I'm sure there are millions of FAS babies, children and adults out there who do not expressed physical signs but have deeper medical complications or emotional/impulse issues. There should be a law that lets people know that their mother drank alcohol or took drugs/prescription too, when their mother was carrying them. It would help people understand a lot. Pre 90s a lot of women drank. Each decade previous to the other it was worse. Some people would even give baby brandy or whiskey on their dummies/smoothers to get them to be quiet.
I think there are more underlying issues at play, certainly FAS is very real but also consider the hard drinking parents, their behaviour and the life that child may have! Very sad.
I just had to quit my job nannying that I was at for 9 years. Both kids had FAS and their parents were in denial. Statistically, life expectancy is not great for individuals with FAS because of their executive dysfunction. They often engage in risky behavior and commit suicide.
Your post has just helped me feel so much less alone in an ongoing situation with my best friend's 9 year old,now in full full denial- I have tried every route of gently suggesting his son's behavior, facial features, lack of common sense and behavioral (I realize he can't help it, the boy needs actual immediate diagnosis & treatment.)- He knows his wife is a raging alcoholic and didn't find out she was pregnant during his first three months in her body. I am talking baaaad. The child is snappy snapping turtle, attacks other children physically, no manners, annoying and inappropriate with other known fasd behaviors. The blonde child cartoon illustration in a Google search looks like exactly him. I can't figure out how to help any more. Prayer is my only way I guess, and I am grateful for your reply in this post today. Thank you, I feel like a criminal abandoning any child's issues I can speak to freely, I am a Shriners mom,, my son has cerebral Palsy and I take any advice, and all measures to learn to help him help himself. Love does everything.
@@jkrogers1273 Your comment means so much to me you have no idea. I have dealt with pretty much the same exact issues and behaviors. It's hard wanting to help and really having no way to, other than love, just as you said. I quit because their Mom was blaming their poor academic performance on me for not doing an hour of homework a night (in addition to 2-3 extra curricular activities that she forces them to attend because she thinks it'll help their disability.) like how tf do I say no, it's because they have severe brain damage and a brain based disability as a result. I couldn't so I just left :/ their mother is an attorney and extremely argumentative. It was just too much
@@Mollydollyyyy Try your best to not feel guilty, you did what you had to do. Believe me when I tell you, those kids will see she's the problem not too long after you did. I'm sure they're smart enough to do that. I wish you the best and I hope you don't continue to beat yourself up over it. You did the right thing and that's all that matters 💯💙.
I was born with club feet , My mother had had an alcohol problem I don't know if she was drinking during her pregnancy , I always had difficulty with short term memory Spelling numerical sequences , But for my deficiencies I was also gifted otherwise ideo savant , I was to understand that she was given a sensitive by maybe a dentist that put her into convulsions 8 months into pregnancy , I've recently learned that rover's vs way wasn't voted on yet 1971 So this could have been an attempted abortion , There are many things about me that are different for one when I was younger I had an incredibly high metabolism , And I was physically very strong for my size , I'm a 32 waste 6' And was benching 500 pounds when I was 17 , I could ride my bike 200 miles in A-day through mountain train and hit speeds of almost 50 miles an hour , I was speaking fluently at the age of 3 Like I was older than I am to the point it scared some people , And I had an imagination that just wouldn't quit I was always designing and creating It's like I couldn't make my mind focus on what I wanted to but then it would do amazing things all on its own
@@pablobeast1 Yes I was turning for the Iron man And that I went on to be a bike messenger in chicago , In my twenties I could do two hundred miles in a day , Just to put that in proper context there's a group of senior citizens That ride from coast to coast And the average two hundred miles a day , It's not as hard as you might think it is .
@@debc4567 I meant to say clubbed , My feet were deformed They were curved in , A native american doctor did an experimental surgery on them , I think they took a bone out of one part of the foot and put it in the other , So I was on crutches embraces throughout my childhood , But eventually it worked , That's why I was training for the iron man , It was a promise I made to myself as a child if my surgery is worked , If the extremities form at the end of the Feedle development , Right eight months into the pregnancy .
I like this video except the fact the author mention the Mom needs to admit of consuming alcohol during pregnancy. I would remove the word admit and change it to confirm as almost 50 % of women do not know they are pregnant until it is too late. We need to stop the stigma of drinking alcohol during pregnancy and face the reality that alcohol is legal and that support is needed to both Moms and children. Accommodate and support instead of hate!!! WE NEED TO STOP THE STIGMA ATTACHED TO FASD. More knowledge to the public to reduce the risk of FASD and more support to individual with FASD and their families are the answer.
How did our ancestors have mostly normal kids then today? People drank a lot of alcohol in past, even 100 years ago, beer and wine were drank instead of water, as was safer to public health??
You really cant tell if someone is what we would define as "normal" unless you are able to spend time around them for a good while. the difference between strangers on facebook then meeting them in real life is baffling. thats why when people get catfished they are upset....theres just no way to tell anything about a person online or in a book we hear and see what people choose you know what im saying?.
The beer of the past had lower alcohol content across the board. We’ve selected yeasts that can tolerate high levels of alcohol before they die from it, leading to beers with double the alcohol by volume
I reckon I have this. My mom went through a rough time with my father in the 1970’s so she drank. I’m pissed off and may leave her to die alone in a nursing home, not decided yet 🤔
I'm pretty sure I have Fetal Alcohol Syndrome now about 55-75% sure my mom literally told me she drank while pregnant with me I have a 3.3 GPA and rising though so what ever guess the schizophrenia and autism balances it out lol
I saw a reddit thread about FAS. One woman on there(unsurprisingly) said it's wrong to judge those mothers for drinking alcohol and that they may not have known. I can see why so many women avoid accountability with mindsets like that. We need to educate our generations that reality is brutal and doesn't GAF about what you think. You FAFO... life will show you. Check if you have sex for the love of god, there are no excuses for bringing suffering into this world
