological need every male has, and guess what, it is also a need that women have too. It’s what makes a marriage bond stronger.
You cannot get your self-worth from your wife. I'm married 17 years and I just learned this a week or two ago. I thought my wife was the problem until I discovered _"Marriage Mastery"_ YT channel. Josh Hudson is a licensed therapist but solely works with men. I think the science backs up his content. I'm pretty sure your marriage would greatly improve just by listening and implementing his free content. Men have a lot more "power" in their relationship than they realize. The feminine follows the masculine. Your self-worth has to come from yourself. You have to _want_ your wife, not _need_ your wife. Your wife desires to be wanted-not needed. You need to have purpose and goals as a man and seek to have high-value traits like integrity, passion, empathy, responsibility, and assertiveness. You cannot rely on your wife for any of this. She will lose respect for you and resent you if you have insecurities and remain needy. If you do not know what you are insecure about, your wife will forever remind you until you master them.
@@thehappywifeschool Why are my comments being deleted? I'm not a bot and I'm not spamming anything for personal gain. I left some comments informing people of a YT channel I found a couple weeks ago called _"Marriage Mastery"._ I've been married 17 years and my wife and I have 8 children together. We have had a pretty rocky year in our marriage in 2023 and December was pretty bad. I discovered your channel and felt like you were the only woman in the world that understood what men go through and how vicious our sweet wives can be at times. I felt really hopeless because my wife did not want to check out your channel and I felt like I was just going to remain roommates with the woman I love. Then I discovered Josh Hudson's channel and I was blown away that only the man in the relationship was capable and able to change the course of his marriage even if his wife is being cold, separated, or filing for divorce. I'm not affiliated with Josh or his channel at all. I'm a "good man" and I binge-watched his videos and started to implementing his tools and communication techniques. I went from sleeping on the couch to getting "lucky" three times in one week. Like the gospel I had to share the good news with the _good men_ here who listen to your content. I know this is your channel but I don't see how my comments were offensive in any way. I want all the men who listen to you to have happy healthy marriages with their wives.
Men we have the power! No ring, no proposal, no wedding, no kids. The family court system needs to be reformed. Do you want to lose half or more of everything? Think about it, long and hard. Marriage is not worth the mental, emotional and financial risk. Spread the message, tell every man you know. Stay safe! Women do not care what men want, it has never crossed their minds.
The problem is deeper than you think. It's not that women are inherently evil these days. With all the media and the brainwashing going on, marriage is being attack, not just marriage but every values that would actually make a marriage work are being replaced by garbage values through brainwashing from tvshows, movies and news. People don't know what's right anymore, almost no one has a solid foundation anymore. Even religious people are losing out since their foundations were too weak to hold.
You clearly have honorable intentions with your husband and your relationship many women would be offended by such content. You have clearly guarded your mind from poison like the Bible tells us to
Women want a man who is above them, not an equal. Keep assets in a separate holding company. Have at least one girlfriend. This way, she will love the challenge of keeping you interested in her. Feminists destroyed women. So much hate.
I’m not game to share with my wife I don’t want to hurt her so I just suffer in silence I’m glad you got something out of this post may you have every happiness
I am so glad my wife divorced me at 50 years old.... I get to live the rest of my life without her constantly beating me down. No sex is way better than her idea of sex.
Make sure you live a great life and have an enjoyable sex life. Some men in the states are taking vacation or living in the phillipines, DR or Brazil or South East Asia, there is no issue with the sex life there and your life will feel great.
I think I have to agree. Lately when my wife wants to have sex she is just going through the motions. Its a complete turn-off. I think I prefer no sex with her at all then a partner just going through the motions.
So then the question is is it possible to "flip the switch" in her where she has desire on her own? You know if she goes single, she probably will have desire reignited... Can you make it where she "misses" you and longs and desires to touch you and be close to you? For the men who have been shut down for long periods of time, might appreciate a considerate wife who "went thru the motions" because she cares but just doesn't feel it for herself.@@geography_guy335
Well, I was emotionally abused by my ex - narcissistic wife and it was devastating.. But as I researched and learned about this women's tactics, I regain power and then I was the one having sex with her but my way. Apparently, she liked being treated like an object in bed and I enjoyed. Now, as we are Super Empaths, this little revenge didn't lasted long because my good hearted nature made me move out of this toxicity. Turns out, she then wanted me back and she suffered trying to get me back. Best REVENGE EVER. See, being good always pays back
My wife has emasculated me almost every day since we were married. She has blamed me for everything since our only child was born. I have been mocked, disrespected, abused and treated badly by her. She knows I will never abandon my child. So much truth here. So much lost!
