It's how you look at it. You should be whole with God as an individual. A person shouldn't make nor break you. If you identify and find your being in that person then you set yourself to fail during and after if it happens.
Yes ma'am say it again I went through a divorce and I was a hot mess myself so I know how she feels it's not easy but they're not actually dead they walking around but it is like a death
What's most BEAUTIFUL about Eva is how she is overcoming depression looking more radiant than ever! Prayers to Eva on this new journey she is embarking on. 🙏🏾❤
@@kenyafromcali Yes, that's part for course, stats reflect that more women file for divorce than men. I believe that's due to men's willingness to deal with a bad marriage more than women, and often that means men withdraw. But I don't know them so 🤷🏾♂️
Eva I was in the same situation so I feel your pain. When my husband and I divorced many moons ago, I was so depressed and devastated I lost so much weight I looked like a zombie . Like you said I was not the wife anymore & didn’t know how I was going to survive. I was still a mum and that was my driving force to survive although I felt like giving up at times. I’m glad I didn’t give up with the help of family, friends and God, after 3 + years I started to heal. Unless you’ve gone through it, people won’t understand. It’s like death and you have to grieve.
You definitely will pull through. God's got you. Jeremiah 31:3 ...“I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness. @@christinagoins2012
Eva you said that!!! Women need to rediscover who they really are at all stages of life,with or without marriage. We need to never lose our true selves. We can be everything that others need us to be but we need to hold on to ourselves thru it all. That's how we stay sane and strong as leather that is well together.
I hear you and feel you! Same here! Divorce is tough but God gives us strength, peace and joy in the storm. He provides us with the peace that surpasses all understanding 🙌🏽🙌🏽 We Still look good and feel good by Gods grace & mercy.
I love how many of you are validating what she’s saying with your own experiences. Life be life-ing and it gets hard sometimes. Wishing healing, growth, restoration, joy, and love for us all ❤
Love Eva's honesty.. remember rooting for her when she became America Top Model!!,,love her in her element being Madam and other roles she played in!!♥️💙💜💛💚
@@donttrymetryjesus4566exactly that’s why I believe she was naturally losing weight because of what she went through, unlike these other celebs taking different medications to lose weight making them look like addicts🤮
@@crowder807right, no one fully knows what went on in their home but them. To tell someone, especially someone they don't know, "she should have never left her husband" is absurd to say the least.
I lost 125lbs. My skin broke out. My hair fell out. Couldn't control my blood pressure. Blew out my kidneys. Now on dialysis. But.... God. Im still here. Thriving. Happy in my new life, new relationship. Not at all looking like what is going on.
Not everyone some get fatter. I sure didn’t lose or gain weight. I will not let another human dictate if I eat or not eat if I can’t sleep or sleep to much. Especially I know my ex not even thinking about how I’m living . Why give him the satisfaction. And I’m not beautiful and I don’t have money. But I love me more than any other human can love me.
@@LivingMyBestAlways you are very fortunate but a lot of people don't have your kind of strength and they have to fight to get to your level. So let's send some encouraging words to those who need help finding their way out of that dark place.❤
It can go either way....some folks are emotional eaters and will eat when depressed. Happy she got ahead of the story and addressed the weight loss herself.
She’s absolutely right after I lost my husband I lost 40lbs didn’t even realize I lost weight until other people pointed it out I was so grief stricken
Same here for me. When the Lord called .y beloved husband Gerald home, I was 310 and a year and a half later I'm 240. Grief is real and that bitch don't play 😢❤
@@missjoy6685A Divorce is still like a death between the two families, that have been bonded together for a certain amount of time. I rmmbr when my Parents split, it definitely got dark for about 3yrs., and felt like a death to our family. And it took me to become an adult to realize, that my Parents were HUMAN having human experiences.
@@demetriusjames9535No it didn't.. Her comment is trying to dissect WHY Eva filed for Divorce, or saying that her reasoning wasn't good enough. Eva's decision to Divorce was HER decision to make, and not meant to be dissected by strangers. It's still a Divorce, a seperation which is like a death.
I think most women that has gone thru a divorce can relate to Eva I also lost weight experienced depression. I had to rediscover who I was again. I’m grateful for my lesson and now have a great testimony of how I overcame my divorce.
