This reminds me of my childhood, in school. I was about 12. Me and a friend were going to a summer camp and before that said friend would "let me go with him" he was activly trying to make me change my behaviour. Sometimes when we were playing, he'd randomply stop and say "hey, just like this - be just like this at the summer camp. this is how you are supposed to be" at the time, I really didnt know what he meant. I was later (after the summer camp) diagnosed with aspergers. But I never really looked back on this instance before. I just suddenly remember, he thought I was different and were trying to make me fit in. This said "friend" would later ally himself with some other of my childhood friends, who I had known since kindergarden and bully me. So yeah, that just shed some light right then about why he was doing that. It had never crossed my mind before. I mean, it also makes sense why they bullied me. becuase I was different. But you know what, fuck those guys they don't deserve my time :)
I never got any therapy or the sort, parents fought, were poor, and overall a shit way to start life. Started out with ADHD, ADD, Autism, later years i developed deep depression as i did become increasingly aware how much apart from everything i were, and i had dreams way too big. My original self wished to do good out in the world with nothing in return before things changed along with bad experiences of usually people. I created an impenetrable mask, to make people treat you neutral, and forget about myself. Otherwise everything would have ended 15 years ago. I am 30 years by now, and i hate it. Life is uneventfully going by, and i still havent had a treament for it. I feel trapped in an endless cycle
My husband has Aspergers and I can just feel when he want me "close but not too close" translation: You sit on the bed next to me and do your thing without talking or touching me while I have my headphones in watching RU-vid and drinking coffee 😃
래지은 Ji eun My mum and I used to do that when I was younger. She called it a side-by-side day. We were both home and relaxing but mostly just by ourselves knowing the other was there.
My daughter (9 years old) watched this clip and she wanted to say “I am Autistic and its hard because I hate my uniform”. Every day I watch my daughter struggle to do what others take for granted everyday such as wearing a uniform to school. Unfortunately it is something she has to do, and what she has to face. She is one of the bravest people I know, to continue to do something that causes her distress everyday but will do it anyway so she can ‘fit’ into society’s demands.....such as wearing a school uniform (and attending other schools were not an option. Her current school is extremely supportive and meets her needs more than others could in many other ways). So thank you for your amazing video as it helps others understand Autism better.
Your daughter has Autism? I made an Autism Awareness video that could give encouragement to people with Autism. Here's the link ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-JDNLrQQUIGE.html
Is the uniform difficult because the material is uncomfortable? Growing up I wanted so much to wear a uniform because it would have added to my masking, people wouldn't be able to judge me on the kind of clothes I liked, or that they weren't as, "fashionable," because I dress mostly for comfort and function. With a uniform everyone would be wearing the same thing, so other kids couldn't make fun of my clothes without making fun of their own. If it's the material that's the problem, or maybe the cut of the garments is restrictive and uncomfortable, or maybe the uniform has too many pieces and is difficult to get dressed into, maybe you could start a petition for a change in fabric, or slight alteration to uniform design to make it accessible to neurodivergent students. My first elementary school (Dallas TX before moving to Austin) was a public school with a uniform, but rather than uniform pieces that were issued to students (like matching blazers and such) the school's uniform was set colors (white, beige and navy blue) that we could have some options with, say wearing a white shirt and khaki shorts one day, then a navy shirt and white pants the next day, then a navy dress the next. But if it's a set uniform with specific pieces issued by the school, maybe a petition to make the uniform more accessible to neurodivergent and disabled students is a good idea.
This is my personal take and probably doesn't apply to everyone, but I think a healthy amount of uncomfortable conformity is not a bad thing if it's done in a healthy and accepting way. So needing to wear a school uniform is okay generally because it's not an attack on your identity in the way that heavy masking of your personal identity and self expression is bad conformity. By the time you reach adulthood, you can pick and choose which things you conform with you want to keep or that you could do without. Having experience conforming can shed light on practical advantages of it. It's just important that your internal light isn't dimmed as a result.