This is the third video in this series I have listened to today. The other two I listened to twice. This one I’m half way through and I am fighting myself to not let my anger boil over like it has in the past. I’m listening to this and it memory after memory popping up and I see every little piece of the puzzle being laid out in my minds eye. The recognition of so many things over our fourty year marriage. 5 years ago we had a big falling out over this issue and I have never forgotten her telling me “you don’t ever get hard around me. Apparently I don’t turn you on”. She said it with a poisonous tone. I remember looking at her and saying wow., seriously?!? I’m not trying to imply I’m completely innocent here, because it takes two to tango. But I’ve known all along what was happening, but now I’m seeing the big picture come together. I’m not sure what to do. You’re right, I can’t correct this, she has to recognize the problems in her life and correct it before We can correct the problems on Our life. Thank you so much for your training, you are such a breath of fresh air.
Those emotions help is learn. Then take the lead. Women want a man who is above them, not an equal. Keep assets in a separate holding company. Have at least one girlfriend. This way, she will love the challenge of keeping you interested in her. Feminists destroyed women. So much hate.
After 50 years of marriage, and acquiring E.D., I PRAY that my wife will be open minded enough to listen to your teaching. THANK YOU so much for what you are doing!...
Don't hope... You've already wasted 50 years of your life to someone who doesn't care about you. The sexless thing can go on for 3-6 months and it communicates the same thing. That she doesn't like you like that...
This goes back to Genesis 2 where the curse on the woman was that she'd desire to have power over the man. The good news is Jesus breaks curses. I used to want to dominate my man but not anymore. Nooo..
I shared a couple videos with a female millennial we know and she reacted almost immediately with “she seems codependent and her husband is a controlling narcissist”. From 13 minutes of videos. I couldn’t believe it. She is in no way qualified to make any such assessment but it is totally commensurate with where our society is today…blame, blame, blame and don’t take responsibility. That what’s refreshing about this channel, finally someone on the internet is looking inward first!
Karyn also blames and says she is a victim. She says women are not victims and then says it is a woman's nature to avoid accountability. So which is it?
Did she even watch the videos? Because in this day and age, women label anyone who doesn't tell them what they want to hear as narcissistic and controlling.
No… the new term that’s being used for women that thinks like Karyn is “ pick me” woman. I absolutely love this channel because it’s giving me a mirror to look into and solutions to continue changing my way.
At least she watched it 13 minutes. I sent a 10 minute video to my 48yo wife where before watching it sent a large negative text to me that decided to call and explain it to me also. Without watching it. Sad
It could also be possible that a man , who has been constantly criticized, disrespected and emasculated, won't have the sexual drive to have sex with the very person who, well, make them feel like crap. I mean why would you want to get intimate with someone who hurts you?
Years of miserable marriage and girlfriend who stressed me put beyond description, i started thinking something was really wrong with me. Went to meet up with an old fling who was fun and caring and attentive... I lasted HOURS. What a difference!!!
My family doctor when I was 35 years old. "The problem isn't that you need Viagra. The problem is that you hate your wife." I hadn't even said anything about her. I didn't know myself. But, it was at that time I realized he was right.
Your channel is the best. Can’t thank you 😊 enough. Last time I made a pass at my wife she accused me of being obsessed with sex. This coming from my wife from a time where sex was maybe once a month.
I normally don't give advice like this, but for that, either stop paying anything for her at all, or leave her immediately altogether. I've been there before. She will not change. The only things that can reverse this are polygyny, which is illegal in western nations, and being unable to penalize you for adultery, which they can in the west. The sooner you drop her, the sooner you can replace her. If you have kids and they ever side against you, tell them your side of the story in one sentence. She refused you and didn't state a reason, and that's a non-negotiable.
I discovered Karyn's channel last month. I finally felt like at least one woman in the world understood me. I also tried getting my wife to listen and when she saw the channel name she flipped out on me. I thought I was being helpful but it completely backfired and I felt unfulfilled and unappreciated as a man. Needless to say my wife and I fought a lot last month. The last week of December I stumbled upon a YT channel called _"Marriage Mastery"._ Josh Hudson, a licensed therapist, helps men going through divorce or separation win their wives back all by themselves within four to eight weeks time on average. I binge-watched all his videos and started implementing the tools and knowledge in my own marriage. My wife and I were maybe having sex once or twice a month before but once I started manning up following Josh Hudson's tools and advice, I had sex three times in the first week. I guess I had no idea what turned on my wife in the last 17 years of my marriage. Us men do not know how to communicate with our wives. We use logic to try and "fix" emotional issues. We don't know how to validate what our wives are emotionally saying and feeling when it comes to our own insecurities. We have to learn what is attractive to women. Providing a roof over her head, money in her bank account, and food on the table is not enough. Those are necessary but it is not what a woman finds attractive in a man. You need to want your wife, not need your wife. A woman is turned-off and repulsed by a needy and insecure "boy". Next time your wife turns you down you need to act as if you don't give a shit. You need to be 100% a complete and secure person on your own and act as if you don't need her-obviously without saying it. Women can see through men very easily so you can't fake it either. Go check out Josh Hudson's channel. Men have full control over their relationships and they don't even know it. The feminine follows the masculine.