@@ewayniabrown5778 I was a mess too dear I talked about him to anyone that would listen. Until I realized I was keeping the pain alive that way. I just started getting busy doing things for myself and acknowledging my self worth now building solo feeling empowered you will too refocus and rebuild your confidence back! You got this🌹
Yesss!!! I said the same thing to my family and friends. It was all a shock to them, but I told them that I mourned my marriage while I was still in it, so when I finally let it go, it felt like a ton of bricks off of my shoulders. This was 21 years ago, and I have no regrets on doing it. My ex-husband and I are in a much better place right now, thank goodness. 🥹🙏🏾💙
You are still beautiful inside and out. Take time to heal yourself and grow. Through prayer and meditation, Eva, you will gain inner strength. From your words, you seem to be on the right path. May God Bless you, Eva. 🙏🏽☺️👍🏽💯
Some people lose weight when they are stressed and some people gain weight. I was depressed and stressed because I watch my son suffer everyday for 13 years from a rare genetic disorder . I finally am not 104 anymore. I’m happy she is being honest because, so many of us go through similar things. I’m happy you are in a better place Eva. ❤
This is absolutely true. I remember going through my divorce it was so devastating and I had to rediscover who I was. I now teach women how to heal and rediscover themselves after divorce. 💖
Wow this was a eye opener because i feel like that and I’ve never gone through a divorce but trying to rediscover who you are outside of a relationship that was strong , meaningful and gave me a deeper meaning of who I was. It’s hard. Thank you for sharing ❤😊🙏🏼🕊️
My name is Eva too, and I have been separated for 6 months from my husband. I was treated so poorly prior to the separation that I lost 30 pounds. I have gained every pound back, and I am trying to adjust to being single.
Praying 🙏 for God to give you strength, comfort, and peace!! Trust God !! he will never leave you or forsake you!! You will get through this!! Sending love and hugs to you!!❤️❤️❤️
People were vile about her weight , and forgot that she was going through a tough time. So glad she addressed it, although she shouldn't have had to. Wishing you all the best Eva. Your future is bright
I lost 35+ pounds after a 5 year marriage. I missed my ex-wife and kids so much that I didn't realize I had stopped eating. A few years later, I got into a 2 year relationship with another woman, and we broke it off, and I ended up gaining some weight back from that break up. The difference was that I was broken from the 1st one and relieved from the 2nd. 🤕
What Eva is saying is true. When you are hurt, you will lose weight or gain weight. It is possible that you can lose your hair, etc. Eva is still beautiful I prayed that she was not sick I thank God she is address the weight loss and she is coming out of that mean old depression.
Depression can take you to a place that no matter how strong you think you are Babe 😒 you go under sometimes without any return 😢 However, through the grace of Christ you get pulled up and you become stronger and snap back, new and improved 🫶🏾 ready for that new Journey. New heart, beautiful soul and an Thankful Spirit
Girrrrrrrrrl! You don't need to be depressed as PRETTY as you look! Your hair is BEAUTIFUL! I'm glad to see you back on track with life. Divorce is difficult and depression is a serious thing. Cudos to you for getting through it! You look AMAZING!
So true. I lost so much weight when I was going through my separation, but the come back is going to be amazing. I had to find me again and love me again.
When I got a divorce I lost a lot of weight I got down to 90 pounds and people don’t make it No better for me! They talk about me said I look horrible I lost my long hair and had to cut it all off. I’m ok now I don’t wish stress on Nobody.
She is so gorgeous! And yes divorce is like death, I lost so much weight so fast, I eat with normal stress, but learned REAL stress has me losing weight like crazy, wishing her the best ❤
Both are very pretty, but her facial features are different from Vanessa's. Vanessa's features are fuller and rounder. Eva's features are more aquiline. No shade, just different.
@sandraatkins2539 You must be very analytical 🙂 I didn't say she looks just like Vanessa Williams , only reminds me of her, remind can mean lots of things, not only appearance.I Agree that both are very beautiful women 😍 I am analytical too !! Lol..😅 Thanks for your reply!!