I'm a 21 year old female and I've only recently been diagnosed with ASD. It was such a relief to finally understand that I'm not just being whiney about things but that it has a valid reason. One thing that bothers me though is that some of my friends, especially my non autistic friends, reacted very unedicated. Saying stuff like: But you're so smart though? How? Or: Aren't we all a little autistic? I try to explain to them what it means to have autism because I have become a lot more educated on the topic now and I can share my own experiences. Though the only thing that has achieved is that they now think they're an expert on the topic and now all believe they might also have autism, or they can spot autism in other people that have not been tested. It's quite frustrating.
My little brother is autistic. Its really hard because as a family we can't do many things normal families would. My brother was diagnosed at 2 years old. I didn't understand why my brother was different. I was 8 years old when he was diagnosed. He struggles a lot with school. I'm now 13 years old and he's 9 years old. Eventhough he is different, he is my brother. My brother is my everything and it'll never change.
*facepalm* “High functioning” and “low functioning” are terms used to identify the support needs. That’s what the terms mean, so you can’t just toss them out the window because you think they’re offensive or something. It’s literally defining how much support you require. If you require more support, you likely can’t function very well WITHIN SOCIETY. If you have less support needs, you likely can function better WITHIN SOCIETY.
Thank You for sharing! I probably have been misdiagnosed and I fit into everyone of your examples. The last one really hurt, because it still exists in my life. God Bless and May we all be loved for who we are! ❤️
We are on the spectrum with my daughter. She's like me but way different in a lot of things. Sometimes I'm the only who knows and understands her pain, I know what her problem is without any words.
Well said! It was a great relief when I found out my own condition. Explained so much. My struggle to fit in, plus finding that "normal rules" simply don't apply!
I wish Autistic people would research how to help kids or adults that I don't know how to say it, but are unable to do so many things. Like talk. and who stem non stop and are aggressive. I work at an ABA school, and I have heard so many horrible things about ABA, but I see these kids and they NEED help. They are so upset, punching themselves in the head and punching and biting anyone that comes close to them at the wrong time, can't talk, or use the restroom by themselves. I want to know how to help these kid live a happy life. I hear how ABA is just forced compliance, and I see that in someways, but I also know that a mother who is terrified of her 6 year old because of how aggressive he is, will have to send him away once he is 15 and he'll have to be in some kind of group home or something if he can't get help. My cousin is autistic, and she has been my best friend my whole life, so I have such a heart for autistic kids, but I just don't know what is the best way to help.
Being on the "spectrum", I wonder if this video asks too much of normals. After all, they find their meaning in sameness, not in associating with exceptionals.
Thanks a lot. My 1st child had autism. I always ask my self, do I'd treat him well? I just become his guardian angel, his friend, try to talk the topic he likes, try to understand his music. Now he 15, great player in piano, making some digital music.
I just happen to run into this video and it's beautiful. We recently found out (last October) that my son is autistic. It's so hard to explain it to people and it makes me upset when they try to downplay his autism. "Oh he's just a little autistic, he's mildly autistic" ummmmm how about he is a little kid just like his peers and that's that. He's different, but I love everything about him. I hope those who don't understand fully now will eventually. We just need to accept them for who they are and not try to make them fit into our neurotypical boxes. Thank you so much for making this video.
It is nice to know that we are fighting back. There was a time during the late 50s and early 60s, that being on the spectrum would have maint institutionalization. It was the Eisenhower lock step conformity in school. We are touching bases with each other. Keep up the good work.
I Need To show this video to my dad then he might understand that you can't cure autism!😡 He's even been giving me hypnosis sessions to try to cure my asburges because it won't work. Thanks for this video and great art skills! I'm good at art too it's part of my condition
12 that's me with any type of person who enforces stupid rules, bends them to suit them , or like a certain teacher of mine only enforces them on me because I dont want to be there "mate" and talk about inappropriate things in the educational setting, I mean engineering class rooms are not to talk about strains of weed with the students who participate in illegal narcotics... no wonder I hate "normal" people, doesn't help i am unable to "zone out" or "just not listen".
