Your title, "Everything you do is wrong" reminded me of all the bullying and insults that I endured as a child, and young adult. It was really traumatic, and I'm not kidding. Being told I was marrying the wrong girl, I was wasting my time learning martial arts because I was a loser, I had no business learning a foreign language because I'm an American, I was making a mistake by joining the Marine Corps, and the list goes on. Well, I've been married to the same girl for 32 years, I'm fluent in her language, Tagalog, I spent 4 years in the Marines, and I teach martial arts. But being told constantly that everything I do is wrong still traumatizes me to this day. It's because of that, I gave my daughter constant positive reinforcement through her childhood.
I started playing guitar when I was 15. I did not own a guitar. I couldn't afford lessons. That was 1969. In 2011 I decided that I could become the most interesting guitar player I have ever known. By 2017 I had succeeded. That kind of achievement requires ruthless honesty.
As an individual in my youth I was not atheletic, my brothers were those guys. But one day a friend of mine coerced me to take up Gung Fu, and after a year of me saying no to this I said ok give me a reason why I should do this, the short story is he said we would have something in our friendship to share about for the rest of our life, my response was good answer, so I started my journey in martial training. The best thing I ever did in life. As the infamous Jack Lalane would say, do it for life. You the man Ramsey.
I am a psychologist and of course I have about 10 years of experience in various martial arts. I even failed thrice in what I started and many other things but I have to say that in every aspect this video deserves thousands of likes because there is a real story and motivation throughout it. My students need to see this.
This is a fascinating discussion. My master took a different approach. He didn't tell me that everything I did was wrong, he made me realise it by throwing me down. That feedback is invaluable for learning any skill.
Ramsey I’ve watched you for awhile but after hearing your backstory it really gives me hope. After the military I felt useless and as a result of my low self esteem I chose many self destructive paths that have left me weaker but you do give me hope that I can get back up again because if you’ve had it as bad as you did and you’re like this now then I certainly can and should do my best to shift my karmic cycles consciously and create what I truly want rather than being a reaction to my environment and my emotions. Thank you for what you do, thank you for the motivation and the wisdom. May God bless you with a long healthy life.
I like what you said about beginners doing everything wrong. And the whole que bit instead of ERROR, WRONG FORM model. I started this mma club at my uni and tons of beginners joined. I introduced everybody to soft sparring and I see people who have never put gloves on trying to hit eachother *softly* It’s safe to say they’re doing something wrong. But I decided to not stop them every time they do something wrong. I let them figure it out on their own, and I lead by example. I be my best and I answer every question with a whole and genuine answer. To the best of my ability. I figured that If they can figure out most of this just by learning from their own body’s reactions to movements they are practicing, they would TRUST themselves more, and would be able to be sharper in the future. Their brain learns from what happens around them instead of waiting for someone to stop them
In one of my philosophy classes in university, my professor asked us to write on something, and something that stuck with me was, "there are not right and wrong answers, but there are good and bad answers"
I believe in "old man's strength" and think that many middle aged people underestimate their potential with regards to strength. In my experience, the average person that age doesn't train much, because kids and work get in the way, and when they do train, it's more things like jogging to get rid of that beer belly.
I'm not sure if I agree with you or not. On one hand, I'm stronger than ever as my job brings me physical activity (I'm a 28 yo carpenter), and on the other hand, I remember me at 19, just before I dropped judo competition, lifting people twice my weight (I was 60kg, and yes I lifted 120kg dudes). I'm not able to do that, even with a greater experience than ever in judo, just because of my nowaday physical condition, I'm just built different than when I was younger. I think you just progress in what you train, and mainly only in what you train. Also if you stop training in something, you lose a part of your training, that sounds obvious
Yeah that’s a valid point even in college you see that with your friends who get married early and they have kids… Some of them look like they’ve aged 10+ years yet they’re only in their 20s. Even if they weren’t necessarily doing sports but they were super active, like they would do cheerleading, gymnastics or Play tennis, even if it wasn’t at a competitive level all of it dropped off at soon as they had kids.