Once I found out about a situation in my marriage I suffered in my mental stage: I lived as a non functional woman, wife, and lover : I became numb, depressed, isolated, misery, delusional, and lived a life of lies: I was deceived. When it finally came to the divorced end I was deserted and went into. Stage of loneliness: I lost weight and lost my appetite: I truly appreciate Eve sharing this moment
Shes right losing someone you love will change you..hiding your depression, not eating trying to find your place after this loss. isent easy, I totally get it ❤
Here she is telling her story!!! And yet ppl knew this and ridiculed her online and shamed her for weight loss like they didn’t know she was going through a divorce. Remember ppl pain shows in a variety of ways. Have compassion & understanding.🌸
I’m currently going through a separation leading to a divorce and I’m going through all the stages of grief like it’s a death. Because it is a death of my marriage and friendship. 14 years is a long time to invest yourself. I’ve been with him for so long that I’m relearning myself everyday but the memories of us still fresh in my mind.
I’m sending you all kinds of good, healing vibes during this tough time! Please don’t use your precious energy on “could’ve, would’ve or should’ve”. Allow yourself time (possibly 2-5 years) to heal and mourn. I promise you the light is BRIGHTER at the end of the tunnel!!!
Never wrap your entire being and your entire existence into a partner/spouse. Always have a healthy relationship with yourself so if things happen to not workout, you dont feel like you lost the world. I have been through that many years ago and entered a very transformative process. Best thing that ever happened to me. Also, a lot of women will loose weight because the root cause of her cortisol levels are gone!
Me too. It can be very devastating at times. But I always end up eating my pain away so I gain weight instead of losing it. Occasionally I have no appetite and don't want to eat but not eating seems to make it worse for me. So on those days I always have to force myself to eat something. I don't want to sink any deeper into depression.
Marriage like life takes intentional work. You either do the intentional work or deal with the negative consequences. Finding individual wholeness in yourself while in a relationship is the key to having a lasting relationship. I pray those suffering from the pains of divorce feel better. I hope these comments and discussion is the motivation to get people to value their relationships and put the work in to maintain them.
I went through a horrific break up where I was stalked, threatened and was scared for my life living on pins and needles. I couldn’t sleep or eat my nerves were so bad. I was already small and lost more weight. Ppl kept asking me if I was sick but my nerves were shot!! Praise God HE pulled me through that dark time but I get it Eva. It’s uncontrollable you wanna eat, your mind is telling you to eat but your body won’t let you. BTW you look SO BEAUTIFUL 🥰💕
Such a beautiful woman… In pray she finds, and realizes her path… such an amazingly beautiful and gifted person. Listen and GOD will guide you! Continued Blessings!!!
Divorce within its self is hard..let alone with children everything in life changes and we as women must continue to keep going praying and being safe. She is GORGEOUS..SHALOM
Truth!!! I was going through a divorce and thought I was handling it well. Well, it wasn’t until one day I realized at 8pm I had not eaten or that I would be hungry, eat some ice and go to sleep. Depression is real and shows up differently for everyone. I also had was I describe as hives. Nothing was on my skin visibly but I was itching like crazy. The doctor had to give me a shot of Benadryl that wore off before I got home.
Divorce is actually like a death and some of us take it harder than others but at the end of the day it’s painful for involved. Especially when you have children to watch trying to hope and adjust from the mess their parents have created in their lives as well so everyone suffers. I hope and pray Eva is able to pull it all together and heal from depression as well as the loss. Not to mention her being a help for her children to find their footing get on track for their new direction their life takes them. Hoping her the best for her all her future endeavors.
This is so true. I lost over 20 pounds and didn’t have the weight to loose so I looked emaciated. It is like going through a death. You are literally shedding what you’ve known for how many years to now rediscovering what is. I must say God Bless her because it takes a long time without therapy to move forward into the person you have now become, but anything is possible with God 🙏🏾❤️. May she lean on him and therapy to navigate this new normal for her and her children ❤️🙏🏾
I over understand, same here. When I’m depressed the last thing I’m thinking V about is good. She’s still beautiful and I know without a doubt she’ll gain it back & will overcome it all. 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽
Went I went through my divorce I lost weight. Then I gained a bunch of weight during a bad relationship that I broke off. Then I fell ill and was hospitalized for the second time in my life. I’ve since recovered and am now alone. But understand, I’m alone by choice. I don’t feel like caring for others when I need caring too. No one needs my love, affection, and care more than me. If I may add, you’re drop dead gorgeous Lady.