This video made me, well quite frankly a little uncomfortable, mainly because I'm not a fan of the emotional aspects of me but it was the ... nice... kind of uncomfortable, if that makes sense
Actually, I've teaching and diagnosing autistic children for 11 years in Saudi Arabia. I'm feeling so shameful due to l couldn't give my students a chance to be like you. But l swear, I will. Thank you.
I think I might have Aspergers, how do I break it to my "Peggy Hill" type of mom? I get the feeling she will dismiss it like everything I tell her, is it worth it? I can't cope with life alone (which is now obvious for me at this point) and got kicked of the house for drug addiction which was in part a result of my condition so I don't want it to end up like "your blindness almost killed me" which is a thought I have sometimes that isn't necessarily correct, I'm just so frustrated by my loneliness. How can having a diagnosis help me? Won't I just be back alone with a scapegoat for my problems?
hello there, I hope your life has changed for the better already... if you're still struggling to get diagnosed, go to a neurologist's who has some expertise with ASD! (the details depend on what country you live in and how the healthcare system works... but finding a good doctor and talking to them is always the same) I believe having a diagnosis can be very helpful for explaining to others why you are different from them and also for developing strategies and coping mechanisms! so go for it! wish you all the best!!
2 years ago I tried to commit suicide on awareness day. I’m extremely high functioning, the thing is, I’m constantly looked down on, and known as the “family retard” due to the diagnosis. So many people have said it’s unnoticeable. I have a few freinds too. But I still can’t accept I’m one of... them. I’m struggling, I’ve tried to look at the positives but no longer can. I’m only 15 but I don’t want to live my life with this burden. How can I accept it?
As I've gotten older I haven't been diagnosed yet but I believe I have Aspergers. One of the things I struggled with was communicating growing up. People with Autism there brains develop different than people who are normal. I want to bring awareness to this condition it's serious
Every time I want to be included I am not allowed to bur when i go on my own thw school sends a teacher out to follow me. I feel very harrassed but my complaints fall on ignorant ears. Even my parenta dont gice a crap.
Thank you so very much for helping explain things to others from an Aspie perspective - it makes me very happy to help others understand how it feels from the inside!
Great video! I've recently been diagnosed with ASD and so I found this very informative and helpful. Can I just ask, what animation/video software did you use to create this video? Thanks!
I'm not sure I understand it thoroughly :-) I know people very H-IQ, I know people who take things literally, I know people who are highly sensitive, I know people allowing themselves to be different than most (the most=normal people, we philosophers are calling 'the witless hordes', as they're just copying each other without thinking for themselves) - without those people being the same people :-) But the trait(s) they have they're obviously sharing with the autistic ones - hence my question would be: What exactly is it which makes an autistic person autistic ??
i was reading college level in elementary but couldn't stop counting with my fingers so my school considered me special needs so i spent most of my time in the special ed courses.
Watching your videos and among other resources, I'm truly starting to believe I was misdiagnosed with ADD. One of your videos said autism is harder to detected in girls and I was diagnosed with ADD when I was 8 back in the 90s. Like I was reading at 3 years and speaking fully. I see myself in all of the information I'm finding
As an autistic adult I loved most of this... except for 9. From what I've seen more and more as time passes and we better understand what causes autism, there is more reason to believe it might be curable. From what I understand, we're beginning to find more physical indicators of autism, but perhaps the most note worthy is in the brain. Again, from what I understand, brain biopsy have found that people like myself on the spectrum, as children, have a much larger number neurons in our brain then neurotypical peers of the same age, and significantly higher neuron connections as well. All brains, autistic ones included, reduce their neurons and connections over time, but it appears our brains do so at a MUCH slower rate then our neurotypical peers, and its looking likely the resulting much greater number neurons and connections relative to our age compared to our neurotypical peers are the source of the sensor overlord someone like me experiences. Early testing with autistic mice seems very promising, suggesting that it may be possible to stimulate our brains into correctly reducing the excess neurons and connections to that of a neurotypical amount, there by eliminating sensory over load. Granted, much of the symptoms of autism are likely also a result of the impact autism had on how we saw the world during our early developmental years, so adults with autism, even if cured, would likely still be "unique" from our peers based purely on our unique child hood experiences, but it does seem like it still might be possible to cure autism itself, and if implemented early enough in a child, perhaps allow them to live a fully neurotypical life. I know some autistic people have indicated they would not want that, they've come to self identify their disorder as who they are, and thats fine, I don't think a cure, if found, should be forced on anyone, but I don't think, based on the current evidence we have, its fare to say autism is necessarily uncurable.