Hm...as a man who will probably divorce soon, watching your genuine smile, and genuine happyness is just so calming and at the same time very attractive...maybe the reason for I feel like this is because I have a desire for a woman like that. You seems like you are stong, but at the same time happy, and balanced and HUMBLE. At the same time... I wish all the man a wife like you, I think all women should get this red pill....we realy want it. Toxic feminism is sadly a growing problem...
@@angelika87 Thats true, and an unhappy one is like a poison...my wifes just robbed 10 years of my life...10 years of attention, 10 years of trying to help her in any level. I helped her to grow up as an adult, cuz at 24 she was still like a 16 years old inside her head, knew nothing about work and jobs, I helped her to be strong and fight for her justice and after that, the dragon I grew up turned against me...I am very sad....not about loosing her, cuz now at this state she is unlivible, but wasting 10 years on her...
Thank you for speaking the truth. Thank you for waking me up to the truth about my woman ways. I am very grateful to know now that making my self happy first and having my own life first is the answer. It's an awful experience to tear my self and others down when I CAN simply be a happy grown up adult and be kind. My future husband will be very lucky to have me because all he will ever receive from me will be a deep respect and appreciation, and plenty of good sex! I wouldn't be where I am today with my self without the help of Karyn's wisdom.
Wow, you are brave and a great example of a truth seeker 👏 . When you do have sex together - it's important he knows you want him to enjoy and not a chore as sex without love and desire is empty.
" making my self happy first and having my own life first is the answer" UMM, I have never yet seen or known any woman that is NOT self absorbed in seeking her own happiness. Women are obsessed with it to the point of other women persuading them to live such a life. Marrying such a selfish mindset is doomed for failure. No thank you, still single @ 80.......and happy!
I’m not struggling with ED. But I’m gonna tell you you are spot on. I work with people in Christian deliverance ministry and I see this all the time we have labels for it. My wife filed a divorce on me because of this right here in menopause, and all these things happening at once. And everybody’s standing there like why would she divorce you. I don’t drink I don’t smoke. I don’t do drugs. I don’t squander money I’m not a womanizer I don’t cheat. I provide the refrigerators always full. The cars are fixed. I bought her a wonderful place in the mountains because she wanted a homestead. And two years ago she started down the road of a false religion and talking to a bunch of people that she shouldn’t be talking to including counselors just like you said. And before I knew it, somebody had talked her into divorcing me. And I’m a good Christian man and I love my family and I don’t want a divorce. I’ll tell you what I’ve never seen anything like this. And every chance I had to try to explain these things or try to help her or try to be that guy that’s really in there to support her Made it look like I was even worse and more of the problem to her. She came out of some physically violence abusive relationships years ago. I’m not that guy and I don’t think she knows how to handle a good person. Anyway, I just wanted to tell you this video and some of your other ones that I’ve listened to are really spot on. Sorry for any typos. I’m doing voice text while I’m driving.
When you said, “I don’t think she knows how to handle a good person”, that was an epiphany for me! Sadly, My wife did not learn this from her abusive parents.
I'm a copy of you holding on indefinitely...until God..ministered to me years ago..in a dream,,never put a woman on your heart..if she wants to go,let her go..you are free to move on with your..life..( only salvation is guaran teed in this life)
Thank you! After 20 yrs of being rejected by two mother-in-laws in two separate marriages; I stopped trying to be a nice guy. He died last year and I’m no longer trying to force something that should be natural to normal human beings.
Us men have been sidetrackt on female nature on purpose. Woman and accountability are two things that don't go together. Its very important to set the rules and boundries upfront. Especially that logic and reason are the foundation of any conversation, not feelings. Set these rules and boundries and you'll find 80% of modern western woman will fall of the wagon before it departs. Luckely most woman nowadays wear their red flags like a medal.
Women have the distinct advantage of being able to present themselves as nurturing, caring victims and then overnight and out of sight become FERAL and nobody knows but her and whoever the tomcat was. It's a bad deal for a caring man.@@dw4956
I've watched two of your video's so far and you are right on the money. This is why so many men have had it with American women. So many men are looking for women overseas trying to find a down to earth loving and caring woman. Thank you for the videos I really enjoy your content and the sincere way you present them.