The good thing in this HEMA stuff is that the entire martial art is interpretation. There is no "one true way" of doing it. Half the fun is trying to interpret the manuscripts images with your team. Try out the interpretations in the ring (so to speak) and see if it works. If it does not, you don't train that technique. The good thing about our instructor is that he teaches from the manuscript of Fiore dei Liberi. Who made his system in around the end 13 hundreds and the beginning of the 14 hundreds. Meaning that his stuff needed to work in warfare. The later into the medival times you go the less swordfighting is relevant to warfare and becomes more relevant as a sport or judicial duel type thing. So the techniques we learn were meant to be fully functional and they were distilled into what worked. No fancy moves to impress the masses but effective fighting techniques to keep you alive and the other guy dead. Pretty much everything we have been taught have been very easy to get down quick. But of course mastering the proper timing, distance and so on is where the real work happens. I'd say that is the very core of a good martial art. Simple and effective movements that are easy to learn but takes time to master.
Everything I did growing up was wrong. Yet I met Koichi Tohei. My guitar playing is wrong. Yet I meet George Harrison. My songs are wrong, yet I sing them to the sky.
Whether in an MMA gym or a university classroom, Ramsey is a great instructor! He has greater academic potential though if he were to return to working as a college instructor again. He was an outstanding way of connecting with his students and presenting content in a simple and straightforward manner that you retain it. Those are just my thoughts 💭 though.
I recommended an acquaintance that had a martial arts channel that he should request in his videos that if people were going to leave a comment criticizing or expressing their opinions, they should start their comment with their rank or experience in any related fields, this way the opinion could be weighted better according to such expertise or experience.
Really good speech. You have been a pretty big inspiration to me. I used to be very weak and very shy. But I gotten so far. But I got a long way to go :3
If I could download my current experiences and knowledge into my 12 yo brain I would. My athleticism has always been high as a kid. Thing lacking for me was patience and foresight
If your really 12 and know it then take advantage of it. The fact that you havent learned your lesson from it even though you realize what it is your not helping yourself your just holding yiurself back. We learn lessons everyday in life especially when you stay quiet and listen and weigh out your options
Well, I won't. Not even considering the brutal amount of informations I would have to deal with, but sometimes some experiences are not that bad for an adult and on the other hand they can be traumatising for a child (at least for the 12 yo me, it surely depends on what you lived as a child and as an adult)
@@autre1806 man i understand what youre saying. But just about everyone on the world goes through traumatizong things that blocks out certain things, but dont say you cant cause your a consious human being and i know you can. Saying you cant is literally not allowing you to. You already defeated yourself before you began. And guess what? Youll be a full grown adult one day man.think about it now and get through it early on. Youll be smarter and wiser than most kids that you know your age.
@@cadegauthier6797 well that bit was unclear. But I meant download it back into my then 12 yo brain. So I could actually redo some key points I felt I fucked up through impatience and lack of foresight and insight into humans.
it is not just exercise and martial arts and it is not just youtube. I run a business and people on the sidelines are constantly telling me that everything I do is wrong ) People leave comments in the reviews (job reviews) saying that everything in the business is wrong. I don't think that people who actually run businesses leave many comments at all (if any). This behavior is pervasive, you have to tune it out otherwise you"ll get stuck in introspection and will not be able to move forward.
I'm a certifiable trainer with no clients. Unfortunately I'm surrounded by people who are scared of bulking stereotypes. Elevated aggression, constipation, super expensive supplements, gymtimidation, and constant injuries. I don't suffer from any of those. I have people asking me questions about fitness but they never allow me to train them. I used to have suffer from low self worth. I threw money at it. Bought an online program for $100 then bought a home gym with 3 months pay. It's a little extreme but that's how determined I was. Using the learn to swim by drowning yourself method.