My father thinks u can cure autism and I tried to explain to him. How can I explain to him? I was diagnosed when I was 4 and I had 6 years of therapy tho I still have difficulties in life.
Sarah :3 And you likely always will. Your Dad needs therapy. And to be educated. Keep learning & working on yourself & try not to allow his misunderstandings to impact your progress❤️
Autistic? Hiding your true self? Adam made in the image of God- immortality was a given. Walked with God, who asked him to name the animals. Finished his task, then as the animal, male and female, had each other. God saw he was without companion, the deep sleep, then wow! flesh of my flesh, bone of my bone a woman! Eve if you please. Innocence continually. Then that one conditional off limits fruit was appealing and tasted good, but they understood shame, who did Adam blame? Eve in turn blamed that angel of light. Lucifer. Seducer. The wages of sin death the gift of God imputed righteousness. Scriptures are fixtures in these ever increasing strictures. The Truth- To be or not to be. A friend of God !
Mate 😊👍👌 I would like to thank you from the bottom of my heart !!! I’m just beginning my journey into finding out why I felt so different all my life! Your videos, YOU have helped me to realise that I’m not alone in how I’m feeling. I’m 41! And I’ve been trying to fit in all my life masking preparing analysing caring and getting hurt! I feel no one believes me and it’s so frustrating. Your story has really given me hope! I love this video! I sent it to my children who are now 23 and 18. My hope is that one day they will understand and be proud of me for the things I’ve achieved in life despite my struggles! I think I’m finally convincing my doctor that it’s not just depression and anxiety and that it’s something that’s ALWAYS been there? Thanks again top man 😉👍
My daughter is 5 and was diagnosed with sensory processing disorder and probably adhd . But she shows no signs of adhd but signs of autism. One of her fixations or electronics so when we had out virtual appointment she was really focused and interested but because of that the psychologist even though he was nice and didn't mind explaining he said that's why he doesn't think she has autism because she was really focused and did / did not do things knowingly to was to engaged basically and it's frustrating because I keep hearing autism is like a pie chart which makes perfect sense . But because one of the pieces aren't there that means the whole thing isn't there ?!
I know exactly how you feel I'm autistic as well every little thing I do is hard but I have my family to help me and get through it so I'm very grateful and have my family.
I was listening to this and you said autisim is not fixable but a video I was listening to says that she can held get rid of autism. This made me feel uncomfortable. I will have to look for the video. Maybe I misunderstood what was being said.
I hope to get the help I need from the Autism Speaks group I reached out to them for the help I need. I'm an Adult not a child so I hope they can help me
I’m fairly certain that I’m on the spectrum, and I agree with the word “disability” to an extent. There’s still things that I can’t do that a normal person can. Though it has its advantages, it’s still a disability by definition.
My son has always been my inspiration .My source of strength.life with autism is a daily struggle ..my son is non verbal n self inflict . watching him go through this delema breaks my heart.
I've apparently always baffled a lot of people because they can never seem to "place me in a box". I've always strayed just far enough from any "box" to really identify with it.
Random thing that popped into my head The world is a puzzle each piece is important some pieces make the picture a bit werider but are necessary If you leave the piece out or try to change it you can not make the entire picture. Idk if that makes sense I hope it does