I’m curious to know about that process… aren’t the women overseas super traditional? Meaning they live in multiple generational homes where everyone helps out. The woman has kids and her mother helps raise them. Grandma, daughter and grandkids cook and clean. Old man works and deals with house maintenance. Husband works and provides money and food for everyone and everything. Then when his wife’s mother and father get old HUSBAND provides for them until they pass. Are the American men really stepping up to the plate and financially supporting their wife, kids, and in-laws? Are American men actually learning their wife’s culture? Are the American men being traditional or are they turning a blind eye to their wife’s culture/tradition and expecting her to be western traditional to benefit himself? Curious, because it can’t be both. Either the American men are wanting traditional culture from overseas or they are just as bad as American women…. If American men involve themselves overseas and neglect their duties they are using those women for the box just like American women use men for their money.
I worked in the electrical and Mechanical field for almost 40 years. I worked 7 days a week for all this time. I told my wife that sex for me was best in the morning. I was tired after working all afternoon and morning time I was rested all active. She said that sex was best for her at night, she and I both had bariatric surgeries surgery and she ruined hers by hiding and hoarding candy. I have been back to my high school weight since mine. I felt alot of hostility over this. She ruined her career and never returned to the workplace to help take the load off of me. She just stopped being my partner and fought with me over the pettiest of things. I shared all of the household chores with her, I went grocery shopping with her, I did all of the lawn and garden work by myself. While she bitched about everything to everyone about me. I just lost all respect and feelings for her because I thought that marriage was us sharing everything, good or bad. I felt alone and taken advantage of by her. Everything was my fault and nothing I did was ever right. I am seeing that I need some therapy. Thanks for opening my eyes!
Been dealing with it for the entirety of my 23 year marriage. But it's more about my wife's lack.of interest than anything else. When I do all the right things and come on to her and she noticably drops her shoulders and makes it seem like I'm the last person on the earth that she wants to do that with, yeah, there's no blood flowing into the Magic rod that night. After being cheated in by every past bf in her life, you would figure she would figure it out. So what do you do, end the marriage? Everything else is great, but I don't want a sexless relationship. THIS IS WHY SPOUCES CHEAT. I work hard, I don't hang out at bars, I help out around the house, I stay in great shape and I'm loyal. Again, this is why partners cheat. Sex is very important, especially to men. What's worse, I have many women in our circles that have come on to me, they let me know that I'm attractive. Never cheated though. But damn… .
Give them the videos to watch and discuss them after. If she REALLY love you, she will go for it. Otherwise make it clear that she is giving you permission to move to greener pastures.
@@Wake-upCall-zc8id I wish it was that easy. For every Karyn video, there are a dozen videos saying it's the guys fault. I'm not kidding. Most women need you to give them a fairytale day to get them in the mood, which is not possible when you work fulltime jobs, have kids and have a house to keep after. Even if you give them that fairytale day and treat them like a princess, you still might end up doing the job yourself.
@@jeffclark4008 You are right, the media is pushing full control to women, even if they do not know what to do with it. This is a part of the evil agenda for this world. If your lady cannot snap out of this endoctrination, you have 2 choices, still suffering or move along. As for me and my second wife, I will try to wake her up, but if she fail, I am done. Life is short and don't want to be sad for ever.
@@jeffclark4008Fairy tale days are in Hollywood & Disney, not real life. Have the heart to heart (come to Jesus) conversation w her and lay it out in a clear concise manner what you need in your marriage. If she is unable or unwilling to meet your needs, consult an attorney & find out the good bad & ugly of ending it. Life is too short to be in a sexless/less than healthy marriage. You are the prize, young man AND deserve nothing but the best in life. Good luck!✋️😃
My God. 40 years before I got to hear the truth of all this. Thank you for laying all this out. I thank God that I just saw this video. My goodness. Maybe I can put myself back together after all.
What proved that you had no problem? Probably a new woman whose attractive that actually desired you... Magically everything works there was no problem...
@@dennisrobinson8008 Oh yeah the grass is always greener on the other side. People never drag their baggage from one failed relationship to another. In all seriousness, if his wife doesn't desire him, it is ALL HIS FAULT. Sure the next relationship will be great at first but then the most mysterious thing would happen. He magically would become undesirable once again down the road. Spineless boys with a victim complex are needy and insecure. That is a recipe for an unhappy wife and a failed marriage. All things within the sole power of the man to change.
Totally agree. When my wife ignores me or says she is interested but then chooses not to go to bed with me that night i got frustrated and hurt. As a result I can have trouble getting excited when she does come to bed. I think it is a self protection action so that i don't get hurt if rejected again.
Yes! I spent 15 years feeling less than, mad at and frustrated. If affected every aspect of my life and really resulted in me being miserable and anxious in every part of my life. No longer.
I've been single now for over 26 years now and life has been absolutely brilliant! I was burnt 26 years ago by a girl and I learned my lesson. Never again! Be free from it all men of high valor... be totally free from it all. I'm rich, great health, stress and drama free and the list goes on men! Until the western laws change, in favor of us men, marrage, or dating a woman is not worth it! There is so much more to life than a woman... Please don't take my words for it, ask around and you will come to see that women could care less about your goals. It will always be about them and their wants... your last. Never again! Be totally free from it all and live your most precious and beautiful life before it is gone.