Know your worth. If people ask you constant questions then tell them the cost for your time if they want consultation from you, and then offer reduced cost training sessions to start as well. I'm not even certified (though depending on how other things go I may get certified) and I just study this stuff a lot. I had someone ask me about a training program for them, to which I referred them to see a physiotherapist/Kinesiologist, because it had to do with injury recovery and shoring up weaknesses, which I am not getting involved with. A lot of people will learn on their own, or learn what they need to learn, and then try to get free info/help from experts. If you brand right. Like training people for functionality instead of powerlifting or bodybuilding, they won't worry about the things you listed if they do their own research into functionality training, which tends to focus on avoiding all the things/problems you mentioned.
Hey Ramsey, don’t listen to the haters. Thanks to you I’m much better in boxing, because u share the knowledge , I read jack Dempsey book and that is one of the best books about the physics oh the punch. Also, u are a great martial artist, and in my opinion a martial arts philosopher. Thanks for sharing the knowledge !
Yea I’m a big fan of old time strongman lifts. Similar to what our friend red chucks does. And James Fuller. So I do extra range of motion on big compounds sometimes, like a deficit deadlift, and apparently that’s “dangerous” and sometimes I do a partial on a big compound like a floor press and apparently that’s “a waste of time”. And I also train old time lifts like arthur lift and bent press and oh boy, people think my back or shoulder will explode if I do these lifts. Not knowing that they have been tried and tested for decades and have fallen out of style BECAUSE OF PEOPLE LIKE THEM!!! They took lifting, resistance training, strength training, muscle building, whatever you want to call it, and they turned it into powerlifting and machine work. And they have the nerve to say I’m going to get injured. That I’m “wrong”. All the while, I can literally hold 200+ pounds in every way all around my body up and down and around, and can bring over a hundred pounds over my head with one hand. At 150 pound bw. Yea, I’m wrong.
I know the feeling. From 14 to 18 I was big into powerlifting and got quite strong (555 deadlift at 170lbs). At that time people would ask my advice in the gym, bros would rally around me, etc. after that I got into martial arts and expanding my strength training. Started doing lots of gymnastics and strongman work. Suddenly I was treated as a kind of weirdo 😂. The irony is that I know way more about strength and training now than I did then, but people don’t usually want to hear unorthodox opinions (main ones being: focus on rest, train more often with less effort to get more time with the bar, get a genuine strength coach to work on technique, if you aren’t a strength athlete don’t powerlift and instead do training that directly benefits your life/job/main sport) The saving grace is that by dint of genetics and the training I’ve done I’m very muscular, which tends to be one of the number one things valued by heavily tribal weightlifters.
Hi Ramsey, I really enjoy the videos you do and I learn so much from them. I have graduated as a sports therapist and learning wing chun, and soon taekwondo and BJJ. I want to start my own business and looking for some advice on how to start it and make it successful. I have my mind set on starting a business in Hong Kong. Can you provide some advice on starting a business in Hong Kong, or just starting a business in general. Apologies for dragging on and many thanks. All the best my friend.
"Everything you do is wrong" is how I get made to feel about the MA training I do. At kickboxing (just 30min 1on1s 2x a month) it's not as bad, the guy is usually nice about it and is not overly critical, the main problem is my stance is too long but not wide enough and my foot is not pointed correctly (it's at 90 instead of 45 or straight due to fencing background)... At Karate my stance is not long enough and/or too wide and my foot is not pointed correctly. I get made to feel "Everything you do is wrong" at every lesson. You can call me snowflake millenial, however I prefer constructive criticism that involves saying what one is doing right or well and then saying specifically what could be improved. As my instructor just tells me everything I should be doing different, or walks up and adjusts me, however I'm NOT a big fan of people just walking up and touching me. Constantly being told everything you're doing is wrong without hearing what you are doing rightor improving at is highly discouraging and makes one think "I suck, I never do anything right, i'm not getting better, why bother, I should just quit."