What's interesting, is that I don't see women in her comment section calling her a liar!! On ANY of her videos!!🤣🤣🤣 Thank you, Karyn...for keeping it real!!
Because most women that do hear the truth in her words probably have a husband already. It only matters if he sees that she is listening to someone that can help them better themselves and their marriage. Most of you won't believe that there are women who care about the man they are with.
I see she isn't addressing the effect pornography has on men, which is ED also. She's right but not 100 percent. I don't like how it's all womens fault with her. Men can make a women not want sex with them also.
What a difference it made when I left my long term relationship that was only once or twice a month obligation sex and going soft vs when I met my wife and year later she still can’t keep her hands of me and still initiates all the time and is so eager and willing and excited. I thought something was wrong with me that I wasn’t staying hard during the obligation sex, turns out it was just something wrong with her and my body was responding to how I was feeling and saying “nah fam, this ain’t it, don’t even try to have sex with her, it’s over”
You are so beautiful in spirit and in the manner in which you speak of these intimate subjects. You are providing a wonderful service for men and women.
Thankyou Karyn, I've been looking for answers to what I thought was a marriage problem, thank you for red pilling me. I'm learning to look inward. Thankyou so much for the content you bring ❤️
This is the most brutally honest rendering of female behavior in marriage I've ever come across. Your resolve to face the truth is profound. Your videos are filled with insight. However, how many women in general are willing to face those truths you speak of? A handful? The few are willing. The many would prefer to run away from personal accountability. Modern marriage is a train wreck and cannot be fixed.
Karyn thank you so much for helping Josie start her channel dealing with Autoimmune diseases. Cushing’s Syndrome, pituitary adenoma, all the dysregulation that it does is more than a handful back when we started dealing with it more than forty years ago. It certainly impacts a marriage in so many and various ways. One must be prepared to be a caregiver and potentially long term, it can be done but having help along the way can really help improve the quality of that relationship.
Thanks for your channel, being brave, and sharing this info. You are the only person of which I am aware that is saying what SO MANY men have been saying for so long. Although you are correct that emasculation plays a pivotal role in ED, many women's lack of effort in maintaining their fitness level (physical & mental) and external appearance plays a significant role. As I believe you have said before, men are visual creatures. A women who "let's herself go" is showing disrespect to her husband and herself.
This is deep, so a woman will actually let herself go to push her husband away? As a man we can compromise on body changes and still love our wives but when we are disrespected and emasculated the body changes stand out all the more and just adds to the breakdown...if your heart stays pure , the physical blemishes don't stand out. But even a beautiful woman with an ugly heart becomes ugly and repulsive.
Married for 57 years, no sex for ten years, reason from her is i just don't feel like it. Well at 78 years old and I could still perform given the chance. I get discouraged about my life left
On a lower end is the issues spectrum, taking husband’s sexual interest for granted shows disrespect towards men’s energy. At the begging of the relationship sexual interest comes for free. Later on it has to be earned. If a woman doesn’t put an effort, many men find something better to do. We can always release the tension by ourselves and many choose to do that. We have emotions as well and this is the only way we protect ourselves. Many women complain about their husbands not putting an effort while they do nothing to turn their husbands on. Many outright refuse to put any sort od effort or stop doing things their husband finds off putting. “Turned on” - this is how it feels like. Men can be “on” next to a woman or “off”. That switch, in a long term relationship, is controlled by a woman.
That's me and my wife. Sure, she will put out regularly, but it is met with energy like you were asking her to go mow the lawn. Not exactly a turn on if she has been communicating that she will do it for me but doesn't want to be there.
@@jimjohnson394 You phrased it well - "do it for me". I don't need a service. This is a turn off for me and I want to avoid that kind of experience all together. I have feelings as well that it is toxic long term for me.
Karen, You are awesome. Can you touch on the gaining weight that affects mens attraction and caused ED. I believe women need to here that. Men are visual by nature. Women don’t marry thinking a man will go backwards financially, and yet men are expected to deal with 25-100lb weight gain that is not due to medical issues.
They say through rich and poor so technically a woman is expected to stay with a man even if he goes backwards financially. I'm windowed now but when I was married my husband started putting on weight. I wasn't actually concerned about him gaining weight but the fact that he started getting high blood pressure concerned me. I put him on a diet. You can work with and help your partner if you really care about them.
The irony is that a church fellowship my wife and I were a part of basically said I wasn't being enough of a man, while they were at the same time also emasculating me.
The church fellowship is not god it’s people. Which is instant trouble. Do be so stupid as th throw the baby out with the bath water. Jesus is on man that did it right to help every one else throughout all time. All those people suck. That’s why we need him. Women and men That we get it wrong (constantly and consistently and chronicle and predictably) should be no surprise. Par for the course. But strive any way. The short is that if your your own saviour you will be disappointed.
The problem is that many people in these Churches don’t read the Bible or have a relationship with God through prayer. They just go for the status of being a church going person 🤦
55k subs mean people want to hear what you have to say. Some of us are bold enough to share with our wives, some are not yet. In either case it’s very good information and helps us understand what is going on.
Its about accountability. If the man thinks something is wrong, he will work to try to find a solution. If she thinks something is wrong, she will point fingers and try to establish blame.
Even the Scriptures say this. 1 Corinthians 7:2 but because of the prevalence of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife and each woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband give to his wife her due, and let the wife also do likewise to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but her husband does; likewise, the husband does not have authority over his own body, but his wife does. 5 Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent for an appointed time, so that you may devote time to prayer and may come together again, in order that Satan may not keep tempting you for your lack of self-control.
I have begun to have a strong suspicion that the disproportionately large number of suicides among older men is closely linked to ED and related impacts on and / or by personal relationships. I wish to be wrong.
I know that the same reason that causes 'ED' causes also depression, weight gain and suicidal tendencies. And the reason I'm talking about is not an internal problem. It is an external problem such that if I was the man in question I would seek to separate myself from.
years ago i watching tv with my then wife and some family on a holiday week,when a Viagra ad came on.the one that started with "the number one cause of ed is"and right on cue i said out load "ugly wifes"......all the men laughed,all the women sulked for 10 mins.
Thank you for saying this from a woman’s perspective. I went through this with my Ex and now I’m happily alone doing things I enjoy. I’m afraid to meet another woman for more than just a 1 night stand. It’s safer to just keep myself at a distance. I am afraid
I feel like these videos are torture for men in sexless marriages…. The men all watch this and feel validated but the women will never watch these videos… so what gets accomplished??? I feel like a lot of men have totally given up even asking for sex in marriage because its constant rejection…. And bringing up the subject often leads to arguments so most men have learned to just not say anything and suffer in silence while the women wonder why their men act hurt
I have accepted futility of trying to have sex with my wife. Quite freeing to recognize that self pleasure provides all the benefits without the muss, fuss, costs and pain. Doesn’t do much for our relationship, but helps me feel far better about my life. I am not responsible for her happiness, unhappiness, or lack of sex drive.
I would say that what is accomplished is that some men begin to question why they should tolerate such behavior, why they should suffer in silence for lack of such a basic and fundamental part of a real relationship. As a man If you no longer receive intimacy and affection from your spouse then they really aren’t brining anything to the table. Why persist in such a one-sided relationship? Being single and self-gratifying is still better than being married to a person who doesn’t care about or want you. It also opens the possibility of finding a real partner in future. There is a difference between being on your own and being lonely, better to be on your own than attached to someone and lonely.
She focuses on women for a reason, we have to realize we are at the very least play a part in our marriage problems. We have to realize this, so that moving forward we don't continue to devastate the men we are with. Many men watching are at the breaking point, where it wouldn't matter if their women started to change... but she doesn't want the new generations going on to continue these problems. And it does help a few marriages now.
It's helping me. My bone works and I can clap it even when I am mad, but I am thinking about getting out and it helps to recognize signs of abuse I used to just take
Your channel should have way more subscribers. Your videos so insightful and make me feel much less that I am the problem. I'm always ready to take the blame when I screw up and I've tried everything I know to do to bring the intimacy back out of my wife but nothing works. I keep trying to have hope. God bless you.
Being humiliated is an incredibly powerful anti-aphrodisiac! I’m TERRIFIED to go anywhere near intimacy with her. She has rejected me so much i know better that to even suggest the idea. Why does it seem Dr Seitz is the only woman who owns up ?
You have no reason to doubt what you're saying. This has been my exact experience. You speak from insight, not what you learned and haven't applied on IG or FB. Thank you for your efforts to be insightful and truthful. Much gratitude.
I've had so many GFs, and they've all tried this kind of emasculation. Even my Ex Wife tried it. 7 years of marriage. She tried to punish me through denying me sex. Thankfully I got out before I got ED. I'm hypersexual, so having sex is super important to me. And getting denied is extremely depressing. Getting emasculated is just terrible. Any woman trying to emasculate is actively destroying their relationships. These women don't deserve a good man. Good men deserve to be loved and cared for. I recommend women stop with the bullshit, and convince everyone that men should care about them. Otherwise we'll go our own way. Perhaps to Asia 😇
There is one answer, never get married. Leave any women that is disrespectful or refuses sex in a committed relationship. Not tonight, ok, not tonight again, ok I am leaving and not coming back. That will end the modern women’s ways. Control equals no sex.