Thanks Coach 💪 I'd love to hear a revisit on Coach Chongs hft stuff, if you'd be willing to do that. It sounds like you're still pretty into weights as a good thing to do, so hearing your perspective over time would be valuable 🙏
Facts! Did my Masters in my forties in Sports Conditioning and Human Performance, but "bro science" dudes still tell me they know everything. Same in my 48 years of martial arts - Wrestling coach, Kempo, Shaolin with monks, Shotokan, Tae Kwon Do, and Okinawan karate. People at low and mid levels see differences and faults. At the upper echelons I've found more agreement and acceptance, for the most part.
Yeah, some people peak early and others are late bloomers. Those who peak early find it normal to challenge others all the time by pushing them either physically or mentally. The desire challenge others in each and every way possible is ingrained in their personality. You as a late bloomer started with a certain humility and an open mind... which is the exception.
Yeah everybody's got pointers even if nobody asks. There are 1,000 different interpretations of how to do everything & folks arent going to always agree. Nor should they when it comes to fighting b/c what works isnt always the same for you or the person your fighting.
In my 40s, 2 years into BJJ and I'm still a White belt. I train 3 to 5 times per week constantly. Apparently I'm a slow learner but I try to get that 1% better everyday. 1000 times better than when I started but it's very frustrating at times.
You know Ramsey as you were talking an old quote from somebody came to mind. Quote:" Sports never ever ever builds good character. It does reveal it though!" It's funny but in my 70 years of life, I have never seen this quote prove not to be true.
I'm probably the only one that does this but every time Ramsey ends with "go out there and train" I say "will do" in response, even if he most likely can't hear me over the youtube video lol.
Could you make some videos on holding pats and mitts? I am absolutely terrible at that and I feel like a waste of time for my training partners when I have to do that
It's the Dunning-Kruger effect, you'll notice that total beginners and real expert don't usually go tell people they suck. Only guys who know a little bit but not a lot... The more you know the more you realise you don't know smack and become more humble.
In 2012 I stepped in front of a speeding Escalade (2 tons) and I didn't die beyond a half-minute. The vehicle ripped a few of the bones out of my body. My mom found me (!) at Cedar's Sinai Hospital and they told her my weight was 105 pounds. She freaked but she did the mom thing. I started receiving monthly food allowances that year, thank God and Mom and my insane desire to live, which baffles me. My IDL.
I get nasty comments and attempts to start flame wars on my most innocuous or even positive comments. I don't take it too seriously, but I have decided I don't need the daily negativity. So I am off all social media, except MeWe, RU-vid, and Instagram. The later two are pretty much only for you and a weight lifting coach on Instagram. As for the coaching technique, the moment I decided I must be getting pretty good at long fist was when Master Gao stormed over really angry with me. And adjusted my fist half a centimeter. While much of the class is doing something that looks more like the funky chicken than long fist, but that she ignores. I took it as a huge compliment that she felt she could get angry with me over a minor flaw.
coach, when I was teen, I could run mid distance (800m) competition in school (I would belong to the last few spots, but still), I could jump down from height (eg. top of the wall), I could do a lot of physical activities wouldn't be possible for me today.
I feel this title. It's why I really don't like school. Almost want to say I hate it even, but I refrain from using that word. I've been told a lot in school that what I'm doing is bad, I should do this, or even why aren't I doing this. Too many expectations people put on me, and they were always disappointed. Or, they expected nothing from me. There was always some lecture. And then, when I finally get to my senior year of high school, people are like wow, you're really smart. You should be a teacher. Nope! I'm not contributing to the system that told me I wasn't gonna be anything growing up because of the stuff I liked. Now a days, I play video games and people are impressed. People look at my martial arts skills and find it amazing. They are amazed at how much I know. Which I appreciate. I've had a job for almost 4 years, and the people enjoyed my company there. But school? Not going back. I don't want to waste my time being told that this is the only way to live life.