@@danilaroche1156 I am not bitter. Only a fool would subject themselves to slavery. You are putting your life and your kids lives at the whim of another person and the legal system. Until you live it you can’t understand the hell another person can put you through for nothing other than they don’t want to be married. Never ever get married. That is the only answer. And by the way I personally do not believe in sex outside of marriage due to my strong religious beliefs. So the only answer is to just leave women alone.
I've been divorced, sweetpea and it was rough. You still seem bitter. I'm a follower of Christ like you. Have you ever pondered the idea that you should FORGIVE your ex. Your exes? Your parents? Your looking at a world of hurt, brother and God does not want that for you .
@@danilaroche1156 I have forgiven her. She did not want to be married. Fine. But you are still a slave as the high income earner and the courts are not “fair” really to either party. So in general women break up families 70 to 80% of divorces filed by women, destroy their kids lives yet justify it is going to be fine, and men pay for the marriage through alimony and child support, because they feel like it. It is just a bad deal for men. Men should never get married. And guess what? They are not getting married because they have figured out the game.
@@danilaroche1156 not sure why I feel compelled to respond and you do seem like a decent person but modern laws are contrary to biblical marriage. Entering into a marriage contract binds the higher earner into a slavery system in which either party can ruin the other persons life. This you would clearly agree. I have not had this happen to me but have seen it repeatedly with friends. And the person that is the most devious wins these conflicts. There is only one way to win, don’t play the game. That is why men should never get married. We must exit out of the game until laws are changed permanently. If they are not, you can’t get married if you want any peace and sanity.
Wow, you rock. You need to start publishing your books so your message is globalized. Thank you so much for standing up for what real good men go through in most marriages.
I found your channel looking for a married woman’s perspective concerning male friends. I thought your video on that subject was excellent. I will say this speaking as a man, a good man, any man, every man, it’s impossible to be friends with a woman without sexual intent. That’s a fact! This video is excellent too, your work is excellent and relevant in every generation. I’ve been married for 22 years next month, what your teaching was true then and true today. Thank you. Jack T.
i disagree... it IS possible for a man to be friends with a woman without sexual intent ONLY IF THE MAN SPECIFICALLY puts the woman in the 'friend zone' - meaning the man has access to the woman sexually, but prefers to keep things platonic. I have a few female friends and this is the exact dynamic - i do have access to them sexually if i make it known, which i know because they've made it known to me in various ways but I'd rather not... i prefer our friendship over complicating and permanently staining it with sexual history. otherwise, i agree... if a man desires a woman and she puts him in the friend zone... they will only not have sex/be intimate as long as the woman is satisfied elsewhere and that man is an orbiter... once the woman is unpleased, she is likely to consider him for intimacy
I went through marriage therapy and it seamed to be my fault and I wasn't doing enough and I would loose everything if we were to divorce it was not a good experience for me and I blame my ed on my age now but it has been going on for years back when I was younger there was a lot of I'm to tired or to busy headache and on my period you don't want it now I finally gave up trying now nothing works at all.I should have seen the hand writing on the wall when dating after a few years the sex slowed way down always an excuse about getting pregnant even though we were using protection I was blind to it at that young age my fault
I know it seems I'm trolling this channel advertising _"Marriage Mastery"_ YT channel but I'm really not. I subscribed to Karyn's channel a month ago and a couple weeks ago I discovered Josh Hudson's _"Marriage Mastery"_ channel. I felt Karyn's channel created in me a justification for being a victim in my marriage (and sex life). Josh Hudson claims he can help men win their wife back who are separated or going through a divorce without even working with the women at all. If this is true, men hold most of the power in the relationship and most men don't even know it. I decided to do my best to forgive my wife for everything and and focus on _unconditionally loving_ her no matter what, and implement the tools and advice from the free _Marriage Mastery"_ YT channel. I wish I could afford his therapy program for men but my marriage has already started improving just by improving on myself. Most guys don't realize but they have become complacent in their relationships over the years and tend to focus on the symptoms without ever really know what the root problems are. It doesn't help that their wives are so emotional, irrational, and cold at times of conflict Just by consciously following the tools and advice, my wife responded positively and we had sex three times the first week I started following Josh's videos. I think the science backs it up and men hold way more power in the relationship than any feminist cares to admit. The feminine follows the masculine. If you act feminine your wife will compensate with masculine traits and resent you. Men emasculate themselves, not women. Women only do that if men give up their power. This may be controversial but you have to want your wife, not need your wife. You have to be in the place that you could do without her and even find another woman if you had to (not that you would or even threaten her with that). A woman desires to be wanted but is turned-off by being needed.
My wife doesn't have a problem saying no. I've heard it so many times... It's pointless to try to approach her. I don't want to be rejected yet again. In the past, the few times she agreed to have sex, it always went like this: things would be going well, then suddenly, she has to go to the bathroom... She is gone a real long time... And after coming back, she doesn't want to have sex anymore! I can see it on her face, the disgust after seeing me, waiting for her. And I can hear it in her words. Any break in our lovemaking, like me, putting on a condom, always caused her to lose interest. And if it wasn't caused by me, she would go for her toilet break... I don't know. It didn't happen before marriage. She didn't have to go to the toilet then. Now, it's just an excuse, to end, what we have just started... It doesn't matter if our sex is in the evening or in the morning. It has nothing to do with her bladder being full after the night. She hates me. And I hate her back.
Sorry man. That’s so crappy. I think there’s a deeper devil there. If she could see she’s the wrong one maybe she could change. Show her som videos and see what flies in your house!?
@@Eliukcory Thanks: the videos, I've tried that... It didn't help. She is right, and I'm wrong. Nothing can convince her. My words have no effect. The words of experts have no effect. Marriage councelling, no effect. I think she's narcissistic. We have been married for 12 years. 365 days in a year. Let's say 3 years is a thousand days. Than 12 years is 4 000. That's how many times I've been rejected. It's in the thousands. She just laughs when I tell her this, as if I'm making it up. From her perspective, it might have happened once.. or twice. From mine, it's in the hundreds... If not thousands. We can't agree on anything.
Sorry Brother, She has emasculated You by insisting on being the 'Man' in the relationship. Now She has lost respect for You. A Woman cannot love , or at least be sexually attracted to a Man She does not respect.If She is not coming on You, then Who is She coming on? PI time. Maybe She is deliberately destroying Your Marriage because it is time to trade You in for cash and prizes, and find a fresher, more compliant SIMP. You need to be a Man, with or without Her, or You will fade away. She has two choices , don't let Her sit on the fence.
@@varmastiko2908 Do you know this song? "Take a look at my girlfriend, she is the only one I've got. Not much of a girlfriend..." When I hear this song, I think of my wife. I do have a wife. I can't take another woman, hopefully one better for me, because I'm still married to this one. She doesn't fulfill her duties. But, on paper, we are still married. So until the divorce goes through, I'm stuck with this one.
let me break this down to one sentence: it's all about power-girl power. Women have been obsessed to have power over a man since Eve and Adam. Eve knew she did wrong but still used her feminine wiles to enlist Adam as a co-conspirator. Women have been shirking accountability ever since.
@@Miss22Sunflower Huh?? Go listen to Pastor Tony Evans teaching on the Fall. God ALWAYS addressed the men FIRST because the commands were given to them, to be passeddown and be good leaders. Adam did not protect Eve. He was "WITH HER", engaged in this whole discussion. He allowed her to taste the fruit first, to see if she would indeed die. Dont just listen to one person or one groups take on any given subject. Do your own research. Erectile Disfunction as well as Menopause has to do with aging, quality of health, and blood flow. Too many people in the West are sorely unhealthy! Millions of people have NFLD. Did you know you liver also secretes hormones? Our food sources are horrible, causing all manner of diseases, brain fog and dementia.
@@deirdremorris9234Yes because it's the man's responsibility to keep the woman in control so as not to do evil things. But that doesn't mean the woman isn't doing wrong.
I enjoy listening to your shows. Is there an episode where you discuss what the man can do on his part ...besides being self-aware and aware of the mindset that has evolved over time ... to break through. Either to stimulate healthy conversation or increase awareness. I have shared a couple of these to promote communication. Would like to see an episode specifically addressing this. You must realize you have a fairly large number of males listening to your content based on comments.
Dear Happy Wife School. Im here from George Bruno's Listen My Son show, and im in love with your channel. Teuth is power and the answer many of our problems in life. GOD BLESS.
I'm in my 50s and have never been married. It seems like the majority of my married male friends are in sexless relationships. I think this is a much bigger issue than what the stats say.
Interesting with a therapist who dares to spread light in the darkness of cultural, social, and medical convenience. Happy New Year from Northern Europe.
This is great! I have never heard anyone really talk about emasculation in this way. Do you have any recommendations for books that could help me learn more?
Can you make a separate video clip from this long format? From 37:28 to 40:30. I am working my way through your content. This is the first time that I've heard you describe happiness and I think this would be a great soft introduction to share you with our wives.
I subscribed to your Channel. You are brilliant. I am not a psychologist and I have been saying ED is a myth it is the woman or the relationship. Thank you.
Thanks for talking about this. I've had to go to Tantric Buddhism to seek answers to sexual issues, and its a shame that western cultures don't have the same ideas, so this is a real breakthrough concept where we should have options that get to the emotional root causes instead of just taking drugs to fix all our problems.