Have you ever seen the video of George Foreman on the heavy bag with a trainer holding the bag? Foreman points his arm away from the bag and holds it out straight. He initiates the punch by explosively contracting his bicep curling his arm into a more standard chamber position, then all the momentum turns into a tricep, chest and shoulder explosion while he pivots his feet, hips and body into the punch. He hits the bag so hard the trainer is thrown backward and can't hold onto the bag and foreman can fire 10 of these in quick secession. He's wrong. That's not how you punch. Doesn't matter that he's used it in clinches to destroy the body, lower the gaurd then land devestating knock outs to the chin, doesn't matter. It's wrong. Doesn't matter that in actual fights, mma or boxing, most finishing punches start behind the body, with a very long arm and an explosion of the bicep. Its wrong. There is no bicep in any punching ever. Even hooks and uppercuts are suppose to be so tight they have no bicep. Reality doesn't matter, reality is wrong. There is one way to throw punches. I'm going to teach George Foreman how to do it right.
@@RamseyDewey it taught a great work ethic. Not quite defeating a gang with the book of Mormon , but just being weeks , then months, from home brought about independence.
I had a question about the imanari roll. I finally felt confident enough to start practicing it again but during the rotation I keep getting stuck. I know I just need to practice more but I also remembered after class yesterday that we put extra padding under the canvas and I think I may be sinking in it a bit. Would that potentially contribute to stalling in the roll or should I try to go faster. Alternatively during the roll am I supposed to kinda shoot my hips towards my parter if that makes sense? Thanks for the content this one got me thinking how to help the newer wrestlers in class going forward now.
RU-vid comments are not the most effective place to be asking this type of question. Why dont you ask the instructor or one of the people you train with, and failing that maybe search up how to do an imanari roll on youtube and google
This is exactly the kind of place to ask that question! It sounds like you’re probably not elevating your hips enough. If you don’t do that, you’ll have far too much surface area under you to rotate properly, and you’ll probably get stuck. check out this video breakdown of the technique: ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-S9bHvHzrw-4.html
No, Ramsey! You're WRONG! >:[ ...Horn was never a UFC champion. He won titles in Elite, Rings, King of the Cage, IFC, and he was a work horse for the UFC for a time, but no UFC belts. You would be forgiven for thinking so with wins over the likes of Chuck Liddell, Chael Sonnen (three times) and Forrest Griffin. Still my favorite MMA fighter and a true legend.
Hey Ramsey I don’t know if you’ll read this on a video but I just wanna know when someone very close to your heart passes away how do you mentally cope with it especially if there’s a lot of guilt around the death because I can’t stop thinking about how I should’ve reached out because I ignored him for years and now it’s too late. And I know I just have to keep going and live everyday in his memory but I just wanna know your thoughts on it all thank you for your time and thank you for your amazing videos
Sometimes, when you practice something a lot and you watch a video of someone, the first thing you see is the differences with what you do. Because when two things is very similar, it's quicker for our brain to notice a small amount of difference wheread a lot of common points. Sometimes it's just keyboard warriors.
The biggest thing and hardest thing you must do is forgive yourself.... Many times, we judge ourselves much more harsh than those we didn't see eye-to-eye with... Most times they've forgiven us, but we suffer most in our imaginations and onto self... Use this experience to truly love those in your circle... However, the first thing to do and the absolute hardest thing to do is to forgive yourself. ... May you find peace in doing so 🙏
Paralysis through analysis. That's also an A.A. saying only they say "utilize don't analyze". Coach has a wealth of comments to respond to. Never ever a lack of topical and relevant subjects. Responding to adult children may drive you a bit nuts so, Easy Does It (but do it!). The challenge of responding to actual grown-ups and teens (yes, teens) who are lost and clueless and have kind of learned to type is the most aggravating and rewarding practices in Christendom. Some: I just say "nope". By the way the dialogue of conflict is Satan's realm, brilliant HOWEVER does not possess a worthy sense of humor. That's how you can tell the difference between your higher self and your ego. The ego FAILS when it comes to brilliant comedy. Also your higher self loves you, get used to it.
